Here is a story a wrote to a chic on CL...it all worked out for a great friends with benefits til she moved

Here is the little tid bit I wrote: 

I would call her into my office and tell her that the project we were working on was of great importance to me....of course she responded "well then you better work on it all weekend and be prepared for a change...it is small potatoes from my perspective...so get to work and all see you at the meeting...send me a power point of your presentation" and she turned and began to stride with those lovely legs that were enhanced by her high heels. Then I could not hold back any longer....this chic needed to be brought down a notch or two to say the least...hold up on minute...I want you to look at this file. As she glanced at it her face went white and she tried to cover it up with a feeble ..."ohhh this is nothing....just some accounting errors that I have been working out with that department". "Ohhh really, thos are some big errors...they must have got there ass on the line for that one....here lets give them a call and see how it is coming...." i said as I picked up the phone. She panicked and grabbed the phone and suddenly became a nicer person.."well actually I kind of borrowed it" she said. "Borrowed" I responded...lets check this out with security financials perspective or maybe just plain old security....she became very nervous and blurted "out please don't do this to me" ...to which I hung up the phone and stated the situation out clearly to her....wrapping it up with the devastating statement of "you will be required to obey my every command or face some serious jail time, you will be my little pet....and I will enjoy you when I wish" Now you have 10 seconds to think about it...or I will make the call....If you decide to agree to my terms you will walk over to the couch and stand there and remove you clothes nice and slow.... 

Well my cock got so hard as she breathed out "Damn pervert" ....and walked over to the couch and slowly took of her skirt and blouse...revealing a nice body ...once she was done taking you clothes off I told her to get down on her knees...as she did so....I told her to crawl around in a circle....I was hard now that I grabbed it and gave it a hard squeeze....good girl I said now reach down with you mouth and grab your panties and carry them to me ...she looked at me with total contempt but obeyed me. Once she got to me as told her to "DROP THE PANTIES my little pet" and laughed as they landed in my hand...The first thing I noticed was that they were wet...no they were actually soaking wet...so I stated " is this game turning you ...your panties are absolutely soaking" she blushed and said no you creep this is your doing!!! "now now" I responded that is no way to talk to your new owner is it pet...now you will have to be punished ...turn around and spread your legs nice and wide...now arch your back a little more....good girl...now push that bottom up to the sky...higher..." as I gave her a solid but generally playful slap on her upturned rear...."..."now are you going to be good or not" as I reached down and felt her wettness ....well well Are you sure you don't like this?...you are not always this wet are you?" now lets go over some rules....every morning at 8:00 unless otherwise informed you are to meet me here is this same position...2) you are to wear short skirts and blouses with 3" heels or higher 3) when alone you will address me as sir ....is this clear. She stated a quick and rude "Yes..." I quickly slapped her upturned rear again a little harder than last time and told her that she didn't say sir....now say it like I want my little pet. "Yes sir I understand your rules" she stated...good now ask nicely if you.. my little pet can please me ...she winced as these words left my mouth and said " Can your little please you sir" of course in one second...I just have to taste your lovely little wet delight first and I am sure it will be great fun to watch your body betray you as you are forced to endure my skills. ...after you have had your pleasure and show me that your really enjoy being my little pet you can turn around and do your best to please me....I like it all and like to play and play...hope you like it like that too..... cause you will be playing a lot…now enjoy my skills my little pet 

Just a quick not on some profiles I read and further elaborating on my last journal posts:

When someone states that they "have no limit" .  How can you be serious and say this ....sure maybe you have a higher than usual pain threshold or desire to be completely degraded...but no limits what so ever....that could get you involved in some very damaging situation...I will not even acknowledge the possibility of those limits.

Johny

Here is the next part of that mail response:

Hello...(again):
I just wanted to add that your likes and dislikes are very much in line with my own.  This next part I am hesitant in discussing because you might get the wrong idea...but I have (in the past) played the submissive role.  With inexperienced girlfriends it would seem that they were unable to take charge completely and I would be directing my own domination at times.  And would usually result in my escaping there control and taking charge.  In the very beginning I would also be hesitant to be really aggressive and dominant in my role as I was brought up to respect women.  Viewing the typical chauvinist male as nothing more that the short sided, undeveloped, egotistical or the extended description of chauvinist pig.  Once an experienced female told me that I was not actually submissive and was probably actually dominant.  I remember how can this women know all this from are very short time together, but as she was right I now know she had great intuition.  My hesitation to dominate women would generally erode as I learned that this was acceptable behavior and actually a fundamentally needed behavior to behave by as these women deeply desired my dominance.  Also learning to communicate fully on both parties limits is essential but often not adequately done.  The internet, of course, helped both parties express and learn the importance of fully disclosing their limits.  Even as a dominant there are certain limits.  I have no desire to be involved with the most extreme limits such as scat, scaring, cutting, and while I do not mind piercings I do not have the knowledge or skill to actually safely pierce someone.  This is my expanded perspective of what you stated in your profile.   And yes I am a Dominant male and the same age as yourself.  Thanks for taking the time to read this fairly extensive perspective.   Johnny

This is a reply I recently wrote with respect to a CM profile:

Hello,  I noticed that you have viewed my profile and just wanted to say hi.  I am just a fun easy going laid back kind of a guy in demeanor but I would say most people view my as energetic and aggressive (this is mostly associated with sports or athletic activity....i.e. work sex (for those who know) etc.  lets see well my profile gives some other info about me. 

I agree with you on the the concept of kink being a subject state of mind.  If the dominant one is not in touch with the submissive ones need and limits and has to keep asking walt ls thls ok...is that too hard...etc.  Then the submissive one tends to feel that they are just being walked through the scenario and not being "taken" on a blissful experience (or something to that effect).  So regardless of how the submissive is tied, stimulated and dressed the overall experience will not surpass that of a dominant taking control (with respect to limits) with no props, costumes, or toys.  However the use of such toys can be important addition in the overall experience.  Well that is my perspective.  I hope I correctly understood what you were stating.  Let me know how you feel about my perspective on you profile.  Thanks Johnny