MasterHypnotist

Btw, when you do it right, the Reality is better than the fantasy.

I help create those Realities.

MH

October and November I'll be traveling doing shows.

It's not a populated area, but ya never know where interested kinksters are until after you meet them.

I'm not looking to hook up, but having a week in an area allows for some serious hypnotic opportunities. So, if you live along the I-29 corridor from Sioux Falls to Grand Forks, over to Minot and down to Aberdeen, let me know.

You could enjoy a meal out and make some new friends. Same thing for munches or if we happen to be in an area that has regular Demo/Play Parties while we're in town.

If nothing else, I could take photos of your choosing so you wouldn't have to post selfies. That would certainly set you apart on this site! :D

I'm putting it out there. Ya never know.

MH

Good news for people who can't find people to hypnotize them, just because...

I've met a couple guys over in that say they love hypnotizing people just for the sheer joy of doing so.

I don't know these people. I'm not endorsing these people. All I know is what I read on the discussion boards and how they think us Professionals are pimps for wanting to be paid for our trained services, confidentiality, and unwillingness to abuse people because it would put our offices at risk.

Hey, I have no worries, either way. So, if you're looking for people who feel obligated to hypnotize you just because you asked, I'm happy to give you (and I've asked if it was alright to do this and they haven't said no) their ID for you to contact them.

All I ask is that you give my regards when you do so.

All the best,

MH

October and November, I'll be traveling and doing shows before the holidays.

If you're in Lincoln, Omaha (ok, that's not really traveling) north along I-29 to Fargo/Moorehead and then into central  and northern North Dakota, let me know. It'll be a busy time, but I've always enjoyed meeting online friends, including from CM.

Besides, local people know where the best restaurants are! :D

MH

First Demo/Play Party of the season for Nebraska Community Ties.

Great Demo of Paddling, including incorporating a TENS Unit.

Got to Scene with a couple of couples and as always great food, conversation and watching others play.

If you have the opportunity, do what you can to join a local group.

I'm in an email discussion with a woman whose husband wants to bring hypnotism into their BDSM enjoyment. Maybe you'll find this email from her and my response interesting...

her: I tryed an audio thing but idk if I hypnotized my self or just fell asleep lol

my hubby is under the illusion that he will make me give him a bj every time I am mad at him :D

MH: heh heh... yeah, isn't erotic fiction wonderful?

That said... ya never know.

- Incrementalism is a wonderful thing

and

- Your logical/critical self is at a disadvantage in hypnosis

While not chemically accurate (external suppression v/s internal suppression) think of it this way...

Light hypnosis = having a drink or two.

Medium hypnosis = you're feeling really good.

Deep hypnosis = you're wonderfully blotto

... then add in the enduring effect of suggestions that you've accepted in such states.

In other words, it all depends on you. You have the final responsibility for what suggestions you accept and how you interpret/follow through on those suggestions.

For many people, BDSM is about pushing/expanding "limits." What's so different about the fetish aspects of hypnotism?

~smiles sweetly~

When you get an unexpected opportunity to have some time with your pet, and she says, "I'll hurry and just change into jeans," and you say, "Dress."

And she says, "I'd need to shave my legs," and you say, "OK."

And she walks in, in a dress as she should.

Yeah. That's nice.

August 17, first Demo/Play Party for Nebraska Community Ties.

It'll be good to see friends, again!

Submissive women get it. Master Hypnotist has a skill that I want. Sex isn't involved. I pay him for his services and my life changes as I want, safely, so I can still function in my life and be what I desire to be as I'm able.

Submissive men somehow think they're special enough, all on their own, that I should simply be gratified I get to hypnotize them.

I'm beginning to understand the condescending attitudes Dommes have toward "men."

Btw, being submissive has nothing to do with being a hypnotee, but in this environment, I don't expect Tops/Dominants/Masters/Mistresses/Dommes to ask to use my services :D.

Face it. I'll work with anyone.

MH

Well, I'm always curious when someone contacts me from a metropolitan area, why aren't they working/playing with someone local to them?

Between the professional hypnotists with offices, as well as their local groups, there ought to be someone with a capable understanding of hypnotism around them to help them create this in a manner which suites them.

My strongest recommendations are to either...

join your local scene and learn...

> if anyone has done something like this and who they worked with?
> if (like me) there is a professional hypnotist who enjoys fetish hypnotism?

Generally speaking, people who are active members in their local groups aren't predators. Yes, there are exceptions. There may even be groups started by predators, but they are probably small and would have a high turnover. In other words, use common sense.

... or...

> Call the professional hypnotists around you and learn who would help you create this.

Yes, I can do this with people by distance (or you could travel to me, or bring me to you) but I'm of the opinion that doing hypnotism with someone competent and local to you is always the best resource.

Check it out. Who knows what you might learn?

MH

Think of it this way...

Hypnosis can make the scene safe, but way beyond role playing. After all, in role playing you know it's not real.

For the people who really allow themselves to engage in the hypnotic experience, the Scene and whatever is understood about it becomes the reality you know at the time.

...

And that, boys and girls, is kewl.

MH

Why no photo?

I have a very public professional life that relies on my kink awareness being unknown.

Since most of the work that I do with people from CM is by phone anyway, I can look anyway you wish to imagine me to look.

That said, I'm tall, Caucasian and good looking enough to maintain that public activity with ease. In other words, my looks won't scare small children unless I want to scare them... which is extremely rare.

Were it to be possible for you to engage me in person professionally, photos are available.

MH

Isn't it amazing how learning about your natural submissive self, and how to be that with natural Dominants, translates into your friends and family commenting how much more in control you are?

Yeah, I love (the way I do it) kink hypnosis.

I'm guessing that when you're not in conflict with yourself (while still being the productive, reliable, in control adult you are) then you don't have to be in conflict with the people around you.

:D

MH

All the gripes about gay guys aside, women engaging in erotic hypnosis to expand their abilities or interests rock!

It's the same hypnotist.

It's the same hypnosis (allowing for different plumbing, of course).

So guys, I'm not taking the fall for your choices to not follow through. I'm able to engage the sexuality and interests of straight or homosexual men just as easily as I can engage the sexuality and interests of straight or homosexual women.

It's a great experience working with a hypnotist who's going to keep you and yours safe while you learn to rock your world in a way that's important to you.

What do you want to know?

wow... this is what I put up with...

Gay Fantasy Jerk:

"That time of day is ok...but i won't be at home where i would like to be except on weekends...for the next few weeks...  Will it work if i just relax and lay back in my car...and call you on phone?"

MH: "Why yes. I want to knowingly hypnotize a man laying back in his car. Where? A Park? Public Garage at work? Near a grade school?"

Somewhere during family time, probably on TV, the word "slut" came up. With our children as old as they are, language isn't an issue, simply teaching them that it's the appropriateness and infrequency of bad, naughty or harsh words that give them their power. Overused, they become almost meaningless.

Well, my wife informs the family that "slut" (like so many "naughty" words today) wasn't originally a naughty word at all. According to her, and no reason to not believe her, the original meaning of slut was to say the woman didn't keep house well.

~shrugs~

I didn't know at the time that I had married such an old fashioned woman. But now it all makes sense.

If you have any opportunity to join a local group... do so.

Go in with an open mind. Figure out what the dynamics are. Be tolerant and expect to be respected in whatever your kink, interests or curiosities maybe. Most local groups are very social in nature, interested in safety, enjoyment and education, and not dating or hook up environments.

