LondonTriangle

Been an interesting week, a fair bit of stress but a funeral and civil court with a management interview will drain some energy.

Had a harmless intriguing Londoner find his way onto my WhatsApp, baring in mind he still hides his face on his own WhatsApp account, which is a little odd but at least we have seen each others picture.

Along with a mystery man from USA who for reasons unknown mildly caught my attention.

Looking forward to recovering from this bug so I can go on a date with a dominant man who will discover to me he is submissive - easy game so I await the hunt.

C

Going on a dress making course, making sweet little skirts for work and making my own crouchless panties.

Shameless :)

Getting back on track - had a terrible cough for a few days.

Having ginger, honey and lemons and rest lots of rest.

During my delerium (due to a possible flu) during some unrestful nights I had thoose dreams again.

Me with two sain, sound and working professional men.

The dream starts off pretty normal, a meet up in a coffee shop to understand what all parties want and don't want.

Me over keen.

I must admit my dream fast forwards a little bit which means in reality there will be some challenges, but somehow my mind it forwards to me in bed with two sound men and this clarifys, I would want them to enjoy being with me but if they felt flexible with each other I would clearly be happy to know the relationship as no limits.

I honestly recall my dream there were a few positions and a few rotations of who does what where but I recall being very happy.

Then I woke up and had to make some more ginger and lemon tea but at least I know my immune system is kicking in :)

It think it is time to stock up on toilet paper and tooth paste again.

Noticed myself and a few people have been coughing ALOT!

I have a confession.

I met an odd Greek guy from this site.

I dumped him or he let me down and I did not take his offer to remain friends.

First date he was amazing was in shock how real he was.

Crashing around mine he was ok in bed but snored and really snored.

Had a fantasticallly large cock and I am annoyed I did not tie him up.

His cock felt, warm and pulsating and I felt fulfilled and I remember tilting my neck back and relasing hot breathing after every grind.

I just recall being in sexual purgatory, being dominant but enjoying anal domination, I think the Switchy side allowed the moment to happen.

He was reckless with condoms which is why I felt in the bin with him.

But now and again I wish he had now NOT cocked up because I would be probably be typing my odd sexual experimental ecounters with him.

I liked him, I really liked him but I was so hurt that he was reckless with protection.

Not to mention AFTER sex he mentioned his trip to Africa - I am west indian Carribean and all I kept thinking is have you lost your mind you experiement in a country with a high level of minimal medicla support are you insane.  My mind spun, realising this sexy Greek guy with self- esteem issues parading as a switch on collar space may be a high risk individual who should go to the first GUM he can find.

I work in a clinical setting and assist HIV patients so this is a big NO NO.

I meet every day people who have trusted the wrong person, or have congential issues so passed on from familly or met people who have fallen on real hard times and the world has honestly chewed them up and spat them out and the whole reckless with condoms hit a large nerve.

Now and again I reflect on how I enjoyed the snogging, I enjoyed being sexually open and it drives me a little loopy our chapter lasted 2 encounters.

Omg, his tongue in on my clit, his tongue in my mouth, his tonue on my arse hole his tongue on my legs and thighs, his tongue on my nipples, his tongue on my belly button, his tongue on my neck - Fuck me!

I am also still pissed he brought Alidi food and demanded I buy him steak the little shit but I honestly did like his good side just not his entitled side.

Do people really deserve a second chance.

He is probably just messaging other women and finding his way into their accommdation for a free overnight stay he is Greek after all.

I actually liked him, annoyed by his snoring.  Honestly his snoring was bad if the Walking Dead actually happens he would have to go for survival, his snoring was that bad.  The Walking dead will hear him a mile away.  Honestlly you would have put a pillow over his face to save yourself from the zombies it was that bad.

It annoys me while I feel weak I have this back flash of remembering how his tongue felt all over me and remembering the sounds of his moaning and remembering how silky his hair felt when I pulled on it during a climax.

Weird, Weird, weird - maybe I will admit defeat I have lost the plot!

Perusing some late night journals.

