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Nyxana
Female Submissive, 58, Lafayette, California
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About NyxAndPet

We're happy to announce we're running a Munch in Burlington Ontario, it has been growing every month, we're making great friends and having a ball. The details and our profiles can be found on that other fetish social networking site. If you'd like to hear more just throw us a message! =) Munches - Jan 6 currently scheduled


On the personal side - the oh so disorganized "perfect" list. We know life has a way of giving one what they need and not always what they want, but this at least covers some of the goals for an added family member.

We are openly poly, however, we take the time to get to know our potential partners. Either individually or as a couple.

"Pondering A Need For Assistance"

*We do love to chat, but one liner messages get lost in the mix, please send a note that gives Me something to reply to as I'm more likely to notice something engaging.
*Don't be offended if we view your profile and did not send a message. We are aware that we're not necessarily looking for the 'conventional things' so please message if you are interested
*We are married and are each other's primary partners, we are not necessarily monogamous but we are 100% transparent with each other
*Please address my Lady as "Miss Nyx" if you want to use some nature of honourific
*We are looking for some part time help with day to day duties here.
I have outlined more info about this below:
*Local people would be great! We're out and about at events/munches regularly and would like to see you there
*We do tend to be very busy so get ready for the wild ride.
*We are indifferent to age, but 20-40 would be ideal
*You must be OK with pets, we have two cats, and two dogs and fish, who are akin to children to us.
*Massaging skills would earn you bonus points with Miss Nyx. As would be being 420 friendly
*Neither of us are a taxi service, you need to have our own means of transportation to our location and to get yourself home. If you are local, arrangements may be able to be set up, depending on the nature of the relationship
*In this position, you will need to participate in the running of our household, this often comprises actual legitimate work
*Cooking skills are a definate asset, Nyx loves cooking, so even if you're just interested and want to learn it's a plus.
*You must be able to maintain an intelligent conversation, and be able to appreciate Miss Nyx's sometimes dry sense of humor.
*What you get out of this experience will all depend on what you put in. The ball is in your court and Miss Nyx is open for communication to find out what you are seeking. We primarily need help keeping the house running tickety boo with pet's massive work schedule

~All of that sounds very stuffy and formal but it gets the idea across and hopefully filters out some of the less enthusiastic people. We have a great lust for life and love making friends. This isn't a role we put on, we live this way.~

The Holiday Season is upon us and I just want to take a moment to say I'm thankful =) I'm looking forward to the solstice and celebrating Yule with my pagan friends.

 I have had a fabulous year, busy though it has been!

 I have recuperated from surgery and feeling more myself again, only now *without* periods. Hysterectomies are a wonderful thing once you're all healed.

 I got a horse for my birthday in October and am enjoying bonding with my young percheron gelding. Looking into studying the parelli method to give myself a natural horsemanship style with my sweet boy.

 We have our lovely 2 dogs, 2 adorable cats and a healthy tank of fish.

 The drama comes and goes, but the family is forever. I'm grateful for my wonderful kinky friends and family.

 Enjoy the season, however it suits you!

A lot of words get thrown around, I am often accused of "not understanding" them. Here's the thing, I follow the dictionary not unspoken social norms, so here are the **DICTIONARY** definitions of the words thrown around that people don't seem to understand. To me, these are some of the most misused words on FL/CM and in the rest of the world, but this is fairly targeted to what I see flying around here. If you would like to add a word to the list, do let me know and my dictionary and I will see to adding it :)
(disclaimer/trigger warning/blah blah flame avoidance blah/copied from actual dictionaries, most are credited - http://www.thefreedictionary.com, I like this one as it compiles from multiple sources, also http://www.onelook.com for the same reasons)

#### abuse
tr.v. a·bused, a·bus·ing, a·bus·es
1. To use wrongly or improperly; misuse: abuse alcohol; abuse a privilege.
2. To hurt or injure by maltreatment; ill-use.
3. To force sexual activity on; rape or molest.
4. To assail with contemptuous, coarse, or insulting words; revile.
5. Obsolete To deceive or trick.
n. (-bys)
1. Improper use or handling; misuse: abuse of authority; drug abuse.
2. Physical maltreatment: spousal abuse.
3. Sexual abuse.
4. An unjust or wrongful practice: a government that commits abuses against its citizens.
5. Insulting or coarse language: verbal abuse.
Idiom:
abuse oneself Vulgar
To masturbate.

#### abusive
adj.
1. Characterized by improper or wrongful use: abusive utilization of public funds.
2. Using or containing insulting or coarse language: finally reprimanded the abusive colleague.
3. Causing physical injury to another: abusive punishment.
4. Relating to or practicing sexual abuse.

#### actual
adj.
1. Existing and not merely potential or possible. See Synonyms at real1.
2. Being, existing, or acting at the present moment; current.
3. Based on fact: an actual account of the accident.

#### actualize
v. ac·tu·al·ized, ac·tu·al·iz·ing, ac·tu·al·iz·es
v.tr.
1. To realize in action or make real: "More flexible life patterns could . . . nurture and renew our spirits through opportunities to actualize personal dreams" (Fred Best).
2. To describe or portray realistically.
v.intr.
To become actual.

#### anything
pron.
Any object, occurrence, or matter whatever.
adv.
To any degree or extent; at all: They aren't anything like last year's team.
n.
Something or someone of importance: "You had to be something to start with, and Jeremy never was anything" (Anne Tyler).
Idioms:
anything but
By no means; not at all: I was anything but happy about going.
anything goes
Anything is permissible or likely to be tolerated.
like anything
To an exceeding degree: We worked like anything to meet the deadline.

#### apologize
intr.v. a·pol·o·gized, a·pol·o·giz·ing, a·pol·o·giz·es
1. To make excuse for or regretful acknowledgment of a fault or offense.
2. To make a formal defense or justification in speech or writing.

#### appreciate
v. ap·pre·ci·at·ed, ap·pre·ci·at·ing, ap·pre·ci·ates
v.tr.
1. To recognize the quality, significance, or magnitude of: appreciated their freedom.
2. To be fully aware of or sensitive to; realize: I appreciate your problems.
3. To be thankful or show gratitude for: I really appreciate your help.
4. To admire greatly; value.
5. To raise in value or price, especially over time.
v.intr.
To increase in value or price, especially over time.

#### argue
v. ar·gued, ar·gu·ing, ar·gues
v.tr.
1. To put forth reasons for or against; debate: "It is time to stop arguing tax-rate reductions and to enact them" (Paul Craig Roberts).
2. To attempt to prove by reasoning; maintain or contend: The speaker argued that more immigrants should be admitted to the country.
3. To give evidence of; indicate: "Similarities cannot always be used to argue descent" (Isaac Asimov).
4. To persuade or influence (another), as by presenting reasons: argued the clerk into lowering the price.
v.intr.
1. To put forth reasons for or against something: argued for dismissal of the case; argued against an immediate counterattack.
2. To engage in a quarrel; dispute.

#### authentic
adj.
1. Conforming to fact and therefore worthy of trust, reliance, or belief: an authentic account by an eyewitness.
2. Having a claimed and verifiable origin or authorship; not counterfeit or copied: an authentic mediJerry D. Jennings).
Conscious emphasizes the recognition of something sensed or felt: "an importance . . . of which even Americans are barely conscious" (William Stanley Jevons).
Sensible implies knowledge gained through intuition or intellectual perception: "I am sensible that the mention of such a circumstance may appear trifling" (Henry Hallam).
To be awake is to have full consciousness of something: "as much awake to the novelty of attention in that quarter as Elizabeth herself" (Jane Austen).
Alert stresses quickness to recognize and respond: I remained alert to career opportunities.
Watchful and vigilant imply looking out for what is dangerous or potentially so: The watchful parents protected their toddler. The ranger kept a vigilant eye out for forest fires.
*subtext*
self-aware
adj.
Aware of oneself, including one's traits, feelings, and behaviors.

#### blunt
adjective 
blunter, comparative; bluntest, superlative
(of a knife, pencil, etc.) Having a worn-down edge or point; not sharp
- a blunt knife
Having a flat or rounded end
- the blunt tip of the leaf
(of a person or remark) Uncompromisingly forthright
- he is as blunt as a kick in the shins
- a blunt statement of fact

#### care
n.
1. A burdened state of mind, as that arising from heavy responsibilities; worry.
2. Mental suffering; grief.
3. An object or source of worry, attention, or solicitude: the many cares of a working parent.
4. Caution in avoiding harm or danger: handled the crystal bowl with care.
5.
a. Close attention; painstaking application: painting the window frames and sashes with care.
b. Upkeep; maintenance: a product for the care of fine floors; hair care products.
6. Watchful oversight; charge or supervision: left the child in the care of a neighbor.
7. Attentive assistance or treatment to those in need: a hospital that provides emergency care.
v. cared, car·ing, cares
v.intr.
1. To be concerned or interested: Once inside, we didn't care whether it rained or not.
2. To provide needed assistance or watchful supervision: cared for the wounded; caring for an aged relative at home.
3. To object or mind: If no one cares, I'll smoke.
4.
a. To have a liking or attachment: didn't care for the movie.
b. To have a wish; be inclined: Would you care for another helping?
v.tr.
1. To wish; desire: Would you care to dance?
2. To be concerned to the degree of: I don't care a bit what critics think.

