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***Update - 05-21-17*** Damn! It's been three years since I last updated anything! It's been a fun/stressful three years. It's had its ups and downs. The last two were kind of downs as I didn't have much time for play....or any time really. I have just gotten myself a new submissive! Sweet young man, lots of potential! Welcome to you newsubboi4F! We are very much in the getting to know you phase, but it looks good, very good! ***Update - 03/03/12*** I'm looking for a long term relationship. I'm not looking to meet you in the next hour, or the next day or for the next week. If you are not prepared or willing to start something long tern, I would suggest you move on to someone else. Please be willing to get to know me as a person, find out what I like and what I'm about, as I will do with you. If you are married or in a relationship....I would suggest you find someone else or hire a pro....I've done my time as "the other Woman" or "the one that can fulfill your need that your partner doesn't get about you". I'm done with that. It's time for me to look out for myself and what I want and need. I'm still looking for a service sub or slave, a sex sub or slave and a female. Just need to find the right combination of people to complete my "family". Ms. Carla ***Update - 01.25.11*** Time for an update! It's been 8 years (going on 9) since I started on my journey in the realm for BDSM and what a journey it's been! I have met some of the most incredible people and have had some wonderful times. Oh the asses I have beaten! Such joy for me and pain for them! As it's a new year, it's time to embark on a few new adventures. I think this year I'm going to start looking for a female sub/slave. I've never had one of those before. I don't know how it will work out, but it should be fun in the process! Watch out ladies.....I'm on the prowl!!!!!!!!! Another new adventure I've started on is that I have a sub/slave that is now my "wife". I never thought I would have a wife, but it is a wonderful thing! Where this will lead us in the future, no one can say, but he is a wonderful person and I'm looking forward to this new chapter! ***Update - 06/01/2010***

It's been 8 years now! WOW! How time flys when you're spanking ass....oops.....having fun! Wait! They're the same thing! ;-)

Still spanking and a whole lot more! Every year I find that I want to add more and more to my repetoire! Spanking, cbt, bondage, chastity, body worship.....

Now I'm looking to add extreme spanking, play pierceing....a bit more of an edge to things!

And as you can see from my journal, I still love my sissies! LOVE 'EM!

Not to say that I don't love my "vanilla" moments, because I do! I'm still looking for an equal balance.

Help me find it!***

Mistress looking for someone to spank! Maybe more....that depends on what you have to offer me in the way of service.

I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for about four years now, so I still think I'm a newbie, but I learn fast and love to experiment.

No Scat, knifeplay. All other activities are negotiable.

WARNING Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications***

Update - 05/27/2007:
I am adding "Submissive Trans" to my seeking section. I am also thinking of adding "Submissive Female" too. I have always considered myself "Straight", but the more I'm in the lifestyle, the more I find my horizons starting to broaden!










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 Dominant Female

 No. California 


 5' 1"



 African Descent



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Journal Entries:
11/30/2013 10:06:54 PM

Sometimes I wonder why I even bother!

12/31/2012 8:11:00 PM


11/5/2012 1:22:56 PM

All my bois have really bad colds right now! No wonder I want to hide from everyone!

10/21/2012 7:20:55 PM

The very new slut that is now under consideration...just got a call from someone he used to serve under his former Mistress.  Going to go suck some dick and do some serving tonight.  This is working out well already!

10/18/2012 7:22:05 PM

Two new pics of one of my boys!  With his sexy ass that I plan on doing many things to!

10/13/2012 2:00:04 PM

Just put up three pics of one of my new favorite bois.  he is such a good boi and fun to play with!

6/14/2012 10:04:42 PM

Had a good session with my new boy tonight.  Sent him to the store to get a butt plug and some nipple clamps.


The store didn't have the clamps and no regular butt plugs.  But My boy got something better. A vibrating butt plug with a wired remote with 4 speed settings.


I edged and milked him for about 30, maybe 45 minutes.  I was a nice Mistress and let him cum eventually.  Had him on the phone the entire time so I could hear what was going on.  he enjoyed the hell out of it!


Looking forward to doing that to him in person.....soon!


Ms. Carla

6/13/2012 5:48:49 PM

As of last night, I have another new play toy!  My new boy and I played last night.  Even if it was long distance (me at home and him in San Diego), it was still fun.


He is a good boy and knows how to service a Mistress, even from 600 miles away!  I got some very lovely pics last night and they excite me very much.  I can't wait until we are finally together in the same room.


