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Anything's possible in Human Nature," Chacko said in his Reading Aloud voice. Talking to the darkness now, suddenly insensitive to his little fountain-haired niece. "Love. Madness. Hope. Infinite joy."
Of the four things that were Possible in Human Nature, Rahel thought that Infinnate Joy sounded the saddest. Perhaps because of the way Chacko said it.
Infinnate Joy. With a church sound to it. Like a sad fish with fins all over."
— Arundhati Roy

I will serve him, live for him,  
belong wholly to him,  
yield to him and find  
myself transfigured in his light  
You, my beloved,  
have appeared before me,  
will you, sun, give me your radiance?  
Let me in reverence,  
let me in humility,  
let me bow to my lord  

the symbol of that commitment – the ring – or maybe the collar

Robert Schumann’s Frauenliebe und -leben (“Woman’s Love and Life”)

**ty surrender to me**

Barrowed from profile of another....thank you sir....  
   
submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use. submission is not about what is done to you, submission is about what you do for others.  Strong men simply need women. This will never be understood by weak men. A strong man needs a woman at his feet, who is truly His. Anything else is less than His fulfillment. 

~Unknown (an assertive submissive) 

In denying it we deny our nature. In betraying it we betray no one but ourselves. The Master will never be happy until he is a Master. The slave will never be happy until she is a slave. It is what we are.

~Unknown (an assertive slave)

"My my my... What a Beautiful morning"...

"There are very few human beings who receive the truth, complete and staggering, by instant illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a small scale, by successive developments, cellularly, like a laborious mosaic."
— Anaïs Nin

"I am an excitable person who only understands life lyrically, musically, in whom feelings are much stronger as reason. I am so thirsty for the marvelous that only the marvelous has power over me. Anything I can not transform into something marvelous, I let go. Reality doesn't impress me. I only believe in intoxication, in ecstasy, and when ordinary life shackles me, I escape, one way or another. No more walls."
— Anaïs Nin

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
—Anais Nin

this is a personal sentiment towards the many wonderful souls that i have personally encountered from this little entity known as "cm", who would have thunk it...

most humbly and lovingly... trish

"The dancing of the female before the male, that she be found pleasing and he be pleased, is one of the most profound lessons in all of human biology. Others are when she kneels before him, when she kisses his feet, when she performs obeisance, when she knows herself subject, truly, to his whip."
~ Dancer of Gor

"Better to have one woman on your side than ten men."
— Robert Jordan

the ideal Dom can relate to this:

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others.

As a stern and demanding Dominant,he can cause his sub to cry real tears.

As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

“Beautiful enough to be collared” is a Gorean compliment, though perhaps a rather rude one, and one that one would not be likely to hear addressed openly and to the face of a free woman. “She has legs pretty enough to be those of a slave girl” is another such compliment.

~ {Guardsman of Gor - 210}

I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind.

I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay.

I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor.

I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly.

Hmmm...  they thought it was just titties & the blonde hair...

something Wicked, this way comes..........

Morning...

It has been brought my Attention, that Someone has felt the need to report... that I may not be a "Female"... and possibly be posing as a male...

Well, let's just put it like this... the last time I checked... I was born with a Beautiful;

"Vagina"...

For those of You that know Me personally... Thank You for Your support! 

ps... "Body by CrossFit" too...

Evening Everyone…  I have been contemplating on the exact format of how I wanted to convey this particular tidbit of information…

Here goes…  It is in no way shape or form in any sense “Flattering”, “A Turn – On”, “Appealing”, “Sexy”, “Stirring”, “Moving”, “Tingly”, “Excited”, “Hot”, “OMG I want Him Moment”, ”Hold Me back cause that’s the One”.

Basically your getting the signifigance of where I am going with this and what I am referring to… 

Drum Roll Please…

***Do Not Send Any Photographs of Your Genitalia***

1. I did not become a memeber of CM to involve Myself in "Hit n Runs"... (How is that possible anyway when the lifestyle is such a deeper level when Your working on so many doorways with Your sub/slave.

to be continued...  

"He split them all in half, forcing them to spend the rest of their lives searching for their other half so they could be complete"...

