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About MistressRain

My website *s*

I am, a Domina within the wonderful alternative of, BDSM and have been for "many" blue moons~. Simply put, "I Say, you Obey". I say what I mean and mean what I say~. Do NOT waste My time & I will NOT, yours~ A note to all the lazy people, u and r are LETTERS, NOT words. If you can't type out your words you will be Ignored~ Spell correctly or get a dictionary!!! Quote: "It takes courage to push yourself to places that you've never been before, to test your limits, to break through barriers." My Ideal Person: Seeking a special slave for real time..24/7/365. Complete servitude is a common given. Ideally, you will be submissive to a fault, possess a slave disposition. you will live, eat, breath only to enhance the quality of My life. In doing so, you will find structure and the purpose that so many crave to have. Respectfully request your comments and perhaps they will be answered. If you have "NO" experience within the lifestyle, then educate yourself, take initiative. You will be of No interest to Me IF, you are a novice. I am NOT concerned in your nude photos. Don't bother Me with disrespectful remarks or questions, they & you, will be ignored~ UPDATE... If you ARE NOT of the BDSM lifestyle, I WILL NOT respond. If you are looking for a sex partner, LOOK elsewhere! Hobbies: being pampered & spoiled...smiles

Favorite Quote
"Sometimes dreams, are better than waking...Black Elk" FYI for A/all I am a married Domina & will NOT relocate!! If you have a problem with that, once again, move along~

Thanks to A/all for the messages while I have been gone.? Real life has been "hectic" as of late hence why, I have not been online.? I'll? return, before long, rest assured.
Hugs & whips....Ms. Rain

Slave vs Submissive

What is Real slavery?

A real slave needs no guidance other than their Dominant's hand

*A submissive is not a slave but, a slave is a submissive*

Slavery, and I do mean Real slavery, has been around before recorded human history. The ownership of people by other people, in its purest form - slavery - has existed for over ten thousand years; throughout the evolution of civilized humanity. Now there is a distinctive difference between CONSENSUAL slavery and non-consensual slavery.

So, if non-consensual, involuntary, slavery is illegal, than how can someone legally own a real slave? That is an excellent question. Consensual slavery is not a myth; no more a myth than marriage (or a "civil union" in some cases) is or than being an employee is. Legally, you cannot use the word "slave" in any contractual agreement. It's a legal thing. Hey, blame the guys who worded the 13th Amendment of the United States Constitution - I guess consensual slavery was just never "politically correct". However, the principals of slavery are perfectly legal so long as everyone involved is old enough to enter an agreement, capable of comprehending the magnitude and gravity of the agreement, and then fully agrees to enter the agreement. And don't write me e-mails asking for the proper wording, I charge for services like that - okay? smirks.....

From this point on, wherever you see the words: slave, slavehood, slavery or enslavement (or any reference to slavery at all for that matter) what is being referred to is Consensual Slavery.

Now, while a slave very well may wind up in a monogamous relationship, owned by just one person who cherishes them as their prized property, showering their slave with love, affection, fidelity, devotion, consideration and only the best of care, where both owner and slave consider themselves as 'equal' partners, and while such an owner may consider the slave their property and while these slaves may consider themselves as property of their owner, I would not consider a relationship so described as ?slavery?; no matter how brutal the S&M play may be. The above description is what I, personally, would refer to as a deep D/s relationship and not necessarily one of ?slavery?.

Many people will argue that "slavery isn't real" and/or "you cannot have no choice slavery or no limits slavery (et cetera)" using the argument that: "because that would be non-consensual slavery - which is illegal". You can't stop these people from arguing; most of them argue simply because they just love the sound of their own voice (or love to read their own writing) no matter how dogmatic, closed-minded or wrong they might be on any given topic. The fact is (and regardless of what any idiot you might have heard said) you most certainly are allowed to "give up" (or "waive") your rights. There is no law (in America) that says you are not allowed to voluntarily choose to disable any (or all) of your rights. People "give up" their rights all the time; sometimes (unfortunately) without even realizing what they are doing.

The slave contract.

Some people assume that, since "slavery" was outlawed (over a hundred years ago in most places), then "Consensual Slavery" is nothing more than "Role Playing"; that there cannot be any legal, lawful way to "own" another person. To the point of using the words: slave, slavery, and owner, you would be correct; these words are merely symbolic and have no legal meaning. However, Consensual Slavery (or Voluntary Servitude) is legal, is very real, and can be legally practiced. Can a person legally join the military? If they do, are they allowed to just up and walk out any time they like without warning? They can't? Why not? I thought you said slavery was illegal? That's right; the military does not practice slavery, yet, in a very real sense, they do own you. However, they do not (and never would) call it slavery; they call it service.

