I am using you boys again.  I have been with My beloved subby hubby for 6 years now.  Surprisingly, daily life has taken over and I require fresh inspiration to pique My dominance and libido.So, I am using you boys again.  Just reading your messages and profiles is sparking My libido.  My appetite for My subby hubby's service is increased.  I am just using you.  But I thank you and share this information in case it gives you a little thrill.  You are such good boys, you deserve a little reward.

LadyD

• I would train you to make my cup of tea so that you may see my sigh of pleasure at the first sip of the perfect cup.
• I would train you to accept my wishes and disrobe whenever I say ... just so I may enjoy your compliance ... and your body.
• I would train you to clean my house well, without complaint while I relax and read (watching you from the corner of my eye).
• I would train you to kiss me exactly as I want to be kissed.
• I would train you to bend over naked while I watch you from my throne chair as you clean my Jacuzzi, my floor, my toilet, my sink.
• I would train you to pleasure my breasts, building my excitement, teasing me until my nipples cry for attention, then satisfying with alternately delicate licking and deep sucking ... rinse and repeat ... again and again.
• I would train you to resist speaking when you want to suggest activities or ask for what you want.  You would learn to let me lead and wait until I ask you.
  
• I would train you speak when your instinct is to be sullen and silent.  I would sit you down on the floor before me, your face looking up at me from between my knees.  My scent, the sight of my round breasts and belly, my stern voice and gentle acceptance would compel you to listen to your inner self and speak to me.
• I would train you to open my car door, pull out my chair, help me on with my coat ... sliding your fingers under my hair into the warmth of the nape of my neck, lifting my auburn locks gently out (such an intimate gesture in a public place).
• I would train you to be my assistant as I garden, barking orders at you as I enjoy watching you extend yourself at my behest.  I would teach you how much I love to see you sweat for me.
• I would train you give me an excellent massage, delightful orgasm, and in time ... a full female ejaculation.
• I would train you to revel in my ownership of your genitals, your ass, your heart and your devotion.
• I would train you to love and accept the gallant gent who you are while you serve the wonderful woman who I am.
• I would train you to balance your family, work, self-care, and your personal life ... of which I am your Queen.
• I would train you to enjoy my love and pour yourself into my service.
• I would train you to succeed.

 LadyD.

When you make an error, I will correct you.  Your apology and change in behavior is good, but not enough.  In general, when corrected the response would have four components:
1.) Apologize -- Do NOT explain away your transgression!!!  (At a later time, after I am well pleased, I will ask about what happened.)
2.) Correct the behavior
3.) Ask the Lady HOW to make amends
4.)After I tell you how to make amends, OBEY ME!  Be grateful and thank me for taking the time to correct you and using my creativity to craft the perfect way for you to learn.  It may be corporal punishment or perhaps I will design some amends that will serve me.  It is at my whim or my whip, only time will tell.

This 4 step process serves many functions. 
**It clarifies my leadership.
**It gives you an action to do, so that you are not left with residual guilt. 
**It makes my life better: I always design some amends that I enjoy or that improve my life. 
**It gives me pleasure as I enjoy your vulnerability.  (I would craft amends that surely would leave you vulnerable.)
**It would set things right.  Through my skilled teaching, you would have transcended from erroneous boy to successful submissive man.

99% Dominant

96% Master/Mistress

90% Experimentalist

72% Exhibitionist

53% Owner

51% Rigger

44% Primal (Hunter)

34% Sadist

29% Non-monogamist

22% Daddy/Mommy

16% Brat Tamer

12% Voyeur

11% Degrader

6% Vanilla

5% Masochist

4% Switch

3% Rope Bunny

3% Brat

1% Primal (Prey)

1% Ageplayer

0% Submissive

0% Slave

0% Degradee

0% Girl/Boy

0% Pet

Encouraging Domination: The Dance of Submission

Your wife is not automatically a strong dominant. You have to help build her dominance. When you submit to her, that feeds her dominance. When you do not submit to her, that stops her dominance. You too are not automatically submissive. Her dominance feeds your submission. It's an ancient dance, built into your personalities.

