D/s Relationship Preference Survey

In an attempt to better understand the D/s LTR experience of members of this site, i have developed this survey which i would greatly appreciate if Y/you would complete.

1) How many of you have one or more D/s long-term relationships (of 2 years or more, in the same dynamic)?

2a) How many who have not had such a long term D/s relationships, want to be involved in one? 2b) How many don't want such a relationship?

3) Would your primary preference for a D/s LTR partner be:

a) Female
b) Male
c) CD/TV
d) TG/TS
e) Other _________________________________________________________

4) Which role in such a relationship would be your preference:

A) Dominant
b) Submissive
c) Switch
d) Trainee
e) Other _________________________________________________________

5) What would you describe as your primary orientation toward the lifestyle?

a) Service Oriented
b) Sexually Motivated
c) Training
d) Other

6) Gender:
a) Female
b) Male
c) Gender Variant

7) Married?
a) Yes 
b) No

8) Age:
a) 18-25
b) 25-40
c) 41-60
d) 61+

All results will be compiled after two weeks and published here here on CollarSpace.  All participants' privacy respected and preserved.  This survey will not be used for commercial purposes and not published elsewhere than here.

Regards,

kyla joy

i recently discovered a very affordable placement service pairing Female Dominants with sissies, sissy maids and wives This service has a good track record. I am happy to share the details once i pre-quality serious candidates. I have NO financial interest other other stake in this service, just helping out.

This service is US based service has national and international clients. It is operated operated by a friend of mine who is a Domme.

The service maintains a book of Dominants who've disclosed their requirements and desirables for a permanent LTR with a sissy, sissy maid or slave wife against which your resume can be evaluated for long-term compatibility. The cost of this service is $100 half of which will be rebated to you upon successful placement for after a probationary period as defined by the Dominant with whom you've placed. This is national in scope and there is no guarantee that the Dominant you will be placed with will be local to you. So to be considered a serious candidate you must be willing to relocate although the financial burden of the move can be shared with your Dominant as She determines. also be ready to provide a substantial amount of detail about yourself, your interests, desires and fetishes, and your service experience

Further questions, please PM me.

love to all,

kyla

A summary of my experience:

First of all, I am very pleased to be able to make this introduction. My name is Kyla Joy Diamond and i am a TG sissy slave. For the past seven years I have been in service as a housekeeper/maid/cook/laundress/personal and business assistant/party planner/spring and summer time gardener to a Female Dominant in New Jersey. That relationship ended in September an i have now begun to look assiduously for a new position, filled with many of the same responsibilities as my former position The reasons for the demise of O/our relationship I will address under separate cover should this be something You are interested in. I want to make sure that all Your questions are answered honestly and promptly to the best of my ability. I will be be detailed when, explaining my duties,skills and devotions. I have taken care of a 5 bedroom house for 7 years, performing all the routine chores necessary to the running of the household, for a family of 5-7 people over that time. In a typical day, I would do several sets of dishes, washing and putting them away, at least 2 loads of laundry, washed, dried and put away in closets or dressers depending on the article of clothing washed. I am very practiced at sorting by color, and take care never to machine dry clothing whose fabrics do not tolerate the heat well. I have cleaned the kitchen counters multiple times a day and made sure the sink was gleaming white at the end of each day. I cleaning the kitchen and laundry room appliances on a schedule of once to twice a week, depending on the need to do so, including cleaning the stove top, cleaning the inside and outside of the oven and microwave. I was responsible for cleaning the refrigerator, inside and out, once a week and the kitchen cabinets on the same schedule. The garbage was also my responsibility, including the recycling, and included putting out the garbage receptacles for pick up. Every day I would sweep the wood flooring (most of the floors in the house are wood, no carpeting, upstairs and down and in the sunroom, Her workspace. i waxed the floors once a month. I vacuumed the carpets every other day on average. I was responsible for changing bed linens and making sure the linen closet was in order, approximately once every week. I was also responsible for changing the towels out in three bathrooms once every week, washing the old ones and replacing them with fresh towels. The bathrooms I cleaned once every three or four days - sinks, counters, mirrors, toilet bowls and tanks stand, tubs and cabinets - and made sure that the toilet paper was replenished in each bathroom on the same schedule. I placed a fresh roll of paper towels in each bathroom as needed. I dusted all the living room furniture a weekly schedule, bedroom furniture once a month. Door frames, light switches, door knobs, railings were cleaned once a week. Patio doors - once a week. I prepared/cooked and served most every meal in the house for seven years as well, breakfast, lunch and dinner and evening snacks of course, for the entire family or whoever happened to be there at the time. i can prepare/cook any recipe and know over a hundred by heart, everything from chicken to beef to pork, pancakes, eggs, sandwiches, Chinese, Italian, Spanish, American comfort food etc. i make nutritious meals, salads and snacks and always seek to nutritionally balance the meals and exercise portion control when needed. I also bake – cookies, fresh breads, cakes, and pizza from scratch. Favorites include mashed potatoes make from scratch of course (always a favorite in this house), BBQ pork, seafood and chicken soups, fresh homemade bread and rolls, pork fried rice, among other things. I also am partial to more formal table settings and fancy napkin folds. I find the presentation of the food is almost as important as the food itself. I managed the kitchen as well, starting with meals plans and the grocery list, using coupons as well, always managing to less cost. Last year, I saved 40% on groceries off retail on average for the year. I also stretched food by making smaller portions and preparing several different meals using the same basic ingredient(s). Very little goes to waste in my kitchen. My Domme was also very keen on food safety and I have adopted/internalized many of Her rules regarding the thawing, preparation, cooking and storage of food. I have also served as Her personal and business assistant, organizing files, taking notes, preparing correspondence on the clerical side to selecting outfits/shoes for Her to wear everyday top special occasions, bathing and drying Her, reading to Her on the more personal side. I performed as Her assistant in the marketing, planning, strategizing and execution of her business, a male-to female transformation salon run out of Her house. I prepared annual business models, attended to social media, helped organize events and parties, order party supplies cost effectively, cleaned Her studio, makeup brushes and mirrors, windows, emptying garbages between client sessions and acted as photographer many times during client photo shoots. In addition I generally welcome Her clients, offering them something to drink or light food as we may have had on hand. I also acted as instructor for sissy maid training sessions and in selected BDSM related sessions. Since 2008, W/we have had regular parties at the house for CDs/TVs/TGs/TS , admirers and Female Dominants. I would typically be responsible for helping to decide on party themes, I gardened sending out party announcements, organizing the attendance list, setting up the furniture and food and decorative displays decorations according to Her wishes, and for most of that time preparing the food for each party, entrees, sides and desserts included. I also acted as hostess and would be in charge of making sure that foods circulated and that everyone had a chance to try everything. Over my tenure here, W/we have established a respectable garden, filled with annual and perennial flowers which bloom in every season, both in Her front and back yards. W/we have grown strawberries since the beginning, but have added raspberries, blackberries, blueberries and figs to the cultivation. W/we have also grown pumpkins, summer squash, asparagus, zucchini, potatoes, peppers in a relatively small plot. W/we have used cutting extensively to increase the number and array of hostas and other plants. Weeding, mulching, replanting , bordering planting new bulbs and seeds has made all this possible. I also installed a water garden with an upper and lower pond some years back, adding an important feature to the garden. When O/our fence along the north side of the property was heavily damaged in Superstorm Sandy, I laid new cement, re-erected the poles and put the fence back together. I am also handy with light household repairs. In short, i am no stranger to hard in support of my Dominant. I have a passion for service and submission and seek in everything I do to achieve that standard service that You may set. I am confident that I can learn new things, new ways and protocols of servitude and submission expressive of Your way of Dominance. I understand that I am but an extension of You, a calling card of sorts of who You are and what You represent in the lifestyle and the community at large. I do hope that You think this introduction worthy of You, Goddess. If so, I look forward to discussing this with You further at a convenient opportunity. Respectfully and humbly, Kyla Joy Diamond P.S. i can send along my resume and a writing sample should You wish it for future reference.

