I just wanted to add something to my journal. I went back through my profile and realized I forgot something in it, and I hope no one takes offense to this, but if you are married, engaged, or other wise with someone, I am not interested

I realize we all have wants, needs and desires. We all have dreams, no matter what they may be. This is not said to be mean, but I will not ever be the cause for another hurt, so, again, especially married men, do not message me and tell me what it is your looking for, or what you lack in your marriage and why you seek play outside of those vows you DID take. Been there, done that, got divorced because he did it. Best of luck, but keep in mind one thing... It really does hurt when someone that claims to love you, and that you love cheats; there is NO good reason to cheat, NONE. So please, before you take that leap, think about how the other person will feel if they should find out 

This entry is mainly for the “Gentlemen” (yes, I am using that term loosely)

Just because a woman is confident in herself, knows what she does and does NOT want, that does NOT make her a wanna be, a fake, a freak, and defiantly NOT a bitch.

It makes her a strong woman who is merely not afraid of stating her wants and/or needs.

If you do not like what she has said in her profile, then pass it by, there is no reason for you to send a nasty message telling her “well, it’s obvious you are not a submissive”. You may or may not have in your mind what a submissive is, but who is to say you are even right, just because you “claim” to be Dominate, does NOT give you, or anyone else the right to tell someone else what they are or are not, how they should or should not act, speak or reply to any particular message. Everyone’s perception differs, what you assume to be right, may not be right for another, so, before you judge someone, think about that little fact.

I of course know I will get a few scathing messages due to this entry, so I will do a mass reply now to those “Men” who think I’m wrong “Get over yourself, open your narrow little mind and “see” what your missing”

For those who agree… thank you.

How many times have we each been faced with the dreaded “tell me about yourself”.

We sit and look at the screen and think. “What should I say, should I talk about my past experiences, my vanilla life, what I want in life, my hopes, dreams, aspirations”, and how many times have we just thought “oh forget it” and moved on?

Think about it, it is not that hard of a question, is it? Yet there we sit, looking at an empty screen with that “deer in the headlight” look. It is actually funny how one little sentence can turn an otherwise sane normal person into a nervous wreck. I know it has happened to me, and sadly, my standard reply it “what would you like to know”, hah, there, we have turned the tables, or have we?

The table was not turned; we just avoided the question, and then, moved on. Now, what’s wrong with that scenario? Allot, we possibly missed the chance to know someone good, hell, maybe even great. What if he/she was “The one”, and all because of one little question, poof, gone, all because we were to scared to answer “one little question”.

I wrote this because I found myself doing just that, well, no more, from now on I will reply in the best way I know how, but of course, not sharing too much that makes it un-safe in anyway. So folks, who’s with me on this one little question? Were adults, so, lets answer the damned question.