That said, you also get the advantage of meeting real people and not just pretenders online. 

Right now that's important to me. In our local group there are submissive men who are salt of the earth, legitimate. If all I knew about submissive men was the idiot player pretenders I've been subjected to here, I wouldn't have any respect at all. From what I've seen here, y'all deserve the predators and abusers that belittle your sorry asses. No pity or protection from me.

That said, since I know from my local group that there are submissive males of quality, I'm not walking away. But if you're a submissive male interested in hypnotism, you can thank your flaky brothers for the skepticism with which you're going to be treated. They earned it for you.

MH

I've done erotic hypnosis for a number of female clients.

Have yet for a gay male to follow through and actually do hypnosis. Fantasy is enough for 'em.

Insert stereotype here.

Makes no difference to me whether the client is male or female, so go figure.

MH

I've had a number of requests from (one or more) homosexual Dominants that want me to do hypnotism to feminize his (their) submissive partner(s) and control them through triggers and anchors, afterward.

Can hypnotism be used to do that? Of course it can.

But as the third party, I have ethical concerns about ME setting up someone else for yet someone else's control. Now, an abuser won't understand that concern. ~Hey. This is kink. If they didn't want to be abused, they wouldn't be here! It's what gets them and me off. Who are you to judge?~

Yeah, I get that. But since I'm not an abuser, I also turn down bottoms who want to be abused. Sorry, but I don't equate kink with abuse. You can have kink without abuse.

Have I created triggers and anchors in my kink relationships? Of course I have. But I leave the bottom's autonomy alone. Should I become unavailable through one of us moving, becoming ill, or me dying, their lives continue without a hiccup.

It's a fine line. As a professional hypnotist I'm happy to...

- be a part of the team that helps someone with the transition in becoming transgendered.

- help someone create one or more kink personas. 

- help anyone improve their relationship or sexual abilities or performance.

The key is having that person come to me and on their own terms, share what they want.

Simply put, I do hypnotism FOR people, not TO people.

Feel free to ask anything you want...

MH

It's interesting what can be created in one play session...

Yeah...

I'm still not interested in being a part of your wasted-time fantasy life.

I'm very interested in helping you safely integrate your fantasy into your life... professionally.

People, I've got mine. I don't want, need, or have time for an online, time sucking submissive of any sex, orientation, or age.

Now, pay or create income for (stage shows, seminars, etc.) me... and you're no longer creating a time suck. You've become a client.

I treat clients, especially kink clients, very well.

MH

Sometimes ya just figure these emails aren't going to go well... ;)

UberDomGayGuyUser: Sup how much would u charge to Hypnotise someone with a keyword that I could say and put them under?

MH: Have that person ask me, instead.

UberDomGayGuyUser: I just wanted to know becuase I would be the one paying for it if he did it since im going to own him.

MH: That you want it is obvious.

I have no idea if he wants it, what he wants done with it, and whether he wants to be SSC, RACK or absolutely vulnerable.

UberDomGayGuyUser:  the difference?  

MH: The difference is that I work with the person I hypnotize, not the person paying for it.

~

Did I miss out on easy money? Well, if the guy has money, sure. But then again, I don't have to worry about the victim.

But what if the guy WANTS to be a victim?

There's not enough money for me to suspect I'm helping create a victim or a victim wannabe.

Yeah, I know. I'm not really a Dom. :)

MH

When you're bound, shackled, handcuffed, sealed... whatever. You're totally helpless. Struggle all you want. You can't get out.

Yeah, that's hot.

When you're hypnotized and can't move... in reality, you can. At any time. Go ahead. Just do it. ... Yet you can't.

Now, tell me who's more helpless. ~smiles sweetly~

MH

Homosexuals, gays, sissies, trannies...

I'm saying this as a hypnotist. That I'm a straight hypnotist is irrelevant. This applies to anyone interested in being the bottom in hypnosis scening or relationships where you want to create a new personae or change in your life. 

Yes. You can be made into a (insert your fantasy here) helpless pantiboi sissy, fully engaged transexual, or whatever!

But then what?

When you have the "then what" in place, that's when you engage the services of a professional, kink friendly hypnotist to be a part of the TEAM that helps you accomplish that.

You also need to understand that the Top is NOT a part of your life to serve your needs. The Top needs to get something from the WORK they are going to be doing to help you achieve/become whatever your goal is.

Maybe you're lucky enough to find a hypnotist with the time and interest to do it for free. Just remember, altruism is rare. Are you sure they don't have something else in mind when you're conditioned to respond to them?

Maybe you're lucky enough to find a hypnotist who will take your conditioning as part of a relationship. The hypnotist actually does want a permanent panti boi (whatever) in their life. Relationship hypnosis rocks! But, will the hypnotist include exit strategies for the just-in-cases for the relationship going bad, illness, death, disability, etc?

Probably, you're going to have to engage a hypnotist professionally. Pay money for their time and talent in your life change. Paying money to a Professional hypnotist won't guarantee ethical practices (re: abuse by police, medical/mental health professionals, coaches, etc.) but it's probably your best bet.

Find an office based, professional hypnotist who has a reputation, business and family to protect, and you'll have you best chance of being treated SSC in any long term relationship.

All the best,

MH

I've been thinking and fantasizing about you. I love what you've allowed yourself to become and in becoming that, I love how you've gone so far beyond anything you imagined.

This post is the follow up to the 10/12 Journal Entry.

Well, she chose to wear a pull-off top, skirt and panties. By the time we were together she had already removed her bra, so that would make for a pretty steep drop with whatever she took off first.

She said she had imagined a few outfits from simply a dress, to a few more pieces.

The interesting thing is that she didn't make any move to remove her first bit of clothing. So, that meant a long period of necking and heavy petting, much like high school dating.

That lead to something interesting.

Her, quite aroused because... well I love working through thin cloth. In fact, that was one of my first ongoing conditionings of her. When clothes shopping for clothing that she might wear when with me, the deciding factor will always be... "How will this feel to Master's fingers?" Her own clothing for around the house, work, whatever, never a concern. Need to get a pair of jeans? Buy 'em. I don't care about it. You won't be wearing jeans when we're together. But she'll never buy a denim skirt or dress to wear when I'm around.

So, here she is, as horny as a high schooler, but making no move to remove anything. I was having a great time doing everything but taking her panties off for her. And that's when a metaphor came to me...

So, with my head on her bare thigh, gently rubbing through that thin, soft material, rhythmically, knowing just how focused she was, even if not entranced, I began to point out just how much those panties were like selfish will power.

Those panties were ~keeping me~ from doing anything I wanted to. A ~barrier~ between me... my fingers, mouth, tongue, cock... and her sex. And yet, she had not chosen to take off her panties...

"And yet," I continued, as I simply pulled that thin strip of material to the side and continued to play with her moist and puffy sex, "in reality it's easy to let me past any illusion of will power you may think you need. Part of you realizes, 'my panties are still on' and yet part of you realizes, 'he really can do anything he wants to.'

"Part of you realizes, 'i still have my own will power, volition, ability to decide, whatever,' and yet part of you now realizes even more, 'he can do or have me do anything he wishes to, at anytime.'

"Isn't that true?"

Let's just say the rest of our day was very intense.

Everything I did for my pleasure with those panties out of the way, but still on, I persistently reminded her how worthless that little piece of cloth was in stopping me. I even had her hold the cloth aside while fucking her... a couple of metaphor in itself if you wish, when you think about it.

