MissDAR

Only contact Me if you are serious and willing.  A good country boy goes to the front of the line. 

I'm not on here looking for a weekend play partner.  Do you understand ? I'm looking for full-time. 

Don't ask Me for personal information unless I vett you and feel like we might be looking ,generally, for the same things. 

The Balance of Ownership and Being Owned

Life is a complex tapestry, and each of us is a unique thread with a specific role to play. Some are born to lead, to innovate, and to own their destiny—carving paths and shaping futures. Others find fulfillment in being the indispensable support that holds the structure together, bringing loyalty, creativity, and strength to every endeavor they touch. Both roles, though different, are equally vital. Together, they create harmony, a balance that sustains families, businesses, and societies.  

But what happens when someone steps out of their true role? When a person destined to lead becomes a follower out of fear, or when someone who thrives in a supportive role forces themselves into leadership to meet external expectations? Their lives often feel misaligned, as though they’re walking a tightrope without balance. They may succeed outwardly, but inwardly, they feel a persistent discontent—a nagging sense that something is missing.

Every person carries unique qualities: the visionary who dreams of change, the organizer who brings order to chaos, the artist who inspires, and the builder who creates. Recognizing and embracing these traits is essential to finding one’s rightful place in life. Ignoring them, or trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t align, leads to frustration, exhaustion, and a lack of fulfillment.  

True balance comes when we align with our inner calling, allowing our natural strengths to flourish. It’s not about hierarchy or status—being the owner of a vision or the cornerstone of a team is equally noble. What matters is authenticity: living the life you were meant to live and embracing the role that allows you to thrive. 

So, take time to reflect. Are you living in alignment with who you truly are? Or are you chasing a path that doesn’t feel like your own? Life is a gift, but it’s also a responsibility—to yourself and to the world around you. When you live your truth, the world finds its balance, and your unique thread strengthens the greater weave of humanity.  

Someone who is both kind and cruel is a paradox of warmth and severity, showing compassion in one moment and cold indifference in the next. They may offer a helping hand with genuine care but deliver harsh words that cut deep, believing honesty is more important than kindness. Their generosity can be immense, yet their punishments are just as unforgiving. They live by a moral code that blends empathy with ruthlessness, making them unpredictable—loved for their kindness, feared for their cruelty.

Winners and losers can often be distinguished by their propensity to take action and their inclination to serve others. Winners are those who recognize opportunities and are willing to step out of their comfort zones to seize them. They understand that success requires effort, resilience, and a proactive attitude. Winners don't shy away from challenges; they face them head-on and learn from their experiences. Moreover, winners often find fulfillment in helping others achieve their goals, knowing that service enriches both their lives and the lives of those they assist. In contrast, losers tend to be more passive, often waiting for the perfect moment or fearing the risks associated with action. They may have great ideas and potential but lack the drive to bring them to fruition. This hesitation and inertia often lead to missed opportunities and regret. Additionally, a lack of willingness to serve others can limit their growth and connection with the broader community. Ultimately, the difference between winners and losers lies in the willingness to act decisively, persistently pursue their goals, and contribute positively to the lives of others.

( All poems are written by me and if you want to use them ask permission first)

In shadows deep where secrets lie,

A man of strength, beneath the sky,

Dominance etched upon his face,

Yet hidden yearnings seek their place.

He walks with power, commands the air,

Yet dreams of moments soft and rare,

Of tender hands and whispered might,

Of yielding to her gentle light.

She stands before him, eyes aglow,

A force of nature, soft and slow,

In her presence, he finds release,

His iron will begins to cease.

For in her gaze, he finds his home,

No longer does he need to roam,

To her, he gives his crown and throne,

Under her strength, he's not alone.

He surrenders all, his power and pride,

And kneels before her, nothing to hide,

In submission's sweet and tender grace,

He finds his true and rightful place.

Her touch is soft, yet holds command,

A gentle force, a guiding hand,

She leads him to a world unseen,

There is strength and softness and inbetween.

In yielding to her, he is free,

A paradox of strength to be,

Her words, a balm, her voice, a song,

Under her power, where he belongs.

Sometimes bound by iron chains,

He feels the strenght of her reign,

In her dominion, he is whole,

She claims his heart, she owns his soul.

For in her power, he finds peace,

A harmony that will not cease,

In sweet submission, he is known,

Her slave at rest, underneath her throne.

Here is a poem that your welcome to either print out or hand write it and hang up where you will see it everyday .

In shadows cast by candle's glow,  

A whispered bond begins to grow,  

With chains and ties and soft-spoken word,  

A tale of devotion silently heard.

She stands, a figure stern and fair,  

A queen in her dominion there.  

He kneels with eyes of deepened trust,  

In her strength, his surrender a must.

Her hand, a guide, firm yet kind,  

In her will, his peace of mind.  

He worships at her altar, so sweet,  

Where pain and pleasure often meet.

Commands she issues, soft yet clear,  

To which he listens, holds dear.  

Each task a token of his love,  

Under her gaze, he rises above.

