Vertical Line



MistressWhipplash - photo 1
MistressWhipplash - photo 2
Experienced Lifestyle Dominant Sadist Woman seeks real time NEAR ME Submissive or Slave guy who drives to go to London munches and Fetish clubs together. I prefer if you can take a high level of pain via S&m from my Canes, whips and floggers. Areas: Do live near Romford in Essex Kent or London. Have five years experience in going to FemDom munches and fetish clubs. What's first: Attend the Mawney Munch in Romford Essex to meet me to chat. 20 years to 46 years old active chatty Submissive or Slave guy for playtimes and possibly more.

NO male doms = In case folks on here have forgotten I am solely interested in Slaves and Submissives so only reply to that demographic.  Club Pedestal , Cruel Huntress Hunt and Club o&I in Kent are the three fetish venues I talk to Dominant Women as well. The Mawney munch I talk to everyone with good manners who are pleasant to laugh with for the evening. 

All Goals Done = I have had a week where I planned to ease up my workload. Key pieces are now complete so I will take my week end a little slower.

SERVICE SUBS = Today is cooler so I may think about opening up applications for service subs to cut my lawn - though a first few meets at the Mawney are key prior to me accepting that person.

It's a soggy Saturday here in Essex, UK what's everyone up to? 

My shopping was done, all domestic was done for me so I am relaxing today after working all week. With a few late nights working too today chilling listening to the rain under a cover works for me. Thinking about the show and tell mix of my edits in chapter 10 of 25. 

I haven't written any songs for a while but I will. The art is flowing from me so the next stage to turn them digital will progressed once my edited manuscript goes to readers. Meanwhile I gather hand drawn designs and store them in a box folder. 


No poetry from me today as I am looking forward to seeing Pretty Wreckless and  ACDC tomorrow at Wembley!!! 

On a different subject those who apply to me who drive don't continue chatting. I have no intention of doing online sexting and expect ordinary topic style conversation which appears to beyond those submissive guys who message me 🤔  Okay they are not compatible so I move on.

Though I wonder why they bother at all if they don't wish to make an effort to chat here. Of course establishing his intent is key. Most hold back on that using "boy speak" thinking creepy words which sound simpy will suffice= No. Honesty is key and attending the Munch I mention ASAP is the first step.

Want to voice talk with me = it will be voice on Skype no you will not get my mobile number. No I am not interested until your location is near me. "Oh I will move for you" is declined/blocked.

Reading other journals I see plenty of Dominant Women going through a similar problem. A guy who thinks he is interested and fits key points she seeks = submissive by his intent to please her and is ready to do stuff to show that. Like attending a munch as an adult and being a pleasant social adult. Why is being a social adult past his remit of what he can offer= his intent is to be an online wanker. That's blocked by me.

Then I read one guy's journal about Dominant Women putting him, a round peg, into all sorts of bizarre shaped holes. Not reinventing the wheel here. Compatibility is first = outside of play and kink BEFORE play, kink and sex occur.

Those fuckbois are a hard limit =oh fuck my ass"= that's anal sex. So they want a Kink dispenser ONLY=hard limit for me.

Poof their gone. No problem my whips, rope, floggers and amusements will go on another. A whole adult strong submissive man intent on pleasing me, and accepting I am poly and being a grown up about it.

Be aware that I am poly when applying to be mine and you need to drive and have your own car so we can attend munches & fetish clubs together. The focus is knowing each, being compatible in a relationship BEFORE kink occurs.

IF you put kink first book a ProDomme which isn't Me. I am a Lifestyle Dominant Sadist Woman near London, Essex and Kent. Remember be near those locations living close to one.of those locations.


Meanwhile Wembley this Sunday!!!

I had a while  in the chat room here Sunday afternoon it made a change to interact with folks globally over a variety of topics.

relacing my black leather chain boots tomorrow. If I need longer laces I will go buy them Monday in Romford from Doc Martens. I DO miss not having a Boot-boy to do these things for me. Sunday he would sit in hallway and clean my boots in a proper military way.  Unfortunately he moved to America for his job.

Hey Mistress

**I am not your Mistress**

Sorry hello Ma'am how are you,

Will you do to me the things you do?

