TwiMeUp

I am very new to the BDSM scene and really am still learning. I am a 41 year old BBW without children. I have a successful career and am financially independent. I have always felt myself to be outside of the main stream sexually. In fact, I self identified as lesbian for the last 20 years of my life. I found myself questioning this orientation of late and now consider myself to be pansexual, meaning that it is more about the attraction to the person than to the gender.

I have been in two long term lesbian relationships. The one that truly was the love of my life to date was a borderline domme/sub relationship, albeit we did not have the labels. Only in my recent proclivities and research have I realized why I so identified and committed to this relationship. It was more about the control that my partner held over me than the exclusive sexual attraction to women, especially when I compare it to my other rather vanilla relationship.

I am definitely attracted to both women and men and I am in a D/s relationship with a dominant man that I met on line and hope to continue this relationship long term. He has been for a week long visit and has taught me what it means to be with a man.

In addition to friends, I am searching for a submissive or switch woman friend to chat with, maybe have coffee and possibly extend to be lovers, preferably with my current partner either as an active participant or observer.