#### commit
v. com·mit·ted, com·mit·ting, com·mits
v.tr.
1. To do, perform, or perpetrate: commit a murder.
2. To put in trust or charge; entrust: commit oneself to the care of a doctor; commit responsibilities to an assistant.
3. To place officially in confinement or custody, as in a mental health facility.
4. To consign for future use or reference or for preservation: commit the secret code to memory.
5. To put into a place to be kept safe or to be disposed of.
6.
a. To make known the views of (oneself) on an issue: I never commit myself on such issues.
b. To bind or obligate, as by a pledge: They were committed to follow orders.
7. To refer (a legislative bill, for example) to a committee.
v.intr.
To pledge or obligate one's own self: felt that he was too young to commit fully to marriage.

#### communicate
v. com·mu·ni·cat·ed, com·mu·ni·cat·ing, com·mu·ni·cates
v.tr.
1.
a. To convey information about; make known; impart: communicated his views to our office.
b. To reveal clearly; manifest: Her disapproval communicated itself in her frown.
2. To spread (a disease, for example) to others; transmit: a carrier who communicated typhus.
v.intr.
1. To have an interchange, as of ideas.
2. To express oneself in such a way that one is readily and clearly understood: "That ability to communicate was strange in a man given to long, awkward silences" (Anthony Lewis).
3. Ecclesiastical To receive Communion.
4. To be connected, one with another: apartments that communicate.

#### compassion
n.
Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it. See Synonyms at pity.

#### confidence
n.
1. Trust or faith in a person or thing.
2. A trusting relationship: I took them into my confidence.
3.
a. That which is confided; a secret: A friend does not betray confidences.
b. A feeling of assurance that a confidant will keep a secret: I am telling you this in strict confidence.
4. A feeling of assurance, especially of self-assurance.
5. The state or quality of being certain: I have every confidence in your ability to succeed.
adj.
Of, relating to, or involving a swindle or fraud: a confidence scheme; a confidence trickster.
Synonyms: confidence, assurance, aplomb, self-confidence, self-possession
These nouns denote a feeling of emotional security resulting from faith in oneself. Confidence is a firm belief in one's powers, abilities, or capacities: "You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face" (Eleanor Roosevelt).
Assurance even more strongly stresses certainty and can suggest arrogance: How can you explain an abstruse theory with such assurance?
Aplomb implies calm poise: "It is native personality, and that alone, that endows a man to stand before presidents or generals . . . with aplomb" (Walt Whitman).
Self-confidence stresses trust in one's own self-sufficiency: "The most vital quality a soldier can possess is self-confidence" (George S. Patton).
Self-possession implies composure arising from control over one's own reactions: "In life courtesy and self-possession . . . are the sensible impressions of the free mind, for both arise . . . from never being swept away, whatever the emotion, into confusion or dullness" (William Butler Yeats). See Also Synonyms at trust.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

#### consensus
n.
1. An opinion or position reached by a group as a whole: "Among political women . . . there is a clear consensus about the problems women candidates have traditionally faced" (Wendy Kaminer). See Usage Note at redundancy.
2. General agreement or accord: government by consensus.

#### consent
intr.v. con·sent·ed, con·sent·ing, con·sents
1. To give assent, as to the proposal of another; agree. See Synonyms at assent.
2. Archaic To be of the same mind or opinion.
n.
1. Acceptance or approval of what is planned or done by another; acquiescence. See Synonyms at permission.
2. Agreement as to opinion or a course of action: She was chosen by common consent to speak for the group.

#### debt
n
1. something that is owed, such as money, goods, or services
(Economics, Accounting & Finance / Banking & Finance)
bad debt a debt that has little or no prospect of being paid
3. an obligation to pay or perform something; liability
4. (Economics, Accounting & Finance / Banking & Finance) the state of owing something, esp money, or of being under an obligation (esp in the phrases in debt, in (someone's) debt)

#### deserve
v. de·served, de·serv·ing, de·serves
v.tr.
To be worthy of; merit. See Synonyms at earn1.
v.intr.
To be worthy or deserving.

#### diplomacy
n.
1. The art or practice of conducting international relations, as in negotiating alliances, treaties, and agreements.
2. Tact and skill in dealing with people. See Synonyms at tact.

#### diplomatic
adj.
1. Of, relating to, or involving diplomacy or diplomats.
2. Using or marked by tact and sensitivity in dealing with others.
3.
a. Of or relating to diplomatics.
b. Being an exact copy of the original: a diplomatic edition.

#### discuss
tr.v. dis·cussed, dis·cuss·ing, dis·cuss·es
1. To speak with another or others about; talk over.
2. To examine or consider (a subject) in speech or writing

#### dominant
adj.
1. Exercising the most influence or control.
2. Most prominent, as in position; ascendant.
3. Genetics Of, relating to, or being an allele that produces the same phenotypic effect whether inherited with a homozygous or heterozygous allele.
4. Ecology Of, relating to, or being a species that is most characteristic of an ecological community and usually determines the presence, abundance, and type of other species.
5. Music Relating to or based on the fifth tone of a diatonic scale.
n.
1. Genetics A dominant allele or trait.
2. Ecology A dominant species.
3. Music The fifth tone of a diatonic scale.
[Middle English dominaunt, from Old French, from Latin dominns, dominant-, present participle of dominr, to dominate; see dominate.]
domi·nant·ly adv.
Synonyms: dominant, predominant, preponderant, paramount, preeminent
These adjectives mean surpassing all others in power, influence, or position. Dominant applies to what exercises principal control or authority or is unmistakably ascendant: For decades, the Soviet Union was the dominant nation of eastern Europe.
Predominant often implies being uppermost at a particular time or for the time being: "Egrets, gulls and small mammals are the predominant wildlife on the island these days" (Dan McCoubrey).
Preponderant implies superiority as the result of outweighing or outnumbering all others: "No big modern war has been won without preponderant sea power" (Samuel Eliot Morison).
Paramount means first in importance, rank, or regard: "My paramount object in this struggle is to save the Union" (Abraham Lincoln).
Preeminent suggests generally recognized supremacy: He is the preeminent tenor of the modern era.

#### drama
n.
1.a. A prose or verse composition, especially one telling a serious story, that is intended for representation by actors impersonating the characters and performing the dialogue and action.
b. A serious narrative work or program for television, radio, or the cinema.
2. Theatrical plays of a particular kind or period: Elizabethan drama.
3. The art or practice of writing or producing dramatic works.
4. A situation or succession o having the dramatic progression or emotional effect characteristic of a play: the drama of the prisoner's escape and recapture.
5. The quality or condition of being dramatic: a summit meeting full of drama.

#### dramatic
adj.
1. Of or relating to drama or the theater.
2. Characterized by or expressive of the action or emotion associated with drama or the theatre: a dramatic rescue at sea.
3. Arresting or forceful in appearance or effect: a dramatic sunset.
4. Music Having a powerful, expressive singing voice: a dramatic tenor

#### earnest
adj.
1. Marked by or showing deep sincerity or seriousness: an earnest gesture of goodwill.
2. Of an important or weighty nature; grave. See Synonyms at serious.
Idiom:
in earnest
1. With a purposeful or sincere intent: settled down to study in earnest for the examination.
2. Serious; determined: "Both sides are deeply in earnest, with passions that approximate those of civil war" (Conor Cruise O'Brien).

#### empathy
n.
1. Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives. See Synonyms at pity.
2. The attribution of one's own feelings to an object.

#### entitle
tr.v. en·ti·tled, en·ti·tling, en·ti·tles
1. To give a name or title to.
2. To furnish with a right or claim to something: The coupon entitles the bearer to a 25 percent savings. Every citizen is entitled to equal protection under the law.

#### entitlement
n.
1. The act or process of entitling.
2. The state of being entitled.
3. A government program that guarantees and provides benefits to a particular group: "fights . . . to preserve victories won a generation ago, like the Medicaid entitlement for the poor" (Jason DeParle).

