MsStarlett

Female Dominant, 55, Glen burnie, Maryland

Female Dominant, 32, melbourne

Male Submissive, 39

Ha!? I finally snuck in some time with a new boy.? Showing up at 7 am before the heat sets in is true dedication... for both of us.? Very fun.? Nice new boy.?

Between the Heat and everyone's busy schedules, I never did hook up with any new boys this summer.? Met a couple of really nice people for Lunch or Cake, but that lack of A/C at my dungeon is a real draw back for an exciting time when the temps stay well over 90 degrees. Last Monday, the only day we've had temps UNDER 90, a dear friend from this site drove 2 hours (each way) to visit and help me start taming this jungle I call a yard.? It's far from finished, but at least the threat of making a sub do yard work is no longer nearly as funny. Now DragonCon is less than a month away.? I have pulled out my Tauren costume that I started working on over 2 years ago.? I'm hoping to finish it in time to wear at least the Head/ Feet/ Hands to the convention.? The fun thing about WoW is the fact that there is so much GEAR available, if I don't finish the fancy set, I can always make myself a rustic looking kilt and shoulder pads then toss my Guild Tabard from last year over a blouse and run with it.

We finally bought a new BED!? Woot!? We've been talking about it since Christmas.? But never seemed to get me and hubby together on a sunny day when we could borrow the truck.? It's a Serta with the extra thick mattress.? This sucker is crotch high!? Now I'm having a nice cold Coke before going back out to shop for sheets.? I'll have to get all new ones for these 'deep pockets'... but I don't want to buy more than one set before I find out if they fit or not.? I've never had a mattress this thick before.? In the words of the little girl on "Despicable Me" - It's so FLUFFY!

I need to attend a memorial service for an old friend today.? His family lived a couple of blocks over when we were all growing up.? I rode the school bus with his sister.? Dated him for a short time, almost 25 years ago.? It's kind of creepy when people your own age, your friends start dieing. ? My ex fiancee died in a car wreck when we were 30ish.? A good friend was mugged and left for dead in a ditch where he bled to death before he was found, also mid 30's.? Two others died of cancer around 40-45 years of age.? This one refused to treat his diabetes and died from the complications.? He was less than 50. All good men.? All loved and missed.? I never thought I would see my friends pass before I reached 'retirement' age.? Mortality sneaks up on us.

I cannot believe this shoulder still hurts this badly.? I'm sick and tired of being incapacitated.??

OK!? Well, I overdid it at the gym on Tuesday after my weigh in.? I had a sore neck when I woke up that morning, but went in anyway.? Bad idea.? I've just spent the rest of the week with debilitating pain in my neck and left shoulder.? Gotta give that time to heal up.? I'll start over at square one again on Monday.

One week at the gym.? One pound less of me.? At this rate, I'll be hot in a year.? :D

After wallowing in hormonal hell for about a year, I think I almost have my 'stuff' straightened out again.? My emotional roller coaster ride is finally over.? I'm putting my life back together one piece at a time.? I finally got my last broken tooth crowned.? YAY!? My basement has been cleaned out. YAY! I got a new dog.? YAY! I planted a container garden.? YAY! ?I started back at the gym.? BIG HURRAY!? Yes, I hurt all over.? I'm somewhat unhappy with myself for hurting so badly moving half (or less) of the weight I used to do.? But I'm proud of myself for giving up the excuses, getting up from the computer and GOING!? I did a weigh in this morning.? *OUCH*?? That was the most painful thing I've done in a long time.? But it gives me a place to start.? I have packed on almost 20 pounds since I stopped going regularly.? I think I'll update my profile to reflect that and do weekly weigh ins so I have to admit to the world if I fail, or have an excuse to brag a little when things start looking up. Hugs to my friends who have been hanging in there with me.

Hurray!? The site has new ads for all the "sub males" who are only looking for one thing.? You've got "Key Holders" and "Mistresses for Sex in 5 minutes."? Thank heaven.? Now all you guys can just hire a prostitute with the appropriate props and leave all us Ladies alone.

Work has been a hellatious pain in the ass all month and it's not over yet!? Be careful what you wish for boys and girls, you might just get it.? When I started my small business 20 years ago, I had two major competitors.? I said I would drive them out.? Both have actually been quite friendly competition through the years and we have always sent customers back and forth.? Both they, and a third competitor who rose up and then left along the way are all gone.? I'm the only game left in town.? Sounds good doesn't it?? Not always.? It's a hell of a lot of WORK when everyone in town needs your services AT THE SAME TIME!? If the business were a touch more spread out, it would be great.? As it is, I feel like I'm missing "Spring" all together. Oh well.? I heard an interview with Russel Crow about his new Robin Hood movie.? The central theme and 'quote' of the film is:? "Rise and Rise again until Lambs become Lions."? Hear me Roar!

Just got home from Frolicon a few hours ago.? I had such a good time, I just can't explain it all here.? Some of the details of two novice boys that I found entertaining are posted in the "Positive Experience" section of the Message Boards. ?

Life is busy as usual. Although, I have purchased my tickets to FroliCon.? For those who don't know, it's a lifestyle convention in Atlanta on Easter Weekend.? It sort of pretends to be a Science Fiction Convention, but anyone who has been there knows better.? Feel free to Google it for information.? If you're in the South East, it might be worth your time to check it out.