When she finally did take off her first piece of clothing (she chose her panties... more metaphor) she tranced very deep, the other two pieces being romoved in fairly close order. She was unable to emerge until after leaving sub-space.

Did I create anything new within her in the original suggestion or subsequent metaphor? No. She knew everything to be true. And yet, having fun in those creative and even spontaneous moments, keeps our relationship active while simply adding more layers to her programming.

What is it like to have a hypnotic Dominant?

What if you received a phone call from him and heard him say,

Master, "You're not in hypnosis, are you."

slave, "No, I'm not."

Master, "And yet, the morning that you're dressing to be with me, you're already going to realize that you won't be able to help but slowly go into trance just a little bit, with each bit of clothing that you remove once we're together. Incrementally, with each piece of removed clothing, even though you're not in trance now, when dressing, or when we're together, but once you take something off, you'll have already begun trancing, once you're with me. The only exception is shoes. You can kick off your shoes, sandals or boots without consequence. No need to have to wear shoes in bed.

"But with each bit of other clothing removed, more entranced. Once you're naked, fully, deeply entranced. As slowly, as quickly, as you wish. But helpless to do anything else."

And yes, I did hear her breathing change with her arousal at the idea.

"But, have you tranced?"

slave, "No, Sir."

Master, "And yet you already know what's going to happen the next time, and that morning you're going to choose your clothing... how fast do I want this? A bunch of little changes, or just drop like a rock with only one, two, or three pieces. It's going to be interesting dressing that morning, isn't it."

slave, "Oh, God yes."

Master, "You're going to be doing it to yourself, at whatever pace you wish, slowing down or even stopping to enjoy a certain state, if you wish. No trance from me, now. No trance as you dress. I'm not even going to trigger anything when we're together, because it's already too late for you to do anything else then, isn't it."

slave, "yessss"

I've heard that tone... she's aroused and realizing that there's this wait involved, before she can have any relief from it. I'm pretty sure she likes it... ;)

Master, "And if you don't want to trance, simply pick clothes that can be worked around. A front unbuttoning loose dress, no panties, and we have all the sex you want with no trancing. It just stays on. A curiousity if you'll trance as the buttons open, but nothing happens because it's still on your shoulders whether standing, sitting, knealing, or whatever.

"Or, all sorts of little pieces. Hair ribbons, earings, necklaces, bracelets, blouse, skirt, stockings, a garter, ankle bracelets, anklets... you could go down in such small increments that way over such a long period."

slave, "It's going to be fun getting dressed, Master."

Master, "I'm sure. Or what if you simply wore that unbuttoning dress. Planning on leaving it on, and yet it did slip off your shoulders, accidently or on purpose, and your subconscious crashes you into hypnosis before it has even settles at your ankles?"

slave, ~gasp~ "You wouldn't!"

Master, "I never said I would! Maybe you change your mind? Maybe you just lean the wrong way? Maybe during sex you wanted your arms bare, so you slipped your arms from the sleaves but kept it draped on your shoulders. But as you roll out of bed, or as you straighten up, the dress is simply left behind?

"Your subconscious registers it not being there on your body and crashes you into trance."

slave, ~groans~ "How do you think of these things?"

Master, "I have no idea.

"Enjoy dressing the next time we're going to get together."

~click~

MH

oh

be still

my racing heart.

I mean really... how can a non-predator turn this down?

"im looking to serve online on cam. however i dont show face on cam, would You be interested in that? i so wish to be hypnotized please help me"

and that from a "straight submissive male"

oh baby
oh baby
oh baby

The short answer is that any hypnotist with imagination can "make" a willing person do or become anything they are physically/emotionally capable of being or doing.

The more important questions are...

> How is it going to benefit you if the hypnotist isn't around? (Think: loses interest, time conflicts, long term incompatability, illness, death... whatever),

> Are the hypnotist's ethics important to you?

> What's in it for the hypnotist? ("You get to hypnotize me," isn't going to interest any hypnotist of experience and skill. Think: They've already been there, done that).

If you want to enjoy kink and be self-sufficient/functional in your own daily life (now... 20 years from now...) those (and more, I'm sure) are important questions.

If you want to live the life of dependent victimhood, then which creep, idiot, hobbiest or con you pick really doesn't matter.

Yeah, I'm biased. I appreciate strong, capable, self-sufficient submissives and slaves that understand and thrive in reality.

MH

The emails are interesting at times.

I'm not here for your fantasy.
I'm here for your reality.

I'm not here to mess you up.
I'm here for you to enjoy, benefit and prosper, becoming better off on your terms, than you were before we met.

I'm not here for play or a submissive/slave.
I'm here as a professional with unique skills and services, both vanilla and kink.

What would it feel like to have erotic or vanilla hypnosis that appreciates the alt dynamic, with no risk to you, your family, your job/profession, or your life?

Those are pretty sweet ideas, don't you think?

Amazingly, you can judge many things by a book's cover.

"If you're real, why don't you have a photo on your profile?"

Well, if your local to me, you can meet me at local events.

If you're not local to me, it doesn't matter what I look like.

If you're going to hire me professionally to work with your buisiness or corporation, present a seminar to your association or do entertainment, then be assured I'm good looking enough to be in public and not scare small children. We can work out the other details and you can judge for yourself from my website, etc.

But am I 53 year-old eye candy? ... Yeah, I might be at that. Been doing chair hypnosis for nine years and stage hypnosis for eight, no one has complained.

On the internet, it doesn't matter what I look like.

If you want a Dom/Master, I'm not available for that, sorry.

If you want a professional kink friendly hypnotist for fun or improving your life and and you want that done discreetly as a hypnotist or Top, then yeah, check me out.

It's all in how you look at it, isn't it now.

Hey, you're a kink friendly jeweler. I'd like some free bling.

Hey, you're a kink friendly counselor. I'd like some free sessions.

Hey, you're a kink friendly lawyer. I'd like some free contracts.

Hey, you're a kink friendly hypnotist. I'd like some free hypnosis.

Really?

I suspect most of the "free" hypnosis available has some other strings attached. Thing is, you may never consciously realize it.

If I want total helplessness (as so many profile indicate submissives are or should be), I'll rescue a quadrapolegic shitzpoo.

Does it feel as sexy as it looks in erotic hypnosis...

when you realize that try as you might "try"...

you just can't help it...

you're not going to emerge from hypnosis...

until you're told to emerge...

and you relax into it and just let go?

I was complimented as an erotic hypnotist today, "You're so creative!"

What else could I say but...?

"It's all in your head."

OK, not all of it, there was a lot of sweat created, also, but the person smiled, none-the-less.

It's not the clothes or costume that makes most people interested. It's the person inside the clothes or costume.

Now, across the room or pure subjective "going to use," or "going to be used"? Sure, fine, enjoy the attention. But there's going to be a lot of people who take a quick scan and think, "Trying too hard," and dismiss the person.

It's all in what you expect.

Just one person's opinion...

MH

There's a couple of pretenders that enjoy the fantasy of a female personae that I know. It must really freak them out to have someone seriously tell them, "Yeah, really. I can help you do that, safely. you don't have to fantasize about it."

Now, I can't do anything about how they'd look as female, but I can help them enjoy and develop the personae as best as they and their environment allow them to.

What a deal, eh?

Went through the Interests section of my profile.

After 3 years in the local community, it's amazing how interests and tolerances change.

Nebraska Community Ties, Midwest Alternatives, thank you both as organizations and the members who are my friends.

Much appreciation,

MH

Lesbians, get over it.

