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| | I don't do slavecations! It's full time or no time! |
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| | The no test.. red flag..
If you say No and No isn't respected. This isn't one you should be tangling with. |
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| | What I'm looking for since I've gotten.a slew of messages
Right now: friends to talk with and learn new things from. I've no desire to be owned, collared, a live in slave or slut, bred or otherwise or to fullfill some fetish quota.
I'm hear to learn from others experiences with far more knowledge than mysrlf to help me figure out what I might enjoy in person with the RIGHT person
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| | About me:
Well I can tell you that in the vanilla everyday world I present like a cisgendered male. I am definitely not a passive person, nor am I overly aggressive either. I'm more of a thinker and definitely analyze situations first before just reacting.
With that being said I consider myself a high functioning individual. I own my own home, vehicles, and have raised a child to a functioning adult as well.
I work in the white collar business world in a career that demands excellent communication, planning, organization, and implementation. Those communication skills also transfer into my private life.
I am fortunate that I had Parents that are very open-minded and were able to provide a wide variety of experiences. That open-mindedness has transferred into my life as well. I have traveled overseas for work and pleasure and probably have been to most of the lower 48 states. As a result I have a very wide area of interests including the Arts, classical music, academics, and spirituality.
I'm not obsessed with Fitness but I consider myself to lead a healthy lifestyle and I'm very active.
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During my sexual development I noticed that I never ever made the first move and always let the woman lead. I thought that was just the natural way that things were. After the first move is made, all bets are off I am not a passive or Lazy Lover. I just became to recognize that my need is for a woman to take charge.
During my development from puberty to adolescence I was attracted to women who were intelligent, older, and the Femme Fatale type. The cheerleader or schoolgirl type never did it for me.
Like many of us I started to explore my sexuality and relationships more deeply after my divorce more than 15 years ago. I was drawn to my local alternative community which provided a safe space for exploration. However I am not active as the idea of public play or competitive BDSM games are not something that suits my values.
Female lead relationships, or taken in hand relationships spoke to my inner soul in a way that is difficult to explain. To use an analogy, i view the relationship like a knight and her Queen. The Knight is still a strong capable being who happily and lovingly relinquishes control and Authority to the Queen. I do also like the Goddess analogy as I think there is a spiritual component to this for me.
I have had vanilla relationships where the woman was in control and led the way in terms of vacations, day to day life, and even being sexually in charge. However, I have not had a formal female lead relationship like you would read in a book. I am searching for a woman to develop and work on this with me in terms of rules, limits, and how we would live our lives together.
For the past 10 years I've been at a point in my life where I know this is what I want and need. However, we as human beings cannot give up our personal values for relationship. Those values have to do with other areas of compatibility with a potential lifelong partner.
More to come
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| | I'm definitely not new to this website. I was here in 2005 when it was called collarme. It does seem like there's less fake profiles here which is actually a refreshing thing to see.
I'll be using the journal space to describe who I am and what I'm looking for in more detail. The approval process here it seems pretty spotty. |
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| | Alpha Female seeking an Attractive Smart Alpha sub for a precious loving FLR LTR Ds with lots of TLC BDSM Tantric and Adventurous Quality times. |
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| | It seems to Me that the majority of those who contact Me are simply full of crap! They do not seek real life enslavement. They shun the idea of being placed in a humbler then paddled ,caned and strapped as they scream and cry out to simply begin a new life then beg to be sissy raped before being sealed in chastity is a non starter.
And earning My trust as I earn the sissy candidates seems to be another non starter. Most seem to want to drain my retirement in the scam they are running..
I wonder why I bother.
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| | NO LONGER A COUPLE !!! Single Male here looking for his one ! I'm looking for one woman only . I have not updated my profile because Collarspace admins take forever to approve things . |
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| | Always looking for real time bondage adventures. Can travel. |
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| | I admit, I have selfish, non-kink reasons for wanting to find a service sub.
Having someone out there helping me dig up the garden and sift for weed roots would make everything go much faster.
And of course, now I'm tired and achy and sore, having someone to work the knots out of my shoulders and back would be lovely too. |
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| | All I want to do is submit to someone, get bound/gagged and used any way they see fit...Any Takers?? |
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| | How a few words of his, like a small piece of gold may be beaten out upon the soul without force or violence. |
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| | oooooookaaaayyyy
So I will be changing my profile to state that I am only looking for one slave now, that is bi or bi curious. No longer looking for two. I will ammend the profile when I get a minute and when I have time for my profile to be down for days lol |
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Part 2: it was the best of times, it was the worst of times...a story of coercion.
