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ConfidentlyDom
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Intense, intelligent and complicated, like a single malt scotch. Quirky, vivacious, spontaneous, creative, spirited and purrfectly playful woman of substance who is working on renovating her exterior as well as nourishing her interior. Plus size gal, for the moment, take it or leave it. Determined (read slightly stubborn). Prone to moments of geekery and clumsiness. Child at heart, bookworm, and amateur photographer. Culture junkie. Adventurer of the world who likes her bourbon neat. Sometimes aloof and finicky. I enjoy organic conversations over coffee or drinks. I live my life imperfectly, with great delight. As always, I'm ever the curious girl.
I consider myself domissive; a flair for submission with an unsinkable Molly Brown type of personality. When someone inspires submission in me, I am loyal, attentive, and loving, with an overwhelming desire to please. Reasonably masochistic and always sassy. I am more than willing to discuss my affinities and fantasies once a mutual connection has been established. I'm a slut... but not that kind of slut. ;-) Also, my life can be complicated, usually in a charmingly poly sort of way. Within my realm of ethical non-monogomy, I consider my relationship style a bit separate and individual BUT it is my wish that I/we establish comfortable social relationships with OSOs. So, if you're not interested in socializing with my network on a minimally friendly level, for lack of compatibility or effort, then please save us both some time and don't bother me.
Please know that I am currently involved in a wonderful relationship with my primary partner. However, I'm receptive to a dominant male play partner that may or may not involve sex but certainly adds a dose of kink and power exchange to my life. I am also open to dating and forming more lasting intimate, romantic connections. I relish encounters that encompass substance, passion, energy, power, sensuality, artistry and a level of refined complexity. As always, the relationship supersedes any other classification. I am me and you are you regardless of what label we may use to loosely identify ourselves as. Above all else, I value openness and communication. Well, of course, there is also the need for us to enjoy each other's company. Sharing fun moments, intimate times and learning more and more about other people is about the most fulfilling activity I know of.
First and foremost, DON'T DICK AROUND. I'm not here to play games. If you have no intention of taking interaction beyond this forum, get lost. NOW...feel free to stop by and say hello if... You find me interesting and think I’m worth further investigation. You're relatively local and serious about eventually meeting. You agree that life is an adventure best shared with someone special. You're relatively versed in the BDSM lifestyle. You have an understanding of ethical non-monogamy. You enjoy the company of someone who complements rather than complicates. You're interested in having mad amounts of fun with a sassy, intelligent, edgy and beautiful woman. You’re not looking for a quick drink and the next warm body. You're engaging, open-minded and playful with an exceptional sense of snarky humor. You're passionate and believe in measured spontaneity. You're familiar with the world beyond your backdoor. You're more sensual than sadist. You feel that you are more naturally dominant.You’re not into drugs or overly religious. You don't take yourself too seriously. You are a great kisser. You can be just as comfortable at a gallery opening as you are a "leather" function/munch, etc. You’re charming and funtastic. You know that your hands are of no use to you if you cannot stimulate my mind. You can live outside the BDSM world and/or very ingenious about incorporating it discreetly into our public life. You're not looking for an instant relationship but open to the possibilities of things growing into something more.
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"It's too early for back stairs and love affairs." -Gabe, De-Lovely.
I simply love this movie. It's in my top ten along with Like Water for Chocolate, The Secretary, and Henry & June.
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"A woman wearing furs, is nothing else than a large cat, an augmented electric battery." -von Sacher-Masoch, Venus in Furs
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"They could save each other, the way poets promised lovers should. Hew as mystery, he was darkness, he was all she had dreamed of. And if she would only free him he would service her -oh yes- until her pleasure reached that threshold that, like all thresholds, was a place where the strong grew stronger, and the weak perished.
Pleasure was pain there, and vice versa. And he knew it well enough to call home."
-passage from The Hellbound Heart by Clive Barker.
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In response...
I did not wish to display my face on my profile picture. It's as simple as that. The intent of the picture is to be inviting. I am just as physical as I am intellectual. If you don't understand that after reading my profile, then it is likely we are not a good match. If you take a chance and extend a greeting to me, then I will illuminate you. A slip into my mind and character is attainable through old fashion, organic conversation. I believe that if you look at my profile as a whole and not one picture, you would see eyes dripping with hope and mystery, a Mona Lisa smile and a very creative creature awaiting discovery.
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"Creation which cannot express itself becomes madness." -Anais Nin
I've been ruminating on this quote most of the morning and I wonder, am I reaching the brink of madness?