Ok... Clean Slate time.? I have deleted all the old mail.? Some was never read.? Somewhere around last Halloween, I started getting flooded with "Do Me" subs who just got on my last nerve.? Many were not the least bit interested in what I wanted and what I was looking for.? BDSM is not about subs turning ME into their 'dream Domme'.? It's about finding a good match and a sub who wants to conform to what I want.? The end.? If you are not what I'm looking for, don't waste my time.

We're coming up on "Hell Month" for me.? October means I'll be working long hours waiting on people that I have to be nice to, no matter how much I want to beat them to death.? It's a bad time for me to be without a sub, but I doubt I'll have the time or energy necessary to break in a new one.? So, if you see or hear from me, count your blessings.? If not, do likewise as I most likely will not be 'fit company' for a while.

Well, another one bites the dust.? *sigh*? I liked this one.? I really did.? He was one hell of a nice guy.? Can't say anything at all bad about him because he only had very outstanding, positive traits.? We just didn't 'click', or weren't a good fit, not on the same page, or however you want to say it.? We tried.? Maybe we're both to 'old and set in our ways' to find a happy medium.? The one thing that we do agree on is that we were each trying to change the other into what we wanted our partner to be instead of fully enjoying what we had.? Poor dear.? He knew from the beginning that he was the 'rebound boy' and that's a very difficult place to be.? I applaud every effort he made to make it work.? He did me a world of good helping me get over the loss of West.? That, in and off itself is a miracle.? And I did get my Chocolate cake.? So it's all good.

Division of Labor - cut from the message boards and posted here. As for the 'traditional division of labor'... that goes back to cave man days.? The job of the male was to hunt and defend the 'cave' or camp.? That was dangerous work and males were, frankly expendable.? Females were the bringers of life.? Their job was to protect, nurture and teach the young.? A tribe could get by with relatively few 'studs', but females were the important because without them, there would be no continuance of the gene pool.? Females had to know which plants were edible, how to cultivate them, how to skin animals and cure their hides.? They had to learn to prepare what was hunted or gathered in a way that wasn't just palatable, but also simply consumable by all members of the tribe from the very young to the sick or elderly who might not be able to chew - hence, we learned to grind grains and cook.? Females learned to take what was available in their environment and process it in ways to better serve their children.? All types of skills emerged from making pots out of clay, to weaving baskets, to turning gathered flax and cotton into thread to sew bits of leather together, then to weaving it into fabric to make clothing.? Females developed the spoken language so that they could pass along this knowledge to their children in a constant stream of information. We learned to talk to our children as we worked so that the next generation would be able to take care of themselves. The job of the male was to provide protein and to protect the territory from other tribes or predatory animals.? Males learned to craft weapons and to communicate in signs and gestures to help with the hunting.? One does not want to alert prey with vocal commands.? Hence, whatever communication skills a male learned from his mother in youth, was driven out of him by the time he was large enough to carry a weapon.? The function of the male is to provide for and protect the more important females and their young and to nurture the elderly who were the retainers of and great knowledge gained through experience. Males who became to old or who were injured and could no longer hunt stayed behind in the camps and learned to do 'women's work'.? Most didn't have the range to learn everything, so they concentrated on one aspect or another and became adapt at crafting one thing or another.? Females praised those males and told them they did well, because that it what we do to teach our young and to encourage the fit males to go out and risk their lives to bring home food.? Females praised their men, whether they were big stupid idiots who pounded on their chests to scare away the neighbors or the lame ones who learned to work wood into instruments of music instead of war... we praised our men until they actually started to think they were more important.? And females, knowing the truth, just smiled that knowing smile and carried on throughout the centuries.

Had tons of fun at Frolicon!? Even though my best boy couldn't make it and no one else was brave enough to show up... didn't dampen my spirits.? I had the hubby and my crazy Mentor Dom with me.? How could I NOT have fun? The big, unplanned surprise of the convention was a bus load of Army boys who showed up late Saturday night.? I believe that every dominant in the building was itching to get their paws on those soldier boys.? I zeroed in on one adorable boy who didn't look a day over 18.? I didn't get to spank him, but I did scare him to death.? Sometimes, that deer in the headlights look is just as satisfying as a scream.? Yep.? I scared a soldier boy.? Life is good.

Yes people, I'm still alive.? Just got hooked on World of Warcraft.? Some of you will understand.? Other's won't.? Whatever. ?? ------------- Just want to give you folks the heads up!? I'm going to be attending Frolicon in Atlanta April 12-15th.? (Easter Weekend)? If you can get away, I'd love to meet some of you guys and gals there.

LOL!? I love old horror and science fiction movies.? They are such a hoot.? We're watching "When Worlds Collide"... this should be subtitled "Save the White People."? In the movie, the world is about to end so they build an 'arc' of sorts to save some of the population.? 49 white people go on board.? *Doh!*? I guess they aren't much into diversification!

I'm getting ready to update my profile pics again.? If there are any up that you really like, you better right click and save them while you can!? I have a couple of trusted friends looking over photos for me to help select which ones will be going up next.? For now, if you enjoy my pics, please let me know if you actually like those '3 in 1' photo combos that I did last time or not.? Also, do you prefer pics of feet, legs, rear, breasts, with or with out 'props'.? I had planned on doing some shots trampling a sub, sitting on his back and possibly flogging him... but my last photo shoot got cut short unexpectedly.? *shrug*? Oh well!? That will be something you can all wait for.? Good things come to those who wait.

