-Put this in your profile if you know someone who has survived or died of cancer- PLEASE DO NOT TRY TO JUDGE WHO OR WHAT I AM OR WHAT I HAVE TO OFFER BY ONLY READING MY PROFILE … I AM MORE COMPLEX THAN THAT.
Just know that I am naturally dominant and I never switch; I am an Alpha male and I am wired to lead, guide, dominate, discipline and subjugate and exercise strong forceful control over a genuine submissive woman. However, I treat each submissive or slave as a unique person with different needs, cravings, anxieties, concerns, fantasies and experiences. I am not a woman-hating misogynist. I know that each submissive woman or female slave offers different talents, services, gifts, skills & pleasures.
I know that all persons have limits, some much less than others.
YES! I am a sadistic, strict, strong and forceful Dominant; but … as I often say, each BDSM relationship and each submissive woman or female slave is different.
If a Dominant wants more than role playing and 'play' time, and
seeks a genuine real life 'meaningful' BDSM relationship, there must be the realization of the responsibility and complexity involved.
He must invest the time and effort to learn about His submissive
and understand her psychological, emotional & physical essentials.
Even in the BDSM realm, in a 'serious' & true relationship,
it must be about mutualadmiration, respect and trust!
Being rude, obnoxious, profane and very aggressive & demanding
with a submissive whom you do not know,
does not make one a "true" Dominant, just ill-mannered & boorish!
*** The unique task that a true Master has is in training, disciplining & molding His submissive woman or female slave to please, satisfy & serve Him according to His needs, desires and expectations; to teach her self-renunciation & self-discipline and “break” & rebuild her without destroying her physically, mentally or spiritually. ***
NOTICE: I am dominant 100% of the time even in my "vanilla" life.
However, regarding BDSM, that part of me is personal, and
I am more confidential, discrete & very private with BDSM activities. Your secret is safe with this Sir!
FYI ... L truly enjoy spanking a woman; and I know the difference between 1) spanking for training & discipline purposes, 2) spanking to punish and correct poor behavior or unsatisfactory service; and 3) spanking for my personal pleasure. I use the Bamboo cane, leather single tail whip, studded leather paddle, leather riding crop, hair brushes, belts and/or my talented hands on the bare bottom.
I appreciate and respect those naturally submissive women who may only surrender, submit and serve privately in their personal life with the special naturally dominant man whom they admire, respect and trust.
I understand those women with a strong sense of pride, dignity and self-esteem and success in their public lives, who must live their BDSM life in secrete, while their public persona and image is protected and respected.
I acknowledge that some naturally submissive women, who need and crave to be enslaved and dominated full time, have family, business, academic and other "vanilla" responsibilities that limit their physical participation to part-time or long distance regardless of their mental bondage and emotional enslavement.
Yes ... I counsel, instruct and assist naturally submissive women
learn and understand how to be successful in the 'vanilla' world
as a business woman, professional and/or in the workplace.
I know that each submissive woman responds to different stimuli and methods of domination. Some require intellectual stimulation and more affection, love and tenderness mixed in with the domination, discipline, kink, perversions and punishments; there are those very unique & special submissive ones who just need careful micro-management, Old Guard control and sensitive nurturing in order to freely blossom & grow in their servitude and enslavement; and others need the full time micro-management and the hard-core abuse, extreme usage, degradation, humiliation, sadistic torments and painful torture.
I accept, respect and understand a woman’s need for
confidentiality, discretion and privacy.
A Dominant Master can be strong, forceful, demanding and even sadistic
and still be classy, sophisticated and a gentleman.
Although a submissive woman with a child can get complicated;
I have dated and dominated women with one or more children.
You just carefully & thoughtfully plan, prepare & protect; AND
Never expose minors to sexual, kinky depravity, sadomasochistic
or other "adult" BDSM activities.
No Problem!
Submission is more mental and emotional than it is physical; this is why a mature, intelligent and genuine slave or submissive would seek a Dominant whom they admire, respect and trust enough to bond with;
the physical aspects of being subject to strict discipline, domestic servitude, corporal punishment, kinky depravity, humbling humiliations, sadomasochistic torments, painful tortures and sexual slavery are just physical manifestations to humbly express what the slave or submissive believes and feels deep in her mind, heart and soul.
I seek to dominate, control and enslave the heart and mind of a submissive woman or female slave. Only within the context of “mental bondage” and “emotional enslavement” can there be true domination and total authoritative power over a woman ... based upon a solid foundation of admiration, respect and trust.
If a Dominant must depend upon brutality and actual physical cages, chains, ropes, shackles and other implements, facilities and equipment of restraint, bondage and detention, then he is neither her Dominant nor her Master,
he is only her jailer and she is only his prisoner.
My goal is to fully train, control, discipline, teach and mold a woman
to be the best submissive woman or female slave she is capable of being.
There must always be strict discipline and often punishment, as needed,
But never a lack of benevolence, charity, compassion and humanity!
Naturally submissive women think I make a good dominant Daddy, because
I am not only older, educated, mature and experienced, BUT ... I believe in traditional old fashioned discipline.
I am Old Guard with enforced rules, rigid protocol and high standards
for strict discipline and mandatory codes of conduct
and dress & personal hygiene for various situations;
I strongly believe in domestic discipline and corporal punishments.
BUT, I am also very protective, paternalistic and a strict disciplinarian who cares about a submissive woman’s personal development, growth and success
in both the BDSM realm and “vanilla” life; and
I provide good advice, counsel and guidance regarding life
in oder that they may achieve thier potential and avoid dangerous pitfalls.
I am also not a woman hating misogynistic brute!
I believe in "affectionate" After-Care, when required!
I care about my submissive slave, servant or babygirl,
because when with a genuine 'babygirl,'
I am a Daddy first.
Unlike too many Dominants, I do not focus mainly on the
physical body & facial attributes of a woman. To me, "beauty" is more than the height, weight, facial looks, body type.
Charactor, personality, intellect, "nature," demeanor & maturity and honesty, seriousness and trustworthiness are critical!
My dominant disposition includes a very kinky, depraved, sadistic, forceful, sexually perverted and strict nature. YES! I am into the taboo "darkness." I have many proclivities that those in the “vanilla” world would consider extremely perverted, abnormal, immoral, abhorrent, unnatural and probably illegal. But … unlike many, I am always self-disciplined and in control of my base carnal lusts and I am not addicted to my sadistic cravings and my hunger for the depravity found on the “dark” side do not rule me! I have a strong passion and a deeply rooted yearning for the BDSM lifestyle and its taboo kinky, sadomasochistic and perverted sub-culture. Yet, I am addicted to nothing but life, living and fresh clean air! I am always careful, responsible, cautious and safe in my training, discipline, sadomasochistic, forceful hard-core usage and punishment methods.
And ... although I am not selfish, when I find that "special" submissive or
female slave,I shall treasure her and not offer up her body or
share her sexual services with other men!
No swapping or swinging; no gang-bangs or group rape!
And ... never any prostitution!!
Safe, Sane, Consensual & Legal - YES!
“Crazy,” Dangerous, Irresponsible & Illegal – NO!
I am a straight heterosexual male!
I do not exclude based on race, ethnicity or national origin;
I do NOT "race-play"
I desire and seek: submissive women, female slaves and female switches who hunger to serve, obey and be used by a Dominant Male!
Remember, a slave is just a naturally submissive woman,
who agrees to submit and be owned as a "servant"
and surrenders her decision making powers to her Master
and serves without unreasonable limits or conditions!
I am into REALITY and not fantasy!
I am not into role playing, on-line relationships or cyber-sex!
Breasts are the essence of a woman’s femininity, and great,
but be natural & real and not an implanted fake!
FYI …
I am a "leg & butt" man who loves the female derrière!
I love all types of ass-play and giving spankings; and
I believe in administering enemas.
And … the
au natural women with genital hair,
Real Men follow the happy trail, and
fear not the thick bush between the thighs,
because betwixt & below lies
the sought after prize!
Intellect, Character, Trustworthiness and Class always trumps
stupidity, immaturity and breasts and ass!
And … No ‘pretentious’ egotists and no alcoholics, no druggies,
no criminals, no promiscuous whores and no smokers!
I never apologize for being articulate, intelligent, sane or thoughtful.
AND ... I love being a college educated man who has enjoyed executive, managerial & very responsible professional positions.
*** I do not Yahoo! Do not ask. I use AOL, I do not switch! ***
NOTICE: Whenever, I write to a woman, it is my 'usual' practice to attach photographs, which clearly show my face. ***
I released a damn good slave on Thanksgiving Day in 2004.SHE WAS EXCELLENT! She warned me to avoid these sites. She used to be a fetish model and to honor her, I have posted one of her photos in my profile, it is the sixth or last photo; and it is in black & white. I should have listened to the advice of my former slave in LA, and not have wasted my time, efforts and resources on sites like these. CollarMe.com is not even the site it used to be in 2005. There are too many frauds, scam artists and "game players" and others trying to market and sell various products, services or their bodies. *** I never came here to see pornographic images or nude photos or to read graphic salaciously sexual writings. I can get that anywhere these days. I was never interested in stupid immature juvenile on-line role playing or cyber sex. ***
Having grown up in Jamaica, I love Caribbean women. Although I have a hard to explain weakness for Israeli or Jewish women or Middle Eastern women (esp. Persian/Iranian, Syrian & Lebanese ... ) and East Indian women, as well as naturally submissive born again ‘conservative’ Christian or LDS women, I do not care what a woman’s religious beliefs or national origin are. OK ... green eyed women, especially natural red heads, get my juices going! However, the inner qualities trump the physical attributes any day! I just wish her to be naturally submissive, respectful & subservient by nature, as well as mature (regardless of age), honest, trustworthy and intelligent with good commonsense … being bisexual is always a plus, but not required, if she is not a “slave.” ***
*** I admire, respect and enjoy women who are active in their communities and participate in political, civil & human rights and charitable & humanitarian efforts. I also admire, respect and applaud those who make efforts to live a healthy & active lifestyle ... and are engaged in positive & productive endeavors. ***
Women in the LGBT Community
I have no problem with lesbians or women who consider their selves to be bisexual or “gay” … and those transgender women are “cool” as long as they are post-op and look, act, talk and behave like a feminine woman and have female genitalia … and are easily accepted as a woman in our American society or their local community. Boys or men who dress up like women and act feminine, we can communicate or be friends without benefits … BUT … I do not care how “pretty” you are, I do not do the homosexual thang! NUFF SAID!
Religion A woman need not be religious, but being ‘spiritual’ and having some type of belief system that guides her life and strengthens and sustains her during the suffering, struggles and survival challenges that we all face, is most desirable. I also value those with strong ethics regarding honesty, truthfulness, sincerity and making great efforts to be true to their word. YES!I am a baptized and confirmed Christian, who endeavors to follow the Ten Commandments and the teachings of Jesus Christ. However, I am not here to preach, proselytize or do missionary work. I just believe that all persons should nourish, strengthen, develop and utilize their mind and body, and also their soul … because we have a spirit. I do not care if a woman is Catholic, LDS/Mormon, Baptist, Jehovah Witness, Quaker, Anglican, Muslim, Jew, Pagan, Wicca, agnostic or atheist, I just prefer those who are naturally submissive and acknowledge their 'spiritual being' and have some type of 'positive' ethical values beliefs, which guide, sustain and serve them in life. ***
*** I do not Yahoo! Do not ask. I use AOL, I do not switch! ***
Slavery As a slave, you and your body belong to your Master, who owns you. All of your education, abilities, skills, knowledge, talents, creativity, rational thoughts and commonsense and physical strength, sexuality, eroticism, and physical, mental and emotional stamina and endurance are owned by your Master and must, at all times, be used to assist, benefit, please, serve, pleasure, comfort, worship, service, protect, help and satisfy your Master. Barring any legal restrictions, the Master owns the slave's earned compensation, financial holdings and various types of property. ***
*** Each BDSM relationship is unique and different, I make an effort to learn, know and understand the submissive woman or the female slave. I consider her physical capabilities, prior experiences, religious beliefs, personal ethics and morality, legitimate limitations, and her mental, emotional and health/medical needs. The relationship is negotiated and once a consensus is reached, although I take authority and control while I dominate, subjugate and use her, and she submits, obeys and serves me ... I remain faithful to the terms and conditions of our agreement. Some limits over time may 'crumble' after experimenting and testing. *** I shall hang around periodically for another short while or so to resolve a few interesting and positive communications with a few members, and then move to private email. If anyone is interested in an excerpt from my previous long profile narrative, please feel free to ask soon ... I have a copy. *** The Myth & Irrationality of so called “female superiority!”
