MastersVoice

Heart of MasterTaken from a talk given by Master Steve to OCLA. Used with permission.  
   
A Master ...... is an individual born with a spiritual sense of presence and connectedness. No one can make an individual a Master except that individual his or herself — in their own growth process, becoming centered and growing into a state of connectedness in the universe. A Master is an individual who feels incomplete without the love and service of an individual with heart of slave.  
A Master may or may not be involved with SM. A Master has a 'special connectedness' in the journey of spirit that they allow the slave’s heart to 'share'. Many Masters do this sharing without knowledge and direction, without purpose or goal, and sadly — sometimes without trust in their own intuitive spiritual nature.  
It is also easy to confuse the sexual and spiritual aspects of Mastery — though these are closely related and overlap in the most intricate manner. A Master without this connectedness can do best by loving and nurturing the heart of slave, but provides at best a poor signpost of direction.  
SM activities can be one tool to allow a slave to completely let go of any limits or blocks in becoming connected with their heart of slave. SM without love inhibits the spiritual growth of the heart of slave — and is simply brutality. Pain without direction becomes a 'lost journey' for the heart of slave.  
The most advanced and spiritually connected man of Mastery whom We have ever met is a man named SlaveMaster. He has developed his training process to a rare and exceptional quality. We strongly encourage any unattached man who has heart of slave to consider applying to him for direction and training. His articles have appeared in The Leather Journal and other magazines, and his website is www.bornslaves.com.

HEART OF A SLAVE  
   
A slave is an individual born with a slave spirit. No one can make an individual have this spirit; nothing can be done to create this state in an individual's being. No one trying hard or wishing for this sense of spirit can develop it within themselves and no Master can cause it to occur.  
   
A slave is an extraordinary human being who is born with this slave spirit - as much as they are born to breathe, or have gifted talents like design or music. A slave is extraordinary, rare and most often confused until they discover their slave spirit heart. Most slave’s wander through life feeling unfulfilled - as if they have a 'dark hole' in their spirit - a hole that can be temporarily filled with an abundance of sex, work, addictive behavior or other whole-life-consuming factors.  
   
Slaves often have a sense of the spiritual (some become clergy), but feel this sense of spiritual awareness to be disconnected from their desire for a Mastery/slavery relationship. A slave has a right to feel joy and pride in their slavery and in service to a Master. Slave is often confused seeing Dominance as Mastery; SM as completion; or fetish focus as the fulfillment of this 'dark hole' in their spirit. Many can find enough fulfillments in these areas to develop a sense of wholeness (often a quiet longing exists - although for what, the slave doesn't know).  
   
The heart of a slave can be actualized only when the spiritual journey occurs that connects this 'dark hole' in the spirit to the whole spirit and then to the universe. It is a process of a painful and trusting leap of faith that causes this connectedness to occur - a truly spiritual journey. The heart of a slave can only be complete in service to a Master and it is within this service that the spiritual journey occurs. Slavery is not about a 'hard dick or clit experience', although hard dicks and clits happen and are enjoyed. Slavery is the completion of a spirit in search of 'connectedness' in the universe.  
   
Author: Master Steve of Butchmann's abt 1993.

