RelevantWellephant

Id like to give a shout out to i think he name out here was "TheAmazon".? Last post I remember reading was "in getting too old for this shit."? I stalked her profile.? She hadn't been around in 17 years best i recall.? ?Some people this isn't some game.? It's real life.? And time marches on.

I'm getting tired too, fellow Amazon.

I hope everyone finds? match(s) that set their spirit on fire!? And grit enough to sustain.? I'm keeping embers at the ready for firewood...

Just a thought that came to mind tonight.

Lifestyles I seem to keep as tested through time:

Alternative adult lifestyles
Intentional living
Laid back
Early bird
Child free
Bachelorette
Lifelong learning
Leadership
Meaningful contributions in communities
Outdoorsy
Pet mom
Mental wellbeing and recovery
Spiritualism
Artesian | Craftsman
Holistic
Minimalism
Mobility

"Rethink Some Things" Combs

"In Spite of Ourselves"? -- Prine.? FLR minded + kink. Lean D in the Ds from earning it, not feeling entitled to it.? I think I might be in the wrong place. \:)

"All the Best"? -- also John Prine

"End of the Line" -traveling wilburys

We will wish we would have done more.?

Peace,? love,? planet.??

You love me?? You love my dog as much.? Or lick his shit off the soles of my stilettos.?

Honest "engine" -? Im used to relationships falling apart and vanishing into thin air (particularly online). It's left me distant and distrustful.? ?What would be totally new is finding a relationship that disarms, flourishes and leads to happily ever after.? ?Beyond? BDSM.

I want to know what you want from your life. Your ambitions, your health, your career, your family, the things you still want to experience. An FLR is part of our relationship, not the entirety of your identity. I want a man with his own direction, who chooses to place himself under my leadership because he trusts me?not because he has nothing of his own to offer.

And I don't want a submissive man who waits for me to make everything happen. You can initiate. Come up behind me, put your hands on my hips, kiss my neck, and let me know you want my attention. I may decide what happens next, but I want you to create the invitation. Suggest the date. Plan the dinner. Bring me flowers. Draw my bath. Tell me about the concert, museum, hike, or little adventure you think I would enjoy. I want that push and pull between us?your desire meeting my authority. There is something deeply sexy to me about a man who willingly gives me the reins while still having enough confidence to reach for me.

I know I am a little bit of a space case. I don't need another version of myself. I want a man who brings steadiness, practicality, attention to detail, and a level head where I may not. Someone whose strengths complement mine. Your submission doesn't make you less capable; it gives me another capable person to lead.

There are also places where I deliberately defer to you. Your children, your family, your personal healthcare decisions, your directives, and matters that fundamentally belong to your life are yours. I don't need to own every decision to be your queen. I want to be informed, to understand your reasoning, and to know the man whose life is intertwined with mine. Leadership and ownership are not the same thing.

And perhaps what you teach me is how to feel safe enough to soften. I want your consistency to remind me that I am worthy of being cherished, prioritized, and held in extraordinarily high regard. I want to trust you with the parts of me I don't easily show people. I want to discover that I can be your queen without always having to wear the armor that came with becoming a strong woman.

But you still have to remain you. Keep your interests, your friendships, your hobbies, your passions, your strange little obsessions that make you interesting. I want to see the man who exists outside of me. I don't want an extension of my vision. I want a whole man who looks at me, knows exactly who he is, and still chooses to kneel at my feet.

That is the kind of submission that means something to me?not disappearing into my world, but choosing to belong within it.

If you were wondering why all of a sudden the outpouring of journal entries?? I am on holiday visiting my family in NYC.? Then a train to Boston Monday... looking forward to seeing all the leaves and changing colors.? Anyway, I have ample time to sit, think and write in silence with no distractions.? And there's been plenty thoughts and questions I've been meaning to address.? Hope you enjoy!? xox

I am highly capable of managing the big things in my life. I've spent a lifetime learning how to navigate healthcare, mental health systems, caregiving, employment, relationships, community, adversity, and change. I've been a daughter, sister, friend, colleague, caregiver, advocate, professional, and community member. I know how to survive hard things. I know how to solve problems. I know how to find resources and figure out what needs to happen next.

Where I struggle isn't necessarily knowing what I want. Sometimes it's getting through the ordinary, repetitive, daily steps required to turn a larger vision into reality.