*** Important Public Service Announcement *** Once again, it is time to speak the TRUTH, even if CM censors me again!
Why is there a category called female superiority, but none that is called male superiority? I notice that many submissive women and female slaves list female superiority as something they dislike, hate, tolerate and/or and list as a hard limit.
Damn! We have people on this site being offended and hating something, which does not even exist.
There is no such thing as female superiority … unless one is talking about the ability to take some hard cock (and some gay men may disagree with that) or the ability to take a man’s ejaculated jism (cum or sperm) and get pregnant and/or give birth to a baby. I can think of no empirical evidence, valid scientific research and/or any 'reasonable' argument that would reach the logical conclusion that among humans, there is female superiority.
This irrational fallacy has caused many women to suffer from delusions and buy into misconceptions regarding who and what they really are and their mythical prowess. Nothing wrong with equality of opportunity for all, but … female superiority is a fantasy of the imagination, which only leads to disappointment, depression and melancholy of the most miserable kind when the reality hits these misguided females.
It is the opinion of many learned and intelligent persons, that: it is the natural order and divine intent that women were originally designed to be naturally submissive and created to serve, pleasure, satisfy, please and worship Men, while being the Man’s dutiful help mate, sexual slave, domestic servant, personal assistant and care-giver. Think about this for a moment, the woman’s cunt (aka vagina or pussy) has no purpose but to receive and pleasure a man's penis, receive his ejaculated sperm and be the delivery channel for the product of his seed, if he impregnates her! She does not need her cunt to piss or have pleasure; she has a clitoris for erotic sexual pleasure and another little piss hole above her cunt to urinate (pee); this is the urethra (aka urinary opening). I tried to include a scientific diagram with detailed drawings of the female genitals, but, I got censored again! Education is so vital, I have provided a link below. Anyway, the women appear to be designed to accommodate, serve and pleasure a man. Oh my goodness! Who knew??? God’s master plan or evolution! ***
Get rid of the female superiority classification, activity, category or whatever it is on CM … or add Male Superiority. Once again, an easy commonsense solution is found. Problem solved!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
NUFF SAID! I am called Mr.B and I am also known as Master Barry.
Real true naturally dominant Alpha Males (and/or women, I would hope) who claim to be a Dominant or Master within the BDSM realm, do not, repeat … DO NOT … suddenly decide, “hey, my female slave, let’s switch roles today and you can Dom me and I shall be the slave … here is my whip, riding crop and Bamboo cane, and the keys to my house and the Lexus … oh boy, am I excited!!”
Excited female slave replies, “Really Master? Are you playing with poor little old me or are you serious and mean that you are my slave for the day and I am the Dominant Mistress?”Master replies, “Yep! You are in charge, Dom me all day long in any way you decide and until 6:00 AM tomorrow!”Female slave replies, “GREAT! Thanks Master … Now, I am so excited, I may have had a mini-orgasm; I am suddenly wet between my legs. "OK bitch!!" she yells at Master ... Up off your ass … you need to get your pathetic ugly ass up and in there and clean up them god-damn breakfast dishes and clean up the entire kitchen! I got some business to take care of and shall return in 30 minutes. This kitchen better be sparkling clean and sanitized … and you took a disgustingly ‘nasty’ dump in the shitter this morning after we ate … it still stinks like hell in there and some of that shit never flushed down … clean that shit up!! … and the entire bathroom too. When I get back we gonna party!”Female slave leaves.
Female slave returns 45 minutes later with beer, wine coolers and premium Vodka (bought with cash she took from Master’s wallet before she left). She is not alone. She returned with two tall thickly muscled young men who do maintenance work in the neighborhood, and a fat female hermaphrodite with a large cock. About 90 minutes later, Master was laying on the floor naked, his ass raped raw and this fat female hermaphrodite was still sitting on his face with her naked ass cheeks spread over his mouth and nose … and her flatulence was not just obnoxiously “funky” in the most toxically rank & fetid manner, she sprayed into his mouth and nose each time she farted.
Female slave and the two big muscular studs were watching the NBA play-offs on Master’s 50” HD TV with the sound off and some loud Gangsta Rap music blaring through the house! The house stunk of booze, spilt beer & wine and Mexican food … and the smell of post-coitus sweaty bodies. One of the studs had peed in the corner on Master's relatively new $3,300 carpet, and there was a pile of vomit next to his lazy boy chair.
Three hours later, game was over, and so was the party … it was 11:45 PM. Female slave got the single tail whip and lashed Master’s tender cock, thighs and buttocks and warned her Master by yelling, “I got some business to take care of and shall return in 30 minutes … muthafuckar, your sorry ass better have this shit-hole cleaned up before I get back or I am going to wear your ass out with this whip and the studded paddle!” Thankfully female slave was gone 90 minutes and Master had the house cleaned up, aired out and sprayed with Lysol … and garbage dumped. He was still struggling to get vomit residue and some stains out of the carpet, when female slave reappeared … all happy and exhausted.
Master had to fix her a hot bubble bath and wash her, while she sipped on hot decaffeinated tea with a spot of honey, which he dutifully prepared. Master could barely contain himself until 5:59 AM that morning.
Ninety days later, Master’s friends, neighbors and business partners were still speculating about where his wonderful live-in domestic help had disappeared to … the police were still looking and investigating but had no leads … they were considering closing the missing person's police report, which Master had filed so long ago. No one really knew her well, except that she was from another state and had some type of accent. There was a new $5,500 carpet in the living room now … and Master’s new domestic help was a short, frail, skinny and very submissive 19 year old bisexual young man from the Philippines, referred to him by a local temporary employment agency.
OK ... breath deeply, relax, close eyes and repeat:
"I NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT TAXES!!!
I NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT TAXES!!
I NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT TAXES!"
... so why am I feeling a little depressed?
My CPA has always worked magic
and delivered good tax returns!
YEAH!!!
Last week he warned me: very bad news ahead!
Yesterday, I wrote two checks as my CPA instructed:
California got over 20k
USA over 100k
What did I get?
A stay out of jail pass for another year!
Yeah!!!
This is not a complaint ... I never etc.
INTERESTING: So ... this 18 year old submissive female / female slave writes the following in her profile's introductory narrative: "I have mail controls turned on for those much older than me. I'm sorry for the inconvenience, however safety is my main concern."Ha ha ha ... is she really serious? She should just state that she is not interested in or attracted to older or old men. But ... do not make a blanket statement that implies that older men, as a class of people, are more apt to deceive, beat-up, rape, kidnap, steal or kill or seriously injure or harm a young woman in any way. ***
To an 18 year old like her, "much older than me" could mean anyone over the age of 30 ... yes, a 31 year old is not only ancient, but, some type of degenerate criminal.
Unless the safety concerns she refers to has to do with being embarrassed and humiliated because she cannot hold a thoughtful and intelligent conversation about issues of significance; or she would not know how to act or use a knife & fork in a high-class fine dining restaurant; or perhaps her father would find out she dated a 39 year old man, and whup her little 18 year old ass!
My alma mater, Weber State University, plays the #1 ranked Arizona this morning in San Diego, California … my home town! The Alumni Association of WSU called and offered me two free tickets to ensure there is a lot of purple & white cheering on the Weber State Wild Cats. Yeah … my ‘vanilla’ lady and I shall be there acting a fool and enjoying NCAA March Madness! Go Weber!!!
Game starts at 11:00 local time.
OK … I am enjoying the Olympics especially the US Ice Hockey teams (men and women) … good exciting fast action. The gold medal games should be exciting.
I enjoy sports on TV and in real life BUT … I am a long term die hard NBA LA Lakers fan who bleeds purple & gold and loves Kobe (the Black Mamba) and these days with all the injuries and set-backs and poor coaching, it is rough to watch. I am also a long term die-hard NFL Dallas Cowboys fan since 1967, before I really understood the game … but bullet Bob Hayes played for them and I was hooked. Jerry Jones with his micro-managing and tampering has caused the Cowboys much grief in the last nine years … I like Tony Romo, but can he take Dallas through the play offs to the Super Bowl? Damn! I am starting to doubt it.
I did select Seattle Seahawks to win the 2013-14 NFL season Super Bowl … and they did! I lived in Seattle metro area twice ... love the North West!
Btw … sissy james of the Miami Heat is not in the top five of the greatest NBA players of all times. Number 1 and best ever --- without any competition, Bill Russell of the Boston Celtics (and I hate the Celtics) … then there are Magic Johnson, Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, Karen Abdul-Jabbarand another three to five others, including the legendary Larry Bird of the Celtics, ahead of queen james formerly of the Cleveland Cavaliers, and now being carried along by the Miami Heat. Queen james is in the top 12, perhaps.
NO! Disagreeable opposing opinion on the queen james issue are not invited. Anyone who does not rank Bill Russell in their top three all-time (and ahead of the over-hyped Miss james) knows too little about NBA basketball. Thanks!
I DO NOT USE YAHOO! I DO NOT YAHOO!!!
I USE AMERICA ON LINE (AOL)! I SHALL NOT SWITCH!!!
I HAVE HAD MY AOL ACCOUNTS FOR 17 YEARS.
MY FAMILY, FRIENDS, BUSINESS ASSOCIATES & OTHERS
KNOW MY AOL ACCOUNTS.
I COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE & BUSINESSES
IN MANY STATES IN AMERICA
AND IN DIFFERENT NATIONS.
I COMMUNICATE WITH GOVERNMENT AGENCIES
AND, NO COMPLAINTS OR PROBLEMS!
THEY SEEM TO HAVE NO DIFFICULTIES WITH MY AOL EMAIL.
WHY WOULD A DOMINANT SWITCH HIS EMAIL PROVIDER
BECAUSE A SUBMISSIVE OR SLAVE INSISTS?
WHY WOULD A SUBMISSIVE OR SLAVE DEMAND SUCH?
PERHAPS, BECAUSE THEY MAY BE ANOTHER FAKE OR FRAUD.
IF SHE IS THAT IMMATURE & SHALLOW; IT WILL NOT WORK ANYWAY!
DO THEY EVEN KNOW WHAT THE WORD "SUBMISSIVE" MEANS?
Just for the Record: Being a very promiscuous cum-dump community whore or prostitute has absolutely nothing to do with being submissive! Being an extremely masochistic “pain-slut” and/or liking bondage does not mean that one is in fact “submissive” or a “slave.” Being a mentally retarded, undereducated, stupid and dumb nincompoop does not mean one is “submissive” or a slave. Parading around nude in public or displaying nude photos of yourself does not make one a “submissive” or slave.
First and foremost, a slave is a “servant,” but, a servant who serves without financial compensation (no paid wages and no salary); slaves have an owner or owners; and they serve unconditionally* at the beck & call of their owner or his/her designee. Regardless of the slave’s personality, intellect, education, talents, abilities or capacity, the slave’s primary personal traits must be obedience, attentiveness, subservience, humility, submissiveness, compliant, docile, diligence, differential, industrious and accommodating and long-suffering.
servant: A person who performs duties for others, esp. a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant; a person retained to provide various personal services to assist another or others.
I know this is a BDSM website and the “slavery” is mostly play time for many. After all, this is the 21st Century America and the modern “civilized” world. Some CollarMe.com members need to go back and study the “Leather” motorcycle gang communities after the military guys returned from World War II. They berated, beat-up, used and abused their submissive guys … and never took any sh*t from them either. They should go watch the movie, “12 Years a Slave” and read up on slavery in America and also during the times of the Roman empires and ancient Greece. Of course, I do not expect 21st Century BDSM slavery to be the same, but, at least people could have a better idea about how a slave must conduct herself.
Unconditionally* --- Believe it or not, a BDSM slave in the USA, may be sadistically abused, physically punished, forcefully sexually penetrated in any of her/his sexual orifices and painfully tortured, BUT the slave may take action to protect her/his life, health, well-being and safety from imminent danger. Slaves may also not be forced to engage in illegal activities ie. organized crime, robbery, prostitution, sex with children, use of or selling of illegal drugs and etc.
THERE ARE JUST TOO MANY FAKES, FRAUDS & PHONIES
ON THIS SITE!!