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I'm at the edge, on the heels of my overwhelming desire to let go and be completely owned. There was a time when I could have lived with or without but the gears have rapidly shifted and I not only crave but need the power exchange. I feel unbalanced and incomplete. I was reminded of Shakespeare Sonnet 57 this evening. It was a resounding reminder of my desired place.
Being your slave, what should I do but tend
Upon the hours and times of your desire?
I have no precious time at all to spend,
Nor services to do, till you require.
Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour
Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you,
Nor think the bitterness of absence sour
When you have bid your servant once adieu;
Nor dare I question with my jealous thought
Where you may be, or your affairs suppose,
But, like a sad slave, stay and think of nought
Save, where you are how happy you make those.
So true a fool is love that in your will,
Though you do any thing, he thinks no ill. |
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"I am so thirsty for the marvelous that only the marvelous has power over me. Anything I can not transform into something marvelous, I let go." -Anais Nin
By far, my favorite writer. |
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Finally, something of my own.
You are the breeze come through my window...
Invading,
Moving on my legs,
Opening.
You are the hand under my hips...
Clutching,
Across my nipples,
Touching.
You are the tongue on my lips...
Captivating,
Across my teeth,
Caressing.
You are the cool breath on my neck...
Shifting,
Down my spine,
Hungering.
You are the kiss on my mouth...
Tasting,
The fingers in my hair,
Taking.
You are the drinker of my sighs...
Greedy,
The taker of my breath,
Burning.
You are the dream in the night...
Sleeping,
The darkness in my soul,
Awakened. |
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excerpts from
I Always Knew by Rod McKuen
I always knew
that you would find me,
no clock needed to remind
me that it would happen.
I planned on it, worked it out
hid in plain sight every day
knowing you would pass,
that way or this, come along,
go by, pause in moving to
here or somewhere; near or
far it did not matter. You
would arrive.
The strongholds, the havens that
proved weak and wanting, lessons
learned, prizes earned, not always
given. Paths I paved, paths unpaved.
The rest of what I have to offer, little
things this life's amassed; for you,
for you, it was for you I saved
the best for last.
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Wishing that I was at the Meyerhoff right now watching Ray LaMontagne with the BSO. Instead, I'm creating my own concert...
I guess you don't need it
I guess you don't want me to repeat it
But everything I have to give I'll give to you
It's not like we planned it
You tried to stay, but you could not stand it
To see me shut down slow
as though it was an easy thing to do
Listen when
All of this around us'll fall over
I tell you what we're gonna do
You will shelter me my love
And I will shelter you
I will shelter you
I left you heartbroken, but not until those very words were spoken
Has anybody ever made such a fool out of you
It's hard to believe it
Even as my eyes do see it
The very things that make you live are killing you
Listen when all of this around us'll fall over
I tell you what we're gonna do
You will shelter me my love
I will shelter you
Listen when
All of this around us'll fall over
I tell you what we're gonna do
Hey you will shelter me my love
I will shelter you
If you shelter me too
I will shelter you
I will shelter you
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"Duct tape is like the Force. It has a light side, a dark side, and it holds the universe together." ...it makes a great prom dress too. :) |
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It often makes me laugh the audacity of some that I've encountered. It would seem that because I am submissive, I am weak beyond measure. Perhaps broken. A fixer upper. Or because I am submissive, I should dole out personal information at the drop of a hat. Really? Are you kidding me?? I believe that there is a lot of pomp and circumstance on CM (and even the occasional sadistic personality disorder) but with patience and desire tempered with the use of an intelligent mind, one will find handful of gems.
To know my surrender is to know the strength and power that it encompasses. For without it, your circle remains open...
"There are two kinds of strengths: the strength to lead and the strength to follow; the strength to control and the strength to yield. There are two kinds of power: the power to strip another's soul bare and the power to stand naked." -Gurumayi Chidvilasananda |
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We'll love each other if you choose
With speechless lips a little while
-Rondels II, Mallarmé
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I'm new to this website and have had an overwhelming response. Mostly positive, some negative and even one that was shockingly rude. I am here out of mere curiousity. I am no stranger to the lifestyle even though I have been absent for a couple of years.
Three things of note; I am interested in freindship only but I'm open to intriguing developments. I am not willing to relocate at this stage in my life. I currently have a dynamic connection with a dominant however I am very realistic about the lack of our long term situation. |
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| Age: 36 |
| Uk,
United Kingdom |
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