plaisirnoir

Really tired of the "alpha" or "beta" description for men. First of all, y'all aren't wolves. Second, that whole pecking order theory has been disprovened by the same dude that came out with it decades ago. So can we please move to this century and update ourselves w/ some new ways of thinking already? Like how do you say I'm misogynist and stupid w/out saying so. Here ya go. SMH. 

Just some side notes:

• I am 47 as of spring of 2023. Not interested if you're less than 35 or older 60. Seriously. No.
• If your message resembles a cat call, is asking me if I'm into xyz, reads like a copy pasta or have almost no content/effort, is asking me for my number/photo/messaging id somewhere else, is disrespectful, etc. No and/or blocked.
• If you are 15 miles or more from JFK or LGA airports, do consider how you will be doing ALL the commuting before messaging me. 
• Also, I am NOT a sugar mommy. I will not reimburse you for your travel expenses or put you up unless we are in an established relationship. If and when we are in a long term relationship and travel is required, I'd expect that expense to be shared fairly. Something about fair energy exchange. 
• Oh, before you message me, you might want to check out my fetlife profile with the same userid. Most of it is a bit dated, I am not terribly active there. However it will give you a better sense of who I am. Let's not waste each other's time shall we? 

Oh, if you are only interested b/c I'm Asian or because you're looking for a free wank session... dude, you're a racist or a cheap ass or both. So that block button has got your name ALL over it. 

I'm NOT a free fetish delivery service folks.

Had a thought last night, what if dd/lg didn't stand for dominant daddy / little girl but dirty daddy / little girl instead? 

That I can get behind, on top of, under,... ahem. grins

Below is a cut and paste of a partial response to someone who asked me "where am I from?" I told them to google why asking a POC that question is racist. For a change, they did. My response explains not only why one should not ask where I am from, but also why I require my potential anything to be an intersectional feminist. 

I will also point out that it is not my responsibility to educate you, it is your own responsibility to educate yourself.

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If we simply look at the stats from last weeks international mother language day, English is the most spoke language in the world. The reason for that is because of the colonization by the British empire. Which leads me to point out how not homogeneous the population of UK is as during that time, the colonists literally kidnapped from every corner of the world then forced (the kidnapees) to reside in the UK. The "barbarians" were regularly brought back and exhibited then dumped to live in the worst conditions if not as slaves. The white majority forced all these minority to erase their rich culture in order to survive. And not just in the UK but at their homeland. Simply research into chicken tikka masala - not a dish that existed in India before the British invasion. One also simply has to trace the development of rice as a cash crop around the world to observe the change abolition had the Chinese diora. There are many examples in the history to demonstrate the diversity of UK's population.

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This is why in my profile I clearly state I am looking for partners who are intersectional feminists. People who have at least attempted educated themselves about how different factors in the world that have affected peoples lives, specifically that of disadvantaged individuals. Because while I do not expect my partners and I to share common life experiences, empathy and the willingness to understand where each other comes from is an important thing to have in every relationship. Being supportive and an ally is another.

sigh I miss dishing out some genital needles.. *pouts* Just sayin' #BoreInTheHouse