MadamePack15806

Hey fellow CMers, I decided to start a blog because many of you have emailed me stating you liked my journal and I realize this site doesn't allow for readers to leave comments. That bytes! So instead of using this, I will use my blog to write of my adventures/thoughts etc., etc.. If you wanna follow along go to MadamePack dot blogspot dot com :) I recently posted a little history on my background that led to my decision to pursue being a Domme.

So lately many slaves here have contacted me here on this site. None have so far gone beyond emails. Only a few folks through .com . I often when interested in a possible sub suggest that we meet for a bite and or drinks and then attend an BDSM inspired event. I am surprised by how many of these people have never gone. Man oh man, what?!? You're kidding me! Many people have embraced their inner freak years ago and then they don't get out and mingle? Especially where we're here in NYC. We are very spoiled. I recently checked out what's happening in Philly for events through .com to my disappointment not much, what?!? How can this be? I am sort of sad this community isn't more "out there." Then again I forget most kinksters on CM live in "middle America" where bibles/traditional/Caucasians generally rule their realms. Well I do share that the few I've gone to my experience has been quite positive. You have to just attend an event of your choice and have an open mind/heart. While you're there be sure to give credit where credit is due. Like after a "scene" you could go up to any of the participants and ask them questions or give them praise. Believe me they will love you for it. Part of their enjoyment comes from yours. You can choose to be a voyeur or exhibitive or both like I generally tend to do. The bottom (pun intended) line is be REspectful. Keep your hands to yourself, ask questions, the people at these events generally will answer. I have yet to meet in person what I would call a "rude" kinkster.  

In other news I was contacted by my first puppy name ChazWoofRogers here on CM. Due to the fact my pussy otherwise known as my Bastard Kitty will be returning to my home for good early September. So naturally as a cat person, I want time to be with my boy again before I seek ownership of any boy puppies, probably not till next summer of 2012. But FYI for my fellow Dommes, ChazWoofRogers  currently seeks a new Mistress owner. He's friendly, obedient and loves to play. Tie him up, good boy or bad boy, just tie that boy puppy ChazWoofRogers right up, after all he's a dog!

Damn this is what I want (see the passage below)! This is from an online discussion titled Subs: Do you like not having to initiate it all/be in charge? His name is Panda, this below is part of his response;

I regard submission as a very active process, not a passive one. I consider it my role to make things easier for my partner, in all respects. And that requires that I do a lot of guessing about what I ought to be doing next, whether I'm doing it right, and whether I
could perhaps be doing it even better. I think it's damned hard work to serve. If it wasn't hard, then it would be easy, and if it were easy, then anyone could be doing that for her, and if anyone could be doing it, what does she need me for? She deserves the best slave she can possibly get, and if I want to be the best I can be for her, I need to work at it, and that means taking a lot of the initiative - within whatever context she and I have together decided works best in our particular power structure.  http://groups.google.com/group/soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.femdom/browse_thread/thread/b2b58cb3b3c8d349/00b7fc65343cc56e?lnk=gst&q=romantic#

So lately I have been thinking can BDSM and romance co-exist? I am a natural kinkster, that never goes away. But I don't think one has to be a militant about being a Domme or fit the stereotype as to what constitutes as a "real" Domme in order to be one at heart. I need to get to know my slaves/subs before I can feel comfortable enough to dominate them. I do not want a mindless drone but a sub who has personality and can enjoy vanilla activities too. I guess I am looking to go on D/s dates. Not just have people who I don't know offer to serve me at home. I wouldn't allow anyone in my home before knowing them anyways. Its just common sense here in NY. I am a human being first before I am your mistress. And I crave a connection before I can fully let my guard down and come out and play. As my grandmother says "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince." or in my case, princesses. This is my goal right now, just to go out on some D/s dates and see how things go from there. Besides the art/spark of kissing is sensually fun and I'm a great kisser!

Some more Addams Family quotes, what can I say, I can't get enough!

?????Gomez: At his request, I would rip out my eyes. At his command, I would crawl on my belly through hot coals and broken glass. Morticia: Why wait?

Morticia: ?So do you still desire me after all these years? The old ball and chain? Gomez: Forever! Morticia: I'll go get them!