Now and again someone declares a novel sexual experience or a relatable fantasy but in the last couple of days it shows some (sorry ladies but have noted) have let off a bit of steam - eek.

Time to get some of thoose sexual creative juices going.

I do notice we rotate into themes so I will push for the next theme:

Looking for a Male Subjects to tie up Nobuyoshi Araki style - any male hopefuls please apply.

Cheeky Observation:

Are some men merging the lines between the back-packing hostel lifestyle with submission?

I am noticing men from Europe and India contact me and claim to be submissive.

I also notice they have this assumption they can stay with me in some kind of exchange student lifestyle with no plan as to how they settle in the UK or how they are going to get a job.

No women dominant or submissive wants to deal with that sort of nonesense.

Regardless if your submissive or dominant you can still behave like a decent respectable man.

1. Being submissive does not mean you don't hold manly values

2. It just means lean towards a gentle nature, it does not mean your a freeloading tramp.

If your looking for a back-packing lifestyle please just contact the YMCA, contact some Bistro's looking for extra kitchen staff but don't expect me to be impressed if that is your lifestyle.

Catfishing is just catfishing plain and simple.

If you put up younger images of yourself and then you scroll to the end and see the fit goth is now santa claus your emotions are a little defeated by the fact that the person you were sexually attracted to was the middle of the three stages of man but now looks like the last stage.

Frustrating.

I have updated my profile several times and I have not noticed a hidious delay in approval but I can't speak for others and their tech issues.

When I exchange my images with other hopeful kinksters I am pretty sure I would get an ear full if the images I was sending was 10 to 15 years out of date.  I even make a point the image was taken a week ago.  The oldest image I have exchange was a month old.

Just because your a man does not give you privileges to play the catfishing game.

Luckily only had a brief discussion and did not hook up for drinks or I would have ordered the rum to process the catfish experience.

Here is an open thought.

I am not on this site to find love.

I have been loved, I have been engaged twice to the same man, that was a wild ride.

I am not the type to have kids, however I can see myself adopting the runt of a litter who has no hope and a limited future and share my survival skills to make the runt the front runner in life.  I have always loved being the assumed underdog in life.

I am a working professional so I will expect a man I try to connect with to be the same.

I am not interested in a person's bank balance or assests, honestly none of my business.

I do expect a man who is in my company to not be a cheap skate and I have met a couple.

I am not expecting to be bought but I do expect if a man wants a BORN women who enjoys her feminity I should not have to spell out make an effort with flowers, make an effort with running the bath, make and effort with you see a pretty dress or skirt and think I know ONE women in my company who would look good in that.

I appreciate men contact me and offer they want to be one of my two men but when I ask you to unmask yourself and tell me who you are, I want to know I am not inviting an unkept, unwashed, unclean, diseased, unemployed dread of society into my world or my bed.

I don't think that is a hard ask.

If you want to see my face not an issue, I do WhatsApp and you can even video chat for all I care but if you make me jump hurdles I will make you jump the same bar.

C

Spending a month kick-starting my inner cleanse.

Only eatting fresh fruit, veg and nuts and sparkling water for 30 days.

Will spend 30 mins in the morning meditating and 30 mins at night meditating.

I can feel myself absorb some negative energy that does not belong to me.

Talking purely in a professional setting.

It surprises me when someone stops to say "Thank you" and is actually patient in London!!

I even had someone return my "Morning"

Shocker!!

@Tallsexybete 

Sounds like a great idea but what about the food?

Are you stretching for a buffet?

Your gonna a have bunch of horny people asking if there is free meal at the end of this romp?

:)

Received a response a year later from an intriguing Submissive man.

I could tell from his front page he was a world traveller and a bit of a seeker.

I do like a good surprise:)

Without sounding like a complete hypocrite it is nice to hear from people who have been busy outside of this site.  I do feel I need to taper off a little but if I am not here I am at work or helping others and things do need to change.

Will need to learn to be selfish.

@MerryWidow

I think your fabulous!

Someone is most likely jealous you have a decent pair of tits.

A tit for a tit

Sending some positive energy

I had a long chat with an old friend of mine who is a seasoned Dom.  Very well known up north.

