MissDAR

Lately I've watched videos of people showing fake food, I've even come across some of it Myself.  

But, I also question My life choice coming on this site that is now so full of fake people. They have flesh and bones yes, but no soul,

no honesty, half truths, and sometimes just down right lying losers and energy vampires. 

 I know I can't be the only one knowing this. I hear from men saying the same thing however , they are usually ( not always ) bullsh#ters themselves.

Yet here I am, still looking for a honest person is a sea of 1000's. Come on people, DO BETTER !

 If your just looking for a play partner, say so.  If you have family,property, work or a business and can't move, say so, better yet don't even write ,unless you will benefit Me.

I'm not a needy person, I do well enough on My own. I'm not looking for a certain look, body type or financial status.  I don't give a sh#t. 

Just because the world is going a bit crazy doesn't mean you have to.

I only want grounded honest people around Me. That's it !

Living in a fantasy world doesn’t help anyone—not you, not the people around you, not the future you claim to want. Being useful means showing up in reality, doing the work, learning real skills, and taking responsibility instead of escaping into excuses or imaginary victories. Dreams matter, but without action they’re just noise. Ground yourself, contribute something real, and turn effort into results—that’s how you actually move forward.

I often find Myself not wanting to come back on this site , for reasons of giving My time to men that are basically all talk and no action.  Don't take

that the wrong way. I'm not looking for a " play partner " I'm not a pro and I'm not looking for a hit or miss situation. 

I am only looking for fulltime and hopefully lifetime commitments. 

I get so many on here that are basically saying the same thing. They are looking for a FLR, they are looking for this or that.

What I am saying is I'm looking for someone that will add to My life. Hopefully someone with skills, around the house, a garden, willing to learn almost

a very different life that I an pressed forward into living.  Even if you are only a background male that is willing to learn what I am capible of teaching, that is

good enough.  But, if you are from the city I promise you , you will probably struggle and not understand what real country life is about.  In that case you should

pass by this profile and looking for a wuss position in the city . 

When fantasy meets reality, some men find themselves lost in the space between what they imagine and what truly exists. In a world filled with movies, games, social media, and idealized images, it becomes easy to mistake fantasy for attainable truth. They may chase unrealistic versions of women, power, or status, forgetting that real life is imperfect, complex, and grounded in responsibility. When the line between fantasy and reality fades , disappointment, frustration, and confusion often follow. Learning to see life as it is—not as we wish it to be—takes maturity and self-awareness. True strength lies in facing reality head-on, appreciating genuine experiences over illusions, and building a life that is real, not imagined. Men...you need to do better. 

Here is the deal .  Just because you send Me a picture of yourself does not mean I have to send you Mine.  If I wanted My picture out there I would have it on My profile now wouldn't I ? 

 If I get to really know you and think that we might be a possibility I have no problem sending , picture, email and phone.  

 However and until then don't ask for any of that. 

 Understand I get several messages a day.   Some are ones from another country, some are just looking to " play"  some are only in a fantasy space in their heads, some are married , some have their own place and will never move.  There are many variations and reasons why I don't go farther with somone. But, those are the main ones. 

 Honesty seems to be quite rare on here.... First be honest with yourself. We aren't looking for someone perfect, loyalty, honesty and long term that is what I am looking for.  That is what I'm used to and like.

 And men seriously ... use that little brain of yours. This site is getting more and more scammers of men posing as woman.

They say all the "right things" and some of you believe it, then they ask for money. Wake up, it don't work that way.

A 29 year old model with a stolen only fans picture is NOT  after you.  he/she/it want's your money

thats it.  Don't be stupid and encourage  the scammers .

Everyones goal in life should be to get off this site !!!

No one is perfect, find someone and live your life.

I was off this site for over 10 years previous( it was great )because I found what I was 

looking for and I had no desire to come back.  Stop playing games 

and start living. 

One word of advise I would like to offer men.