Morticia: You have enslaved him. You have placed Fester under some strange sexual spell. I respect that. But please, may we see him?

I am a self-confessed quotes junkie!  A sadist is someone who refuses to be mean to a masochist.~ Anon

Sometimes, being a bitch is all a woman has.~ Stephen King

Be creative; invent a sexual perversion. -- Graffito

The only way to a woman's heart is along the path of torment. I know none other as sure. -- Marquis De Sade

The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over. -- Hunter S. Thompson

Power is like being a lady. . . if you have to tell people you are, you aren't. -- Margaret Thatcher

Don't torture yourself, Gomez. That's my job-Morticia Addams

And btw, what is up with these closeted slaves. They have nothing on their profiles! They contact me and do not share their desires! Ugh, annoying, why are you wasted my time? I seek to know any of my potential slaves desires so that I may play them like a fiddle. There is a balance between me and the other person, an unspoken agreement but that only comes after being vulnerable with one another.

New rule for me, if you're under 25 you are disqualified, PERIOD! These young uns don't know their asses from a hole in a ground! Sure they may be pretty and I like em pretty but its not enough for me to waste my time with them!

Terminology matters in the BDSM world. Like today I learned there's a difference between a Master/Mistress and a SlaveMaster/Mistress.        A SlaveMaster's pleasure comes from the honest expression of who the slave is. It comes from activity, not of the man, but of the slave inside. A slave does not please his SlaveMaster by knowing the SlaveMaster's interests, but by not being his human self, and instead, by being the slave animal his SlaveMaster has given him to be. A Master's pleasure comes from having His needs fulfilled. A BORN slave does that uniquely well by having no self interest, because he has given that to his SlaveMaster. A slave is, therefore, free to uncompromisingly fulfill the pleasure of the Master, and derive his own pleasure from the pleasure given, just has he has learned to do through becoming slave. A Master and His slave are free to indulge themselves in the reciprocal experience of deriving pleasure from giving the other pleasure. I am deafinitely a Mistress not a SlaveMistress.    The above passage was written by one who calls himself SlaveMaster and it comes from this link http://www.bornslaves.com/dipped.html (Thanks to the thing that introduced me to the site bornslaves)!

Profiles slaves, profiles! Profiles matter. Please don't waste my time with your vanilla interests. No one gives a fuck about them. CM is for the BDSM in all of us. You have the rest of the world to be vanilla with, why you gonna contact me and write me a sentence or two saying you wanna be my slave and yadda yadda yadda *Zzzz!* Tell me what you desire? Tell me what makes you so giddy and deliriously happy? Sissy maid outfits? strap ons? being punished like a small child and spanked over my knees? Ignoring you even though you're right there in plain sight, but bound and gagged and blindfolded for who knows how long? This is what makes you stand out. Also I am vain, it helps if your cute (I am) and send me a photo of all of YOU. Not just from the neck down, I want to see your face, to be able to look in your eyes at your most vulnerable moments. I feed off of that, I require it, that is my nature.

I've decided that I am 1/4 bi and 3/4 straight

Good news, car glass has been replaced. I suspect my new friend is a secret sub and he complimented my black leather studded purse, telling me how pretty he thought it was. Perhaps I need to get the whips out and start cracking?

[update: thank you for the many messages where you threaten to kick their ass for me, much love to the cm community] Grr some jack*ss broke into my car last night and made a mess of my back seat. Glass everywhere. I swear if I ever catch who did it, I will FLAY them with those glass shards! And it wouldn't be for their enjoyment, only mine as it should be!

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People, PEOPLE! READ my profile before you email me to ask to chat on IM, or to ask if I will Domme you online? The answer is NO, NO, NO, NO, NO *sound of whips cracking!* Funny I didn't use to think of myself as a bitchy Domme, but I may just have to be one...tsk tsk...even I run out of patience for bullshit Lastly if you're not interested in being guided by Mystressworld, then you are not interested in me. These are my rules, go venture elsewhere

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I have been having a ball *not literally yet...* meeting so many interesting folks on this site. I was even surprised when some Doms have contacted me. One in particular early today asked to meet me. And I replied "you mean as friends right? after all 2 Dom/mes don't make a right."

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