The School Girl Party on the 3rd of October was another wonderful success.  Next month, and Asian themed party.  Preferred dress: red and white, in any combination.  Details available at www.meetup.com/lefemme/

.  All F/females and cds/t-girls welcome.  If interested, please register on the meetup site and I will send out the address information to you.

hugs,

kyla

The 7^th Annual Sissy Maid Pageant was held under a gorgeous late summer sunshine (not a cloud in the sky!) and weather as pleasant as any in memory for this event.  W/we drew a record-smashing crowd of 70 people, breaking last year’s record by almost 20 people. 

Four contestants competed for the title this year, Sissy Allie, Sissy Stephanie, Sissy Stevie and Sissy Tiffany.   Sissy Allie wore a pink sissy maid dress adorned with lace, white hose, pink flats and her Sissy Maid Academy apron to complete the ensemble.  Sissy Stephanie wore a custom made black cotton sissy maid dress, black flats and a smart sissy maid headpiece, along with her customary location bells.  Sissy Stevie wore an impressive black vinyl French sissy maid outfit with modest heels, white gloves and bells to boot.  And finally, Sissy Tiffany was decked out in a frilly and vibrant yellow sissy maid dress with a lovely yellow bow in her hair and precipitously high 6 inch red heels.  And they were all warmly welcomed by the assembled crowd, who enthusiastically voiced their approval for each of the maids.

The Pageant’s next movement was the food tasting.  Each maid had to prepare a dish of appetizers or finger food for the judges and the audience to sample.  Sissy Allie made a platter of shrimp with special cocktail sauce (wonder what was in that sauce!), after declaring that no one who ever served shrimp at this competition in years prior had ever lost.  Sissy Stephanie prepared scones with raisins and delicious clotted cream.  Sissy Stevie’s offering was miniature banana nut muffins cupped in very small ceramic flower pots.  And Sissy Tiffany prepared meatballs in tomato sauce from a cherished family recipe.  The contestants were judged on the quality of the presentation, the taste and the actual service of the food.

Next was the skill portion of the Pageant.  This year the skill was the making place cards to be used at table for lunch or dinner.  Each contestant was given construction paper, scissors and Sharpies to decorate their place cards.  After preparing their unique place cards and showing them to the judges, the contestants paraded their creations in front of the crowd, receiving a nice round of applause for their efforts. 

The competition concluded with an ensemble show of panties, as the maids lifted their dresses with a flourish and showed their frills and lace to the audience.  Sissy Tiffany then took the stage and performed two numbers as the behest of her Mistress, garnering some wonderful applause from the audience.  

The competition was now in the hands of the judges, Queen Mum (lady Ellen’s mother, Elaine, the Duchess of Brick (Lady Ellen’s Aunt Carol and last year’s winner, Sissy Maid Susan).  Sissy Stephanie graciously announced to the judges that she was withdrawing from consideration to assure that a new winner would be crowned this year, a most laudable and commendable act on Sissy Stephanie’s part. The votes were then tallied for both audience favorite and the LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year.  Crystal performed several selections on her guitar, treating the audience to a very nice (if all too brief) musical interlude while the judges completed their tallies.

With the voting and tallying completed, the winners were announced.  By a wide margin, Sissy Tiffany was chosen as the audience favorite.  Her wonderful maid’s outfit, her dedication to those heels and her stage numbers no doubt won her many admirers among the audience.  But top honors for Sissy Maid of the Year went to Sissy Stevie, who had dedicated herself to this victory, taking the whole week prior to the Pageant off of work just to prepare for this event.  And it showed in everything that she did.  A commendable performance and a worthy winner.

With the winner announced and the prizes awarded for 3^rd, 2^nd and 1^st place, it was time to eat, converse and relax.  Veronica had prepared Caesar salad, cole slaw, chicken pepper steak with rice and trays of submarine sandwiches, some with cold cuts and some with seasoned vegetables.  Kyla prepared honey lime chicken wings, fruit salad, macaroni salad and cherry cupcakes with cherry frosting.  And from all reports the food was greatly enjoyed and heartily consumed by all the appetites in attendance.