Whips and Canes and all that stuff,

I have "sub" frenzy and can't get enough,

Yes I will say all the right things but never do them true,

I am a shadow wanker and cum while messaging you.

**No I won't, you ignored my needs,

Didn't read my profile or even glance through my feed,

So my needs have zero to do with what you seek,

Pushing yourself first and certainly not meek,*

Oh Ma'am your voice makes my knees go weak,

(In boy speak damn I hope my load is expelled before she peaks)

So off he went that newbie quick,

without a clue on how to be mine he was such a dick,

Yes we know it happens but 4 in one day,

The shadow wanker news must be actively pushing my name.

Obedience to me is what I like,

Some laughter and a bare derriere in sight,

A man who asks my consent,

Before he wanks and becomes spent,

Then in a restaurant a respectful man,

Simping on me doing all he can,

Hanging up my coat & pulling out my chair,

Fetching all I need his excellent manners beyond compare,

No age doesn't always develop better,

Self-aware submission daily melts his mind to fetter,

Only offer what you can do for me,

Servant, sweetheart long term be,

Fetter and bind that will to me,

So he begs never to be free.

Hey Mistress

I am not your Mistress

Sorry hello Ma'am how are you,
Will you do to me the things you do?
Whips and Canes and all that stuff,
I have "sub" frenzy and can't get enough,

Yes I will say all the right things but never do them true,
I am a shadow wanker and cum while messaging you.

*No I won't, you ignored my needs,

Very Experienced Lifestyler Dominant Sadist Woman  

Unfortunately waaaaay too many male bottoms on here claiming they are submissive = receiving play only means you are a bottom. A submissive looks to his Dominant Woman for HER decisions in life outside of the bedroom and BDSM play. Most newbies go be a play bottom asking for a service Top when you don't want an actual long-term relationship. 

Meanwhile it's a warm day and I am planning what to wear at the Wembley ACDC / Pretty Wreckless concert in 2 weeks. Woohoo Go me. Leather boots, leather trousers with chains and a tshirt is idea one. Time to relace my black leather boots. 

Newbies and their b.s about not wanting to go out in the real kink scene with reply as:

A munch has no play, it's a drink in a pub.

At a fetish club you can watch, you don't need to play, instead chat to other kinksters and familiarise yourself with the kink arena.

If you feel the need to be discreet thrn you are likely cheating = no from me.

Join Fetlife to chat in discussion groups if you wish to remain online. There are "roleplay" groups for Fantasy "play" = not my thing.

I think my reply is clear. Experienced Submissive and Slave guys only who drive and go to munches and fetish clubs is what interests me. 

Just because a newbie wants an experienced Dominant Woman doesn't mean he access to my time. I RULE me.

What I chuckle about as a writer who happens to be a Dominant Sadist Woman is, when non-kinksters agree to be beta readers. Where I am doing a secret smile based on the word "beta" and what it's double meaning means to me. The "beta bitch" for my live-in-Property in particular when I am teasing them. There are times when I drop the word beta and instead ask for "readers." As fellow writers are aware what I seek or offer when mentioning reading another's unpublished complete work to polish it before doing a QL.

Good to be at my local munch Thursday socialising and laughing. Funny evening that gave me a sore throat a little from laughing so loud. I am back at Club o&I in Kent, UK in August to whip Mine so that will be a fun day.

What I chuckle about as a writer who happens to be a Dominant Sadist Woman is, when non-kinksters agree to be beta readers. Where I am doing a secret smile based on the word "beta" and what it's double meaning means to me. The "beta bitch" for my live-in-Property in particular when I am teasing them. There are times when I drop the word beta and asking for "readers" as fellow writers are aware what I seek or offer when mentioning reading another's unpublished complete work to polish it before doing a QL.

I wonder if there any service submissive guys right now who just enjoy being useful to a a Dominant Woman without expecting a list of actions in return.

I also wonder if there are any polite adult gentlemen submissives left. 

In his heart is he sad and needs glee,

Seeking to be helpful to a Dominant Woman such as me,

Drive together for meals out and joy,

Where he craves to be my long term boy.