We will not go into the detailed specifics of what wording is used in a real Contract of Voluntary Servitude, but, rest assured, it is as binding as any application into the military. It is perfectly legal for a person to voluntarily forfeit their rights and be legally bound to serve, suffer and endure. (By the way: Almost every "slave contract" you find publicly listed on the internet is phony and fake and not legally binding in the least; the purpose for this is to make sure that innocent, or ignorant, people don't wind up getting into something they really don't really want to.)

Slavery is NOT about sex; nor is it about S&M.

Yes, a slave may be disciplined; and this discipline can take the form of sexually charged torture or tormenting. Of course an Owner can have sex with their slave - that's a given. But you don't need a slave to have sex or "play" at S&M. If you are only interested in sex or S&M (or any combination thereof), I strongly recommend a visit to (just outside) Las Vegas, Nevada, where (prostitution is legal and) you can, far more cheaply and easily, get your needs fulfilled.

Total Control + Total Responsibility

By definition, a ?slave? is a piece of (movable) personal property (a.k.a. "chattel") owned by another person. A slave can be bought, sold or traded. While a slave may be cherished and cared for, a slave can also just as easily be misused and abused. Of course an owner can love their slave; nothing in the book says that an owner cannot love their slave. However, slavery does not require love. Slavery is about control: the utter and total domination and control over another human being's life. Slavery is also about responsibility: the utter and total responsibility of another human being's life. There are only two basic elements required of slavery: 1.) a slave. 2.) an owner who is willing to accept the responsibility of the possession of a slave.

Illusions. For the would-be slave: Trust may be an issue prior to slavery, but it is an illusion. Physical attraction may be an issue prior to slavery, but it is an illusion as well. In fact, everything and anything a would-be slave requires or desires, apart from their true and total commitment to actually being a real, owned slave, is an illusion.

Slavery is NOT about "romance". Sure, an Owner could romance and seduce a slave if they chose to, but romance and seduction are not "part and parcel" of slavery itself. Slavery is about Ownership and servitude; any other element involved is something other than, or in addition to, slavery. If a "slave" insists upon a requirement or a condition for, or on, their Ownership - they are seeking something other than slavery.

Yes, it all sounds so terrifically unfair, doesn't it? An Owner can require and involve whatsoever they like in the 'relationship' and a slave must endure and indulge whatever an Owner's whim might be. Hmm... That almost sounds like, well: slavery! Doesn't it?

There is nothing at all that a slave can claim 'entitlement' to; however, in an effort to demonstrate this, here is an extraordinarily brief list of things a slave is specifically not 'entitled' to:

Respect
Honesty
Loyalty
Affection
Compassion
Understanding
Appreciation
Courtesy
Recognition
Flattery
Approval
Consistency
Fair Treatment
Gratitude
Praise
Honor
Pleasure
Candor
Explanations
Kudos
Fidelity

If you demand, expect, or require any of the above, then, by the definitions and parameters of My writings, you cannot be a slave. I suggest you re-think what it is you want. Perhaps you could find a nice Dominant (Dom or Domme) on Collarme.com or Bondage.com who you can share the pretend fantasy that you are a slave with; because you simply will not find that anywhere here with Me.

Slaves don't get a vacation, 'personal' days or 'time off' for being sick. Well, they could if they were granted such by their Owner, but they have no entitlement to such things. As a real slave you will be expected to (and here's the shocking part) actually be a slave. I know - that's just so crazy, huh?

A real slave will be expected to be a slave 24/7/365. This is one more point as to why slavery, real slavery, is not for everyone; or even most people for that matter. If you are thinking: "Hey, I want to be a slave." but you want recognition for your service, you want to be rewarded for your efforts, you want to be treated with 'fairness', you want some variety or flavor of 'equality', you want respect, compassion and appreciation then you want something other than real slavery. What you are probably looking for is to Role-Play the part of a slave in an OTS (Other Than Slave) relationship

Similarly: Ownership is neither a simple nor a small undertaking.
An Owner assumes total responsibility for the health and well being of their slave(s). Some Owners love to train their property, others do not. Some Owners love to micro manage their property while others do not. Some Owners enjoy the acts of bathing, grooming, feeding, clothing, and housing their property while others do not. No matter which aspects of Ownership you may enjoy, every aspect of a slave is your responsibility.