The concept of a soul mate, and all of its http://everything2.com/title/inherent+difficulties CTRL + Click to follow link" href="http://everything2.com/title/inherent+difficulties">inherent difficulties, makes a lot more sense in belief systems which embrace http://everything2.com/title/reincarnation CTRL + Click to follow link" href="http://everything2.com/title/reincarnation">reincarnation, especially those which also hold to some concept of http://everything2.com/title/karma CTRL + Click to follow link" href="http://everything2.com/title/karma">karma.

An individual soul comes into this world more than once, and in different bodies. That soul interacts with others over its many lives. Conflicts occur, as do more amicable interactions. People and other incarnate souls spend quite a bit of their lives settling various kinds of issues with others. The issues -- good and bad -- between two souls are not always resolved before one or the other disincarnates, however.

Under the Hindu concept of karma, how you conduct yourself in this life determines what you come back as in the next. Most pagans believe that you reincarnate in order to resolve issues left over from the previous life, or to learn some sort of lesson, or to apply the lessons that you learned. With those two things in mind, let's reexamine the soul mate concept.        

"We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and -- in spite of True Romance magazines -- we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely -- at least, not all the time -- but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness."
— Hunter S. Thompson

"but... I will say this, I am not looking for the said "happiness" in the hearts of others.  I am wanting to share the abundance of Joy, Laughter, Grace, Gratitude, Love, Respect, Passion, Decedance, Deviance, Intimacy and everything humanly possible that has been instilled within my tiny little body that has been needing to get out and shared with another...  So, "Yes"...  I would love to share it with and I firmely believe it is my gift to share it with Someone Special... rather than keeping it all to my self... but, and I mean BUT... it will be a very very very Special Soul that receives those gifts... for it will be a lifetime of giving... this I am sure"....

--Trish

back @ you Swami K  (Lol)...  Thank U....

Hope Everyone enjoyed there Holiday with Friends and Family...

"Remember...it's the absolute smallest details that make the biggest difference in our Everyday lives"...

No longer is it about the Quantity... rather than the "QUALITY"!!!

Surgery Update: Where do I start...  Foot Surgery on Friday...

1. the "Holly Cr*p" factor sets in...when the pain meds wear off... 

2. could one body part get anymore Swollen...

3. "Should" it be that color... for a bruise...

4. am I reading the label right, as needed for pain every hour... ;/~

5. great training for subs to practice being on there knees... 

Excerpt: An Incredible Journal Entry from a very Intuitive Individual... Kudos to You & Thank You for getting it right...

After being on this site for quite some time, it has come to my attention that many people that associate themselves with this "lifestyle" do so out of insecurity or because it gives them comfort or a release from some sort of physiological problem they may have. It's apparent in situations when men are so insecure as to mandate they are always referred to as Master or Sir (and god forbid someone doesn't capitalize it).  When they must be shown respect from all subs regardless of what relationship they have or don't have with that individual.

They demand respect they have done nothing to earn from that particular woman. A man that demands he be called Master or Sir solely or in large part to stroke his ego (that is severely in need of constant stroking due to insecurities he manifests as arrogance) reminds me of frat boys and sororities girls that wear the Greek letters of their respective organizations everywhere they go. For some subs the "lifestyle" is used as a crutch, it lets them feel comfort when they only have to listen to what another tells them. And don't get me started on the people that post pictures that are not them, or try to pass them selves off as someone or something they are not.

The fake profiles that are made to scam people out of their money I at least understand (I don't condone it or agree with it). The people that make fake profiles for attention is quite strange.

To me it seems as though the best sub or Dom is one that doesn't need the other to function but uses the other in a manner that makes each better. Just a though -- who knows I could be wrong.

"I must say a word about fear. It is life's only true opponent. Only fear can de. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unnerving ease. It begins in your mind, always ... so you must fight hard to express it. You must fight hard to shine the light of words upon it. Because if you don't, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness that you avoid, perhaps even manage to forget, you open yourself to further attacks of fear because you never truly fought the opponent who defeated you."
— Yann Martel

"I am reminded of a story of Lord Krishna when he was a cowherd. Every night he invites the milkmaids to dance with him in the forest. They come and they dance. The night is dark, the fire in their midst roars and crackles, the beat of the music gets ever faster - the girls dance and dance and dance with their sweet lord, who has made himself so abundant as to be in the arms of each and every girl. But the moment the girls become possessive, the moment each one imagines that Krishna is her partner alone, he vanishes. So it is that we should not be jealous of God."
— Yann Martel

"Awakening of the kundalini"...