LOL!? You guys are so funny.? I'm not trying to get rid of any of the people that I am currently talking to.? I just don't need any more people from 1/2 way across the country or on the other side of the planet writing to me and basically begging for wanking fodder.? Friends are fine.? Those of you that I'm ALREADY writing to are fine.? Stop panicking.

I have broken my favorite toy.? It's still usable, for a bit, but I do need a replacement.? It's a bundle of 8 rattan canes coated in polyurethane. ? I have broken two of the canes off at the handle and splintered the tips of others.? It was hand made and purchased from a dealer at Frolicon last Easter.? I don't want to have to wait until the convention rolls around again to replace it.? If you know who made this, please let me know.? http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/MsStarlett/Toys/BundledCanes.jpg

Well, what can I say?? I had a wonderful weekend.? Spent an amazing evening with my first favorite, Wall-e.? This was the sub that I thought I would never have the opportunity to meet and was so thrilled at the chance.? He was every bit as wonderful as I knew he would be.? Sadly, this evening he sent me a "Dear Joan" letter.? After our time together, he realized that the time he spends with me really is cheating his wife.? He's going to try to give up the kink and be a faithful husband.? At least he was man enough to say goodbye to me without just deleting his account.? Told you he was one hell of a good man.? He just proved it.? I'm very proud of him, even though I will miss him terribly....? Either that or he's taking a really drastic action to get out of forgetting my birthday.? *evil grins*? I love you, Wall-e!? Where ever you are, have good and happy life.

It's the day before Thanksgiving and all through the house... everything is topsy turvy.? I'll be out of town for the holiday, but will return Friday.? I doubt that I'll have time for the internet until Saturday afternoon, so don't panic.? Leaving the computer and my internet connection is the hardest part of fulfilling my family obligations for the holiday.? Traveling was much more fun when my husband's best friend was available to visit with us and take us away from the dreaded Football, NASCAR and Better Homes and Garden conversations.? *ugh*? Think of me warmly while I'm away... I shall be thinking of you.

Just a warning for those who care... my birthday is November 27th and I do have a gift registry on Electrique Boutique .com just to make things easier for you.? ;)

Well.... Halloween is finally over.? Hallelujah!? I've been worn to a frazzle with long hours and to much cleaning up after customers.? My house looks like a bomb went off in here because of all the extra Halloween projects and stuff that has been piled around on top of my lack of enthusiasm to clean when I get home after working 11 hour shifts.? *sigh*? My husband had a very rough time over the holiday with a lot of unnecessary flack over his 'haunted yard'.? First it was a run in with the city building inspector over his lights.? Then a VERY expensive prop was stolen.? Finally, the neighbors called the cops on him and had the event shut down at 9:30 on Halloween night when we had a line of people waiting to see the display.? No fun for anyone there!? Several temper tantrums have been thrown over this by everyone involved except me.? For some strange reason, I sort of expected it to happen.? ---? My best boy came for his monthly visit, but he has been sick most of this month and I was tired, so it was our least enthusiastic visit.? I do hope that he wasn't dreadfully disappointed by all the bad things that happened and the lack of 'fun time'.? Try as I might, I can't seem to get any rest today.? Just to much going on.? Maybe soon I'll get a little rested up so I can start putting my life back into order.

My eternal and gracious thanks to my friends who have recently sent me 'cheer up' gifts.? You know who you are.? *smooches*? While I greatly appreciate such lovely tokens, I have to remind you guys that my birthday is NEXT month!? It's going to be a bit of a let down after such delightful surprises this month.

Notice:? I am currently entering my 'busy season' at work.? It actually started a bit early this year... most likely won't return to 'normal' until after Christmas.? If you don't hear from me, don't assume that I've gone *poof* or don't like you any more or any of those other things. ? I'm just busy.? I'll get to my regular folks as soon as humanly possible... but I may not be overly talkative to new people.? Just hang in there.

Some days, I really wish my husband would allow me to beat him.? He really NEEDS it.? Badly.? He is building a little 'haunted house' in our driveway.? Naturally, the temp structure is next to the house for the power cords.? My driveway slants up hill toward the street.? I now have to park my 1989 Buick, "Nelly", at the top of the drive where it is the steepest.? She didn't move on Sunday.? Now... with her nose down and ass up... all the fluids seem to have run away from the working parts.? Nelly won't start this morning!? Hubby's going to learn his lesson when he has to PUSH her big fat ass uphill to get her leveled out enough to start! ?

I did have fun in Atlanta - before the car incident.? This was the first time I've been able to spend so much time with one of my boys in far to many years!? It was very fun for me to show him off to some of my old friends and lovers.? When I introduced him to one of my dearest friends as "My new boy toy" my friend laughed "Well, you wear them out so quickly!"? It's always nice to catch up a bit and see how my friends have progressed in their lives.? Many were so sweet and shy when we first met, much like my current boy.? Now they are jubilant and outgoing.? Perhaps a bit of time with the correct woman brings more than the joy of the moment to a man.? In some cases, I believe that it brings them out of their shells and turns them into more confident people in general.? It will be interesting to see how my influence over my dear pet will mold his future character. ?

