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Welcome my perverted peeps,
Just a heads up, this profile is still under construction and still being filled out. When it is done this mini paragraph will be deleted. Hence the long tame to finish... I'm just not into word snuff.
I chose the screen name pluviophile because I think it summed up parts of me nicely, and sounded just dirty enough to get peoples attention. If you break it down to it's root pluvio means rain and phile means love. Hence it means lover of rain. It does not mean people who get sexual turned on by rain as the urban dictionary so helpfully points out. That being said, who wants to rule out a good fucking in the rain?
Now why rain.... Well I look at a bright sunny day, and I kinda think boring, stormy rain, I think happy and honest, it makes me smile and feeds me. Why, you might ask. That is very long and complicated and reveals a lot of my inner workings. Far too much to put here, and lets be honest, if you knew everything about me from the start it would take a lot of the fun and the intimacy out of whatever relationship we develop.
Now off the rain and onto me. Yes I worded it that way on purpose. I am a very private person, both because of my work , and just personal preference. That doesn't mean you won't talk to me and get to know me, but I'm simply not going to put it out to the world. One of the reasons I'm only on facebook once in a blue moon. It is also why I won't put a picture here. When it comes time to prove myself I will. For those of you who want to know irresistible hunk of masculine hotness goes with this interesting personality I'll give you a brief deion. I'm 5'11, slender build, Formally athletic, but now that I have more free time I've started running and going to the gym again. I really want to get back into rock climbing. I have red hair, and blue eyes that my friend described " would strangle a child". She insists its a compliment. and while I don't generally support infanticide, I think it's an awesome statement nonetheless.
A bit more about me:
I've always said; "It's the rules that people live by that make them understandable. It's the exceptions to these rules that make them interesting. " I wholeheartedly believe this statement and think it applies to no person more strongly then myself. I am a man full of strong beliefs and contradictions. I'm serious person and tend to take things very seriously. But I laugh and make jokes about everything. The more serious and dark a situation the more I laugh at it.
I love music, I have the radio on a lot, but I also was a classically trained musician and played in symphonies. I love meeting and talking to people but hate forced social gatherings like bars. I love to go out and have fun, but play a ton of board games with friends. I love rough kinky play, but also need to cuddle. I live in Northern California but might be moving to Socal soon. And that's enough of the teasers until you get to know me.
Why am I here?
Well I'm looking to find the one. And hopefully make friends a long the way. I have a ton of kinks, things I like things I don't like. However I refuse to put up a checklist, because doing so excludes people unnecessarily and make you more close minded then open. But if I did have to make a checklist the first thing on it would be love.
My friends describe me as one of the last hopeless romantics. and I am, probably one of the reasons I'm into bdsm. Because nothing is more personal and more intimate then power exchange. For those of you curious just because I like have subs or slaves, doesn't mean I think women are inferior. On the contrary I am a strong feminist.
For those of you who don't understand how the two aren't mutually exclusive study the origins of feminism, or just ask and I'll tell you.
To be clear I am looking for what will hopefully lead to a life time relationship, with marriage and the whole works. I am not looking for a fling or cyber, or online roleplay.
For those that just want to be friends and talk about life and the lifestyle. I'm more than happy too. It's hard with a lot of prejudice with this lifestyle so it's nice to be able to talk to people that understand.
Oh and I should add, I'm not going to be anyone's Daddy. It just doesn't work. I tried it for my last girlfriend, and I got about 10 minutes into sex before I started to emulate her real dad. I couldn't help myself.
The reason I haven't listed my kinks yet is I believe they are secondary in a relationship, and I'm tired of typing for now so I'll add them next.
Thanks and I look forward to finding you!
~ Alex
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I haven't had any lifestyle conversations or interactions in a while. I'm feeling a little disjointed from that part of me.
Anyone who wants to talk just send me a message! |
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Hello all,
Just curious about the dynamics on this site. I've come across many interesting profiles, some Dom some sub, some straight, some gay, and all the variations in between. While I am looking for a potential partner I am also sincerely looking for friends.
So when I across a profile that looks intriguing I contact them. I'm surprised a lot about the complete indifference or venomous responses received. Some is understandable, Women, especially lesbians, are tired of the flood of male attention that have no interest in. So while I have no intentions of "converting anyone" I can understand while they refuse to engage.
But on the same token, I enjoy talking to other dominants as well, but a lot view any interaction with another dom as a power struggle, either to subjugate them, convert them, or merely prove superiority. Is this a common experience others have, or attitudes they carry themselves? Or, as they say in " The Last Crusade" did "I choose poorly"? I'm comfortable enough in who I am that I don't need such things, but I wonder if for most being alpha seems to be a necessity.