#### ethic
n.
1.
a. A set of principles of right conduct.
b. A theory or a system of moral values: "An ethic of service is at war with a craving for gain" (Gregg Easterbrook).
2. ethics (used with a sing. verb) The study of the general nature of morals and of the specific moral choices to be made by a person; moral philosophy.
3. ethics (used with a sing. or pl. verb) The rules or standards governing the conduct of a person or the members of a profession: medical ethics.

#### fantasy
n. pl. fan·ta·sies
1. The creative imagination; unrestrained fancy. See Synonyms at imagination.
2. Something, such as an invention, that is a creation of the fancy.
3. A capricious or fantastic idea; a conceit.
4.
a. Fiction characterized by highly fanciful or supernatural elements.
b. An example of such fiction.
5. An imagined event or sequence of mental images, such as a daydream, usually fulfilling a wish or psychological need.
6. An unrealistic or improbable supposition.
7. Music See fantasia.
8. A coin issued especially by a questionable authority and not intended for use as currency.
9. Obsolete A hallucination.
tr.v. fan·ta·sied, fan·ta·sy·ing, fan·ta·sies
To imagine; visualize.

#### forthright
adj
1archaic : proceeding straight on
2: free from ambiguity or evasiveness : going straight to the point
adv
1 archaic
a : directly forward
b : without hesitation : frankly
2archaic : at once

#### friend
n.
1. A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
2. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
3. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
4. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement: friends of the clean air movement.
5. Friend A member of the Society of Friends; a Quaker.
tr.v. friend·ed, friend·ing, friends
1. To add (someone) as a friend on a social networking website.
2. Archaic To befriend.

#### hate
v. hat·ed, hat·ing, hates
v.tr.
1.
a. To feel hostility or animosity toward.
b. To detest.
2. To feel dislike or distaste for: hates washing dishes.
v.intr.
To feel hatred.
n.
1. Intense animosity or dislike; hatred.
2. An object of detestation or hatred: My pet hate is tardiness.

#### healthy
adj. health·i·er, health·i·est
1. Possessing good health.
2. Conducive to good health; healthful: healthy air.
3. Indicative of sound, rational thinking or frame of mind: a healthy attitude.
4. Sizable; considerable: a healthy portion of potatoes; a healthy raise in salary.

#### honest
Adjective:
Free of deceit and untruthfulness; sincere.
Adverb:
Used to persuade someone of the truth of something: "you'll like it when you get there, honest".
Synonyms:
straight - upright - sincere - fair - straightforward

#### honor/honour
n.
1. High respect, as that shown for special merit; esteem: the honor shown to a Nobel laureate.
2.
a. Good name; reputation.
b. A source or cause of credit: was an honor to the profession.
3.
a. Glory or recognition; distinction.
b. A mark, token, or gesture of respect or distinction: the place of honor at the table.
c. A military decoration.
d. A title conferred for achievement.
4. High rank.
5. The dignity accorded to position: awed by the honor of his office.
6. Great privilege: I have the honor to present the governor.
7. Honor Used with His, Her, or Your as a title and form of address for certain officials, such as judges and mayors: Her Honor the Mayor.
8.
a. Principled uprightness of character; personal integrity.
b. A code of integrity, dignity, and pride, chiefly among men, that was maintained in some societies, as in feudal Europe, by force of arms.
c. A woman's chastity or reputation for chastity.
9. honors Social courtesies offered to guests: did the honors at tea.
10. honors
a. Special recognition for unusual academic achievement: graduated from college with honors.
b. A program of advanced study for exceptional students: planned to take honors in history.
11. Sports The right of being first at the tee in golf.
12. Games
a. Any of the four or five highest cards, especially the ace, king, queen, jack, and ten of the trump suit, in card games such as bridge or whist.
b. The points allotted to these cards. Often used in the plural.
tr.v. hon·ored, hon·or·ing, hon·ors
1.
a. To hold in respect; esteem.
b. To show respect for.
c. To bow to (another dancer) in square dancing: Honor your partner.
2. To confer distinction on: He has honored us with his presence.
3. To accept or pay as valid: honor a check; a store that honors all credit cards.
Idiom:
honor bound
Under an obligation enforced by the personal integrity of the one obliged: I was honor bound to admit that she had done the work.
[Middle English, from Old French, from Latin.]
honor·er n.
Synonyms: honor, homage, reverence, veneration, deference
These nouns denote admiration, respect, or esteem accorded to another as a right or as due. Honor is the most general term: The hero tried to be worthy of the honor in which he was held.
Homage is often in the form of a ceremonial tribute that conveys allegiance: "There is no country in which so absolute a homage is paid to wealth" (Ralph Waldo Emerson).
Reverence is a feeling of deep respect and devotion: "Kill reverence and you've killed the hero in man" (Ayn Rand).
Veneration is both the feeling and the reverential expression of respect, love, and awe: Her veneration for her mentor never wavered.
Deference is courteous, respectful regard for another that often implies yielding to him or her: The funeral was arranged with deference to the family of the deceased.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

#### hurt
v. hurt, hurt·ing, hurts
v.tr.
1. To cause physical damage or pain to; injure.
2. To cause mental or emotional suffering to; distress.
3. To cause physical damage to; harm: The frost hurt the orange crop.
4. To be detrimental to; hinder or impair: The scandal hurt the candidate's chances for victory.
v.intr.
1. To have or produce a feeling of physical pain or discomfort: My leg hurts.
2.
a. To cause distress or damage: Parental neglect hurts.
b. To have an adverse effect: "It never hurt to have a friend at court" (Tom Clancy).
3. Informal To experience distress, especially of a financial kind; be in need: "Even in a business that's hurting there's always a guy who can make a buck" (New York).
n.
1. Something that hurts; a pain, injury, or wound.
2. Mental suffering; anguish: getting over the hurt of reading the letter.
3. A wrong; harm: What hurt have you done to them?
[Middle English hurten, possibly from Old French hurter, to bang into, perhaps of Germanic origin.]


#### improve
Verb:
Make or become better: "efforts to improve relations with China"; "improved rail links"; "his condition improved".
Develop or increase in mental capacity by education or experience.
Synonyms:
ameliorate - mend - meliorate - amend - better - perfect

#### integrity
n.
1. Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
2. The state of being unimpaired; soundness.
3. The quality or condition of being whole or undivided; completeness.

#### know
v. knew (n, ny), known (nn), know·ing, knows
v.tr.
1. To perceive directly; grasp in the mind with clarity or certainty.
2. To regard as true beyond doubt: I know she won't fail.
3. To have a practical understanding of, as through experience; be skilled in: knows how to cook.
4. To have fixed in the mind: knows her Latin verbs.
5. To have experience of: "a black stubble that had known no razor" (William Faulkner).
6.
a. To perceive as familiar; recognize: I know that face.
b. To be acquainted with: He doesn't know his neighbors.
7. To be able to distinguish; recognize as distinct: knows right from wrong.
8. To discern the character or nature of: knew him for a liar.
9. Archaic To have sexual intercourse with.
v.intr.
1. To possess knowledge, understanding, or information.
2. To be cognizant or aware.
Idioms:
in the know Informal
Possessing special or secret information.
you know Informal
Used parenthetically in conversation, as to fill pauses or educe the listener's agreement or sympathy: Please try to be, you know, a little quieter. How were we supposed to make camp in a storm like that, you know?

#### like
v. liked, lik·ing, likes
v.tr.
1. To find pleasant or attractive; enjoy.
2. To want to have: would like some coffee.
3. To feel about; regard: How do you like her nerve!
4. Archaic To be pleasing to.
v.intr.
1. To have an inclination or a preference: If you like, we can meet you there.
2. Scots To be pleased.
n.
Something that is liked; a preference: made a list of his likes and dislikes.

#### limit
n.
1. The point, edge, or line beyond which something cannot or may not proceed.
2. limits The boundary surrounding a specific area; bounds: within the city limits.
3. A confining or restricting object, agent, or influence.
4. The greatest or least amount, number, or extent allowed or possible: a withdrawal limit of $200; no minimum age limit.
5. Games The largest amount which may be bet at one time in games of chance.
6. Abbr. lim Mathematics A number or point L that is approached by a function f(x) as x approaches a if, for every positive number , there exists a number such that f(x)-L < if 0 < x-a < . Also called limit point, point of accumulation.
7. Informal One that approaches or exceeds certain limits, as of credibility, forbearance, or acceptability: He is the limit of irresponsibility.
tr.v. lim·it·ed, lim·it·ing, lim·its
1. To confine or restrict within a boundary or bounds.
2. To fix definitely; to specify.

