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TheLadyIsADomme
Blonde, blue-eyed, busy, single professional BBW, who enjoys what she has, but is looking for more. I am thoughtful, humane, driven, ambitious, cultured and curious. I am not constantly dominating or infallible, and I am sometimes temperamental. I have aspirations and interests outside the "lifestyle" (a term that always makes me flinch). I seek a life informed, not consumed, by d/s.

I'm looking for a similarly inclined man who is single, tall (well, taller than me, anyway), in good shape, reasonably near my age and location and who takes care of himself. He should be intelligent, with a good sense of humor, and have an understanding of the dynamics of a power exchange. I prefer men who have "alpha" personalities and are strong and confident when in the public eye.

Ultimately, I am looking for someone who intrigues me, someone intrigued by me, someone who will haunt my thoughts whether we're together or not, someone to touch in unexplainable ways, someone to touch me in ways I can't anticipate, both of us finding connections with desires and needs. Let's be extraordinary together, instead of just ordinary apart.

I am a dominant woman and do not need pain to be such. I do not need anyone to tell me how to control, guide and care for the one that I will one day call my own. If that mental connection is there, it springs from inspiration, not fear.

I seek power in my submissive partner. Strength. I want him to stand on his own two feet, then choose to lay down for me. I want complexity, I want a challenge, I want a man that can speak for himself. My imagination is good, but I get so bored with puppets.

I'm less interested in the trappings of bdsm than the intense intimacy that can result from surrender to another. And though some element of formality in a relationship can reinforce the d/s dynamic, I'm more drawn to the general idea of submission and devotion than to particular acts and protocols.

If you want to get my attention, it will take more than a one sentence email. Tell me what makes you a good fit for me. Fresh ideas and intellectual abilities are encouraged. If this is not essential for you, please look elsewhere. And if you are not willing or able to take this offline at some point, or to have a relationship with me, please don't waste my time or yours.

I am looking for a submissive and romantic partner to share the intricacies of life and love with the twist of a female led relationship. 

This type of connection develops over time. I’m not looking to fulfill a fantasy, so you must be able to be a partner in the truest sense of the word. Please be single, reasonably close to my age and location (or able to travel as I am as well), and be willing to invest the time to develop a real time connection between us. If not, then, really, don’t bother.  Because my desire to know you in real life is genuine, this means I am going to direct the conversation to include much more than just your kinks and sexual needs/desires and preferences. If you can't give me as much enthusiasm in talking to me about vanilla topics and finding common ground in normal everyday life, it isn't likely I'm going to connect with you enough to ever see your kinky desires come to fruition. 

Do not mistake my desire for a loving, meaningful and mutually fulfilling  relationship for weakness....being a bitch is not a necessary component of my dominance and I am complex enough that I can be a quite capable Domme, a loving, intimate partner and a reasonable human being ALL AT ONCE. I don’t measure myself by anyone else's idea of a Domme. After years of trials, errors, and fine tuning, I realize I have many personas. While each can be distinctly recognized, there's always a bit of one bleeding over into the next because this is who I am, not a set of compartmentalized roles that I act out on demand. 

I am a Woman. I wear my femininity proudly. I have romantic desires, emotions, passionate ideals. I expect to be courted. I am a professional, maintain a respectable vanilla presence and tend to be a very private person when it comes to my sexuality. Anyone interested in spending time with me should be of the same mindset and must understand the value of protecting our shared reputation. I enjoy having a secret private life that my partner and I share - it intensifies the intimacy.

There is a side of me that, while in complete authority, is a die-hard romantic, who longs to be indulged and swept away by a knight in shining armor who loves me unconditionally. He is masculine, romantic, loyal and chivalrous. He is my protector, my confidant, my source of comfort and he would go to the ends of the earth to please me. I, too, would give my heart, my time, my life, for the one I love so completely.

There is an authoritative, yet loving side of me who sees the boy in you that needs guidance. I can be very kind and loving, although I'm still inclined to corrupt you and spank you over my knee or make you stand in the corner when you need discipline. This is the side of me that is happy to let the little boy in you emerge.

I am a Domme. If I seem direct, straightforward, expectant, self-assured, determined, relentless, impatient, indulgent and sometimes intolerant....let me remind you, I am a Domme. I didn't get here by way of rainbows and unicorns. There is a side of me that likes to push your limits and test your resolve, just because I can. This is the sadistic side of me who is not overly concerned with your comfort or pleasure. This side of me is very direct and sometimes intimidating, using your need to submit for my personal pleasure and your sexuality for my entertainment. This darker side of me is bossy, demanding and highly scrutinizing with high expectations and loves to revel in your submission. You will be owned by me, your body will belong to me, your orgasm will be controlled by me and you will be collared/marked by me. 

Finally, I love the psychology of D/s and this is where my creativity and love for sensuality reign free. I love seduction and the mental and emotional build-up. This side of me craves erotica, teasing, sensuality, and exploration. This side of me loves getting inside of you, exploring your deepest desires and luring you into exploring mine. This side of me loves your vulnerability and toying with your mind and body especially if I can be the first to make you experience things you've never experienced before. I’m the woman your mother never knew enough to warn you about.

It doesn't matter to me how experienced/inexperienced you are, but I'm not looking for a brat or someone who causes me to repeatedly question your sincerity or motives. Sense of humor and good communication skills are key components of your personality. Your openness, ability to articulate and express yourself is paramount to me. Love, romance, chivalry, devotion, passion, selflessness, loyalty, integrity, sensuality, these are not just words, but ideals you live by. I am drawn to men who can carry on compelling conversations, and seek to engage with me on many different levels. 

Regardless of my kinks and desires, I want compatibility and a connection with my partner in the everyday world. I don't have a dungeon. I don’t socialize in D/s circles. I don't wear knee-high boots and a corset to work. Who I am in my vanilla life is important because it's who you will be spending a big percentage of your time with.  I love concerts, comedy clubs, trying new restaurants/cuisines, reading, writing, rainy days and would love to travel more. I have a great sense of humor, can think of a song for almost any situation and the beach is my go-to getaway.

Email exchanges on this site will be required first. And no, I don’t want to chat, Skype, message, kik, etc. Only when I feel comfortable with your authenticity and sincerity will we proceed to more direct communication. 

If you are interested, please describe yourself in an introductory email. One-liners, particularly of the sycophantic variety, are frowned upon and will likely be ignored as will email messages that are merely a greeting, with no information about yourself. If you view my profile and do not message me, I’ll assume you are not interested, so I don’t recommend the silent approach if you think we might be compatible.