I am looking forward to my local Essex munch on the 20th June, meanwhile time to get the garden tidy for a barbecue. A nice strong experienced service submissive to cut the lawn and take the grass to my green bin for collection would be useful. I miss for that, there were some authentic service sub regulars on there. When the site closed without notice due to funding issues there wasn't any way to contact the useful men to attend and be useful. 


Meanwhile I am looking for a new pair of wedge flip flops and black leather winter boots - any links send to my fetlife profile as links here get eaten by the crawling software.


Long Term Woman Boss Relationship

I find it bizarre that guys do not want long term Woman Boss Relationships and only seek short term play hook ups. Meanwhile I am a busy author so I will continue with my projaspects.

I cleared "house" over the weekend declining those who weren't suitable. No one made the cut. Interesting how this journal entry shows I hi a ave high standards, however a guy being an adult clearly defining what he seeks so I can decide if he suits what I seek is slow. A guy doing the usual "whatever you want.." b.s to attempt to hide he wants a fetish dispenser = that won't be me. No it doesn't mean I am not into BDSM playtime, I am. What it means as I know the person very well over a year before I bring up kink and playtime. They guy agrees to that put tries twice to push kink. Three strikes and he's blocked. Next batch of applicants it will be two strikes and they will be blocked. After that batch isn't viable I will stop replying to all messages for sometime. Get it right guys!!

I wonder does anyone still have staycations anymore like we did during covid? I did one year I actually felt relaxed after a week of having my staycation. I was thinking of having a staycation soon.

An obedient experienced submissive male who drives/has own car to accompany me to munches and events. Also looking for a service sub to cut my lawn every month. First 3 meets at a munch before I decide if you suit what I want. BDSM club play at clubs. No play at my private home so don't ask.

I have been having a discussion in the Dominant Women group on Fetlife about the heavy increase in "transactional kinksters" whose education is from porn. Where it is disrespectful to women yet they are too busy pushing what they want and get blocked mid sentence.

I block so many guys daily who are so far from being compatible it's eye-rolling.

Lifestyle submissive man who is willing to accompany Me to munches and fetish clubs such as Pedestal.  Message me to get to know each other. First meet is at the Mawney Munch in Romford, Essex, England so live no more than an hour or so away.

D/s FLR relationship sought with kink AFTER knowing each other at least SiX months.

No instant gratification. I am on Fetlife so look at my profile.

Also service sub sought for garden work.

Mistress Whipplash Ma'am 

What's odd to me are the lack of guys who drive,vhave a car, want to go to fetish clubs to be played with who are are submissive NOT submission fetishishists and NOT kink dispenser chasers.

A submissive wants to please me first

A submissive knows if I am giving time and play energy he gives his time and energy to please me, therefore we are both giving.

A fetish dispenser chaser is in gimme mode. 

A submissive guy who's first topics are not kink and has experience in a Dominant Woman/submissive man relationship with kink mixed in. Frustrating that I feel the need to spell this out after I was asked what a FLR was. <--- yup not experienced guy asking, bye bye.

Stop looking for women to do some specific sex act to you. Women in general prefer to have sex with their lovers. Not some random guy who just wants to experience pegging.

Want to get pegged? Socialize and be active in kink communities, make friends of all kinds, network, until you find a woman you like who likes you back and enjoys pegging her lover, and grow a relationship that includes sex and pegging.

Or find a reputable pro who provides pegging as a service and pay her.

In vanilla terms I seek a single guy, lifestyle submissive, with FiVE years experience in a FLR whilst going out to pubs (munches) and clubs (FemDom fetish clubs) to go out with me in his car that he drives, three times a month, sometimes a little more. Long-term to first go for dinner, drinks and socialise.  When the rapor is there I will give S&m play on his body in a fetish club. (I don't play at home.)

I call it the opposite theory. 

When I was freshly divorced a few years back and made it clear I only wanted light-hearted fun, guys got upset because I declined a long-term relationship with them. After 20 years of marriage I was allergic to commitment. 

As a Poly Dominant Woman, now looking for a single, live-out second guy.( I think seeing a guy a few times a month long-term can be seen as a relationship. Well I do anyway.) Unfortunately no guy who approaches is seeking long-term and I don't play on the first EiGHT meets. Though I like younger guys I am also aware they are not looking for commitment so won't be suitable for what I seek.