The party went on until 9 PM, spent largely in conversation and relaxation on a fine summer evening. 

And so another Sissy Maid Pageant is in the books.  Lady Ellen and I would like to extend our thanks, first of all, to everyone who attended.  Your attendance and support of this Pageant was highly gratifying.  W/we would also like to thank the judges for their participation and Veronica and Kyla for their service in preparing the comestibles.  Queen Mum and the Duchess of Brick are deserving of thanks as well for the flower arrangements and other decorations flanking the stage.  Steffie and her wife Judy performed ably as greeters for the event and W/we owe them a debt of gratitude for this support.   Thanks are also due to other members of Lady Ellen’s family, her husband Kurt, who was the official photographer for this event, her son John, who was the videographer and Princess Elaina, who added a lively dimension to the competition by selling aprons and headbands made especially for sissy maids.  And last but not least, the contestants themselves who offered themselves up for this annual review and critique.  W/we all salute each of you.

Sincerely, and with love and affection,

Kyla

Lifestyle Goddess in Lehigh Valley area of PA seeking dedicated, service-oriented submissive (of any gender or sexual orientation) to provide domestic (cleaning, cooking, laundry etc.) and personal services (including foot worship and body massage) in exchange for play as negotiated. Ideal candidate will be between the ages of 25-55, in good health and have prior experience serving in a Female Led household. Must love and not be allergic to cats either. This is not a 24/7 live-in position but will entail a commitment of 10-15 hours a week. Please reply to this ad if interested. Those considered will be contacted to set up an interview with Goddess herself.  Please direct all inquiries and qualifying e-mail to this address.

regards,

kyla

Okay, so I said to myself that I would never do this, but I find the urge too compelling, my frustration much too high not to. 

As many of Y/you know, we hold a Sissy Maid Pageant every year and every year I invite people from CollarMe who might have an interest, based on their profiles and are local enough to travel to the event location.  The vast majority of those I invite are cd/tg submissives, who specify in their profile that they are interested in domestic service, maid training and the like.  Over the years, I have e-mailed hundreds of people and in all that time maybe a handful have responded.  My messages are very politely worded and shouldn't I think be offensive or shocking to anyone.  But 99% of them go completely unanswered, not even a "No, thank You, stop sending me messages".  Perhaps this is confirmation of what Dommes have been saying about the CM submissive population for years - players, posers, wannabes, sexual thrill seekers - but I don't know that I have even that much information to go on to make that conclusion.

Enlighten me!  What am I doing wrong?

kyla

Does anyone have any references to some reputable kink supportive Bed and Breakfast establishments on the US East Coast?

Thanks.

kyla joy

7th Annual Lefemme Sissy Maid Pageant Event Listing: https://.com/events/175766

The pageant will be held on September 7th this year. As always, the pageant will be held in O/our backyard in Piscataway, NJ and it starts promptly at 2:00 PM, though some guests may decide to arrive early for best seating. There will be several contestants this year vying for the title of Lefemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2012, and W/we will likely seat an expected audience of between 40-50 people. A panel of three judges, including last year's winner, Maid Susan, will judge the contest, compiling each contestant's score in four separate areas. The audience also participates, voting for their favorite, but this voting does not affect the final judging. Awards are given for the audience favorite, then 3rd, 2nd and 1st place. The winning maid receives a sash with LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2013 on it, a tiara, some small gifts and a certificate.

This first movement of the competition is the introduction of the maids. Each is introduced by O/our host/hostess of the event. Brief biographies, written by the contestants themselves, are read while they show themselves and their outfits to the judges and the audience. They are judged on the cleanliness and style of their maid uniforms, including stockings and heels. Poise and deportment are also judged during this section of the competition. Then they all exit the stage and return with their culinary offerings. In this section of the competition, they are judged on the taste and quality of their food, the presentation of the food (e.g, well decorated serving trays are always a plus), food service to the judges and later to the audience and finally how well they negotiate serving guests in the grass in the yard.

Typically, at this point, W/we have intermission and have some entertainment and afford the guests an opportunity to finish their food. Next, the contestants are judged on their knowledge of a particular skill or skills that might typically be part of their duties. Then finally we have a straight poise competition, similar to the of the Miss America Pageant. Each contestant is asked two questions, one of which they know ahead of time and can prepare their answers and the other is a spontaneous question. They are judged on the imagination of their answers and the confidence with which they reply.

After this final movement, W/we do not announce the winners directly. Time is given to tally the scores for all three judges and double check the results. The audience usually socializes during this brief interval. Food and beverages in ample quantities will be available after the winner is announced.

Following the contest, the party will continue well into the evening, with opportunities for additional sissy maid training for those who desire and play activities. Y/you are invited to stay as long as Y/your schedule will permit.

If You know anyone who might be interested in attending this competition, please share this with them and feel free to bring a guest or two.

Thank You so much. W/we hope to see Y/you on September 7th.

Respectfully and humbly,

kyla joy, for Lady Ellen of LeFemme

P.S. W/we are looking for contestants for the Pageant this year. If you are interested or if You are interested in entering Your sissy into the competition, please contact me here on .

Sissy Maid Flash Mob - Summary

Today was the day, and if Y/you missed it, I can already see the tears welling up in Your eyes for not being with us.  At precisely 12:30 pm, dressed in fully sissy regalia, we (Sissy Stephanie, Sissy Carol, Sissy Emily, Sissy Terry and I) converged underneath the clock in the main rotunda of Grand Central Station, and were shortly surrounded by a sizeable crowd, which ebbed and flowed as people passed by.  we were supported by Miss V3 and by MzJazz and a professional photographer who snapped photographs the entire time.  We entertained the GCT crowd (as if being dressed the way we were was not enough!) with renditions of " On the Good Ship Lollipop" and "New York, New York", apologies to Ms. Temple and Mr. Sinatra and, inspired as we were by the locale and its 100th anniversary, we made an imaginary track out of the floor and the 5 of us mimicked a train, chugga-chugging around that imaginary track.  Unfortunately, the Fab Five caused too much of a scene and were dispersed by the police (they were very nice about it) after 20 minutes (5 minutes more that the requisite 15 guaranteed by Andy Warhol), the crowd still continuing to grow.  But not before we had delighted many, clutched some into the bosom of our company for that cherished (at least for the next week) photo and made even the ritually indifferent New Yorker show us his/her teeth in a smile.  So a successful outing to be sure, not even an awkward glance.  My congratulations and esteemed appreciation to my girlfriends for their willingness to be a part of this and teasing disapprobation for anyone else who talked themselves out of attending.  It was a hoot.