The kundalini rises from muladhara chakra up a subtle channel at the base of the spine (called Sushumna), and from there to top of the head merging with the sahasrara, or crown chakra. When kundalini Shakti is conceived as a goddess, then, when it rises to the head, it unites itself with the Supreme Being (Lord Shiva). Then the aspirant becomes engrossed in deep meditation and infinite bliss.^[11][12]

The arousing of kundalini is said by some to be the one and only way of attaining Divine Wisdom. Self-Realization is said to be equivalent to Divine Wisdom or Gnosis or what amounts to the same thing: self-knowledge.

The awakening of the kundalini shows itself as "awakening of inner knowledge" and brings with itself "pure joy, pure knowledge and pure love."

Kundalini is a psycho-spiritual energy, the energy of the consciousness, which is thought to reside within the sleeping body, and is aroused either through spiritual discipline or spontaneously to bring new states of consciousness, including mystical illumination. Kundalini is Sanskrit for "snake" or "serpent power," so-called because it is believed to lie like a serpent in the root chakra at the base of the spine. In Tantra Yoga kundalini is an aspect of Shakti, the divine female energy and consort of Shiva.(see also Tantrism)

 

The power of kundalini is said to be enormous. Those having experienced it claim it to be indescribable. The phenomena associated with it varies from bizarre physical sensations and movements, pain, clairaudience, visions, brilliant lights, superlucidity, psychical powers, ecstasy, bliss, and transcendence of self. Kundalini has been described as liquid fire and liquid light.

Indian yoga, with its emphasis on the transmutation of energy to higher consciousness, was the chief contributor to the cultivation of kundalini and the preservation of its knowledge prior to present times. Kundalini was a rarity in the West before the 1970s until more attention became centered upon the consciousness. In 1932, for example, psychiatrist Carl G. Jung and others observed that the kundalini experience was seldom seen in the West.

 

However, an examination of mystical literature and traditions showed that kundalini, called by various names, seems to have been a universal phenomenon in esoteric teachings for perhaps three thousand years. Kundalini-type descriptions or experiences are found in esoteric teachings of the Egyptians, Tibetans, Chinese, some Native Americans, and the !Kung bushmen of Africa. Kundalini has been interpreted from the Bible as "the solar principle in man," and is referenced in the Koran, the works of Plato and other Greek philosophers, alchemical tracts (the philosopher's stone), and in Hermetic, Kabbalistic, Rosicrucian, and Masonic writings.

 

There has been an awakening of kundalini knowledge among the Western populations since the 1970s because of two major reasons: more people who are trained in the spiritual disciplines are likely to release the energy, and the increased number of people that are aware of kundalini are more likely to recognize its symptoms or benefits.

 

Not all kundalini experiences are identical to those classical awakenings experienced in yoga, but may vary in intensity and duration. Typically the yogi meditates to arouse the kundalini and then to raise it through his or her body. (It should be remembered though, not all types of yoga are devoted to the arousal of kundalini.) First, the yogi feels the sensation on heat at the base of the spine, which may be intensely hot or pleasantly warm. The energy then travels up a psychic pathway parallel to the spinal column. The sushumna is the central axis, crisscrossed in a helix by the ida and pingala. As it rises the kundalini activates the chakras in succession. The body becomes cold and corpse-like as the kundalini leaves the lower portions and begins to rise. The yogi is likely to shudder, tremble, or rock violently, feel extreme heat and cold, hear strange but not unpleasant sounds, and see various kinds of lights including an inner light. The length of the kundalini may be fleeting or last several minutes. The objective is to raise the kundalini to the crown chakra, where it unites with the Shiva, or the male polarity, and brings illumination. The yogi then attempts to lower the energy to another chakra, but not below the heart chakra because descent to lower chakras is thought to produce ego inflation, rampant sexual desire, and a host of other ills. By repeatedly raising the kundalini to the crown, the yogi can succeed in having the energy permanently stay there.

 

It is said that kundalini opens new pathways in the nervous system; the pain associated with this apparently is due to the nervous system's inability to immediately copy with the energy. Yogis assert that the body must be properly attuned for kundalini through yoga, and that a premature or explosive awakening can cause insanity or death.

