snowcatsub

I will not apologize for having as many limits as I do. If you don't like it you can fuck right the hell off, telling me that I have way way way too many limits just tells me that you're a joke of a Dom.?

Gotta love the fake doms that wanna call me homophobic slurs (when I am clearly a straight woman married to a straight man) all because I do not like spankings of any kind and they can't take no for an answer or respect boundaries. It's no wonder they are single yet they claim to be humble and act like that. Yeah right.?

So cute how someone will block me and still send me a message after insulting me. Get a life. 

If you think I'm a bitch for having standards you are clearly not a real man. If you are rude to me I will not be nice to you. 

Calling me a fake all because you can't take the time to read a profile is hilarious and honestly that's the only "insult" a fake Dom can even come up with. If you are not in NC or 44 or older DON'T fucking contact me! 

Stupidity really amazes me and the fact that if I call you out on you not caring about consent and replying that you hope that I get assaulted physically says tons about how fake of a dom you are. This shit is what makes me want to give up on finding someonthing genuine. 

I've had to say this once, and I'll have to say it again I guess or as many times as it takes. I AM A SUB NOT A SLAVE AND I WILL NEVER EVER BE A SLAVE. i DO NOT EVEN LIKE THAT WORD. It clearly says in my profile I am a sub. 

Bah Humbug to the holidays and honestly right now I have nothing to be exactly happy about. 

Ok. Women messaging me telling me to be kind yet you are rude to me and want me to call you mistress all cause you want a sub for your fake husband you can go fuck yourself hypocritical bitch

Yes everything in my profile is still accurate and up to date. Yes I have pictures but I'm only sharing them if I'm comfortable with you. 

How hard is it to have a little manners? If you wanna message me saying "hi sub" more than likely I will cuss you out and block you. I have a name so use it it's not that difficult. Just because I do have sub in my name and I identify as one does not mean I want to be called one. Even a "hi there" won't get you anywhere with me, put some damn thought into your message 

I didn't think I'd have to make this clear but apparently I do. Being a non sexual sub means I do not want sex I if any kind so no intercourse, oral, fingers or toys. I am fine with nudity once I am comfortable with you but that's it. 

I can't believe I would even have to write this, but I see that I have to. I am sub ONLY! I will not nor ever be interested in being a slave, I don't even like that word. If you have to pm me asking if I'd ever consider this you will be cussed out and blocked. 

Fuck it I'm done. I am so tired of people messaging me and not reading my profile.  Or so called Dom's trying to tell me that I don't know something when I clearly do.. This is nothing but a joke so that's how I'm going to treat it 

Being told I don't know the role of a real sub because I don't suck dick is just fucking hilarious, only a fake dom would say crazy shit like this. There are PLENTY of nonsexual subs in the lifestyle and submission means different things to different people not just the sexual aspect. This is how I can spot a fake dom a mile away when he starts talking bs like this and clearly doesn't respect limits. 

I also really love that "dom" men think I'm gullable, asking me if I'm willing to meet them somewhere in their first message and neither of us knows ZERO about each other. Yeah sorry but I'm not stupid enough to just hop in my car and meet someone I know absolutely nothing about much less what they look like. 

I love it when someone sends me a message after they clearly didn't read my profile, expecting me to respond but block me after sending the message, what a joke. 

I really don't know how many times I have to say it. But if you are not in or even close to my area DON'T bother contacting me. It clearly shows you can't take the time to read a profile. 

If you really think that my photo is fucked up then you should look at yourself. BDSM can be about sex yes but that's not what it's 100% about, there are PLENTY of people in the lifestyle who are nonsexual, many are here to learn and explore not to fuck. If you think that bdsm is alla bout sex then you're the one who's fucked up, especially if you say you do not negotiate which is a HUGE red flag. 

Guess it's time to make this clear since I didn't put it in my profile. I am partly disabled with permanent nerve damage to my left knee from being hit by a car in my 20s. So messages asking stuff like if I'd ever serve as a foot stoll or mentioning being on my knees will get you cussed out and blocked. 