That's where I want partnership.

I want a man who can notice that I have a personal project I've been talking about for three months and say, ?You said this mattered to you. What's one thing we can do today to move it forward?? Someone who encourages me to go to the gym, make the appointment, work on the writing, finish the application, get outside, eat something decent, or take care of the small thing I've been avoiding?not because he is my parent or supervisor, but because he knows the woman he's partnered with and wants to see her become everything she's working toward.

I respond deeply to intentional encouragement, words of affirmation, touch, quality time, and acts of service. I don't need someone hovering over me or micromanaging my life. I need someone who understands that sometimes the distance between what I know and what I actually do is the place where partnership can make a tremendous difference.

I also don't want a man who automatically agrees with everything I say. I have said things that have hurt people. I've misunderstood situations. I've reacted negatively to information and then, after I've had time to process it, realized there was something worth considering. I know this about myself.

So I want a submissive who can respectfully challenge me.

Not someone who waits for me to be wrong so he can prove a point. Someone who cares enough about us to say, ?I don't think that's right,? or ?Can we look at this another way?? Someone who trusts me enough to be honest and trusts our relationship enough to believe disagreement doesn't have to become disconnection.

I can examine my own values, beliefs, assumptions, and decisions. Some things I will stand firmly on. Other things I may discover I'm willing to reconsider. I don't need a submissive who has no opinions. I want a man capable of having his own mind who chooses to bring that mind into my leadership rather than using it to compete with me.

And I want to offer him the same thing in return: a woman who isn't looking for someone to fix her, raise her, rescue her, or carry her through life. I'm looking for someone who will walk beside me, sometimes carry something when I genuinely can't, sometimes remind me where I'm going when I lose sight of it, and trust me to do the same for him.

I don't expect an FLR to disappear simply because we're traveling, working, sick, around vanilla friends, or dealing with something difficult. The visible expression of the dynamic may change depending on the setting, but the underlying relationship doesn't. For me, leadership is less about constant performance and more about how we have agreed to organize our life together.

Traveling separately: My preference would be to travel together whenever reasonably possible. I enjoy experiencing things with a partner and building memories together. But I understand that work and other responsibilities may occasionally make that impossible. If we're apart, I would want some form of intentional daily connection?a check-in, conversation, or whatever we've established together?unless circumstances genuinely make that impossible. Distance shouldn't mean disconnection.

Illness: I have enough experience with healthcare, caregiving, disability, and difficult life circumstances to know that none of us gets to negotiate with reality forever. Healthcare directives, emergency contacts, medical preferences, financial arrangements, and end-of-life wishes are things I would want us to discuss and document while we're healthy enough to make thoughtful decisions. I don't want either of us guessing what the other would have wanted during a crisis.

Family: I prefer relatively low-drama family relationships where adults are allowed to make their own choices without estrangement or punishment because of their lifestyle. I would especially prefer a partner without children. That's not because I don't value children or family; I simply don't want to become someone's mother, and I don't want complicated inheritance or family conflicts determining what happens to our relationship after one of us dies. I can be a caring adult presence in someone's life. Motherhood isn't the role I'm looking for.

Work and time: I work part-time and value flexibility. I don't need a partner to work himself into the ground to prove his worth. Retired, remote, hybrid, or otherwise flexible work arrangements appeal to me, and I would prefer a life that doesn't require either person to routinely work 60 or 70 hours just to maintain it. I have experienced both scarcity and periods of higher means, and I've learned that more means isn't automatically a better life when earning it consumes the person earning it.

What I'm looking for is closer to the freedom of a DINK lifestyle: enough combined to have a comfortable home, quality food, some luxuries, memberships and subscriptions, travel, and?perhaps most importantly?time. I value the luxury of having time to enjoy the life we're working to create. I don't want a relationship where we are constantly exhausted from maintaining the lifestyle we're supposedly enjoying.

Means stress: I've lived on very little, and I've also experienced what happens when pursuing a larger means creates so much pressure that the means isn't sustainable. I don't need extravagance for its own sake. I want enough stability that we're not constantly operating from crisis. I also want honesty, planning, and shared understanding of what we're building.

Around vanilla friends: I don't need our relationship dynamic announced to the room. People don't need to know who leads whom simply because we're standing next to each other. The relationship can look completely ordinary from the outside while carrying something much more intentional underneath.

