MasterDarkSadist

If you noticed that the last journal entry was way back in 2009, you are right.  Up until recently, I haven't really been in a position to look for other submissive girls.

I met my slave that year, and have spent the last 5 years training her.  Now that she's at a mental place that allows me more freedom to expand my horizons, I am doing so.

My reasons are two fold.  

1)  Philosophically, no Master should only have one girl.  This is due to the "expectations" that being the sole recipient of one's ministrations tends to create.  A slave cannot own their Master, therefore they cannot dictate who, what, where, or when their Master decides to play, fuck, or flirt with another.  The only expectation a slave has, is that they will be cared for by their owner.  I intend to do that, but I also intend to make sure my slave knows she is a slave, in every way.  One piece of that is understanding fully that she has no control over me whatsoever.  This is just as important as my total control of her.  If she can expect anything besides that she is required to be at my side whenever I beckon, I have failed.  So far, that does not seem to be true.

2) I want to play with other girls.  That's enough.  See above.

I've also purchased a house, gutted and remodeled the entire thing, and created a nice play space in my bedroom that serves as a dungeon when I need it to.  (see pictures).

So, now that I have my ducks lining up, I have time and energy to bring another submissive into my life.  Depending on how things go, that might lead to a place at my side, or it might only lead to being play partners.  Those details will be figured out on an individual basis.

If you are intrigued by what I have written so far, send me a message.  The worst that can happen is we don't have any chemistry and we stop talking.  Nothing lost, nothing gained.  Can't gain if you don't try though.

I am going to concede that there are no longer any actual submissives on this site that are:
1.  Not fake bullshit ads
2.  Not so jaded that they think all dom's are evil bastards that want to steal their souls
3.  Feel that a dom must write a novel to someone who he doesn't know, about useless crap in order to even manage a reply.

Don't take this as me being upset, it's just frustrating as finding someone shouldn't be made more difficult than it is already, considering what a small community we are part of.

Categories were developed to define something in order to easily recognize or understand its inherent nature without the need for lengthy definitions. They were never expected to be a pinpoint definition of something, more as a general way of distinguishing the differences between things at a glance.

I have noticed that many in this lifestyle, which at its core is hierarchal in nature, abhors categorization. This does not make sense to me. Without categories, nothing can be classified. I could not easily distinguish myself as someone who lives it 24/7 from someone who just play in the bedroom. I could not easily distinguish myself from a submissive. Maybe this is the goal, I don't know. I prefer to have a general knowledge about what particular role someone gravitates towards, so that I may understand their line of thinking, and if I am looking at a potential partner, be able to understand what it is I am dealing with. I don't want a bottom, nor a submissive. Without those labels, I would not be able to distinguish those who just like to play a bit, those who enjoy submissive type relationships from those who are looking to be a slave. Submissives and bottoms would not enjoy a relationship with me. They would find it too confining. In the end, categorization helps them, and it helps me. What is the problem with this?

Just because a submissive is capable of going from submissive to slave (or the other way), does not mean that categorization has failed. It only means that things change, people evolve in their mindsets, and people learn about themselves. They mature. They grow. It is not the end-all of definitions. This is why we have profiles, likes/dislikes charts/lists, etc. This is why we have scene negotiations. The problem is that sometimes it is not necessary to know the intimate details of one's particular personality. When going to a local club, and talking with people and getting to know them, it is helpful to understand that one is submissive/dominant/master/mistress in order to understand where their particular point of view comes from, however it is superfluous to have to spend 30 minutes discussing what everyone is by unique traits when "I am a sub/dom/master/mistress/slave" would be completely adequate.

Categories do not limit a person in who they are. They are truly only a simple way to expedite communication of mindset in order to get on with a discussion without having to re-define yourself each time you talk to someone. When someone tells you that they are submissive, you immediately understand some inherent general traits about them. You understand that trying to talk about dominant specific topics/ideas might be lost on them. You also understand that they are not dominant. You understand that their thoughts are coming from a person who understands the submissive mindset, but most likely not the mindset of a Master. Conversely, a Master is not going to understand the mindset of a bottom, nor is a top going to understand the mindset of a slave. These people are basically incompatible with each other outside of friendship. A top is not going to be happy dealing with a slave personality on a long term, daily basis. This is not a good fit. A slave is not going to have their needs met by a top. Sure, they might be able to play together, and enjoy each other's company, but the basis of the relationship is imbalanced. Think of it as a see saw. Each party should be spaced at a distance that keeps the thing balanced. Should one side be too far out, they will have more pull and they will lift the other out of their place. An imbalanced relationship is an unhappy relationship. It doesn't matter how extreme the individuals are, if as a couple they balance each other out and in that harmony, they are happy.