“The First Tenet of Mastery is to never, ever forget your slave is with you because she does not want control.  It is so easy to forget, but you must not let it happen.” “That is the essence of her decision to accept your collar and surrender control of her life to you.  It does not matter the degree of control in your relationship compared to others. That is not at all important. But she has offered you control and you have accepted that responsibility. Please use it.” “There will be a tendency over time, to drift away from this very core Tenet and the reason you are together.  Please never default power back to your slave by neglecting your responsibilities.  As a slave there is nothing more lonely and desperate than to feel neglect from your Master.   She does not want power.  It is yours.   Use it.” “Remember too, as the love deepens between you and your slave, it becomes more difficult to ensure structure and provide guidance. This love and dependency is beautiful and I know in my heart I serve well helping my Master, so he can depend on me.  Encourage that and please believe, it does not nullify in any way your control.  The style of mastery you develop will be compassionate and strong and not diminished by loving your slave.   You have control and she wants you to have it, every moment of every day.  Believe in her, do not forget what brought you together.” “As the vanilla pressures push inward on you both, it is difficult to live and maintain your structure as the days, months and years go by. Always remember, she made the decision to be with you because she does not want control, and trusts you to exercise this responsibility.  Make your decisions and do not fear the consequences.  She will understand and be grateful.”  
“The second “Tenet of Mastery” is learning to handle your own errors without defaulting power back to your slave.” “This I am told is the most difficult of skills for a budding master to learn, and it takes years to truly master the art and techniques.  But, I believe it is worth learning.  From your slave’s perspective it is a critical skill.” “We know what happens when I am disobedient.  I am punished.  Being disobedient is not something I ever make a goal, or consciously do, but when I am, I look forward to my punishment.  It serves many wonderful purposes for me.  It cleanses, releases, re-teaches and provides the structure I need and yearn for Sir.  But, when my Master errs, then what happens? How he handles it affects me deeply and I am very sure it affects Master too.” “You will make mistakes, and how you handle these errors will largely define you as a dominant. I have heard some Masters snivel and say ‘Oh baby, I am so sorry, I will not do that again’ and then watch in pain as power flows back to his slave, something she does not want.  It is not the way to handle an error; and it is not something a slave ever wants to hear.” “You of course, will develop your own style as time goes on, and if I may be so bold to suggest a better way than the snivel-style.  What has always been effective because it touches my slave soul, is when Master cares enough to sit me down and explain his actions and say… ‘Pet, I made a mistake.  I understand the mistake made, cannot undo it and cannot promise it will never happen again.  But, what I can promise is it was not caused by malfeasance of my heart towards you.  If you expect a Superman-Master that will never err, then you have learned nothing I taught.  You are living in a fantasy world to think so.  I am human.  I love you and will continue to love you.  You are my treasure.  But while I understand and will be diligent in the future, this mistake in no way abrogates your responsibility as my slave. Do you understand?’ “By taking this, or a similar approach, he has told me what I already know, that he made a mistake. He is a man, a Master and accepts his responsibility.  That is all a slave asks for Sir.   We do not need an apology.  We understand when you locked the collar on, to accept your errors and humanity. You have acknowledged and explained, that is all we need.” “It is a huge relief deep in our souls to know you will not allow power to revert back to us just because you are human and erred.  We do not want that.  We want the power structure maintained.  That is the First Tenet again.  We want only to be your slave, understood as one, and appreciated as one.  That you have once again expressed how important we are, is icing on the cake.  It stirs my heart when Master does that.” “Sir, one last point; by taking this approach, you create a personal freedom to make the decisions we entrusted to you when offering ourselves.  We know you will make mistakes.  We do not like it, but we would in your shoes too, undoubtedly many more in fact.  Do not let fear of your errors paralyze your ability to decide.  Please be courageous.  Your slave trusts you are wise, that is why she knelt in the first place.”  
“The third Tenet is very simple, perhaps the simplest of all really. “Just love women.” “Be honest and secure enough in yourself, to show you do.” “That is it, just love what we are and represent.   Not just the sex and our sexuality, but everything that makes us uniquely feminine.  Men and women are very different.  If you love us for our femininity, our love for crying at old movies, our love of flowers and our need to talk about feelings, then you are far ahead of the game and on the road to great mastery.  It must be genuine though.  It cannot be contrived.  Love us for who we are, show compassion and interest and if you enjoy our company, let us into your soul and heart.  We can offer so much joy to you.” “Misogynists have no place in the realm of mastery and responsible, serious slaves have built-in radar to detect latent misogyny.  Just love women.”  
~ Devil In The Details I (Devil In The Details – The Art of Mastery – A Mentoring Trilogy). LT Morrison. Kindle Edition.

Happy New Year to all, may your relationships grow in strength and for those who walk a false path, may you soon realize that you create your own fate and it will be fast upon you.