So, if you want to make this work, you must be submissive and obedient. When you are submissive and obedient, that TURNS ON HER DOMINANCE. When you are not, that TURNS OFF her dominance. That isn't her fault, it's yours.

Suppose you have the heart-to-heart and she agrees to try dominating you. The next day she asks you to do something. If you don't do it, that turns off her dominance. You should do it happily, enthusiastically, and as well as you can. That will electrify her dominance. Suppose she criticizes something you did. She shouldn't, but swallow that pride, enjoy the submissive fantasy, and make it clear that you appreciate her criticism and you will try to change and do better.

Suppose you two are in bed and she asks you to get her a glass of water, because she is too tired. If that's erotic for you, great. But true submission is getting the water even when you are tired too and it isn't erotic. Get the water without complaining and be glad to serve her. That turns on her dominance. If you aren't going to get her water when she asks, then do not pretend to be a 24/7 submissive.

Sometimes you will forget. That's natural. Sometimes she will have to remind you. That's her training you to be submissive. But someone has to start the dance, and that someone is you.

Suppose she is empty. She has used up her energy being a competent caring domme. It is your job to fill her up, and that means pampering her. If you are truly submissive to her, you will want to pamper her with all of your heart. If you are not truly submissive to her, then you might not feel like it.

That's natural. Just as it is your job to bring out her dominance, it is her job to bring out your submissiveness. Maybe that hasn't happened yet. But again, you are the one who has to get things started. Pamper her. Imagine a submissive fantasy. You can be a slave serving the Egyptian queen. You are her prisoner and forced to serve her. Or you under her complete control, and you desperately want her to be in a good mood and able to make good decisions.

Life changes ... and I have changed also.  On 10/14/15, I posted my current profile seeking something more specific. I am posting my OLD profile from fall 2012 to fall 2015 here in my journal so that the information in my last profile is preserved.  This is my old profile:

I am enjoying houseboy service, which is my version of "D/s dating". I anticipate that one houseboy will rise above his starting position and become mine in a future Female Led LTR which includes Domestic Discipline.  But we will start with a "hello" and D/s dating ...

I seek a submissive houseboy in the Philadelphia PA area.  You must truly enjoy no strings housework and naked houseboy service (not just put up with it in exchange for other activities).

1. I offer you the opportunity to provide service to a beautiful, demanding, mature, dominant BBW who knows you are submissive and appreciates this aspect of you.
2. You will clean my home on weekends and/or some Fridays.  In my living room and yard you will be clothed because these are open spaces and I keep my private life private. 
3. Often I would enjoy having you as my naked houseboy in my boudoir, my personal Jacuzzi bath, kitchen, studio and office.  While you are naked or nearly so I would be watching you for my personal pleasure.
4. I seek gents in their early 50's to early 60's (slight variation is possible), single male, NON-SMOKER, and local to the Philadelphia area (or comfortable driving here twice a month). 

If and only if you are compliant with all the above, you may contact me through CM leaving your phone number and reasons why I should consider you for this opportunity.  (Yes, it is alright if you need to exchange a few messages before you leave you number.)

• You must not be a masochist or into heavy pain.  I am NOT a sadist.  (Although, I do like my tiny bright pink hand print on your ass.)  I am a Caring Dominant who is strict and stern. 
• You MUST be patient and not demand a full monogamous relationship at this early stage when we are basically only saying a "D/s hello" & "D/s dating". 
• I am not attracted to, nor do I feel the urge to dominate, females.  This extends to men dressed as women.  So I do not seek a maid or sissy.  If I had a boy who liked to dress, I would use this preference of his only as an occasional reward during his training. 

I am a CEO of a small wellness company.  I am very busy with work, care-giving for my seriously ill daughter, and maintaining her apartment. To keep balance in my life I am enjoying my houseboy. 

If you have read this far, you may want to know more about me.  I have a profile (here on Collarme) for my FL DD LTR (Female Led Domestic Discipline Long Term Relationship):  username "YouAreAllMine".  You may read that profile and extensive journal to understand me better.