My close friends and family already know I'm kinky and involved in BDSM. With people who are comfortable with it and where we've discussed appropriate boundaries, there might be subtle expressions of the dynamic?perhaps sitting near my feet, serving me a drink, or using private language that has meaning to us. But those things would never be assumed simply because we're in someone's home. Consent and context matter even within a relationship dynamic we both enjoy.

In public: I imagine the leadership would sometimes be visible in nuances rather than declarations. Perhaps the way he looks to me before making a decision, the way we naturally position ourselves together, or the way he responds to me. But I'm not interested in turning every public outing into a demonstration. The relationship doesn't need an audience to be real.

When we're angry: I'm not generally explosive. My tendency is to become quiet and need space. I need time to cool down, organize my thoughts, and get myself back to a place where I can communicate rather than react. That doesn't mean I'm abandoning the relationship or using silence as punishment. I want a partner who understands the difference between needing space and withholding connection.

I expect that eventually we'll come back to the conversation. I want us to be able to say, ?Okay. Let's talk about what actually happened here.? I may not always change my mind, and neither will he. But I want us to be able to hear each other, challenge each other, apologize when necessary, and find a resolution or compromise we can both live with.

When we're sexually disconnected: I don't expect myself or a partner to be sexually available or horny every day. Mental connection is important to my sexuality. Conversation, intellectual stimulation, affection, feeling emotionally connected, and feeling seen can all influence whether desire shows up.

A period of sexual distance doesn't mean the relationship has gone cold. I still want touch, affection, closeness, companionship, laughter, cuddling, and all the ordinary ways people remind each other, I'm still here. You're still mine. We're still us.

I don?t want someone who needs me to be smaller. I want someone who understands what it means when I choose to let him stand beside something bigger than himself. At the core, I?m more interested in leadership than control. I value power exchange, but I don?t believe leadership means I have to be dominant every moment. I get tired. I get sick. I have difficult days. I am human.

For me, that means candid conversations about as many real-life situations as we can anticipate, because authority should be negotiated, understood, and periodically reviewed?not simply assumed. We need to be able to talk openly about questions such as:

• What decisions belong to me, and what decisions remain mutual?
• What responsibilities can I delegate, and what does meaningful accountability look like?
• How do we handle means, household responsibilities, family, social commitments, travel, health, conflict, intimacy, and major life changes?
• What happens when we disagree?
• What happens when something we agreed to no longer works?

Leadership might look different depending on the situation. Sometimes it may mean I make the final decision after hearing his perspective. Sometimes I may establish an expectation and trust him to determine how he accomplishes it. I may delegate an entire area of responsibility and expect him to manage it without constant direction. Other times, leadership may mean recognizing that he has more knowledge or experience in a particular area and asking him to take the lead. Having authority doesn't mean I always need to exercise it. To me, responsible leadership includes knowing when to listen, when to decide, when to delegate, and when to ask for help.

I want to be able to say ?no,? and I want him to be able to respectfully disagree with me. Submission should not eliminate his ability to think, communicate, question, or bring something important to my attention. In fact, I expect those things. I want a submissive man who develops discernment?someone who knows when to follow, when to ask, when to take initiative, and when something needs to be brought to me. When I delegate a responsibility, I expect it to become his responsibility, rather than another task I have to continually manage. I want someone who takes pride in being competent, reliable, accountable, teachable, and trustworthy. Structure should create independence within the role, not dependence on constant instruction.

I also want us to prepare for the times when life doesn't cooperate with our intentions. What happens when either one of us becomes ill? What responsibilities can temporarily shift? Who needs to be contacted? What decisions can be made independently, and which need to remain mutual? What does support look like when one of us temporarily cannot function at our usual capacity? I don't want to discover those answers for the first time in a crisis. I want enough trust and communication beforehand that the structure can flex without disappearing. The same applies when circumstances change or we discover that something we negotiated isn't working. We should be able to revisit responsibilities, authority, boundaries, and expectations without treating that conversation as a failure.