#### love
n.
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3.
a. Sexual passion.
b. Sexual intercourse.
c. A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
6. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
7.
a. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
b. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. Love Mythology Eros or Cupid.
9. often Love Christianity Charity.
10. Sports A zero score in tennis.
v. loved, lov·ing, loves
v.tr.
1. To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person): We love our parents. I love my friends.
2. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person).
3. To have an intense emotional attachment to: loves his house.
4.
a. To embrace or caress.
b. To have sexual intercourse with.
5. To like or desire enthusiastically: loves swimming.
6. Theology To have charity for.
7. To thrive on; need: The cactus loves hot, dry air.
v.intr.
To experience deep affection or intense desire for another.
Idioms:
for love
Out of compassion; with no thought for a reward: She volunteers at the hospital for love.
for love or money
Under any circumstances. Usually used in negative sentences: I would not do that for love or money.
for the love of
For the sake of; in consideration for: did it all for the love of praise.
in love
1. Deeply or passionately enamored: a young couple in love.
2. Highly or immoderately fond: in love with Japanese painting; in love with the sound of her own voice.
no love lost
No affection; animosity: There's no love lost between them.
[Middle English, from Old English lufu; see leubh- in Indo-European roots.]
Synonyms: love, affection, devotion, fondness, infatuation
These nouns denote feelings of warm personal attachment or strong attraction to another person. Love is the most intense: marrying for love.
Affection is a less ardent and more unvarying feeling of tender regard: parental affection.
Devotion is earnest, affectionate dedication and implies selflessness: teachers admired for their devotion to children.
Fondness is strong liking or affection: a fondness for small animals.
Infatuation is foolish or extravagant attraction, often of short duration: lovers blinded to their differences by their mutual infatuation.
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love [l?v]
vb
1. (tr) to have a great attachment to and affection for
2. (tr) to have passionate desire, longing, and feelings for
3. (tr) to like or desire (to do something) very much
4. (tr) to make love to
5. (intr) to be in love
n
1.
a. an intense emotion of affection, warmth, fondness, and regard towards a person or thing
b. (as modifier) love song love story
2. a deep feeling of sexual attraction and desire
3. wholehearted liking for or pleasure in something
4. (Christianity / Ecclesiastical Terms) Christianity
a. God's benevolent attitude towards man
b. man's attitude of reverent devotion towards God
5. Also my love a beloved person: used esp as an endearment
6. Brit informal a term of address, esp but not necessarily for a person regarded as likable
7. (Individual Sports, other than specified) (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero
fall in love to become in love
for love without payment
for love or money (used with a negative) in any circumstances I wouldn't eat a snail for love or money
for the love of for the sake of
in love in a state of strong emotional attachment and usually sexual attraction
make love (to)
a. to have sexual intercourse (with)
b. Now archaic to engage in courtship (with) Related adjective amatory
[Old English lufu; related to Old High German luba; compare also Latin libere (originally lubere) to please]
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#### mandate
n.
1. An authoritative command or instruction.
2. A command or an authorization given by a political electorate to its representative.
3.
a. A commission from the League of Nations authorizing a member nation to administer a territory.
b. A region under such administration.
4. Law
a. An order issued by a superior court or an official to a lower court.
b. A contract by which one party agrees to perform services for another without payment.
tr.v. man·dat·ed, man·dat·ing, man·dates
1. To assign (a colony or territory) to a specified nation under a mandate.
2. To make mandatory, as by law; decree or require: mandated desegregation of public schools

#### negotiate
v. ne·go·ti·at·ed, ne·go·ti·at·ing, ne·go·ti·ates
v.intr.
To confer with another or others in order to come to terms or reach an agreement: "It is difficult to negotiate where neither will trust" (Samuel Johnson).
v.tr.
1. To arrange or settle by discussion and mutual agreement: negotiate a contract.
2.
a. To transfer title to or ownership of (a promissory note, for example) to another party by delivery or by delivery and endorsement in return for value received.
b. To sell or discount (assets or securities, for example).
3.
a. To succeed in going over or coping with: negotiate a sharp curve.
b. To succeed in accomplishing or managing: negotiate a difficult musical passage.

#### obligate
tr.v. ob·li·gat·ed, ob·li·gat·ing, ob·li·gates
1. To bind, compel, or constrain by a social, legal, or moral tie. See Synonyms at force.
2. To cause to be grateful or indebted; oblige.
3. To commit (money, for example) in order to fulfill an obligation.
adj. (-gt, -gt)
1. Biology Able to exist or survive only in a particular environment or by assuming a particular role: an obligate parasite; an obligate anaerobe.
2. Absolutely indispensable; essential.

#### open
Adjective:
Allowing access, passage, or a view through an empty space; not closed or blocked up: "the door was wide open".
Verb:
Move or adjust (a door or window) so as to leave a space allowing access and view.
Noun:
(Open) A championship or competition with no restrictions on who may qualify to compete.
Synonyms:
adjective. frank - overt - candid - free - public
verb. unfold - begin - start - unlock
noun. opening

#### opinion
n.
1. A belief or conclusion held with confidence but not substantiated by positive knowledge or proof: "The world is not run by thought, nor by imagination, but by opinion" (Elizabeth Drew).
2. A judgment based on special knowledge and given by an expert: a medical opinion.
3. A judgment or estimation of the merit of a person or thing: has a low opinion of braggarts.
4. The prevailing view: public opinion.
5. Law A formal statement by a court or other adjudicative body of the legal reasons and principles for the conclusions of the court.
[Middle English, from Old French, from Latin opni, opnin-, from opnr, to think.]
Synonyms: opinion, view, sentiment, feeling, belief, conviction, persuasion
These nouns signify something a person believes or accepts as being sound or true. Opinion is applicable to a judgment based on grounds insufficient to rule out the possibility of dispute: "A little group of willful men, representing no opinion but their own, have rendered the great Government of the United States helpless and contemptible" (Woodrow Wilson).
View stresses individuality of outlook: "My view is . . . that freedom of speech means that you shall not do something to people either for the views they have or the views they express" (Hugo L. Black).
Sentiment and especially feeling stress the role of emotion as a determinant: "If men are to be precluded from offering their sentiments on a matter which may involve the most serious and alarming consequences . . . reason is of no use to us" (George Washington). "There needs protection . . . against the tyranny of the prevailing opinion and feeling" (John Stuart Mill).
A belief is a conclusion to which one subscribes strongly: "Our belief in any particular natural law cannot have a safer basis than our unsuccessful critical attempts to refute it" (Karl Popper).
Conviction is belief that excludes doubt: "the editor's own conviction of what, whether interesting or only important, is in the public interest" (Walter Lippmann).
Persuasion applies to a confidently held opinion: "He had a strong persuasion that Likeman was wrong" (H.G. Wells).
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opinion [?'p?nj?n]
n
1. judgment or belief not founded on certainty or proof
2. the prevailing or popular feeling or view public opinion
3. Law) the advice given by a barrister or counsel on a case submitted to him or her for a view on the legal points involved
a matter of opinion a point open to question
be of the opinion (that) to believe (that)
[via Old French from Latin opinio belief, from opinari to think; see opine]
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Opinion
See also ideas.
heterodoxy
1. the state of being at variance with established doctrines or beliefs.
2. a heterodox view or belief.
opinionist
a person fond of his own opinions and of making them known.
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Opinion
See Also: IDEAS
As men grow older, their opinions, like their diseases, grow chronic —Josh Billings
In Billings’ original dialect: Az men gro older their opinuns like thier diseazes, grow kronick.
Carried and opened this attitude like an umbrella —Delmore Schwartz
Observations … are like children’s cradles … sometimes empty, sometimes full of noisy imbecility, and often lulling to sleep —Sydney Smith
Smith modestly applied this simile to his own observations.
Of three minds, like a tree in which there are three blackbirds —Wallace Stevens
Opinion gathered like a cloud and danced and then seemed to freeze —H. E. Bates
Opinion is like a pendulum and obeys the same law. If it goes past the center of gravity on one side, it must go a like distance on the other —Arthur Schopenhauer
Schopenhauer continued his simile like this: “And it is only after a certain time that it finds the true point at which it can remain at rest.”
Opinion polls: polls are like sleeping pills designed to lull the public into sleeping on election day. You might call them “sleeping polls” —Harry S. Truman
Opinions, like showers, are generated in high places, but they invariably descend into lower ones, and ultimately flow down to the people, as rain unto the sea —Charles Caleb Colton
Opinions, like the temperaments, fell rapidly into pre-established categories —Marguerite Yourcenar
Opinions richocheted through the gathering like hyperactive pheromones —Susan Ferraro, New York Times/Hers, Feburary 19, 1987
Opinions stout as oak —Phyllis McGinley
Passed opinions like gas —Rita Mae Brown
Played with our ideas like jacks, pressing our fingertips against their sharp points and round protuberances, testing how many we could scoop up at once —Lynne Sharon Schwartz
Public opinion in this country runs like a shower bath. We have no temperature between hot and cold —Heywood Broun
Broun’s public opinion simile is amongst the best known witticisms born at the famed Algonquin Round Table.
Sweeping judgments which are so common are meaningless … like men who salute a whole crowd of people in the mass —Michel De Montaigne
The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water, and breeds reptiles of the mind —William Blake
The pressure of public opinion is like the pressure of the atmosphere; you can’t see it —but, all the same, it is sixteen pounds to the square inch —James R. Lowell, interview with Julian Hawthorne, New York Times, April 2, 1922
The public buys its opinions as it buys its meat, or takes its milk, on the principle that it is cheaper to do this than to keep a cow. So it is, but the milk is more likely to be watered —Samuel Butler
Tosses off insights like the spray from a speedboat —Anon comment about an author’s work
Like many such complimentary similes, this one was later featured in an ad for the work thus praised.
To venture an opinion is like moving a piece at chess: it may be taken, but it forms the beginning of a game that is won —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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#### owe
v. owed, ow·ing, owes
v.tr.
1. To be indebted to the amount of: He owes me five dollars.
2. To have a moral obligation to render or offer: I owe them an apology.
3. To be in debt to: We owe the plumber for services rendered.
4. To be indebted or obliged for: owed their riches to oil; owes her good health to diet and exercise.
5. To bear (a certain feeling) toward a person or persons: You seem to owe your neighbors a grudge.
6. Archaic To have as a possession; own.
v.intr.
To be in debt: She still owes for the car.