To subscribe to my journal, view my profile in a list form on your Home page (not my individual profile).  When my profile is showing at the top of your home page, you will see a button for Subscribe to Journal on the left second down under the text of my profile.

After a relaxing bath and lotion massage, instead of OFFERING possible options, the boy took the reigns and SUGGESTED an action (stated his unilateral intentions). 

As he looked over at me, he saw a familiar glint in my eyes, a stern look upon my face and a wry little half smile.  He knew what was coming.  He did not know exactly how.  He did not know why.  But he knew he  made an error and was about to be punished.

"Turn over.  No, do not pull the covers over your ass.  Leave it bare." 

Ah, lovely.  A compliant boy and a sweet bare ass.  As I smack his cheeks with my little hand, the crack rings through the room... well, actually it rings through my chest and makes my heart flutter.  This handsome man has submitted to my teaching and leadership.  As I tower above him and continue to reign down blows, hierarchy is reestablished.  I enjoy the power that is mine.  I enjoy the submission that he has willingly given me by rolling over.  When my hand stings enough to know his ass is stinging enough, I tell him to get up and kneel on the floor next to me.  (This was an educational and recreational spanking.  I could have just reminded him.  But that would not have been as much fun for me.)

I take his chin in my hand guiding his face to look up into my blue eyes.  My face is framed by a lion's mane of auburn curls as I clarify his error for him.  He SUGGESTED (or directed) instead of OFFERING.  In his submissive position, he only has the power to OFFER options or service. Then the Lady will consider his offerings and make the best decision.

In this case, I directed him to get up off his knees, remain naked and make us a cup of tea.  He walked away to the kitchen, somewhat embarrassed by his nakedness in an unfamiliar house.  I saw my clear, tiny, pink hand prints on his bottom and it made me smile broadly.

My urge to dominate is not static, nor is it generic.  My urge to dominate arises when I am attracted to an individual gent.  It is affected by many things: the quality of your submission, the frequency of your submission over time, your reaction to my dominance, and more.

After we spend time together, I will have more or less of an appetite to dominate you based on my reaction to you and on how you react to our time together.  If you want to enjoy my dominance in the future, pay attention to your communication with me after we have time together.

A gent asked me about what I like and what I do.  I will share my response with you all:

Information regarding my interests is listed in my "D/s dating" profile MyHouseBoy and in my "FL LTR" profile YouAreAllMine.  Just look at the list on the left of my profile.  I gave much thought to the interests that I listed.  I recommend you read both of these profiles and journals.  I have produced extraordinarily honest profiles.  Yes, it will take a while to read this.  So pour yourself a glass of wine or cup of coffee and enjoy.  It will be entertaining and you will know much about me if you take the time.  THIS is the best way to know if meeting is worth the time and expense.

Since you asked, I will specifically answer:  I have NO interest in feminizing my boy or boy on boy action.  I use domestic discipline as a teaching tool.  I get no pleasure from inflicting pain.  However, I get great pleasure from knowing a boy would extend himself at my behest ... even to the point of accepting my discipline.  I spank occasionally to teach.  I use a crop occasionally for quick corrections.  Mostly, I lead by the strength of my character and clarity of my dominance.

Before you invest your time and resources in a meeting, you would be wise to read what I have written and make an educated choice for yourself.  After all, I can only dominate if you choose to submit.  

Hello, my dear boys.  I want to thank you for your service.  I have been using you this fall and you have performed beautifully.  My first requirement was that you be patient and step back while I deal with family crisis.  My next requirement was that you gave me your phone number so that I could call when I had a moment.  It turns out that I never had a moment this fall.  But having your good will, patience, and phone number was part of my life preserver to get me through.

I confess that I literally sacrificed my self and my life for the survival of my daughter.  It was worth it.  She is in treatment and I have hope for her life.  As importantly, I have hope for my family boundaries and MY life.  After the holidays, I will get back to my D/s dating on Fridays and Sundays.

