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I am a masculine Dom seeking an easy going lady for a loving and adventurous relationship leading long term. I appreciate a woman that enjoy being feminine and needs and wants a man to fulfill her life. I like to find out what my lady likes in sex play and custom make the sex fantasies for the highest erotic pleasure. I am imaginative and creative and have a variety of erotic interests. I am open minded, I enjoy the old fashioned roles of a man and woman and sharing a lover with other select men as I watch. I am protective, but not the jealous type, I get turned on by making my lover happy in fulfilling her fantasies, including sharing her with select men. I am real, kind hearted, honest, sincere and trustworthy. I enjoy the normal fun things, movies, scenic drives, outdoor cookouts, rock music, sailing and walks on a warm sandy beaches. I can travel to meet, and possibly relocate. Lyndon
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TO be completely woman you need a master and in him a compass for your life. You need a man you can look up to and respect. If you dethrone him it's no wonder that you are discontented, and discontented women are not loved for long." ~Marlene Dietrich~
"What is invisible but more beautiful than diamonds? What is silent but deafens thunder? What depresses no scale but is weightier than gold? HONOR !" — John Norman, Vagabonds of Gor, pg. 304-305 |
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"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those that mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Dr. Suess
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~Mark Twain~
When you see that in order to produce, you need to obtain permission from men who produce nothing;
when you see that money is flowing to those who deal not in goods, but in favors;
when you see that men get rich more easily by graft than by work, and your laws no longer protect you against them, but protect them against you …
you may know that your society is doomed.
Ayn Rand
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ONLY THE WEALTHY NEED APPLY? I was reading a ladies profile recently, and she sounded interesting until she wrote; "A prosperous man is attractive". this was my response: I really liked your profile until I got to the part about a man that invests his money being rare. the fact is, men who work and save for the future, in this society are not rare, they are commonplace. but by the time you meet them they have been married and divorced, and you can't find the "right rich one".lol. Probably because they can afford a younger lady that also want a financially stable guy to latch onto. life is tough. But, I loved that idea of the mountain lodge and the laughter and the food and drinks and more laughter, gosh I could almost taste the steak and the red wine. And the desserts. The fact is, the type of man you described is a fantasy. Most men try to be successful, but some are not lucky, some gamble at things and lose. only a few win at this monopoly game of careers and making money for the beautiful, future fairy tale ending. most men in this current cultural system know the keys to success, and do all the things to be prosperous, but life happens, and some lose, some fail and very few "win". but the ones that end up with all the marbles are called the "attractive ones". and those are the ones most ladies desire. its amazing how that works. makes a person feel warm and fuzzy all over. and here I thought humanity had lost its way and had become cold, uncaring and lacked deep values and compassion. silly me. live and learn. lol
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Extra note if you have time to read it: Do you ever feel like you are perpetually doing a job interview? or having to come up with sayings from high school about world peace and helping mankind? or how about name dropping to impress people with the books you've read, or the fact you like "theatre". Or that you like world traveling, helping the poor in Zimbabwe, or adopting a child from a foreign country so that those countries won't be responsible for their own people, or helping save the earth from pollution but at the same time letting china pollute the earth with industries? lets get real. it has become tedious to present yourself and play the dating game, and say things to attract the opposite sex. some of the profiles I have read sound like miss America pageant answers. "I like world peace, puppies, kittens and mascara. and I believe that every American should abort their own children and adopt minority children from foreign countries to get rid of racial prejudice. that way we can all be one happy family and hold hands, drink Coke, eat cookies, trust all our honest politicians and pay more taxes!" LOL. Give me a break.
What do we really want? how about a real spark of attraction, common interests, and down right lust for each other. How about, we simply want a freak in the sheets and a drop dead gorgeous person to show off to the world. and, a person that is "NICE". and as far as a man is concerned, a woman that does not know the meaning of "no" when it comes to romance. Is that too much to ask? How about good looks, an easy going personality, a person in decent shape. sometimes I don't think half the modern women today care if a guy is attractive, or has a good personality , as long as he is making $100,000 a year. so much for values and sticking with your heart. how about the art of conversation? does anyone enjoy fireside conversations anymore? Is there anyone interested in in-depth conversations that go beyond what the news media and pop culture shoves down our throats? Can we truly be honest about our desires and insights, or must we only say what is politically correct or approved? do people actually accept the brainwashing and programming they have received from birth and have no desire to seek real truth and a foundation of reality? is getting the gold watch after decades of working , and then sitting in front of a tv until you die really what life is about? How much more do we have to give to this system before we wake up and break the shackles in our minds? Are you happy? do you know how to achieve happiness? are you true to your gender? are you in conflict with nature? And this one baffles me: how does this attract a man when a lady says in her profile: "I am independent, I don't need or want a man. I have the best life in the world, the best job, and like fine dining. I have the most beautiful and wonderful children in the world and they come first. I can have a man in my schedule only on Saturdays between the hours of 7 and 9, but I don't want anything serious. Plus, he must be over 6 feet tall and generous"
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I am a Dom/master, I have always been onto the D/s lifestyle, and I might be able answer some of your questions. being a sub is a choice, and one that brings a person a tremendous amount of joy and fulfillment. I am sure you can find men that will be happy to teach you things. it requires an investment of time for a Dom to take a person on and put them through the paces. There is a protocol involved to properly do this, and the Dom must be a good person that is trustworthy, does not drink or use drugs during the training. It has to be done in a steady fashion, in a calm manner, and to give the sub the correct amount of sensations to let her know she is being truly educated and trained in that direction.