#### passion
n.
1. A powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger.
2.
a. Ardent love.
b. Strong sexual desire; lust.
c. The object of such love or desire.
3.
a. Boundless enthusiasm: His skills as a player don't quite match his passion for the game.
b. The object of such enthusiasm: Soccer is her passion.
4. An abandoned display of emotion, especially of anger: He's been known to fly into a passion without warning.
5. Passion
a. The sufferings of Jesus in the period following the Last Supper and including the Crucifixion, as related in the New Testament.
b. A narrative, musical setting, or pictorial representation of Jesus's sufferings.
6. Archaic Martyrdom.
7. Archaic Passivity.

#### perception
n.
1. The process, act, or faculty of perceiving.
2. The effect or product of perceiving.
3. Psychology
a. Recognition and interpretation of sensory stimuli based chiefly on memory.
b. The neurological processes by which such recognition and interpretation are effected.
4.
a. Insight, intuition, or knowledge gained by perceiving.
b. The capacity for such insight.
[Middle English percepcioun, from Old French percepcion, from Latin percepti, perceptin-, from perceptus, past participle of percipere, to perceive; see perceive.]
per·ception·al adj.

#### pity
n. pl. pit·ies
1. Sympathy and sorrow aroused by the misfortune or suffering of another.
2. A matter of regret: It's a pity she can't attend the reception.
v. pit·ied, pit·y·ing, pit·ies
v.tr.
To feel pity for.
v.intr.
To feel pity.
Idiom:
have/take pity on
To show compassion for.

#### problem
n.
1. A question to be considered, solved, or answered: math problems; the problem of how to arrange transportation.
2. A situation, matter, or person that presents perplexity or difficulty: was having problems breathing; considered the main problem to be his boss. See Usage Note at dilemma.
3. A misgiving, objection, or complaint: I have a problem with his cynicism.
adj.
1. Difficult to deal with or control: a problem child.
2. Dealing with a moral or social problem: a problem play.
Idiom:
no problem
Used to express confirmation of or compliance with a request.

#### rape
n.
1. The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
2. The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction.
3. Abusive or improper treatment; violation: a rape of justice.
tr.v. raped, rap·ing, rapes
1. To force (another person) to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse; commit rape on.
2. To seize and carry off by force.
3. To plunder or pillage.

#### real
adj.
1.
a. Being or occurring in fact or actuality; having verifiable existence: real objects; a real illness.
b. True and actual; not imaginary, alleged, or ideal: real people, not ghosts; a film based on real life.
c. Of or founded on practical matters and concerns: a recent graduate experiencing the real world for the first time.
2. Genuine and authentic; not artificial or spurious: real mink; real humility.
3. Being no less than what is stated; worthy of the name: a real friend.
4. Free of pretense, falsehood, or affectation: tourists hoping for a real experience on the guided tour.
5. Not to be taken lightly; serious: in real trouble.
6. Philosophy Existing objectively in the world regardless of subjectivity or conventions of thought or language.
7. Relating to, being, or having value reckoned by actual purchasing power: real income; real growth.
8. Physics Of, relating to, or being an image formed by light rays that converge in space.
9. Mathematics Of, relating to, or being a real number.
10. Law Of or relating to stationary or fixed property, such as buildings or land.
adv. Informal
Very: I'm real sorry about that.
n.
1. A thing or whole having actual existence. Often used with the: theories beyond the realm of the real.
2. Mathematics A real number.
Idiom:
for real Slang
Truly so in fact or actuality: "Is this place for real? A wolf in a ... leisure suit and a cow in a print dress wait patiently on the couch in the lobby" (Teresa Carson).
[Middle English, from Old French, from Late Latin relis, from Latin rs, thing; see r- in Indo-European roots.]
realness n.
Synonyms: real1, actual, true, existent
These adjectives mean not being imaginary but having verifiable existence. Real implies authenticity, genuineness, or factuality: Don't lose the bracelet; it's made of real gold. She showed real sympathy for my predicament.
Actual means existing and not merely potential or possible: "rocks, trees ... the actual world" (Henry David Thoreau).
True implies consistency with fact, reality, or actuality: "It is undesirable to believe a proposition when there is no ground whatever for supposing it true" (Bertrand Russell).
Existent applies to what has life or being: Much of the beluga caviar existent in the world is found near the Caspian Sea. See Also Synonyms at authentic.

#### reality
n. pl. re·al·i·ties
1. The quality or state of being actual or true.
2. One, such as a person, an entity, or an event, that is actual: "the weight of history and political realities" (Benno C. Schmidt, Jr.)
3. The totality of all things possessing actuality, existence, or essence.
4. That which exists objectively and in fact: Your observations do not seem to be about reality.
adj.
Relating to or being a genre of television or film in which a storyline is created by editing footage of people interacting or competing with one another in unscripted, unrehearsed situations.
Idiom:
in reality
In fact; actually.

#### secure (as confident)
1 not doubting or being worried about yourself and your personal relationships
Secure:
Adjective:
Fixed or fastened so as not to give way, become loose, or be lost.
Verb:
Fix or attach (something) firmly so that it cannot be moved or lost.
Synonyms:
adjective. safe - sure - certain - confident - assured - steady
verb. ensure - insure - assure - safeguard - obtain - fasten

#### strength
n.
1. The state, property, or quality of being strong.
2. The power to resist attack; impregnability.
3. The power to resist strain or stress; durability.
4. The ability to maintain a moral or intellectual position firmly.
5. Capacity or potential for effective action: a show of strength.
6.
a. The number of people constituting a normal or ideal organization: The police force has been at half strength since the budget cuts.
b. Military capability in terms of personnel and materiel: an army of fearsome strength.
7.
a. A source of power or force.
b. One that is regarded as the embodiment of protective or supportive power; a support or mainstay.
c. An attribute or quality of particular worth or utility; an asset.
8. Degree of intensity, force, effectiveness, or potency in terms of a particular property, as:
a. Degree of concentration, distillation, or saturation; potency.
b. Operative effectiveness or potency.
c. Intensity, as of sound or light.
d. Intensity or vehemence, as of emotion or language.
9. Effective or binding force; efficacy: the strength of an argument.
10. Firmness of or a continuous rising tendency in prices, as on the stock market.
11. Games Power derived from the value of playing cards held.
Idiom:
on the strength of
On the basis of: She was hired on the strength of her computer skills.

#### slave
n.
1. One bound in servitude as the property of a person or household.
2. One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence: "I was still the slave of education and prejudice" (Edward Gibbon).
3. One who works extremely hard.
4. A machine or component controlled by another machine or component.
intr.v. slaved, slav·ing, slaves
1. To work very hard or doggedly; toil.
2. To trade in or transport slaves.

#### sorry
adj. sor·ri·er, sor·ri·est
1. Feeling or expressing sympathy, pity, or regret: I'm sorry I'm late.
2. Worthless or inferior; paltry: a sorry excuse.
3. Causing sorrow, grief, or misfortune; grievous: a sorry development.