I told my boy that I can't wait to violate his ass with my strapon!  he's got such a lovely ass..begging to be fucked!


he was such a good boy last night.  I only had to tell him once that he was responsible for cleaning up his own mess (licking up his own cum)! 


All the boys I play with are good boys and this one will be a very good addition!


Ms. Carla Sealed

5/4/2012 8:42:41 PM

Just uploaded and new pic of my new property.  Tiny little piece of meat, good for nothing but torturing it!  I'm going to have fun with this one!



12/24/2011 7:02:10 PM


11/1/2010 7:29:10 PM

Been a while since I've written anything.  Not much going on really!

Have not talked with buttercup in ages.  Don't know if his wife ever found out about his wanting to be her cuckold or not!  Sad much potential there!

psg is doing well.  Have not played with him in a while.  he contacts me, but so busy with work, don't have the time.  Also sad!

princess is doing well.  he's pantied 24/7 now!  Lovely!  We've been together a very long time and probably will be together for a long time!  It's a very intense relationship....even if it is from across the country!  I often wonder what it would be like if we lived close together!  WOW!

Working on getting two more subs...more on that later!

Now we come to popstar!  Just acquired this one.  A lovely cross-dresser from the NorthWest.  she is now under blue collar consideration by Me.  she's a lovely gurl and I'm enjoying getting to know her!  I hope she works out as well as some of my others!

10/10/2010 3:59:46 PM
-Put this in your profile or journal if you know someone who has survived or died of cancer-

12/31/2009 6:35:22 AM
Happy New Year Everyone! Welcome 2010!

7/25/2009 10:32:03 AM
Maybe someone can help me figure something out!

Why is it that some "so-called submissives" or "so-called slaves" feel the need to write to you and TRY to insult you because you are not their type of Mistress or Dominant?

If you don't like the way I look or what I have to say in my profile....please feel free to keep on looking!  But don't feel the need to write to me and TRY to put me down to make yourself look or feel better!  Because, #1- It's not going to work, #2 -  you have some serious self esteem issues and I want no part of them!

Rant for today!

Mistress C

7/22/2009 5:27:24 PM
Man!  Do I ever have a bunch of pushy subs!  I'm spanking each and every one of them!  

Just because my last journal entry mentions Christmas!  You'd think the world was coming to and end!

So, let's see what's been happening.  Had surgery in April....went very well. I have aquired some new slaves though!  Good news!

There is toydan.....good boy!  Local.  Taking it slow with this one.  Good with chastity!  Likes to have his ass spanked and we have started a bit with some anal training! 

Then there is my sissy robyn.  Unfortunately, she's a too far away from Alaska!  But my sissy robyn is a wonderful little girl and she loves her Mommy!  W/we can't wait to finally be together so that I can put her little clitty in chastity and grow her some boobies and treat her like the c**k-loving, cumslut that she is!

Then there is my newest aquision.....sissypinksarah!  Oh my goodness!  Talk about a trailer trash, cumdump, c**kwhore, filth loving, f**kpig!  FABULOUS!!!!!!

Then there is my clayton27.  This is a special one.  A newbie to many things.  If only we had a chance to do half of what we've talked about.  Unfortunately, clayton is moving very soon and I will miss him terribly!  It was fun while it lasted!

Can't forget to mention my psg!  Always there with a willing c**k to be tortured with the TENs unit!  And has the bestest, biggest nipples for playing with.....YUMMY!

Ok..that's it for now!  Until something else exciting happens!

If I don't see you at Dore Alley, I'll be seeing you at the Folsom Street Fair!

Mistress C 

12/25/2008 2:04:29 PM


12/21/2008 11:02:44 AM
Have I mentioned before....HOW MUCH I HATE LIARS!!!!!!!!!!!

11/28/2008 8:07:08 PM
Hello All....

It's been quite a while since my last entry.  Since I last wrote, my job has gotten more hectic, so I don't have nearly the time, nor energy, to play that I would like!

Still looking for a surrogate Domme to do some physical training for my princess.  W/we have a couple of fine prospects and I look forward to getting to know them better and seeing if they are a right match for U/us.

Still playing with my psg...such a good pain slut and fuck slut!  No matter what happens, we will always be together!  he takes good care of Me when we get together and I never tire of him!

I have acquired two new slaves...neither of which I have collared yet...but I don't think it will be long before that happens.

The one lives in Seattle and he should be down here next month.  Very eagar to please, wants to be my personal slut and is a bit of a pain puppy too!  I like them like that!