Photos will be posted soon.

love, hugs and kisses,

kyla

i just would like to express my heartfelt solidarity with the people, Sommes and their subs/slaves especially, of Boston as they deal with the unexpectedly devastating episode in the city's history. 

Love to Y/you all,

kyla joy

Going to be at The Raven in New Hope. PA. tonight (3/23/2013) with Lady Ellen.  Anyone want to join U/us?

hugs,

kyla

Parties through May have been planned.  See www.meetup.com/lefemme

for event listings, dates and times. 

love, kyla

Calling all Sissy Maids in the NY metro area. Join us midday on Sunday, May 19th 2013 at 12:30 PM as Sissy Maids from around the metro area congregate for a flash mob's "blink of an eye" in the main rotunda of Grand Central Station in NYC. Eisenhower like, we'll meet in the middle, converging from different points of entry, take some photos and see what comes of it all. Safety in numbers, girls, so the more who come, the more pleasant experience for everyone (bystanders included) involved, So press your uniform, straighten those seams, polish your shoes, cause we are going to go castle storming!!

Event Link: https://.com/events/149467

To ll my many CM friends and acquaintances, warmest wishes for the holidays and for the year ahead, from my heart to Y/yours. 

kyla

The LeFemme Holiday Party will be on Friday, December 7th.  All are invited to attend.  Start time for the party has not been decided yet, but once it is i'll publish it here.  We had almost 50 people attend last year.  Looking forward to greeting old friends and making new ones as well.

www.meetup.com/lefemme

www.xdressnj.com

Happy Holidays!

kyla joy

LeFemme Sissy Maid Pageant 2012 - A Review

i thought i would write and provide a synopsis of this year's Sissy Maid Pageant. Attendance was quite good this year. 53 people attended, 73% of those who committed to the event (pretty good i'd say).  As in past years, Lord Salvatore was the Master of Ceremonies, with Lady Ellen presiding over the Skill and Poise segments of the competition. We had 5 contestants, 3 former contestants and 2 newbies, all of whom acquitted themselves admirably. Lady Ellen's Mom, Aunt and i were the judges and instead of being placed on the deck behind the house, this year W/we were full in the garden.

The Pageant was conducted in 4 segments: 1) Appearance, Demeanor and Deportment, 2) Food Preparation and Service, 3) Poise and and 4) Skill Demonstration.  The sissy maids made an immediate impression with there outfits and the audience responded enthusiatically as each paraded in front of the audience.  The food preparaed by the sissies was tasty and also well received by the attendees.  The poise part of the competition was the most interesting i thought, with a great variety in the answers given by the contestants. This year's skill segment was once again napkin folding and O/our third place winner had the most original napkin fold, a diamond leaf pattern!  When all was said and done, Sissy Maid Susan from Philly took first place, her second crown in three years.  The audience favorite was the newest sissy maid, Denise, winning by a signifuicant margin. 

Food was served following the announcement of the winners, served buffet style in the dining room and eaten outside.  There was ample food (i made 10 dishes to serve for the event, Veronica made 3).  The menu consisted of Beef and Broccoli Teryaki, Sesame Chicken w/Noodles, Hot Dg Chili w/Bacon, Manicotti, Potato Salad, Carrot Raisin Salad, Homemade Banana Breach and Peach Cobbler.  The dishes were very well received, and many people either asked for containers to take hiome their favorite dish or asked for the recipe.

Inclement weather, which thankfully held off the entire afternoon, ended the social part of the event and most people left by 6 pm. But some people hung around and W/we had a nice conversation and some tea and coffee with close friends. So all in all it was a great time and worked out famously.

Regards, kyla

LeFemme Sissy Maid Pageant 2012

This year's Sissy Maid Pageant is less than a month away.  If Y/you'd be interested in attending, W/we can assure Y/you a wonderful time.  If you are interested in competing this year for the title of LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year, please contact me here on CM or at kylajoy7588@hotmail.com

.  Full details will be provided on request.  For video of prior years' competitions, please visit the following links:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jj-rHWW1vlk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dt9NQ1RUgAQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgFGnZsyQMY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dc0VxjOFHDQ

Sincerely,

kyla

OKAY, ANOTHER ATTEMPT AT MATCHMAKING.  IF YOU ARE TRANSGENDER, LIVE IN NEW JERSEY OR THE METRO NYC AREA AND ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR A LTR WITH A FEMALE DOMINANT, PLEASE CONTACT ME HERE ON CM.  AS THEY SAY, I MAY HAVE JUST THE WOMAN FOR YOU!

hugs,

kyla

6th Annual Lefemme Sissy Maid Pageant

The pageant will be held on Sepetmber 8th this year. As always, the pageant will be held in O/our backyard in Piscataway, NJ and it starts promptly at 2:00 PM, though some guests may decide to arrive early for best seating. There will be several contestants this year vying for the title of Lefemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2012est, and W/we will like seat an expected audience of between 40-50 people. A panel of three judges, including last year's winner, Maid Steffie, will judge the contest, compiling each contestant's score in four separate areas. The audience also participates, voting for their favorite, but this voting does not affect the final judging. Awards are given for the audience favorite, then 3rd, 2nd and 1st place. The winning maid receives a sash with LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2011 on it, a tiara, some small gifts and a certificate.

