Collarspace

Don't let the smiling face fool you. I enjoy being a Domme and the dynamic surrounding that connection. I love the intensity, having strict control of your mind and body, the expectation that you strive to excel in service to me. Do I love being a Goddess to you? Yes, of course. But in the middle of that, we have to also be lovers, partners, playmates and most of all: Friends that trust one another explicitly.

I don't list my interests here because I prefer to discuss them, by phone, when the time is right.

And please don't call me "Mistress" until I've bestowed that honor upon you.

My Ideal Person:

--Single/unattached submissive male

--Seeking a Female-led LTR

--Adores the BBW body type

--Between the ages of 55 and 70

--Lives in California (preferably in Central Cal)

--Liberally-minded

--A non-smoker, no drug use

--In possession of a wonderful sense of humor. D/s is serious, "weird", fun and sometimes hilarious. Let's laugh our way through this when we're not so caught up in the intensity of it all.

--A sub in the bedroom; active and dynamic in the "real world". Alpha males encouraged to apply. 😊

Certainly, there may be exceptions to the list above, however, those matching these criteria are most likely to get a response.

Note: My pic was taken on 10/31/2023. Please have/send only recent pics.

My new pholosophy: Scare off a man with my (sometimes over-) enthusiasm, put up a new pic and move on. But men, please remember that sometimes over-enthusiasm is not desperation. Is it really so hard to believe you are likeable? Is it also difficult to know that you might be wanted but not needed? I am Pisces...we love the idea of love. But don't worry: Once the new and shiney has worn off from you we WILL see through the decorative wrapping that held such promise. Let's just hope the return window has not expired.

I had someone message me about their interest at 5:50PM. After I wrote a response and pressed SEND 40 minutes later at 6:30PM, I found out he had blocked me. If you list yourself as a submissive and you do this to a Domme, I think you probably have more control issues than a room of Dominants. Just because someone shows as being online here, it doesn't mean that full attention is on this website. As a matter of fact, there are times when I just do not log out. So many subs claim that they have been looking for Domme a long time. If that is true, can't you wait another few hours...a few days??? If your feelings get hurt so easily that you need to block someone for not responding on YOUR timeline, perhaps you need to rethink about how this is working for you.

When I am speaking with a new potential submissive male, one of the simplest tasks I assign is that the sub will text me a brief 'Good morning, Ma'am' upon waking and a 'Good night, Ma'am' upon going to bed each day. It is a simple protocol that I use to gauge actual interest and the ability to follow instructions. I make it very clear to submissives that I am seeking a serious long term relationship and daily contact is part of that. I have seen very few submissives who seem to be able (or willing) to follow through with this. Since so few subs can manage this task, am I being unreasonable? If a sub had a legitimate reason for missing one of these check-ins, I would accept a legitimate excuse so long as it is not a frequent occurrence. Is the inability to perform this task a measure of the quality of subs on this website or just the ones that I attract? :) Ms. A

After much searching, am all set to relocate to the Bakersfield area in the next few weeks for a new job. Still seeking a submissive male within a reasonable driving distance.

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