The other lives close to me and is a very good boy!  I keep him in chastity during the day right now.  We are training to keep it on longer than a day...but that takes time.  Very sensative cock and balls!  I love doing the "helicopter" on him!  W/we are going to do anal training next....should be great fun!

I think that's all I've got for now.  Stay tuned!

Mistress C 

6/15/2008 9:56:50 AM
I have come to a decision...For my own mental health and stability, I cannot get involved with any more married submissives or married slaves!  I'm sorry, but my mind and heart just cannot take the pain and anguish anymore!

I will stay involved with the ones that I have already, but I will not take anymore on. 

My problem is and always has been that I get too emotionally involved with my subs/slaves.  I care too much for them and want to see them happy.  I know that a lot of Dommes/Doms think that this is "all about me" and "only My happiness counts", but I've never been that way.  To me, both parties need to get happiness out of this "relationship"..without it, you may as well not be together.

Because of my thinking, I have gotten involved and trained some wonderful subs/slaves.  Some have been married to "vanilla" women, or women that they thought were vanilla.  Just when I get them trained, the wife decides that she all of a sudden wants to try BDSM!  Go figure!  So she gets a pre-trained sub/slave and I'm left to look again!

Don't get me wrong, I have some wonderful singles subs/slaves too, but they are few and far between...and most are far away from me too.

I would ask the proverbial questions, "What the hell am I doing wrong?", but I don't think I'm doing anything wrong!  Maybe I'm just not a good judge of character?  Could that be it?  Maybe I'm truely afraid of commitment, on a subconcious level?  I don't think I am.  Maybe I should just stop caring about people and only care for myself and what is most important to me?  I can't, I'm not programmed that way!

How do I finally find that person that is right for me, that's not married and wants to be with me and me only?

I don't think that there is an answer to that question.  At this point, if there were, I feel it would probably be in the negative!

5/25/2008 11:07:10 AM
Just when I thought things were good....

I am so looking forward to receiving my slaves birthday present....

But I would really like to find the one person that would put me first!

5/22/2008 9:20:43 PM
Ladies and Gentlemen - girls and boys - pervettes and pervs!

It's been a rough couple of months for me, but things are getting better...I think...

Those of you that actually read my rantings and ravings will remember that I told you about my boy that is under "blue collar" consideration...?  Well....his birthday is coming up next month and we had a chat about it a day or so ago.

he has decided to give me a present for his birthday!

We are going to have a "no safe word" session!  I know for sure that two things are going to happen....I am going to tie him to his bed and I am going to put a blindfold on him.  Everything after that is at my discretion!  But I'm sure there will be some spanking and a ball gag....Oh!....and we have to use his new mask!
W/we will have to give him a couple of enemas because I like a nice clean ass before I violate it with a strapon!  There will be cornertime and slave positions and nipple torture and cbt and some Icy/Hot.  I've got to use my inflatable butt plug on much fun!  There will be body worship and vibrator play!

But I think the two things I'm really looking forward to are locking him in his chastity device and using clothes pins on him.  As many as I want and anywhere I want!  That's his special present to me!!!!!!

I can't wait!

4/27/2008 9:12:43 PM
Well....I think I would be in less pain if someone just stabbed me in the heart right now....oh wait!  Two people already did that today!!!!!!!

3/16/2008 6:19:11 PM
It's 1/2 way through March and I've really had no time for play.  I have met a couple new in particular that I hope will work out the way I want.  I still have one under  blue collar (you know who you are) consideration, but we don't talk much because of our schedules....that is a shame really because he is a wonderful submissive and I want it to work with him too.  But what can you do?!
I hope I get to play soon, I'm starting to get a real itchy trigger finger and I need to spank, punish, torture and humiliate someone soon!

2/24/2008 11:03:23 AM
I got a message from my princess the other day.  he said that due to some personal issues...some of which I know nothing about....he will have to be away from me for a while.

This has happened before and I don't mind.  I have other boys to keep me busy and I'm meeting new ones. 

I wish him the best of luck and I hope that he can get things together and not be away too long.

2/2/2008 8:57:13 PM
I know it's February and I'm late saying this, but Happy New Year everyone!  I hope 2008 is better than least for me if not for anyone else!

I'm feeling a bit frustrated these days!  Most of my subs are long distance.  This is the lot I have chosen for myself and I accept this, but it's still hard when you want to play with someone and they are 1500 miles away!  The two collared subs/slaves I own, that are local,  are not full time (oweing to other obligations), so they are not always around when I need them.

I've been battling a cold since before Christmas!  It came on fast, hard and dirty the week before and it's been on again, off again since then.  It's now in it's on again stage!  That's a real pisser!

