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*****UPDATE I am now happily in a relationship and submissive of genericpseudonym since December 2010. Right now we have delved into our relationship deeper and are ready to keep exploring. He and I are looking for a girl to play with. This can either be a Dominant/switch/ or sub girl. I am very bisexual and want to experience more of a threesome to keep the passion always growing. At the moment this is merely for play and possible sex. We aren't creepy or crazy I promise :). If you need references we have both been in the Rochester bdsm scene for over a year (myself being 4 years) and are very credible. Feel free to message with any questions.
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Hi my name is rya. I am a 26 year old graduate now working a full time job and trying to start a career.

I have about 8 or so years experience as a submissive. I have cherished all my experiences and hope to keep experiencing more and more new things. No matter how many years anyone has in this lifestyle you will always keep learning and growing. Any Dominant right now who thinks they are the best and have learned everything they can don't talk to me because you are full of yourself.

I am not okay with a long distance relationship anymore. I realize I can't be happy and it doesn't fulfill me. If your more than 100 miles away then I'm sorry but I can only be friends with you...

However no matter who you are I'm always looking for friends in the lifestyle locally to meet and to chill with. Started a new Rochester TNG group so please contact me about that as well. Plus of course as always find people interested in joining Rochester Kink Society.


Everyone else feel free to message me. Please be respectful and at least write to me and get to know me by at least reading my profile and not copying and pasting a generic email to me. If you are respectful I will give you back the respect you deserve.

Over the years and most recently I have realized at least for the time being what I'm looking for in a "perfect" Dom for me. I seek a Dom who is experienced, one who I don't have to teach. Although teaching newbies just getting started I am willing to do. Especially those my age who are curious. I enjoy being a mentor. Sometimes exploring the lifestyle together is the best way to go about things.

I seek one I can hang out with and do vanilla activities (such as going to movies, cooking dinner together, watching tv, hanging out with friends) but always be in a D/s relationship. One who is laid back but strict when he needs to be. Someone who can keep me on my toes and someone I can respect and love. If all that is there than I would give my all to serve and submit. I need to have a career of my own outside the house but when I get home from work I want to submit to my Dom and fulfill his needs. I like rules and protocols and bondage all the time but this is also something fun. So there can't be seriousness all the time we should be able to laugh and enjoy our lifestyle together.
Plus I'm a member, and now board member of my local group here Rochester Kink Society. I very much love playing in public (lifestyle public) so if you enjoy the same that is a definite plus.

From discovering a bit of who I am, I discovered I'm not the type of submissive that wants a Daddy Dom and to be taken care of the rest of my life. I want my own career and to be a provider too. I received my bachelor's degree for a reason.

Also wanted to add that I tend to like geeky things. I am a adult swim fanatic and love playing simulation video games. I have a love of the asian culture and always wanted to visit Japan. I love sci fi and computers. I love vampirism and any type of vampire book series and movies. I get along with a lot of different people so feel free to chat with me about anything.

Eventually my Dom and I after time of developing our own relationship may delve into the world of poly. My favorite quote is to keep stable relationships not a stable of relationships. **Also as a note I do not do online submission**. I don't have the time and it is not fulfilling for me. Please don't ask and I don't see online submitting a good way to get to know each other.

Thanks for reading!

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3/25/2010 11:29:24 PM
So back on here and single... I will write more about that a later time. Just wanted to say thanks so far to the new people I've met on here hopefully we can become good friends and thanks for any advice given to me to get me through my really hard situation. Wanted to note I'll be modeling in the Rochester Erotic Arts Festival this weekend at the Harro East Ballroom tomorrow night, Sat and Sunday so if you see me up on pedestal feel free to say hi :) rya

6/27/2009 11:14:09 AM
I know I barely post here because I post elsewhere *cough* fet *cough* life hehe
Just want to remind all RKS alumni, previous members alike that tonight if you attend the play party we are honoring you and you can get in for 15 bucks.  Check out the new space! Check out the new members, see what your missing who knows maybe we can convince you to return ;)

rya


5/7/2009 9:21:03 PM
Don't forget guys TNG munch this sunday 2 pm at Jay's Diner I can't remind you enough ;)

kinksters 35 and under pleasee

rya

4/29/2009 7:25:37 PM
Attention all younger kinksters! If you didn't know it already there is a TNG group that rya has started up on .  Well we are taking the group offline and would love if you can join us at our first munch at Jay's Diner on May 10th at 2 pm.  It is going to be in the back room like the normal RKS munches.  We are looking for those kinksters who are over 18 and under 35.  Come meet your peers, ask questions, and feel free to bring your thoughts about future events- we would love your input!