Boy Speak

Boy speak is what he really means when he says one thing but means another,

Thinking that he is talking to his mind-reading  mother!

But I think I want to say you are a prude,

Means he wants his ass fucked and will be rude,

Why not Goddess do that for me,

Means be my dispensing unit I can see.

Go on I will do the kink you want,

Means no he won't it's just a taunt.

Sure I want to meet but tell me now,

How you'll have me cum but I won't bow.

Nor will I meet or be respectful at your feet, 

Says he.

So a kinky twat bottom he will remain you see.



My answer is:

No fetish service the dommes4U was never set,

Never made active I see you lament.

Lament at your loss for a second at a time,

When I moved on relieved you won't be Mine.


A Dominant Woman am I to be taken on meals and fun days out,

To laugh together while you Mine will happily move about,

Being useful funny and sweet.

That's is the real-time Slave I want at My feet.


What's that you can't cope if I am Poly,

As you want a porn image Mistress-dolly.

Silly boy with that boyspeak of yours pouring out,

I moved on more men worth my time to chat about.

5 years experience of a FLR submissive or slave man who drives/has his own car and lives in Essex/Kent is what I seek.

What messages me? A weirdo from India. Blocked zero reply.

So damned boring all these fetish delivery chasers=My blocking finger is in use alot. Yawn. I am at my local munch tomorrow night 6.30pm for dinner and drinks till around 10.30pm ish. 

Mawney Arms, Romford. I am with kinksters friends as I am not the host.

Come on you guys who moan where are all the Mistresses??? There are plenty, just read these journals from Dominant Women who block tw*ts who don't behave well.

Guys who just want their a*ss f*cked is not submission it's anal sex. Even swingers do that. Look at your intent men, make sure your intent is to MAKE MY LiFE EASIER NOT TO BE A PAIN IN THE ARSE. 

If you are a nuisance and over familiar I will block you. 

I left CS for FiVE years and didn't miss it. I am thinking.of leaving again.  


I don't use the term fake when describing a person who isn't suitable for Me. A bottom pushing his own needs is off my radar because an actual submissive with five years experience ar giving up authority outside of play and in life who drives his own car, who already goes to munches and clubs is IN my radar.

So many on here who contact Me are not suitable so I rarely login here. Guys wonder where all the Dominant Women are? They are not on here for the reason I just gave. Pushy bottoms want a a kink service but don't go to fetish clubs to get their kink fix. There are plenty of tops at fet clubs happy to give twenty minutes of play for a drink and foot rub. Quid-pro-quo, give something in return as two human beings. Simple. 

Mistress Whipplash Ma'am 


I haven't written much poetry this year so far, as I am editing my manuscript.  I could do with some amusing company at my local munch in March. Do drive and talk to me there. A cute young guy who drives and is funny, amuse me for the evening.


This site isn't funny today.....yawn.

Midnight Tiles

Sifting through the sands of time,

Smiling again at the memories sublime,

Who will rekindle my desire to dance,

 On life's midnight tiles of chance,

Light my steps oh moon shine down,

Whisk me away to the lights of town,

The thwack of cane on his derriere pale,

My whip, my flogger on his skin will flail.

Flicking my sadistic Dominant tail,


My lust for his cries will prevail.

As a Dominant Sadist Woman I solely have interest in Slaves long term. Whether as service Slaves, where he only touches my boot in a hello kiss, and does useful things long term. (Not much physical contact) to Property where I have control of him out of play time and the bedroom. Chastity is boring but if you don't tell me about it, you may wear it as a service Slave.

Don't bother if you are not a Slave or Submissive with at least 2 years experience and drive. 

Any other messages from those not Slave or Submissive will be deleted unread.

It's hot chocolate Friday...sleep is s luxury, as I am full of damn cold. Achoooooo!!!


I require you to be


To drive/have a car

Live in either Essex, Kent.

2 years experience in both being a Slave in a FLR & munches & parties.


I am very experienced and have been in the kink community sometime. I am a Dominant Sadist Woman and know who suits me = Slave preferred, live out.