I have my new kitchen to enjoy you cooking for me, wearing only an apron tied above your naked ass.  I look forward to my naked houseboy cleaning my bathroom, my handi-boy sanding and scraping as he prepares to paint wearing only his protective eye glasses and a cotton tool belt, and my spa-boy in his Egyptian slave costume providing my massage, manicure, and pedicure.

Indeed, these thoughts have gotten me through this fall.  Could you tell that your presence in my calendar gave me such entertainment and hope?  Could you tell that your patience has already been your first, and cherished service to me?

I hear some on this site complain about the ‘fakes’ and ‘pros’ and ‘posers’.  Well, I don’t know if it is my tremendous good luck,  or that I attract a certain type of gent, or that I am discriminating in who I dismiss off hand … but I have found the most delightful quality men on this site.  And I thank you for your service of patience in recent months.

Hello dear boys,
I am taking a few weeks off from my social life and stepping back from CM.  For the next few weeks, I am running a day program for my daughter and she is here most of the time.  Once she goes back to her apartment, I will get back to enjoying my Dominance and my search for my boy (which I am missing dearly!)

Update 10/20/13:
I am so happy to say things are progressing with my daughter.  She is finally accepting treatment in the hospital.  I will move her during the next few weeks.  Then, my life should get back to normal, with my weekends to enjoy my boy.
LadyD.

A good boy asked me about my thoughts on Domestic Discipline.  I will share them with you here:

For me Domestic Discipline is the practice whereby a Dominant Lady uses corporal and other punishment to deter unwanted behaviors and encourage proper procedures.  In addition, the Lady will use appreciation and praise to reinforce constructive behaviors that benefit the Lady, the relationship, and as a side effect, the submissive gent.

This clarifies and strengthens the locus of power within the relationship and allows each partner to blossom within their roles.

For the Lady:

• Of course she gets her needs met and enjoys having her life improved.
• The Lady has the opportunity of enjoying her power and authority.
• The one with the most knowledge about relationships should have the most power -that is the Lady.
• The one with the most awareness of her own needs should be responsible to get those needs met -that is the Lady.
• The one with the most compassion for herself AND for her boy should make the decisions in the relationship so that BOTH people are satisfied.

For the boy:

• Doesn't it feel so good to have a way to make amends when you have made an error? 
• Isn't it comforting to have clear, strict, and precise directions so that you can succeed? 
• Don't you love being a good boy? 

Domestic Discipline with the Lady in charge provides all this and more.

P.S.  I see online many believe DD is for the male to be in charge.  I have not lived in a world where that made any sense at all to me.  So, for me, DD is a FLR.

A very good boy reminded me of the name of a fabulous TV series that has much D/s content ... and is just a treat to watch: "The Legend of the Seeker".   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyUh2k6PEaU  (Of course Richard is very handsome, but I also find Zed at 17:20 to be quite sexy ... I guess I really do like older gents.  And naked is my preferred state.)

The Agiel (yes, this does seem to be a tortuous dildo) is the weapon used by the red leather clad Mord-Sith

(ooo, these are lovely Dominant women, as are the Confessors).

This weekend my treat will be to watch some episodes of this series.

LadyD.

Who are the people who run toward a burning car crash, a blood curdling scream, a collapsing building?  Apparently, I am one.

At this time last year I thought my beloved, brilliant, astrophysicist daughter would get a treatment team for her schizophrenia.  I thought we would manage her illness as a group and she would build the best life she could.  Then, when her treatment team was in place, I would be able to move forward again in my life.

Yesterday, I found out there would be no treatment team ... no treatment at all, perhaps ever ... and I am the only one here to help. She also has anosognosia and does not know she is ill.  Therefore she accepts no treatment, no doctor, no medicine, no therapy... nothing.  I cannot force her to participate.  She will not do so voluntarily.  So she goes in and out of the hospital every few months and then has no treatment between hospitalizations.  I guess she will do this from now on.

It is a life sentence for her and me.  So today I am so, so sad.  I am crushed.  Yet, in the recesses of my mind I am already planning HOW I will rush toward this disaster.

