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SilverPapaBear

Male Dominant, 60
Female Switch, 48, Tacoma, Washington
Male Submissive, 44, Ct, Connecticut
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SilverPapaBear - Male Dominant, London | BDSM Profile on Collarspace

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About SilverPapaBear

Not looking for anything right now. Just getting out of a toxic relationship that lasted 10 years, so I'm just here to chat for the time being while I get my life together. Got some health issues too that I'm working on (gym/swimming/physio).

I'm healthy now, but I still have a way to go before I'm healthy enough to live a "normal" life, and until I am, I don't feel it would be fair to try to get into a relationship. Please respect that.
So for now I would like to find people interested in going to London Alternative Market and/or munches. Or just meeting down the pub for a pint and a laugh. Very interested in meeting someone who wants to go to shibari classes with me as a rope bunny. I'm learning shibari and I would love to make a friend to share that learning experience with.
I'm really into photography. I've done a few weddings professionally, and I do model photography on a TFP basis from time to time. If you want a photographer, PM me and I may be able to help you, and if I can't, I'll know someone who can.

Find me on FetLife if you want to see my AI kink images.

Eventually, I'll be looking for something real. Not sure Collarspace (or Fetlife or any such place) is the place to find something real, but a little about me can't hurt...

First thing - I'm tall. And stacked. And "fluffy". So I'm a big gymgoer, I lift (a lot) and swim (a lot) but I do have a belly. Working on it, but it's there. For now. And if you like "fluffy" men, well, it *is* going away - for health reasons if nothing else. Sorry, if that's your thing. My spine isn't going to be carrying that around when I'm 90. Just no.

I like short women, tall women, skinny women, hourglass women. I guess I should just say I like women...

Anyone I can manhandle, which is basically *all* women who identify as submissive. You'll understand why I say that if/when you meet me...

I'm a gentleman first and foremost. I genuinely enjoy walks in the park (or forest or beach) and picnics. I'm a massive sucker for sweetness. If you're made out of sweetness, I'm going to like you. I'm sapiosexual and demisexual, and fiercely monogamous - if you want multiple partners, we can be friends but that's about all.

Sex for me is about connection. It's not a disjointed act between strangers, it's an act of love that binds two people together. If there's no romance in it, I don't want it. Maybe that's weird to some people, but I would rather spend the time melting my soul into hers first, and feel like she's *mine* and I'm *hers*.

I want connection, conversation, that feeling that the rest of the world has disappeared and it's just me and my girl. I want to be her sheltering harbour in a storm, her rock, her knight. If she ever feels uncertain, I want to be the one she comes running to for reassurance. I want to be the reason she feels like she can take on the world and win.

I'm kinky as they come, and I do want a submissive woman, but I also want a princess. Not in a "bossy little madam" kind of way, but more in a "knows she's worth spoiling sometimes" kind of way.

I want her to be submissive and obedient because I earned it. I don't want her submission for free, I want to feel like I'm the only man in existence she would ever even consider giving it to - because she trusts me, because she cares and loves and feels cared for and loved in return.

I want to be her Papa Bear. I want her to crave me, to maybe even be a little bit clingy. Yeah, I know, guys are supposed to hate that - but I'm not a "guy". I'm a Man. I'm a Papa. I have a paternal side that draws me to vulnerability and brings out a softness in me.

I don't believe Men should be "Macho" - they should be "Masculine". Braggadachio garbage does not make a man. Getting your head down and doing something makes you a man. Standing in front of the incoming storm and screaming "You will not pass" makes you a man. Walking a mile with bleeding feet makes you a man.

Having muscles and an attitude makes you - I dunno. I don't care either. Yes, I have muscles - but that matters not. If I was 5 foot tall and physically weak, but I was willing to put in an effort - I'd still be a MAN.