It's something that might be hard for you to do . It might take some meditation time and soul searching.  It will take listening to that higher voice inside and not your emotional fantasy side. 

That advise is to be completely 100% honest with yourself and let that honesty spill over when your contacting someone on here. 

People appreciate honesty rather than bullshit just like you do. 

 In shadows cast by candle's glow,  

A whispered bond begins to grow,  

With chains and ties and soft-spoken word,  

A tale of devotion silently heard.

She stands, a figure stern and fair,  

A queen in her dominion there.  

He kneels with eyes of deepened trust,  

In her strength, his surrender a must.

Her hand, a guide, firm yet kind,  

In her will, his peace of mind.  

He worships at her altar, so sweet,  

Where pain and pleasure often meet.

Commands she issues, soft yet clear,  

To which he listens, holds dear.  

Each task a token of his love,  

Under her gaze, he rises above.

Chains that bind him set him free,  

In her control, she holds his key.  

A dance of power, the roles they play,  

With concrete walls, he finds his way.

With every strike a story told,  

Of lessons learned and disipline so bold.  

In her hands, his world complete,  

At her feet, the journey sweet.

So in the quiet of the night,  

His thoughts alone he knows his plight.  

In the realm where she is queen,  

His souls devotion is felt and seen.

In shadows deep where secrets lie,

A man of strength, beneath the sky,

Dominance etched upon his face,

Yet hidden yearnings seek their place.

He walks with power, commands the air,

Yet dreams of moments soft and rare,

Of tender hands and whispered might,

Of yielding to her gentle light.

She stands before him, eyes aglow,

A force of nature, soft and slow,

In her presence, he finds release,

His iron will begins to cease.

For in her gaze, he finds his home,

No longer does he need to roam,

To her, he gives his crown and throne,

Under her strength, he's not alone.

He surrenders all, his power and pride,

And kneels before her, nothing to hide,

In submission's sweet and tender grace,

He finds his true and rightful place.

Her touch is soft, yet holds command,

A gentle force, a guiding hand,

She leads him to a world unseen,

There is strength and softness and inbetween.

In yielding to her, he is free,

A paradox of strength to be,

Her words, a balm, her voice, a song,

Under her power, where he belongs.

Sometimes bound by iron chains,

He feels the strenght of her reign,

In her dominion, he is whole,

She claims his heart, she owns his soul.

For in her power, he finds peace,

A harmony that will not cease,

In sweet submission, he is known,

Her slave at rest, underneath her throne.

Only contact Me if you are serious and willing.  A good country boy goes to the front of the line. 

Winners and losers can often be distinguished by their propensity to take action and their inclination to serve others. Winners are those who recognize opportunities and are willing to step out of their comfort zones to seize them. They understand that success requires effort, resilience, and a proactive attitude. Winners don't shy away from challenges; they face them head-on and learn from their experiences. Moreover, winners often find fulfillment in helping others achieve their goals, knowing that service enriches both their lives and the lives of those they assist. In contrast, losers tend to be more passive, often waiting for the perfect moment or fearing the risks associated with action. They may have great ideas and potential but lack the drive to bring them to fruition. This hesitation and inertia often lead to missed opportunities and regret. Additionally, a lack of willingness to serve others can limit their growth and connection with the broader community. Ultimately, the difference between winners and losers lies in the willingness to act decisively, persistently pursue their goals, and contribute positively to the lives of others.

I think it's strange that so many men are on this site are sort of in a fantasy world. It is like they are not coming to grips with the real world and I find that frustrating and sad at the same time. 

 Is it possibly because the  real world is so tough for them that they just want to come on here and fantasize about serving someone.  Yet knowing in their heart they will probably never do it and just get old and die alone in their la la land of make believe . 

What a waste if a life.  Seriously what is the meaning of your life if you don't fulfill your purpose.  So you aquire some " things " . Then what ?  Then your another 10 years older and closer to leaving this earth. Worthless life...