Mentioned my most recent chat with a submissive man with a "tight balloon knot" was frustrating.

Both of us had never heard the phrase but clearly a used term in the lifestyle.

It was brought to my attention that submissive men go through alot of different relationships because even though they are submissive they want things a certain way.

A little frustrated as I took their needs seriously but clearly they were not prepared for someone like me who was making a checklist of what they actually need from me.

My family from the lifestyle did appreciate I am trying to be careful as you don't really know what other hidden knots a person has but I was trying my hardest to take things slow but seriously.

In all fairness their was too much talk about the needs of his bum hole and less about my own bits so ladies enjoy your fish and chips with that one.

C

Phew and thank god!

I nearly forked out just under £500 on the wrong specimen:

1. £295 for harness gear - custom made still lush

2. £50 for the application in 2 sizes

3. £95 rope bondage lesson but getting discount as the teacher is an old friend of mine

Will still spend for myself but if I ask a man questions it means I am investing time to understand how to give you what you want. You can't give me a second, ok, harness yourself.

I am good.

Still investing in the supplies just finding a worthy destination.

Some people like to talk forever and not act on their impulse I was thinking lets act on the impulse not just talk about it.

Was introduced to someone who identifys as disabeled and it breaks my heart other people on the site have been dismissive or rude to a perfectly polite disabeled submissive man.

Sometimes I think this site should line up the rude people and allow me to offer my free face slapping service.

Line up idiots just line up.

Someone sent me a long essay about their life story and the first sentence said they are aged 63.

I just stopped at that number and said "I wish you well",

I just noted in a brief journal I am looking for someone mid 30s to early 40s and a 63 year old sends me his life story.

My response "ok" and "all the best".

And another one.

An American told me he comes to the UK 4 to 5 times a year.

HAH!

I need 4 to 5 times worth of action a week! not year!

Another one, "I wish you all the best".

:)

I hope you all had a peaceful Saturday, spending mine with my very blessed big family.  You can't beat a family BBQ.  

I really keen to meet men in their mid 30s to early 40s on here.

Would be keen to meet like minded individuals.

There seems to be a few who are in their 50s but I find I am rarely attracted to them.

I have got to be attracted to the man I am tying up and spit roasting with a strap-on.

Message to women of all natures on here.

Not to sound paranoid but I am noticing a flux of messages from European men trying to invite themselves into my company.

Can you all be vigilant if a man uses the words relocation and marriage in the same sentence.

I have been bitten once by a German man who in my opinion clearly invites himself across Europe into people's homes for free food and stay.  I am assuming there may be a European influencer advising men this is ok.

There also seems to be a bit of a scam where a man claims they travel all over the world and then says they won't be back till X date.  I think this is another scam where they claim to be successful and the travelling lifestyle appeals to most but I think it is just another scam.

Luckily, I have not been bitten by that nonsense but ladies be vigilante, give the normal men a chance and the ones acting strange and pretending to be high flyers, don't give them any of your time.  

If you want a rich old man go to SugarDaddy.com, if you want a normal kinky man just be patient and kind to others.

Open thought:

I am into meeting up with one or two saine kinky men, have a good time and then move on.

Again I have met 2 European men from this site so far.  Sex to them was great but for me was only ok.

I prefer to keep things casual, be open to dating or be open to having a level of intimacy where we create a safe space and say this is our sexual refuge and take it from there.

I get messages from men who initiate they want to stay with me longterm and use the word "marriage" and talk about they have had 3 longterm relationships in the life - snore.

So this means I have to commit to someone I don't get to know first? That to me is rude.  It means you don't respect starting a true relationship.  It means you hope to get a full invite into my flat.

You want to travel from France and Romania and stay with me and then monitor who I am with and how I keep to myself and then, what use my place and then come and go as you like?

What you need is Air BnB, I will look for someone who I can get to know, who I can trust but I don't have to be bound to them when I find out they are not for me.

I found out the last 2 were not for me the fish can go back into the sea and I can put my net back in the pond and move on.