WHY PUT FORTH THE EFFORT TO JOIN A BDSM WEBSITE
JUST TO DECEIVE, MISLEAD AND F*CK WITH
PEOPLE’S MINDS,
AND WASTE THEIR TIME, EFFORTS AND RESOURCES;
AND THEN DISAPPEAR OR MOVE ON TO THE NEXT “VICTIM?”
WHAT TYPE OF PERVERSE MIND
CONJURES UP SUCH MISCHIEF?
I UNDERSTAND THE RACIAL BIGOTS,
THE WORLD AND OUR SOCIETY IS STILL BIGOTED & PREJUDICED
BASED ON RACE, COLOR, RELIGION, ETHNICITY,
NATIONAL ORIGIN, SEXUAL ORIENTATION, APPEARANCE
AND SOCIAL-ECONOMIC STATUS ETC.!
AND I ACCEPT THAT, AND MOVE ON;
NO NEED TO BE UPSET, AT LEAST, THEY ARE HONEST!
PHEW!! Got some family off to the airport and back they go! GREAT to enjoy the company of out of state family, but, it is demanding on one's time and energy. You often get caught up in their agenda and interests.Got to drive folk everywhere and show them around, especially those unfamiliar with southern California. In December, lots of religious type programs to attend as well ... it is all good! After January 1, 2014, things are back to normal. ***
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
and
HAPPY HOLIDAYS & SEASON’S GREETINGS!
Being a Christian, to me, it is about the birth of Jesus, the Christ.
But, I recognize that many celebrate other religious holidays in December, and others or not religious and just enjoy the festive month and all the joy to the world and peace on earth
with some Santa Clause gift giving thrown in.
Regardless of your beliefs, enjoy this wonderful time of year, but be careful and safe out there, no drunk driving!
It was a GREAT Thanksgiving Day
the Dallas Cowboys Won!!!
And my LA Lakers are doing better, and
Kobe is returning shortly!
-- EDUCATION TIME AGAIN --
Being a “submissive” woman (or man) and being a “slave.”
All so called “slaves” are first and foremost a naturally submissive woman (or man). It is virtually impossible to be a genuine real life slave within the BDSM lifestyle & sub-culture without being a natural submissive. However, even if you are a naturally submissive woman (or man) and you have the heart, mind & soul of a ‘true’ slave, until you are captured, subdued, owned, enslaved & subjugated and you surrender various human & civil rights and give your personal authority & decision making power to your Dominant Master (or Mistress), you are not a BDSM “slave.” You are just a naturally submissive person seeking enslavement. *** And … you shall never truly know if you have the heart, mind and soul of a slave until you are enslaved! ***
So when you list yourself as a slave in your profile, you are really saying, I am a naturally submissive woman (or man) with the heart, mind & soul of a ‘slave’ and I wish to be owned, controlled and enslaved by a Dominant Master (or Mistress) and surrender various human & civil rights and give my Owner(s) full and complete authority, control & decision making power over me and to forcefully abuse, use and subjugate me as He/She sees fit. ***
Btw … this is the 21st Century in the USA, and BDSM slaves have rights! But … that is another topic.
*** NO!!! WOMEN ARE NOT REQUIRED TO POST NUDE PHOTOS OF THEMSELVES IN THEIR PROFILE (not even slaves are required to do so). ***NO!!! YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PUBLISH YOUR PRIVATE CONTACT DATA IN YOUR PROFILE (Those that post their email address, phone number and/or first and last name in their profile are posting inaccurate & ‘misleading’ information … or … are trying to market and sell something or some services … or … they are a part of the many devious & deceitful scam artists trying to steal, hack the email or profile of others and/or commit some type of unethical, corrupt and unscrupulous dishonesty … or … they are very ‘innocent’ and naïve about the dangers of the cyber-world … or … they are trying to conduct some type of genuine business) As soon as I read someone posting their yahoo messenger IM ID, I move on! ***NO!!! Although a submissive or slave should be polite, respectful and follow appropriate BDSM culture protocol when communicating with those listed as Dominant, this does not mean that they have to behave as if they are owned and controlled by all Dominants and the slave or submissive decides whom he/she shall submit to, bow down before, obey and serve … and until they agree and commit to some type of Dominant/Domme & submissive or Master/Mistress & slave agreement, slaves and submissives are under no obligation to obey or be directed by a Dominant, unless they desire to do so *** NO!!! If a Dominant is abusive, rude and disrespectful for no good reason, when He/She first approaches a submissive or slave, then the unowned slave or submissive need not show Him/Her any respect or common courtesy. *** YES!!! Slaves or submissives who are owned or agree to be under exclusive serious considerationby a particular Dominant, must do the right thing and clearly post such information at the top of their profile in big lettering and mention such in their journal ... other Dominants need to know this! ***
Today is: 11/12/13 the 11th month & 12th day of the 13th year of this century ... how often does that happen in one's lifetime.
November 11, 2013 [The eleventh day of the eleventh month]
Veterans' Day - Today is a very special holiday!
U.S. President Woodrow Wilson first proclaimed Armistice Day for November 11, 1919. In proclaiming the holiday, he said
"To us in America, the reflections of Armistice Day will be filled with solemn pride
in the heroism of those who died in the country's service and with gratitude
for the victory, both because of the thing from which it has freed us
and because of the opportunity it has given America to show her sympathy
with peace and justice in the councils of the nations."[2]
The United States Congress passed a concurrent resolution seven years later on June 4, 1926, requesting that President Calvin Coolidge issue another proclamation to observe November 11 with appropriate ceremonies.[2] A Congressional Act (52 Stat. 351; 5 U.S. Code, Sec. 87a) approved May 13, 1938, made the 11th of November in each year a legal holiday: "a day to be dedicated to the cause of world peace and to be thereafter celebrated and known as 'Armistice Day'."
In 1945, World War II veteran Raymond Weeks from Birmingham, Alabama, had the idea to expand Armistice Day to celebrate all veterans, not just those who died in World War I. Weeks led a delegation to Gen. Dwight Eisenhower, who supported the idea of National Veterans Day. Weeks led the first national celebration in 1947 in Alabama and annually until his death in 1985. President Reagan honored Weeks at the White House with the Presidential Citizenship Medal in 1982 as the driving force for the national holiday. Elizabeth Dole, who prepared the briefing for President Reagan, determined Weeks as the "Father of Veterans Day."
U.S. Representative Ed Rees from Emporia, Kansas, presented a bill establishing the holiday through Congress. President Dwight D. Eisenhower, also from Kansas, signed the bill into law on May 26, 1954.[3]
Congress amended this act on June 1, 1954, replacing "Armistice" with "Veterans," and it has been known as Veterans Day since.
It is time for more education. --- Listen up folks, although those within the BDSM lifestyle may enjoy “swinging” as part of their preferred repartee of activities within this alternative lifestyle, extensive experience with swinging or being a long time swinger has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not a person is a Dominant or a submissive one or a slave.
***Swinging or what used to often be called wife-swapping or partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to "hooking up" with like-minded people at a ‘swingers’ club. These days, it can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online. ***
*** The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the upsurge in sexual activity during the sexual revolution of the 1960s, made possible by the invention of the contraceptive pill and the emergence of treatments for many of the sexually transmitted diseases that were known at that time. ***
*** The swinger community is sometimes referred to as "the lifestyle," or as "the alternative lifestyle." The term "swinging" has largely replaced the older term wife swapping, which has been criticized for being androcentric, for presuming that the partners are a married heterosexual couple, and for presuming that it is the male who is in control of the sexual activities. Additionally, the term "wife swapping" or "partner swapping" is criticized for not accurately describing the full range of sexual activities in which both singles or couples may engage, which is not limited to conventional sex with a person other than their regular sex partner. *** Note: The term wife-swapping took off during World War II within the officer corps of the US Air Force; because among pilots the relationships were so close and their wives were so close, and the death rate was so high and deadly disaster so immediate, it became a part of the pilot’s lifestyle to strengthen the bonds, seek intimacy and take care of each other’s wives in more way than one.
Swinging became common within “vanilla” suburbs
of the American middle class in the 1960s through the 1970s.
My Halloween Date - Check out the sixth photo after the main one. Yes! Blew my mind too, she looked so very cold & lifeless ... great costume; but unexpected!!! Well she is very artistic, creative and a model. She was a hit when we walked in, she was the "trick" and I must have been the "treat" ... hhhmmmm.
note: this photo comes down on Friday, November 1, 2013
*** I find it so very interesting and frustrating that so many so called submissive women and female slaves list in their profile that they are able, ready and willing to be trained and they live for or love or are curious about "Travel" and are willing to relocate, BUT ... when you offer them the opportunity to travel totally FREE and at NO COST to themselves, suddenly, they disappear or stop communicating or behave in a manner that shows their profile is all about bullsh*t! ***
Hey women, you do not have to write that you are willing to be trained and you do not have to indicate that you live for or love "Travel" and/or are willing to relocate ... just be honest!
This is very important! Please check out link below.
And ... then at 11:48 AM of the ninth day of the ninth month, He was delivered ... and the world was a better place!!! God was pleased!
~~~ HAPPY "MY DAY" to Me!!! ~~~
The following video teaches the more dominant partner how to gradually turn her man into a "sissy cuckold" ... not my cup of tea but many on this site enjoy being a sissy and others enjoy being a cuckhold ... oh well ... watch and learn!
Oral sex is sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia of a sex partner by the use of the mouth, tongue, teeth or throat. Cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on females while fellatio refer to oral sex performed on males. Anilingus refers to oral stimulation of a person's anus. Oral stimulation of other parts of the body (as in kissing and licking) is usually not considered oral sex. People may engage in oral sex as part of foreplay before sexual intercourse, during, or as intercourse.
Fellatio, giving head, giving a blow-job: The majority of men love this kind of stimulation, BUT, unfortunately too many men and women do not know the art of fellatio pleasure, due to all the pornographic movies and videos and getting caught up in the 'kinky' hype of shooting one's ejaculated jism all over a woman's body and face when time comes for orgasm. The greatest pleasure is holding the woman's head firmly in place and make her keep sucking and licking as she swallows a man's load ... good to the last drop. Ejaculated sperm belongs in a sexual orifice (mouth/throat, anus/rectum or vagina).
Below are videos with multiple examples of women sucking cock and men blowing their ejaculated jism. Each video is around 14 minutes, I think. In video #1 at 7:10, 9:00 & 11:36 (minutes & seconds) are examples of how a man makes sure all his load is sucked out, kept in her mouth and all is carefully swallowed by the woman ... no mess, no wasted cum and loads of pleasure!For those who do not know what glory hole services are, there are examples beginning at 7:45 of video #1.
*** All of these on-line Internet Cyber-space "juvenile" role playing games have caused younger people to actually believe that the fake make believe world of cyber-space is a reality. *** People used to prefer BDSM or "vanilla" relationships that were real, and not all this cyber sh*t!
*** I guess these days “sexting” is as good as actual in person sexual intercourse between two live warm human beings. Well … it is safe sex in terms of STD and HIV infection prevention BUT … one side effect could be getting hacked and have all your business out in public … or your “sexting” partner is sharing your erotic & sensual text messages with others and having a good laugh at your expense. ***
HUFF POST LIVE I am amazed that the TV show hosts talked so explicitly and casually about this oral sex on stage incident. I am amazed that these young TV folk did not know that oral sex was called "giving head" or "head" ... how could they not know? Ok ... OK! Major props to Rapper Danny Brown scoring some head while performing live in concert and managing to not miss a bar, lyric or beat while his man-tool was polished off! Must have been a silent orgasm; maybe the the "blower" was on too much 'blow.' Hhhhmmmmm ... all went home happy ... the audience, the crew, the rap 'artist' and the surprise guest performer! Damn! Beyonce summoned security when her lovely "phat" derrière got patted. I guess security was waved off by the rapping recepient of the oral 'performance. ~~ smile ~~
Fly to Miami via Atlanta to begin my Caribbean cruise on June 2 ... YES! This shall be good!
Stops in Bahamas, Turks & Caicos islands and Ochio Rios, Jamaica. We shall spend some time in Atlantis ... this is truly a great resort area to visit; expensive, but GREAT! I expect to climb Dunns River Falls in Jamaica for the third time, even on my painful 'jacked up & hyperextended right knee ... no pain, no glory!
This cruise should be great, the ship is huge & new, about a year old.
Jamaica rum, here I come!