I do have a bright spot!  I now have with me a sub/slave boy that is now wearing a Blue Consideration Collar!  I am very excited about this one!  I think this one will work out just fine and he'll be receiving his real collar from me.  When, I can't say....we'll have to see.

Mistress C

12/15/2007 7:58:59 AM
Well, once again, the holiday season is upon us and I am in no mood to deal with it.  I guess I have a case of the "holiday blues", like millions of other people in the world.  I know it won't last, but it's hell to go through!

On a brighter note....I made a wish on a falling star the other morning on my drive to work.  I do hope, with all my heart, that it comes true!

11/12/2007 9:05:43 AM
I had a great day yesterday.  It's so nice to find a person that you get along with so well!

I met a newbie online and we clicked.  We've been to dinner and had two wonderful encounters.  Both on lazy Sundays with nothing to do but explore our bodies and laugh and have a good time.

I don't even consider this person a "submissive".  He's a "play partner".  Someone to get together with to have a good time and create good memories.  Along with my other subs and slaves...LOL!

I haven't mentioned it before, but I know I've found the perfect slave for me, but he's 1/2 a world away right now.  It will be a while before he gets here.  So I wait....

Mistress Carla

10/7/2007 7:20:30 PM
This is a rarity for me....two journal entries in one day!

But I have to get this off my chest...

I know we all hate it when people play games with us!  But what's even worse....and all the game players do when they don't admit that they are trying to play you!

For me, the worst is when a sub tries to "top from the bottom" but never admits that's what he's doing, even when it's so blatant and you've called him on it!

These are the people that never take responsiblity for their own's always someone else's fault!

Ok...rant over for today!

Mistress Carla 

10/7/2007 8:36:53 AM
I don't update my journal nearly as often as I should, but sometimes I just don't get around to it.

I went to the Folsom Street Fair for the very first time a week ago today.  I went alone...I should have gone with someone.  But having said that , it was a very unique experience and I'm sure I'll be going again and again.

It's wonderful to be in a crowd of people, even though I'm not big on crowds, that understand the way you think and accept you for who you are. 

I saw some things I had never seen or two I hope to never see again....and many things I hope to see again and even practice!

Didn't stay long because my back was not acting it's best that day, but I can't wait until next year!

Mistress C  

7/4/2007 9:52:41 AM
Well, it looks like I spoke too soon...again!  That someone special turned out to be not so special.

I don't think I will ever understand how someone will get to know you, learn to like you, have so much in common with you and then decide to drop you without saying a word!  Don't you think it would be a good idea that if you want to not be with someone, you should tell them?  Not put them on ignore and leave them in limbo wondering what happened?

Ok...I'm done ranting for now.

6/24/2007 4:13:06 PM's been almost a month since I've posted a journal entry.  I really should keep up on this, but I've never been much of a journal writer.
I don't know if I've mentioned it, but I started going to a monthly munch in my area.  It's a group for People of Color and those that love them!  I have to say these are the best bunch of people I have ever had the privilege to meet and I look forward to going every month!  I had to miss this past meeting because of car problems, but I will be there with bells on next month.  Of course I'll be a bit jealous of most foks there next month because Black Beat is coming up in August and I know they are going.  I could not afford it this year, but next year I will be there!

I lost my princess, but I have gained my sweetpea!  They are actually one in the same person.  We lost touch for a while...we were both going thru a rough patch....but we have found each other again and it's a very good thing.  I missed him very much!  I just wish we could find a surrogate disciplinarian for him....he lives on the East Coast.  If anyone has any ideas, please drop me a line.  We need to get him well spanked!

I've met someone very interesting.  I don't want to say to much about this person (don't want to jinx it)....but things look very good.  I'll let you know!

5/26/2007 8:56:54 AM
Well, it's been a long while since i've here's the latest for anyone that cares...

I may have lost my "princess", but I have now gained a "sweetpea".  he is wonderful and he will be mine for a long, long, long time!  But since we live on different coasts our relationship will have it 's major difficulties.  But it will be nothing that we can't overcome.

I still have my other subs and slaves out here and I'm working on getting a few more.  I'd like to have a nice stable of different personality types...and each one is better at one service than the other.  I love variety!

So, let's see....I have a "sweetpea", a "sunshine" and a "psg".  I'm working on aquirering a "spankee" and a "total deviant"...those are always fun!

I know I need more, but they'll come along when needed.

