i am looking for fun, sincere and kinky people for real life play that are honest, attractive, that can carry on a conversation and knows how to combine the world of BDSM and vanilla.

If it can be said that I have pride in particular aspects of my personality, then I would nominate two elements that are of crucial importance in a D/s relationship. First among equals is my capacity for empathy. I know that subs, and slaves need security if they are to achieve the transcendental happiness they seek through servitude. Subs mostly do not desire the pressure that can flow from those that equate Dominance with purely arrogant behavior. Secondly I am a deep communicator. I listen carefully with an open mind and an open heart. I need to know what you want. For subs, feeling as though they have a secure place at the negotiating table is key to building trust. Equally, I am articulate and sensitive and can be commanding or inquiring or reassuring in an appropriate manner.

Yes, I am strict in relation to fundamental D/s protocols. I do not tolerate bad manners or negative attention seeking behavior outside of naughtiness in a scene.

Yes, I expect a transactional model for a D/s relationship. My loyalty and trust must be rewarded with your loyalty and obedience.

Yes, I am open minded. I am happy to hear from subs, slaves and switches of any age, any kink (within my own hard limits) and I am open to arrangements ranging from casual play to permanent TPE.

Yes, I am happy to exchange ideas with any pleasant members of the D/s community and to be involved in scenes with them.

Yes, I am unencumbered by STD's and expect the same.

If my profile resonates with your values then you may email me and expect to receive a prompt and cordial response.

the perfect poem that expresses this lifestyle: Do You Love Me


A lover asked his beloved,
Do you love yourself more
than you love me?

The beloved replied,
I have died to myself
and I live for you.

I’ve disappeared from myself
and my attributes.
I am present only for you.

I have forgotten all my learning,
but from knowing you
I have become a scholar.

I have lost all my strength,
but from your power
I am able.

If I love myself...
I love you.
If I love you...
I love myself.

I desire you more than food or drink
My body, my senses,my hunger for your taste.
I can sense your presence in my heart although you belong to all the world.
I wait with silent passion for one gesture one glance from you.

If I love myself...
I love you.
If I love you...
I love myself.

-rumi