I love the Q&A moment after wild sex.

My new guest pulling out his cigerette in my bed and asking thoose tender questions.

Why are you into asphyxiation?

You don't look the type to enjoy anal play?

Is there a type - is always my response.

Appreciating that this guest brought properly fitting condoms and wine but cared to bring another bottle as a gift is in fact a gift, makes a change from the Greek.

This one cooks, appreicates I live in a small space but he orientates very quickly and enjoys sticking on the radio to hear the football but tender enough to ask what else do I sexually enjoy.

Will be spending the day removing the santorum stain off my duvet cover, thank god for baking soda.

Openly dating is very fun.

I like the idea of sexual exploration in Che Paris.

A couple of European kinksters like to travel.

Maybe.

Being mindful and careful but maybe 

I love being in a good place:

Loving my response to a nosey kinkster:Have had 2 monogamous unions with 2 kinky odd balls

I have had to put the odd balls back in the fish tank

Personally in a good place, received awards for my service literally, networking, working on my health and wellbeing, great hair, jogging again to loose some weight but average size so easy tone up and my bum looks great already just chiseling around average meat so all good

Hey, my response is pretty chilled I must be

I am sure you are knee deep in honest pussy all the best

C

This is not a kink message but a human, normal message.

Majority of us who put work first and mental health last, I appreciate now being told off and told you need to look after yourself or your can't look after others.

I can literally feel the headache like someone is poking their fingers into my brain for fun.

It is raining in London and I am taking a couple of days off but the rain is doing me some good, telling me slow down, rest, grill some sausages, pour some wine, enjoy your plants that are thriving, read a book and slow down.

Forget wear and tear or getting older (in my 30s so not that bothered) but I can feel the life effort reaching overload.

I love helping others but might be time to consider a sabbatical.

I am thankful I am not one of thoose.

I am not going to complain about fake profiles as I have met a couple of genuine men.

Once you get to the actual face to face level you have another hurdle, discovering they are not quite right.

The German - great with phone sex, seemed perfect over the phone and video chats.  In person cheapskate and I mean real cheapskate.

The Greek, weird intro photos, nice on a first date was actually nearly a dream, however first overnight stay, which for reasons unknow was a favour - Jesus christ, turns up with a fish tank style anti-snoring machine and can't buy condoms that fit and leaves me to deal with the quick trip the pharmacy to have that awkward conversation over the counter.  Not to mention brings Aldi food but expected STEAK for my turn to get ingredients even though he offered he stays with me he gets the food in.  Ladies you have that one because I don't want him. Recommend for first date only.

I will aim for one gentlemen who appears to be a thrill seeker.

but I will be blunt.  I am looking for a solvent, well endowed, Single, large cocked, kinky gentlemen.

Dear Men,

I have had a few admirers and they all in some ways reveal they admire my sexual ambition but could not participate.

I have no interest having finding 2 gay men, I am sure the feeling is mutual.

I have no interest in seeing 2 men demonstrate an affection for each other.

I was curious in exploring a dynamic where I have an open relationship with 2 men.

I was curious to build up to situation where 2 men would feel comfortable pleasing me at the same time.

I feel I am just a true bachelorette, no kids, no drama, independent.

It is easier developing a relationship where the 2 men are single, not married, no kids (nothing wrong with having kids just I don't want to be blamed for not playing the step mum role).  

Some men have said they are interested in cuckhold.

Some have said they are bi-curious.

but all seem to fear I want to covert a straight man into a gay lifestyle.

All it takes is for me to get on really well with 2 men and to just supply the whisky and on with the show.

 :)

Unless you are local to London or travel to London (at your own expense) please do not contact me.

I do not have time to play fantasy with you through my laptop.

I am NOT going to over use adjectives to describe a setting that does not exist.

We can NOT eat a meal virtually throuh this message service.

We can NOT enjoy your grasp of my breasts through this message service.

We can NOT hear me squeel due to satisfaction on this messaging service.

We can NOT touch our skin on this message service.

We can NOT enjoy a glass of wine on this messaging service.