Men look at your photos for the same reason we look at photos of women hundreds or thousands of miles away. We're not looking because we think you're the one for us. We're looking because it pleased us to do so. We have no more interest in meeting or interacting with you than we have in meeting someone from a different continent.

Go ahead and be lesbian. It's fine with us. Just get over it, that's all. Certainly there's no more irony of straight men looking at a lesbian's profile than there is from lesbians pleasuring themselves or each other with phalluses. ;)

just sayin...

MH

I had the pleasure to meet people in Omaha a while back who only knew me though emails through here or . Collectively they were amazed at how easy going and personable I am verses how they thought of me through answering their questions via email.

~shrugs~

When I'm answering questions about hypnotism in writing, I'm going to be as precise and inclusive as I can be. I don't have the immediate feedback to correct misperceptions nor do I have the immediate flow of follow-up questions. That, and my answer is in writing. I can be held accountable for it decades from now.

In emails I'm pedantic if you want professional information about hypnotism.

Face to face I'm a hoot... who's pedantic if you want professional information about hypnotism.

Hope ya smiled,

MH

It's a bias...

But if you have any access to your local scene, then ask someone to take your cute or suggestive photos for you.

~shrugs~ If you are out in BFE and can't invite friends over to just happen take silly photos that go a little risque? I understand that.

But ???having to hold your own camera? ... Really?

Hypnotism is a "pervertable."

In and of itself, it has nothing to do with Dominating or submitting.

It really is that simple.

So, if you don't want to be dominated, you won't be. Not even Topped. Heck, hypnotism can be done as a servant providing a service.

And of course, it can be experienced without any status orientation, what-so-ever. Peer to peer. Just the same as accountancy, mechanics, or mutual friendship and respect.

A hypnotist simply helps you maximize your ability to do whatever you are able to do, and if they're good hypnotists, even help you remove your own barriers to do so on your own terms.

Can that be perverted? Of course it can. But there's nothing inherently BDSM oriented about hypnotism, itself.

"Well, if you can't make 'em do stuff, then you're not really a Dom!"

~shrugs~

There's making people do stuff... and there's making people do stuff.

I'll have fun with people my way. You have fun with people you're way.

It's all good.

Disagreeing with me doesn't mean you're right. It means you're biased or ignorant, that's all. I can live with that.

Not original to me, but I liked it...

Do you think Ken ever gets mad that Barbie can't bend her knees?

Was greeted by the image of a semi-erect nude cock when I came to log into CM.

Yep.

I'm still heterosexual.

Hope ya smiled,

MH

/s is not for the weak.

Sure, there are weak submissives or slaves. But weakness is NOT what makes someone submissive. Weakness is weakness, not submissiveness.

A strong, capable submissive or slave. Someone who doesn't need a D/ or M/, but responds to the natural personality of Another, and from there, develops a relationship? Yeah, THAT is being submissive.

While not everyone has the opportunity to do so,  I'd encourage everyone who can to see if there's a local BDSM group that is open to the broad range of interests involved in the lifestyle. If you have access to such a group, check it out. I can be a wonderful place to learn, witness, and just share conversation among people with interests akin your own.

Presenting a Demo for Nebraska Community Ties, Aug 27.

This is my home group. So going to go quick and hard on the safety, and then open it up to facilitating a lot of Couples and Small Group hypnosis. Provide scripts for Induction and Emerging, as well as general idea for stock erotic/fetish suggestions and see where it goes.

This is going to be Fun! 

Two county fairs, six stage shows. Happy man.

I'm talking vanilla here (not that I wouldn't do shows for lifestyle audiences, it's just there aren't that many available) but doing Comedy Hypnosis Stage Shows rocks!
I won't tell them I'm kink friendly if you won't. ;) 

Don't know how I'm going to get back, but I have fallen in love with the Carolinas!

It has to be a paying gig, set of gigs, but man it would be worth it. 

AHS, Alternate Hedonist Source.

Thank you! 

I had the honor and pleasure to present Demos on SSC hypnotism in Kansas City last Saturday for a group called AHS.

Now that I think about it... I never did ask what AHS stands for.
;-)

Regardless, it  is a great group of people and I had a great time sharing what I know with them.

Sorry. The erotic hypnosis fiction you've been reading is fiction.

Hypnotism rocks, but it's not going to let absolute twits, trolls and con-people get any (man, woman) they want. Might get you someone, someday (think pick-up artists who score success as picking someone/anyone up) but if you want to win friends and influence people to your benefit, be a good person first. Being a hypnotist is simply something you know or do.

If you're in eastern Nebraska, western Iowa, maybe even se SD or nw MO, I'm doing stage shows throughout the day in Papillion, Nebraska, August 6, 2011. It's a vanilla event... but still good entertainment!

The Demo for MWA in Omaha rocked! What a great group of people.

Spent another hour or more answering questions after the Demo and then got to do kink hypnosis for a couple couples during the Play Party. What a great night!

Saturday, June 4 I get to do even more (an afternoon Experiential + evening Demo and then Play Party) for AHS in Kansas City, MO.

Yeah, I like what I do!

MH

I think I have time to join friends at a munch Thursday evening. Then, off to Omaha to provide a Demo on SSC Fetish Hypnotism Saturday evening.

Going down to KC to do something more involved, June 4.

So much fun!

Yeah, we're here for the kink, and kink hypnotism is a rush and wonderful experience.

But vanilla comedy stage hypnotism is pretty kewl, too! 

Gotta love the emails... In response to, "Why do you want to add me to your Friends list?

Answer: i'm looking to be permantally hypnotized and more Sir

If you want a "do me next" hypnotist, go into chat rooms and threads where people new to being a hypnotist are. They'll want to hypnotize. You want to be hypnotized. You can chat them up and see if they're a good match. (Although for most of you that's, "Are they breathing?")

However, if you want a skilled, professional hypnotist who isn't going to jerk you around because they have their profession on the line, which means you'll be safe, then consider me or another professional hypnotist.

Of course, please ask yourself first, "What would interest a full time, professional hypnotist who has already been doing this for years/decades on a weekly basis? What do I have that they want that will be of value to them for their service of hypnotizing me?"

~smiles sweetly~

What fun! Midwest Alternatives has invited me to do a 90 minuted Demo May 14 in Omaha!

The area I live in is blessed to have two kink groups with a fair number of mutual members in each group. Because of time I haven't attended a Mid-West Alternatives Demo/Party until last night. Well, whaddya know, it's a great group of people, too!

Why'd I go? Their topic. Had a local lawyer who's involved with and writes for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Great presentation! Not his words, but certainly part of his message. We're working to establish your rights to enjoy your kinks. But, you must be responsible within those rights!

What he did say was along the lines of, 

1) If you worry or inconvenience your neighbors, the police may become involved.

2) Never do kink around children.

There's more, but it's a busy day, today. I would highly recommend having a lawyer who advocates for the NCSF speak to your groups!

MH

Why do I even reply to these emails?

Ruinme (not the real screen name, but you get the idea, and someone on the other side of the Earth from me) Q: do You make me agree for every sexual proposal by hypno?

MH: Since it wouldn't be ethical, no.

But is there a hobby hypnotist out there who would do that, probably.

you can become as ruined as you want to become... but you don't need hypnotism for that.

MH

If you're in BFE, this won't apply.

But if you're in a populated area that has a local group, take a serious look at joining it. Being able to meet, talk with and watch or casually participate in the various kinks can be so enlightening (read, FUN!).