Ultimately, I want a relationship where both people become more capable through the structure they have chosen. I want his submission to be intentional rather than passive, and my leadership to be responsible rather than controlling. Leadership means carrying responsibility for decisions, hearing difficult things without becoming defensive, recognizing when I don't have enough information, changing course when something isn't working, and accepting that authority is something entrusted to me?not something I need to prove I possess. I don't need someone who simply follows orders. I want someone who chooses to follow my leadership because he trusts my judgment, understands the structure we've built, and knows that his voice still matters within it. For me, that is the heart of power exchange: not one person becoming less, but two people deliberately deciding how they will carry responsibility, authority, trust, and life together.

I?ve been thinking about what it means for a woman to have a truly safe space with a man?a space where she can exhale, lower her defenses, and be her natural feminine self. Not because she is weak or incapable, but because she is finally somewhere she doesn't have to carry everything. In a female-led relationship, I think there is something especially powerful about a man understanding that his strength doesn't have to compete with hers. He can be grounded, capable, protective, attentive, and dependable while still recognizing that her voice, her desires, her decisions, and her leadership matter.

A man creates that space through consistency and trust. He keeps his word. He doesn't weaponize her vulnerability or punish her for being honest. He notices what needs to be done and takes responsibility without always needing direction. He can say, ?I've got this,? and mean it. He can take care of things, anticipate her needs, and give her permission to rest?not because she is incapable, but because she doesn't always have to be the one holding everything together. There is something deeply intimate about being able to receive care without wondering what is expected in return.

In an FLR, I think that safety can become even more intentional. A man can choose to follow her lead because he respaspects her authority, not because he lacks his own strength. He can surrender certain decisions, responsibilities, or control willingly because doing so is part of the relationship he has chosen. That doesn't make him smaller. It can actually require tremendous confidence to say, ?I trust you enough to let you lead me.? And her leadership doesn't require her to become hard, domineering, or constantly in command. She can lead with warmth, intuition, affection, firmness, sensuality, or whatever combination feels authentic to her.

There should also be room for her to simply be a woman?not a role, not an idealized version of femininity, and certainly not a performance designed for his approval. She can be silly, emotional, sensual, nurturing, demanding, playful, tired, indecisive, beautifully put together, or curled up in sweatpants. She can say no. She can change her mind. She can ask for what she wants. She can be soft without surrendering her authority. A man who truly wants to support feminine power doesn't require her to be smaller so that he can feel bigger. He creates an environment where she can be fully herself and still be respected as the person leading the relationship.

Maybe that is one of the most beautiful contradictions of a female-led relationship: a woman can hold the authority while allowing herself to soften. She can make decisions and still be cared for. She can be independent and still receive. She can be powerful and still surrender when she chooses to. She can lead him while trusting him. And he can willingly follow her while remaining a strong, grounded man. The surrender of control becomes meaningful precisely because it is chosen?not taken.

Because perhaps the deepest form of feminine power isn't what happens when a woman learns how to become stronger. Maybe it's what happens when she finally feels safe enough to discover that she never had to stop being soft in order to be powerful. And maybe a good man doesn't take that power from her. Maybe he doesn't even need to create it. Maybe he simply creates a space where she feels safe enough to let it bloom?and then has the confidence, discipline, and devotion to stand beside her while she does.

Often, I get questions about what a typical day would look like with me.

Waking up subtly with soft kisses on my ass. A bathroom break. Kisses and touches wherever else I ask. Making my perfect cup of coffee. The dog needs to be walked. Breakfast made. Then attending to whatever is in order for the day.

Work. Errands. Household chores. Personal projaspects. Appointments. Whatever we've planned.

That's the part people sometimes miss about an FLR. I'm not looking for someone to spend all day performing some exaggerated version of submission while I parade around in leather and heels.

If that's what you're looking for, you can swipe left.

I'm into real life.

Real life can be boring. It can be exciting. It can be messy, funny, frustrating, affectionate, exhausting, predictable, spontaneous, and everything in between.

I like the idea that leadership can exist in the ordinary things. Knowing what needs to be done. Taking care of things without being asked. Knowing when to come closer and when to give me space. Making my coffee because you know how I like it. Walking the dog because it's part of taking care of our life together. Listening when I tell you what I need. Being capable enough that I don't have to manage you while I'm supposedly leading you.

I don't need someone pretending to be submissive for a fantasy.

I want a man who actually enjoys choosing to follow my lead.

There's a difference.

For me, an FLR isn't about making a man less of himself. It's about two people intentionally deciding how their relationship works?and finding something deeply satisfying in the places where he willingly gives me more authority, responsibility, trust, and influence.