I can NOT use my silk on you on this messaing service.

I can NOT call you late on Friday night demanding you make a trip to my place for sexual attention on this messaging service.

So politely unless you can ring my door bell, turn up with some flowers and lubricant and a decent bottle of red wine, politely will you F-off and go submit your horny essay to some shit literature competition that equally does NOT exist.

Thank you

Very sad when you feel you can talk to someone and then you unveil the mask and find out your not attracted to that person.

Such a shame.

Time to keep looking for someone you want not someone available.

You can tell when your ready to actually meet someone for real.

You start re-organising your place, stock up on more wine and reorganise your book case.

Buy heaps of scented candles and start wearing matching underwear.

Start making better life choices.

Why do men from USA keep contacting me.

They don't travel.

They are not the type to going all over the place via business class so why are they contacting me.

They assume through their computer in their mum's basement I will be interested.

Get out of your mum's basement and get a life!

Another odd interpretation of what I am seeking.

Approached today but an oddball who thinks I am looking for a sublevel subissive and another sublevel submissive.

I kind of just wanted to be in an open relationship with 2 open minded men.

What does something rather informal have to turn into something dark and gothic.

Some men on here are thinking leather whips chain and human torture, while I am thinking of if John Lennon was mid 30s what his modern day orgy would be.

Still looking but not impatient, actually rather grateful plenty of me time and busy with work.

I have to admit I have had a few people show an interest and I have had to admit I am not attracted to them.

You can tell by a picture, eve if you tried it would not last.

Still looking for someone outdoorsy.

Still looking for someone in London but I travel a lot so flexible.

Finally planning a little annual leave and Ireland is happening.

I kind of would like to meet someone interesting, avoiding PE teachers, men who work in ICT (snore) there has got to be some pleasure seeking interesting specimens so I will wait but will not hold my breath, will explore the world and my own potential and if you happen to pass by great if not, I was not holding my breath.

A handful of journals on here discuss disability and sexuality.

It shouldn't be challenging but it does make me think why should a disability hinder your true feelings or needs.

Some interesting artists have popped up locally: Mari Katayama

Very inspiring.

For some of the creative appreciators in the fetish scene.

I don't seem to flinch at the sight of individuals demonstrating their pain threshold.

I am now curious if the intensity of the pain passes a threshold where to them it is a climax of pleasure.

I absolutely love imagery of the femme fatale mixed with sexual curiousity.

The presented breasts, the extended heels, the red lipstick the curvy dresses the kneeled man.  Again still think dungoens are just shit furniture, IKEA is doing some amazing things lately so no need to be cheap.

but you can't beat a little dress up in public to demonstrate your devotion to one another.

People in California are really professional when it comes to BDSM.

Their portfolio of pleasure seeking is very polished.

Creates a not so fine line between actual BDSM and people who need to disconnect their webcam and wait for AI to delete them.

Year's ago I went to this intriguing open lecture from a historian who published a book about sexual novelty.

He described meeting people with what seemed like an unusal fetish but could be linked back to a childhood encounter.

I guess my early encounter links back to my childhood, seeing my mother neglected, disatisfied in her one relationship.  She is one of those Christian women, who has been with one man here whole life and put all her hopes and dreams into one man that shattered her expectations of a happy life and marriage.

I guess I lived part of her experience, which is why I am extremely independent always pursing a life goal, always helping others.

90% of my life has been helping other people and I honestly can say if I was hit but a bus, my last thought would be I have helped thousands of people.

Just self-reflecting I don't think my sexual fantasies are in the BDSM remit.  I think leather is overrated.  Owning a BDSM dungeon is just bad furniture and B&Q rope.  I just like the idea of three people, entering a space and saying fuck what other people think, what do you want to try and what do you enjoy and leave the rest behind.

I am sure there will be some who will show judgement and these are always individuals ignoring the cavities of their own life filling up with shit.  Life really is too short and I would rather in my public life carry on as I am and in my private life explore who I am.

I had some lovely intro messages today, was nice to be introduced to the civil side of this site.

I did notice in the wave of change one message that is still behind the times.

