12/11/2013

On a more positive note than some of my entries, since I have returned to the lifestyle I have been pleasantly surprised at the number of Doms that have written to me with respect and a genuine wish to get to know this submissive.  Not just whack and tie and abuse her, but to actually know what makes her special. That is uplifting as respect and honor and courtesy goes both ways.

I must admit that this comes mostly from the "older, experienced Masters" who have the time to actually develop a love and respect for this wonderful lifestyle..and that is fine for me.  I wish you all would give classes to some of the younger ones.."How to treat a submissive 101"?

11/09/2012

I have become online friends with a few submissives since joining CM. And in a way they have become part of my submissive journey since finding my Master.  I truly believe that the right Master/submissive combination can be a serious tool in learning about yourself and a very positive experience..or it should be. Sadly so many submissives "hook up" with Doms? that seem to get off in breaking down a submissive and instead of helping them become a better person they succeed in convincing them submissive equals worthless.

Submissives the more you respect and value yourself and your gift, the more you will be valued.  Anyone who wants to devalue you, does not see the value in themselves and you should not walk but run in the other direction.

Yes it can get frustrating weeding through all the players and wannabees but the wait will be worth it when you find the "One" with whom you have mutual respect, communication, and intensity.  You will look into theirr eyes and touch their hands and you will know.  Please wait for that. A D/s relationship can be the best of things or the worst of things.Please wait for the best.

10/22/2012

Unfortunately I have found in the short time I have been on this site, that there are many who wish to and excel at "mind fucking".  Now I will admit there can be a time and place for that but to use it as a sport to play games with others shows a complete lack of class.  If after a chat or two, we seem to have enough in common to go forward, I will expect a full name, and phone number and be assured I will run a background check so Dom wannabees and players, get a life please and don't waste my time.

10/06/2012

It seems I must clarify my needs a little further.  While I appreciate the attention, I do not do "on-line" relationships and I do not cam.  I am only interested in "local" so please do not email me when you are out of state or even on the other part of my state.  I will not fly to you and not interested in one day quickies when you fly in for business.  I want a local, on going, relationship with a Dom who is near my age, has time to give this journey, and is safe and sane.  I am not looking for a sexual fling and as such am not interested in looking at your equipment and am absolutely not interested in discussing my fantasies with someone other than a potential Dom.  Come on..respect goes both ways.  If you don't respect others, you can't expect it in return.

I have come back to the lifestyle after a few years absence and found it much changed.  Or perhaps I was just lucky in my past Masters.  I was always cared for, respected, protected, and my needs were as important as my Master's needs.

It seems that has become a novel concept.  No longer is a M/s relationship a symbiotic relationship with one's wishes and needs feeding the others.  No longer does the Master understand that it is necessary for a submissive to have a reason to return..that they must feel safe, and respected, and fulfilled, both emotionally and physically to be able with a open and a glad heart to fulfill their Master's needs.

I have received much attention and many invitations which is always nice and flattering.  But if you are One that thinks a submissive is just a shell for you to empty yourself into or just a "thing" to use to satisfy your fantasies or your "God" complex, please do us both a favor and pass me by.

In being submissive I of course want to please my Master but I  require my basic needs met also which requires you take the time to actually know me, to respect the pace my inexperience may require you to travel our journey, and to make sure I leave feeling secure and happy and yearning for our next adventure.  If this is more effort than I am worth to you, please again pass  me by.