Peace & Love! Mr.B
Happy Cinco de Mayo!!!
BUT … What is Cinco de Mayo holiday all about? We know it is time to be festive and party and to feast on Mexican type cuisine and drink lots of alcoholic drinks, especially Tequila and/or beer (of all types). Unfortunately, sometimes it falls on the Holy Sabbath Day for some folk, like today, Sunday. BUT … What is the Cinco de Mayo holiday all about?
Cinco de Mayo is notMexico’s Independence Day — the most important national patriotic holiday in Mexico—which is celebrated on September 16. [An irrelevant note: September 16 is my daughter’s birthday!]
Cinco de Mayo (Spanish for "fifth of May") is a celebration held on May 5. It is celebrated in the United States and regionally in Mexico, primarily in the state of Puebla, where the holiday is called El Día de la Batalla de Puebla (English: The Day of the Battle of Puebla). It originated with Mexican-American communities in the American West as a way to commemorate the cause of freedom and democracy during the first years of the American Civil War, and today the date is observed in the United States as a celebration of Mexican heritage and pride. In the state of Puebla, the date is observed to commemorate the Mexican army's unlikely victory over French forces at the Battle of Puebla on May 5, 1862, under the leadership of General Ignacio Zaragoza Seguín.
Events leading to Cinco de Mayo
Cinco de Mayo has its roots in the French occupation of Mexico, which took place in the aftermath of the Mexican-American War of 1846-48, the Mexican Civil War of 1858, and the 1860 Reform Wars. These wars left the Mexican Treasury nearly bankrupt. On July 17, 1861, Mexican President Benito Juárez issued a moratorium in which all foreign debt payments would be suspended for two years. In response, France, Britain, and Spain sent naval forces to Veracruz to demand reimbursement. Britain and Spain negotiated with Mexico and withdrew, but France, at the time ruled by Napoleon III, decided to use the opportunity to establish a Latin empire in Mexico that would favor French interests, the Second Mexican Empire.
French invasion
Late in 1861, a well-armed French fleet stormed Veracruz, landing a large French force and driving President Juárez and his government into retreat. Moving on from Veracruz towards Mexico City, the French army encountered heavy resistance from the Mexicans near Puebla, at the Mexican forts of Loreto and Guadalupe. The 8,000-strong French army attacked the much smaller and poorly equipped Mexican army of 4,500. Yet, on May 5, 1862, the Mexicans managed to decisively crush the French army, then considered "the premier army in the world".
Mexican victory
The victory represented a significant morale boost to the Mexican army and the Mexican people at large. In the description of The History Channel, "Although not a major strategic win in the overall war against the French, Zaragoza's success at Puebla represented a great symbolic victory for the Mexican government and bolstered the resistance movement." The description of Time magazine was: "The Puebla victory came to symbolize unity and pride for what seemed like a Mexican David defeating a French Goliath." It helped establish a much-needed sense of national unity and patriotism.
Events after the battle
The Mexican victory, however, was short-lived. Thirty thousand troops and a full year later, the French were able to defeat the Mexican army, capture Mexico City, and instate Emperor Maximilian I as ruler of Mexico. However, the French victory was also short-lived, lasting only three years, from 1864 to 1867. By 1865, "with the American Civil War now over, the U.S. began to provide more political and military assistance to Mexico to expel the French." Upon the conclusion of the U.S. Civil War, Napoleon III, facing a persistently tenacious Mexican guerilla resistance, the threat of war with Prussia, and "the prospect of a serious scrap with the United States", retreated from Mexico starting in 1866. The Mexicans recaptured Mexico City, and Maximilian I was apprehended and executed, along with his Mexican generals Miramón and Mejía, in the Cerro de las Campanas, Querétaro. "On June 5, 1867, Benito Juarez finally entered Mexico City where he installed a legitimate government and reorganized his administration."
Significance
The Battle of Puebla was important for at least two reasons. First, although considerably outnumbered, the Mexicans defeated a much better-equipped French army. "This battle was significant in that the 4,000 Mexican soldiers were greatly outnumbered by the well-equipped French army of 8,000 that had not been defeated for almost 50 years." Second, since the Battle of Puebla, no country in the Americas has subsequently been invaded by any other European military force.
Now go eat & drink and enjoy the festivities! Don't Drink & Drive!
The third photo in my profile features a quote
from the famous actress & singer, Marlene Dietrich.
DAMN!! Just got my final itinerary for the Caribbean cruise in June (next month) ... omg ... time does fly!
YES! I shall be on a Carnival ship, I have no fear, I just try to avoid the hard-core hurricane season, which is late June through early October. I have traveled Carnival before and had a great time! Just fly into Atlanta, then fly to Miami, spend the night in a hotel ... and board ship the next afternoon. This shall be good, I expect to climb Dunns River Falls in Jamaica for the third time, and make a third trip to the Bahamas and Atlantis. This should be great, the ship is huge & new, about a year old. Jamaica rum, here I come!
Peace & Love! Mr.B
RE: goodkiss5 Female Slave, 27, Irving, Texas
Below is another prime example as why this site is so obviously corrupted with miscreants, juvenile delinquents, criminally minded scam artists from various nations in Africa, Asia and Europe and liars, thieves and other deceitful malcontents … and I am not getting into all of the normal expected bigotries and stupidity on CollarMe.
Just saw a new profile open today, May 4, 2013. It is for someone using the screen name “goodkiss5” and this person claims to be a 27 year old lesbian in Irving, Texas and a “female slave.” Really … now, if you are a natural born American who is at least 18 years old and reasonably intelligent with at least a ninth grade education and you have lived most of your life in the American society and our culture, you will quickly discern that something is wrong with the wording of the profile’s written narrative. ***
Here is what the lesbian female slave from Texas wrote:
“I'm slave looking for master to serve 24/7 till end of my life time, I'm looking for master will take good care of me and take me as he property till end of my life time. I train in cooking: casseroles, chili, roasts, pork chops, hamburgers, sausages (various kinds, and prepared in different ways.....I also like potatoes, and gravy, and vegetable along with many meals. i have got lots of experience such as anal sex, bondage, caning, spanking, nipple clamping, breast bondage, orgasm denial, deep throat and so on. I am considerate, sensitive, respectful, very passionate, and fun-loving; have a great sense of humor; I am well-travelled (internationally) and also well-read; I have no racial hang-ups or prejudices; have above average sex drive and abilities; am drug and disease free; I am a non-smoker and drink very infrequently; I am long-lasting (lots of stamina) and can perform repeatedly; am well endowed (7 1/2 - +8") and know how to use it; I enjoy oral with the right person (receiving and giving); I will do anal, but I do not enjoy being done anally in any way; I give great massages and love long, passionate kisses, caresses and touches; I really love sex 24/7; think about it all the time; not looking for love or commitment at this time;” … this is a very interesting profile narrative. ***
All female homosexuals (aka lesbians) are women, therefore, why would one write, “I am long-lasting (lots of stamina) and can perform repeatedly; am well endowed (7 1/2 - +8") and know how to use it; …” Hhhmmmmm … take your time and ponder this, and give it serious thought and make a serious effort to give the writer the benefit of the doubt. I will not even discuss the weird ramblings of the various cookings this lesbian slave has trained in ... BUT … my experience has been that female slaves who are truly a genuine lesbian do not seek a “master” (oops! Master = male, which is wrong gender). Normally, a lesbian slave would seek a Domme or Mistress, which connote dominant female, which is the correct gender! ***
Now, I know that there are women who are hermaphrodites … yes, they do exist and there are “female pseudo-hermaphrodites” wandering around somewhere out there. But … please, women do not usually write comments about being long lasting and able to perform repeatedly … oh, and what about being well endowed with 7.5” – 8” and more … yeah, women say that all the time. RIGHT! ***
Btw … in the neighborhood I grew up in, 7.5” to 8” is average, and the least to be expected. Next time, build it up to 9” – 11” … now, your future master (or mistress) shall truly be impressed. ~~ smile ~~
Yeah ... "goodkiss5" is most likely to be the kiss of death!
Do these people think everyone on CollarMe.com is a damn fool!
Master Barry
JUST LOVE LITTLE KITTY CATS! Nothing like observing a woman in a short sexy dress who unexpectedly reveals her little kitty peeking out under her skirt between her thighs; makes a "pussy lover" want to just reach out and stroke it a few times until it purrs with pleasure. [photo # 2 in profile] YES! I love furry little pussy cats! Hhhhmmmmm ...
The LA Lakers got their ass destroyed in a first round play-off four game sweep! At least they lost to a classy organization like the San Antonia Spurs, although some of that Spurs’ group hard fouling on the not so very super Dwight Howard was a little over the top. But … this is the NBA, the big league. No tears & no fears … play ball and take your ‘beating’ and get even with dunks & hooks, blocks & rebounds, assists & steals, and making foul shots. Do not get mad, get even … be a big boy and channel your anger into ‘productive’ hard work on the hard wood floor. ***
The Black Mamba shall be back on the NBA hard wood playing in the LA purple & gold in the 2013-14 NBA season … injuries and surgeries shall not hold him down. What four others shall also start and join him on the floor?
I shall be rooting for San Antonio out west; and for any team but queen james & the Miami Heat back east, it would be nice to see the New York Knicks win the eastern conference. ***
JUST KEEPING IT REAL!!!
All you so calledsubmissive women and female slaves who keep stating in your profiles or journals how you need and desire to be fully trained in real life and are looking for a Dominant or Master to train you … here is a news flash: If you never make yourself available in real life, you will never get the training, instruction, molding and discipline you claim you need, desire and seek! Stop wasting people’s time. ***
The same goes for all you so called submissive women and female slaves who keep stating in your profile that you are willing to relocate and/or that you live for, love or like to travel … that is so much adult male bovine defecation (aka bull sh*t), when you ignore or refuse to travel or relocate when a genuine offer is made. In my personal experience, “vanilla women” are much more willing to travel and come meet a new person in another state or 100 miles or more away. As for the issue of money … unless the submissive woman or female slave states otherwise, I always offer to host, sponsor, and finance and accommodate and take care of any directly related expenses. ***
Be honest and state in your profile: Shall never relocate or travel outside my local neighborhood to meet anyone whom I have not known personally for many years. Honesty, truthfulness, candor and sincerity is not only OK …it can be very cool! ***
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Real people who are mature, intelligent and sane adults (at least 18 years old), do not … repeat, DO NOT post their real private personal phone number and/or real private personal email address in their profile for all to read and use. If they post a private email or phone number, they are one of the following:
a fraudulent scam artist trying to run some type of devious ‘money-making’ criminal venture and/or luring gullable or trusting unsuspecting 'victims' into a ‘trap’ to wreak havoc upon them
some entrepreneur trying to market or sell themselves, some talent or skill they think they have or some product they are pushing
someone doing BDSM sadomasochistic and/or erotic, sexual or ‘exotic’ dance video or web cam shows for money (could be phone sex line)
A very immature and not very “bright” person suffering from a severe case of naiveté & ignorance regarding the ‘dangers’ and ‘risks’ associated with the cyber world and being on the internet
They made the mistake and are paying the price … education is expensive
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
YES! May 1, 2013 shall be the close down date of my Collarme.com account.
On another note; Kobe Bryant of the LA Lakers may not start the 2013-14 season, but, he shall be ready to play hard in a full game by Christmas 2013. Kobe remains the MAN! That is "Mr. Bryant" to the Miami fans.
I AM AN AMERICAN CAR LOVER! I prefer to own a car with the American brand label i.e. General Motors (GM), Ford, Lincoln/Mercury and/or Chrysler. But … damn it!! If the American labels cannot (or will not) produce and get to market a well-built high quality car that one desires, and one desires to purchase immediately, what is one to do? Must one buy a car with the British, German or Japanese brand or label?
I did not think so until recently. I wanted a high quality, well made, modern small SUV hybrid car … with all of the Latest bells & whistles and electronics and cyber stuff.