4/24/2009 1:53:23 PM
Sorry I haven't written in awhile I like a bit better than here the interface is easier.  However just wanted to say something.  I appreciate all the messages I get but people don't seem to be reading my profile- so I wanted to let everyone know I'm only looking for friends right now I have the affections of a very wonderful Dom QwithoutA who I've been mentoring- Keep in mind tho I still want to meet local friends and answer any questions of those interested in Rochester TNG or Rochester Kink Society.  Hope to see everyone at the Erotic Arts Festival!

3/12/2009 11:07:34 PM
Unfortunately I had to say goodbye to my best friend Olivia. Meeting her and her Dom John was a lot of fun and I finally got to see the person that I'm letting my girl move all the way down to Georgia for :) I wish them both the best of luck in the future, she deserves to be happy :D 

Unfortunately my two weeks with Therin is over and the thing that excites me is that even though we spent all this time together I didn't want him to leave and feel like I would never get tired of him. This also shows me that I could be roomies with him 24/7 eventually since we get along very well :) We had an wonderful and intense scene on Saturday that lasted for hours. He used his new canes that he bought at Purple Passions in NYC as well as I got a new blindfold that matches my purple suspension cuffs :) He is learning how intense canes are but doing very well at them! Over time I was able to take a lot and it ended with me passing out in exhaustion :) He also finally received his leather mask in which I'll post a pic or he will eventually :) 

School has started up again and it is my last quarter than I graduate!! Thank god I am so tired of school I just want to start my career already :P However I'm sure the wireless and security class will be very needed knowledge in the work place ^_^

Saturday is Griffin's workshop on sub drop and dom drop at RKS as well as the play party.  Hope I see everyone there!

3/6/2009 11:01:41 PM
Back in the Roc with Therin- party tomorrow and I have Internetz back :) Good to be home

2/26/2009 5:31:35 PM
Heading down to the NYC area for a week then I'll be back up to Rochester.  Should be a great Spring break! Leave me luv

2/13/2009 12:59:58 AM
Gone for the weekend don't miss me too much ;) Hope everyone has a very nice romantically kinky filled Valentines Day!

2/7/2009 7:35:52 PM
Well it's been about a week now that my apprentice has visited.  What can I say about my week with him? That it was  incredible for both him and I.  Last Saturday was a sort of "birthday" for him.  Birth into the lifestyle and this new life.  Ever since I've helped him go down this road, I've felt like I've had such purpose and I've been enjoying every minute.  RKS was wonderful. I decked all out and he had such a wonderful mentor (he knows who he is) at the space to teach how to tie a corset, how to do rope bondage, and another mentor, Nelson to help him to flog.  As I thought and as Nelson thought, he took like a duck to water and we had a wonderful scene.  Even got to try something new doing an entire scene with ear buds and noise canceling headphones to give me the sensory deprivation I love.  He even put me in a nice sub space and I could tell he was in his element as well.  It was so much fun and the space is really turning out well.  Plus another thing is he is really amazing at aftercare and kept my entire night positive.  He also got to see a few cool scenes as well and meet my friends.  I can't wait for the next party :) Going to visit for Valentines day coming up.  Yay I won't be alone ^_^ Hope everyone else has a great valentines day coming up as well.  If you are in the area RKS is also having a Valentines party!!

1/26/2009 11:08:12 AM
only 3 more days :D Also wanted to make sure everyone check out the account RochKinkSociety and add to favorites to keep up with all of our events. I have taken over the account and will keep it updated

1/24/2009 11:44:16 AM
Just a quick entry :) I'm very excited about next week ^_^ It'll be a very good ending to a stressful month.  Off to clean!

1/21/2009 11:43:28 AM
So update on me again. Still no job but really have to start trying harder to find one.  I will eventually! Trying to catch up on school work pulling all nights and all weekenders is not fun :(
Other news is that the new space new years party at RKS is the 31st! I am very excited to attend and am going to bring my wonderful friend/student with me to his first play party.  I am hoping it will be a wonderful experience for him and that he will learn all he can.  I already know that everything will come naturally to him and I'm very lucky to have wonderful Dom mentors who are good at their craft to teach and share :)
Also after the party I will be visiting my best girlfriend sadie the weekend of the 13-15th.  Three individuals do not want to be alone for Valentines day and they won't be! It should be a fun time.
Hope everyone is staying warm and thank you for the nice messages regarding my job :)