1. In your first message don't say something like. " Hi how are you doing?" and that is your only message/words.  I won't even answer that. Be more upfront. 

2. Please understand here is what I am NOT looking for 

  A. Not looking for someone that is married

  B. Not looking for a weekend here and there

  C. Not looking for someone that drinks, smokes and addicted        to drugs. (herb is ok)

  D. Not looking to change your diapers

  E. Not looking for attention seekers or someone high           maintance

  F. Not looking for someone that is new and looking for     someone to train it (unless your ready to go full in) 

  G. I'm not a Pro and I'm not looking to play games.

  H. Not looking for someone that isn't willing to better themselves

  I. In general I'm not looking for a city person that is afraid to get dirty. 

  J. I'm not " needy " I'm more interested in finding a service slave/sub.

  K. I'm not interested in seeing your ass pictures. 

I'll probably add more to this list later. But HOPEFULLY you read this and don't bother writing if ...your not what I'm looking for. I try to make things simple and to the point. 

p.s. I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A DOM.  I PROMISE YOU I WILL NEVER BE YOUR SUB OR SLAVE. I'm not an egotistic person and I do my share of what needs to be done around here. I  believe in harmony. 

For those of you that may want to , but can't really move, I'll say what you probably have heard many times. FIND SOMONE LOCAL. 

On the other hand I could use someone remote to help develop a website with lifestyle merch for sale that I have designed myself.  Mainly clothing .  I know I can do 2 things one is get someone else to build it from a place like fivver .  No problem but the  subject  is kind of sensitive so I'm not sure about getting someone else to do it that is outside the lifestyle.  The other thing is to do it myself as I have done sites myself before.  But it's time consuming and I spend most My time designing and marketing. 

However I  would rather find someone in the lifestyle to do it even if it means I pay someone .  

The other thing I  am looking for is for someone to seriously get me started in crypto.  Not just a statement like " go to this site and sign up" .  I know there is a lot more  to it .  There are courses and some follow crypto gurus to immulate what they do .  

I know this is maybe something I'm just putting out there on a limb but if I don't put it out there then it won't be known I'm also looking for that as well as getting someone here fulltime. 

I came to the conclusion years ago that most men are on this site because they aren't truely honest with themselves.  So they have been on here long term, 1 year 5 years 10 years and more.  Why ?  Because they get comfortable in lying to themselves and eventually lying to others.  I'm not actually talking about dom men.  I'm more talking about sub/slaves.  If your just looking for weekend kink , just say so.  If your never going to move and your shoes are nailed down to the floor, just  put it in your profile or tell people that.

If your never going to move but don't mind meeting someone and let her take control of your life , online, phone and meeting in person sometimes. No problem just say so. 

  The lies will ever get you anywhere. you might come on here in your 40's and next thing you know your in your 50's and beyond and just fooling yourself.  Chasing something you'll never get. What a waste of time and a life.  Do you think working and having some money means anything when your last breath is at hand ?  

I promise you that you will look back and see what an actual waste your life was. you take nothing with you in the end , but still, you hold on to your pathitic life and lies.  

It is a free man that breaks away from that thought and becomes what he knows in his heart is the right thing to do . It might sound like a contradition or an irony .... someone free enough to be enslaved by someone.  But in reality  it's about following your heart and mind and breaking away from all the " things " in this world. 

I know not everyone will understand what I wrote but hopefully you'll re-read it and ask yourself serious questions.  The answers are in yourself as well. 

I'm actually sad to be back here on this site, after so many  years being happy with who I found and who was very loyal.  Unfortunitly he is no more and here I am.  

 This is time consumming as it is for  you as well.  So if I don't respond after I read your message it's because this search sometimes gets over whelming trying to figure out who is who  and what someone is looking for exactly EXACTLY.  For instance, if someone is just looking for weekend play,  or something along that line. Please do me a favor and don't even write. I'm sure there is probably someone else out there that wants that. 

