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About silkgag
Id describe myself as 96% Dom, 4% sub!!
Currently I'm just going with the flow! I'm not quite actively seeking at present and temporarily enjoying being a singleton amongst busy times in a very hectic nilla lifestyle! Just come out of a short, meaningful relationship and taking a short "sabbatical"! But that may change if I meet somebody special...smiles.
Saying that I'm always happy just to make new friends: swap thoughts ideas though; even possibly play softly if it felt right in time. Even some online roleplay aswell. But if somebody comes along, who knows?!
Time for a refresh, a break, a complete recharge of the batteries and a rethink of my profile! Heres the parts that survived the revamp!!
Yes I waffle ! but I just try to be as honest as I can.
Must admit Im not into heavy BDSM, the total slavery thing,but soft bondage/bdsm does arouse me. People with degrading profile names here and overly sexual one line descriptions do nothing to excite or stimulate me. Somebody too who wants to be beaten to a pulp, kept in a cage 24/7 and treated like dirt is something I'll always pass by.
I do have fantasies though I love to play with; in time would like to share with somebody who loves the nilla aspect of a relationship aswell. Many tell me I should be in a relationship doing all the things they do!! Everybody thinks I could be a great catch and can't understand why I'm single but they aren't obviously aware of what I seek! I want to keep that part of my personal life private! And I'm wary of taking risks, unless it's the complete package that feels totally right. I'm happy to stay single rather than compromise.
I seek a soft BDSM relationship with perhaps a novice to learn, develop and explore together in the lifestyle. Looking for the vanilla aspect to run alongside. What do I want from a relationship?
I have tried vanilla relationships, and although they work in the short term, long term I need a relationship that has a mixture of vanilla and BDSM, somebody to be totally compatible with, share life, care about deeply, take care of too. Mental arousal is an important part of BDSM play for me and I'm looking for somebody who enjoys both the sexual and non sexual elements of of BDSM. I am not just looking for some 'kinky sex' or looking to tie somebody up and thrash them black and blue but that elusive mix of both BDSM and a 'conventional' relationship running alongside. Thats the difficult part. Best quote I read here was "somebody needs to invent eharmony for purves" lol. Id describe myself being between the two. But you can't exactly say you love to tie people up and love soft bdsm on a conventional dating site!!!
With regards to BDSM, I am not into heavy things, munches and things. Lots of soft things; ties, gags, mind games, tasking, occasional role play and fantasies. To see a submissive lady softly tied and gagged, being pleasured is one of the most arousing feelings in the world to me. I have a passion for silk scarves, roleplay, toys, otk spankings. Soft caning and discipline/soft corporal punishment in a sane, enjoyable environment. Need to give pleasure back aswell!
Also have a huge penchant for expensive/vintage stockings/lingerie. Big, big weakness of mine! Also love erotic photography which I do from time to time. Not the dirty mac brigade type lol; Images I've taken with friends very professionally; nothing full on, or naked or pornographic; Just thought provoking images of aspects I find arousing in the lifestyle. (The first few pics on my profile show some of my work and thoughts...smiles)!
Outside of BDSM I have lots of varied nilla interests too. Im an outdoor guy, love the countryside, walks, and have nilla outdoor hobbies aswell. Would love somebody to share that with outside the lifestyle. Meals out, spoils, etc. love being master but i cant help as being a "softie" as some have described me at "times"!!
What I do not want is casual sex, anybody in a relationship seeking thrills, nor anybody married as that is a recipe for disaster. Unfortunately long distance relationships don't work for me either; I'm looking for local people only. And sorry I not too keen on smokers. My ideal sub?, sexually bi adventourous (im 97% straight but very slightly bi) mid 20s-40s, caring, looking to take things very SLOWLY, cherish a caring vanilla relationship alongside a BDSM one aswell.
All that said,I'm prepared to wait for the right person and will open up a little more if I chat to you. Ive had a few issues to deal with last few years that makes my position slightly unique pehaps slightly challenging to a few people but I am 100% single and try to be upfront, honest at all times. I do find this site is like pulling teeth at times and wonder if its beneficial to remain. I go through stages of engagement here to days where I become dissolutioned and drop of for days or weeks completley. Its so hard work at times!
Half the profiles seem fake or too good to be true; also there are a lot of very rude and ignorant people whose intelligence and motives you really have to question sometimes; Male and Female!! But thats how it goes!! However there are a few, honest people left here still and that convinces me to hang on (just)!
Im also on "efilteF" Under same alias. All the discerning people can work that one out lol! If you go there and find my writings i have a far more in depth description of who I am and what I seek.
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A message tonight just confirms what ive known about this site for a long time. Fakes, time wasters and people just out to antagonise :( there are genuine people here and ive the good fortune to speak to several; but they are the minority. When you get a random message lacking in the basic grasps of the english language, littered with expletives from a random muppet youve never contacted; or has never read your profile you really wonder whats the f@"*% point?!! So disolutioned here. Will give it just while longer and say goodnight me thinks; rtn to FL. |
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