Antygrvity

It's been a little while & now it's time to write again. It?s been very interesting, good, bad & average, but overall as everything else, a nice learning experience. I run across alot of profiles where Subs & Slaves are pretty much giving up on ever finding someone perfect for them & others who simply won?t leave open the option of relocating. I'll address the very 1st thing I said 1^st & come back to closing the option of relocating. Giving up, we all have had disappointments, hurt, sadness or mental games played with us in one way or another. If giving up is the answer or being so negative about ever finding the one for you is how you feel you should proceed in life, that?s your right as an adult, but what does that say about your overall effort when things get rough? It takes time, patience, dedication & alot of GOOD LUCK to find someone to spend the rest of your life with. Life is VERY HARD; & finding everlasting love in life is even harder. Not sure how some of you expect it to be so easy, but like any & everything else in life, it?s not, finding the perfect one for you is hard. When you start a relationship off with negativity, negative feelings or walls up, that makes getting to know someone even harder & finding that perfect one even harder. Alot of you approach our way of life with way to open, way to nonchalant & way to naïve, not realizing that you possess such a valuable gift. Yet you give it away so freely. In life we value things we work hard for & sorry to say, ?very few people value, honor & or respect anything given to them freely?. I see & hear about Subs & slave?s submitting to Doms over the net, the phone, never once meeting face to face, never once making that so called Dom earn your respect to be even given consideration for your gift. Then when that gift is stomped on, disrespected, taken advantage of or physically & mentally abused, you wonder why & then carry that hurt on with you to your next relationship & it becomes a cycle until u come to the conclusion that there is just not any good Doms left out there. When does it come a point where you step back & say to yourself ?hey, I have the most precious gift in the world & I control who gets it..!! Listen to me, within our way of life we get the worst of the worst hiding amongst us. The pimps & players we encounter within it for sex or money look like Angels compared to the other evil that hide amongst us. We have the rapist, the serial killers, the child molesters & the physical abusers. If you don't know this, realize this now & stop giving your precious gift away. But mainly, stop using the hurt you carry around for giving that gift away to undeserving, "SO CALLED DOMS" to be so negative in your search for the prefect Dom for you. Carrying around that negativity in your heart does nothing for you besides putting unnecessary obstacles in the way of finding the perfect DOM for you. We all have been hurt, disappointed, mentally & physically abused to a certain extent one way or another, don?t let the person who caused you this hurt & disappointment keep winning by causing you to use it as an obstacle & excuse for your being so negative in your search. Just like life itself, everything has a learning experience within it. Even relationships full of hurt, mental & or physical abuse. Learn from it, be positive, grow stronger, grow wiser, become more diligent & you will be alright. All subs & slaves should be more careful & cautious about who they choose to consider submitting to & even more careful & cautious when they decide to submit to the one they were considering.. However, in saying that putting up walls for the simple fact of being sure is much different than putting up walls because you?ve been hurt or disappointed in the past.

Secondly, the ones who won't leave the option of relocating open when they are seeking the perfect one for them. I'll make that answer short & simple. It's hard enough out here to find the perfect one for you. Once you close off your geographical search & confine yourself to your state & some even your county or city, you make it that much harder to find someone perfect for you & open yourself up more easily to the exposure of fake Doms. There is no corner on this earth I wouldn't go if I thought the perfect one for me was there waiting.

I hope all my GENUINE, LOVELY & BEAUTIFUL Subs & slaves had a nice weekend.

Finally, some1 who gets it on this site. Congrats to traceoflace on your insightful journal entries.. We have so many slaves & subs in our world who forget to keep an eye out for a key element in life. How does a so called Dom manage his / her own life..? Not sure how many of you forget that, but how can you expect some1 to mold & or guide you when their own lives are on a personal road to self destruction.. Excellent entry traceoflace.. Definitely some1 worthy of staying in touch with...

It's been a while so I'll make a new entry.. Seems like our way of life has gotten lost somewhere. I'm really hoping what I've observed happens very infrequently. It seems as if our way of life has been reduced to how much a Dom can control his / her slave in the bedroom or around the house. If that's your idea of what this life is all about, then you have a very long way to go for the true understanding of what the D/S relationship means. Most are fantasy & thrill seekers looking for that next explosive sexual experience. However, as fullfilling as that experience can be, don?t confuse that with being a true Dom or slave.. We live our lives as such whether we are in or out of the bedroom & our presence alone without speaking a word will tell you exactly what we are? Sex should be the last thing on your mind, sex is the easy part of the D/S relationship, u control the mind, the body will submit along with the mind, fall in place & respond to anything you desire. If you?re a sub or slave & you find yourself bouncing from master to master still living a very unfulfilled life. Take a step back & see what your life is based around.. Sex is a key component in a relationship, but it shouldn't be the component... For you pimps patrolling on here, I don?t knock anyone or judge anyone for how they decide to live their lives.. Just remember, us real Doms don?t disrespect your way of life (we may not respect it but we don?t disrespect it either) so don't disrespect ours, there are plenty of woman willing to do whatever you desire.. Leave our good / respectful subs / slaves alone.  

Good evening! I guess I have to make another statement about FAKE PEOPLE IN HERE! Listen, I'm not here to exchange hundreds of messages with u. If you have no intent on meeting REAL TIME, do not send me a message & DO NOT question my motives. Simply stated, if our personalities click, we will meet in person.. PLAIN & SIMPLY, if we are NOT CLOSE, I have no problems with emailing, sending messages from time to time & or saying hello. But if we have quite a distance between us, don't expect too much. I have very little faith in the long distance relationship.. U can't REALLY GET TO KNOW A PERSON ON THE PHONE OR THE COMPUTER... This entry is directed @ certain people & you should know exactly who you are. If u know it doesn't pertain to you, don't take it personally..

Been on the site close to 2 weeks. 1st week went pretty good, spoke to some VERY DOWN to earth people, some feel as I do. this site gets almost laughable when u start reading the profiles (LOL)! Instantly, u can tell who is who! Who's VANILLA, who's here taking advantage of naive, low self esteem people & who's REAL... #1 Key to remember, u can't discipline every1 the SAME WAY.. It's a common sense reality.. Every1 responds to things differently. Once u know some1, u know their strengths, weaknesses, low & or high points & u reward & or discipline from there... I won't give up yet, it's still only been 2 weeks. 1 good week, 1 laughable week so not too bad..