 

Other individuals, it has been determined by Western psychologists and psychiatrists, have experienced kundalini awakenings but not the explosive kind. One notable characteristic of these lesser awakenings is that the individual thinks, acts, and feels remarkably different. Symptoms may involve involuntary and spasmodic body movements and postures; pain; abnormal breathing patterns; paralysis; tickling itching; vibrating sensations; hot and cold sensations; inner sounds, such as roaring, whistling, and chirping; insomnia; hypersensitivity to environment; unusual or extremes of emotions; intensified sex drive; distortion of thought processes; detachment; disassociation; sensations of physical expansion; and out-of-body experiences (OBEs). Generally the elimination of such symptoms can be brought about by a heavier diet and temporary cessation of meditation. The phenomena of these lesser kundalini awakenings seem to indicate that the definition may have to be expanded from that of the coiled serpent of yoga. Such experienced awakenings are difficult to definitely define though because scientific research of kundalini energy is still in its embryonic stages, little is known of the energy's nonphysical nature, and many of its symptoms are similar to those associated with mental disturbances and stress.

 

One of the most dramatic instances of classic kundalini awakening was experienced by Gopi Krishna (1903-1984), of India, who meditated for three hours every morning over seventeen years. On Christmas Day, 1937, he had his explosive awakening with kundalini pouring up his spine. By his personal account, he rocked out of his body and was enveloped in a halo of light. His consciousness expanded in every direction, and a vision of luster unfolded before him; he was like a small cork bobbing on a vast ocean of consciousness. This extraordinary experienced occurred once again, and then Krishna was plunged into twelve years of misery, during which he "experienced the indescribable ecstasies of the mystics…and the agonies of the mentally afflicted." Following twelve years his body apparently adapted to the new energy and stabilized, but he was permanently changed. Everything in his vision was bathed in a silvery light. He heard an inner cadence, called the "unstruck melody" in kundalini literature.

 

Eventually he could experience bliss just by turning his attention inward. He became, as he said, "a pool of consciousness always aglow with light." His creativity soared allowing him to write poetry and nonfiction books.

Krishna devotedly spent most of the remainder of his life learning the secrets of kundalini. He considered it "the most jealously guarded secret in history" and "the guardian of human evolution." To him it was the driving force behind genius and inspiration. He also thought within the brain is the blueprint to evolve humankind to a higher consciousness, one that makes use of kundalini. Too, he believed kundalini could improve the health of humankind with its ability to regenerate and restore the body, to lengthen life, and eradicate such conditions as mental retardation.

 

Krishna made ever effort increase the cultivation of kundalini in the West. Many researchers followed him, but some disagreed with the importance that he gave kundalini.

 

"The only way you can conquer me is through love and there I am gladly conquered"
— Krishna

I received an incredible message, in reference to the question of..." Should this individual back off being Dominant or not at a point during his relationship"...I have

I have made the mistake in the past, that once I get into a relationship I back off as a dom.  I learned that it does not work.  I am not happy and the woman is not happy.  Many women find comfort in being led.  Being controlled.  (this was my response)... 

You are absolutely correct on every word You speak.  i have waited an eternity to find my Master, Lord, Sadist, Owner, Keeper, God, Creator, Dominant...Only through Him will i ever be complete by His eternal side. oddly enough, i truly knew this as an adolescent.  for some reason, the Universe decided to keep me at bay until i was ready for the right One to come along...  i truly feel in my soul that soon... i will be owned. 

i am one of the strongest women i know, even in the literal sense from my days of fighting in the ring to my extensive background in breaking down Egos in a corporate training environment in front of thousands of some of the top ranked men within their companies in a matter of seconds... just from a glance in my eye.  but all my training and self discipline has led me to be ready to fully submit and give my soul eternally to my One, my Owner, my Keeper, my Master, my Dominant and yes...the One that will make me Whole...

every women feels this from the moment she has taken her first breath and secretly this is the only desire she has ever yearned for...  make no mistake... this is how it was in the beginning, how is now and how it will always be... it is in our very nature, our essence, every culture, race, societies, creeds, religions,tribes...

So please do not back off, i beg You to never ever back off.. be who You are suppose to be, who You were put here to be and rightfully so... to fulfill the most beautiful soul of that slave who has been waiting her entire life for You...

most humbly...

trish

"Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another?
We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?"
— Haruki Murakami

i know....  deep for a monday... but truly...do we really???  ask yourself... and then ask again about that person sitting next to to you, close to you...  good question...