The bedroom can be part of that.

But it isn't the whole thing.

I'm interested in what happens when the fantasy has to get up in the morning, make coffee, walk the dog, go to work, deal with a bad day, pay the bills, and still choose each other at the end of it.

I smoke. I?m on a spectrum. I?ve treated my body more like a tent than a temple?Jimmy said it better?but somehow, I?m still here.

That?s why I mention in my profile that earthly habits don?t define ethereal connections, if you need the reminder.

I?m smart as the whip that kisses your ass. Just slow and certain with my responses. Usually sound in my thinking, but affected nonetheless. I know it, though. I own it. I?m not going to take my shit out on you out of left field.

I don?t expect to live past 80.

The healthiest person with the optimal diet, perfect morning routine, and miles logged around the neighborhood can still drop from a heart attack. None of us get a guarantee.

So I?m interested in enjoying the ride while I?m here.

And lately, I have this sense that time is running out.

That doesn?t mean I?m desperate.

It means I?m motivated.

Maybe I?ve moved too fast for some people. Maybe I?ve wanted to experience too much, feel too much, and live too much in the time I?ve got.

Every day brings something new and improved?or something shitty and sucky. That?s my life.

I?m learning to ride the waves.

To take the good when it comes.

To weather the ugly when it doesn?t.

And, mostly, to stay grateful that I?m still in the water.

There's a distinct difference in meeting a person when they "think" they are something vs. KNOWING they are something!?

I live with an invisible disability, profoundly self aware, and diligently work on expressing my needs with clarity so you're not left guessing what to do.?

Actively working on transforming into a NEW life!

It exceeds expectations and is instantly recognized.? I am a witness to this dynamic more than once.? There's my testimony.? No, I'm not religious.?

I remain optimistic in finding the one(s) that can get behind My Vision.? And is inspired to support My Life - which becomes O/our life.? He will believe in Me when others might not.? No way out.?

A life born directed by a creative, powerful, confidently spirited woman that's answering her call to lay down certain life lessons -- privately and publically.? Personally and professionally.?

The topic I speak to is still extremely taboo with people in cultures all around the world.?

Broadly, addressing mental health challenges and wellness initatives.?

The relationship MUST be with dual agency and BINDING.

I am nothing without him.?

Not Born Yesterday.?

Reputation rebirth.

Oh! The places you'll go!? -Suess

The Final Chapter.

"A woman that finances her own lifestyle and cultivates her own peace, has zero fear of being alone. She does not fear the solitude.? She fears the exhaustion of investing her time in a man who yields no return on the investment.? She knows the relationship is supposed to be a partnership of power.? Not a constant drainage of her energy into someone elses mess.?

A man's role is to provide emotional safety and support direction.? Not to bring more confusion and problems for her to solve. She is focused on her own evolution.? She is not focused on raising a grown man who never mastered self leadership.? If you are not adding value to the table she built with her own hands?? You are a distraction she cannot afford to keep around.? She would rather be the CEO of her own life now than the rehabiliation center for yours.? She realized at some point that fixing you requires breaking herself.? That is a trade she is no longer willing to make.? She has retired from the job of raising of men.?

She has started the business of raisting her own standard.? Both projects do not fit on the same calander.? The seat next to her is reserved for her partner who multiples her power.? Not one who divides her attnetion.? She did not work this hard to build her own life just to treated it like a hotel where you to check in when it is convenient.?

The door is still open.? Admission just went up.? And you have willing to meet it with effort with consistency and emotional maturity.

If you cannot meet her where she is?? The right move is to keep walking.? She is not going to lower herself to make you comfortable. She is not going to dim her light so your insecurity can rest easier at night.? That phase of her life is over for good.? Either step up to where she is now or get out of her way. So that the man who can step up has room to find her.? The waiting list is not as long as you think. The women like her do not wait around long. The right men recognizes them on sight."?

-Hard Truth Talks?

FYI Assisted Edit:

There's a lot of big talk online. A lot of men speak confidently about wanting a strong, dominant woman, a Female-Led Relationship, or deep power exchange dynamics. But when it comes time to invest real time, energy, and intention, many seem to need to feel that dominance first from behind a screen before they're willing to step forward. I often wonder if that's part of my lack of success. It's difficult to build something meaningful when people are seeking an immediate experience or fantasy instead of taking the time to get to know the woman behind the words.