#### stable
adj. sta·bler, sta·blest
1.
a. Resistant to change of position or condition; not easily moved or disturbed: a house built on stable ground; a stable platform.
b. Not subject to sudden or extreme change or fluctuation: a stable economy; a stable currency.
c. Maintaining equilibrium; self-restoring: a stable aircraft.
2. Enduring or permanent: a stable peace.
3.
a. Consistently dependable; steadfast of purpose.
b. Not subject to mental illness or irrationality: a stable personality.
4. Physics Having no known mode of decay; indefinitely long-lived. Used of atomic particles.
5. Chemistry Not easily decomposed or otherwise modified chemically.

#### submit
v. sub·mit·ted, sub·mit·ting, sub·mits
v.tr.
1. To yield or surrender (oneself) to the will or authority of another.
2. To subject to a condition or process.
3. To commit (something) to the consideration or judgment of another. See Synonyms at propose.
4. To offer as a proposition or contention: I submit that the terms are entirely unreasonable.
v.intr.
1. To give in to the authority, power, or desires of another. See Synonyms at yield.
2. To allow oneself to be subjected to something.
[Middle English submitten, from Latin submittere, to set under : sub-, sub- + mittere, to cause to go.]
sub·mittal (-mtl) n.
sub·mitter n.

#### submissive
adj.
Inclined or willing to submit.
sub·missive·ly adv.
sub·missive·ness n.
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submissive [s?b'm?s?v]
adj
of, tending towards, or indicating submission, humility, or servility
submissively adv
submissiveness n
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#### sympathy
n. pl. sym·pa·thies
1.
a. A relationship or an affinity between people or things in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
b. Mutual understanding or affection arising from this relationship or affinity.
2.
a. The act or power of sharing the feelings of another.
b. A feeling or an expression of pity or sorrow for the distress of another; compassion or commiseration. Often used in the plural. See Synonyms at pity.
3. Harmonious agreement; accord: He is in sympathy with their beliefs.
4. A feeling of loyalty; allegiance. Often used in the plural: His sympathies lie with his family.
5. Physiology A relation between parts or organs by which a disease or disorder in one induces an effect in the other.

#### true
adj. tru·er, tru·est
1.
a. Consistent with fact or reality; not false or erroneous. See Synonyms at real1. See Usage Note at fact.
b. Truthful.
2. Real; genuine. See Synonyms at authentic.
3. Reliable; accurate: a true prophecy.
4. Faithful, as to a friend, vow, or cause; loyal. See Synonyms at faithful.
5. Sincerely felt or expressed; unfeigned: true grief.
6. Fundamental; essential: his true motive.
7. Rightful; legitimate: the true heir.
8. Exactly conforming to a rule, standard, or pattern: trying to sing true B.
9. Accurately shaped or fitted: a true wheel.
10. Accurately placed, delivered, or thrown.
11. Quick and exact in sensing and responding.
12. Determined with reference to the earth's axis, not the magnetic poles: true north.
13. Conforming to the definitive criteria of a natural group; typical: The horseshoe crab is not a true crab.
14. Narrowly particularized; highly specific: spoke of probity in the truest sense of the word.
15. Computer Science Indicating one of two possible values taken by a variable in Boolean logic or a binary device.
adv.
1. In accord with reality, fact, or truthfulness.
2. Unswervingly; exactly: The archer aimed true.
3. So as to conform to a type, standard, or pattern.
tr.v. trued, tru·ing or true·ing, trues
To position (something) so as to make it balanced, level, or square: trued up the long planks.
n.
1. Truth or reality. Used with the.
2. Proper alignment or adjustment: out of true.
[Middle English trewe, from Old English trowe, firm, trustworthy; see deru- in Indo-European roots.]
trueness n.
Word History: The words true and tree are joined at the root, etymologically speaking. In Old English, the words looked and sounded much more alike than they do now: "tree" was trow and "true" was trowe. The first of these comes from the Germanic noun *trewam; the second, from the adjective *treuwaz. Both these Germanic words ultimately go back to an Indo-European root *deru- or *dreu-, appearing in derivatives referring to wood and, by extension, firmness. Truth may be thought of as something firm; so too can certain bonds between people, like trust, another derivative of the same root. A slightly different form of the root, *dru-, appears in the word druid, a type of ancient Celtic priest; his name is etymologically *dru-wid-, or "strong seer."

#### trust
n.
1. Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.
2. Custody; care.
3. Something committed into the care of another; charge.
4.
a. The condition and resulting obligation of having confidence placed in one: violated a public trust.
b. One in which confidence is placed.
5. Reliance on something in the future; hope.
6. Reliance on the intention and ability of a purchaser to pay in the future; credit.
7. Law
a. A legal title to property held by one party for the benefit of another.
b. The confidence reposed in a trustee when giving the trustee legal title to property to administer for another, together with the trustee's obligation regarding that property and the beneficiary.
c. The property so held.
8. A combination of firms or corporations for the purpose of reducing competition and controlling prices throughout a business or an industry.
v. trust·ed, trust·ing, trusts
v.intr.
1. To have or place reliance; depend: Trust in the Lord. Trust to destiny.
2. To be confident; hope.
3. To sell on credit.
v.tr.
1. To have or place confidence in; depend on.
2. To expect with assurance; assume: I trust that you will be on time.
3. To believe: I trust what you say.
4. To place in the care of another; entrust.
5. To grant discretion to confidently: Can I trust them with the boat?
6. To extend credit to.
Idiom:
in trust
In the possession or care of a trustee.
[Middle English truste, perhaps from Old Norse traust, confidence; see deru- in Indo-European roots.]

#### truth
Noun:
The quality or state of being true: "the truth of her accusation".
That which is true or in accordance with fact or reality: "tell me the truth".

#### understand
v. un·der·stood (-std), un·der·stand·ing, un·der·stands
v.tr.
1. To perceive and comprehend the nature and significance of; grasp. See Synonyms at apprehend.
2. To know thoroughly by close contact or long experience with: That teacher understands children.
3.
a. To grasp or comprehend the meaning intended or expressed by (another): They have trouble with English, but I can understand them.
b. To comprehend the language, sounds, form, or symbols of.
4. To know and be tolerant or sympathetic toward: I can understand your point of view even though I disagree with it.
5. To learn indirectly, as by hearsay: I understand his departure was unexpected.
6. To infer: Am I to understand you are staying the night?
7. To accept (something) as an agreed fact: It is understood that the fee will be 50 dollars.
8. To supply or add (words or a meaning, for example) mentally.
v.intr.
1.
a. To have understanding, knowledge, or comprehension.
b. To have sympathy or tolerance.
2. To learn something indirectly or secondhand; gather.
[Middle English understanden, from Old English understandan : under-, under- + standan, to stand; see st- in Indo-European roots.]
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.
understand [??nd?'stænd]
vb -stands, -standing, -stood
1. (may take a clause as object) to know and comprehend the nature or meaning of I understand you I understand what you mean
2. (may take a clause as object) to realize or grasp (something) he understands your position
3. (tr; may take a clause as object) to assume, infer, or believe I understand you are thinking of marrying
4. (tr) to know how to translate or read can you understand Spanish?
5. (tr; may take a clause as object; often passive) to accept as a condition or proviso it is understood that children must be kept quiet
6. (tr) to be sympathetic to or compatible with we understand each other
[Old English understandan; related to Old Frisian understonda, Middle High German understan step under; see under, stand]
understandable adj
understandably adv
Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003
appreciate, recognize, understand - The use of "appreciate" should involve valuing something or understanding it sympathetically; when there is no value or sympathy, use "recognize" or "understand"; appreciate first meant "set at a price; appraised."

#### value
n.
1. An amount, as of goods, services, or money, considered to be a fair and suitable equivalent for something else; a fair price or return.
2. Monetary or material worth: the fluctuating value of gold and silver.
3. Worth in usefulness or importance to the possessor; utility or merit: the value of an education.
4. A principle, standard, or quality considered worthwhile or desirable: "The speech was a summons back to the patrician values of restraint and responsibility" (Jonathan Alter).
5. Precise meaning or import, as of a word.
6. Mathematics An assigned or calculated numerical quantity.
7. Music The relative duration of a tone or rest.
8. The relative darkness or lightness of a color. See Table at color.
9. Linguistics The sound quality of a letter or diphthong.
10. One of a series of specified values: issued a stamp of new value.
tr.v. val·ued, val·u·ing, val·ues
1. To determine or estimate the worth or value of; appraise.
2. To regard highly; esteem. See Synonyms at appreciate.
3. To rate according to relative estimate of worth or desirability; a unit of currency, for example).


