MisterMichael

For more information about Louisville Munch and local BDSM meetings and events, please feel free to send me a note. We'd love to meet you!

I suppose it's finally time to put up something up on here about me personally...

I consider myself to be well-rounded and well-grounded in BDSM. I have been involved in kink and power-exchange relationships since 2000. My interests are wide and plenty, and I choose not to concentrate too specifically on one aspect or another, but to learn as much as possible about all facets of kink that I can.

I believe that having good relationships is a skill that you must hone, much like a rope enthusiast practices their knots. I feel that far too many people in our chosen lifestyle sell themselves short by concentrating too much energy into the "what and why we do" rather than the "what and why we are." I think that both deserve adequate contemplation and practice.

My dominance is a unique brand, as is anyone else's. My goal in any power-exchange relationship I choose to involve myself in is not to control anyone, bend or break anyone's will, or to manipulate or coerce. I wish merely to inspire deep and free submission in those I exchange power with. I want it given to me organically because my behavior, actions, prowess, temperament, and integrity naturally evokes service and submission to me in someone. Once I have it, I will then take the reigns and the responsibility of refining someone to my ways.

I think it is because of this that I am perceived to be more friendly, more relaxed, and more secure and sure of my own dominance. I do not need to create a fictitious persona for my dominance (Michael is my given name), nor do I insist on any type of honorific before my name such as Sir or Master. Some people know me as Mr. Michael, which is a moniker I created only to differentiate myself from many other Michaels in various communities, and it seemed far less pretentious than other choices :) I don't do a whole lot of chest beating and dominant peacockery (please allow me to invent that word) because I perceive those actions to be those of a role-player. I am not playing a role. I am wired to always be switched on.

I cultivate relationships with many people on various levels as friends, peers, teachers, students, acquaintances, play partners, intimate partners, servants, submissives, slaves, and many combinations of those roles. I believe that relationships should be left to go where they will, to grow ornot to grow in intensity and involvment, to be free to change as is natural, and to end when they must. I haven't considered myself as "poly," in that I have never had a particular relationship that involves more than one other person, and I'm not even sure if that is what I would want or if I am capable. However, I am not a monogamous person. I insist on being the sole manager of my own relationships, in whatever number or capacity they may be, with honesty and responsibility for myself and for others.

I am self-employed and that affords me great flexibility in time, and also allows me to be relatively "out" with my BDSM. Most of my friends are kinky in at least some capacity, and I have no family here in Louisville. I enjoy many vanilla activities, though the activity is much less important to me than the company. I can have fun doing just about anything with the right company. I'm a sucker for a road trip or a great meal, and often spend too much money indulging in them. I love movies and informative television shows and documentaries. I have an acute interest in history, and a more-than-passing interest in politics. I am a political moderate, and I am not registered with any party. I am a musician, composer, recording and live sound engineer, though I have let my talents lie dormant for too long. Music occupies a large portion of my brain, and I listen to many genres and styles, with preference for industrial, electronica, rockabilly, swing, classic rock, 80's, blues, and the great crooners of the 40's.

Over the years I have given great thought to the question of why I am dominant. While I may be a control freak in some ways and very picky in other ways, the essence of my dominance comes from my natural inclination to lead and my desire to learn and teach. I find the roles of leader and teacher to be very comfortable, and those traits are the seeds of dominance in my relationships.

Thank you for reading this far. I know it's an awfully long read at this point, and hopefully it wasn't too boring! Below are some more comments about my involvement in local BDSM communities. It is a very large facet of my personal life and any description of me would be incomplete without its mention.

Like my general interest in BDSM, my involvement in local community started in 2000 in South Bend, IN, near where I used to live. Since then, community involvement has been very important to me. I have learned so much and have met so many quality people who share my interests through community involvement, and it is something that I think almost everyone can benefit from. It is my feeling that everyone should at some point go to a couple of munches or events in their local community to at least check it out and see what could be there for them.

I moved to Louisville in 2001 and again immediately involved myself in the local community here. I have been a regular at Louisville Munch, Paradox Group, Louisville Trailblazers and KUFS munches and events for many years. In August 2006, I created the Early Bloomers group in Louisville as a social and discussion group for people ages 18-35. I have since become too old to participate in that group, but left it in the very capable hands of Miss Minx. The group continues to meet on the second Saturday of every month.

I now participate in a much wider range of groups when I can all over the Ohio Valley in Indianapolis, Cincinnati, Lexington, Evansville, and many other places around and in between. I'm proud to say that I have a huge "family" of friends and acquaintances in BDSM, kink, and many overlapping alternative lifestyles that continue to teach me and help me in so many areas of kink and life in general.

In October 2007, Ms. Constance entrusted hosting of the Louisville Munch?to me after having run it herself for ten years. I was grateful for the opportunity, and continue to host the group to present day. We are a large, thriving, and diverse community that meets several times each month for various social Munches, play parties, activities, and discussion groups. I do hope that if you have any interest in joining us sometime that you will not hesitate to send me a message with any questions that you might have.