This second scene was similar to the first. i was reveling in all the painful and pleasurable sensations. Since i trusted him, it was really nice being more private. But then, at a certain point, he began asking me if i would suck his dick.
THANKFULLY i had really soaked in all of the lessons that the class presenters had drilled into me during the BDSM101 talks. Things like "No Re-Negotiation Mid Scene" and even the fact that i could (and should) negotiate for any sexual activity beforehand. THANKFULLY i was not too far gone into subspace and was still able to use my words and clearly say "No". THANKFULLY he respected that no and did not force himself on me.
Even though he didn't force himself on me physically, he didn't stop asking. Eventually he must've gotten frustrated and the scene ended.
As for myself, though, i greatly enjoyed it all (except for the part where it got awkward at the end) and still kept in touch with him.
The third time we played ended up being the last time.
We had set it up to play at the next Insight. After mingling a bit after the classes, he comes up to me with a beautiful woman by his side. He introduces me to her and explains that she is a really old play partner of his, that he hadn't seen in years. He was beaming. He wanted to do a scene with the three of us.
This really blindsided me. i had no interest in doing a scene with more than two people--i was still so new with all of this and didn't want to get in over my head. i mean, it's why i started attending Dungeons in the first place. So that i could have more control over what was going on, and go at my own pace.
i'm sure he was disappointed but he didn't let it show. He explained to her that i was a "newbie" and i wasn't comfortable with that. Looking back, at this point i should have bowed out gracefully and let them have their time together.
He and i played again as planned, in a more public area of the Dungeon this time. Again, it was amazing and i loved the impact play and different sensations. After the scene i was pretty much reduced to a helpless pile of warm, happy goo, in the best way possible. i vividly remember him laying me on the big leather table and telling me to be still for a while and that he'd be back. i layed there, luxuriating in the afterglow for what i thought was a good amount of time. At one point, i got up to use the bathroom...and immediately my knees buckled! i almost fell smack dab on the floor. Luckily i caught myself and laughed it off. It was a good lesson to take standing up REALLY slowly after a thorough scene.
Soon enough, he rejoined me. We lay together on the leather (bed? table? bondage thingy?) and i am enjoying the closeness. It's all so nice. But almost immediately he starts in with asking me to give him head.
i start to feel the push and pull within myself. i'm still feeling groggy and lightheaded from the scene, and really would rather not have to assert myself and say "no" at this moment. It's just...a buzzkill, you know? But i do, and keep on saying "no". And he keeps on asking me.
Soon he is whining and telling me that i told him i wanted to do that/that we WOULD do that in text messages. Now when he started saying that he had proof via text message, i completely "sobered up" and my annoyance at the situation started to turn to anger.
"Oh yeah? Well then, SHOW ME these text messages."
"I can't, there's no phones allowed in the Dungeon."
"Well, let's go out to the foyer and you can show me."
The happy, fuzzy glow was gone and my sea legs had returned. i was more than willing to go out to the foyer and see these supposed text messages.
Of course, it was all laughable. i had never, ever texted him such things, and if he DID have some texts in his phone, they were obviously from another of his many play partners.
He backed off really quickly once he realized i was serious. To this day i really don't know if he thought that little of me---that i was stupid, or that easily manipulated, or if he really was confusing me with someone else.
So yeah. All these words and reminiscing just to say that coercion isn't cool. And it often happens in degrees. Like the frog in the pot, we don't realize the water is heating up until it's too late.
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| | it was the best of times, it was the worst of times...a story of coercion.
So when i finally decided to start attending Kink/BDSM events, i took "baby steps". i went to a Dungeon social/open house, a class, a few things like that. i was really scared to go to a play party (who wouldn't be nervous?), so taking these "baby steps" really helped me get acclimated to being a Kinky Person in the company of other Kinky People.
i'd scan the events section of fetlife religiously, going over the deions and venue rules with a fine tooth comb. i'd ask a few of my trusted friends & contacts if they had been to certain places or if they would recommend certain places.
The twice-monthly "Insight" night at Lair De Sade had caught my eye and piqued my interest. It seemed pretty perfect for me. Although it was a bit of a drive, i could take the 210 and, since the doors opened fairly early, i could count on missing the bulk of the Friday night traffic to LA.
It was a night where the Dungeon was open to the public and the schedule of events went like this:
8pm Doors open.
