Painistheway

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The aesthetics of bdsm
people often scoff at the notion that there may be single capital > T < Truth to bdsm. We are told that the lifestyle represents as many forms as there are people involved,and that every individual constructs bdsm in his or her own image. Due to the fact that bdsm apparently takes many forms,we are supposed to accept difference within our communities,and to live and let live. We tolerate each of the vast assortment of kinks that are manifest within our communities,and do not pass judgment on the things that others do lest we ourselves be judged. These are all noble ideas,but they are not without drawback. If there is no common thread that passes through each of us,how can we be bound together as a group,or a community in meaningful ways? In our search for people who are like minded in order to feel that we are not perverts (or worse),do we not look for similarity and commonality rather than diffusion and anarchy? If someone from the outside of our lifestyle asks the straightforward question WHAT IS BDSM all about? Can you give that person a striaghtforward answer? I am not going to present the argument that everyone involved in bdsm has to participate in the same activities in order to be a true lifestyler. Some people like needle play,others love bondage,and still others thrive on domiance and submission.
Some people get off on causing or inflicting pain,others do not. For some bdsm is all about sex,for others it is a spiritual journey. However, i do believe that underneath all of the actions there is a frame of mind that is common among people in the lifestyle. The common bond is that bdsm is an aesthetic experience to those individuals who are hardwired for,and predisposed towards,this lifestyle. 
Aesthetics is made up of several interrelated concepts.First,there is the element of Truth to something that is aesthetically appealing,where the inner essence of something is being revealed in a particular way. Second,there is beauty,which,as the saying goes,is often in the eye of the beholder. Finally,there is a sense of goodness,where something is valued and praised. The love,and appreciation,of bdsm is an entirely aesthetic experience to those who are involved in the lifestyle. In the context of bdsm,the mind,the body and the soul are all a canvas upon which the artist creates his masterpiece.
there is a fundamental difference between how a sculptor,as opposed to non-sculptor such as myself,looks at a piece of granite.When a sculptor examines the object he is able to see the shape inside,and then the artistic process becomes one in which the excess pebbles and debris surrounding the beautifu image locked inside are painstakingly removed. similarly,in the context of Ds relationships,a good dominant will usually be able to see the good inside of his partner, and will help to shape the individual into a work of art. this process is not one of adding things that do not exist,but is instead all about shaping and releasing what is hidden and buried inside. when the artist is finished with a sculpture,his skill is reflected in the final product. in the context of Ds,this may be expressed as an emotional glance upwards from a slave as she licks her master's boots,or the way in which the master says ''good girl'' when she had been exceptionally pleasing.while not everyone in the lifestyle likes these particular things,only individuals with our given kink are able to relate to acts such as this on an aesthetic level,and to see the beauty within these expressions. on the flip side of things,a vanilla person often reacts to seeing boots licked in much the same way as i react to modern art (i.e. head cocked,sideways,and a mixed bag of feelings ranging from interesting to why would anyone do that?).
It is possible to cut up a second hand leather skirt,cut it into strips,tack the strips onto a cut off end of an old hockey stick,and use this as a flogger. If the bottom in a particular scene is blindfolded,then the sensations will be much the same as if you are using a plaited flogger that costs several hundred dollars. if they both work,why would anyone spend money on a professionally made flogger that is more expensive? the first answer to that question is some people do not spend the money,and are happy using the hockey stick flogger. However,a large number of people in the community enjoy using things that are pretty,and look nice,while they play. For many people,the beauty of the objects used in a scene makes or breaks the BDSM experience. A great many individuals find that there is beauty within the individual actions and motions that constitute a scene. For example,i refer to myself as a technique junky. I love using techniques in precise ways to create shapes in the air,or a very exact and specific pattern of lines,or bruising,or blood upon a person's body. During the process of a scene the body of my partner becomes my canvass,where the finished product is living art made of patterns of moaning,struggling,gasping.
The visual and emotional elements of the entire package of a scene come together in my own mind as an object of beauty. Another portion of the community finds beauty in the end result of play. During play,regradless of whether it is Ds,BD,or SM,individuals are put into positions that are appealing and beautiful to their partner. They may look at an ass that has been reddened after a particularly good spanking,or the lines left behind during knife play,or look at themselves in the mirror to see bruises from the night before. If they dared show off these cuts and bruises to their vanilla friends,the reaction would usually be horror,pity,or a phone call to 911. Within the community,these same marks are often viewed as objects of beauty,and people view them with a sense of awe,or envy.