Instead of introducing, or building rapport they offered a time stamped plan which included several hours of satisfying their one-sided fantasy.

The itemised itinerary marked 4pm you do this to me 5pm you do this to me 8pm you do this to me.

I do 6 hrs of unpaid overtime a week to help members of the public and now you want me in my 1 day off on my weekend to spend hours milking your fantasy.  In the great words of Elton John will you F-off.

C

I am actually going out with someone from this site.

Sounds normal enough.

Not sure what to expect but it is nice to experience the civil and hold back on the cynical journals.

Should really stock up on rope, just in case.

C

Went on a date with a civilised kinkster.

So there are not all fakes and time waster on here, just gems in a sea of shit.

Note to self.

C

I have found a fuck buddy.

Met face to face, seems nice enough and actually single.

Was direct on the phone that I want to use him for sex.

I have started recleaning and reorgnisnig the flat so definately preparing for company.

stocked up the wine rack, beers in the fridge, heaps of meat and fish in the freezer.

Bought silk PJ and silk underwear - not into the whole leather crap.

Buying rope and going to practice hog-tying him for my own pleasure.

Etsy have some really cute strap-ons, girly ones with pretty patterns.

Candle play wax.

Should write a list of things I want to practice and experiement.

TBC (to be continued).

C

The grass is greener on the other side.

Met someone normal from this site.

Both very busy working professionals but seem to be orbiting which is not a bad thing just waiting to align a little.

Meeting someone normal makes you look at this site a little differently.

Your not dissappointed by the odd time waster because your time has no longer been wasted.

Your hopeful about a possible relationship now being closer to one that might have some sort of functionality in a modern busy working professionals relationship.

Makes you not want to advertise your vexes with the site but merely observe and let not affect you anymore.

- The grass is greener on the other side.

I should try fishing as a sport because this site is exactly the same.

You are putting out a hook waiting for a good fish to swim by.

Unhooked a rotten fish last week (married again) luckily never went on a date with that fish.

Stuck to my principles and my gut feeling, creepy man contacted me on his second profile.  Very creepy.  Not just cheating on his wife but on the Mistress and wanted a 3rd pond to play in.

Having a me day, new underwear, new shoes and dress, hair done, nails and eyebrows, full body wax (fresh and clean), got my head focused on my priorities (my career).

But I must admit while waiting patiently some very pretty fish have been swimming by.

Reminds me being patient for someone good is always for the best.

It is nice to meet real people from this site.

Been open met someone fairly nice but red flags are just that.

I love a man with a generous bit of meat but if they don't kow how to use the brain organ in a respectable open relationship best to not get invested in even a friendship.

At least I was able to walk away with some respect for the other person and little more for myself for trying but accepting not good enough, I think I deserve more.

But I do feel the experience has made me a little more confident.  I put on a chic little skirt, wore some French perfume and put on a little bit of makeup and feel confident to try again.

With a smile on my face I will not be allowing someone to return to my warm welcome nor my bed.

The smile is knowing I have made some small achievements professionally and the smile is knowing relationships are trial and error.  Not an error if you try.

Carry on but did spot an amazing place to get ingredients if I host my next date.

Trying to set up an at home projector, really want to watch some film noir in style at home.

On to my next conquest whoever they are.

How to tell you have neglected yourself:

Your hairdresser moans and says you got good hair why have you not come to see me about these ends like last year.

Your beauty technician asks why you doing your hollywood wax for a man when you should be doing for yourself every month to two.

Your local nail salon technician asks, where the hell have you been and it is clear you have not gone to anyone else.

Yes I have been busy at work and will take note I need to look after myself more.

Femininity is key.

So easy being a women.

All you need to change a mood is stick on a nice dress and get your hair done.

Need to find a true submissive man with a large cock and good at foot and back massages.

Met someone from this site and I will admit I really like this person but saw a couple of red flags.

It felt nice being sexually open about my fetishes and kinks and not feeling judged.

It felt nice kissing on a bruised looking old sofa that is destined for a council bulk waste collection.