8:30pm BDSM101/Orientation Class
9pm til 11pm Classes on rotating topics
11pm Play Party begins
For those of you that know me, you know floggers are pretty much my favorite thing, and so i chose to go on the night of their monthly flogger class. How perfect! i could go to the classes, check out the facility, and spend as much (or as little) time at the play party as i was comfortable doing. i think the entrance fee on this night was only around $10 too (not more than $20). So i felt like it was a full night of entertainment without too much investment or risk.
So i went and it was fantastic! For a lot of reasons. The classes were really fun and i just loved the large, rambling Dungeon space. It really felt like a "clubhouse" to me. Something between a legit business and someone's homemade, secret headquarters.
That first night, after the classes, i stayed and checked out the play party for maybe around thirty minutes or so. i hadn't planned on trying to play that night. i figured taking my time and assessing the situation best i could before jumping into playing was a good plan.
And on it went like that. i would go once or twice a month to "Insight", and each time, i would stay a little longer at the play party, soaking in what the class presenters had to say, socializing with some of the various people there, and observing some of the play scenes.
i was waiting to engage in a play scene until i met someone i felt comfortable with. And on my third or fourth time attending, i met him.
He was a regular there, and was the first man i'd met there who made me feel comfortable. We talked at length about ourselves, the parts of our lives that had lead us here, to this lifestyle and to this Dungeon. Although he came from a swinger background, he had been equally involved in attending BDSM events for over twenty years. He made me feel heard and not rushed or backed into a corner.
So that night, we negotiated a scene and played. my first time playing in public. i wasn't doing it because i have an exhibitionist streak, so was very pleased when he began, i could just close my eyes and shut out the world. Forget the fact that there were people walking in and out of the room.
It was an amazing experience, all that i wanted, honestly. He spanked, paddled, flogged me. Afterwards, we embraced, and sat close while coming down from it. i remember him telling me how grateful he was, that he was able to give me my first experience in this setting.
Looking back, the first red flags came up when he walked me to my car. He kept calling me a "bad girl" even after i explicitly told him i don't like to be called that. He kept holding my hand and kissing me, which i really didn't want to do. But it didn't override the wonderful time i had during the scene.
We exchanged phone numbers and said goodnight.
We kept in touch via text and it felt really cool to have a scene lined up for the next Insight. As usual, i went early for the classes. Afterwards, he and i went to a more private area of the Dungeon to play. This was my choice...i really didn't LIKE the idea of being watched so opted for the more remote room. But i came to regret it later.
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| | Alot has happen I want to tell every true dominant out there when my exmistress died in the car crash I was in the back seat I had to go a whole year to learn how to walk and stand again and even now I can't stand long or walk far . But I still know that I can not be anything unless I am used and degraded on a regular basis. And own again . Age and race doesn't mater as long as the dominant is a true believer that degrading is a big part in making a slave under stand he will never be anything without it . |
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| | I'm writting as I'm disappointed here. I have reached out to some and most either don't write back or make getting to know each other very complicated and judgemmental.
So if you are a female looking for a male, a real man boy who does not take himself too seriously and like to have fun snarky conversation reach out. |
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| | Anyone into urethal sounding? I am just starting and have questions. |
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| | Not sure if this will pop up. Profile is under approval for uploaded pictures. I'll be back no worries |
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| | Sometimes in this community i see boys' cocks referred to as "clits" or similar to mock their small size. While i get it, it feels very wrong to me.
An actual clit is such a wonderful thing, a source of Female pleasure, the most noble pursuit. i could never dream of possessing something so divine, only of begging to worship it.
Mocking our useless appendages makes all the sense in the world. But comparing them to clits? We wish. |
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| | To everyone who contact me here.. please be patient with me.. i get at least 3 to 5 pages of messages everyday.. i try to be nice and respectful to everyone and at least say hi and reply to every friendly note which i find interesting .. please don't force me to block you if you want me instantly obey you and reply asap coz it's not gonna happen okies.. i really appreciate everyone no matter how far away you are and what size and how you look and what age you are.. no matter what your motives are .. Thank you and heart always. |
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| | All the fake and bullshit out here drives me crazy now I am so worked up that I feel I need to take my anger out on my Sub.
No details for you.
If You are not local, I don't do long distance my subs must be ready at a moment's notice.
Good luck in your search. READ IT LIVE IT! |
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| | Sadly the following gift card scam is the most action I ever see after joining these types of websites for the past decade
I'm happy to know how serious you are to explore this fetish life style. I shall be taking you stage by stage to make sure you understand all about what I'm requesting from you and what you need to know about my lifestyle. Reading your response let me understand more that you are not a novice but you still require some training in this lifestyle.