Or if you find through this and other sites that there are a number of people "near" you, set a random date and invite everyone to get together and see if between all of your interests and resources, maybe you could make a group. A few people will probably meet with you, and from there, who knows how often y'all could get together on occasion, as well as whoever new comes along.

I have so enjoyed meeting and being met by the people of Nebraska Community Ties.

(non-professional) Advice on Chastity Training...

Well...

Being married five or more years is a good start...

Hope you smiled,

MH

I had a contact from a guy doing a Yahoo ID search as he travels through the Midwest. The story is that he has enjoyed online hypnosis scripts and MP3 files, but now wants the real thing and see how deep he can go and how helpless he can become.

I wasn't in a playful mood, and simply told him what my session fee is. His witty retort was, "Oh, I see. For you it's just a business. Bye, now."

My witty reply was, "Bye, now."

This morning I sent him the following im...

"I've been thinking about your contacting me, a total stranger, to hypnotize you as you travel nearby in the Midwest. I understand the recreational, erotic, fetish aspects of hypnotism, so don't take my attitude as being naive. But your approach of asking a total stranger to take you into deep hypnosis so you can see how powerful he is and how weak you can become, is dangerous on your part. If I had that need and couldn't get it in a relationship from someone known within my community as being ethical and caring, then the next best resource would be an office hypnotist who risks his profession (and family) if he should treat you unethically/take advantage of you.

 "The fee I quoted you is what my clients pay for my time. It binds me to not be unethical with you.

While I'm not a professional Dominant, I am a professional hypnotist.

While I don't need you as a submissive or slave, you, or You, might benefit from having me as your hypnotist.

Just something to think about,

MH 

Just a general observation about D/ photos... (acknowledging that I have no photo up, myself)

Why yes, you scowling in that costume does convey a strong sense of power and dominance.

Well, it seems I should run a Fall promotion on undoing what other hypnotists and hobbiests have goofed up or left behind.

Just think of the future, people. Although I suspect, most fetish hypnotists don't care. Have the fun now and take pleasure in the goofs you leave behind thinking you're still exerting control.

Yeah, I'm an opinionated bastard,

MH

This quotation is from MissObsession. I found it while randomly looking at profiles. It's succinct, yet dynamic.

"The only rules are Mine,the only limits are yours"

I'm not saying that is exactly what I do or believe. My personality doesn't get into rules or limits. My domination is natural at best, and err's to the subtle side. Nor am I promoting MissObsession, or saying I agree with or promote anything else about her.

I just appreciate the quotation.

All the best,

MH

As I've posted, I attended my first demo last month. Good group of people, although I distinctly felt like I was being weighed and measured by most of the Dominants in the room. I think there's a lot of "hypnotist" stereotypes I'm going to have to live with and gradually live down. We'll see how that works out.

This month will be my first play party. I think I'm going to voyeur like it's 1999!

MH

(Why are the articles about men cheating? don?t the majority of men cheat with women? Is it fair to speculate that many of these women are also cheating?)

According to an MSN online article quoting Cosmopolitan, 9/14/08, one of the ways you can find out if your man is cheating on you is,

4. Nothing fazes him anymore.?? a combination of added sex and attention could be making him way more relaxed, even downright giddy,? ? ?If your guy is suddenly going around all happy and whistling, then you need to find out why.?

So, like... if your man is happy... obviously something is wrong! This situation must be corrected, immediately!

This is helpful advice?

MH

With a thank you to the 8/7/08 Yahoo News

The Oddest Book Title Award was started in 1978 at the Frankfurt Book Fair as a way to stave off boredom. This year?s award goes to, IF YOU WANT CLOSURE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, START WITH YOUR LEGS.

?nuff said?

MH

This is just not right...

But why can I so easily image Sarah Palin in thigh boots, leather cat suit, riding crop, with a very confident demeanor?

I am a bad, bad person, but the more I think of it, I can see either Biden and Palin topping Obama. I don't think he'd like it... at first.

Do you think Hillary let Bill watch Palin's inaugaration speech? If she did, I wonder how hard he got? "Naow, whaey didn Aih think of that? She's a lot purdier than that Ferraro gal."

I'm still independent and thinking of who to vote for. But if the Democrats really wanted change they would have supported Nader a long time ago. Anyone born after 1955 owes that man for all the social/corporate good he did.

Oh, well,

MH

I have no problem with the following quotaton, "Judge not lest you be judged." Why? Because I've always taken it for granted that I'm constantly being judged.

You never hear anyone gripe after they've been judged positively, do you?

"Yeah, but that quotation is talking about God's judgement." Listen, I have no problem with God's judgement. He's explained the rules as best he can for me to understand, and I do my best to understand them and live within them. I fail. God's judgement is also something I count on. So, what's the problem?

If I first perceive you as a twit or a troll, then just keep on being yourself. If it turns out I was wrong, I'll catch on. I'm honest enough to admit mistakes regardless whether they're mine or yours. 

If I perceive you as a likeable person, then enjoy whatever friendship we can share and store up the memories for later. We'll each probably need them at one time or another.

There ya go,

MH

This is what a professional ?tist has to wade through. Meet charlie (not his CM id)?

c: hi im charlie and would like to ask some questions,, can i thru seeing a hypnotist be led more into being a sub/slave and have mind control and brain washing done??? Thanks

Followed by?

c:  dear sir also iv tried to pay a hypnotsist to help but daid it wasnt in their best interest to do so

 
MH: charlie,

Of course.

And here is how you do it...

1) Contact a hypnotist in your area.
2) Pay him or her for their time and skill.
3) Just wrack your world!

Have fun,

MH

And thanks to email lag?

MH: Not in their best interest? Hell, charlie, it?s not in your best interest! 

I bemoan the interference of society in natural selection and I believe in Barnum?s sentiment that ?one is born every minute,? so I encourage you to keep on looking for someone to screw with your life and make you even more helpless than you already are.

 I help people improve and enjoy their lives. I believe that submissives can be successful and fulfilled while still being submissive. We can?t all be the leader, after all. I don?t have time or resources for another submissive, and I?m not sure how I would handle a brainwashed client. Maybe you have some ideas and are willing to pay for my time and talents. If so and you're in my area for a period of time, or want to pay for phone sessions, maybe we can figure something out. In other words, no freebies.

 Sorry we don?t see eye-to-eye on this, but don?t give up on my account. Never-the-less, can you willingly become more sub/slave, become mind-controlled and brainwashed through hypnotism? Of course you can. The thing is, hypnosis isn't even needed for that, just your capitulation in a controlled environment.

 All the best,

MH

c: thanks but none will help

 MH:  Well then, we'll have to start the trust now, won't we charley.

How much of my time do you want a week, and what is the most you can pay for it?

What do you do for a living?

What is your annual income?

What are your current responsibilities?

What do you see as being my responsibilities? 

These aren't unreasonable questions, since you want to be my slave, be mind controlled and brainwashed. People get abused, ripped off and left with nothing in these kinds of relationships, even without hypnotism. At least with me, IF it's worth my time, you'll have accountability. I just doubt you can convince me it's worth my time.

you can keep playing at wannabeing controlled, or you can getterdone. It's nothing personal, charley, it's just business.

All the best,

MH

c: (I deleted two of three emails before I decided to turn this into a journal entry. Unlike the above, the following is not a direct cut and paste, but a complilation of three short emails.) ur a fraud. u have no picture, what bs. i offer u myself, that should be enugh. its all about the money ,,what bs

MH: ~shrugs~ I told you I don't do freebies and I don't need a /s, whether it's you or anyone else. So, yeah, for my time and services, it's all about the money. Offer yourself to your dentist and see how far it gets you.