"Chance encounters are what keep us going."
— Haruki Murakami

Really...  Ya, Think...  =)~

"Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back. That's part of what it means to be alive. But inside our heads - at least that's where I imagine it - there's a little room where we store those memories. A room like the stacks in this library. And to understand the workings of our own heart we have to keep on making new reference cards. We have to dust things off every once in awhile, let in fresh air, change the water in the flower vases. In other words, you'll live forever in your own private library."
— Haruki Murakami

Description: State: Height: Weight: Age: Orientation: Ethnicity: Last Online:  Male Dominant  New York  6'0"  210 lbs  27  Straight  Caucasian  03/17/11

Damn, it makes me wanna run out and get a collar n hope he'll take me... Are You Kidding!!!

"Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions. You change direction but the sandstorm chases you. You turn again, but the storm adjusts. Over and over you play this out, like some ominous dance with death just before dawn. Why? Because this storm isn't something that blew in from far away, something that has nothing to do with you. This storm is you. Something inside of you. So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn't get in, and walk through it, step by step. There's no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That's the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

An you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You'll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about."
— Haruki Murakami

"Even chance meetings are the result of karma… Things in life are fated by our previous lives. That even in the smallest events there’s no such thing as coincidence."
— Haruki Murakami

"Tell the truth, or someone will tell it for you."
— Stephanie Klein

Hmmmmmmmmmm...  Not gonna mention any names here, but Word to the Wise!!!

Karma is a Biaaaaaatch...

Ok...

If no one else is going to say it, I am going too!!!

Why is it, that most D/ M/S's do Not have any Pic's...

(S = is for Sadist)

What are YOU Thinking!!! 

If I'm shopping and I'm looking for a New car or Used (recession), I want to check it out, I want to make sure the body looks good, check all the dents, scratches, dings,rust spots,wear n tear, Ummm Face Value!!!

(Ohhhh, don't judge a book by it's cover "People", SHUT UP...)

Listen Up, if I am gettin' ready to make a huge decision on whether or not I'm thinking of "submitting" possibly... (one day)

FIRST IMPRESSIONS ARE the MOST Important!

If YOU Do Not "LOVE Yourself" & Care about Yourself in "Total" how could You even begin to allow another Beautiful Soul to Submit themselves to YOU... (yes I used Caps.)  Remember this is not a RPG,Dungeons n Dragons...this is real Life, real People,real Emotions...

Shibari techniques from Japan
A unique way to enjoy love

By Oshidoma: Seikyoma to Nawa  (Translated from Japanese by Dorei Lori Green)

Japan was and is one of the most exciting places in the Eastern hemisphere, the cultural disciple of China. It has not changed its views on many traditions. Idiosyncrasies are, however, everywhere due to Buddhism and Shintoism. Although the Japanese women have exchanged the kimono and geta for mini skirts and platform boots, interest in bedroom adventures has changed very little.

The tradition still exists in modern Japan in all forms—in business, art, and natural reproduction. It is common to find movies, animation, comics, photos, and signs in Tokyo that present the art of Rope Bondage, currently known in Japan as Shibari or Kinbaku.

The Western approach to studying mores of a culture often makes us lose sight of several interesting aspects of a culture. When we study and explore Japanese culture on a superficial level, we usually get a bad impression about this art form. In the west, we are taught that everything similar to or relating to shibari is bad, or an aberration. In the East, it is not seen that way. The Kama Sutra was created in India. China and all neighboring countries, including Japan, see the physical act as a biological necessity.

Not having Christianity to dictate rules and establish carnal sins, the East could use its imagination to play or create pleasure. Based on the precepts of Buddhism and Shintoism, art forms such as Chanoyu, Ikebana, Kendo or Shibari were created.  (Related article:  Garter belts in the bedroom)

Origin of bondage in Japan 

The history of Sokubaku or bondage in Japan begins with illustrations in an art form known as Hojo-jutsu or Baku-jutsu. These art forms were part of the schools of martial arts practiced by the Samurais. To understand this better, we must go to the dark epoch of mediin Nagano prefecture in Japan). Those violent and cruel techniques began to be eventually used for esthetic and personal pleasure purposes.