About 10 days ago, my Ford and Lincoln were joined by a new 2013 Lexus RX 450h … she is a hybrid with good mileage and is so very divine! My front driveway is starting to look like a car collector’s lot. Next up … a Cadillac, back to GM for that new two door sports model Caddie with the big engine. YES! It is the epitome of American. ***
The 2013 Cadillac CTS-V Coupe, it’s pure adrenaline on wheels. From the world’s fastest family of production cars comes a coupe that satisfies more than just driving enthusiasts, it inspires true automotive fanatics. A complete package of performance, styling and capability is achieved through the 556 HP V8 engine, the aggressive styling of its aerodynamic physique and the constant traction of revolutionary dual-mode Magnetic Ride Control, which reads the road up to 1,000 times per second. The V-Coupe is a tour de force for any driving purist
Now … this type car is old school, back to the good old days of flash, power & speed! Oh YEAH!!! Mr.B
I have been away for four days and return to some exciting messages from "real" submissive women on CollarMe.com … Yippee! Oh yeah! What I have been waiting for. Ha ha ha ... The nonsense continues. Mr.B
From: hustlini [female submissive from Baton Rouge Louisiana]
Dated: 4/9/13 1:24 PM
whats new? This week is looking kind of boring, but there is plenty of time to change that up. I was thinking of grabbing a drink or two and I would hate to have to do that alone, so how would you like to come keep me company? Let me know soon at kissablemeg21 that's on h o .t. m a - i|.and i can get back to you there. Hopefully we will talk soon..
Howdy. I am a little bored, so if you want to come over and hang out I love new company. Hopefully you are around, but if not maybe I will be free again another time.. Get back 2 me soon at flirtymegan10 that's on h o t -m- a i |.so hopefully you get in touch. Goodbye.
I guess that members here are supposed to be too horny, too dumb and too unobservant to notice these things, BUT … below is an example of obviously fake fraudulent messages. Notice they all say essentially the same thing, and all include an email address with megan, megs or meg and they all use Hotmail and they all “sound about the same. There are five messages; 2 from the state of Florida, one from Arlington, Texas, one from Tucson, Arizona, and one from Denver, Colorado. Who knows where they are from; just another group of messages that waste a persons time and energy and fills up one’s in-box. In the last 18 months, I got loads of this garbage.
How are you? Just getting a second to sit down at the computer....and a message from you! ;) Something tells me this is gonna be the start of something HOT!! Dont have much time at the moment but wanted to at least say hey. When you get this,hit me back at megssuckrr825 on h-0-t m a i |,cause I'll get ur message on my phone. I'm curious what you think we should do with 30 mins alone together?!? Get in touch and let me know, getting hot just thinking about it! This is gonna be great! Megan
Whats going on? I am a little bored, so if you want to come over and hang out I love new company. Hopefully you are around, but if not maybe I will be free again another time.. Get back 2 me soon at passionatemeg84 that's on h o t -m- a i |.so hopefully you get in touch. Ciao for now.
Hello. I am a little bored, so if you want to come over and hang out I love new company. Hopefully you are around, but if not maybe I will be free again another time.. Get back 2 me soon at eazymegan61 that's on h o t -m- a i |.so hopefully you get in touch. Talk to you later.
How you doing? So what are you getting into this week? I dont need a full run down, but if you are free for a little you should come join me for dinner. Let me know when you can at kindmeg39 which is on h - o - t - m - a - i - |,and we can go from there. See ya.
How you doing? So what are you getting into this week? I dont need a full run down, but if you are free for a little you should come join me for dinner. Let me know when you can at lusciousmegan36 which is on h - o - t - m - a - i - |,and we can go from there. See ya.
Seven more days until I am no longer actively seeking, searching and/or participating on CollarMe.com. It has been eight years and almost 17 days since I first joined in February 2005. Shortly, I shall offer comments about these types of sites and those who come here underfalse pretensesor fraudulent intentions. There are some excellent con artists on here who have wasted the time, efforts, resources and thoughts of many genuine people sincerely seeking a BDSM cultural experiences and/or serious real life Master & slave or Dominant & submissive relationships. ***
In addition, Collarme.com has failed to 'police' this site the way they used to about three to five years ago. They now let anyone on and members can post or write whatever they wish in their profiles, journals or messages to others ... and members can market, sell, beg or demand in an effort to collect and obtain money from others. That was not the case when I joined; I remember when they would censor your profile or messages if you used certain words or mentioned other BDSM/Kinky websites ... not any more. ***
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
Every time I think I may decide to actively continue on this web-site, thankfully some member is so gracious and thoughtful enough to do something to remind me why this site is mostly a waste of time, energy and thought. This is good! ***
Yes! March 31, 2013 is the last datethat I shall be active on this site; and within 30 days thereafter, I shall completely remove my profile and journal writings. ***
Amen!
Mr.B
February 14, 2013 …
HAPPY ST. VALENTINE’S DAY!!!
Question of the Day
If so many of the so called
“bisexual women” and the hard-core lesbians
who hate the masculine gender of the human species …
you know, the male gender with the genital appendage
known as a “penis” and often referred to as a “cock” …
if the male human being and their penis/cock
is so disgusting to these women,
why do they keep purchasing all types of
vibrators and dildos fashioned after the male PENIS
and then these men-hating women take turns ramming
these sex toys up each other’s vagina and anus/rectum …
and stuffing down each other’s throats?
Women only need stimulate their clitoris to orgasm.
Why the male penis substitutions?
Sometimes when all alone, these same men-hating women
use these masculine sex toys discretely
when they think no one is watching or assisting.
Please, hold all the “hate mail” … please. Men and women of all sexual orientations know what is going on; and it is cool. I do not know the answer to this next question, but do 100% homosexual “gay” men purchase pocket pussies and blow up dolls of women and use them for sexual enjoyment and release? I do not think so, but, I do not know. Hhhmmmmm ***
WASHINGTON -- President Barack Obama’s second inaugural address, delivered on a crisp, overcast day at the nation’s capital, was an unapologetic one.
The president, who has spent the first four years navigating Washington as much as shaping it, used his platform on Monday to announce that his next four years will be marked by a more assertive approach. The speech wasn't devoid of the classic, Obama-esque ideal that the country itself, and the two political parties in particular, must come together for the common good. But the appeal he made wasn’t so much to the good nature of each individual lawmaker as it was to the need to confront the severity of the issues at hand.
The president talked about protecting entitlement programs upon which the elderly and the most vulnerable in society depend.
“They do not make us a nation of takers,” he declared, in a clear rebuke to the conservative House Republicans that have been his bête noire. “They free us to take the risks that make this country great.
But Obama also gave a nod to items further down on the conventional list of top priorities: climate change and election reform included.
The underlying theme was altogether consistent: it is time for the country's reasonable majority to wrest back the agenda.
JUST FOR THE RECORD:
JUST KEEPING IT REAL STILL …
This Sir is not “420 friendly” … even though I believe ‘weed’ (Ganja or marijuana) should be legalized, even if it was legal, I am not into taking such into my system and I love fresh air and pleasant smelling breath; the other really hard-core addictive & ‘psychedelic drugs … hell no! Who needs that sh*t?!?!?
I am very patient, careful and thoughtful when I train, mold, discipline and develop a new and inexperienced submissive woman or female slave into the BDSM lifestyle; I really try to know and understand my new submissive/slave first and find out about her anxieties, fears, phobias and personal history and ‘vanilla’ obligations as well as about any physical or mental limitations or medical conditions or injuries, and even religious beliefs ... all good Dominants must seek to truly KNOW their new female slave or submissive woman; I understand that if it is just “casual” play date time or a kinky encounter at a dungeon or BDSM party, this may not be so important.
I am the epitome of confidentiality, discretion and privacy; I understand that many submissive women have ‘vanilla’ responsibilities and relationships that are important to them, and they cannot afford to have certain folk in the “vanilla” world discovering their “darker” side and their submissive nature and/or their need and hunger for taboo, kinky and sadomasochistic experiences found in the BDSM sub-culture
My profile states, "I am all about reality and not fantasy!" … I am not into a bunch of role playing and I do not do the take turns switching bullsh*t (in my book, you are dominant or submissive, anything else is all games playing); and I do not engage in immature, juvenile and unsatisfying cyber-relationships, cyber-sex or on-line domination … that does not work and it is not real BDSM!
The BDSM lifestyle is not just about taboo kinky sexual experiences; it is primarily about domination, submission, strict discipline, subjugation, domestic discipline, corporal punishment, obedience, protocols & etiquette and SERVICE!
In the age of HIV infection and AIDS and all these various new strains of sexually transmitted diseases, although, I have been with plenty of promiscuous ‘whores’ and prostitute friends (without paying), I have come to the realization that I do not desire to expose myself to a BDSM community cum-dump whore who sexually serves all comers (or cummers) and prefers to be an out of control, wanton, unsafe, irresponsible and promiscuous sex-slut … besides, condoms and I do not get along; we have a long, unhappy and traumatic relationship
I realize that one way or another, men always pay for sex (even if we deny it); but, if you are ‘hooking’ and looking for a straight up cash for sexual services transaction … I am not your man, try the next guy
The article below was first entered in my journal on Monday, July 21, 2008 at 2:33 PM (Pacific). However, at the beginning of a new year, we need to start this year off right and speak truth and keep it real. This journal entry often gets lost in some later posted articles and so I am moving it to the top, so it is easier to access.
Subject: The Rights and Needs of Slaves
This often comes up and there are many opinions regarding whether or not a slave within the BDSM realm has any rights or needs that her Owner/Master must meet. As everyone agrees, for the most part, the slave is like chattel or property the way one may own and use a vehicle or animal. However, this is not 1808, this is 2008 and real slavery is outlawed in the United States, and as such, Dominants who own, control and use slaves within the BDSM realm must protect themselves and their submissive slave. ***
First, in today’s America, the Master & slave relationship is going to be governed by ‘contract’ law and remains legal and valid as long as no one is killed or gets seriously injured or suffers a grievously serious harm and/or is forcefully held against her will, because then the criminal statutes of federal, state, county and/or municipality kick in! Among the agreements to be discussed are limitations and how to dispose of, manage or confiscate the slave's property, assets, money, income and other valuables.
Second, the relationship must be between mentally competent adults who are both at least 18 years old and are able to think and consider their options and make rational decisions based upon their needs and desires and their understanding of the agreement they have with the other person. As they make these agreements, they must be free from coercion, threats of harm and unlawful fraudulent deceit and unfair manipulation. It is preferred that the submissive slave not be in desperate and destitute circumstances, and that she freely chooses to surrender her free will and be owned and controlled by a Dominant Master to whom she gives complete power and authority over her.
Third, both parties must agree on the slave’s limitations and the types of services the slave agrees to provide. The last thing a Master wants or needs is to have the police busting down his door based on a 911 call or complaint that he is holding a young woman against her will and forcing her to do all types of outrageous, perverted and painful things. Trust me, no man wants to be reading about these kinds of ‘misdeeds’ in the newspaper or watching it on the local news with his name and photo attached. The police report and criminal complaint filed in court is no fun either.
RIGHTS: YES! Within the BDSM realm, once a woman agrees to be enslaved by a Dominant Master, then she is like his property and she surrenders all power, authority and control and offer her services, talents and body to do with as he pleases. However, as a slave, she still has the right to have her life, health, safety, security and sanity protected and she has the right to not be subjected to unlawful activities and not be forced into prostitution. The slave has the right to not knowingly be exposed to life threatening infectious diseases or subjected to sadistic abuse or deliberate negligence that causes her to suffer a seriously severe harmful injury. The slave has the right to be provided shelter, sustenance & nourishment (food & water), warmth and medical attention and first aid, as may be required. How you meet these rights are up to the adults involved in the BDSM relationship. Some Masters require the slave to work outside the home and earn the money for their care and health care benefits.