All the best,

MH

I guess I'm just looking for the "submissive" in all of this. I have no idea what submission or service this guy proposes in return for my time. Certainly none was ever offered. His profile says he's straight; I am straight, and the dude lives half the continent away. Never mind that he knew from the beginning that I am not seeking anyone as a /s, or their service.

When called to task I guess it's easier to act indignant than to admit all you wanted was to get your jollies with nothing in return.

Maybe he can find a hobbyist or a predator to, in his words, "have mind control and brain washing done." But if he doesn't think there will be a piper to pay from the hobbyist or predator, then it's worse than I thought.

Well, ya live and learn, or ya don't,

MH

A thought occured to me as I exchange wonderful emails with a Domme. I have permission to share her CM ID, it's BusyMom.
If you're a male submissive and want the real thing in a Domme, I would suggest you read through her stuff and then think about it for a couple of days before contacting her. If you're a twit and don't have enough holes, then just email her right away. If your inanity hasn't bored her and it amuses her to do so, then she'll rip you a new one.

She and I seem to help each other explore concepts in ways that we don't see other people expressing here in CM. Here's what I've gotten out of it from the last month and more.

Just because you're unskilled, unable to take care of yourself, don't want to gainfully support yourself, but are willing to give up sex and service for a place to stay doesn't make you either a submissive or a slave. If you want to stay that way it probably identifies you as a likely liability and an occassional, self-perpetuating victim. (Maybe there are exceptions).

Being a submissive or slave is a personal quality of great value. It isn't a weakness to offer for exploitation. Weak people are weak, maybe desperate, but that does not mean they are submissive.

Most people need care and outside resources at some point or two in their lives, regardless of whether they are D/ or /s. It's when a person self-perpetuates that condition that calls into question their self-worth.

As a healthy Dominant, I do not want a worthless /s  who wishes to remain worthless. However, I know there are people out there that want that, or want to create that, so don't give up "hope."

All the best,

MH
 

Q: Does hypnosis increase the endorphines? What does it do to increase pleasure during play? It seems to me that it would dull it, make the pain less painful and the scariness less scary.

A: Entering hypnosis bathes the brain in neurotransmitters, allowing both the right and left hemispheres to be accessed nearly equally across the corpus callosum, the fold that separates the two sides of the brain. Endorphins are just one of those neurotransmitters. This means that both the logical and emotional aspects of the brain, as well as sensory interpretations within the brain can be influenced through suggestion and imaging. Depending on the ?depth? or acceptance of the hypnotic state, any sensation whether physical, mental, spiritual, or emotional can be hallucinated as increased, diminished, or very different from the norm.

When you think about the fetish aspects of the infliction of suspense and pain, you?re headed toward the same result through a much more rigorous route. Most people don?t understand the purpose of the pain response. Pains? purpose is to draw attention to a harmful stimulus and to motivate the person to move away from that stimulus. This applies equally to physical or emotional pain.

When a person cannot or does not move away from that pain, then secondary responses kick in. A frequent cognitive response to pain is a rationalization about the environment that creates the pain, or the pain itself. In other words, that the pain will end ?soon,? the pain is good (Nietzsche), or that the pain is deserved. An unconscious response to prolonged suspense or pain, or the startle reflex to a mind-fuck, is to release endorphins during the prolonged experience, or upon its cessation, to mask the experience for the sake of endurance or to enable/enhance recovery.

In other words, the ?I deserve it,? or ?It hurts so good,? responses are not justifications for S&M, but rather the brain?s preservation responses to harmful experiences. The catch? Although naturally produced by the brain, endorphins are an addictive drug. Through S&M, the pain response becomes perverted into a ritualistic fix to get the next endorphin high.

Yeah, I know it got pedantic. Hope you don't mind.

MH

Q: "I have been told that hypnotism does not work on everone. How can you tell if it work, and what sort of ways can it be used to inhance a relationship in the lifestyle"

A: Well, hypnosis is a natural state of mind that occurs dozens if not hundreds of times throughout the day. Hypnotism is simply accessing that natural state on purpose. I have attended a few dozen seminars or shows where hypnotic inductions were used, and yet I didn?t become hypnotized. Why? Because I was observing, not participating. While anyone can slip into hypnosis at anytime through focusing on an activity, boredom, elements of music or visual stimulus, it doesn?t mean that having those elements present must create hypnosis.

The two barriers to purposefully becoming hypnotized are fear or mistrust. In other words, most people who choose not to become hypnotized, probably won?t. Please note; combine the facts that there are so many ways to induce hypnosis, as well as hypnosis being a natural state of mind, that not becoming hypnotized just because you don?t want to cannot be guaranteed.

Being hypnotized will work if you allow it to. Just don?t be so eager to be hypnotized that you ?try? to become hypnotized. Much like other activities, trying to be sexy, trying to make a shot, trying to fall asleep, people can just get in their own way.

How can hypnotism enhance lifestyle activities? Probably any way you can imagine. Hypnotic suggestion can amplify or deaden sensations. It can create sensory (any of the five senses) illusions of sensations that are not there, or mask sensations that should be there. Hypnotic suggestion can create or deepen dependence. It can create or misdirect memories or intent. Hypnotism can become mind control. However, not one of those things will occur if the subject objects.

That is why trust between the hypnotist and subject (just as in any lifestyle activity or relationship) is so important. Because a submissive chooses to trust the hypnotist, phenomenal results can occur. The safety conundrum is, Incrementalism. A patient hypnotist might be able to lead a person far beyond what they would have originally allowed. Then again, that can be said about any relationship, can?t it?

Here?s the short of it. A person can do anything in hypnosis that they can do in real life. All hypnotism allows is for the person to focus their mental and physical resources, and ?do? or ?be? in a more dynamic fashion. By the very changes in brain chemistry and activity, a person is not quite as critical or analytical in hypnosis as they may be in their waking state. Of course, the same thing can be said for being aroused, hungry, bored, being in pain, etc. However, there are always protective functions hardwired into our brain that will do their best to protect us. BDSM activities, without hypnotism, prove repeatedly that those protective functions can be manipulated or worn down. So to point to hypnotism as being dangerous or manipulative within a fetish context, is just a little silly when you think about it.

I hope that gives you some insight. What else would you like to know?

MH

Why, yes, I do have time to waste. Thank you for asking.

This person asked if hypnotism could intensify a panty fetish. Duh? Anyway, I replied with a serious answer. Here is the second, and oh so predictable question from said person, along with my reply.

Q: Would love to have my large ladies
panty fetish totally intensified by You Master, please.

A: ?and of course, I am supposed to love having the honor of just doing this for you? Be real. If you want my services, expect to pay for my time. If you want just any ole Joe with too much time on their hands to type fetish tripe for you, go somewhere else.


Now, be offended, cut and paste a nasty response which you think will hurt or offend me, and then block my response.


Thank you for your time,

MH

PS: Maybe there are people who understand that time has value. We'll see. To once again quote  Steve Martin, "The highest compliment is money. No, really. It is."

MH

"Croc hunter Steve Irwin believed something would cut his life short, his wife says."

Duh? This is news?

There are reasons to buy life insurance with guaranteed purchase option, people! You don't know how the kid is going to grow up and do for a living.

Back to the office work,

MH

If opposites attract, why aren?t more supermodels dating pygmies from Borneo?