This is just so I'll stop getting messages of so called concern. Yes I am fine from the hurricane, Greensboro got nothing but rain so I'm not in an area that was affected. I have no clue why people would think any different when I'm in a city so far from the mountains. I wouldn't even be on  here if I was in a bad off area anyway. 

How hard is it to actually read a profile before messaging someone? I mean really, it's not that difficult to do, either that or people just don't care. Seeing the messages I get it seems both. You want fuckmeat, move on I'm not it. I'm also sure as hell am not sharing my picture with anyone until I feel comfortable with you. I will also say again that this is the fastest way for me to ignore your messages and/or block you: 

1. Clearly not reading my profile, I'll know if you are not from or around the location I stated, being right out disrespectful and thinking I'll actually want your "guidance" or be your "toy" when you couldn't take the time to look at my interest list or my limits which are all up to date. 

2. Sending me pictures without asking me, this includes any kind of picture. If I want to see what you look like I will ask. Same with sending me a phone number or any other type of social media ID, if I want it I'll ask.

3. If you can't open a conversation with more than "Hi, how are you?" or just "Hi." Then I'm not interested, I like substance and if you can send a good opening message then I'll be more likely to wanna talk to you don't bother with anything half assed it just won't work. 

4. You're profile and/or interest list is blank. I could understand if your proifle is brand new but if you've been on this site for more than a month I think you've had plenty of time to write and add in your interests. That helps me guage what kind of person you are. 

lol I just love how I get called the "dumb loser" when I call someone out on their stupidity and red flags. You wanna claim to be a caring and loving person but when someone points something out you attack them calling them a dumb bitch, a loser and other things? Yeah it's just comical and shows you aren't who you really claim to be. 

Females, STOP messaging me! I have zero interest in you as friends or otherwise. I am straight and into men only. Females who message will be put on blast then blocked, I have zero tolerance for disrespectful behavior of any kind and if I wanted friends I would have said it on my profile. 

Sorry to say but I'm not going to respond to a message that just says "hi" or "hello" I would prefer something a little more than that in your first message for example "hi, how are you? " and maybe a little something about yourself. I will also NOT accept messages from someone not in my state sorry but that's just my preference. Also if you have to send me a rude message like "are you behaving" you are clearly not worth my time and energy because it is not something a complete stranger needs to know. 

Sorry to say but no I do not have things like kik, Skype, hangouts or anything similar and no I am not giving out my email address. Messages asking for these or giving me your info will just be ignored. 

 I also do not consent to being sent phone numbers, I'm not stupid enough to call random strangers 

If you are NO WHERE near or in North Carolina then don't bother messaging me, I'm not interested and it clearly says so in my profile but I know so many can't read. 

I swear the fakes are running rampant on here, giving out phone numbers without being asked, not reading profiles then getting mad because you call them out on it. It's pathetic, and the predators are even worse. 

I do not consent to being sent pictures in the first message. If I don't ask for them then I do not want to see them. 

I will also NOT send you pictures at any point unless I am very comfortable with you. I have privacy issues that ned to be respected. 

Yep this place really is a joke. 

Is it really that hard to read over an interest and limits list? How can you say you are interested in someone yet you give them "ideas" that are already on the hard limits list, you don't even ask if that person is okay with it you just assume and give an idea. Then when you keep shooting those "ideas" down and tell them you are uncomfortable they want to just give up and part ways. Yeah those are red flags to me and I feel stupid for even wasting my time. Is it really SO HARD to find someone who RESPaspects that I am nonsexual and will not do lots of things? Not everything in this lifestyle is about sex. This shit is exactly why I stopped looking for a Dom for so long, no one respaspects limits or boundaries anymore. 

I have absolutely no time for trolls. If you want to take time out of your day just to message me saying "good luck you have way too many limits. " Then just screw off, that just means you don't care about the thoughts and opinions and safety of others along with clearly having no life. I could give a fuck less if you think I have way too many limits, that just means I know what I like and don't. 

Please, please, please take the time to read my profile and interests. I am getting way too many messages from people who clearly haven't. Yes I will look at your profile before messaging you back. 