This first movement of the competition is the introduction of the maids. Each is introduced by O/our host/hostess of the event. Brief biographies, written by the contestants themselves, are read while they show themselves and their outfits to the judges and the audience. They are judged on the cleanliness and style of their maid uniforms, including stockings and heels. Poise and deportment are also judged during this section of the competition. Then they all exit the stage and return with their culinary offerings. In this section of the competition, they are judged on the taste and quality of their food, the presentation of the food (e.g, well decorated serving trays are always a plus), food service to the judges and later to the audience and finally how well they negotiate serving guests in the grass in the yard.

Typically, at this point, W/we have intermission and have some entertainment and afford the guests an opportunity to finish their food. Next, the contestants are judged on their knowledge of a particular skill or skills that might typically be part of their duties.
Then finally we have a straight poise competition, similar to the of the Miss America Pageant. Each contestant is asked two questions, one of which they know ahead of time and can prepare their answers and the other is a spontaneous question. They are judged on the imagination of their answers and the confidence with which they reply.

After this final movement, W/we do not announce the winners directly. Time is given to tally the scores for all three judges and double check the results. The audience usually socializes during this brief interval. Food and beverages in ample quantities will be available after the winner is announced.

Following the contest, the partywill continue well in the next morning, with opportunities for additional sissy maid training for those who desire and play activities. Y/you are invited to stay as long as Y/your schedule will permit.

If You know anyone who might be interested in attending this competition, please share this with them and feel free to bring a guest or two.

Thank You so much. W/we hope to see Y/you on Septemvber 8th.

Respectfully and humbly,

kyla joy, for Lady Ellen of LeFemme

Lady Ellen and i will be giving a workshop at the Cult of Fury in Wayne, New Jersey on February 25th starting at 7:30 pm.  The topic of the workshop is "Releasing/Harnessing Your Inner Slut" and is designed specifically for crossdressers and t-gurls.  After the workshop, the dungeon will be open for play until 2:00 am and Lady Ellen and i will be available to partner in the dungeon with anyone who so desires.  The cost of the workshop/play party is $25/m, $20/f, $40/couple. With Membership Card: $20/m, $15/f, $30/couple.  Directions to this event  are available at: http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=130+Ryerson+Ave.%2C+Wayne%2C+NJ+07470

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We hope to see as many of Y/you as can come.

hugs,

kyla

ALL:

Wishing everyone on CM a very Merry Christmas and the happiest of New Years.  Best wishes for a wonderful and personally rewarding 2012. 

love, hugs, kisses, whips and spanks,

kyla joy

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!

HOLIDAY SEASON PARTIES

This year W/we'e holding two parties to say goodbye to 2011.  The first is an Arabian Nights theme party scheduled for Thursday, November 10th.  The festivities start at 7 PM and will include a belly dancing lesson.  So dress like an Arabian princess, a harem girl if you like or even a sultan and enjoy the company and the decorations.  Food and drinks will be provided.  The suggested donation for this event is $20.

The second party is O/our Holdiay Open House on December 6th.  The house will be open from 1 PM until around 11 PM, plenty of time to drop by and partake of the festivities.  Come and go as you please.  Dress code is anything from casual to fetish wear.  Snacks and drinks will be provided in the afternoon and dinner will be served in the evening.  There will be no cost for this party.  So please join us, but beware a Christmas sing-a-long could happen at any moment.

These venets will be held at O/out house in Piscataway, NJ.  Address and directions provided upon request.

hugs,

kyla joy

Hurrican Irene, that wicked She-Devil, is now fading into memory, come and gone like a desert chirroco.  W/we lost power for 5 days but muddled through anyway.  To blow out the last remnants of Irene, Goddess and i are hosting a Back-to-School party, a school girl fetish event on Saturday, September 17th @7 PM.  For all those who have schoolgirl outfits, tame or naughty, they have been longing to wear, this is your opportunity.  So come join us for a night of food, fun and the probable spankings.  Suggested donation is $10.  Dommes/Mistresses are welcome to join U/us to add to the festivities free of charge.

kyla joy

On Saturday, June 25th, Goddess and i hosted a Greek Goddess Party in O/our spacious backyard in the ample shade of the large trees.  Among the 30 attendees were the Goddesses Athena (Mistress Lala), Artemis (Mistress Annette), Psyche (Mistress H) and Thetis (Andrea).  Lady Ellen was Aphrodite for the day.  W/we were all entertained by those attending, inlcluding Angelica who rendered beautiful poetry, Alison who added selections of classical melodies on the tenor and soprano recorders and TAS and Michael who gifted U/us with feats of strength.  Antiochus (Jim) presented all the Goddesses with scrolls which paid homage to each of the Goddesses inestimable attributes.  The food was ample and delicious and served by Sissy Stephanie and Maid Emily, who were of course the soul of decorum.  The party started around 3 PM and broke up around 9 PM though a few guests did stay till well part midnight.  An Olympian day we had by all.

kyla joy

Sissy Maid Competition 2011

The 5^th annual Sissy Maid Competition was completed under an umbrella of mostly sunny skies and warm late spring temperatures with only a light breeze.  There were ultimately 4 competitors, Sissy Madison, Sissy Steffie, Sissy Angelica and Sissy Tiffany, who returned to compete for the second year.   A very close competition ensued as each competitor dueled by each action and service to win on each judges scorecard.  In the end, Sissy Stephie of Boston won the competition while Sissy Tiffany was the runner-up for the second consecutive year, followed by Sissy Angelica and Sissy Madison.  Despite finishing in 4^th place, Sissy Madison did capture the audience favorite award and made Her Mistress justifiably very proud (though in truth it is clear that Her Mistress is justifiably proud of Her everyday).   

Despite the lower than expected attendance, an audience of 33 people witnessed this event and by all accounts had a very enjoyable afternoon and evening,   The was more than ample food, prepared by Veronica and Kyla, and most everyone sampled everything and even had seconds and thirds on some dishes.  The conversations afterward were lively, congenial and RELAXED.  By 6 PM the crowd had thinned by half and everyone moved inside where the conversation continued for another several hours.  Sissy Stephie, the winner of the competition, and Walter handled the foot care for the day for those Ladies who desired to be pampered.  The party came to a close by 9 PM, the end to a fabulous day.