Chains that bind him set him free,  

In her control, she holds his key.  

A dance of power, the roles they play,  

With concrete walls, he finds his way.

With every strike a story told,  

Of lessons learned and disipline so bold.  

In her hands, his world complete,  

At her feet, the journey sweet.

So in the quiet of the night,  

His thoughts alone he knows his plight.  

In the realm where she is queen,  

His souls devotion is felt and seen.

One word of advise I would like to offer men.

It's something that might be hard for you to do . It might take some meditation time and soul searching.  It will take listening to that higher voice inside and not your emotional fantasy side. 

That advise is to be completely 100% honest with yourself and let that honesty spill over when your contacting someone on here. 

Sounds easy but it's not for many people. 

I honestly feel sad when I see someone on this site for years on end , knowing they might never find someone. It breaks My heart in away.  Not for everyone, but for those that really are wanting to find someone and live the way they know they should be living. 

As the saying goes "time waits for no one".  Don't write to Me complaining about all the fakes, about all the b.s on here. Yes I know. But , there are also ones that are serious and I read some of the Dommes profiles and can weed out the ones that are really looking and are serious. 

If you are on here just to get your rocks off and look at pictures and profiles, then you are the one that is wasting someone elses time acting like someone your not and never want to be. If you are on here just looking for a " friend" or a " buddy" or for someone to " do things to you " ( look in the mirror and tell me who is the fake one )

If your stuck where you live now and can't move because of family or job, or other reasons.  For someone that would take  you on and be your Owner remotely then maybe  you would have a good chance of finding that. If someone is honest with me and is like that. I've taken on someone remote before and we eventually met . The point is he was honest.  But for fucks sake just be honest when contacting someone.  People appreciate honesty rather than bullshit just like you do. 

I think it's strange that so many men are on this site are sort of in a fantasy world. It is like they are not coming to grips with the real world and I find that frustrating and sad at the same time. 

 Is it possibly because the  real world is so tough for them that they just want to come on here and fantasize about serving someone.  Yet knowing in their heart they will probably never do it and just get old and die alone in their la la land of make believe . 

What a waste if a life.  Seriously what is the meaning of your life if you don't fulfill your purpose.  So you aquire some " things " . Then what ?  Then your another 10 years older and closer to leaving this earth. Worthless life...

1. In your first message don't say something like. " Hi how are you doing?" and that is your only message/words.  I won't even answer that. Be more upfront. 

2. Please understand here is what I am NOT looking for 

  A. Not looking for someone that is married

  B. Not looking for a weekend here and there

  C. Not looking for someone that drinks, smokes and addicted        to drugs. (herb is ok)

  D. Not looking to change your diapers

  E. Not looking for attention seekers or someone high           maintance

  F. Not looking for someone that is new and looking for     someone to train it (unless your ready to go full in) 

  G. I'm not a Pro and I'm not looking to play games.

  H. Not looking for someone that isn't willing to better themselves

  I. In general I'm not looking for a city person that is afraid to get dirty. 

  J. I'm not " needy " I'm more interested in finding a service slave/sub.

  K. I'm not interested in seeing your ass pictures. 

I'll probably add more to this list later. But HOPEFULLY you read this and don't bother writing if ...your not what I'm looking for. I try to make things simple and to the point. 

p.s. I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A DOM.  I PROMISE YOU I WILL NEVER BE YOUR SUB OR SLAVE. I'm not an egotistic person and I do my share of what needs to be done around here. I  believe in harmony. 

For those of you that may want to , but can't really move, I'll say what you probably have heard many times. FIND SOMONE LOCAL. 

On the other hand I could use someone remote to help develop a website with lifestyle merch for sale that I have designed myself.  Mainly clothing .  I know I can do 2 things one is get someone else to build it from a place like fivver .  No problem but the  subject  is kind of sensitive so I'm not sure about getting someone else to do it that is outside the lifestyle.  The other thing is to do it myself as I have done sites myself before.  But it's time consuming and I spend most My time designing and marketing. 

However I  would rather find someone in the lifestyle to do it even if it means I pay someone .  

The other thing I  am looking for is for someone to seriously get me started in crypto.  Not just a statement like " go to this site and sign up" .  I know there is a lot more  to it .  There are courses and some follow crypto gurus to immulate what they do .  

I know this is maybe something I'm just putting out there on a limb but if I don't put it out there then it won't be known I'm also looking for that as well as getting someone here fulltime. 

I came to the conclusion years ago that most men are on this site because they aren't truely honest with themselves.  So they have been on here long term, 1 year 5 years 10 years and more.  Why ?  Because they get comfortable in lying to themselves and eventually lying to others.  I'm not actually talking about dom men.  I'm more talking about sub/slaves.  If your just looking for weekend kink , just say so.  If your never going to move and your shoes are nailed down to the floor, just  put it in your profile or tell people that.

If your never going to move but don't mind meeting someone and let her take control of your life , online, phone and meeting in person sometimes. No problem just say so. 