Why am I telling you boys this?  Because, you have been been my solace all this challenging year.  I have enjoyed my dominance & your service.  I have been entertained and found an oasis in the weekends with my boys.  I have even found a few truly good friends. 

I tell you this because I may disappear for a bit ... or I may use you more than ever.  I do not know.  If you want to be of service to a beautiful, wonderful woman who runs toward a burning building, then message me with support, make your offer of service, and be patient.  Remind me of your offer and be patient.  Know that your service is valued.  It is indeed a high quality to be a submissive man.

Gratefully,

LadyD.

P.S. It is now Labor Day and I have developed a plan.  I am moving my daughter within a few blocks of my home so it is easier to care for her.  I am getting some hired "friends" for her so someone will visit her daily - and I can take time off to have my personal life.  I am a 27 year experienced, quality psychotherapist.  But I am not supposed to treat my own daughter.  So I will train her hired "friends" in a treatment modality called LEAP (from the book I am not sick, I do not need help.)  Together I hope we can someday convince her to accept treatment from her own doctors & therapists.  If not, at least she will have company in her insanity and not be alone.

This morning I reviewed all my journal entries.  It made me weep and it made me smile.  This last 10 months have been such a difficult time in my life with my seriously ill daughter ... but such a delightful time as I enjoy and develop my dominance and my houseboys.  Thank you dear boys.  You have meant more to me than you could know.

Read my full journal if you want to know and understand me better. 
LadyD.

When my kitchen is done ... and I require a rest from all this work (both with my boy and on my own) ... I know what I want...

You will take me to the beach for the day.  You will wear a tiny bathing suit (and lots of sunscreen that I will apply as part of my claiming ritual).  I will wear a flowing sundress and big hat.  You will carry everything.  I wonder if any one will notice that I made you paint your toe nails bright red?

A few weeks ago, a guy really irritated me.  He was fabulous on the phone so we arranged a meeting.  He did not follow proper protocols as I had laid them out, so we did not meet.  This left me disappointed (because he did sound so delightful when we talked) and hurt (yes, boys, you do have the ability to hurt a dominant woman).

I found a scenario developing in my mind.  It was not about the brat who had irritated me.  It was a scenario about a good boy who is reliable and who will allow me to vent my irritation.  He will extend himself at my behest ... just because I said so ... without question.  I will write about this good boy, so you may put yourself in his shoes.

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We had a lovely brunch so that we could reconnect and settle into our relative positions.  You brought my tea and fixed it.  You cleared the table at the cafe'.  I noticed you squirming a bit in your seat.  I smiled as I remembered the black thong that I told you to wear.  It was riding up your ass and slightly uncomfortable.  I asked if you give yourself to me for the rest of the day.  You said yes.  I clarified, with a devilish look in my eyes, that I mean for the entire day, as long as I want.  You looked nervous as you said:  "Yes, Maam."

When we went back to my house, I relaxed in the living room, twirling my pearls as I read my book.  You gathered your cleaning supplies and cleaned the entire living room from top to bottom.  You announced that you were done and I asked:  "Are you sure?"  "Yes, Maam."  I picked up my white gloves.  I could see your brow was sweating.

You had forgotten several places that left a smudges on my gloves as I checked your work.  You scribbled feverishly in your notebook making sure you would remember each spot.  After inspection I asked how many infractions you had annotated.  "4 Ma'am."  Now up until this time, you have been fully clothed.  This is my living room with open windows.  I do not permit naked houseboy service here.  However, I required swift discipline at this moment, so I called you over to me.  You were nervous and excited as I unbuttoned and unzipped your pants.  When you knelt down in front of my on all fours, your sweet cheeks were bisected by the thong.  They were perfect targets for my open handed smacks.  4 smacks on each cheek for the 4 errors made.  I do love MY little red hand prints on your ass.