The first illustration of Hobaku-Jutsu being used for pleasure purposes comes at the end of the Edo period. That is when Japan began to open its doors to the world and western ideas and concepts reached Japan. From that time until the present, that method of continues to be used to create pleasure and beauty. Rope had been a symbol of power and control over women in the form of fantasy and play--before the status and roles of Japanese women changed. 

During World War II, the Japanese came into contact with Germans and learned the concepts of the West and legacy of the Marquis de Sade. These were added to the ancient art, its symbol of power, hemp ropes, and the artistic concept of beauty and the art form that we know today as Shibari came into being. In the 1960s Japan, the popularity of this art form increased to the point that special theatres were created for it. In Tokyo the public would pay to see a Nawashi Rope Maestro tie up a Dorei or M-jo, a woman. The Master would pick a woman from the crowd, bind her, suspend her and demonstrate shibari techniques in front of spectators. 

This art form is still part of Japanese society. Japanese women see this art form as part of Japanese heritage and I can speak from experience. I asked a beautiful, twenty-three year old Japanese woman: “Would you let me tie you up?” She said to me: “Of course, but only if you are my boyfriend.” 

At the present, there are several famous Masters in Japan. Some of them are: Imai Kazuo, Oniroku Dam, Chiba Sensei, Mai Randa etc. Currently Japanese television and art establishments use famous actresses or idols to demonstrate this art. The art form looks cruel and inhumane at first sight. But we have to remember one fact - when talking about Japanese Bondage - no Japanese woman is forced to do it. They do it freely and enjoy it. The Nawashi can have the greatest skill possible and the amount of rope necessary to tie up a woman, but without the woman, there is no art. 

Japanese women, just like the Nawashi, think binding a woman frees her soul. How is this possible? In Japan, it is said and believed that bondage, submission and humiliation frees a woman. To understand this contradiction, you must remember that the Japanese are a very hardworking people, life is short, and all Japanese live stressful lives. Shibari is used as a tool to break free from stress and the daily routine of a simple, normal woman.

In addition to this, we can analyze the importance of Shibari in relation to the attitude of the modern woman in Japan. At present time, there are no more Geishas left. Feminism and equality of the genders in Japan is standard practice though it still lags the rest of the developed world. Many women know deep inside that it is not good to abandon traditional roles and that is why, when these women find a good Nawashi, they let themselves be punished by him. The Nawashi in Japan say that the best Doreis or M-jo are proud women with great self-esteem, because when they are bound and humiliated, they free their egotistical selves and are left with their biological truth. 

One Aspect of why a Submissive will chosse to Submit:

Submission is the giving or an exchange of power given by a male or female submissive to a male (Dom) or female (Domme) Dominant.

In the exchange, it includes giving a submissives's life, body, heart, mind and soul to their chosen Dom/me.  In return (making it an exchange), the Dom/me gives their submissive protection, love, guidance, friendship, basic human needs and of course, an opportunity to grow as a s person in all areas of life.

Many make the mistake in thinking that submitting one's self means giving only their body for sexual use for a Dom/me.  This is not true, that would be considered only as role-play between two people.  Submission can go much more deeper than sex.  It can be a very deep and loving relationship, with more trust and open, honest communication than most vanilla couples.  Submission, in most cases, in a D/s relationship, is giving all of one's submissive self to their Dom/me..  Including all of their thoughts, feelings, emotions, service, obedience and body, with reasonable limits (as the couple will decide throughout their relationship).  Remembering that it would also include all of the submissive's pains, scars, fears and problems.

Submission can be a way of living, where both people in the relationship can grow and learn together, in all aspects of their lives, in a healthy, loving, safe and supportive bond.

"The Bible tells women to submit to their husbands:"

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat!!! Stop the Presses... Hold on, hold the F' on!!!

This is what I pulled up on the World Wide Web while I was doing some research. 

I will be back shortly with the REAL reason why Submissives choose to Submit and YES I used "CAPITALS"... 

because in my World they are the most prescious gift, without these lovely beings, the D/M/Sadist wouldn't have anything to own or control!

Trouble... ;}~

 Then there was "Geisha"...

The courtesans of the pleasure quarters were trained in various arts: music, dance and poetry as well as other forms of court entertainment that up until that time had been known only to the nobility. As times changed so did the tastes of the customers; the formality and expense involved meant only the elite were able to patronize the Tayu (the top level courtesans).