NOTE:  To those people who confirmed for this event but did not show and did not call or write before the event, I wish to express my personal disappointment.  W/we were expecting over 70 guests and Veronica and I prepared food for 70.  Less than half of that number were actually present for the competition.  In the future, for this or any other of O/our events, please have the courtesy to check Y/your confirmations several days in advance and accurately indicate whether or not Y/you definitely attending so that W/we do spend the time and effort (not to mention the expense) of preparing more food than necessary. 

Sissy Maid Competition Update

While the entire event is free as in past years, W/we will be collecting tax deductible donations (either by cash or check) for Sylvia's Place, an LGBTQIA charity for homeless youth in New York City.  Please give as generously as you are able.  W/we request that you place your donation in an envelope and contribute it at the appropriate time.

Also, W/we have a vendor at this year's Coimpetition.  Discreet Boutique will have a table in the yard display their wares.  You might be able to find that special toy you've been searching for or some fantastic scene clothing and jewelry items at very affordable prices.  So be sure to check out the display.

Respectfully,

kyla

SISSY MAID COMPETITION UPDATE

There are now 6 confirmed contestants for who will vye for the crown of LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2011.  W/we have also added a talent segment to the competition, where each maid can showcase a unique talent to the judges and the audience. 

Hope to see Y/you all on Saturday May 7th for the festivities!

kyla

In case Y/you might be considering attending the Sissy Maid Competition this year, here are some details regarding the Competition.

First of all, the competition is on Saturday May 7th.  The competition will be held in O/our backyard in Piscataway, NJ and it starts promptly at 1:00 PM, though some guests may decide to come as early as noon. There will be 5 contestants this year, the most in any year we've held the contest, and W/we will like seat an audience of between 40-50 people.  A panel of three judges, including last year's winner, Maid Susan, will judge the contest, compiling each contestant's score in four separate areas.  The audience also participates, voting for their favorite, but this voting does not affect the final judging.  Awards are given for the audience favorite, then 3rd, 2nd and 1st place.  The winning maid receives a sash with LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2011 on it, a tiara, some small gifts and a certificate.

This first movement of the competition is the introduction of the maids.  Each is introduced by O/our host/hostess of the event.  Brief biographies, written by the contestants themselves, are read while they show themselves and their outfits to the judges and the audience.   They are judged on the cleanliness and style of their maid uniforms, including stockings and heels.  Poise and deportment are also judged during this section of the competition.  Then they all exit the stage and return with their culinary offerings.  In this section of the competition, they are judged on the taste and quality of their food, the presentation of the food (e.g, well decorated serving trays are always a plus), food service to the judges and later to the audience and finally how well they negotiate serving guests in the grass in the yard.

Typically, at this point, W/we have intermission and have some entertainment and afford the guests an opportunity to dinish their food.  Next, the contestants are judged on their knowledge of tablesettings.  W/we prepare bags of dishes, glasses, silverware and napkins in advance, seating at the bottom of each bag the name of the tablesetting they are to configure correctly, such as breakfast, dinner, high tea, etc.  Each contestant prepares the table according to the tablesetting defined and each is judged on how well they approximate the ideal tablesetting for that meal.

Then finally we have a straight poise competition, similar to the of the Miss America Pageant.  Each contestant is asked two questions, one of which they know ahead of time and can prepare their answers and the other is a spontaneous question.  They are judged on the imagination of their answers and the confidence with which they reply. 

After this final movement, W/we do not announce the winners directly.  Time is given to tally the scores for all three judges and double check the results.  The audience usually socializes and we (Maid Veronica and i) begin to deliver trays of food to a table behind the audience, rounding out the tasting into a full and proper meal.

The party continues well beyond the determination of the winner, often lasting till 9 or 10 PM.  Y/you are invited to stay as long as Y/your schedule will permit.

If You know anyone who might be interested in attending this competition, please share this with them and feel free to bring a guest or two.

Thank You so much.  W/we hope to see Y/you on May 7th.

Respectfully and humbly,

kyla joy, for Lady Ellen of LeFemme

Upcoming Events

LeFemme is hosting several events this from now through the spring.  The list with synopses is below:

1/23/2001 - Ballroom Dancing (Dance Studio in Greenbook, NJ, Private Lesson).  W/we have arranged with a local dance studio for a closed door, after hours private lesson for basic instruction in a number of ballroom dances.  This event is open to all GGs and T-Gurls.  Cost is $25.00 per person.

2/11/2011 - A pre-Valentines Day Lingerie Party.  Come dressed (or dress here) in Y/your finest, prettiest, silkiest and/or torrid lingerie.  We are having a guest from Taboo Pleasures in attendance to show you their collection of lingerie, corsets, maid outfits, dresses and toys.  Be sure not to miss this one, ladies.  Donation is the customary $5.00 per person.

2/26/2011 - A double event day!  First, we are hosting Christine Block, an NYC-based speech therapist who will coach us on cultivating a more feminine voice.  Then after we've all have a chance to practice these new skills, the evening will be given over to the LeFemme version of the Dating Game, matchmaking GGs and male admirers with t-gurl(s), based on the familiar game format.  Cost for the voice lesson $30.00 per person.  The Dating Game: PRICELESS.

3/6/2011 - A late winter gift to yourself, our 3rd annual Spring Fling will be some special this year.  At 6:30 PM, Dress Barn is giving us a closed door, after hours private shopping time just for us.  Prior to that, we'll go out to eat beginning at 5 PM.  After party at the house to show off what you bought!  Pay for your dinner and your clothing purchases.

3/11/2011 - Continuing our dance theme for 2011, W/we'll be attending a performance of Tango Buenas Aires at the State Theater in New Brunswick.  Contact me here on CM for additional details.

5/7/2011 - Rounding out this menu of events, the 5th annual Sissy Maid Competition will be held again on a Saturday this year.  Always a great event with great food, great company and free to all, this event celebrates, honors and appreciates the services that sissy maids provide. 