Would love to get others thoughts, the more insight I get the more I grow. |
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Level of dominants....
So I've been talking with people on this site, and something struck me. And I'm sure i'm not the first or unique to this thought but why is there only one level of dominant?
Switches have their own, and submissives have 2. Slave and submissive. Now the exact definition of these two terms vary from person to person but the overall consensus, is it's a different in expectations and extreme. The classifications are (theoretically) supposed to help submissives express what they are, and help dominants choose who they are looking for. An extreme dominant looking for 24/7 / Club X / Marquis de Sade situation would probably (theoretically) skip over submissives and look at slaves. Likewise, a daddy dom would probably look more for submissives.
So, why aren't dominants listed the same way. perhaps a Dominant and Master choice. (although with some of the unique perspectives from Dom(mes) I've talked to on here Dominant and Asshole might be the better clarification). Would it not be more helpful for submissives to be able to cut down the criteria of the dominants they are looking for? Or do the owners of the site just take the pragmatic approach and said fuck it no one pays attention anyways?
Would it be even deive? I personally fluctuate through the both of them as a natural part of my personality, part of what I think makes me a whole person.
Any thoughts on if it would be usefull or what the titles would be?
~Pluviophile |
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So I was talking to a sub on here that was complaining that she never gets any emails from serious people only form letters from "wankers"
This twinged my curiosity because I custom write all my emails to everyone, and I don't get a huge response ratio, I would have expected obvious form letters to return even less.
So I created a new user and found the most obscene obvious form level, full of scary statements. Then for 1 month I messaged everyone I wanted to talk too or make friends with on here as I normally did, people who seemed genuine and said they were looking for the same. I then also emailed them from the other account using the form letter, not changing it at all for each person ( it started with hey slave, and proceded to be even more obviously a form letter)
The results came in I got over 5 times the responses with the form letter and only 1 out of the 5 responses was negative, the rest were interested in talking more.
Now I'm still trying to decide what conclusions to draw from this, and I know it wasn't a true experiment ( I have no intention of plastering everyone or spamming up the whole site)
But I did find it a little depressing. Any dom(mes) or sub/slaves have any thoughts or experiences on this? |
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*facepalm
So I came across a young ladies profile who exasperated questioned why "why is it that most here cannot see me as a complete slave not just a sexual one"
In her defense I understood that it was probably a rhetorical question. Still the Teacher drive in me kicked in and I spent 15 minutes writing out a supportive email encouraging her to look forward, the various factors both on this site and in society that have "trained" the men on here to approach subs in a certain way. And offered her a few tidbits of advice on how to adjust the attention she got( such as have that not be the only thing in her profile, and not have the only picture be a nude collared girl kneeling in front of a dom) if she wanted to be viewed less sexually.
Delete unread. am I bitching that she didn't send a thank you no, should I demand that she read it fully when she is probably flooded with unwanted emails, of course not. What I got out of this is a little more understanding as to why some just send copy and paste emails and will probably be less frustrated with them in the future.
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I've seen a lot of profiles that have what I will describe as "superiority statements". Basically it means, all (A) are (B), and all (C) are (D).
An example is any form of _____ superiority. This tends to be either racial or gender specific. Such as All men are superior and all females are inferior, or black supremacy, white supremacy, female supremacy, etc...
Who feels this way, and why? |
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Read something today that I really liked.
"It's not a lifestyle, it's a life"
Any thoughts? |
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I'm beginning to see why some people use form letters,
It gets exhausting writing a thoughtful, carefully chosen message letting someone know you read their profile completely and why you think they would enjoy talking to you, and then having it ignored.
I never would use form emails, but I kinda understand it now. |
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Sorry to everyone who has messaged me, for some reason my responses havent been going through. Reset my account so I'll get back to everyone I promise. |
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I' hope my journal entries will be for the most part happy but this is an issue I'd like to address and open up people to talk about.
Something I've noticed from profiles on here and sub/slaves/doms/dommes I've talked to that there is the notion. that the dominant should be entirely self focused, no compassion or interested outside of him/herself.
I myself am a very dominant person, however I also consider myself a very compassionate and comparing person. I go out of my way to make sure my friends and family are taken care of and even sacrifice my time , energy, emotions, material wealth, etc... to make sure they are good.
I see these profiles and listen to these peoples experience and I wonder are these people really narcissistic and emotionally stunted, or are they just playing out a role they think is expected? As for the subs, do you really want someone like that or are you just going with it because you think you are supposed too? Maybe this is just part of their personality and the only part they are going to show, but why would someone want to be with only a part?
Thoughts anyone? |
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| Age: 19 |
| Manila,
Philippines |
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