Mistress C

2/22/2007 7:18:48 PM
...and now for the bad news!  I've lost my "princess". :-( 

I need a new princess to panty and call my very own.  He should be single and know that as my princess he will be wearing panties and oossibly a bra (that is optional - we'll talk).  I'm still looking for that "Special One", be he submissive or slave.  I'm also thinking about starting a poly family....just thoughts and dreams right now, but if I can make it work...then all the better for me!

2/20/2007 8:52:33 PM

It's been a long time (once again) since my last journal entry.

I have had a few nice sessions with my psg....he is always ready for a nice spanking or to be used however I want to use him that day!  I just wish we had more time to play together, but that's what happens when you have two people with busy lives.

12/25/2006 8:36:16 AM

12/23/2006 11:10:38 AM
My little psg was is time to update my journal.  It's been a long time.
Well, the world doesn't suck anymore, no more than the usual things...poverty, high crime, Iraq war and all.  But, I'm learning to deal with all things and am trying not to let so many things in my personal life get to me.
I have a local slut here that I play with as often as I can and we had a good session about a week ago!  We took it up a notch!  It was really good and I can't wait to do that again.  he's a real pain slut and I love to spank him....he's got a great ass for a slut!  I also love to stick my finger up his ass and massage his prostate....good times for all!  I have just accquired another little tramp for my stable and I can't wait to put him in some frilly little panties and use him to my hearts content.  I also think my little psg and I will bring him into one or more of our sessions!

It's all getting much better!

9/2/2006 8:35:09 PM

The world pretty much sucks right now....but I'm sure I'll get over it and survive like I always do!

7/13/2006 5:38:56 PM
It has been a long time since I've written about my little princess, or written at all.  I know I will punish him for not keeping up with his journal, but that is my prerogative because I'm the Domme and he's the slave and I get to tell him what to do without doing it myself.

I will say he has been a good princess lately and calling when he panties, but he hasn't been writing about it like I have told him to.  I am sure he will be getting back on track soon or else he will have to deal with me and I will be very harsh with him. He doesn't want that!

I have also acquired more slaves and have been training them also.  It's a tough job, but someone's got to do it...

They are all good boys and all very different, but all very special to me.  I can't wait to see which one will reach his full potential under my guidance.  I know my princess is very close. 

1/9/2006 7:13:20 PM
Well, I see my little princess has pantied himself again!  I am very proud of him!  He knows I know what is best for him and he does as he is told.  He makes me very happy!

1/1/2006 5:23:23 PM
It's been a long while since I have posted anything here.  I had to tighten the reigns on my princess.  I was a little lax in his training, but that is now behind us.  Once again, he is on the way to being the perfect bitch for me.  There are times when he gets a little above his station and forgets who he is and what his purpose in life is, but that attitude is shortly adjusted with a few curt words and a difficult task.  I wish they were all so easy to train.

I have a couple of other slaves now that require training and they too, are coming along quite well.  It is a little difficult to train long distance, but if you establish the loyalty to start off with, it's not so bad.  I like the challenge!

Mistress C.

7/6/2005 10:16:23 PM
My precious princess is on his way to being the perfect little bitch for me.  he got the present I sent him and it excited him so much he couldn't contain himself.  Sometimes I think I spoil him...and honestly, I do.  He gets liberties that he wouldn't if he were living closer to me.  But his bitch training is going well...and he looks really great in a pair of lacy see-thru panties!

Mistress C

6/11/2005 9:54:40 AM

I am still trying to find someone to use my Phiadelphia boy.  I need to have him used by an older woman.  Someone in her 50's or 60's with an insatible appetite for sexual satisfaction.  Someone who maybe could use a human toilet for her pleasure.  Someone who has a girlfriend her age that would like to play with my boy too.
  It would be nice if you don't mind being photographed or video taped - I would like to see some of the action here on the West Coast!  If you don't want to do that, that's ok too, but he will give me a report of how well he pleased or displeased you after the encounter.  If he displeased you, please let me know and punishment will be applied.  Even though I'm 2000 miles away, I can still punish him.
  I am still open to having my boy used by a man or men, so guys please contact me if you need a toy for the afternoon.  He's great fun for either sex. 
  Contact me here and I will put you in touch with my playtoy and you can find out how good he can be!

Mistress C 

2/20/2005 6:28:54 AM
I own a slave in the Philadelphia area and we are looking for someone whom he can be used by, male or female.

If you want to use my play toy, please contact me and we will discuss this. He is a good slave and very obedient. But we me being so far away, we need to find someone to use him as he needs to be used.

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