Next came the part that I had really been looking forward to. Because you were so compliant with your punishment and indeed did finish the living room so well, I granted you the privilege of naked house boy service in the other areas of my home.  I demanded that you strip in front of me, putting each item of clothing ... even your shoes... in a bag.  I then locked the bag and put the key in my bra.

No boy ever has cleaned all the areas of my house at one time.  Today I would get everything I wanted. You ARE mine until I let you go.  Now that you stood naked with the extensive cleaning list in your hand, I went to get my crop.  "You will clean each room and then double check that you did not miss anything.  I will inspect each room and if you miss anything, you will feel the sting of my crop on your naked ass, your thighs, your back, or where ever I choose."  I pointed out that you are my prisoner today.  I will not give your clothes and shoes back until you are done.  I will enjoy your effort and disciplining you as you need it.  And when you are spent, my house cleaned, my frustrations vented ... then you will join me in my Jacuzzi ... my good boy who has served me so well, and we will have a peaceful bath together.

In correspondence with a gent, I was inspired to write this.  I am posting it here because it will help you understand me and what I offer (and do not offer):

So ... you ask "How would I use you?"  I would use you exactly as my profile states.  (I am an exceptionally honest woman.) 

• I would enjoy you as my houseboy, cleaning for me for my pleasure and amusement, and also because it improves the quality of my life.  You would subject yourself to this use at almost every visit.  In order to enjoy additional service, you would first spend time cleaning.  But, this is not just cleaning.  It is a statement of position and hierarchy.  It is a practical version of kneeling before the Lady and kissing her foot.  Indeed, for much of your cleaning tasks you would be on your knees before me (sometimes with your naked ass in the air and genitals dangling for my pleasure.)
• You would subject yourself to my direction and corrections.
• I would enjoy you sitting at my feet, following my directions, as you provide pedicure service.
• You would be my chauffeur while I run errands and my company as we dine. 
• I would use you as my masseuse and spa attendant, enjoying long bubble baths.
• I have a voracious desire to own my boy's genitals.  Taking possession binds me to him more than is appropriate for a houseboy, so I have used my imagination to find ways to enjoy these urges in gradual stages.
• When we meet I will tell you what type of underwear you will wear.
• I will tell you how I want your pubic hair to be for me.
• As you serve me during houseboy tasks I may decorate your genitals as I choose, for my amusement (I do so with respect and safety in mind.)
• As I get to know you better and trust you, I would take control of your orgasms, both with me and on your own.

All of this is a gradual process, even for a houseboy position.  It starts with a message, a phone hello, a public meeting, and then if we are both comfortable... houseboy service.

As a recreation, I have been planning a future remodel of my kitchen.  I was torn between light wood and white cabinets.  Then I saw my #6 photo and decided ... I must have a white kitchen.  Now, I continue to seek my boy who will serve me in the kitchen and elsewhere.  (Note:  my boy will be considerably older than the one in this photo.  I seek a gent in his 50's or early 60's.)

If you worship the female body, then you must enjoy "The Great Wall of Vagina" --Which of course is incorrectly named in this artwork. These are VULVAS (the external genital organs of the female), not vaginas (a fibromuscular tubular tract which is a sex organ) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioy2ivfTl5g (copy paste the link, or search for it on YouTube)

I now require a Friday office boy.  For the last 6 months I have been coping with constant hospitalizations of my family member and just tossing everything into my office when I came home for a brief time.  Now my office REALLY needs attention.  Do you desire to be my Friday office boy?  

I also require a camera boy to operate the video camera on Fridays.  I must make some videos for my business that I will post YouTube.  You need not be skilled, just able to read a manual and try hard.  Together we can work out the details.  You also need to enjoy taking orders as I am a firm task master when I work.

If you have interest in either of these positions, message me and tell me why.  First we talk, then meet, then enjoy D/s service.

LadyD.

A boy said:  "I sense you would like to punish me."
Another said:  "You'll be wearing those lovely tights for me.  I am only offering helpful advice. I like the picture. It gets things moving."

Notice how both of these are comments about what I should do to the boy or for the boy.  These boys are lucky they made these errors with me and not a sadistic Lady.  I will crisply educate them.  They will not forget the lesson.  However, it will not be about the pain.  It will be about the position we each have agreed to hold.

