Foundational
tenets for service
These are not negotiable.
Integrity
· Your integrity is one of the few
things in this world that cannot be taken from you. It can’t be ripped
away. It can’t be torn from you. It can be beaten out of you. To
lose it YOU must give it away.
· Honesty is a key tenet in our
lifestyle. A relationship cannot exist with out it.
· Integrity slips are not tolerated be
they by deceit or omission of fact. They result in severe punishment or
immediate termination of service.
Respect
· Respect must be earned, and I
will. Until it is earned, civilities are absolutely required. I will
not demand your respect, but I must insist on a complete lack of disrespect.
· Disrespect will be grounds for severe
punishment or immediate termination of service.
Loyalty
· Loyalty must also be earned. But
disloyalty must be avoided while a relationship grows.
· Even if your term of service is for 1
session, others see how you behave. You can ruin a budding relation by bad
mouthing a scene partner. The other subs will not forget. They forget
nothing.
· As you grow, remember you represent
me even when I am not there. If you are a screaming foul mouth sub in
public, what will people think of me...even though they have not yet meet me.
Trust
· This lifestyle cannot exist without
trust.
· How could you allow me to put you in
bondage if you don’t truly believe you are safe in my hands?
Communications
· Free speech is guaranteed in this
country. I gave twenty years of my life to defend these rights. That
being said, there are ways, times and places to express your opinions.
· In public, no outward form of
argument or questioning will be tolerated. I speak - you nod.
· In public, urgent requests may be
whispered out of the hearing of others. This is not license to argue in
hushed tones
· In private, discussions may be
held. It would be wise to watch your form, tone, and attitude lest you
completely tune your message out to me as I plot your punishment.
If these cannot be met…seek here no
further.
The following pages some thought
provoking information is provide to stimulate your thought process in your
consideration to begin service.
The submissive's Creed
I will communicate with complete
honesty of my needs, desires, limits, and experiences to my Master. I realize
that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the
best experience possible, but it could also lead to physical and emotional
harm.
I will not try to manipulate my
Master. I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should, nor will I
place demands on my Master.
I will keep an open mind about trying
things that I have not been previously exposed to and will always be open to
expanding my limits. Through this, I will continue on my journey to grow into
the well rounded submissive I desire to be.
I will accept the responsibility of
discovering what pleases my Master, and will do my best to fulfill his wishes
and desires.
I will not allow myself to be harmed
or abused, for I know that being "submissive" does not entitle my
Master to be hurtful or treat me without compassion.
I will be courteous and helpful to
all other submissive’s.
I will endeavor to share my knowledge
and my experiences with others in the hope that they will learn and benefit
from that which I’ve come to know. I will be respectful of others whose
lifestyle may differ from my own and whose submission may attain a different
level that which I have reached. I will be responsive to my Master
acknowledging that all he does is in my best interest. I will not try to hide
what my mind and body are feeling from my Master. By making him aware I assist
him in his responsibilities as my authority. I know that Dominants are not
psychic and I cannot expect my Master to know the thoughts or feelings that I
have not communicated.
I know that my actions reflect upon
my Master, and I will do my best to help others to see him in a positive way. I
know that others will note his achievements through the manner in which I
present myself thus I will endeavor to be the best I can be. I will not
intentionally embarrass or displease my Master.
I will take pride in who and what I
am, and will never show myself in a negative way nor will I ever cause others
to think that being submissive means to be weak or insecure. I know that being
a submissive is a statement of my belief in myself, and my desire to share the
gift that of my submission with my Dominant.
Above all else, I will wear my title
of submissive with great honor.
The submissive's Prayer
Allow me the strength to answer
questions I can't fathom.
Allow me the spirit to know His
needs.
Allow me the serenity to serve Him in
peace.
Allow me the love to show Him myself.
Allow me the tenderness to comfort
Him.
Allow me the light to show us the
way.
Allow me the wisdom to be an asset to
Him.
Let me be able to show Him each day
my love of my service to Him.
Let me open myself up to completely
belong to Him.
Let me accept my punishment with the
grace of a woman.
Let me learn to please Him, beyond
myself.
Grant me the power to give myself to
Him completely.
Give me the strength to please us
both.
Permit me to love myself, in loving
Him.
For it is my greatest wish, my
highest power to make His life complete, as He makes mine.
The Nine Degrees of Submission
1. The Outright Non-submissive
Masochist or Kinky Sensualist
Not into servitude, humiliation or
giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s
own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (i.e.: being turned on solely or
mainly by one's own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being
"used" to gratify one's partner's sadism.)
2. Pseudo-submissive non-slave
Not into even playing
"slave", but into other "submissive" role-playing, e.g.:
schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestism. They are
usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the
scene to a large degree.
3. Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
Likes to play at being slave. Likes
to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being
"used" to gratify one's partner's sadism; and may even really serve
the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slaves" own terms. They
dictate the scene to a large degree, often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
4. True submissive non-slave
Really gives up control (though only
temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction
from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant.
They usually are turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of
responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but
still seek mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one's
pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant.)
5. True submissive PLAY slave
Really gives up control (though only
temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets
his/her main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant - but
only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so,
is turned on by pain *indirectly*, i.e.: enjoys being the objects on one's
partner's sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or
restrictions.)
6. Uncommitted short-term but
more-than-play semi-slave
Really gives up control (though
usually within limits); wants to served and be used by the dominant; wants to
provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/ erotic services; but only when the
"slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say,
several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the
agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with
one's Mistress/Master, but, either way, the "slave" has the final say
over when he or she will serve.
7. Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an
owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Mistress's/Master's
"property" at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him in all
aspects of life - practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of
one's time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first
pick of the slave's free time.
8. Full-time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad
limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/ himself as existing solely for
the Mistress's/Master's use, pleasure and well-being. The slave in turn expects
to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of
the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slaves’
position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male
(since men certainly aren't socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle).
Within the S/M world, a full-time "slave" arrangement is entered into
with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up,
and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of
the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than
usually precede the traditional marriage.
9. Consensual total slave with no
limits
A common fantasy ideal that probably
doesn't exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other
situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or
social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual.) A few S/M purists
will insists that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do
absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/ Master, with no limits at all. There
are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be
reasonable to doubt the claim.
Where do you see yourself?
What level do you wish to achieve?