I will be more than happy to train and transform you to the best of your ability to serve dominant. I shall be discussing with you list of my kinks, rules and regulations which are mandatory whenever you meet any dominant.
Before that,i have listed below questions i will want to know about you and it is as follow :
1) What do you do for a living ? Do you think your work can prevent you in anyway to explore your fetish side.
2) Have you any fetish or kink you have always wanted to explore before now .. i like you to share with me if there is any ?
3) Do you think you are ready to explore this lifestyle with me on a serious level of commitments, and if you pass your 3 task are you ready to be my collared slave?
4) How old are you presently ?
5) Do you think you can ever get so deep with fetish activities?
6) How can you describe your personality ?
7) What could be your hard limitations ?
8) When you write me a message try to be more polite to include your initial below your message,that shows some respect.
9) Include your picture ?
10) Were do you live presently ?
11)Hope buying the fetish materials for your training session will not be a problem for you ?
12) Once you are ready to serve and train under my command as your dominant master, you should be ready to deactivate your profile from " website " .. Agree or disagree?
I hope to read from you soon.
Dominantly
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| | It's been awhile since I have been on here.
Looking around to see who is still here.
Still looking for adventures. |
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| | Yes guys, keep writing the same rubbish over and over, keep not noticing I repeatedly say I live as a male and identify as one, and have done all my life! Sure keep giving me uninformed suggestions as to how I can fix that as well.
You know if anyone here could actually depart from the normal rubbish sex slave rhetoric that makes you sound like a 10 year old, I might engage. Until then its a no.
I have lived a long time I have done a lot, I know what I am and how I feel and have no desire to be different than I am. |
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| | There are days like yesterday where I am depraved, deranged, brain clouded with hormones and desire and lust. I want to be pushed to my physical limits and milk every possible orgasm I can out of the day.
Then days like today, I want to curl up with my froggy, while Daddy kisses my neck, shoulders, and forehead, telling me how sweet and adorable I am, as well as what a good girl I am for him. If we do anything, I want his gentle soft kisses on my princess parts, his soft tongue lapping at my swollen clit as he moves slowly and takes his time tasting me…
Ugh, I need yin and yang in my sex life… |
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| | kinda sub, kinda fem, enjoy weed alot and raising energy => edging sessions ;-)
Looking for single men interested in a M/s situation, I'm a novice...🌞 opening up to more of life's possibilities. |
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| | Torture, torture, torture
It consumes me
My thoughts. My actions.
It feeds the sadistic side of me.
It provides an escape from the vanilla
It makes the sex better
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| | I am looking for a person or a couple the would be willing to enforce, in what everway they see fit, this slave to lose at least a stone in weight and to tone its body within a 4 week period.
I return this slave would do your domestic chores and any thing else that it is capable of to make your life easier.
This is a serious offer for anyone in the world to consider as travel is not an issue but the end result is! |
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| | *****OWNED BY THE ONE AND ONLY MISS RYNN ****** |
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| | "Why bother chatting online?"
Everyones end game (well most of us anyway) is to find that common interest lifestyle connection in life and in person.. but what about when you're shy about your urges?
Speaking to people online gives me the courage to seek confidence in person (which is crazy to admit because of how outgoing I am with everything else),
It seems like an in person conversation or experience of trying to find a confident Superior who WANTS someone to lick their feet clean and WANTS to use a slaves face as a footrest while they eat their meals or entertain their friends because THEY seek this kind of power exhange is a one sided fantasy that seems impossible to even admit let alone seek out.. I have such a hard time even saying something like this out loud but here online I can at least muster some courage to admit my insatiable urges so I am great for for a community like this..
and I'm not talking about vanilla foot worship.. I love and appreciate this but there is a huge difference between someone letting you kiss their feet just because they are into you and seeking a real power exhange enjoyment for both..
so again
Speaking to people online gives me the courage to seek confidence in person
does that make sense?
maybe we will meet in person one day.. if you're out there..
Sincerely
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| | i find it funny that some do not understand what i write or think, i am not like anyone else and i do not expect them to understand me. i am me and it is who i am!
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| | Some people have contacted me inquiring about the conditions that the slave can expect, asking if she would be kept naked, chained, or if she might be branded.
Im afraid that her keeping will be much more mundane. Her life will be simple, even monotonous, but not unnecessary harsh or extreme. Depending on how things go, she might be spanked regularly for maintenance. Other than that, her existence might even be borderline pleasant as long as she is obedient and respectful. |
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