Here is a listing of the bare minimal requirements that an Owner must attend to in order to maintain their slave(s):

A. Housing:
A slave requires a 'dry' living space of no less than 10 feet by 10 feet (preferably with a window for psychological health reasons), with protection from the weather, where the temperature will not drop below 55 degrees Fahrenheit nor rise above 85 degrees Fahrenheit.
B. Bathing and Grooming:
For health and sanitary reasons, a slave must be fully cleansed at least once per day. Whether you provide access to a $6,000.00 glass and stone shower stall with seven shower heads (each having their own temperature settings) or simply run a garden hose, the slave still must be washed, with nonirritant soap, regularly. The dental care of a slave is also very important for obvious reasons.
C. Feeding:
A slave must be fed on a regular basis; to maintain good health in your slave, a balanced diet of nutritional foods and plenty of water must be provided by you for your slave.
D. Physical and Mental Health:
Conditioning and training a slave is one thing, but you will incur substantial medical costs if the general health and welfare of your slave(s) are not consistently kept in mind. An Owner must acquire more than a cursory, basic knowledge in both First Aid and General Psychology. An Owner must, in fact, be prepared to handle a wide variety of both physical and psychological maladies. Not only the body but the mind as well has limits to punishment and deprivation; and an Owner must know where the balance is to properly maintain their slave.
Owning a slave can be as difficult and demanding as caring for a newborn baby, or as easy as keeping a potted fern; it largely depends on the slave you Own. Still, a slave is a human being; not vegetation. If it is found that you have mistreated, abused and misused your slave so badly that they now require prolonged professional treatment (or, worse, are beyond the help of professional care) you will find yourself answering to the Criminal Justice System and the Judicial Branch of the government; and always keep in mind many places still have the death penalty.

Most who think they want slavery are really looking for D/s

So, as you can now better understand: Dominance and submission, or D/s, is not equal to ?slavery?. To be a submissive is more close to what, in my estimation, 99% of those who claim they want to be a ?slave? really want. A submissive has a degree (no matter how tiny) of influence over the relationship. A submissive retains (no matter how few or how ineffectual) rights and liberties; while a Dominant might be able to assuage some of the power a submissive retains, the submissive does, in fact, retain power. A real slave has no such power whatsoever. In fact, a slave has nothing at all, only what their owner grants them and that can be taken away without warning. A slave only has such ?rights? and ?liberties? and ?influence? that their owner may, or may not, allow them.

An owner can give the world to their slave, but, in a heartbeat, an owner can take everything back from a slave leaving them, truly, with nothing at all. A slave has no claim to any power whatsoever. A slave has no entitlement to influence anything. A slave no longer has any claims to natural civil rights or liberties. Whatever a slave might have has been given to them by their owner, and even then it is an illusion as, in reality, the owner owns the slave ? therefore the owner owns everything the slave appears to own. A slave does not have possessions ? a slave is a possession.

Some people say that, in a D/s relationship, the submissive holds the real power; that a dominant ?needs? a submissive, needs their ?gift? of submission. A submissive deserves respect; respect as a lover, respect as a person, respect as a partner. A submissive maintains the prerogative to choose the level to which they submit; and these levels may vary throughout the relationship. Some people are convinced that, in a D/s relationship, it is the submissive that really controls every aspect of the relationship in a passive manner. Some people believe the philosophy which depicts that the control of a Dominant in a D/s relationship is really a tenuous illusion. In slavery, however, there exists no ?topping from the bottom?. In slavery, an owner controls absolutely everything with unchallengeable power and real authority. In my estimation, most ?dominants? could not handle the force and power of the authority of an owner, and most ?submissives? would vehemently defy the idea of absolute, total and real ownership.

So, now that I have exhaustively attempted to depict what My definition of real slavery is (and is not), and if you still think you are, or want to become a ?real? slave, or if you believe you are ready to, and capable of, owning your own slave(s), please continue to the journey. It's well worth it.

Of course, there will always be those who insist that it is appropriate to call themselves ?slave?, regardless, perhaps even in spite, of our (RLslavery's) definitions.

These are My viewpoints~ if Y/you don?t share them that is, of course, Y/your prerogative.

Be wise, play safe, live passionately!

*Mistress Rain*

FYI: I AM NOT interested in sissy's, cd'ers, etc. I want a man to be exactly that, a man. If I want a woman that is EXACTLY what I will have. A BORN female. This DOES make Me perfectly clear! If you can't take the heat, stay the HELL out of MY kitchen!

For ALL the faint at heart, if Y/you DO NOT like MY preferences then I HIGHLY suggest you Get Over It.
Apparently, you have Me confused with someone who gives a SHYT! If you NOTICE the operative word there is, MY! Now, there is NO room for mistakes, misunderstandings At All~

Update: If you are from, another country, do not include a photo, send an email with one or two lines, rude, novice or you don't have a CLUE as to what a slave is, YOU WILL BE AUTOMATICALLY BLOCKED AND DELETED.

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