A Dom looks at the sub to see how well she responds to what is done. Her submissive nature is very important, she needs to be under his leadership. She needs to show him obvious respect. He also looks at her body, to see that she is in good shape. If she was 300 pounds had no teeth and had bad cleanliness issues, it will not lend to an enjoyable experience for him. He may not need a stick figure model type. But, an attractive female, that submits to being nude in front of him is necessary. Whether she is married or not. When she is with a Master/Dom, her body is there for him to train. She is presenting herself for his approval. There may not be any sex whatsoever, which is quite common, but the submission she shows is a beautiful thing for both of them and properly starts the process in her mind of submissive training and yielding to the guidance of a Dom. It begins with her knelling and him asking her if she is willing to accept a training/slave collar, and all that goes with it. This is a big step for her, but a necessary one if she is serious about learning these things. Once she does that, he can take her by the hand and start the journey. To get into any major pain is not the Masters agenda. That may never occur, but if she desires it, that would require several sessions of training to get to the level she needs and can take. The Dom has to be talented to know what she needs at every moment of the training. He may use a flogger on her back and front, and know how long to do it, how hard to use the steady strokes, and what to do next. It must be seamless, and fluid from one aspect of training to the next. She is seeing what she can enjoy, how much she can take, and if she wants to go further. She is there to enjoy the training, to educate her, and open her eyes and mind to new sensations. The Dom is in control of his emotions, and she feels this. She knows he will discipline her with steady, constant strokes, and she depends on the consistency of his actions. It warms her, and makes her feel secure. She knows he will do what he has to do as a professional. It is an art form, and a good Master is highly sought after. A good Master/Dom never lashes out with sudden bursts of anger or exercises any form of a temper.(But, those that want humiliation or name calling are involved in a totally different aspect of role playing between the two.)
Subs and slaves require just the right amount of sensations to get them to the level they desire. They are given safe words as the sessions increase. But at first the training is limited to less than one hour sessions, and no hard pain whatsoever. The first priority is, the sub must know he is a trustworthy person. She should never go to a man thinking he "might" be ok. When her sa is at risk, she cannot gamble in this activity at all. Quite often sub/slaves start by bringing a person with them. Once she is able to record his actual name and address, then she can feel more confident he will not do anything to her without being caught. Sometimes subs will contact a friend, and give them the name and address of the Master/Dom they are going to, and tell them when they are leaving and when they expect to return. If that person does not receive a call when they return, that friend can call the authorities. I met a lady once, in a café, and she told me she met a guy once for this at a motel. She accepted a drink from him, and she was drugged. He worked her over terribly, and she was found by the motel maid the next day. She was lucky to have lived. I told her to never do that again. Never trust someone and meet them without knowing who you are going to meet. Always meet a man in a public place first as well. A good Dom has no hesitation in giving his identity info to a sub/slave he is going to meet.
A Dom will ask in advance if she is open to being used sexually. He talks to her in advance and finds out what she enjoys, or might enjoy, and finds out what she doesn't like and what he limits might be. Each Dom is different, and some will incorporate sex with b&D training but others will not, and instead focus on flogging, and other instruments to give the right amount of pain sensations. They will also use nipple clamps, carefully, and do a variety of things labeled "torture", but in fact they are nothing more than "controlled low pain sensations". Some will use dildos, others will never get into that. A good Dom finds out what the sub enjoys and stick to those things to give her the sensations she seeks. A bad Dom pushes limits too soon, and scares the sub while she is tied up. The sub needs to test him at first by using a safe word given to her, to see how he reacts to it. The fact is, in a proper training session between a Dom and sub, the sub is actually controlling things by her desires. A Dom is working diligently to give her those sensations she seeks, he is playing an important role in what she needs. He works hard to make sure the session is to her expectations and beyond. He will eventually bring in spontaneous things that she loves and appreciates. It is a journey for both of them.
Also, after the first session, a good Dom increases the pain threshold a notch. He pays close attention to her body motions, her words and sounds, and understands what she is feeling. When he feels she is ready he continues to increase the pain levels in whatever he is doing with her, to the level she desires. A good Dom does not hold back or be hesitant to give her the sensations she craves. Her desires are sacred, they have great value and he is respecting them fully. His prime objective is to reach the levels she needs, craves and desires. This may take time, but the pleasure she receives from this is the ultimate goal for both of them. It can be quite addictive for the sub, and she will ask for longer sessions, and higher levels of controlled pain or more extensive role playing.They will finally arrive at a place they call "sub space". It is a high level of erotic pleasure from the right amount of pleasure/pain sensations. They actually have orgasms in this, I have seen it happen. After that, they may want to go further which is called edge play, where they enjoy finding their limits. I have heard of sessions lasting several days, where the sub desires the Dom to keep her in subspace and give her higher levels of sensations. That can be the ultimate sensation and a heavenly experience for them.
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