1/15/2009 1:51:37 PM
Wow it's been a long time since I've been jobless.  I guess it's a relief but in a way I also now feel really unmotivated and lazy.  I have always hated the cold as well and it's been horribly cold here in upstate NY so I literally have been hibernating and not wanting to leave my warm bed and blankets.  I just have to be careful not to fall behind in school work.  Well I am now officially on the board at RKS and my title is workshop coordinator and TNG coordinator.  I think those roles will fit me well and I will do the best I can to continue to make this group as best as it can be.  I hope to continue to make my way around the country attending events and bringing in presenters.
In other good news I have taken a student under my wing and it feels amazing to mentor someone who is so genuine and has the greatest potential to be a Dom.  Teaching is give and take and never in my wildest dreams did I realize that in the end my student would be teaching the teacher! Hehe that is the way it should be, but granted many never understand that.  I can't wait to be meeting them in person in a few weeks to continue real life teaching :D It really gives me a sense of purpose to be so influencial in one's life...

1/5/2009 4:47:47 PM
So I have bad news due to this lovely economy (rolls eyes) I am unfortunately losing my job by Friday.  I don't expect to go job hunting through collarme but if any locals who are respectful and know where I can get a part time IT position I would be forever grateful....
On a more positive note I enjoyed my trip to DC.  Thank you again Edninja for being a wonderful host.  Club Crucible was great and I had a fun time setting up, helping, and enjoying the New Years eve bash.  Sap gloves + hoods are awesome ^_^
I enjoyed the time relaxing and getting to see my friends R and S as well.
Don't know what the future will hold...I am going to job hunt but need to focus on school.  If i can't get a good paying job I'm not sure if camp or any other fun events will happen anytime soon *pouts and cries* but we'll see....

12/29/2008 10:27:47 PM
Had a nice holiday spending it with family.  I Ended up getting myself an early present and finally broke down and bought a G1 but I haven't regretted it and love my new phone :) For Christmas I got a good amount of money to pay it off as well as possibly invest in a Wii.  So it's been a nice relaxing break so far.  In other news tomorrow night I am on my way to DC to attend club Crucible's nye party.  Since it is prom theme I have already bought my pretty dress and definitely going to be dressing the part of a high school prom date :D hehe.  Can't wait to see all my DC friends again :) 

12/14/2008 10:12:15 PM
This weekend was a good weekend yet a sad one.  It was the last play party at the RKS play space that I "grew up in" over the past year 1/2.  However we have a new space that is in production and the move will happen soon.  It will be fun taking a space from scratch and turning it into another great dungeon and turn it into home again.  I am still debating on running for the board again.. Many have said nice words but I want to make sure I have to time and effort needed to put into it.  School comes first. 
Last night I had two new experiences.  One was that I got to wear a leather hood all night.  I have discovered that I loveee hoods.  I enjoy sensory deprivation and it puts me deep into subspace tuning everything out and focusing on what is going on to me.  However the nose hole and mouth holes do have to be open enough for me to breathe ok.  It was so comfortable I wore it the whole night and no one recognized me of course.  It was hilarious taking it off and then having everyone shocked it was me :P
I also got to wear a straight jacket for the first time thanks to Straight Jacket Steve :) It was actually really comfortable except for the crotch strap lol.  Beinging in a hood and a straight jacket and being thrown around on the floor was great! :) I felt like a wiggle worm and very helpless which of course I enjoyed.  Ed's classes went well and I always have fun demoing.  Jaimee and I were a beautiful bound lit up x-mas tree while we were zapped with the violet wand.  I also enjoyed the fire play "massage" and cupping.  I was glad that Ed could also join us in our last party.  Plus this week is my last week of classes before break ^_^ yay.  Hope everyone is having a fun stress free holiday

12/3/2008 10:19:49 PM
So I haven't really  been updating this as much.  I guess I haven't had the motivation.