 If I am uncomfortable with your profile or just don't feel like talking then more than likely I won't message back, if I do not respond then it more than likely means I am not interested so no need to constantly message me asking if I want to talk or not. If you already have a sub then I more than likely won't be interested, I'm not into sharing a Dom. If you're profile is outdated then please tell me in your first message otherwise I will have to assume that some things are still relevant. 

Do not message me with your first words "hey sub" and expect me to be nice to you. To me that is EXTREMELY disrespectful. I have a name so use it, it can either be snow or cat. But do not be disrespectful and take it out on me when I call you out on it especially if your profile gives off tons of red flags. Don't come to me saying you want a connection when that is your opening line, any real Dom knows that kind of crap is just BS and actually takes the time to address you properly. 

You wanna claim you hate fake people but you act fake yourself is you just being a hypocrite and a waste of time. 

I swear the disrespect is unreal around here. You put something veyr specific in your profile and yet people still wanna disrespect you about it. Yes I'm married and looking for a dynamic outside of my marriage, it's not that uncommon so GET OVER IT! I have my reasons for not liking certain things so no need to be disrespectful when asking about it. Can't get over the fact that I have a preference of NOT talking to women or CD's? Then don't bother messaging me you'll just get blocked. 

Here's another note.

My bodily fluids are off limits so if you want to control them and not even negotiate it then you may as well say goodbye. Also telling me you want me to give up complete control right away when I walk into a room is just a huge red flag to me. I don't care if you have pictures of you doing this kind of thing to others it's not for me and sometimes those pictures make me hugely uncomfortable. Please for the love of go READ MY PROFILE!!!!

Do not just skim through it and my interests/limits if you really want to potentially be my Dom you have to read the whole thing, I will certainly know by your questions if you don't. 

Please do not bother messaging me if you are a Sadist and can't respect my limits. Yes I have lots of limits but that just means I know what I do not like. Do not try to argue with me about them or say that I should consent to them. I will not, there is a story behind many of them so no I don't have to share my reasoning behind it. I do not care if you have trained married women before, that doesn't mean that every single married woman is going to consent to your so called training especially if you blow off their limits like its nothing.

What gets me though is telling me that flogging is all about sadism and pain, its really not and if you are a real Dom you would know that. There are many types of flogging impliments and many are not painful at all, I prefer thuddy impliments because they don't hurt yet will still get a reaction out of me. Just like you can't tell me that loosing feeling in part of your body while in bondage is just "part of the experience." No it is not, if you start to loose feeling that means something might be going wrong, I know this because a so called rope Dom told me it was "part of the experience" when I said my hands had gone numb, but a real rope Dom had told me that wasn't true so yes I know quite a few things don't bother trying to test me I will call you out on your bs. 

Here are a few things that I should have added to my profile but didn't and I don't wanna wait forever for it to be approved again.

1. Do not message me if you are not in my state, it clearly says in my profile I am looking for a Dom in or around my area. This means in North Carolina only (maybe as far as SC but I am not willing to travel).

2. Do not contact me if you are a sub or slave male asking me if I want to own you and you be my so called puppy. I am NOT into pet play and I have a real life dog that is already challenging enough, I don't need a human wannabe dog. I am also NOT a Domme, my name clearly says that I am sub and my profile clearly points that out. 

3. No I will not do online with you, my life is very busy as is and sending me a message that says "when are you available" as your first one as well as you having no profile except that you wanna be please orally then yeah you're not getting a response from me. 

4. If you think that all subs should be sexual to be in a dynamic move on, I know plenty who are in nonsexual D/s dynamics and they have been going strong for years. 

5. Do not tell me that you want to mentor me yet want to play with me. A mentor never plays with who they are mentoring, the person being mentored is looking to that person for advice. If you think differently then don't bother contacting me. 

6. Yes I am married, yes he knows I am in the lifestyle and yes he does approve. I have written this in my profile but it seems like it goes ignored. Just because I am married is not the only reason why I am nonsexual, I have other reasons as well. 

7. Please stop asking if I have kids. Just because I'm married doesn't mean I do and the answer is no I do not and never want them. If your first message to me is "what's your availability" and you have a virtually blank profile then you will more than likely be ignored.