For me, this site is a romantic desert... generally an empty wasteland with a very occasional mirage. I expect nothing and have received the same. IMO, more of a playground to indulge in fantasies rather than substantive and fulfilling realities.
I have little interest in causing anyone pain, either physical or mental... I'm not a sadist. My interests are more primal and center on the man being the sexual aggressor and the woman being the prey. Hugs and kisses are as important, if not more so, than lust. However, there needs to be an element of sexual lust and objectification as a spark. Ultimately neither is more important than the other, they go hand in hand.
I tend to be attracted to women who don't display their nudity online... IMO, that should be left for a partner's eyes only. Again, I don't derive sexual pleasure from another's pain although if that's something a partner desires I would do it if it brings them pleasure. I don't consider myself to be a 'dominant'... I think most people are more complicated than the very limited choices offered here to describe oneself.
Although my screen name is playful, I have no real ethnic preferences or fetishes... a beautiful woman is simply that and isn't dependent on their ethnicity.