LadyOcean73

The Standard of Respect

I have been active in this lifestyle for a long time; I am not new, and I am certainly not naive. I have put significant effort into my profile and journals because I value transparency. I expect the same in return.

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  No Instant Demands: Do not lead with demands for pictures or "bowing down."

  
  


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  Reciprocity: If your profile is empty, do not expect me to do the heavy lifting. I want to know who you are, just as I have shared who I am.

  
  


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  Hard Boundaries: I am not looking for degradation, humiliation, or to be treated as a "doormat." I know my worth. I am an SSBBW and I am comfortable in my skin; if that is not your preference, please move along without comment. Also to be upfront hard limts t giving oral and giving rimming are hard limits.

  
  

The Dynamic: Polyandry (One Female, Multiple Males)

I am seeking a committed, long-term Polyandrous dynamic. I am specifically looking for a life-long connection with more than one man.

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  Why Polyandry? I have a high drive and a vast amount of love to give. I’ve found that one partner often cannot meet all my needs, and I refuse to be left alone or feel neglected.

  
  


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  No MFF/FMF: I have explored these dynamics in the past and found them to be unfair. I am not interested in being the "added" female to an existing couple.

  
  


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  The Vision: I envision a household where we are all connected. I am particularly interested in bisexual men, as I believe this fosters a deeper bond between all members of the family, ensuring no one is ever "the odd man out."

  
  

Commitment & Independence

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  Financial Autonomy: I intend to work. I have been financially dependent on men in the past and felt trapped; I will not repeat that mistake. I am a partner, not a dependent.

  
  


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  The "Family" Bond: While not legally married, I am looking for that level of emotional and spiritual commitment. I value structure—such as rotating schedules to ensure everyone gets 1-on-1 bonding time as well as group time.

  
  


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  Real Life Only: I am not here for "cybering," "hookups," or digital-only fantasies. I am looking for a real-world, long-term family structure.

  
  

Final Thoughts

I realize what I am asking for is rare. I am not "young," and I am not interested in settling. I would much rather be alone than be unhappy or disrespected. If you are a mature, respectful man who understands the depth of a polyandrous commitment, I welcome a thoughtful introduction.

I just realzied that people can subcribe to my journal. If you have any ideas drop me a line. Have had writers block. 

I updated my profile today. My age is correct and added something to hopefullly correct confusion in my profile as well as my my Fet username. 

Does anyone else crave a connection that is so deep and powerful that it feels like a life line that can't exist without it that connection? 

It is something that i crave in the very cell of my being. I am looking to feel it is as though it makes my heart beat or helps air fill my lungs. Online that can be very hard to do as we are not phyisically around each other to get that feeling. Online it is though connection in words or hearing each other voices. I need to find my future Partners that need connections as much as I do. That want and need to be together as much as possible. 

I know that  we all have lives and that the world around us can keep us busy. When I am getting to know someone and willing to see where it goes, maybe i am unrealistic but i try to be on this site or other places where we have made a connection to communicate and wait around and respond as quickly as i recieve it or can respond because it is like a lifeline to me to help my heart beat or my lungs take breaths to stay alive. I get frustrated and i have lashed out in my frustration when other's don't do the same things i guess because i feel actions are stronger than words. In me responding quickly is showing that i am taking it seriously and wishing to put in the work to see if this will work out. If not i try to at least wish them the best of luck in finding the one that will make them feel the way i need and crave the connection as well.

My profile needs a make over but afraid to do it because when I do I have to wait a long time to be approved. 

I see myself as being primal prey and to the right male partners their omega. Also wish to be hooked up to goat milker and produce milk. I am not looking to be degraded, humiliated, or objectified. I am not a into pain so please no sadists. I am seeking committed polyandry hopefully we can all be committed to each other or even a pack. 

My profile isn't where I am right now in my BDSM journey. Although i do still want polyandry i am not seeking sub or slave males. With this site putting people in CS jail have been in there for 3 months to get any changes done.i  am afraid to change my profile. 