As It Is, so shall it Become,

~MV~

Some thoughts from a man of peace who probably understood our lifestyle better than most of us, my thoughts are shared beneath the words of one who mastered his life, while I make efforts daily to continue to master mine:

Man can never be a woman's equal in the spirit of selfless service with which nature has endowed her. Mahatma Gandhi

When a man is strong enough to understand the strength of a woman who serves him, he will gain both knowledge and strength of will.  ~MV~ 

The real ornament of woman is her character, her purity. Mahatma Gandhi

The purity of a sub or slave comes from the master who recognizes her character.  ~MV~

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. Mahatma Gandhi

You must be strong enough to see the changes of those in your charge.  ~MV~

A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes. Mahatma Gandhi 

A master creates the product by which his slave or sub becomes. ~MV~

I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ. Mahatma Gandhi 

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi 

He who recognizes forgiveness and can give it in return, shares the strength gained by master and slave.  ~MV~

A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave. Mahatma Gandhi 

Cowards in our lifestyle know their weakness, it becomes  the brave sub or salve to recognize that weakness and change their world by aligning themselves with someone who recognizes the strength and honesty of their submission.  ~MV~

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi 

A master who walks in Happiness and Harmony, share the same with those in his charge.  ~MV~

Spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul. Mahatma Gandhi

An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it. Mahatma Gandhi 

A wise master recognizes truth, errors and offers a positive response to remove the negative thoughts and ways harbored in a wounded mind and physic.  ~MV~

An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching. Mahatma Gandhi

Masters teach your subs, your slaves, words alone carry no ability to learn.  ~MV~

If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm. Mahatma Gandhi

Masters, remember that you are the role model, patience the virtue of your relationship, faith the course the relationship takes and allows it to weather any storm.  ~MV~

Nobody can hurt me without my permission. Mahatma Gandhi

A mind is a terrible thing to waste and abuse, treasure the mind as well as the body.  ~MV~

It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence. Mahatma Gandhi

He who hides his violence in peace, lies to himself and his charge, wain the violence and understand how to just your power not abuse it.  ~MV~

Action expresses priorities. Mahatma Gandhi

Correct with patience not anger.  ~MV~

Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances. Mahatma Gandhi

Let not the negative actions from outside influence your mind, calm yourself within in order to create the positive action needed to find your own peace. ~MV~

Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. Mahatma Gandhi

That which is created to make the bond cannot be robbed by lies.  ~MV~

Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear. Mahatma Gandhi

Truth is the foundation that cements the bonds, deliberate ignorance kills the future of all.  ~MV~

Anger is the enemy of non-violence and pride is a monster that swallows it up. Mahatma Gandhi

Intolerance is itself a form of violence and an obstacle to the growth of a true democratic spirit. Mahatma Gandhi

Violence will not secure and harmonic relationship, growth comes from proper encouragement, not abuse.  ~MV~

Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment. Mahatma Gandhi 

Power gained from the application of fear is wasted, the Power of Love and guidance will create the bonds which are sought to insure a positive relationship.  ~MV~

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandhi 

For many service is a positive way of life, a Master has the ability to accept that service without efforts to destroy it.  ~MV~

The real ornament of woman is her character, her purity. Mahatma Gandhi

Masters know the treasure of the woman in your charge, treasures come in all forms.  ~MV~

Man can never be a woman's equal in the spirit of selfless service with which nature has endowed her.  Mahatma Gandhi

Masters REMEMBER that the power the Great Spirit gave your woman is the strength needed to complete your life.  ~MV~

You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind. Mahatma Gandhi

Many slaves and subs live by this motto, even if they have never heard of it.  They desire to be imprisoned to complete their life and yours and yet punishment can sometimes help complete that which they seek in life.

~MV~

Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress. Mahatma Gandhi

A true Master listens honestly to his slave or sub, it provides the foundation for a better relationship.  ~MV~

Service which is rendered without joy helps neither the servant nor the served. But all other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service which is rendered in a spirit of joy. Mahatma Gandhi

For those who choose to serve as a part of their life's very being, it is a gift they choose to use, service stolen from them destroys any good that could come from a bonded slave or sub who desires to serve.  ~MV~

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory. Mahatma Gandhi 

Masters victory comes from the satisfaction of the one who serves you, handle that precious gift with care.  ~MV~

Whatever you do may seem insignificant to you, but it is most important that you do it. Mahatma Gandhi

To a sub or slave, the smallest gift of servitude weighs more than all the treasures created by man, handle with care.  ~MV~

Truth stands, even if there be no public support. It is self-sustained. Mahatma Gandhi 

Lies public and private are used for ill gain,  tell none, receive none.  ~MV~

Faith... must be enforced by reason... when faith becomes blind it dies. Mahatma Gandhi 

Masters give Faith in order to receive it, slave and subs, give Faith in order to earn it.  ~MV~