Please contact me for further information on any of the above events.

hugs,

kyla

Sissy Maids and their Owners:

It is not too early to think about being a part of our annual Sissy Maid Competition, a celebration of the sissy maids who devote themselves in service to their Dominants, now in its 5th year.  Maids are judged on appearance, demeanor and deportment, food preparation and service, etiquette as well as general maid knowledge by a panel of three judges.  The audience participates too, selecting their favorite in the competition. 

This competition will be held at Lady Ellen's house in the back garden on Saturday, May 7th, 2011.  It starts promptly at 1:00 PM.  This event is fully catered by sissy maids and is entirely free for those who attend. 

Come join the fun, the food, the great company and the Maids as they compete for the coveted title of LeFemme Sissy Maid of the Year 2011.

Respectfully,

kyla joy

The Lefemme Fall Fantasy was a big success.  Attendance was fantastic and everyone reported that they had a wonderful, wonderful time.  Thanks to the all the t-gurls who attended, many for the first time in public.  W/we certainly appreciate your support.  Thanks too the the GGs in attendance, most notably Mistress Fream and Mistress Howl, who also acted as judges in out tow contests, Most Stylish Lady and Best Runway Walk.  And lest i forget, there were some males in the audience as well as a few guests from the hotel, and W/we thank you very sincerely for being part of our audience.  The winners of the Most Stylish Lady and Best Runway Walk Competitions were Tracy, very stylish indeed in her all black Southern antebellum gown and Abigail who could really walk that runway.

Thank You all for being a very special part of our biggest production yet.

Love you all,

kyla joy 

I am writing to inform you of several things. First, the photos from this year’s Lefemme Sissy Maid Competition will be posted on Lady Ellen’s website, www.xdressnj.com, next week. So check back at the end of next week to see all the fun.

Second, the date for next year’s competition is now set for Saturday, May 7, 2011. Anyone who wishes to be a contestant in 2011 Competition should contact Lady Ellen (LadyEllen@lefemmefinishingschool.com) at their earliest convenience to secure a spot in the roster of contestants.

Last but certainly not least, for those of Y/you interested in improving the skills of Your sissy or improving Y/your own skills, Sissy Stephanie is once again hosting her Sissy Maid Academy in November 2010, the 12th – 14th. This academy is a multiple day retreat at a kink-friendly B&B in the Poconos. Instruction will be provided on make-up and deportment, correct service protocols, table settings for all meals including tea as well the proper execution of household chores. Lady Ellen will be on the faculty once again this year. If interested, please contact Sissy Stephanie at steph08901@verizon.com or visit the Sissy Maid Academy page on her website (http://stephienj.tripod.com/macademy.htm). For additional details, please watch Sissy Stephanie’s overview of the Maid Academy at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ap8U3GRbM.

W/we hope to see many of Y/you at the next year’s competition and hope that many of Y/you will avail yourself of the opportunity to attend this year’s Sissy Maid Academy.

Respectful regards,

kyla joy

Announcing a VERY SPECIAL EVENT for All T-Girls, Transwomen and Friends in the Mid-Atlantic Region (NJ/NY/PA/DE)

What:  LeFemme Fall Fantasy, A TG Fashion and Talent Show

When: Saturday, October 16, 2010  7:00 PM

Price: $20.00 per person in advance, $25.00 at the door

Where: Hilton Garden Inn
500 Raritan Center Parkway
Edison, New Jersey  08837
(732) 225-0900

Imagine what it would be like to enter Oz, where everything is in spectacularly vibrant color, where you are greeted and treated like honored guests and where you meet your very best friends that you didn’t know you had before coming to this enchanting land.  Now imagine that Oz is the Hilton Garden Inn in Edison, NJ on the evening of the LeFemme Fall Fantasy, a fabulous night of fashion, talent and FUN featuring all TG models and performers.  Imagine yourself entering the lobby, dressed as simply and childlike as Dorothy or as elegant and sophisticated as Glenda, where you will be greeted by Marilyn Monroe and other starlets of stage and screen and have your picture taken with them as you sip on something refreshing from the bar, then, an hour after you arrive, entering the Grand Ballroom where everything is lavishly decorated, a true feast for the eyes, and then seating yourself in seating which hugs the stage and surrounds the runway, excitedly awaiting the beginning of the show in the company of good friends.  Imagine too the show as it unfolds and you are treated to the panorama of a young lady’s life, from little girl to bride, highlighting all the stages in between including tween girl, high school cheerleader, college girl, Miss America, career woman, capped off with a very special bridal party.  Interspersed amongst this parade of lovelies, the show offers you blooms of special talent, from musicians, singers, dancers, a juggler and more!  Imagine next your chance to walk the runway, dressed to kill, as you compete for the audience titles of Best Runway Walk and Classiest Lady, as you refresh your drink and sample treats from our very own Candy Table, a confectionery delight for the senses and visit vendors such as Glamour Boutique to acquire that perfect pair of heels or that special corset!

But this is no dream world, Dorothy.  This is the LeFemme Fall Fantasy, a fashion and variety show for the ages.  The venue for this event is the Hilton Garden Inn in Edison, NJ, centrally located to all points in New Jersey, just a few miles from Exit 10 off the NJ Turnpike.  Festivities will begin.  Festivities begin at 7 PM, with the show beginning at 8 PM and ending around 11 PM.  There will be music and dancing until midnight and an after party off-site for anyone interested.  Hotel rooms are available for those who wish to stay overnight, so please take advantage of the discounted rates.  Parking is ample in the hotel lot.  Guests can also come to the event by train.  Please contact me should you need time and station information.

And the best part is NOT that there won’t be a Wicked Witch harassing you and your friends.  Its that the tickets for this event are $20 in advance and can be purchased on-line from the LeFemme website at: http://www.xdressnj.com/index_files/TalentFashionShow.htm.  Payment for tickets can also be made by check or money order.  Please contact me for details.