I am a humble Mistress.
I come from humble beginnings that led to spending large amounts of my life in my own head with limited trust in others.
Neglect.
I'm very new to understanding what that really means and how deeply it has shaped me.
I think, on some level, I look for the spirit of a man who can see his future partner at her best, at her worst...
...and everywhere in between.
The whole package.
Someone who trusts that she works harder than anyone else at freeing the bonds within herself so she can radiate the light she was meant to shine.

I'm less likely to continue surface-level chatter, though I'll use it when I'm spinning too many plates.
The kind of friends where, if I visited their home, they'd already have the St. Andrew's Cross waiting for me, a place to sleep, breakfast in the morning...
I'm frequently busy with work or entertaining potential submissives (just the way it is).? If there's delay in response, this is most likely the cause.? I do try to get back to everyone.? However, sometimes, I miss people or do not respond because there's real lack of effort in even saying anything in your letter to me.

I live a busy, interesting, full, and engaging life? in abundance or scarcity.

I am, and will be for the foreseeable future, deeply engaged in personal healing and development.? For those of you that think all of that should be in my past and not cloud my present?? I think you're parcially correct.? I also believe part of it will unfold naturally, as is realistic, for the rest of my life.?
I'm looking in part for a partnership we can point out, when misbehaving, questioning where the behavior is coming from and not taking things so personally so as not to hurt each other mentally or emoationally.

I'm looking for someone who supports what I need to propel me toward what's calling me in this season of my life.
A life that blends vanilla and kink.
I know it's damn near impossible to find that in the vanilla world.
Then stack BDSM on top of it?
I've been out here long enough.
We'll know it when we've found it.

I've built a solid track record of moving myself in the right direction.
I can only imagine the heights with the right connection and support from an adoring partner
My number one love language is words of affirmation.

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Just because you actually read and might keep up with My journals don't think you know me.? That takes actual exchange.? ;)

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I have a calling bigger than myself to be seen and heard, because I have something of value to express.? I'm newer in showing as I learn new things about myself and those around me regularly.? There's always a first and a last of something or another.? I am at rare levels of firsts of what might have happened once upon a time.? Which means, there's plenty of people that have experienced things I have yet to give and receive.?

Also, a middle-aged woman putting herself first.? ?Non-negotiable.??I'm certain of roots that bind within me.

Stop the other shoe from falling.?

I dare you.

We are as individual sa each of our finger tips.? Every one.? I hold storng belief everything is interroconected by energy we're still trying to understand.? Different values and beleifs about that different ways it has (or is) in life experience.? In any gear.?

Who said Quigong & Kinky Partnered Yoga?!

I have strong notions of how things proceed with those I connect.? With certain chords hit sings different notes and makes music.? Symphonies and Encores.? How many Encores does one investigate and others file 13?? Do I need to lower my expectations?? ?

I have high expectations of myself and, in turn, I expect better in a partner.? Particularly after thourough training, which takes patience.?

As I chart paths on My map - following the compass of Jack Sparrow.? ?To navigate to the Priceless Jewel that is Myself.

Because I have confidence and I anchor My Will,? you flee.?

Few are Seekers of living in discomfort.? You don't have to completely understand something to love it.

The 1st Mate.? Protector of the Capitain. Like Capitain Shakespeare is to Tristan and the oblivious star that walked amongst them in Stardust..? ~~~>>@<<

Please-? if you have a notion or limitating belief that practicing compassion as part of the D/s dynamic prevents you from feeling submissive or like a slave.? Pass me by.? It won't work out.?

If you're into real abuse- it's a hard limit for me.? This means anything that causes permanent, irreversible damage to a person - psychologically, or physically.? Contracts aren't going to save my ass in court.??

I enjoy BDSM and take D/s seriously,? I also have a healthy dose of needing fun,? laughter, and full range of an emotional life.? ?Don't fret,? you'll know your place.??

I won't be emotionally manipulated, charged, or out of control giving lashes.? These are basic rules people that people in the BDSM community have taught me.? Not a random information off the internet or learning from porn videos. Get real!?

Lastly - I don't do repeat performances from a person in your past.? Your mind must be open to Me and My ways.?