Here is the rule: 

• A boy may never tell, suggest, or comment on what the Lady should do to him or for him.
• That is topping from the bottom.  The boy is telling Her what to do.  Period. 
• It does not matter if he thinks it is a good suggestion, or just an idea, or if he is trying to active listen to her. 
• In the D/s world the submissive does not lead.

• A boy may offer, ask or beg to do something FOR the Lady.  That is service.  And the boy will obey and do whatever the Lady commands in response to his offer of service.

Note:  After the D/s experience, when we are relaxing and talking, and WHEN I ASK, this is when you have the opportunity to speak.  Only then will you tell me what was good for you and what you are yearning for.  I will then take this information and use it to my advantage, any way I want, in my Domination of you.  I hold the reigns.  I control.  Yes, you matter, but you do not lead.  You do not tell me what to do!

LadyD.

When I first posted this profile, I was inundated with responses.  Most were delightful gents seeking the houseboy position.  Some were rude, nasty comments that I shall not repeat.  However, one comment, I think intended to be nasty, stuck in my mind.  The guy wrote, in the midst of a critical message: "What the hell do you want, a bunch of boys to slave away in your house, yard, & office?"

I did not intend it to be thusly, but yes, that is exactly what I want.  As it turns out, this "D/s dating" is good for me.  And much the same way a wise vanilla woman would not "go steady" with a guy she just started dating, I find that I am having several houseboys at the same time. OMG, do I really have a stable of houseboys?  Why, yes, I do! 

Also, I think the houseboy experience allows each of us to enjoy D/s in the real world, not just in staged sexual play scenes.  Of course Domination is sexually exciting to me.  The quiver of fear in the voice of a submissive boy warms my heart.  However, the surprise is that I am developing friendly feelings (interest, concern, kindness).

So I thank the rude guy who thought it was so awful that I may have "a bunch of boys".  His comment caused me to seriously entertained the thought... and I do find the thought quite entertaining.

P.S.  This is a comment from one of my boys:  "Hello LadyD, The worm referred to in the journal is just that. Being in Your presence as one of Your naked houseboys is delicious as is submitting to Your discipline and power. i am in a constant state of arousal by You Ma'am."

I have had many requests for HOW I lead in a FLR.  Even though a houseboy position is a very limited relationship, I will share some information about a leadership process that helps the boy to succeed and provides better service for me...

When you present yourself for houseboy service, you will  have a little spiral bound note pad with a small pen or pencil that clips on or threads into the spiral bound.  You will thread a ribbon or string through the spirals and tie a length so that you can wear it around your neck.  This way, when I give directions or verbal corrections, you can write them down, right then and there on the spot, without going and looking for your notes. 

This is MY notepad, around your neck.  Your use of this notepad will prevent me from having to repeat myself.  I also like the way it feels to have MY notepad around your neck.

After your service, you will review the directions and principles I have given you, and make special note of them.  For example:  “Rinse or replace the rag regularly so that you are not using a dirty rag, which only wipes dirt around.”   

You would be wise to review your notebook before your next service because I will be looking for these directions and corrections to be followed precisely.  My second corrections will not be merely verbal. 

With this process, you will improve the quality of your service with every experience.

You will also become a resource for me.  At times, I may ask you transcribe your directions into text and send them to me in a message on CM.  This will help build my service manual for long term maintenance of my abode.  Hummm... indeed, the secretarial task of building this manual may be given to my office boy.

Ah, isn't this delightful?!

I require a boy to assist me.  I am totally real and truthful.  In order to clarify the truth of who I am, I will be taking some fresh photos for my profile.  Soon, I will give a boy the honor of assisting in my photo shoot.  In the future, I may journal about my plans for my photo shoot.  It would be best if it was a boy with whom I have already developed some trust through houseboy service.  You may contact me if you are local to Philadelphia and wish to apply for this position.