It promises to be a thrilling night of quality fashion and entertainment and a whole lot of fun.  We hope that you'll join us in supporting our community and making this party a positive, wonderful success.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Respectful regards,

Kyla Joy, for Lady Ellen of LeFemme Finishing School

On Saturday, October 16, 2010, Y/you are cordially invited to LeFemme Finishing School's, New Jersey's first and only transformation school for MtF crossdressers and transwomen, Fall Fashion & Talent Extravaganza, featuring all TG models and performers.  The theme for the evening is the Ages of of Woman's Life, from little girl to bride, highlighting all the stages in between including high school cheerleader, college girl, Miss America, career woman, capped off with a very special bridal party.  The talent will include musicians, singers, dancers, comedians and a juggling act.  The show also includes opportunities for members of the audience to demonstrate their best runway walk and their own fashions, with prizes given out to the Best Runway Walk and Classiest Lady.  Drinks and refreshments will also be available, including a Candy Table consisting of all different types and colors of candy and a fully stocked bar.  Life size chocolate high heels will also be given away as door prizes.  Vendors, such as Glamour Boutique, will be on hand for those of You interested in doing a little shopping before the show and at intermission for those perfect heels or that special corset. 

The venue for this event is the Hilton Garden Inn in Edison, NJ, centrally located to all points in New Jersey, just a few miles from Exit 10 off the NJ Turnpike.  Festivities will begin.  Festivities begin at 7 PM, with the show beginning at 8 PM and ending around 11 PM.  There will be music and dancing until midnight and an after party off-site for anyone interested.  Hotel rooms are available for those who wish to stay overnight, so please take advantage of the discounted rates.  Parking is ample in the hotel lot.  Guests can also come to the event by train.  Please contact me should you need time and station information.

Tickets for this event are $20 and can be purchased on-linefrom the LeFemme website at: http://www.xdressnj.com/index_files/TalentFashionShow.htm.  Payment for tickets can also be made by check or money order.  Please contact me for details.

It promises to be a thrilling night of quality fashion and entertainment and a whole lot of fun.  We hope that you'll join us in supporting our community and making this a party a positive, wonderful success.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Respectful regards.

Kyla Joy Diamond, For Lady Ellen and LeFemme Finishing School

Lady Ellen and i will be attending the Empire Conference in Albany, New York starting on Thursday May 20, 2010.  She will be giving 4 presentations at this conference, but does have openings for makeup appointments,  Best times are morning and mid-afternoon.  If you will be attending and desire a make-up appointment or image consultation, please contact me here on CM.

Regards,

kyla

i want to apprise you all that a friend and i have begun a small fundraising business to raise money for an all transgendered fashion and talent show scheduled for October 16th. she and i will prepare, cook and serve a four course meal for up to four people at Y/your house or apartment dressed in sissy maid uniforms, evening wear, casual outfits, other fetish wear or, for those of You more venturesome, in granny outfits (can't be grandma's home cooking!) we will also clean Y/your kitchen up after we're done leaving it cleaner than we found it. In exchange, we're hoping to recover the cost of the food and hopefully have earned a donation to the coffers of the fund to put on the Fsll Fashion and Talent Show, in any amount to which Y/you feel our work entitles us. So, if Y/you don't feel like cooking for Y/youself, or Y/you need a romantic dinner for two catered or Y/you're having a get together with Y/your friends, please consider us and help us make the Fall Fashion & Talent Show the event of the Fall.  You can contact me here on CM or at my regular e-mail, kylajoy7588@hotmail.com.

Thank Y/you very much.

Kyla

The March social was a big success. 20 people came and we had a grand time, talking and consuming a lavish, Irish themed spread complete with Corned Beef and Cabbage, Fish & Chips and an Irish Dessert.

Next month: Brunch and Shopping on Saturday, April 17th starting at 11 AM.  Hope to see you all there.

Kyla

O/our next social is on Friday, March 19th and even though St. Patrick's Day will have come and gone our theme remains all things Emerald.  Festivities start at 7 PM and please be sure to bring your Irish appetites.  See you there!  If you need the address or directions to the party, please contact me here on CM or at kylajoy7588@hotmail.com.

Kyla Joy

In a a liitle more than two months, Goddess and i will be hosting the 3rd annual Sissy Maid of the Year competition here at LeFemme.  The contest will be held at O/our home in Piscataway NJ.  Contestants will be judged on poise, appearance, food preparation and serving technique.  W/we are interested in finding a couple of additional contestants.  If You'd like to enter the contest this year, we'd like to hear from you.  Its free to enter and i promise you'll have a great time and meet some great people too.  Dommes are welcome to attend and enter their own sissy maids into the contest.  If interested, please contact me here on CM and i'll provide you with more information  And if you're not sure about being a contestant, please join us a member of the audience.  Either way, you won't be disappointed!

Sincerely,

kyla

 Goddess Lady Ellen and i are hosting the February (Valentines Day!!!) edition of our monthly Go Goddess party.  The theme this month will be to wear something red in honor of Valentine's Day.  The party will be hedl on Tuesday the 10th, starting at 7 PM.  There will be ots of good conversation with friends, games and plenty to eat and drink, all in a very casual yet stimulating atmosphere.  The party is open to all TGs and GGs.  So mark it in your calendars.  W/we hope to see all of you there.  We're located in Piscataway, New Jersey.  If you need directions, please feel free to e-mail me.

kyla  

LeFemme Finishing School's 2nd Annual Sissy Maid Competition will be held on Sunday April 13nd starting at 2PM.  All are weclome to the free event as sissy maids from the region (NJ/NY) compete for the honor of title of Lefemme Sissy Maid of 2008.  If you are interested in attending or in being a contestant, please contact me on Collarme or at kylajoy7588@hotmail.com.  Hope to see many of you there.

Just wanted to let all the T-gurls in NJ/PA/DE/MD/NYC Metro that Lady Ellen is holding a Charm School weekend in March, 2008, filled with both fun and instruction on make-up, walking, deportment, etiquette and much more.  For additional details, please visit Her profile on Collarme or lefemmefinishingschool.com.

hugs to all, kyla