Home again, Home again. Made it back from Hot-lanta fairly early yesterday.? Almost everything went well.? My friends had some trouble, but it's normal that WE are the ones who's badges or hotel reservations get screwed up... the car dies... one of my crew will get sick or injured... yadda... yadda... yadda...? Not this year.? Everything went fairly smoothly.? My beautiful new shoes made dreadful blisters on my feet... I should beat Wall-e for that.? And my cars (yes, plural... we had 2) got booted.? *sigh*? But even then, the guy gave us a 'deal' and did 2 for 1 and then didn't make us pay the $5 per car parking fees that day.? So, technically, the $50 fine broke down to $20 per car... and parking in the Hotel parking lot would have cost us $15 per day per car... so we still came out ahead.? The FUN part came after we left.? We had been smelling grilled burgers all weekend and I just HAD to stop at Hardies and get thick burgers on the way home.? We parked around back and went in.? My boy reminded me that all the electronics, including games, phones, and a lap top were in the car and it was unlocked.? He asked to go back and take care of the problem but I had already ordered, he had not and I knew how to 'work my car'... so I went to do it myself.??? Big Mistake.? I locked the keys in the car. *sigh*? Now, we had TWO sets of keys to the van, but only one set for the car.? My toy maker noticed that the key was still in the 'on' possition and that the driver's door was not closed tightly.? He decided that the best course of action would be to try to press the window buttons.?? My boy had some experiance with using a Slim Jim on cars.? The two went to work on my car with coat hangers from the van, one on each side.? It wasn't working.? My son noticed a truck driver who had just pulled up was sitting with his door open.? He went over to ask for help.? The trucker was VERY nice!? He said he had just called his daughter to come pick him up and he had a Slim Jim at home.? He called her back and asked her to bring it.? When she arrived, she had the wrong tool... some sort of very large screw driver with a curved tip like a crow bar.? He told us not to worry, he would go home, get it and return in 15 minutes.? About 20 minutes he pulled up taking a brand new one that he had just bought for us out of the package.? He went to work on my car.? No effect.? It just would NOT unlock!? We got despirate enough to call a wrecker service and ask how much to come open the car - On Labor Day.? *sigh*? The answer was $60.? I was ready to pay it when the trucker said "Tell him you'll call him back."? I asked "Did you have another one in mind?"? He said, "No, I just want to keep trying."? That was when we noticed a piece of scrap aluminum lying in the grass.? It was long and straight but sort of shaped to go around the edge of something else.? The men looked at it and thought "If this were only FLAT enough to go through the crack of the door, we could push the window buttons with it.? If only we had a hammer to pound it out!"? The trucker yelled "I HAVE a hammer in my van!"? He produced it, the boys hammered the piece flat, he used the big screwdriver type tool to pry the door open a bit more so my toy maker could get the aluminum strip into the crack and pressed the window down button!? There was great rejoicing! ?? God sent us everything we needed to do this ourselves... including the very handy truck driver... it just took us 2 hours to piece the puzzle together.

One week until DragonCon!? Lots of preparations in the works.? I do hope I can get everything ready in time.? This will be my first time taking my sub with me on a family trip.? Should be interesting to try to 'behave' ourselves in front of those who don't need any more information. ? At the same time, I can't wait to show off my new boy to my friends.? Yes! it should be interesting to say the least.? If you happen to be in the Atlanta area for LaborDay... and have some cash to blow... stop by DragonCon.org for info.? You might actually enjoy the convention.

Ahhh... my first weekend 'alone' with my boy is winding down.? The only thing I'll say about it in public is "RIMBA ROCKS!"

OH!? Joy-gasims!? I just received a box from my favorite doormat.? THREE pairs of the most divine boots.? I see from the invoice that he tried to buy all four pair that I wanted but one was sold out.? I'm so delighted with the three that I can't bring my self to scold him for being such a slug that the pirate boots sold out before he could bother placing the order.? I tried them on and they actually FIT!? This is a miracle as I do a lot of leg work and my calves are quite muscular.? Two pair are a touch tight at the top, but bearable.? They are so magnificent that I can't complain.? Oh!? Now I'll have to make new outfits to go with the boots.

Oh my!? What a weekend.? It's been SO LONG since I've had a chance to let go and enjoy myself.? I think I might just turn my new pet into a Pain Slut after all.

I'm so delighted today!? Looks like I'm finally going to get to do the photoshoot I've been dying to do.? I've been looking for a good new photographer who would be a good 'match' for me and the project.? I can't believe that I found the perfect man for the job in my girl Glenda's husband.? We were talking about how hard he worked on that photo that won the car.? I sent him a note asking if he would be interested in doing a something that was slightly erotic and pretty morbid.? He's all excited about the idea and is currently contacting a friend of his who specializes in 'gore' shots to see how we can do what I want with me being stained red all over by fake blood. YES!? I am overly 'into' Halloween.? Not just the lifestyle.? I want this particular set of photos for several different reasons.? And I'm not telling my idea until I get the photos... so no one else does it first!