If there is something you can do, but want to do better, get together with a hypnotist. If there is something you want to do or become in your life, but something just seems to keeps you from doing it or completing it, get with a hypnotist.

It?s not magic or fairy dust sprinkled on your problem. It?s letting someone help you martial your own resources so you can get r done!

Think about it,

MH

OK, I?ll fall into the form of what I?m looking for in a submissive.

I want an executive on the way up, VP, or Board Member of a medium corporation, or larger. Fortune 500 preferred. Department heads, especially in medicine would also be considered. Human Resources Directors may contact me, but they must convince me they live up to their title.

I want a professional model that is ascendant, or well established. You may also insert: beauty pagent participant, athlete, dancer, instrumentalist, singer or actor in place of model. A band or performing artist of a major label would also be considered. A fun possibility would be a professional wrestler, especially if I could have the role of ?manager.? A possible addition would be reality television show candidate. Writers and photographers who personally know such people may also contact me.

I want ANYONE who can deliver Paris Hilton?s father! (He will be eternally in your debt!)

I want someone who appreciates truth hidden inside of satire and appreciates that I have a real life to live, just like everyone else who is mentally healthy. I have never ?looked? for a submissive any more than I have looked for a brunette, or any other trait. I just make friends. ~shrugs~ It works for me.

MH

The members of the BDSM community respect all kinks. That means that those of us that think pain hurts and degradation degrades but love the dynamics and support of D/s or M/s have our place, also.

To me, strapping someone down, making them helpless and inflicting fear, pain or degradation is not Total Power Exchange. It sounds very one sided with no ?exchange? involved unless you count releasing the subject as a ?giving back,? thereby exchanging back their physical freedom. However, to Me it?s more like "Total Power Sacrifice."

Here is how the label of "Total Power Exchange" might also be fulfilled.

However the cycle starts is unimportant, and in fact it is probably almost unperceived and instantaneous. A submissive responds to "something" and finds ways to give service or attention to another person. The submissive just naturally gives of their self with just a little more energy than normal. The Dominant, aware or unaware, responds to this interest and service and rewards it. If there is mutual availability, the cycle continues. Should there be commonalities of interest OR appreciation of life-differences the Dominant simply engages more and more in the care, nurturing, and life improvements of the other. The submissive in turn finds pleasure in service and attention, and seeks to become their best to better please the Dominant. This may or may not include allowing them to be influenced or molded by the Dominant as to life choices outside of the relationship.

What better relationship could possibly fulfill the words, "Total Power Exchange?" A submissive giving their power to their Dominant through service and growth, all to fulfill their Dominant?s wants, needs and expectations. A Dominant giving their power through nurturing, enabling, and encouraging their submissive to become even more able to please, care for, and submit more deeply than before. Now we have a total "Exchange" of "Power" in a reciprocating and mutually beneficial cycle. This dynamic amplifies each party's power as long as the dynamic is serviced and maintained. This continues until equilibrium is met. Here is the next challenge. Are both parties satisfied with the equilibrium and will they maintain it through their continued total exchange of power?

I?m sure that is better left to the future.

All the best,

MH

On a personal note?

Dom/me or submissive alike

it sucks to be a ?giver.?

Y/you rarely know if Y/you?re appreciated

or just convenient.

All the best,

MH

As you read down My journal and hypnotism thread contributions, you will find that I posit that hypnotism is as safe, if not safer than, any other BDSM activity. Today, I had a brief chat with a husband and wife where the wife was abused through the use of hypnotism.

No, I don?t know the details, but after asking how this came about, it was shared that not only was hypnotism involved, but also drugs, alcohol, physical abuse and other methods of compromising a person?s ability to maintain their normal mental state.

When I asked if she would have suffered abuse and compromise without hypnotism, both husband or wife thought that everything added together caused her downfall, and that hypnotism, in and of itself, was probably not a significant factor, but rather, just a minor part of the mélange.

Maybe I can posit things in a slightly different way to expand what I?ve said before. The subject being hypnotized has the final authority on how far they allow things to go. That being said, the natural changes in brain chemistry (that?s why it ?feels good?) while in a natural or induced hypnotic state, compromises a person?s ability to be rational or reasonable.

In a crude way, think of it this way:

            Light hypnosis may be similar to being comfortable after having a drink.

            Medium hypnosis may be similar to being legally drunk.

            Deep hypnosis may be similar to being blasted, compromised, but still functional.

I am not stating the two conditions are exactly similar. They?re not. I?m just trying to give a layperson a rough equivalency to what most people can imagine. I regularly take people into the deep focus of hypnosis, whether they are clients, or for erotic play. They allow this because they trust Me, and because that is where the best work, or play, can be experienced. In and of itself, there is no danger to deeply focused hypnotism, as long as you maintain your own security, and don?t release it to the hypnotist. Anyone can emerge from hypnotism at anytime? that they want to. Anyone can ignore or compromise a hypnotic suggestion? that they want to.

Just a little food? or drink, for thought.

All the best,

MH

I get some good questions, here?s one that has progressed from some previous questions:

Q: Thanks for the vary insightful instructions on how to proceed. Would it be useful to try a session or so as a subject to understand it or would it detract from future training. For erotic/fetish work I recognize that each person is different and what they can or would do is different/individual so not quite sure how to frame a question but will try. Provide a subject is open to hypnosis can it allow them to perform roles they might otherwise not, for example, a suggestion to be an exhibitionist (sans cloths or masturbation) or change character such as a male becoming more feminine etc. Or is it more oriented to slight behavior modification. Again, thanks for the wisdom/insights.

A: I?d say working with a hypnotist professionally to improve your life in some fashion would be a terrific introduction. The quality and techniques of hypnotists vary; have fun experiencing.

Later, if you want to be a student, whether you become certified or not, you?ll have your experiences to draw on as a template, enjoying both similarities and differences with what you have experienced. What you will do at this point is to begin framing your own style, and realize there are alternatives to what you most often do, that your subjects might better enter into their own state of hypnosis.

As far as fetish is concerned, it will all depend upon the expectations of your subject. If they don?t trust you, or have fears, you probably will be able to do little more than induce hypnosis. If this however helps increase their trust in you, or allay their fears, they may want to experience more at another time.

What they will or won?t do has nothing to do with you as a hypnosis ?technician.? It has everything to do with their wants, needs and desires, and their ability to fulfill them through you. If somebody does not want to be submissive, or at least submissive with you, at best you will be able to have him or her jump through the hoops and go through the motions with you. However, will they be willing to do hypnotism with you again? Probably not. Pleasure does not equal acquiescence. Just as in rape, just because the subject orgasms, does not mean they enjoyed the experience, nor will they willingly put themselves in harms way, again.

Hope this helps frame the picture for you,

MH

Someone asked Me if they could be stuck in hypnosis from listening to CDs intended to produce a hypnotic state? Well, here's My reply...

Hypnosis is a natural mental state that we go into and out of dozens if not hundreds of times a day. In fact, it?s so natural; you usually don?t even realize you?ve done it. My basic rule of thumb is, if you?ve fantasized, you can be hypnotized. Sleep is a time of unfocused unconsciousness. Hypnosis is a time of focused subconscious awareness. Therefore, you cannot become stuck in hypnosis. You will fall asleep, or emerge, or choose to stay in your hypnotic state, but you cannot become stuck and permanently hypnotized if you don?t want to be in your hypnotic state.

Purposefully becoming hypnotized on purpose on your part is simply a matter of trust, focus or distraction, and technique.