NEEDS: YES! It is true; slaves have needs also. The following is an imperfect list, but it is a good start:
First and foremost, she needs to know what is expected of her and what type of services that you need for her to perform on a routine basis
She needs to know the rules, protocols, guidelines, etiquettes, dress style, grooming, sanitation, personal hygiene standards and type of communications you demand from her
The slave needs the opportunity to serve, submit, obey and be subjugated by her Master; the slave needs to feel owned, controlled & enslaved; and she needs to be able to please, amuse and satisfy the needs, cravings and proclivities of her Master; she needs to be found pleasing
She must know what her domestic duties and household chores are
The slave must know how to behave and respond when out in public with her Master … there should not be awkward confusion about who sits where in a restaurant or theatre, and how she must behave when a ‘vanilla’ business associate approaches and needs to talk to you
She needs to know what will cause her to be punished, and what will make her Master happy, pleased, satisfied and content
The slave needs intense obedience training, strict discipline, strong control and instruction regarding her lifestyle of slavery while she is enslaved, from her Master’s point of view
She must be taught about domestic discipline and corporal punishment and have a full understanding as to what that means
The slave needs to know her Master’s particular kinky proclivities, deviant sexual perversions and the types of role playing, body worship, taboo pleasures and sadistic tortures that give her Master amusement, pleasure and enjoyment
Before a Master relocates a slave and moves her into his home, the slave needs to know if she shall be in a ‘poly’ household with other slaves and also if there are underage children in a household (and disapproving spouses); the slave needs to know about tobacco smoking, pets (snakes, cats and dogs etc.) and other annoying things that may aggravate her allergies and/or scare the sh*t out of her
Most slaves (but not all), need to feel respected, appreciated, valued and cherished; they expect punishments when they have misdeeds and are lazy and negligent or provide poor service; BUT … many slaves also need and crave compliments, rewards, gifts, praise, treats and a pleasant recognition from their Master when they are very good and provide outstanding services or have their limits ‘willingly’ stretched above and beyond previous agreements ... a pat on the head and smile would not hurt either
Last but not least … some slaves need aftercare when they have been subjected to some very challenging, prolonged, intense and exhausting sadistic tortures or hard-core sexual usage sessions … aftercare may take many forms
This Sir acknowledges that there is a category of very extreme masochistic hard-core slaves who crave full time dehumanization & total objectification in addition to routine degrading humiliations and extensive painful tortures and extreme sadistic abuse without mercy or compassion; they desire to be reduced to a non-person thing that is forcible used. These are rare, but they also exist.
My recommendation: The Master (or Mistress) must document that a mentally competent, mature and intelligent adult slave with commonsense, insisted that she be treated in an inhumane and dangerous manner and be denied basic human and civil rights, even after her Master and/or Mistress explained the dangers, consequences and potential serious injury, illness, mental & emotional anguish and long term harm she may suffer. ***
That is this Sir’s humble opinion. NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
As documented in my profile and previously mentioned in my journal, sometime soon, most likelybefore March 31, 2013and perhaps as soon aswithin the next 45 days, I plan to and shall either dismantle and close my Collarme.com account or deactivate it and check it once a week or so.
Those with whom I have some sort of 'meaningful' communication or relationship with, we can or shall exchange our private email addresses, if we desire to do so.
Please know it shall be my intention to keep any and all promises and agreements previously made to any member.
FIRST --- We need some better clarification and definitions for the categories of women who claim to be submissive on CollarMe.com.
Btw … I know that some information deprived know-it-all will claim that a slave must not be listed under submissive. I shall quickly deal with that and move on, all real true female slaves within the BDSM realm must first and foremost be a naturally submissive woman; and then she must have the heart, mind and soul of a woman who needs and craves full time enslavement with a total power exchange dynamic in which she agrees to surrender all her decision making authority, except that which her Owner (Master and/or Mistress) grants to her; in addition, she considers herself to be the personal property (as in human chattel) of her owner, and as such has no rights.
I maintain that whether the BDSM lifestyle society grants the slave rights or not, we live in a 21st Century United States of America and as such, an Owner needs to ensure that there is conformity with various civil rights and human-rights laws on the federal, state and local level and the Owner must protect the life, health, sanity and well-being of the slave and not deliberately or knowingly subject them to life threatening harmful activities or force them into illegal activities.
Solution #1 :
Perhaps the categories for women who claim to be submissive ought to be:
1. Naturally submissive female
2. Role-play submissive female
3. True female no-limits slave
4. Role-play female slave
5. Community cum-dump whore
6. Owner’s personal sex-slut
7. Owner’s humble servant
This allows each Dominant to fully understand what the submissive female truly is and how she perceives her role in this BDSM sub-culture.
What About Switches: I do not consider a female “switch” to be a genuine submissivewithin the BDSM community, such individuals are mostly role players who switch up depending on who they are with and the situation the circumstances present. There are a few submissive females who are genuine but, cannot find a Dominant whom they admire, respect and trust and so they participate in the lifestyle by role playing at various times with different people.
*** Keeping it real, within the BDSM realm, women are either naturally dominant or naturally submissive; they are either born such or conditioned in their youth to be one or the other. Some naturally submissive women have the heart, mind & soul of a female slave and their commitment is much deeper and intense, and they need and crave full time subjugation and micro-management with a total power exchange. Whenever I read a profile of a submissive woman in which she claims she is submissive, but sometimes likes to switch it up and dominate, control and whip, I know she is neither a ‘true’ submissive nor a Dominant … just another “role player” seeking some taboo kinky fun. ***
SECOND --- There are too many profiles that begin or include or end with male bashing and hateful diatribes against men in general. Some women get angry if a man reads their profile. Some women pose questions or includes comments in their profile or journal writings, which many members would find interesting or provocative or curious … many times a man may respond (even in a respectful and thoughtful manner) and the woman is offended that he responded, they may even block him. My question is, why. If the man was respectful and not rude or derogatory, why be upset because a male member on Collarme.com responded. That shows immaturity and some other type of psycho-phobic hysteria. I know there are women here who only seek relationships with other women, but, unless a male member was rude, disrespectful or overly “pushy” … why all the anger and hostility. Please know I am not referring specifically to lesbians or bisexual women. I know many lesbians and bisexual women who do not hate men.
Solution #2 :
Create another CollarMe.com for females only! YES! Those women who desire to only communicate with or enter into a BDSM relationship with other women and they are offended, nauseated and/or disgusted by any interaction with men (or even the photo of a man), they can enjoy their own special sister-CollarMe.com. YEAH! Problem solved!
Then at least we, men, will know that the women on this particular CollarMe.com, whether they seek a man or not, still accept men and will communicate with them, even if they do not desire to serve them, dominate them or have sexual interaction with men.
THIRD --- Why is there a category called female superiority, but none that is called male superiority? I notice that many submissive women and female slaves list female superiority as something they dislike, hate, tolerate and/or and list as a hard limit.
Damn! We have people on this site being offended and hating something, which does not even exist. There is no such thing as female superiority … unless one is talking about the ability to take some hard cock (and some gay men may disagree with that) or the ability to take a man’s ejaculated jism (cum or sperm) and get pregnant and/or give birth to a baby, I can think of no empirical evidence, valid scientific research or objective reasonable argument that would reach the logical conclusion that among humans there is female superiority.
This irrational fallacy has caused many women to suffer from delusions and buy into misconceptions regarding who and what they really are and their mythical prowess. Nothing wrong with equality of opportunity for all, but … female superiority is a fantasy of the imagination, which only leads to disappointment, depression and melancholy of the most miserable kind when the reality hits these misguided females.
Solution #3 :
Get rid of the female superiority classification, activity, category or whatever it is … or add male superiority. Once again, an easy commonsense solution is found. Problem solved!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
January 1, 2013
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
2012 had some good & bad, but lots of UGLY!
... and then, some bad got real ugly!
But, the world is still beautiful, and what a wonderful world!
Looks like the U.S. Congress got busy, and the obstructionist Republicans decided to put the USA and its American people before partisan politics and before their GOP (Greedy Obstructionist Partisans), also known as the Republican Party.
The USA and life in America, not perfect, just the best!
Today is December 25, 2012!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
My sister's Jamaica rum fruit cake arrived on time!
I hope the gift buying left you some money ...
... because New Year's Eve is next!
I shall have a great Christmas Day, but ...
It would be better if the LA Lakers win!
My damn beloved Dallas Cowboy are impotent.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Saturday, 12/22/2012
Today is December 22, 2012, which is the anniversary of my mother's death.
Today is December 12, 2012 which makes it 12/12/12
There are just too many angry, hostile and uncivil people on CollarMe.com these days. Seems within the last 24 months or so the amount of angry, bad-mannered, discourteous, impolite, ‘rude’ and unfriendly people have increased tenfold or more, especially among women who self-identify as slave, submissive or ‘switch.’ Very few people appear to have even the most minute modicum of a sense of humor. Even during this Christmas season of good cheer & happy holidays, it is difficult to cultivate even a smidgeon of good cheer, pleasant greetings and light-hearted friendly banter. ***
I refuse to believe that almost allof these woman are caught up in a life of such frustration, desperation and destitution that they are constantly in a state of such anxiousness that they are little more than a short fuse of infuriated outrage and fuming indignation. Can the circumstances of their lifestyle and conditions in which they must exist be this debilitating, horrendous, pathetic and traumatic? ***
Hey CollarMe.com … send three Long Island Ice Tea drinks to each adult woman on the site, and a plate of nachos with plenty of salsa … put it on Master333’s tab!!! I have never been inside a WalMart, but, I suspect Target sells attitude adjustment ... think I will order a batch to distribute. ***
Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
*** On November 22, 1963, President John F. Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas Texas, and the whole world shuddered and stood still ... yes, it did. May we never forget. ***
In 1863, President Abraham Lincoln proclaimed the last Thursday in November as a national day of “Thanksgiving.” The date was moved around a couple of times until the U.S. Congress sanctioned Thanksgiving as a national holiday, always to occur on the fourth Thursday in November. In 1941 Congress set the national holiday of Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of every November. This reversed a decision by President Franklin D. Roosevelt to celebrate Thanksgiving on the third Thursday of November to give people more time to shop for Christmas. ***
Considering the encroachment of pre-mature Black Friday shopping beginning by 10:00 PM on Thanksgiving Day, perhaps President Roosevelt was right! Happy Thanksgiving!
Go Dallas Cowboys, kick some ass this afternoon!!
Recently, I had to thank a wonderful (and very attractive) 40 year old dominant woman from North Carolina for educating me regarding the genesis of this BDSM web-site called CollarMe.com.I have often wondered how a BDSM site, such as CollarMe.com, could be so overwhelmingly populated with many so called “slaves” who are not only abrasive, disrespectful, demanding and arrogant in a very smug and over confident manner ... but ... these so called “slaves” appear to know nothing about being submissive, humble, passive, subservient, selfless, courteous, obedient, deferential and compliant … AND … they have either never heard the term "proper protocol" or do not know what it means. ***
YourDreamCumTru is the Female Dominant from North Carolina of whom I speak. I came across her journal posting, which provides the historical genesis of the development of CollarMe.com. What she wrote was a real eye-opener; now I know the rest of the story! With her permission, I have posted the journal entry below. It speaks loud & clear! ~ smile ~
YourDreamCumTru - Journal entry on 10/30/2012 9:36:47 AM (Pacific)
So I was watching this movie about the antebellum South. And there were all these people on this plantation, right? And so the Master goes out and says to a slave, "Plow that field." So then this slave says, "I will do anything you say, because you know I live only to serve and please you, but I won't plow THAT field. I will plow any field that you want me to plow except for THAT one." So the Master shook his head and said, "Methinks you don't understand what the word 'slave' means," or something like that.
Then the slave went away dejected and created a website called "collarme."
;)
Hhhmmmmm ... let me do a simple calculation, there are 2080 hours in a work year (52 weeks x 40 hours per week), if someone worked a fulltime 40 hours per week. Therefore, when someone earns $60 per hour and works full time throughout the year, they could earn (2080 x 60) = 124,800.00 ... that would be $124,800.00 per year ... hhhmmmmm ... not great, but, not too bad either! Question: But, do ordinary people make that type of money?Yes! Many regular middle class people do, and there are many who earn a whole lot more, without working overtime and being paid time & a half per hour ... and this does not count a performance or incentive or retention bonus or a 401K match. I guess, some CollarMe.com members think everyone in the BDSM lifestyle and/or on CollarMe.com must be unemployed and destitute and desperate or on government public assistance or working minimum wages jobs. If being poverty stricken and under-educated are essential qualifying criteria for membership, they should let potential members know up front. ***
The Lakers have hired Mike D'Antoni to be the next head coach, according to Mike Bresnahan of the Los Angeles Times. Although D'Antoni's history with Steve Nash in Phoenix and Kobe Bryant with Team USA made him one of the front runners for the job in the wake of Mike Brown's firing, Phil Jackson had widely been perceived as the favorite for the gig. Nevertheless, the Lakers may be instituting D'Antoni's "Seven Seconds Or Less" scheme rather than the Zen Master's Triangle Offense. ***
This should work out much better than Brown ... I hope.Mr.B
The Los Angeles Lakers have fired Mike Brown from his position as head coach after a 1-4 start to the season, according to USA Today. Under Brown, the Lakers struggled to an 0-3 start, the first time the Lakers have done so since 1978-79, the season before Jerry Buss bought the team. The Lakers gained their only win of the year against the Detroit Pistons. Their fourth loss of the season came to the Utah Jazz on Wednesday.