It felt good all over, there is a but coming.  Why are some men so reckless with protection.

To avoid my own recklessness I choose to keep to myself for years, just because I want an open relationship does not mean I want to start being reckless.

Taken a step back on this play buddy and considering my options, either keep to myself again or try again with someone new.

Just had a man from the USA offer to serve me in real time, but does not want to show 1 poxy picture of himself.

Guess what button I pressed next!

"BLOCKED"

I am 36 years old.

I am seeking someone (or two) no more than 10 years older, don't date younger men they are are all bloody boring.

To the refined gentlemen in their 60s who have approached me.  I am flattered but it did not go down too well for my ex who was a fair few years older than me when I was a lot younger.

I believe my father purchased a shovel.

My family don't care what I do as long as I am with age appropriate consenting adults so I will stick to the limits.

Kind regards

C

I don't think I am searching for a unicorn.

A man (or two) age appropriate, within the 10 year older range no more.

Solvent

I am independent and work extremely hard can be generous within means but this does not mean I will let you take advantage of me.

Single, actually signed the Decree Absolute, not just thinking about it.

And respect anal douching.

I am not searching for a unicorn

Considering going to the USA to meet a stranger.

Will take alot of planning but the connection is so strong.

There is a strong physical attraction and it is primal.

Life is too short and all I do is put others first, so for once I am putting my feelings, desires and sexual needs first.

But I can only imagine the moment I say I bought a ticket to the USA they will probably do a vanishing act.

Life of Waifs and Strays on CollarSpace.

Forgive me but if you wear a hair system please don't contact me.

If I was wearing a full wig you would not be impressed.  If I was wearing one you would call me a Catfish please respect I feel the same way.

There is hope for men on here after all!

Received a normal introduction and an offer for a meet over dinner and wine.

Well, there is hope for the male species yet and even better he is NOT married!!!!!

I am just an honest women.

I will tell another women they are beautiful - I am comfortable in my own skin.  Told 20 women of all ages they are stunning.

I will tell a trans women she is a diva if she looks so convincing I would want to learn beauty secrets from them (he/she/undecided) - still comfortable in my own skin to tell a trans women they are Gorgeous with a capital G.

I will tell a women who sticks on a corset and thinks automatically they are dominant they are not.  Also this odd women stuck on a sailors hat? LOL - I am still laughing.

But dear women, I will also call some of you out for your BS.  

I am not seeking a poly relationship just an open relationship between 3 people.

Poly is awkward.

A threesome is not.

I couldn't help myself.

I noticed a women on here leaves constent messages about her availability to talk and I had to ask are you getting alot of interest from submissive men?

Their answer: Not really.

That was my reality check about this site.

There is a lot of mulling around on this site.

I have a lot of admierers.

A range of dominant to submissive men but no one to admier.

It might help if the genuine finds make my life easier by saying would you like to meet for a coffee instead of texting till the end of oblivion.

Taking a page out of another dominant women's book.

Their method approach younger men for an honest open relationship and avoid middle aged men.

Apparently middle aged men in the bracket 40-50, Some are confusing deception as a form of sexual fantasy.

To perform strange, alluding sexual acts and to walk away knowing all was consentual, knowing your actions are not misunderstood and frankly knowing your sexual open mindedness is not judged you have to have a high level of trust.

So you can't do the above with someone you don't trust - fair statement?

I keep being curious about women who offer dom services (dominatrix services).

I say this politely, some of you men have been paying for pantomime sex.

A frumpy women, with a wig, forcing themselves into a 1980s leather outfit and whipping your pale backside at a hourly rated service, is a waste of money.

You may as well watch ex members of Eastenders at your local pantomime if your into cheap thrills.

How hard is it to find an actual relationship and discuss your sexual needs.

I read another dominant women has been having similar experiences to me.

As a dominant women I am being approached by men ALREADY in a relationship with another women, and the women is submissive.

Simply because the man wants to encourage a FFM situation. 

Completely ignoring the fact I am after MMF.

What is scary is the investment these men will make to talk, to get to know me and ask me about my ambitions and ideas and intrigued I have a brain and what they are after is the same FFM.

