"I am an almost extinct b r e e d[3], an old-fashioned gentleman, which means I can be a cast-iron son-of-a-bitch when it suits me." --Jubal Harshaw

"There is in each of us an ancient force that takes and an ancient force that gives. A man finds little difficulty facing that place within himself where the taking force dwells, but it's almost impossible for him to see into the giving force without changing into something other than man. For a woman, the situation is reversed ... The greatest peril to the Giver is the force that takes. The greatest peril to the Taker is the force that gives. It's as easy to be overwhelmed by giving as by taking ... I'm at the fulcrum ... I cannot give without taking and I cannot take without giving." --Paul Atreides

I'm an odd duck[1].

I am a geek, a philosopher, a would-be-warrior, a writer[2], a cook, a jewelrymaker, a teacher, a healer, and a sadist of... well, of proportions that have surprised me at times.

I am married to Angelak42, and we have two kids. We're poly, so we both have outside relationships.

Kink-wise, my interests are pretty varied. They all lead inexorably toward control. Control can be established through a lot of means, of course, but my preference is to use pain and pleasure at the right moments to keep my partner where I want her. If I can cause her eyes to glaze over and remove her ability to think clearly, then I'm a happy man.

Not surprisingly, I am primarily focused on the mental side of things. Nevertheless, I've recently become aware of just how much fun restraints can be, and I'm looking forward to seeing where my style develops on those lines. And rope work. Definitely looking to be exploring with the rope work.

I have made a smallish hobby business in crafting jewelry. Besides bracelets, necklaces, collars, and ankle chains, I've started moving into making toys- including a flogger, and a fairly vicious sap. Both have received good reviews from my guin-- volunteer testers. :-)

My goal, in everything I do, is to push my own limits. I don't care much to compare myself with others- there's always going to be a faster gun somewhere, somewhen. So I compete with myself, and I encourage those who bottom or submit to me to push themselves, too. I am convinced that everyone is capable of more than they think they are, under the right circumstances. I often find myself in search of the right circumstances.

And sometimes... I AM the right circumstances.

[1] In this community, of course, that makes me nearly bland. I would be odder still were I a plain, boring $business_degreed_professional.