YES! Mr. Mike Brown was and is a very nice guy, BUT ... he was not ready for prime time and had few productive coaching solutions. He was just stinking up the whole region with his incompetence. Perhaps some eastern conference team could use his, uhh, his uhh ... skills?? Bye Mike! NUFF SAID!!
HAPPY DAYS ARE HERE AGAIN!!!
President Barack H. Obama
was re-elected president ...
... and it was not even close!
Happy Halloween!!!
Let’s Hope More Treats and ...
... Less Tricks this year!
Some folk could use a break,
they get tricked all year long.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
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QUOTE OF THE DAY/MONTH/YEAR & LIFETIME
Remember, when you are down and out
And you have reached rock bottom.
Now is the time to fight your hardest,
Because the only way is up!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
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These comments were originally posted 2010. I post these comments again, because, I have often been asked what it is exactly that I seek in a submissive or slave. I guess even my abbreviated profile is too long and convoluted for someone to have to waste time and energy carefully reading to gather that information; thus I post the statements below, which I hope detail it. I confess to being particularly garrulous and long-winded at times; and I know that my writings can be tortuous for some (where are the true masochistic ones … smile). However, regardless of what I write, I know that each person is different and I always try to communicate with them and assess chemistry and compatibility in terms of needs, expectations, limitations and types of services and enslavement.
The slave or submissive must be a biological female (natural from birth or post-op transsexual female who lives and looks like a feminine woman and is accepted by her community as a 'real' woman).
I do not like to focus on the physical appearance in terms of facial features, body type or physique or racial or ethnic background. I try to focus on the inner qualities and as to whether I think the woman is being honest, serious and truthful about what she presents in her profile and what she states when we communicate. Although, I prefer a naturally submissive woman with slave potential, that is NOT a requirement! Just be for real, truthful, trustworthy and not a fraud. I am more interested in her character, personality, nature, abilities, talents, cravings, needs, fantasies and the depth of her desire to submit, obey, serve and be trained. I also constantly test her honesty, sincerity, genuineness, ethics and trust-worthiness. If a female slave or submissive woman, under consideration, is suspected or proven to be part of the fraudulent criminal element of scam-artists with a fake profile, trying to manipulate members out of money or waste their time ... she is quickly dismissed. Just For The Record: This is the ideal, I do not expect that a submissive woman or female slave must meet all of these preferences and standards or have all of these qualities when we meet.
PLEASE KNOW THAT EACH BDSM RELATIONSHIP IS SPECIAL AND UNIQUE, AND MUST BE CAREFULLY & THOUGHTFULLY NEGOTIATED IN ADVANCE
THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN/FEMALE SLAVE I SEEK & PREFER ***
I am only interested in a BDSM relationship with an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable woman, whose age qualifies her as a 'legal' adult. I prefer ‘youthful’ women who embrace learning, are engaged in positive & productive activities in real life, and have a curious, liberated & open mind. I appreciate and respect submissive woman who are gainfully employed, engaged in business, politically aware and/or involved in community or charity efforts; and who explore any artistic or creative talents they possess. I like responsible women who set personal goals and take real action to accomplish such goals. In other words, I do not insist upon, but prefer a naturally submissive woman with a life in the “vanilla” world, which she finds rewarding, worthwhile and satisfying … or at least, a submissive woman who strives every day to improve and uplift herself and others around her … I also accept those who need and hunger for full time ownership, total subjugation and consensual enslavement with a total power exchange dynamic, BUT not because they are desperate and destitute and are seeking someone to “rescue” them from their personal “hellish” Diaspora. ***
She must not be cursed with irrational bigotry and unfair prejudice. Regardless of age, she must be youthful and young-at-heart and look enthusiastically at life and its possibilities. I prefer naturally submissive women who have the heart, mind & soul of a slave … she does not need to be a self-defined slave; however, I prefer if she is ready to be taken in hand and accept strong control, strict discipline and enforced obedience. She must be intelligent, mature, honest, truthful, genuine and trustworthy AND real & sincere and committed to what she writes in her profile or journal. In her public "vanilla" life, she may be strong, dynamic and powerful; but in her private personal life with me, she should be very humble, obedient, subservient, respectful, very disciplined and well-mannered. NO! I do not seek a "door mat" with low self-esteem. ***
The ideal submissive woman or female slave would be an intelligent, thoughtful, mature and sophisticated woman who is naturally submissive with slave potential; but, she would be like a modern day version of the ancient Greek hetaerae, which were highly cultured, educated, sophisticated and intelligent companions (often referred to as "courtesans") who were often required to provide sexual services as well as companionship and conversation. Mental incompetents, morons, 'robotic' types and those devoid of good commonsense are neither needed nor desired in a serious real life and long term relationship. ***
The woman I seek must like strong, forceful, strict, kinky, sadistic naturally dominant 'Alpha' men who are confident and secure in their dominance and able to lead, direct and control and subjugate women with the strength of their character, personality, intellect, persuasive powers and communications skills without resorting to unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery. She must appreciate a dominant man who brings strong passion to the relationship and is capable of being affectionate and loving, as well as sadistic! She must know and agree that BDSM lifestyle is much more than just eroticism, sensuality or taboo kinky sexual pleasures! She should crave a dominant man who can be rough, demanding, forceful and hard-core; AND who knows how to walk, with ease, familiarity and skill on the wild-side in the darker, seamy, depraved and seedy shadows of society and satisfy his kinky, perverted & sadistic needs & taboo lusts (in a safe and sane manner), AND yet lead a normal successful life in the vanilla world. She must crave a deeply passionate man, who is loving & affectionate. ***
However, she must be very open-minded and have few inhibitions when being used by her Master. She should crave and need to enjoy extreme taboo kinky sexual perversions, “nasty” erotic decadence considered abhorrent, forceful sexual penetrations of all of her 3 sexual orifices and all forms of oral & anal sex as well as Kinging, Queening and rimming and sexual bondage, denials, torments & confinement. She must willingly get down and dirty and enjoy mental stimulation of exotic erotica and the feel, smell and taste of sexual activities! She must be an affectionate, erotic, sensual, romantic, open-minded ‘liberated’ and sexy woman with strong deep-seated passionate cravings for being forcefully sexually dominated by a Dominant Master. Nonetheless, I prefer that she be a decent and respectable woman who has a good sense of self-worth, dignity, self-confidence and humble pride, preferably involved in positive and productive activities, and no criminal activities or drug usage or alcoholism. She must be well and in good health; she MUST NOT have any HIV infection, AIDS or any other sexually transmitted disease (STD) or infectious public health diseases. I do not want the community cum-dump promiscuous slut who willing allows herself to be used by a multiple of different, unknown and strange men. She must understand that a real BDSM relationship is much more than just wild, wanton continuous kinky irresponsible sex with multiple men. Although not a requirement, I prefer her to be bi-sexual or bi-curious sexually. ***
I do not like the self-righteous hypocrites or religious zealots, but I enjoy women with a spiritual side, a religious background and/or a moral compass that they use to sustain them and guide them as they make ‘tough’ decisions and face life's many complicated and difficult challenges. ***
She must seek strict discipline with mandated rules, guidelines, structure, etiquette and protocols; but, if she is submissive and not a slave, she need not be micro-managed or subject to TPE. She must understand that this BDSM relationship is about much more than ‘wild wanton sexual depravity’ or BDSM role playing or taboo kinky sadomasochistic pleasures or painful tortures and uncomfortable confinement or physical bondage. She must faithfully submit and serve out of admiration, respect and trust. She must accept and embrace strong control and obedient subjugation, and TPE (if she is a slave). She must fully understand the ramifications of being a submissive woman or female slave in a BDSM relationship, who agrees to submit, serve and obey her chosen Dominant/Master and be controlled, disciplined and subjugated by him in a power exchange dynamic.***
She must want a real life physical intimate relationship and NOT the 'juvenile' unreal cyber-relationship bullsh*t. To submit and serve me, she must be one who offers her heart, mind and body and all of her creativity, education, eroticism, knowledge, resourcefulness, sexuality, skills, talents and physical capacity to her Master (me) to use as I please and need. She should know that she must suffer, sacrifice and struggle in order to serve, please, service and pleasure her Master and keep him comfortable, happy, pleasured, entertained, satisfied, pleased, nursed, cared-for, stress free and fulfilled. ***
She must understand that the bondage and enslavement are primarily mental, and as such, she may be a controlled and subjugated submissive woman or an enslaved female and still enjoy many aspects of the “vanilla” world; I do not fear her success or achievement in the “vanilla” world, because if she is enslaved mentally and bound to me emotionally, then I still own, control and dominate her … and her success benefits her Master, me. Btw ... my submissive woman may be employed, have a career or be a business entrepreneur who lives a self-sufficient and fairly independent life; she is not powerless, micro-managed and totally subjugated like a slave BUT she must be obedient, loyal, respectful, compliant, subservient and well disciplined. ***
If she is a slave ‘owned’ by me, then she is my slave property, and she must agree, know and understand that all of her knowledge, skills, talents, abilities and information she possess are mine, and she must generously use them to benefit, please, satisfy, protect & serve and worship her Master (and/or a Mistress, whom I designate). ***
She must have self-control and not be addicted to anything but serving her Master and LIFE! She must not be controlled by unlawful drugs or abuse prescription medication or dominated by tobacco products or be a chronic alcoholic. I do notdesire those who smoke or use illegal drugs, and I prefer either non-drinkers of alcohol or those who restrict and control their alcohol use to special or rare occasions and avoid drunkenness. ***
This happens when 'dummies' try to workout the without proper instruction and supervision ... it is not 'pretty' ... Funny? Yes! Pretty? NO!
Do NOT try this at home or the gym!
When a slave may speak or act without prior authorization
on her Master's vanilla business and concerns.
This is in response to a couple of recent discussions regarding a slave’s authority to act or speak without permission on ‘vanilla’ matters and other issues, which should not concern her.
YES! Even though a slave is not “to stick her nose” in her Master’s private business and various “vanilla” affairs and responsibilities, because she is a slave and it is none of her concern, there are three exceptions to this rule, which are:
As part of a slave’s loyalty commitment and responsibilities, she is required to immediately inform her Master (or Mistress) of any pending dangers, disasters, trauma, household ‘problems’ and criminal activity or the deviously deceitful ill-will of others, which may harm or embarrass Him/Her or adversely impact His/Her life, health, home, finances, business, career or public reputation;
If a slave observes her Master (or Mistress) struggling with an issue related to his home, business, finances, career, employment, social/community responsibilities and/or vehicle, house or yard care and maintenance, if she has information, skills, talents, education, knowledge, training or abilities or knows of resources for which He/She is eligible, she must immediately discuss such with Him/Her and offer her assistance ... but do so in a discrete, humble and respectful manner; and/or
Some Masters (or Mistresses) give their slaves authority to act or offer comments and assistance when the slave thinks she can be helpful, and the slave may feel free to act or speak under previously approved authority given ... but do so in a discrete, humble and respectful manner.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
September 11, 2012
YES! It is the 9/11 memorial day! We must never forget.
We may be kinky, depraved and sadistic or masochistic BUT ... those of us who are patriotic American citizens and others who reside in the good old USA and love this 'blessed' nation ... we never forget!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
September 9, 2012
The Ninth day of the Ninth month is my day of birth!
That makes September 9 my birthday ... the best date of the year, considering that my favorite number is three (3) and all significant things are somehow influenced or in accordance with the number three ... even my birthday, because 3 x 3 = 9 and I was born on the 9th day of the 9th month!
Can a Brotha get an "Amen!"???
Mr.B
Today’s Subject:SLAVERY
There shall be many who disagree with part or most of what I shall write, but, that does not mean what I have to say is inaccurate, unreasonable, untrue, illogical, impractical and/or inconsistent with the realities of owning a BDSM slave within the United States of America during this 21st Century.
FYI ---In this posting I refer to slaves having the female gender and Dominant/Masters having the masculine gender. Thus female pronouns and nouns refer to submissives or slaves and masculine pronouns and nouns refer to Dominants or Masters. However, I know there are Dommes/Mistresses (Dominant Women) and that there are submissive men, sissy boys and male slaves.I also know that there are homosexual, bisexual and asexual (those without sexual desire for others) and pansexual (attracted to all regardless of gender and any “sexuality") types who are dominant or submissive, and as such, Masters may have male and/or female slaves and Mistresses often also enslave male and female slaves.