Wow!  My new photos got approved really quickly.  Must be a slow day at the CM office.  ;)

On a happier note... I'm working on a new 'skill set'. I just made my very first collar. It's the first thing I've ever tried to make out of leather. It's no work of art... but it's not too bad. Now I just need to figure out who will get the honor of owning it. I'm sure future collars will be better looking, but this is a first... sort of like getting my leather working 'cherry'.? http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/MsStarlett/Toys/CollarFront.jpg

ROTFLMAO! Just got this little message in my box: "It is a big turnoff to be called a DOG. If you seek inferior spinless people that will answer to your insults, then enjoy what you get. David...a human being and a man"   By the time I read it, the coward had already deleted his account. Guess he didn't want my Pack to send him notes explaining how much they enjoy being my pets.

Need an evil grin at my expence today? This morning, I was sitting reading my mail and sipping a fresh, hot cup of coffee when the handle (which was broken & glued back well over a year ago) BROKE again and spilled hot coffee all over my lap.  I've got a very 'special' lingering warm feeling today... From now on, if I ever tell you to fetch me a cup of coffee... be careful where you sit/stand until I've finished it.

Hmmm.... I just had a new boy ask me a wonderful question.? "That leads to something Ive been wondering about, does the dominant women often make friends with others that have the same taste ?, or is it more like a competition ?"? That put me in a different mind set than I was in earlier.? I have recently discovered that it is WONDERFUL to be female and over 40 years of age.? I finally HAVE other female friends.? I never had girl friends when I was younger because it WAS always a competition.? For me, and I believe for most young women, in our teens and twenties, it's all about trying to be what society tells us we should be.? We have to be beautiful - which means thin with the perfect hair, makeup & trendy fashions.? We have to be polite and subservient to our elders and men.? We are in this huge race to find a suitable husband, get married, settle down and start working on the perfect home and family.? That perfect family is what turns us all into "Soccer Moms" through our 30's.? We spend 100% of our time trying to give every ounce of energy to our kids, homes, husbands, community service, jobs, and never saying "No" to anyone who asks for our help.? Somewhere along the line, our TRUE SELVES are totally lost.? When one spends 100% of their time trying to be what 'They' say we should be, we don't have time to be who we ARE.? Forty Something is the time I gave all that crap up.? I just stopped CARING what other people thought of me or expected me to do.? I stopped running from pillar to post and looked long and hard in the mirror.? I didn't like what I saw.? I was over weight from eating fast food on the go while I 'did' for everyone else and never for myself.? I wasn't very healthy.? My teeth were bad and my joints hurt.? And no wonder I didn't have any girl friends - I didn't like MYSELF!? I finally came to the "Fuck You stage" just a couple of years ago.? I tried several 'quick fix' diets and some exercise tapes.? Didn't work.? I only felt deprived and like I was punishing myself.? I finally LISTENED to one of my subs and joined a gym.? I don't go there to run on treadmills to get skinny.? I lift weights to get healthy and strong.? I don't want to develop Diabetes, Osteoporosis, high blood pressure or heart disease... all of which run in my family.? Building muscle and bone mass is far more effective for the results that I want than crazy diets.? I may never have a 25 inch waist line again, but by Ghod I'm not going to kill myself for something "THEY SAY" I should have rather than what? I WANT!? Yep.? Forty has been good to me.? Forty Five was even better.? I'm actually looking forward to Fifty.? I'm going to be the hottest Grandma this city has ever seen.? *big evil grins*

Damn it! One of my Favored Four has just deleted his account. SOMEONE is going to pay for this! ----Edit---- He left me a message on my Yahoo that I didn't see until today.? I'll THINK about speaking to him.

OMG!? What a day for the gym.? Gees!? The hottest guy at my gym was doing grav boot exercises right in front of my leg press this morning.? All I could think about was "Do I have a flogger in my trunk?"? I SO wanted to put lovely red marks on that impressive slab of man meat hanging in front of me.? *sigh*

To see the video of Glenda getting the good news - Go to YouTube and search for "Kiss Our Astra" My friend Glenda WON the car! Whoo Hoo! Thanks again to everyone who voted, or at least tried. Her photo really was the best one! I've already started teasing her husband about 'When are you going to do the photo shoot of Glenda in a bikini on the new car?' I know all the guys on our regular forum are dying to know... but are to shy to ask. I'm not. ;)

Can I get a 'HU-Rah!'?? Sweet little Sun on LOST is a Domme Bitch!? You ROCK SUN!

**My girl Glinda is in the Top Three!? Whoo Hoo!? We find out Friday night who wins the car!? Thanks to all who voted.** Could you give a lady a little help? My good friend is trying to win a car. She NEEDS it badly as her last one blew up and (like everyone else) she's having a tough time right now. You have until May 15th to vote for Glenda Ross - Pic #1. I really, honestly think her's IS the best photo. But every vote counts! Please try. I would really appreciate it... and Glenda would be delighted! (She says she'll do a bikini photo shoot if she wins that car!) www.bellsouth.net/astrafinal/FINALIST_ASTRA/ASTRA/

What a great day! This is the first day in THREE WEEKS that my right shoulder did not hurt - much - during my workout.? I seem to have finally gotten over that bone head move I made getting overly confident on the Hack Squats and wrecking my shoulder.? (If you have no idea what that means... don't worry about it.)