  The lies will ever get you anywhere. you might come on here in your 40's and next thing you know your in your 50's and beyond and just fooling yourself.  Chasing something you'll never get. What a waste of time and a life.  Do you think working and having some money means anything when your last breath is at hand ?  

I promise you that you will look back and see what an actual waste your life was. you take nothing with you in the end , but still, you hold on to your pathitic life and lies.  

It is a free man that breaks away from that thought and becomes what he knows in his heart is the right thing to do . It might sound like a contradition or an irony .... someone free enough to be enslaved by someone.  But in reality  it's about following your heart and mind and breaking away from all the " things " in this world. 

I know not everyone will understand what I wrote but hopefully you'll re-read it and ask yourself serious questions.  The answers are in yourself as well. 

I'm actually sad to be back here on this site, after so many  years being happy with who I found and who was very loyal.  Unfortunitly he is no more and here I am.  

 This is time consumming as it is for  you as well.  So if I don't respond after I read your message it's because this search sometimes gets over whelming trying to figure out who is who  and what someone is looking for exactly EXACTLY.  For instance, if someone is just looking for weekend play,  or something along that line. Please do me a favor and don't even write. I'm sure there is probably someone else out there that wants that. 

 I have to say I do get a rise when I find someone I can connect to on a higher plane.  I like intelligent converstation but it is also time consumming and easier to move to phone eventually. 

 I'm not talking about someone with a high IQ and can memorize the encyclopedia .  I'm talking about someone that is beyond that and I can talk to about the meaning of life , so to speak. 

 Does my sub/slave need to be smart and have a college education ? No , some of the best people I know even dropped out of school and never finished. 

 With today's AI we can all be artist, writers, and seemingly a genious.  But with all that , there is something deeper. If you don't know what I'm talking about then you don't know. If you do understand then you do know. 

 If who comes to live here can't even read but knows how to have a great garden, knows how to use his hands.( even if he doesnt but is more than willing to learn) That is way more important to me than anything. 

 However is someone works online and doesn't know how to work with his hands. Then he could be useful as well and I don't rule that out. 

I said all that to help you to have a better understanding what I'm looking for .  I hope not to be on here for several months but who knows.  

 The last person I found on here was about 8 years ago. We met on here talked for a couple weeks. He moved here and has been here ever since. 

 That's what happens when people are open and honest and do what they say they are going to do . 

People are vastly different. So to find a single needle in 100 haystacks is seemingly an impossible feat. 

 Be yourself and be completely open and honest. Don't ever lie in order to find what your looking for because the lie will eventually come to the surface. . 

 In my opinion to be dominate is not to act or be mean to someone. It's not to hate or belittle in order to get someone to do what you want them to do. 

 Being self assured and dominate means to take care of and pass on knowledge.  To take someone and fulfill their lives and make them useful.  

 We all have a role to play in this universe. When your happy and content that means your exactly where you should be  and doing what you should be doing at that moment. So many people are on here searching ... searching but never finding or not really knowing what they are looking for. ( I'm a dom, no wait I'm a sub, no wait I'm a switch...wait wait maybe I'm a dom slave lesbian male )

 When I talk about giving yourself up completely you should only ONLY do that to someone you trust and know that they have your best intention at heart. I'm not talking about a romantic relationship , that is silly to think that would happen that way over the internet. It's unrealistic and delusional . 

 I'm only talking to those that are looking to be owned and cared for. In turn you need to think about what you would give up to get that.

For those that simply ask " How are you ? " .  you don't have to ask .  I'll tell you here before you ask.  I'm doing ok.   If you simply write and just say Hi.  Then I'm here saying Hi back. 

 Why is that ? So I don't feel the need to small chat with someone. That is not my purpose of being on this site.  I AM NOT lonely and looking for a chat buddy.  Honestly I am not.  Now if your deeply into alternative medicine ,  an advid  gardner, a highly spiritual being then I might be intested in " chatting " with you. 

 But my guess is 99.99 % of people that read this is not into those things. 

 That being said I am looking for someone no matter what your age/looks/ education or lack of, is .  That doesn't not matter to me in the least. What matters is are you someone I would consider in owning in real time ?  If you think you are then write and let me know... in DETAIL.   It is an extreme blessing that I don't waste my time on time wasters. 

For those that are curious and ask.  Yes I've owned someone for over 15  years, and currently own someone else for the past 7 plus years.  I'm not all talk and if you are then know I have no time to give you. 

On a scale of 1- 10 how serious are you? The 10 means you would be willing to give up everything, your past attachments, your absolute all , in order to give and serve someone the rest of your life.

 If its not a 10 be honest with yourself.  That doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested . I ask that questions so you will dig deep into your mind and come up with an honest answer. 

Even though I'm looking for someone in person.  I have owned someone remotely before but when I say owned I mean completely.  Most men aren't really willing to give themselves completely. It is a rare and most wonderful thing to find those that will. 

I own My own place. I also have a seperate place for the one that I'm looking for on here.  I am a private person so you would have to be used to being by yourself a good deal of the time.