 I have to say I do get a rise when I find someone I can connect to on a higher plane.  I like intelligent converstation but it is also time consumming and easier to move to phone eventually. 

 I'm not talking about someone with a high IQ and can memorize the encyclopedia .  I'm talking about someone that is beyond that and I can talk to about the meaning of life , so to speak. 

 Does my sub/slave need to be smart and have a college education ? No , some of the best people I know even dropped out of school and never finished. 

 With today's AI we can all be artist, writers, and seemingly a genious.  But with all that , there is something deeper. If you don't know what I'm talking about then you don't know. If you do understand then you do know. 

 If who comes to live here can't even read but knows how to have a great garden, knows how to use his hands.( even if he doesnt but is more than willing to learn) That is way more important to me than anything. 

 However is someone works online and doesn't know how to work with his hands. Then he could be useful as well and I don't rule that out. 

I said all that to help you to have a better understanding what I'm looking for .  I hope not to be on here for several months but who knows.  

 The last person I found on here was about 8 years ago. We met on here talked for a couple weeks. He moved here and has been here ever since. 

 That's what happens when people are open and honest and do what they say they are going to do . 

People are vastly different. So to find a single needle in 100 haystacks is seemingly an impossible feat. 

 Be yourself and be completely open and honest. Don't ever lie in order to find what your looking for because the lie will eventually come to the surface. . 

 In my opinion to be dominate is not to act or be mean to someone. It's not to hate or belittle in order to get someone to do what you want them to do. 

 Being self assured and dominate means to take care of and pass on knowledge.  To take someone and fulfill their lives and make them useful.  

 We all have a role to play in this universe. When your happy and content that means your exactly where you should be  and doing what you should be doing at that moment. So many people are on here searching ... searching but never finding or not really knowing what they are looking for. ( I'm a dom, no wait I'm a sub, no wait I'm a switch...wait wait maybe I'm a dom slave lesbian male )

 When I talk about giving yourself up completely you should only ONLY do that to someone you trust and know that they have your best intention at heart. I'm not talking about a romantic relationship , that is silly to think that would happen that way over the internet. It's unrealistic and delusional . 

 I'm only talking to those that are looking to be owned and cared for. In turn you need to think about what you would give up to get that.

For those that simply ask " How are you ? " .  you don't have to ask .  I'll tell you here before you ask.  I'm doing ok.   If you simply write and just say Hi.  Then I'm here saying Hi back. 

 Why is that ? So I don't feel the need to small chat with someone. That is not my purpose of being on this site.  I AM NOT lonely and looking for a chat buddy.  Honestly I am not.  Now if your deeply into alternative medicine ,  an advid  gardner, a highly spiritual being then I might be intested in " chatting " with you. 

 But my guess is 99.99 % of people that read this is not into those things. 

 That being said I am looking for someone no matter what your age/looks/ education or lack of, is .  That doesn't not matter to me in the least. What matters is are you someone I would consider in owning in real time ?  If you think you are then write and let me know... in DETAIL.   It is an extreme blessing that I don't waste my time on time wasters. 

For those that are curious and ask.  Yes I've owned someone for over 15  years, and currently own someone else for the past 7 plus years.  I'm not all talk and if you are then know I have no time to give you. 

On a scale of 1- 10 how serious are you? The 10 means you would be willing to give up everything, your past attachments, your absolute all , in order to give and serve someone the rest of your life.

 If its not a 10 be honest with yourself.  That doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested . I ask that questions so you will dig deep into your mind and come up with an honest answer. 

Even though I'm looking for someone in person.  I have owned someone remotely before but when I say owned I mean completely.  Most men aren't really willing to give themselves completely. It is a rare and most wonderful thing to find those that will. 

I own My own place. I also have a seperate place for the one that I'm looking for on here.  I am a private person so you would have to be used to being by yourself a good deal of the time.