Got a good sense of humour. I've been accused of being childish in the past, but I'm dead serious when I need to be - and laser-focused, especially in a crisis. But in any situation where I can inject humour - you bet your lovely round bum I will. I'm respectful, but also very sarcastic (with those I know can take a joke at least). I don't put up with disrespect, but I actively encourage people to mock me if I know they respect me. Just expect to get some in return.

And cuddles. I'm a cuddlemonster. If you are cuddle-deficient, I gotcha. You're in the right place.

I'm a born leader. In college, I was always the one everyone wanted to work with on group assignments because I always knew instinctively what needed to be done and in what order it needed to be done. I didn't understand at the time why people wanted to do projects with me, because back then I assumed everyone had the ability to analyse a situation and come up with a plan, it's only as I got older I realised that people often don't have a clue which way to go in, through no fault of their own.

If that's you, you'll like me. And I'll probably like you. I have a massive soft spot for lost, confused bunnies and kittens...

I'm the guy who walks up to strangers in the gym and says "You haven't got that set up quite right, you might hurt your (neck/shoulders/back/whatever) - can I show you?"

Loyal beyond all reason. I stayed in a toxic relationship way beyond the point where it was obvious she didn't love me. Stupid, but meh - I never said I wasn't stupid sometimes.

Massive nerd. I love science. Quantum mechanics. My favorite book is "Schrodinger's cat and the search for reality" by John Gribbin. Either that or "A Study in Scarlet"... I like Lower Decks (sci-fi with humour and sarcasm? Hell yes!).

I like silly romances. The Princess Bride is a favourite movie.

Oh, goodness. I've probably only scratched the surface of what makes me tick, but I thought it was about time I said more about myself than "Not looking yet"...

A story I wrote for fetlife.

I take the bottle of wine from the fridge and pull the cork, giving it a little time to breathe. I dice the onions, and throw them in the pan. I like that sizzling sound they make... I add the spices, then diced chicken breast. I let it brown a little, before adding the coconut milk and putting the rice on.

I get a text from you - you're on your way. I start dressing the table - a rose in a vase, a candle in a brass candlestick, nothing too fancy. I'm not the fancy kind, I don't want to give the wrong impression this early on in a relationship. If this works out, I want it to be for the right reasons.

The doorbell rings shortly afterwards. You're smiling as I open the door and ask you in, you genuinely seem pleased to be here - pleased to see me. "I didn't know what else to bring," you say, handing me a bottle of red wine. I smile and kiss your cheek, then take you to the kitchen, where the meal is spread out already. You give me a coy smile as I pull out a chair for you to sit down.

"This looks amazing." You take a bite. "You weren't lying, you really do know how to cook!" you exclaim. "This tastes amazing, my local takeaway could learn a thing or two from you..." you giggle a little as you speak. "Honestly, it's such a simple recipe, and I just add a little double cream, it gives it something extra," I say, glad that you seem to be honestly enjoying the food. I pour you a little wine and smile at you. "I'm really glad you agreed to this, I know it must make you very nervous," I say. "I haven't had much luck with first dates in the past. I don't seem to make a good impression until someone truly gets to know me. I guess that's why I wanted to chat online for a while before we actually did this."

You smile and look down at your plate, pushing food around, then taking a bite. You glance up at me and smile again, blushing a little. "I'm very shy around people I like - you know, that way," you say. "I was glad you wanted to go slowly at first too." I smile back at you, a sweetness seems to wash over me from your direction. I'm a little enamoured by you already, but I dare not say that to you, in case it scares you off. Something inside me feels your submissive nature - your little glances at me, the way you hide your face partially with your silky hair. The way you blush when our eyes meet, and immediately look at the floor, smiling. I like it. I kinda want to growl at you, but that feels premature.

We finish dinner, then we sit down to watch the movie we'd decided on beforehand. Amélie. We've both seen it before and loved it, but neither of us has seen it in a long time - so it seemed a safe way to spend a little time together. I put my arm around you and we watch the film, wonderfully quirky yet romantic, watching Amélie fall for Nino. As the movie ends, I find that you've wrapped yourself up in my arms and you're clinging to my arm, resting against me like I'm a giant teddy bear. You start sucking on my thumb...