NEEDED:? Personal Trainer? - As in experienced weight lifting coach.? I had to cut mine loose after catching him in a major lie.? After a year in the gym and lots of internet research, I'm pretty sure I know how to do continue the work I'm doing, but would enjoy someone who can discuss ways and strategies to achieve my goals.

DAY-EM!? Just tried out my new glass dildo with the spirals and bumps.? How have I managed to live so long without one of these?? At this point in time, I'm about ready to elevate any sub with a beaded cock to bull status.? *whew*

Somedays, I just don't get it.? I've been going to the gym for about a year... 9 months of that time to the same one, 5 to 6 days a week.? Pretty much the same time every day.? I see the same people there all the time.? I do NOT get dressed up for the gym like some females do.? I go to lift... not to look cute.? Two weeks ago, I bought some plain black lifting gloves.? Nothing fancy.? Just something to protect my hands because I'm getting really annoyed with the callouses.? All of a sudden, since I started wearing the gloves, hot guys who have never 'noticed' me before are striking up conversations!? Now, what I don't understand is this... what the heck is the difference?? Are lifting gloves HOT on a chick?? Or is it the fact that they cover my rings?? Not that I'm complaining... but nothing else has changed in two weeks that I can think of.

Home again, Home again, Jigity Jog!? Had a wonderful time in Atlanta.? Saw some good shows, including my friends the Scenic City Sadistic Side Show.? Also saw "Big Mama's Burlesque Show" for the first time.? That was fun.? Made me feel better about my large natural breasts needing a bit of support.? Whew!? Anyway ------? Saw some nice demonstrations on finer techniques for CBT including ball kicking without injuries and Deep Impact play.? Bought some fun new 'toys'.? Even won the "Golden Dildo" which turned out to be a very nice new glass butt plug.? I'll have to take a photo of all my new goodies for you.? When we got home, hubby was so inspired by what he saw that he finally built me that Queening Throne he's been promising. ? After? we have a chance to unpack and rest up a bit, we'll have to try out all the new stuff!

BTW - There's a new pic of my new twin floggers up.? I'm taking them to Atlanta tomorrow.

Appearance Notice.? For those of you close enough to Atlanta... I will be attending FroliCon this Easter Weekend.? I'll be looking for a nice new sub to try out my nice new floggers.

Update on my friend Marc. He'll live.? He'll sing and play all his instruments again.? As long as he has his music, he'll be fine.? Eventually.? Currently, he has a nasty gash from the top of his forehead, across the right eye and down the cheek.? Bones in the sinus area are cracked but not broken, so he won't need to much plastic surgery.? His rib is broken, but no other internal injuries.? His right leg, however is broken in FIVE places below the knee.? He currently has a steel rod with external support holding it together.? Contrary to early reports, he WAS wearing his seat belt, the driver's seat came loose from the mountings and went through the windshield WITH him.? The impact of the seat with dash board is what messed up his leg so badly.

If you answer to a higher power of any style... send some happy thoughts for my friend Marc of the Molly McGuire's. ? I've just been telling everyone about how much fun I had at a St. Patty's day party Saturday night, featuring the music of the Molly's - a Chattanooga based Irish Folk band.? Whenever my buddy has a 'good gig' I try to show up and support the group.? This time, he needs more than a happy face on the front row.? Marc was in an auto accident last night.? He apparently was not wearing his seat belt and put his head through the windshield.? He has a gash on his forehead and a broken knee or leg... reports have been sketchy.? Soft tissue injuries are expected.? Dear Lord, let him sing again!

Ok... I've been in about weeks worth of over worked, under appreciated funk.? Yet things are finally looking up.? Apparently, one of my old toys needs to come conduct some (vanilla) business with me.? What Fun!? When he used to be mine to toy with several times a week, he was married and our hard limits were no marks and no sexual contact.? That's over with now.? *evil giggles*? Seems the dear boy has been cast as Jesus in his church passion play.? How Delightful!? If THEY only knew what he did in the dark and how much he enjoyed being trussed up in my straight jacket and tossed in a dog cage!? *Long Lovely Laughter*

What a miserable end to a long week.? Just got in over 90 boxes of stock.? Where are all those toys who wish to 'serve me in any way' when I need lots of heavy things moved around in circles?? Alas!? It's a small business with only myself and my 70+ year old mother working there... so guess who gets to do all that heavy lifting and box moving?? I call two days as "All about Me" days and all my pretty little toys go run and hide.? Just goes to show just how much "Goddess Worshiping" they really wanted to do.? None.? Worthless pack of curs.? When I get my wind back, there will be hell to pay.

The pic of my favorite new shoes just got approved.? Know what that is hanging from my heel?

I am delighted beyond explanation today!? I just received three pairs of red pumps in the mail last night.? I can't remember EVER owning RED shoes.?? Some how, even my 'Domme' shoes have always had a practical side... always black as 'black goes with everything' and I do a great deal of costuming...? I have owned a dozen pairs of boots in all kinds of styles from thigh highs to burgundy suede to cowgirl boots... even had those "Desperately Seeking Susan" boots that Madonna wore in the movie. ? But I've never had RED pumps before.? I cannot explain the unexpected jubilation these have brought to me as they are pure decadence without a hint of functionality.? Truly, deliciously evil.? I can't wait to get home and take photos of them.