Culture of the mind must be subservient to the heart. Mahatma Gandhi

Masters control the mind, the rest will follow.  ~MV~

Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err. Mahatma Gandhi

Masters remember no one is perfect, neither you nor your charge, allow the freedom of mistakes in order to secure faith and bonding.  ~MV~

It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err. Mahatma Gandhi 

Masters just because she may be your slave or sub does not mean you are always right, remember many times her ideas bare merit and can increase your own wisdom.  ~MV~

The moment there is suspicion about a person's motives, everything he does becomes tainted. Mahatma Gandhi

Slaves and subs, if there is doubt about the person you seek in your life, pay attention to that hint, it could save your life or the lives of those around you.  Not all masters are honest nor are those they seek.  ~MV~

It is my own firm belief that the strength of the soul grows in proportion as you subdue the flesh. Mahatma Gandhi

Those in a relationship in our lifestyle have stronger relationships than those in the vanilla world, strength in our souls, our bodies and our minds are stronger because honesty and trust are paramount to a positive relationship, do not let the misgivings of lies and dishonesty destroy the best that may become.  ~MV~

For all the baby girls out there, may you find comfort in the words below:

What is a Daddy Dom:

A Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants.? He loves His adult little one with an undying passion.? He always has his submissive's best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his personal desires. That doesn't mean that he gives into her every whim.? There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs.? He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if needed.? And yes, at times he does punish her.? This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what's best for her.

He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle. He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her!? He's not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.


He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, AND, a lover!? He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance.? He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him, she knows she can depend on him!


He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world.? But knowing all along that he can't!? So, it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may bring her way, and be there to comfort her when things go wrong.? Knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frighten by the harshness of life.? The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to him, to her they are real and he will help her confront them.? He slays her dragons so to speak and he is her "Knight in Shining Armor".


The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him.?? He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little one, and he loves her unconditionally.


There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person.? He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself.


He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself he will whisper encouraging words for her.? When she feels ugly he will reassure her how beautiful she is to him.? When she is scared he will be her safety net, her medium against the world if need be.? She is his pride and joy, his main comfort in life, his reason for living.? His pride in her shows in the tender loving way he cares for her, he is the only one for her, her Daddy !

Some Examples Of Stated Consent

A lot of times I have had submissives that are new to the scene ask to be allowed to become my slave, to serve without rights. It is a flattering offer and one that I am sure most of us would love to take up. When asked if they understand what it means, they assure us that they do and that they are willingly, freely and knowingly giving their full consent. Yet, what happens when they discover that having no rights might well mean that their treasured, powerful, kinky orgasms might be denied indefinitely? When they discover that, you know, I have bad days too and I am not always the world's greatest person? When they discover that serving me involves getting up an hour before me to ensure that my shirts are ironed and my breakfast is prepared? When they discover that serving me might involve putting the condom on and then simply watching, wishing it were them, while I play with someone else?

In the movie Nine And A Half Weeks, there is a scene where Kim Bassinger's character is blindfolded. She has consented to the blindfold, to the element of risk, that anything could be happening. Yet she finds that Mickey Rourke's character has introduced a female prostitute in to the room and is pushing a woman on her, an act [it is implied] she would not have consented to had she realised what it meant.

Discussion And Conclusions

The moment we realise that someone has stated their consent to more than we believe they truly intended to, it is our duty to attempt to help them realize that and then clarify (by discussing limits; safewords; offering them the ability to reaffirm their consent, ensuring they realize what may or will happen; etc.). To continue, to deliberately lead them down a path we know they would never, knowingly, have consented to, simply because we have a misguided initial consent is simply abuse.

Mistakes happen, I am not trying to pretend that we can always read minds and will always be able to catch these distinctions. All I am saying is that: the moment we realize, it becomes our duty to act. To do wrong, when you know it is wrong, no matter how many semantic loopholes you may think you see, always remains wrong.

Duties of a Dominant

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It is the duty of a Dominant to know and understand what the wants and needs of a submissive are. Failure to do so may harm the submissive emotionally and mentally.

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It is the duty of a Dominant to control his/her emotions. To punish a submissive in anger or to lash out to anyone is abusive.

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It is the duty of a Dominant to remember that submission is a gift. To misuse this gift is abusive. When the submissive is not free to take back the gift it is no longer a gift.