Two times we all go into a natural state of hypnosis is when waking up or falling asleep. It?s that time when we?re aware of the stuff around us, but we just don?t want to move or open our eyes, yet.

Since hypnosis is a natural state of mind, it is something you can control. While in hypnosis, you have the ability to emerge at anytime. You also have the ability to be as functional as you wish to be. Athletes utilize hypnosis to relax when they have the opportunity, as well as to perform at the best ability. It?s the same mental state, simply different applications and purpose.

Please note, having the ability to do something, does not equal the inclination to do something. I can assure people all day long that they cannot be made to do anything in hypnosis that they don?t want to. The slippery part of that statement is, ?that they don?t want to.? Whether it?s emerging from hypnosis, or giving yourself away, I suspect most people, especially in the BDSM community, have very few things that, with patience on the part of them and the hypnotist, they would find that they would not rationalize doing.

To put it bluntly: Hypnosis is NOT mind control? unless you allow it to be. You, not the hypnotist, are responsible for your well-being.

Take care,

MH.

Just think about it? the book, ?How to Serve Master or Mistress? ... may be a recipe book.

I read journal or profile entries where people complain about bad spelling and grammar in profiles or emails that are sent. They wonder why people don't or can't use a spell checker?

Frankly, I'm glad that people don't use them to mask their education, and possibly even their personality. Let's face it; natural selection's not what it used to be! I need every clue that I can get.

All the best,

MH

It's probably trite within the lifestyle, but I had an insight today, doing hypnosis for someone, here. This person wants to give up control in hypnosis, enabling that person to give up control outside of hypnosis. However, this person becomes unresponsive while in hypnosis, thereby becoming worthless to Me as the hypnotist, or at least the style that I'm limited to using over the phone.

After a couple false starts, I had this insight. Since I know through stage hypnosis and time with My pet, how responsive and verbal people can be while hypnotized, I framed things this way?

"You must first have control, in order to give up control. First, you must learn to speak clearly while being hypnotized, before you can appreciate being mute."

Yes, it worked. From that point on the person spoke clearly while hypnotized.

So, to both D/ and /s, look at the profiles. If the person looks or sounds out of control, consider your options and what you are willing to invest in the play and relationship. If you are Dominant, do you have control of yourself and portray yourself as such? If you are submissive, do you have control of your life right now, or do you expect some magical safe harbor for some D/ to make it all better?

Anyone remember the Isle of Lost Boys?

No one enters a relationship complete, but there is more to Domination than administering pain. Ask yourself, could you dominate, or, would you submit? if there were no pain?

(Damnson, lighten up, would ya?)

All the best,

MH

An interesting phenomena has happened since I've joined CM. I'm helping submissives quit smoking and manage their weight through phone hypnosis. This is so cool!

No, I can't do everything on phone that I would do in an office session, but direct suggestion hypnosis has been the standard for centuries with positive results, why not pull it out and dust it off when the communication resources are limited by the media?

Yes, their Ds/ know and approve. No, I don't set myself up as coDominant. But, it is wonderful openly invoking the submissive dynamic for positive life change. Yes, I charge for my services, these people are my cliients and treated with respect. Yes, submissives can be treated with respect.

Yes, I can do the same thing for Ds... but that would mean they have something in their life they think they could improve by a way other than getting a submissive to do it for them... oh, wait... is my opinion showing? ;-)

Be well, A/all...

MH

Ok, so this is a journal entry. One of its functions is to express opinions. The following is an opinion. It's not a decree or a judgment, it's an opinion.

I am amused by the idea of 18-?? year old, i.e., "young" D's and M's. I'm not saying there can't or shouldn't be any that young, I'm just saying they amuse Me. Certainly someone that young may not be immature and there are certainly older people who ARE immature. Why do I say this? Because I read the same, "Here is what I demand," profiles among 50+ year olds as I do the 18+ year olds.

Opinion, People who list stringent demands for unknown submissives to meet before even meeting them are possibly one of two things. 1) Highly popular and organized, who must list certain high standards for their submissives because of their now limited time and resources, so that truly, only the elite of submissives need apply for consideration. Or 2) these are people too lazy to even make their own bed or clean up after themselves who want to manipulate and abuse others to do their work so that they can continue to be lazy. By starting out demanding and demeaning, they are prescreening anybody with a shred of self-respect and self-preservation who might have the sense to ask, "And, who the hell are you?"

I propose, ("submit," if that trips your trigger) a new category for these abusers. I think they might qualify as Brat Dom/mes and Brat Masters or Mistresses.

Just a thought,

MH

Greetings, A/all,

I am a fulltime, certified hypnotist who discovered erotic hypnosis through the (now defunct) erotic hypnosis chat rooms of Yahoo. Yes, you can be hypnotized online. No, I won?t hypnotize you online just for the fun of it, because it takes so long, typing. I am not looking for a submissive. I have had virtual submissives and a rl submissive, although we cannot live the lifestyle. Because of my profession and family life, I am very discreet in what I can do for enjoyment. It?s not like I can advertise, ?Weight Management, Tobacco Cessation, submission Training!? 
 

My subs have called me a soft Dom. I really doubt I fit any stereotypes of a Dom. I don?t have leather in my closet, toys in a drawer, or dungeon in my basement. In none of my relationships did I call myself a Dom, or Master, but the women did, freely, and it brought us pleasure.

I enjoy the subtleness and enduring nature of behavior modification that hypnosis allows.

To debunk a few things about hypnotism?

1) Hypnosis is Mind Control. It is not, even in an erotic or D/s relationship, Mind Control. Or to put it another way, you cannot be made to do or think something in hypnosis that would be against your belief system. There are many ways to modify behavior that can break the will of another. Hypnosis is not one of them. If an idea was contrary to your belief system before going into hypnosis, it will still be contrary, after your session. All that said; realize that people change their mind while in their waking state, why shouldn?t they be able to change their mind while in hypnosis? Beware the power of ?incrementalism.?

2) You lose control in hypnosis. Quite the opposite, you gain greater mental and physical control while in hypnosis, than in your normal waking state. All that said; realize that people give up control in their normal waking state, why shouldn?t they be able to give up control in hypnosis?

3) You can be hypnotized without your knowledge. Well, this one is slippery. There are many waking state techniques that bypass the critical/analytical function of the mind, that do not produce a hypnotic state. There are times when we naturally go into a hypnotic state, without the use of an ?induction.? I believe that at some point, everyone who goes into a hypnotic state is aware of the change and could purposefully emerge from that state. However, it feeeeeeeeeeels soooooooooo good, even with the best intentions, a person may not do so. After that, it becomes more and more questionable as to the ability to remove yourself from that very real mental state, that we call hypnosis.

Why am I here? To appreciate the variations of the BDSM lifestyle. On occasion people contact me to help them turn away from their submissive tendencies/habits/needs/desires. So far, no Dom has called up asking help to quit being dominant. It could happen, I guess. However, I do enjoy helping people explore their submissive side and learning the balance that allows them to both be functional in the world, and submissive in private, or if they are so blessed, in becoming even more fully submissive in their relationship. I do this professionally for their life enhancement, not for my pleasure, gratification, or ego. I don?t think my lifestyle will ever allow me a polyamorous household. Remember, confidentiality is paramount when I work with people as a hypnotist, but especially so when doing lifestyle enrichment work.

Thank you for reading all of this. I hope it puts things in perspective. I am happy to answer questions in chat or email, be patient; I do so at my leisure.

All the best,

MH