What a wonderful day!? Spent about 5 hours on the phone with my dear friend Oderus talking about everything under the shining sun... when hubby wasn't grabbing the phone to talk as well.? Silly man!? Oh well, when he was talking, I was typing. 'Met' a delightful young man... he knows who he is... and among us, we've coined a wonderful new term.? From now on, when people piss me off, it will be called a "Man Rammer Offense."? While I understand that many people here would enjoy a 9 1/2 inch long, 6 1/4 inch circumference dildo jammed up their asses... most of my pets wouldn't.? I might just have to get me one of these things to hang next to my chain mail flogger... just for intimidation purposes.?

Re-Watching "Pitch Black" on SciFi channel.? Not a great movie, but fun.? Best part is at the start when Vin Diesel is blind folded, gagged and chained to the wall.? Day-em... That's Hot.? I have a special affinity for everyone treating him like a dog as well.? *sigh*? After they let him go... it's kind of down hill from there.

What a wonderful workout! It's always good when I leave the gym wanting to grab a sub, use and abuse him for my pleasures then toss his spent, useless husk back into his cage. Sadly, reality is not so much fun... All I got was a nice hot shower and my Jack Russell Terrier trying to lick the water from my leg before I could towel off. It gave me a lovely thought... I think I need one of my pampered two legged pets to do a better job of licking my bath water away...

Monday's suck.? I was rather blue this morning... but going to the gym did wonders to lighten my mood.? It got even better when I found a little, overlooked lever on the Leg Extension machine.? You see, I have one bad knee.? I broke my right femur in a car wreck as a teenager and my knee never really healed up after I was in traction.? Extension machines had become the bane of my life.? Some days, it would be so easy.? Other days, it would hurt me so badly that I would shake, tear up and contemplate running to the ladies locker room so no one would see me lose it over the intense pain in that bad knee.? Today, I discovered a little lever that switched from "Light" to "Heavy".? Apparently, on the days I easily did 40 to 60 pounds of resistance on that machine, it was set to "Light"... on the days that 20 lbs made me bite my lip, it was on "Heavy".? There was nothing wrong with my leg... there was just something wrong with the TRAINER who did not bother to show me that SWITCH!? I believe if that girl still worked there, I'd string her up whether she liked it or not.

Hurrah!? It's been a long week.? To much thankless physical labor at work... to many reps at the gym... While I was explaining to a sub how he could make me feel better - details are NOT your business - The approvals on all my Valentine pics just came through.? *sigh*? Better late than never...? it's just not the same impact two days after the holiday is over. ?

Well... here we are... It's Valentine's day and my pics have not been approved. *sigh* Makes me look so dull and uninteresting. All my friends will feel neglected... But that's good enough for them as all but one seem to have forgotten to send me so much as a note... Line up... drop em... grab those ankles... the Beatings will begain shortly.

Got the CD's with the pics today! Some are very fun... I selected my favorite shots to be "Valentines" for my favorite people.? I believe I even found myself a new primary profile pic.? Naturally, as I have just re-arranged all my pics... nothing will show for a day or two.? Patience is a virtue!

Somedays, you just gotta crack that whip! Or at least drop not so subtle hints.? I sent my photographer a note explaining that some of the pictures we did were in red & white lingerie for Valentines day... and there were only a few days left!? He's dropping off 2 CD's full of pics today, including 37 cropped & 'fixed' photos.? Apparently, they were having unexplained problems with the lights and everything had to be color adjusted... or some such silly excuses for being so damned slow!

Whew!? Just did my very first professional photo shoot that was all about me!? I've done these before, but usually as one of several ladies who pretty much 'take turns' in front of the camera.? Those are fun, and tend to become more like a dress up party for grown women.? But this one went on for HOURS and the husband/wife team of photogs shot almost 500 frames!? At first, both were behind the cameras, but the wife finally gave up trying to shot because she was to busy arranging my clothes and fixing my hair.? She used to run a small photography studio that specialized in "boudoir" portraits.? It tickled me how long she would take arranging the curls of my hair across my chest for some of the shots.? It was amazingly NICE to have a female dresser to make sure that everything was in it's proper place and nothing TO naughty was showing.? So... after they process the photos, I will hopefully have something nice to reward my favorites for their services...? But don't get to excited, there are ZERO nudes!? Some of us know that scantily clad is far more alluring than nude.

Oprah did a wonderful show yesterday on "Why are you still single?"? (Yes, I keep the TV on in my workroom all day at work.? Deal with it.)? One of the 'experts' was discussing how? women need to? 'let the man open the pickle jar' now and then.? Basically, what she was saying is that even though YES, we CAN open the pickle jar ourselves,? men like to think they are masculine and that we ladies need them to do little 'manly' things for us - like open jars. Let me tell you... I come from a long line of what have been called "Domineering Women" in polite society.? In actuality, every woman in my family history has been a self sufficient bitch who learned to do everything by herself because there frequently was no one to do those 'manly things' for her.? My father's father cut out on my grandmother in the middle of the Great Depression leaving her with two small children and an invalid brother to care for.? This is the same woman who went on to fight city hall in her mid 60's - and she WON!? My mother's father was an alcoholic who occasionally did a little carpentry work, just enough to buy another bottle.? Mom's mom raised seven children on a dirt farm in rural Tennessee by putting those kids to work on the farm.? I spent most of my summers there tending fields and animals and carrying water from the well because grandma never had indoor plumbing.? My mother worked her way through college and earned her CPA while raising her own three children because she wanted better for us. Yeah.? I come from tough women.? I am a tough woman.? I can open my own damn pickle jars.? But I choose not to.? That's what slaves are for.