I look at you for a moment. I'm not certain what to make of this action. You turn to me and smile. "I'm... I don't know why I did that..." you say, looking concerned. I smile at you, letting you know I don't mind, and you smile back, relaxing visibly. I kiss you...

You tense up and squeak, then let out a little sigh as you relax. I put my hand on your back and pull you closer, you put your arms around my neck in return, and we kiss - gently at first, but heat builds up between us and it's not long before we're kissing with a fervent passion. I push you down onto the sofa and pin your arms above your head, kissing you into the sofa. You moan and put your legs around my waist.

I break the kiss and growl at you. You squeak again, then look at me like a naughty schoolgirl. You have the same thing on your mind as I do. I pick you up, carry you to the bedroom, and put you on the bed gently. I start undressing you as I kiss you, getting a little rougher with each garment tossed aside - until finally I tear your panties off and toss them who knows where. I rub your pubic mound in circles as I kiss you, teasing you, and you let out a little moan.

I break the kiss and look into your gorgeous, sparkling eyes. You look comfortable, I see no fear in your eyes, just a naughty twinkle. "I have something for you," I say. I take a pair of fur-lined cuffs from my side table and I secure your wrists to the headboard. I pull your legs apart and I settle between your thighs, my face so close to your sex you can feel my breath. You have a buttplug in your ass, topped with a heart-shaped crystal. I rub it gently in circles for a moment, teasing you with it. "Oh, oh, I umm..." you start to say, but I lick your clitoris and you let out a squeal. "Oh, lordy, please don't stop..." you whisper, breathlessly. I lick your clitoris until it starts to engorge, then I start sucking on it gently. You squeal again, looking down at me, and we lock eyes as I pleasure you with my mouth.

"I've never... No-one's... Oh, my god..." you say, seeming a little overwhelmed. I push a finger into you gently and you gasp, your breath hitching a little. "Please, please don't stop, or I'll explode," you say to me, eyes practically begging. I feel you open up and I push another finger into you, fingering you for a few moments before I turn my fingers upward, find your G-spot and massage it gently with both fingers. You hit the back of your head on the pillow repeatedly, then lie back and whisper "What... What are you doing to me??".

It barely takes a minute and you're panting. I build up pressure on your G-spot, licking and sucking your clit with more enthusiasm. You start to roll your hips involuntarily, which I take as a sign that you're close, so I up the pressure a little more, watching you closely for signs I'm overdoing it - but you just squirm on the bed, eyes closed, rubbing your cheek against your arm and gasping. You seem to be trying to say something, but you're clearly too overwhelmed to manage to get your thoughts into some cohesive form.

I feel you tighten around my fingers and your body shudders. Your legs tremble gently and you arch your back. "Ohhh... Oh my... My lord... OOOOH! OOOOH FUCK!" I smile. I know you're not big on profanity, so I take this as a very good sign. Moments later, you're smiling down at me, panting. You look at me with such affection that I think you're going to propose to me for a moment, but then you say "No one's ever done that to me before. Please tell me we can do that again sometimes, it was amazing".

I smile up at you. "Only all the time, gorgeous. But now, it's my turn." I pull your legs up either side of your head and penetrate you gently. You immediately squeal out in pain, screwing up your eyes. I pull out. "I... I haven't... It's been a long time..." you say. I stroke your hair and push a finger gently into your wetness. You let out a sigh, and I finger you gently, slipping in another finger, then after a while, I feel you open enough that I can slip in a third. "You're extremely tight, gorgeous," I say. You look embarrassed. "It's nothing to be ashamed of, sweetie. I'm sorry I hurt you."

"I... I kinda liked it..." you say. I look at you and let out an involuntary growl. My fingers come out of you and my dick goes in. You bite your lip and squeak again. "Tell me how you feel," I say. "It hurts a little... But I like it... Please, don't stop..." you reply. You

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