I have a toilet = it flushes.

I want a cock that works and a mind that is obedient and creative. 

I am busy with life so I am not waiting around. Message me to talk non kink first. UK London, KENT or Essex ONLY.


Happy to block twat wankers. Prefer decent chat.



I get bored easily. I returned to this site a month ago and have found it the same. Boring.

No useful Slave to focus his time on Me to drive me. Pity.

I see posts on Fetlife and other fetish community sites wondering where all the Mistresses have gone?

 Well this one will go from here soon. Why? I am not sated by the man I seek. Tut tut  silly boys not reading what I seek, who push their own needs first and get blocked.

My question: where is a submissive or Slave man who can go to dinner and behave well? Can keep his kink needs to himself until I ASK

?  Where he  follows MY Lead and drives me to munches and fetish clubs, where I will whip and cane him? 

Meanwhile,  2024 promises to be a rollercoaster ride so time to put on my grip-tight-gloves. Here I go!!!

I am having a fun break until 2th January then back to manuscript editing.

4th January I reintroduce keto and steps, later back to yoga. I can't wait to get supple and increase my stamina again. February I will back weight training,  I have all sorts of free weight dumbells in my home so I can concentrate on reps before form to rebuild what went last year.

No suitable driving submissives, as all that applied were newbie bottoms, when it's two years experience in BDSM, FLR and driving/having a car I want. I miss the web site Servants4U for that site had plenty of respectful gentleman submissive guys with at least five years experience. But many left the community once covid hit and haven't returned. What a pity.

Today I am off to the nail salon so new pics of my nails will likely be on for those who enjoy a Lady with carefully manicured nails. What a New Year 2024 is in store! Make it a fun one now!!

Fun in January to start the new year off with a thwack sounds good to me. I want a young cute Slave who drives, to take me to a FemDom club that I wish to attend. Start messaging me eager London, Essex in Kent Slaves so I can choose the no older than 35 eye candy in to the club to be good little bitch all evening.  


Note if the term bitch for a cute guy upsets you, don't apply.

What a great 2 days I have had. Woop woop.

Back to creating stuff tomorrow, but that works for me.

My pre birthday celebration I was spoilt, gorgeous flowers today and new boots tomorrow = Today is my birthday so day 2 of surprises and birthday wishes. 


Thanks for the birthday wishes from those who know me in real life from Club Pedestal,  The Cruel Huntress Hunt and Club o&I. I will get back to see you all once a new driver offers long term commitment to me. 


I am a writer and wrote a new elevator pitch (first draft)  and the 21st version of my query letter. Busy me!


I do like to chat, yes, but with a person who lives near me, drives and has a car. Who also has 2 years experience minimum of FLR/munch & attending fetish clubs.


I am too busy yo talk to those that aren't suitable. 

No I don't want to answer a ton of questions from newbies. If you are new, join Fetlife to see all the social events, munches and alternative markets where you socialise with other newbies. A newbie will be unable to take what I give as  RACK Dominant Sadist Woman.  

If a newbie asks a polite non-kink question, I may answer it. I MAY do.



What do I want for Christmas I was asked - I have what I need. But what do I want - so I  am getting those three things, delicious. 


I have been editing my current W.I.P (work in progress) as I am a writer. This weekend I have a break for amusements, then back to editing. Monday after reading feedback  from readers.


Pity a useful  Slave near me, who drives isn't around after my Driver of 5 years retired, he was obedient. 




Hey all it's getting tedious to repeat myself but you know that right.


My Hard limits

Noo poo, roman, no adult baby, no small penis humiliation 

No drugs, no newbies

No physical chastity I want to use that cock when I want. I do not want to f**k about with a silly little key and you scrubbing it before we carry on. Obedience comes from your mind so have self control to not wank. BOOM subject done.



Be an adult who can actually TALK. Do drive and have a car and be willing to BDSM play inside a fetish club (NO private play) 

I am bored now and need entertainment. Guys wonder why Dominant Women leave these style of sites but do not read profiles or journals, pushing their kink and getting blocked. 

Goodness I blocked two guys before breakfast today.