However chatting with someone who I connected with at BR inspired me and reminded me that I forgot to write about BR.  I had a wonderful experience this BR.  Even after a long, long flight (due to many delays) I still made it to DC in time for the first classes on Friday.  I had the pleasure of demoing for my friend Paul who did a entertaining caning class.  Now I really am not a fan of caning, however he and others have proven to me that caning can be incredibly sensual and pleasureful.  Paul tended to use large canes even a Sinai! I had fun in that class even got a huge bruise from a miss lol I forgive you Paul.  Also got to demo for the great Rorie who is an incredible person, Dom, friend, and presenter. He taught a flogging 101 class so to start the class off he just showed different techniques on me and J and then explained each one in more detail.
Also over the weekend I had the pleasure of hanging out with my good friends B and S also got a very nice new flogger and very nice new suspension cuffs.  No more of my hands falling asleep! yay! I was auctioned off Friday night and even got to wear my dark angel costume.  Everyone liked it and I was bought by this cute guy however he was very new to the scene i think the whole dungeon itself scared him a bit.  Why he was at Black Rose I have no idea.  I had my spanking scene with everyone involved and I thank you since it was the best spanking scene ever.  Very overwhelming with the tickling too! Evil people.  I was in subspace for quite a while however.
Also had the pleasure of being double suspended with J by SteveB who is amazing at what he does.  It was the most comfortable suspension ever, I was able to stay up for over an hour, using J to hoist up my torso was a help also.  Ed and Steve had fun with us with the violent wand and suspended at the same time was great!
Also I met two amazing people who make an incredible couple N and L.  I can't wait to see them on New Years again.  I had a great scene with N which makes me realize I am completely ok with more rough body play even to the point that some take as too "extreme".  He just is very good at what he does.  I also finally took my first class with Jay Wiseman which the demo bottom made very entertaining.  The suspension classes taught by Lew Rubens with Cherry Torn were great! I can't believe that everyone got their bottom in the air and safely! He is an incredible teacher and the classes were some of the best rope and interactive classes I've seen.  I thank Edninja for flying me there and registering me and providing me with the great scenes over the weekend.  There is even more but you'll just have to ask lol.  I do have part of my heart in DC with all the Crucible people.  Can't wait to be reunited at New Years and than at camp!! :D

To wrap this long journal up I have started school again and on my trek to graduate in May.  I am now quite busy with school, and now working part time, as well as I am possibly going to be on the board at RKS.  I know! Crazy busy.  I try to get back to those who actually email me and any locals please feel free to ask about RKS.  If I get nominated part of my job is to recruit more wonderful members to our group.  Love you all and happy holidays

11/11/2008 3:44:55 PM
After weeks and weeks and thank you to my Dominus for sending me this I have been watching avidly this site.  I will plug it and you can get a better idea of who I am if I can sit and watch this all day.  Warning it's uber cute!! http://www.ustream.tv/channel/shiba-inu-puppy-cam

10/23/2008 12:04:55 PM
Well so I am yet 1 year older...wow 23 I know it's not old but it feels like it to me when I feel I just graduated high school not so long ago...Most of my friends by now are getting married and finishing up school. As far as marriage at this age? NO way and my major entails me being in school longer.  No matter I don't doubt I'll end up with a good job after May :)
Birthday party this weekend should be a blast I'll finally get my 23 spankings...or 23 times 16 spankings! yikes!
Flying to DC for BR a week from today as well can't wait!  Demoing in a class as well as I can't wait to take some good classes and meet fantastic riggers like lochai and lew rubens.  Got some cute outfits in store as well as my Halloween costume.  Yet more spankings will ensue. Will this birthday celebration ever end? I hope not ;)

10/10/2008 12:00:37 AM
Update on me:
Auction was very successful we did raise lots of money for RKS, which is definitely needed for the "move" that might be happening soon.  The pirate party was fun too of course ^_^
Work is going well for me.  I am finally learning the job more just like my last co op and fitting in and working on projects.  It's just unfortunate because next week I already have to register for Winter quarter! It's going by too quickly...again luckily only two quarters left.
Might be going to RKS this weekend we'll see depends on a dog sitting situation. Getting more and more excited though about events at the end of the month including Black Rose :) Only 20 days left yay.

9/27/2008 7:27:34 AM
Heading to the auction/party hope to see everyone there! Bring lots of money hehe just kidding :)

9/21/2008 10:12:57 PM
Can't wait for the big auction/pirate party this weekend.  I am a vanna in the auction and I also hope to win some nice new things! Got my eye on a new flogger case and a leather dress. As far as other news job is going well..still not as busy as I wish I'd be but it's getting better. So working all day and trying to find stuff to do at night.  It is great to be home however in Rochester back with friends :)

9/16/2008 3:42:18 PM
Just registered for Black Rose 2008!! Thank you Ed for helping yet again. Can't wait to see everyone and camp people too! Also will be celebrating my birthday there :)

9/6/2008 7:12:55 PM
Soo right now hating collarme for deleting my profile.  If you were my friend please add me again.  If you had emailed me before do so again so I can catch up and find everyone again.

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pandemos
 
 Age: 26
 New York, New York