I posted this profile seeking my houseboy for reasons stated in my profile and journal.  Since first posting, I have learned something.  This idea of household (or yard) service is a wonderful way to begin a D/s relationship, whether the connection remains lighter or develops into more. 

As I live through this process, for me it has become like the D/s version of "vanilla going bowling or to the movies ... that is, dating before becoming more involved".  It is a delightful way to get to know and trust each other before more substantial activities begin.  I have had an overwhelmingly positive response to my houseboy search and I look forward to enjoying the continuation of my D/s version of "dating".

With that as my backdrop, I would like to share a scenario that ran through my head as I was anticipating having a boy to work in my yard today...

I directed him to come in work clothes and to bring spare clothes and shoes.  He was a good boy and arrived dressed properly with a bag in hand.  I was to work in the garden too.  I wore a low neckline with my ample cleavage pressing upward because I wanted to enjoy his distress as he struggled not to look.  I also chose to wear very form fitting leggings so that every time I bent over, it would be clear that one single layer of fabric lay between the crisp autumn air and my bare sweet ass.

To set the proper tone, I led him by the hand into the back yard.  I directed him to kneel at my feet.  I unbuttoned his work shirt and wrote “My yard boy” on his chest in black marker.  To the neighbors he looked like a hired hand.  Between us, he was marked and we both knew he was mine.

I cleared the spent flowers and brush quickly and powerfully, leaving large piles of material behind me for him to bundle, gather, or compost.  He was a good boy and followed directions well.  Soon our work was done but I was not.  I don’t know why, but suddenly I wanted to see him crimson with embarrassment.  (Was it a gift to him because I knew he would be delighted with the humiliation … or was it a thrill for me to experience that I had the power to command him, even if he did not want to do it?) 

I had and inspiration.  Right there, outside, with little privacy, I ordered him to go to the corner of the yard and stand where I can see the front of him.  He looked worried. Could he see the devilish gleam in my eye?  “Unzip your pants.”  He looked at me pleadingly.  I glared at him.  He complied.  “Pull your penis out.”  He spoke my name, not as a salutation, by as a plea.  I laughed and swatted his bottom with a switch.  He complied.  “And now, stand there until you can pee.  I will wait.”   Ahhh.  What a good boy.  What a good, crimson red, big, strong boy.

There is more to the scenario ... but I will keep that rest to myself for now.  I must go have an orgasm.

The Long Haul

I arrived at her house yesterday to find her illness was much worse.  Her symptoms had taken over her and her life.  Yet I will not let her go.  Even now, I am making my next plan for how to help get her the treatment she needs to fight this terrible disease.  I am in this with her for the long haul.

Why do I tell you boys this?  Because I must also take care of myself if I am going to make it through this.  That is where you come in.  During these next many months, I cannot let go of my experience and enjoyment of my Dominant Self.  I will continue my search for my houseboy in the few minutes I have here and there during the week and more so on the weekends.  The search itself has been such a pleasure.  You boys are so lovely.  Every Sunday, I will step back from her illness and give this day to myself and my needs.  That means, among other things, that I will enjoy my Dominance and my houseboy on Sundays.  This self-care is what will help me make it through the long haul.

I am happy to resume my search for my houseboy.  First we will message here briefly until you are comfortable sending a photo and phone number.  Then we will meet to see if we want to proceed with service.  Finally, we will set up a Sunday when you will have your trial cleaning.  I will enjoy being dressed in my office attire, including pearls and heels.  You will wear regular clothes ... with what ever I have commanded on underneath.  The depth of your service will adjust over time. 

Recently I spent much of my time tending a family member with a serious illness.  During this time, I really missed my Dominant side.  It was as if part of me had been paralyzed as i lived these months without my Dominance being expressed.  (But you know all about this as you live your life with your submissive self hidden.  It hurts and yet we persevere.)

As my family member required a little less time with her care, I came back home and realized I had much cleaning to do from the time I was away.  Hummm... perhaps I could enjoy my full Dominant Self and get my house in order at the same time.  This is what inspired me to post my "myhouseboy" profile.