****Ending here for now as my eyes are crossing from cross-referencing, even then, already updated it at least twice lol****

I need to rant just a bit here.
The more and more time goes by the more and more I feel like I'm fighting to just be "me" in the world of kink. Due to perpetual commentary in my pm's both on here and FL, I feel the need to explain a few things; not because I feel I owe anyone in particular and explanation but because it seems some people need a reality check to how I operate. I've received the following message at least half a dozen times now: "i notice you are not the fashioned Mistress that wears the usual leather, latex or rubber outfits". I don't even want to comment on the use of the word "usual". If there's one thing I've learned, there is no such thing as usual.
I'm allergic to latex, it gives me hives and makes me itch. It also makes me choke and unable to breathe. How sexy is that? Most rubber makes my skin break out as it doesn't breathe and the unfortunate sidebar of me being this pastey is that every irritation shows up HUGE. I avoid looking like a blotchy lady as much as I can. I figure I look hotter in jeans and a t-shirt and not choking than I do in latex for five seconds before the hospital trip.
I do not own thigh high leather boots - On average they cost a minimum of six hundred dollars. Six hundred dollars can spay/neuter three rescues. Six hundred dollars can fill my gas tank 11 times, I regularly have to fill my gas tank. Pet works a real job (no permanent chains and vibrating subbie pillows here) and drives there. To get to most of our friends, we have to drive there. To transport fosters, we have to drive. To do home visits for potential adopters, guess what? We drive there too. I need the 11 fill ups more than I need boots. Actually there are a lot of things I need more than boots.
I'm terribly sorry to disillusion people that I don't sit on a throne whipping the slaves every day. Thrones don't fit real well in elevators, and there's not a lot of whipping or throne space in my 1200 sq foot apartment. Not to mention the whole whip cracking/not soundproof building problem. Plus again, that cost thing.
I'm trying to save for a house, pay off debts and move forward in life.
The reason I keep referring to 'cost' is of course, nothing in life is free, but secondly because I don't believe in exchanging money for what I consider a "basic" need. I can't exist in a world where I don't control things in my environment and the people in it, that's a basic requirement for me to live somewhat happily. I don't 'pay' for that, I find those who seek that and we co-exist in it. Taking care of household things, needs and bills as a unit under my whim. Due to this outlook I tend to operate on a barter system rather than a monetary one. So no, I suppose I'll never be the ahem "usual" Mistress, but there are a lot of unusual things about me that I'm quite grateful for.

I don't run around being my scary self, my brand of scary certainly *needs* to be consented to, not imposed upon the public.

**Sappy warning**

FRIAR LAURENCE

Come, come with me, and we will make short work;

For, by your leaves, you shall not stay alone

Till holy church incorporate two in one.

{Exeunt}

Romeo and Juliet Act 2, Scene 6

This particular play tends to be mentioned often when speaking of love and things romantic, but there is actually no mention of their wedding. This was the one and only part of the play I ever really liked. It's also something I wanted for myself. Fortunately pet had no real opinion either way and was happy to go along with what I wanted.

I have moments of intense privacy. Once upon a time they were shut down times where I withdrew from the world and spoke to no one. Now I'm learning to allow some people in and share where I'm at in those moments.
Pet is one of them, come hell or high water he's all in, and so am I. I can't seem to spook him ^.^

I never wanted to look at my marriage certificate and see signatures of people who were once important but had either passed or moved on in life and were no longer present. So we used the chapel's witnesses, two people who were there, called in just to be there and meet us and talk to us and share a quiet moment.

It was just us and them as we exchanged our vows and rings. We had to run out last night and get a stand in for his ring as it hasn't made it yet! It should be here in a week or two, till then he has a really nice stainless steel one.
There are no pictures. Other than the ones I took in the car on the way home of my ring. We have our memories and that is all I wanted.

A little shaking and some misty eyes, it was a sweet moment. A blessedly short and sweet moment. They had such a charming civil ceremony that wasn't all that long.

On our way out the officiant puts our certificate and the other sundry papers into an envelope for us and hands it to me and says, "Here's the deed and license for your now official property". See me try to figure out what level of "laugh" is an appropriate response to that, I settled on an earnest head shake, a laugh and "This will come in handy" =)

Our laughing "meant to be moment" happened on the way out the door as we both tried to straight face it past her comment. Then we got to the car, simultaneously checked our cells phones and said "hey that was so fast our coffees will still be hot in the car!" headshake yup.. he's certainly mine

 

Dog: The Bounty Puppers..


This document is to be added to the file of a formerly 'infamous' dog, this is the greatest demonstration for me that my dog has been 'rehabbed' =)
Name: Roxie
Description: Sm/Md sized brachycephalic (flat face) terrier-type dog
Breed: Boston Terrier
Primary colour: Brindle/White
Dress Size: L (cause she's chesty sigh)
Alias' (retired): Roxor the Enforcer, Biteamus Prime, Bitchface
Alias' (current): Rocks, Roxapotamous, Bostorpotamous, Leadbottapotamus, Mama, Bostaparty, Snarffles
*It should be noted that if you demonstrate the appearance of having the infamous 'chickens' it doesn't matter what you call her, the kryptonite will draw her to you*
Height: Less than the knee, though rarely found on four feet she can appear larger than she actually is
Weight: Refusal to comply, currently lamenting something called a 'diet'
Sex: Female
Age: 5 (June 4, 2006)
Status: Rescue, at current address 1+ yrs
Employ: Professional Couch Tester
Hobbies:
-Wigglin' (since before  target="_blank">LMFAO said it was cool)
-Smelling stuff (accompanied by swine like vocalizations, hence the term "snarffling")
-Boston Dance Parties
Motto: "Everyday I'm snarffalin'"
Important notes: Prone to exaggeration and drama no matter what the situation, will cry over nothing and tends to bark at invisible offenses. In cold weather there will be flat refusal for locomotion without proper warm fashionable accessories.

We've been practicing very hard with @Edelmira and her dog Amber, so Roxie can learn little dogs are not fast moving dinner, but possible friends!
I take Roxie and she waits in the car while I go to the Chiro because there is a mini dog park across the street near all the apartment buildings. Once I'm realigned I take her over there to snarffle for a while before heading for home. Usually I go to the chiro at 3, but in the colder weather I've been waiting till evening so pet can have the car for work. See I am nice.
Apparently there's a group of people and their small dogs that gather in the wee park between 6-630. Well what a fabulous opportunity to see what Roxie's learned! I put on my positive attitude and kept my energy level and off we went into the park. I swear I can face any crowd as long as I have a dog next to me.
She went in fine, got to know all the dogs, and of course the people in her charming wiggly way. She was the POSTER dog for good behaviour. I was soproud. She played gently and didn't get fixated. Everyone was asking me questions about her and being very kind (there are advantages to being the new person sometimes).
She kept doing quite well until a new little guy showed up, he was dark in colour and the evening was quite dark already. Roxie is not great at distinguishing features on dark surfaces and gets sketchy if she can't easily sort out what it is. Apparently this is fairly common with brachycephalic dogs and is a common complaint I've heard. It didn't help when he ran straight at her face and didn't offer even a sniff hello.
She started barking and getting stuck in 'enforcer' mode, thankfully I have the fastest reflexes of anyone at the dog park and had her off and on her back before about 5 seconds had lapsed, quick decisive and certain, don't to negotiate with dogs. She knew the instant I caught her she'd done wrong. Generally she knows she is removed from the situation if she behaves poorly. Everything that follows is my experiment in making her "apologize" and overcome. I was going to make her stick it out and overcome it, even when she ran to where her leash was hung and sat down shamefully. I asked her to follow me (she combat crawled to my feet and rolled over when she got there, drama queen) so we could apologize to everyone. She knew in her every fiber that she'd done wrong and it showed. She looked so ashamed and her body language was completely deflate. I walked over to each individual in the park and asked her to try saying hello again politely. She layed down politely at everyone's feet and waited to get a hello. She would wiggle and greet them properly once they acknowledged her. You could see her confidence bolstering as she went. She sniffed every dog politely, but was avoiding the owner/dog she'd actually offended for the time being. I looked at her and nodded towards the owner and she did her cammo crawl all the way over and dramatically rolled over to appear as apologetic as possible. The owner laughed and petted her, which relaxed her significantly and she politely waited on her side while the 'offending' dog came and had a good sniff of her. After that they were fine. I told her what a good girl she was and sent my best "I'm really pleased with you" energy at her.
Roxie ran two laps around the park wiggling, leaping and snorting away. You could tell she was super proud of herself.
I'm pretty damn proud of the both of us.