I want a slave near me who drives so we can go enjoy munch evenings together and fetish clubs too. Cinema and meals out. Because I am a Dominant Woman that is "usual" for me. I want someone easy on the eye so no older than 40 and single.


Not too much of a list I thought. But as many women everywhere comment on here, guys are not reading profiles= I copy/paste replies to avoid the monotony. 


1. First guy was living in Germany 1 hour away he said. The point is he doesn't live near me in the UK. I lead so it was no. Pushy got him blocked.


2. Guy was 65 so I declined as late nights bring.on the moans from older guys= it's late/music is so loud etc. Not my thing so MY choice is the guy is a certain age bracket. Guy us pushy gets blocked.


They need to put NOTE to self Google what Woman Led Relationship is=the Woman Leads=ME. 

3. The late entry to be blocked. Another free ProDomme seeker who doesn't accept a FLR is ME the Woman leads. Period.

Accept that or get blocked. Simple.



It's one of those nights where I can't sleep. I have created two new designs to relax and may try to sleep. Where is decent conversation when I need one?

I used really enjoy male chastity and all their torment.

Now I prefer no physical chastity and the man having self control over his penis. So I don't spend a ridiculous amount of energy talking about his penis (night wakes, chastity rubbing, when can he be free/locked blah blah blah) It stopped. Why? My choice as I am in control of ME.


Now it's about other things that are more interesting. 


In this journal I said I am NOT into chastity then 5 guys on the trot offer their their.locked penis key to me. Silly boys didn't read the whole sentence=got blocked.

If you are on Fetlife go ahead and message me there. Meanwhile today I my office editing my current work in progress(W.I.P) I have a second book in the planning stage while I also gather elements together for my author web site.


I particularly get on well with engineers and witty Slaves. 

I am an expert at free-form shibari but to me it is a tool to melt your mind, not the focus. Focus for me is a person who wishes to please me how I want to be pleased, whose core focus is obedience and will be happy if I am happy. Is that you? Then message me if you live in Brentwood, or Romford, Kent or near London = England.

Do drive and have a car so going to munches and fetishes clubs runs smooth. No, waiting for cabs when I am tired, is not my thing.

It has to be real-time and long term. I am a Dominant Woman Sadist say take pain for any reason I choose. Be aware I talk to a person as mine, we will discuss the universe and everything. I am not looking for a doormat to ignore.

A gentle thoughtful man to be my cute pack horse, my cleaner and my cuddle bunny works for me.

I had a nice afternoon out at the nail salon yesterday.  So chilled I almost fell asleep oops. Today I continue to edit my book. Tonight I am at the.local Mawney Munch, Romford Essex UK. I nice out of Submissive guys to talk to would amuse me. If you are on FL it is.listed there.

It looks like I am on here alot, when I simply leave myself logged in while designing. I am uploading six wrapping designs today. Something for most tastes. 

Monday 13th November 2023

It is good to see that some of you who are too far are admirers to show me you are respectful of my location limits and boundaries.

It is nice to be welcomed here.

Not long now before the holidays. I know Canada have had their Thanksgiving and the States are due in 8 days. I wish everyone lots of things to be grateful for. Personally I am looking for a loyal thoughtful young submissive driver who lives near me near Gidea Park or Hornchurch, Collier Row or Averly.


Meanwhile tomorrow I am back to editing my manu. 


Sunday 12th Nov 2023

Chilling now after a busy weekend.  I am designing wrapping next which will go on my shop. It will be lovely to have my own design to wrap gifts in.

P.S Live near London and take my NO at my 1st answer or get blocked. Pretty simple folks.

I wish I knew someone near me who could make clothes. I can design the fabric pattern and get it printed. Meanwhile a thoughtful submissive driver to go to out together with would be fun.Where's a cute little bitch when I need one.

Saturday 11th Nov 2023

Art day today and baking tomorrow as I have guests visiting.  The Mawning munch is in a few weeks. I miss going to Club Pedestal but my driver required. I would prefer a younger guy who can keep up with my energy levels.

Friday 10th Nov 2023New to Collarspace but not the fetish scene. My main profile is on FL. I go to my local munch in Romford, they have great food there. See you there sometime at the Mawney Munch in Romford Essex UK.