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It is the duty of a Dominant to watch over and protect all submissive?s. This does not mean to protect them from finding some other Dominant and to keep them for oneself.

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It is the duty of a Dominant to take only a submissive that will match him/her. A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to a Dominant that loves to whip submissive?s.

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It is the Duty of a Dominant to take only the amount of submissive?s the Dom/Domme can properly handle, control, love, comfort and care for. Do not keep a submissive hanging, giving false hopes. Free and release the submissive so the submissive can get along with finding the right Dominant.

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It is the duty of a Dominant to watch and monitor the scene carefully and to ensure the submissive is not being harmed either physically or emotionally. At any time the slightest thing can go wrong and the scene is ruined for the submissive and pleasure becomes actual pain.

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It is the duty of a Dominant after a scene to ensure the submissive is emotionally stable. During a scene the submissive is filled with hormones. Afterwards the body reduces them and may cause severe depression to the extent of being suicidal. The submissive must be made to understand the depression and or emotional release is normal and expected. Normal emotions will return in hours to a day. Anything longer is a sign of emotional instability in the submissive and must be corrected before doing another scene. (A Dominant can also experience this depression after a high from the scene.) Each reacts differently some stay high for weeks and when they come down seek the scene again to regain the high. This also can lead to problems such as longer, more intense and dangerous scenes, with unknown Dominants.

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Responsibilities of a Dom/Domme

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It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure an unowned submissive is guided to a Dominant that is suited to the submissive?s wants, needs and desires.

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It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive knows what being abusive is. To insure this is to insure the submissive knows when to call it quits.

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It is the responsibility of a Dominant to ensure the submissive knows what the submissive?s rights are.

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It is the responsibility of a Dominant to teach the submissive information about the Lifestyle. The best method is to teach the submissive how to acquire this information and where he/she can get it. An ignorant submissive can be an embarrassment to a Dominant.

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It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive grows and develops under the Dominant?s ownership, in both the lifestyle and the public life (i.e., job and family). Being submissive only means being a ?doormat? when the submissive has made it clear that is what the submissive is looking for.

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Dishonorable Acts

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For a Dominant to allow a submissive to be actually harmed in ANY way is dishonorable.

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For a Dominant to allow a submissive?s rights to be violated is dishonorable.

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For a Dominant to play with and discard a submissive just for amusement is dishonorable (exception is a submissive that has declared this is the treatment they need).

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Unless the submissive has declared them selves to be unowned, another Dominant?s interference in a relationship is dishonorable.?

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To chase after or scene with

Another?s submissive without the other Dominant?s permission and full knowledge is dishonorable.

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No Dominant can be expected to live up to the above 100% of the time, others will respect him/her for trying and the harder she/he tries the more respect all will have for the Dominant and his/hers.

your Dominant...

• How long have you been involved in the D/s lifestyle, and what led you to this lifestyle in the first place?

• Do you have or plan to have a more than one slave/submissive, on or offline?

• What sort of relationship are you looking for?? (Online only, phone, real world, potential marriage/permanent partner?)

• How much time are you willing to devote to training a new sub, and how much of her time would you require in return?? Would you have daily contact with your submissive/slave?

• Do you indulge in these pleasures with women/men in "real life"?? ? If so, what precautions for health and safety are involved?? What type of safety precautions do you feel are necessary for an online or phone relationship?

• What sort of training/education have you had to be the dominant member of this relationship?? Have you had experience training a submissive who is new to D/s?? What made you decide this was for you?

• What are your basic philosophies with regard to D/s.

• What are your rules, contracts, agreements, etc.?? What do you require of your slave and of yourself?

• What sort of structured training do you prefer to use?? What sorts of discipline/punishment for infractions?? What kinds of tasks do you assign your save to perform for you?

• What are your deepest desires, pleasures, hopes for this relationship?? What, in your opinion, does the Dom receive in return for His time, love and protective care over his sub?

• Do you have any references available that I might contact?

A good woman is proud. She respects herself and others.
She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition
from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to
read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all
her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration and a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will at times have to inspire others to reach
their full potential. A good woman knows her past, understands her present and forces toward the future.

A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons meant to bring her closer to self-knowledge and
unconditional self-love.

As It Is,

~MV~

13-07-2008