I have a strange, uncontrollable desire for a "Reverend Shnore" coffee mug from the Jerry Springer show.

I continue to be amused by the messages I get explaining how subs believe that they are 'Collar Ready' right now.? Please don't stop as these notes often make my day. I just thought I might be nice and clarify the origin of the statement what it actually meant.? I have a very dear friend, "Nik", whom I met in 1992.? We only ran into each other, face to face, a couple of times, but have been corresponding via email ever since.? Nik makes his living reading computer code, but he's been a personal trainer for over 20 years.? In 2006, Nik won a 'body make over challenge' at his local gym and sent me pics.? Let me tell you, he was extra HOT that day! Shortly after the pics from the challenge arrived, time for one of my conventions was rolling around.? I sent Nik a note saying that I would love to take him to the show on a leash, wearing my collar and very little else.? His response was "You know, it takes me 3 weeks to get collar ready." *BIG GRIN!* That phrase stuck with me.? Nik meant that like most body builders, he does not stay 'pumped up' all the time.? It would take him 3 weeks to shed any extra body fat and perfect his beautiful body to the point he would feel proud to wear my collar. Mind you, just because I enjoy big, powerful men who could physically best me at any time, yet choose to submit... that doesn't mean that you HAVE to look like Mr. Universe to be my pet.? One keeps all types of dogs for different purposes.? Some are excellent guard dogs.? Some are just for show.? Some are happy little lap dogs who's only reason to live is to make the Mistress smile.

Had a wonderful time at my convention... overly red hair and all.? New pics have been added, including cropped shots of my "Ice Bitch" costume.? I was strangely disappointed by how few people understood the significance of my new little shoestring flogger.? Oh well!? I guess my friends aren't quite as kinky as I thought they were.? Although, they did understand multiple uses for that lovely new Lucite handled swivel flogger.

Oh Lord!? Bad Hair Day!? VERY bad hair day. Just dyed my hair last night.? My hair is naturally a medium chestnut brown.? I don't really like it.? I've always loved Redheads... so I 'spark up' the color to a much brighter shade of red.? Sadly, my favorite brand/color is only available on line and I refuse to pay $10 to ship a $7 box of dye.? So - I tried something else.? Feria Power Reds.? Wrong answer.? The color on the box looked GREAT!? The color on my head is somewhere between Orangutan and Ronald McDonald.? *sigh*? I've got a little over a week to correct this problem before my photo shoot.? Until then, I think I'll go beat my fav subs until their backs match my hair just because I can.

My dear friend Odie reminded me yesterday that I never gave him proper credit for inviting me to this site.? Silly Dom!? Always thinking that he can tell me what to do...? But then, he knows that I'll get around to it... eventually. So... this is the OFFICIAL SHOUT OUT to ODERUS! There.? Are you happy now?? Gees.? *eye roll*

Oops!? I tried to ad some of the new pics I took last night and screwed stuff up.? Maybe, one of these days, I'll learn how to use this site.? Or find a good subbie to do it for me.? ;)

Well... what fun.? I've been on CollarMe for a couple of weeks.? I've met some very interesting people, made some new friends, talked to some people that I regret speaking to...? *eye roll*? You know who you are! I may be very new to this site, but I'm not new to the internet.? If you want me to pay attention to you, you guys are going to have to come up with some better opening lines. This is the way I personally interpret? the first messages I get from most male subs: "Ms.? How may I serve you?" Means:? Write me a titillating scenario. "Can we IM or Yahoo Chatt?" Means:? I want your undivided attention even though I haven't said one interesting thing to you. "I need to verify that you are who you say you are.? Can we speak on the phone?" Means:? Call me, I need some free phone sex. -OR- Give me your number so I can type it into a search engine and get your real name and address. "I don't have a pic but am considered attractive." Means:? I'm ugly as homemade sin. "I want to be your 24/7 live in slave." Means:? I'm an jobless bum and need a woman to sponge off of. Now, if this offends you, it's probably because you've already used one of these lines.? If your laughing, then someone has used them on YOU! Yeah - I talk to other women on here and from other sites.? They all say the same thing.? It's not just me.? All the ladies get the same crap.? Let me give you guys a little hint... Say something INTERESTING and the ladies might listen to you!? We're here to get our own jollies, not just be "Free Ho's" to cater to your particular kinks.? You gotta bring something to the table... even if it's just virtual 'gifts' of pictures or an interesting story.

*evil grin* Re-reading that first entry, I can see where some people are making a mistake. My 'trainer' isn't what probably popped into your head.? He's my PERSONAL TRAINER for my resistance (weight) training.? Every month when I start getting a bit cocky about my ability to do a given exercise, he gives me a new routine to work a completely different set of muscles.? It hurts so good.

My trainer is a sadistic bastard.? I think that's what I love most about him. The new year is upon us and he is finding such entertaining new ways to torture me.? The cur is nothing more than my humble servant devising these devious plans for my self torment.? Yet, it is he who shall first reap the benefits of what he hath so gratefully sewn.?

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