I prefer to create meanings, thoughts and analyses about life, I speculate and interpret actions, often from a distance, to maintain ivity. But I also love and know where to belong. Knowledge may not be power, but it gives spiritual meaning to life. Submission, just like knowledge, is another of art, that gives me spiritual fulfillment. I also seek an artist in the sense that life is a canvas for creativity and your spiritual fulfillment. Although such an artist should be quite the opposite of me, a dominant and a female. I seek to define myself as an artist, and as for the lifestyle, I am seeking to define myself in an intelligent and healthy looking woman. I want what she wants. The rationale is simple, I am living the life of a successful individual. I have art and I contemplate about things that are thought, said, desired and done by a Dominant. In other words, I am quite detached from the material world. I seek meaning in an intense extropersonal relationship, in which the focus is not on things but on the relations and people. I dont value a relationship in terms of is she WORTH it. That is an economic evaluation. I seek spiritual enrichment of total power exchange, exploration, fetish, love, and some sm.
I found an incredibly honest and well written profile of a Mistress. I thought I'd paste it to remind myself of best things I've read :) Here it is:
Where to start...
I am a very dominant woman. Let it be known that those I am the Mistress of are very loyal to Me and are not here for anyone else, so Do NOT harrass My slaves! ..Moving on! If you want someone to treat you less than human or garbage, stop reading. I do not agree with dehumanization. I am here to teach others how to be submissive. To give yourself completely and totally, Trusting without fear, Obeying without question, Always being Faithful which means serving Me and no one else... Loyalty is key.. these are all things I require from My slaves, but it is promised that submitting yourself will ultimately be one of the best decisions of your life. I am good at what I do, and that means being a responsible Domina. When I begin a D/s relationship with someone, it's not something I take lightly. In life in general, I only make time for those who make time for Me. So if you say you give yourself to Me, I also give Myself to you. I do not believe that it would be fair to demand service and to have it go unrecognized. I reward My slaves and let them know they are doing well and are appreciated. But one thing I really hate is disappointment. I hate holding My end of a bargain and someone else decides they aren't serious. It happens all too often but it's a part of life. I know I deserve to be treated like a Goddess and am waiting for the right pet to serve me. A slave that will take pleasure from all I give them. Need it be lashings or simple cuddles and kisses. I'm a sweet person. Just never play Me for the fool. You will have a good life with Me as long as you never get on My bad side. If you do will end up like pathetic pat mahoney. Being My slave does not mean you have to stop your everyday life, bc I am not about to stop Mine. I live this lifestyle everyday, it's a part of who I am, and I feel very strongly about it.
I just want to meet people that really want to serve Me.
10/2/2009 3:27:24 PM
Now, mind you, luxury has nothing to do with happiness. As Freud famously said of consuming another product - psychotherapy - high-end consumption will not make you happier, only less anxious. While the poor, loveless, ever-anxious crowd may think that individual satisfaction tracks closely with luxury consumption, such is not the case. Numerous studies show that as society grows richer over time, the average level of happiness - as measured by the percentage of people who rate themselves "happy" or "very happy" in national surveys - doesn't budge. In fact, it sometimes fails. This happened in U.S. in 1990s as compared to the 1970s, despite the growth in consumption. On the other hand, relationships, friendships and the environment tend to be much more correlated to individual's rating of "happy" or "very happy".
8/5/2009 10:57:19 PM
"Probability for something to happen is reverse to the proportion of wishing for it to happen." - Gumperson's Law.
So perhaps this is related to the acknowledgment that finding a partner will happen when one is NOT looking?
8/4/2009 12:24:26 PM
It is time to start planning to relocate, but I don't yet know where. I am going to have to pick a university and relocate there for my master's degree. I already got a few offers, but I am open to applying to more universities if the location would also be one where a Mistress is (perhaps as a live-in situation?).
I am looking for universities with good social science programs. Most preferably UK, Netherlands/Holland, US, Switzerland, and Costa Rica. Canada is ok as well.
This is a big decision, so if you would like to correspond, please do only if you are genuinely seeking.
4/30/2009 10:12:57 PM
"The biggest enemy of man is his
own self and to win over it he has to defeat himself; in the process he will
hurt himself but each time he is victorious the feeling of pain will lessen and his courage will grow. Out of this
process a real man will be born who will be free of his own self." Unknown
2/11/2009 11:30:44 PM
Some common sense on dating real Dominant Women from FemDom dating website:
Take at a personal ad on Craigslist by a dominant woman. Did she say she was looking for a man who :
Is worthless
Would do anything
Send a cock photo
No? Then don’t write her if you think you are valueless, don’t offer to do anything or send her unsolicited amateur erotic photography.
See how long her listing is. Why don’t you try making your response about that long by addressing the issues she does raise?
Use MS Word or another word-process than has spellchecking. Capitalize. Don’t use an ellipsis ( … ) like a comma or period.
Use traditional opening and closings like “Dear [Name}” and “Yours [whatever].”
Do not address her as Mistress unless she is using that as a title. Many women reserve that term for the man she is in a relationship. She certainly is not (yet) your relationship.
2/7/2009 4:37:58 PM
There is a very simple rule as to why many people on here end up attracting "losers, liars, and retards", to quote. They key is: the way You make Yourself stand out, that's who you will tend to attract.
Surely, there will always be liars and losers who message everyone, however, if for example, You are a Dominant or submissive Woman whose profile sounds like a good jerk-off material (aka tease preview) then You will get mostly horny guys who aren't thinking about serious stuff! If You hide Your age, location, then the honest subs/slaves will be reluctant to give You their honest info. The 'fakes' will be all over You. You see where i am going with this? Only true subs/slaves who are sincere will apply to profiles which sound sincere. Trust is mutual and necessary no matter which role You occupy.
So my advice to sincere seekers: -remove explicit photos. A nice teasing photo of You is ok to spark interest, but don't put nudes, half-naked pictures which will have counter-effect. -remove text in Your profile that refers to activities, sex, etc. Horny guys look for this, and skip reading everything else. Once You exchanged a few messages with a sub/slave, You can then talk about activities, because You now know he will listen to EVERYTHING You say. -if You hide Your name, age, etc, then don't be surprised if a sub/slave does as well. Internet is dangerous, full of cyber crime, and TRUST is mutual. If one person appears to be hiding, it will create mutual distrust. Thus, not a good idea to hide too much info if You are serious. Surely, if You open up, and the other person still "hides", then You have 100 reasons to stop communicating right there.
Hope this help everyone.
11/15/2008 9:30:48 PM
i did some research today. Combining the two findings together, results show that most people seeking a relationship online, are in for a tough selection process.
Findings: 1) Trust is the foundation of healthy relationships. That means, issues like finances, hidden partners, hidden lifestyle can be very damaging. Healthy relationship is based on being able to share and understand our desires. D/s relationship has to be based on honesty about the Dominant or submissive role we want to play.
2) It seems that many vanilla relationships are ruined due to a high percentage of people living "online fantasy relationships (sexual or emotional)". The bad thing about this, of course, is that those of us seeking a real relationship, are left in the dark as to who is real and who is not.
10/15/2008 6:32:02 PM
Due to my recent experiences, i would like to indicate that establishing trust before play (or a relationship) is an essential feature of what i look for.
10/11/2008 2:13:27 PM
Good sub/slave's characteristics:
-Desire to change -Willingness to learn -Make no excuses (but rather find ways to improve)