I am not seeking any sub or slave males at this time. Thank you. I hope you find what you are seeking.

I didn't add this into yesterday's post. I recently had a birthday and now 50 years old. Looking for men of 46 plus years of age. Also please be in the Contential United States. I know from the younger guys say that age is just a number. It is great that you are into older women but this older woman isn't a cougar just not my thing, I wish you the best in your search.

Although I do at times feel confident as a Domme I have to be honest with myself that when I look at profiles I seek Dominant Men rather than submissive men. 

I was putting myself as a Domme more as protection and to things my way. In honesty I am more sub to almost slave in my sexually side. I seek partners that are Alpha, primal, animalistic but also loving, caring, sensual, honest, respectful. I fear being a sub due to past abuse and trying to protect myself. I don't wish to be degraded, ified, humiliated, abused. I am NOT a MASOCIST and also not wanting to be mentally or emotionally abused or even physically as well. 

My Interests in the lifestyle: Hooked up to a goat milker and produce milk as well as being mounted. Recieving rimming, pussy worship, double penetration vagianally/anally, receiving vaginal fisting, intercourse, vagianally sex, possible bondage, wrists/ankle restrains, gags, hoods, denial of pleasure, receiving body worship, male bisexual, lactation, butt plugs, sensory deprivation, explore bondage, wax, fire, clothes pins, secret sex in public, tattoos, violet wand, flogging, fire, blindfolds, getting massages, shaving, romantic play, shaving me, bathing me

Update

== Results from bdsmtest.org == 

80% Submissive 

77% Switch 

76% Primal (Prey) 

72% Rope bunny 

68% Vanilla 

63% Non-monogamist 

59% Dominant 

55% Master/Mistress 

53% Voyeur 

51% Exhibitionist 

38% Experimentalist 

30% Masochist 

23% Slave 

21% Rigger 

16% Owner 

14% Primal (Hunter) 

8% Brat tamer 

5% Pet 

4% Daddy/Mommy 

2% Degrader 

0% Sadist 

0% Brat 

0% Boy/Girl 

0% Degradee 

0% Ageplayer 

I Just realized on Dec 26th 19 years ago today. I went to be my first munch and became a member of my local BDSM community. I remember being so nervous. I had never dated or anything before that day. I was happy when I read an erotic novel and found the term BDSM and went down the rabbit hole. All the years I would have dreams and desires not understanding and thinking I was alone. I was 30 years old and started researching on AOL, Yahoo chat, the great websites at the time. To find the munch group and got my scene name from my email address. So nervous to meet at the munch group, Only about 5 of us were there that night being right after Christmas. I was so happy and excited and felt like I finally found home and people that would accept me and welcome me. 

The lifestyle was fun and learned a lot but also wasn't the greatest as I would jump into things and the 7.5 years I was active did expereince abuse that still scares me today. I have triggers but also realize this is who I am and can't just be vanilla. I have missed being active in the lifestyle and miss my BDSM family. One day hope to find the right partners and get back to being active again. 

I call this my BDSM birthday.  And glad I found it. Just more cautious now.

I have been single a long time. I have many interests and desires. I am also complicated. I desire contol to stay safe, to be heard and respected. Although would love to be able to trust and know that I am safe as well as feel I matter and I am important. I crave to have a comittment and to be desired. I am wish to be able to lactate and feed my future partner or partners. I desire a deep bond. I am sexually more submissive but also like it my way. Finding the right balance has been hard to find. 

The type of control I am seeking I want to know where he is at all times, what he is doing as well as who he is with I will control how he wear his hair, how much hair he has all over his body, what tattoos or piercings I with him to have, how I wish I want his body is to be, what goes into his body, and what he wears what he drinks, when I allow him to use the restroom and how I want him to do so How he spends his free time Once married I control he email and other accounts I have access to and control Even when at work with technology he needs to ask permission If and when he has doctors appointments I go with him and have full access When he is in and out of chastity and how and when he is allowed to cum and where as well how he is to orgasm I do want a husband with love and such but also have full control