 I spend my day dedicated to my work so I am not bitter about minimal time wasting and have not invested much time other than the odd evening having the page open in the background while watching the BBC but it worries me that some NOT ALL men are just carbon copies of the same idiot 5 minutes before. 

I have a new respect for trans women, they were once men with an original unique thought and evolved into a women, there is something ironic about the whole butterfly transformation.

Also while I am ranting, can dominant men stop asking if I wear a certin type of shoe.  I own 30 pairs shoes including trainers, I have a lot of lingerie but if you want a women to wear a particular brand or type, I suggest you just make yourself available on a weekend and I will happily spend your money buying the shoes and lingerie you want me to wear and watch your satisfaction that you spent your money on La Perla and Jimmy choos.  FYI if your obsessed about shoes you have a foot fetish!

I don't think I am being a snob but I really don't want to date the following:

PE Teachers

Married men

Amazon drivers

Delivery drivers

Uncertified psychologists but claim to be life coaches (sad bunch)

Boring IT guys (you guys are lazy as fuck)

Men in prison usin the computers to go on CS and telling me about the wrongful rape convictions and think they can support my sexual needs online (Jesus can't even save you).

I am nothing special but come on someone with a flavour for life and traveling the world or going for a long walk in Thetford Forest (with camping gear and compass).

Someone who likes DX biking or countryside biking or hanging out in Norfolk going for a walk and drinking hot chocolate and coffee.

Come on! I am not going to allow any deviant to spank me 

Here is one of my theories.

All straight men are bisexual.  I have been engeged to a dominant man and he was in complete denial that he was bi.

He worked out, drank his protein shakes, enjoyed me a bit of a bimbo (boobs out long hair) but was intrigued by sexuality.

To all the dominant men who contact me, open to my way of ideas.  Your a free to be yourself and be open minded but don't judge me because your afraid of your own desires.

I am a bisexual strong women and I have no shame.

This does not interfer with my values in the community, what I do in my bedroom to relax with age appropriate men (above the age of 30) is my business.

If you have an issue I suggest you kiss my backside but you would probably enjoy it

Polite heads up to anyone I engage with.

I am a real person, with real honest values, with a real job in the public sector.

I hop on in the middle of the night but during work time frame you will never see me on here.

I actually enjoy serving the community but my goal was to find like minded individuals to have an open relationship.

Open to me means we are single and not married and freely respecting our bodies and choices (can't be done when your married your disrespecting your wife and kids, you got problems at home pay for your wifes gym membership and have that honest chat to turn things around don't come to me).

I don't entertain time wasters.

I do expect the men I engage with to be employed, be in good job, be generous.

No I am not trying to con you, nor get your bank balance, I am not entertaining another bad experience where I discover on multiple dates I am the only one paying the bill and a 5 day date cost me £400 because the other person was a cheapskate.

I am independent, I am generous but I am no longer entertaining time wasters.

Other than that have a nice day.

C

Brilliant.

Could tell again someone was married told me he is single and I am wrong.

Stuck to my gut and he admitted he has not finished the legal process with wife.

Why bother tell a women she is wrong when she is right.

When your a single women, who wants to enjoy the company of two equally single men (not fake single and not married men), enjoy their company their time and enjoy no strings attached sex your a slut, however when your a man who is married, sleeps with women all over the country, enjoying your sexual proclivities your just a man being a man.

My legs will remain closed for another 10 years, very glad no man has succeeded from this site to open my legs.

Lovely

BDSM relationship is a sexual relationship it means Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism.

It does not mean just looking for a fuck buddy.

I have been on here for 4 months and overall nice people chatting.

A couple of weird married men whoose BS does not get past me even through messages.

Accepted the only way I am going to meet 2 interesting men within my desired age bracket 36-46 is to go to munches.

Joined Fet Life and RSVP a couple of events, now figuring out what to wear.

Any women (born or made) recommend websites to put together something classy but alluring, considering having something handmade.  I don't want to enter a room looking like a latex tramp but will embrace the dark side (no pun intended).