With the change in attitudes came a new type of entertainer. It was in the early 1700s when the first male-geisha appeared on the scene. However, it was not long before some entrepreneurial female entertainers followed suit and the first women geisha, as we know them today, made their debut. Their role was simple:

1. No flashy kimonos or hair ornaments.

2. No sitting next to customers.

3. Do not interfere with the courtesan’s customers.

Courtesan entertainment peaked in the mid-18th century and from then on the geisha would become the most skilled entertainers in the ‘floating world’ of the pleasure quarters.

Suddenly hanamachi (geisha quarters) began appearing all over Japan, reaching their peak in the early 1900s. In modern times to experience authentic traditional geisha entertainment one must go to the ancient capital, Kyoto. Some may argue that Tokyo geisha still retain some of the charm of the past but the buildings and attire of the geisha in Tokyo cannot be compared to the geiko (Kyoto term for geisha) of Kyoto.

In Kyoto’s five hanamachi, Gion Kobu, Gion Higashi, Ponto-cho, Miyagawa-cho and Kamishichiken, geiko and their apprentices the maiko entertain their customers in the traditional ochaya (tea houses) in the same kimono-clad fashion as they have done since the eighteenth century.

Although numbers are declining, the modern geiko still practices her arts with the same dedication as her fore-sisters did, always trying to add to her repertoire of gei (arts). Competition with art-oriented hostess bars, karaoke and a waning economy makes mere survival a challenge for newcomers to the trade. Many find the lifestyle and schedule too demanding and eventually leave the hanamachi for a less disciplined line of work.

The transition of the geiko from fashion innovator to cultural curator has raised the question of the very future of the hanamachi. Some say that the geiko are old-fashioned and should disappear while they still have their dignity. Others believe that as long as Japanese men still feel nostalgia for the past, the geiko will always have a place in Japanese society. Whether it be a graceful slide into extinction or a complete sell-out to the tourist industry, their numbers will inevitably decrease, taking with them an important part of Japanese culture and history.

... A Pleasure Worth Paying For!...

A Courtesan was a woman  in the 15th – 20th century who at the very least came from an

upper-middle class family; most came from wealthy or noble families, but weren’t  royalty.  These women were allowed to be educated and learned about the : art, poetry,  opera,  and  wine.  Courtesans were well – educated and worldly – aside from their physical attributes, it was their wit and personality that set them apart from regular women.  They became the companions at social events to men of wealth, power, and royalty.   Some of the most famous women in royal circles, such as Madame De Pompadour, were courtesans and played a vital role in shaping social trends.

Something to think about, a "Switch"... hmm...

I am both Dominant and submissive--a Switch. I am into BDSM because I want more. I want more experience, I want more intensity; I want to feel more, think more, experience more, be more. I want to live life in immoderation, not moderation; I want to experience intensity because I want to live intensely.

Trouble.

Through these activities I shall learn to ride on the top edge of my fears and the bottom edge of my perception of utter terror - for it is there I shall come to know my greatest fear of all: that I will want to go there again and again. 

By introducing him to deeper joys and deeper longings, by creating a silence in which the whisper of the heart can be heard. Truly, discipline is the road to liberation."
--Gurumayi Chidvilasananda

The ideal relationship I had always hoped for and longed for has been the following:

1) to be Respected/Revered equally and to fully understand each others wants and needs completely

2) Whom is mentally your equal in total and to be able to learn from each other (plus1),  

3) stimulates growth, instills training with full respect and admiration  

4) makes your mind slow and focus a bit... more on that later,  

5) accepts/appreciates/treasures you care and protects you, (VERY IMPORTANT “Imperative!!!!!!!!)!!!!!!!!!!! 

6) has a bit of 'old guard' yet is hip and NORMAL Socially, Time & Place for EVERYTHING. Just one Look says   Everything… 

7) PUSHES you, both subtly, directly and unreasonably, understands the Persons Limits and can Push Past them…

8) Who has equally high expectations, Very Very Very Important & Must be able to Communicate

9) Who will not be the strongest 'Alpha' in the bedroom and finally, understands the ability to submit fully.

10) Who is not a facade or joke?

11) The ability to communicate without words just because of the deep connection and incredible level of communication.