 

True Story..

So I was at the Doc's office a while back and they have that pinboard thing in the waiting room. Where the latest baby pictures are, and the latest gov't health releases and so on.
One of the flyers on the cork board this time around was a poster for a clinician study on O.C.D.
Okay, fair enough, good place to find people.
Here's the problem, being a cdo'er myself, I found a few flaws with this poster.
On Friday afternoons, my doctor always comes out to get you herself, which is really lovely, and afforded me the opportunity to point out this ridiculous flyer. I asked her to come look at it with me, "You see this poster over here for the OCD thing, do you see a problem with it?"
My doctor looked the poster over, clearly searching for mistakes or something and finally turned to me and shook her head, "No, I really don't know what the problem is? What is it?"
I said, "Its got tear off phone number strips that are unevenly cut and unlaminated and nowhere near close enough to the hand sanitizer dispenser! who picks up strange paper in public?!"
She (whom I've known since I was nine and is very familiar with my sense of humour so don't bash her, she was totally entitled to the following remark) asked me, "Ever think that might just be part of why you're here?"
Facepalm
She got me on that...

May Contain Typographical Sensitivities...

Journal Entry from my FL account

For those of you that were overly challenged by the title- There are "bad words" in here

Note - This is posted a journal entry so I can't "offend" anyone by foisting trigger words on them, so don't come jumping on my ass, you didn't have to read this

I'm also well aware we have a legal system for crimes, actual CRIMES, but last I checked "Thought policing" hasn't yet been covered in parliament, I'm sure they'll get to it.

I'm HOPING that's enough disclaimers to curtail the easily butthurt and/or feeble minded.. This isn't a forum, I don't have to play nice.

I'm irked.

One place on the internet that is supposed to be "accepting" and "open minded" has about the same success rate of execution as bathing 50 cats in a kitchen sink. Actually, I think the cats might be easier.

I'm aware in a text-format environment, people are going to find themselves more sensitive to certain words and phrases that have a personal emotional meaning to them. However, words have definitions, not feelings. You put the feelings there, by choice. Oh yeah, we're gonna kick this off by reminding you that YOU are the only one responsible for YOUR feelings.

Definition of KINKY - adj (according to Miriam-Webster)
1: closely twisted or curled
2: relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex; also : sexually deviant

Now I believe FL and the like sites were created for the latter, but given the states of everyone's panties I'd say we're only executing the former.

Definition of FANTASY - noun (according to Miriam-Webster)
1 obsolete : hallucination
2: fancy; especially : the free play of creative imagination
3: a creation of the imaginative faculty whether expressed or merely conceived: as
a : a fanciful design or invention
b : a chimerical or fantastic notion
c : fantasia 1
d : imaginative fiction featuring especially strange settings and grotesque characters —called also fantasy fiction
4: caprice
5: the power or process of creating especially unrealistic or improbable mental images in response to psychological need ; also : a mental image or a series of mental images (as a daydream) so created

So to dumb it down in case that was too many "werdz" a fantasy is where someone PRETENDS something, not real, not in actuality but inside their personal bubble of whim.

So why are we suddenly fantasy-haters when that's how most of us got here in the first place? I'm referring to kink and/or in general. Everything starts with an idea right? Or who knows maybe your mom wanted to be a naughty nurse and have your dad 'give her a checkup' and that was how you were conceived? gasp

I know this is getting long without getting to the point, but bear with me intelligent ones, all that dithering wasn't for you ;)

Why are the 'odd' fantasies that once united the misfits o now suddenly a reason to cry foul?
Why are some concepts suddenly becoming a reason to attack and deemed offensive, while others are allowed to slip by the wayside?
Who are we to decide what's the "worst"?

Why did I watch a 'fantasy rape' thread get horrifically sidetracked by reminders that rape is a crime?
We KNOW its a crime, that's why it's FANTASY (see above for definition if you missed it the first time)

I'm one of those 'survivors' who apparently should be hiding in a corner anytime someone mentions the topic, but I refuse to propagate permanent victim status.

I don't think its appropriate to police some people's ideas of 'play' and let others slide. If you're gonna hate - hate everything, and remove your membership to this site while you're at it. If you're going to be a mature adult, click away if you don't like it.

If you're going to fly off the handle at fantasy rape, let me point you to a few more things you should probably fly off the handle about:
-Ensure you tell all littles who are sexually involved with their Daddy/Mommy that they should cease immediately since it perpetuates incest and child molestation.
-The above also applies for any 'family fantasy'
-Humiliation and Verbal Degredation are harassment and threats
-Actually a lot of conversations had in kink-land are considered "threatening" (as I write this there are 73 fetishes related to "threats".. 173 kinksters into/curious about "Threats/Intimidation".. 51 fetishes related to "threatening".. 1,819 kinksters into and curious about "hearing that voice in my ear - soothing - threatening - teasing - coaxing "). You all know that's a chargeable offense right?
-Bondage is technically "Holding a person in false imprisonment" and "confinement without legal authority".. This also applies to anyone using cages/crates/sheds/closets etc.
-The above can also apply for any kidnapping or break and enter fantasies
-All FinDoms must cease practice as that is extortion
-All ProDom/mes and Prosubs are accepting currency for assault, also known in the legal slang as "taking cash to make a hit" (ironic eh?)
-Percussion play is flat out assault, often with a deadly weapon
-Canada ranks among the highest producers of solid waste per capita in all of the industrialized world. So people using pallet wrap, needles, wax and anything else requiring "disposal" should cease immediately since they're murdering the world for their sexual gratification. Apparently everyone is just fine with "Earth Rape" since no one got consent before we started drilling for oil or burying garbage.

What I'm driving at here is that this is a place of many interesting thoughts opinions and fantasies. No one is encouraging you to go break the law and do non-consensual damage.
This place is for the off the wall and the under the radar, filter what you don't like and "Quit yer bitchin'".
And if I raped your brain, so sorry, but I DEFINITELY warned you...

 

Last night I had the WORST time trying to get down to sleep, despite being completely exhausted. Pet went down with this weirdo stomach thing and I had to boost my nicotine deprived self into overdrive to hold things together. As I write this I'm 5 days 3 hours and 36 minutes in, and counting every damn minute as a victory. By the time I collapsed into bed last night I'd had enough. Rest for the wicked? Never.
We live in a two bedroom apartment, the master room is MASSIVE and the kittens 'live' in there, by this I mean there's a baby gate across the door so the dogs can't run in and their food and litter is safe. The dogs 'live' in the second bedroom, barely big enough to possibly be a child's room, but it holds two crates and our bikes quite well. Umbro, queen of all kittendom, apparently forgets who's room is who's and that she can't arbitrarily change residences. This is important to know.
Carson has this habit of trying to dig to china in his crate at night, like somehow magically one day the plastic is just going to open up and he will in fact be capable of burying his bone in it. Sometimes he does it when he has to pee, but he was out at 130, it was only 330, and this is the usual 'sleeping' time. Pet had told me through gravol stupor that he let the puppy out and put him back while i was out with Roxie. So I rolled out of bed and whisper-yelled a "Go the hell to sleep muttface" down the hall. I proceeded to ignore the china dig for half an hour before fading to sleep.
Pet was apparently feeling much better in the morning as he got up and let Roxie out of her crate, leashed her up and took her for her morning constitutional. Upon returning the routine says, unleash Roxie, let Carson out, feed them breakfast and proceed with the day. He went in and opened Carson's crate and Umbro strolled out as only a kitten can do (you read that right) and then Carson dutifully followed out behind her.
Yup, it happened, I've always wondered when she'd get trapped in with one of the dogs.
She didn't have a mark on her, and neither did Carson, mind you Carson may believe he is a cat due to early 'trauma' haha. He was taught all the house rules by our former cat Eskimo. Esky was kind enough to stay with us for a couple of months extra to teach Umbro everything needed to run the house ;)
I figure the 'digging' was him desperately trying to convince her to play and her smacking him in the nose and saying "shut it, if I'm going to be locked in here with you, this area is MINE and that corner is yours, for now, until I want it too" I bet they were spooning by the end of the night. There wasn't a peep from the crate when pet got Roxie up, so I assume they must have worked it out.
I caught Umbro making mews at Carson until he'd come over and love on her, in his super energized ball of wiggle way.. She'd arch and nuzzle under his nose and purr in his face until the moment the dog relaxed and the tension passed and she'd jump up and smack him in the face. It may be time to evict them from the bedroom, I think she's seen too much ;)

Okay, the one and only note I have for this.

I hate the chat format on here. 

No I will never accept a chat request for the previously mentioned reason. 

What is wrong with messages?

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