12) Deepest and Highest Respect for each partner and what their needs are for that very moment.

Knowing Your True Self is the Most Important...

T.

"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable."
— C.S. Lewis

"The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being."
— Tom Robbins

"But seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already.
"

Thank You for being Patient...  I had a few things to take care of...

Happy Past Valentines Day for all of those who are involved and to all that are not... I Wish You as Well Love n Light Too...  (myself included...lol)... ;)

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"All my life, I thought of love as some kind of voluntary enslavement. Well, that's a lie: freedom only exists when love is present. The person who gives him or herself wholly, the person who feels freest, is the person who loves most wholeheartedly."
— Paulo Coelho

"if pain must come, may it come quickly. because i have a life to live, and i need to live it in the best possible. if he has to make a choice, may he make it now. then i will either wait for him or forget him. waiting is painful. forgetting is painful. but not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering."
— Paulo Coelho

"When we meet someone and fall in love, we have a sense that the whole universe is on our side. And yet if something goes wrong, there is nothing left! How is it possible for the beauty that was there only minutes before to vanish so quickly? Life moves very fast. It rushes from heaven to hell in a matter of seconds."
— Paulo Coelho

"In real life, love has to be possible. Even if it is not returned right away, love can only survive when the hope exists that you will be able to win over the person you desire."
— Paulo Coelho

"Passion makes a person stop eating, sleeping, working, feeling at peace. A lot of people are frightened because, when it appears, it demolishes all the old things it finds in its path.

No one wants their life thrown into chaos. That is why a lot of people keep that threat under control, and are somehow capable of sustaining a house or a structure that is already rotten. They are the engineers of the superseded.

Other people think exactly the opposite: they surrender themselves without a second thought, hoping to find in passion the solutions to all their problems. They make the other person responsible for their happiness and blame them for their possible unhappiness. They are either euphoric because something marvelous has happened or depressed because something unexpected has just ruined everything.

Keeping passion at bay or surrendering blindly to it - which of these two attitudes is the least destructive?

I don't know."
— Paulo Coelho

...I choose "Passion"...

"Love comes with a knife, not some shy question, and not with fears for its reputation!"
— Mawlana Jalal-al-Din Rumi

“Submission has many effects on a woman. It softens her, it enhances her beauty, it gives her a profound sense of herself, it fulfills her, it increases considerably, her sexual responsiveness, it increases a thousandfold her capabilities to love, but one effect it does not have, it does not reduce her intelligence.”

I believe that a true dominant takes the weakness of a submissive and turns them into strenghts.

you dream of one that will respect you, care for you, understand you. you hope to build a relationship with a sense of complicity and a commons goals and objectives. You understand that Domination and submission are nothing more than the two sides of the same coin, a partnership.   

your intellectual, spiritual and emotional growth is important and must be nutured and encouraged. i am seeking One who can understand this, not one for play, but rather for the long term.

from an incredible Dom in Canada...  Thank You

 I could not have said it better...  Kudos to this Well spoken lovely sub...

The ever fickle, frail, finicky, pompuus, sanctimonious, arrogant, superciliious, and self-aggrandizing "uber-dom".

For now, let me just say that these men irritate me to know end. They make my teeth itch. They expect every submissive to bow and cower before the might of their capped letters. You are expected to fall into a puddle of submission at the mere sight of SirIAmAnAsshole's over capitalized and cliched name. Of course, if you don't you aren't ~gasps~ a true submissive.

These men generally have poor spelling skills, bad grammar, and syntax. Let's not forget they suffer from a drastic lack of manners and common sense. I'm sure they are inbred to the point that their father is their grandmother, too. (Don't try to figure that one out, it will hurt your brain.)

These obvious dolts suffer from a strange affliction of admirably proving themselves to be stupid with every word spoken or typed. They are easily spotted yet for some reason still have a submissive hanging on their every breath. I'm sure I have a tumor growing on my brain from trying to figure that out.

The point of this? I don't know. I just know I'm tired of these inane, foolish, vapid, purile men pretending to be something they are not. It's really ok to be new and not have any knowledge. It's not ok to pretend to be something or someone you are not.

"As selfishness and complaint pervert and cloud the mind, so sex with its joy clears and sharpens the vision."
— Helen Keller

Damn... Helen even knew...