Just for the record ---In this posting, I am not referring to those so called ‘slaves’ who only role play, do scenes and switch back and forth. “True” slaves do not “switch” of their own accord, unless an emergency, life threatening situation, catastrophic circumstances or dire conditions demand such. The Master of a slave may order and direct her to whip someone or give instructions to someone or block someone’s entrance BUT the slave only does so under the authoritative power of her Master and fear of displeasing Master and the possibility of harsh punishment and other punitive actions if she fails to follow Master’s instructions.
Also, for the record --- “True” slaves do not have to bow down before, submit to, compliantly obey and humbly serve others (regardless of their status) unless their Master dictates such. The “true” slave is usually polite, respectful, modest, ‘helpful, and humble when interacting with others, because that is her natural submissive nature … BUT the slave never forgets who owns, controls and enslaves her. The slave knows she is obligated to only her Master and those whom He identifies she must also serve, worship and submit before.
Firstand foremost, always remember that a ‘true’ slave within the BDSM realm MUST be a naturally submissive woman or man! Naturally submissive, as used within this context, means that being obedient, humble, subservient, compliant, respectful, deferential, acquiescent and docile comes naturally to them and a natural submissive enjoys making people pleased, satisfied and happy. It also implies that they get great joy and much satisfaction in serving, taking care of and pleasing others, especially those whom they love and/or have a close relationship with. The naturally submissive person takes great pride in her/his ability to make others comfortable, happy, pleased, satisfied and comforted. ***
Secondly, a “true” slave is a naturally submissive woman who has the heart, mind and soul of a slave. She needs, desires and craves strong, strict and forceful control, micro-management and subjugation within the context of a consensual BDSM relationship in which there is a total power exchange (TPE) agreement and the slave surrenders her personal authority and power to the Dominant whom she admires, respects and trusts enough to be her Master who owns her in real life. Slaves within the BDSM realm must accept and embrace self-renunciation (see below), domestic discipline, corporal punishment, rigid control, strict protocols, speech restrictions, archaic old-fashioned etiquette, micro-management and total subjugation. ***
Thirdly, a “true” slave is “owned” property,and is considered human chattel. As a slave, your body and material possessions belong to your Master (and/or Mistress) who own you. You and all your education, abilities, skills, knowledge, talents, creativity, rational thoughts and commonsense and physical strength, stamina and endurance are owned by your Master (and/or Mistress) and must, at all times, be used to assist, benefit, care for, comfort, please, protect, serve and worship your Master (and/or Mistress). The “true” slave surrenders herself, her body, her sexuality and 99% of her personal authority/power and self-will to her Master to forcefully abuse, control, use, torment, humiliate, work, sexually penetrate and dominate, subjugate and micro-manage as He sees fit. ***
A Dominant Master & submissive slave relationship is based upon consensual agreements that both parties fully discuss, negotiate in good faith, willing agree to and honestly commit to make the relationship work. There needs to be serious, honest and detailed communication during which both the Dominant and the slave share their individual and mutual needs, expectations, desires, fantasies, anxieties and limitations, as well as “vanilla” responsibilities and medical & health issues that may complicate or limit the Master & slave relationship. Only mature, mentally competent, intelligent people with good commonsense should enter into such a lifestyle. Both must know, understand and accept their status, role, and hierarchal position both within the established BDSM community hierarchy and their agreed upon relationship with each other. Both Master and slave must fully understand and accept the responsibilities, duties, risks, and burdens their positions require. ***
In a Master & slave relationship, there is not a competition to see who will be on top or who can win the ‘power’ struggle. A naturally submissive woman with the heart, mind and soul of a slave, is one who needs and craves being with, obeying, serving, satisfying, 'worshipping' and pleasing a Dominant whom she admires, respects and trusts enough and has complete faith and confidence in to accept as her Master who owns, trains, disciplines, uses, punishes and controls her. Thus, she willingly and happily surrenders her authority and decision making power to Him and agrees to be his personal sex-slut, play toy, domestic servant, 'masochistic' doll, personal assistant, intimate companion and faithful & loyal confidant. ***
The sole purpose of the BDSM slave in life must be to focus on the happiness, comfort, pleasure and satisfaction of her Master who owns her and to anticipate His needs, desires and cravings and attend to them without being told. Therefore, her mind must be open and liberated to accept and adjust to all taboo kinky sexual perversions, exotic erotica and forceful sexual penetrations of all her sexual orifices, and, she should embrace various forms of ‘abnormal’ depraved debauchery and demeaning sexual humiliations. Also, she must willingly surrender her body for ritual spankings/whippings, sadomasochistic torments/tortures, bondage (mental & physical), degrading humiliations and very invasive and thorough physical inspections. The slave must obtain her pleasure, joy and satisfaction and peace of mind by being totally subjugated, subservient, enslaved, controlled, used, worked and dominated by her Master, and doing all she can to make His life a pleasant, relaxing, joyous, comfortable, stress-free, fun and pleasure filled one. It is unacceptable for a slave to deny her Master or refuse Him … except in certain unique and special circumstances. ***
LIMITATIONS --- Regarding limits, unless something is a direct and serious threat to a slave's health, safety, sanity and well-being, it will not be accepted as a “hard” limit. Legitimate hard limits would include anything that is unlawful and would be a violation of the criminal code of the United States or the state or local municipality. However, a Master establishes limits and the Master is in control. The Master, not the slave, determines the limits and the slave can expect to have her limits stretched and boundaries tested and extended. The Master legally cannot threaten a slave’s life, health, safety or security or force her into any illegal activities BUT after that, there are no limits, unless there were negotiated limitations upfront that both Master and slave reached agreement on. The slave has certain basic human & civil rights in the United States of America, which a Master must protect even if the slave does not care. Such basic 'rights' shall include: life, health, security, safety, protection and the provision of adequate shelter, toilet facilities, clothing, nourishment, food, water, and access to prescribed medication or therapy, first aid, emergency treatment and medical & dental care, as needed in addition to proper hygiene and sanitation. ***
Regarding limitations --- The Master may not deliberately, knowingly and/or negligently engage in activities that threaten a slave’s life, and He shall not harm His slave by breaking her bones or subjecting her to any maiming, disfigurement or permanent serious injuries, and He shall not deliberately, knowingly and/or negligently cause her to be exposed to unwanted sexually transmitted or other infectuous public health disease or serious illness. The Master must be very careful & cautious conducting risky invasive medical-type procedures, cutting & blood-letting or ‘extreme’ body modifications, severe scarifications, immediate tattoos or excessive piercing in nontraditional ‘delicate’ places. Forcing a slave into sexual or “adult” type activities with underage children, prostitution or bestiality and/or forcing a slave to abuse prescription medications or use controled illicit drugs or other unlawful acts are all criminal acts, which are punishable by severe legal fines and long-term incarceration. ***
A slave never gets involved in her Master’s personal affairs, business transactions or other "vanilla" or BDSM relationships that He, her Owner/Master, may have, because it is none of her concern and it is neither her business nor prerogative to be involved. Unless her Master asks her point of view or seeks her opinion, she remains silent and passive on His worldly ‘vanilla’ business matters and other BDSM activities. She will obey speech restriction protocols, at all times. Her concern is about being obedient and compliant with His instructions, directives and daily needs & desires. However, if she has skills, knowledge, talents, information or education that she knows her Master needs and will be beneficial to Him, she must immediately inform Him and offer her services or information. Unless there is a prior negotiated agreement and understanding, the slave will embrace and welcome any other Dominant or Mistress or sister slave or other female submissive that He exposes her to and interact with them as He demands. ***
Please know the following:
Slaves do not have to be a hard-core masochistic pain-slut who craves dangerously extreme tortures, brutally harsh beatings and severe torments
Slaves do not have to need, desire or seek extreme humiliating & demeaning degradation
Slaves do not have to engage in activities that any reasonable, mature and sane person would consider detrimental and a threat to their health, safety, sanity and well-being
Slaves do not have to agree to dangerous & unsanitary invasive medical procedures, cuttings, body modifications, tattoos, piercings (in places you do not desire) and/or anything that would seriously harm or inhibit the ‘normal’ natural functioning of your genitals, breasts, eyes, mouth/throat or anus/rectum
Slaves do not have to agree to being restrained and confined in physical bondage and caged & locked away in some dungeon without adequate shelter, light, water, food, sanitary conditions, toilet & washing/bathing facilities, fresh air and sunshine and physical exercise
Slaves do not have to become a promiscuous community cum-dump sex slut for all to use and abuse sexually; she does not have to agree to sell her sexual services for money
Slaves do not have to violate sacred covenants and conduct and dress standards required by their religious beliefs (explain these up front and negotiate as part of your agreement)
Slaves do not have to agree to be bred against their will and give their child away (discuss these concerns up front and negotiate as part of your agreement)
Slaves do not have to accept being owned and enslaved by a Dominant they do not admire, respect and trust and in whom they have no confidence and faith
Self-renuniciation (noun) >>> the renunciation of one's own interests, rights or desires, especially for the benefit of another or others; it is the ultimate incorporation of selflessness, self-sacrifice and the personal sacrifice of acting with less concern for oneself than for the benefit, advancement, success, pleasure and satisfaction of another, others or a team/community. Self-renunciation includes self-denial and excludes selfishness; it requires one to surrender one’s personal authority, powers, rights and independent decision making authority. It demands that one surrender rights, priviledges and personal authority and power in order to serve, sacrifice and satisfy another or others.
I must offer comments about something that perhaps most so called “Doms” on CollarMe.com and other BDSM websites may disagree with, but, some things are important enough to be stated. I know that my comments may sound like pandering to the ‘lowly” and “inferior” class of submissives and slaves … BUT … I am an anomaly and an acknowledged eccentric maverick; I often deviate from the accepted conventional wisdom, when appropriate and necessary. YES! I am a nonconformist who has no problem being rebellious as the situation and circumstances dictate. I do not enjoy being a dissident, but as Shakespeare once wrote, “To thine ownself be true!” It makes sense to me. ***
The subject of today’s rant is: Whether or not slaves should be referred to as or called “worthless.” Thus, that begs the question, are slaves nothing more than “worthless” beings. Are the lowest level and most untalented and horribly obnoxious slaves who are also extremely unattractive in their physical appearance, only a mere “worthless” being? ***
I have three comments about that, they are:
The word/term worthless means that something or someone has absolutely no useful purpose, and as such, no ‘measureable’ value, provides no discernable benefit and is totally insignificant to your life or the life of others, the local community, society at large and/or the world.
I hate when submissive women or female slaves are called “worthless” … ask yourself, if a woman is totally insignificant, serves no useful purpose, provides no discernable benefit and has absolutely no value; then why are all of these so called Doms checking out her profile and sending her dozens (if not hundreds) of written messages and trying to convince her to meet them or be with them or serve them? These female slaves on this site must have something of value that these so called Doms desire and need; therefore, how can they be “worthless” … think about it. YES! A hot, wet and willing female hole (pussy, mouth or ass) is desired, valued and sought after and therefore that gives the woman who has those hot, wet and willing female holes value, and if she has other non-sexual talents, some academic education or vocational training and good domestic skills also, she has even more worth; and throw in a good personality and nice pleasant disposition and she is worth much more! Remember, a Dominant Sadist needs and values a submissive masochist, because without her He is incomplete and cannot satisfy His ‘depraved’ sadistic cravings. That makes her at least not worthless because she serves a useful purpose, has measureable value and provides discernable benefits that sadistic dominant people within the BDSM lifestyle need, crave and seek.
Perhaps, there are too many woman-hating misogynists and low self-esteem folk with fragile egos on these sites disguising themselves as Dominants or Dommes; and this is their chance to appear confident, superior and dominant, because in the real world many of them are unsuccessful, broke, unemployed, desperate and destitute and cannot get a classy attractive “sexy” youthful woman to give them the time of day. NUFF SAID!
We must always be careful when we call anyone or anything, “worthless.” Even the damn little creatures and insects that we hate. Think about this, I do NOT smoke and cannot stand the smell and suffocating effects of tobacco smoke. I could say, that for me, a cigarette is worthless. BUT … what if somehow, I got 10,000 shares of XYZ Smokes’ stock, which is the largest and prosperous tobacco cigarette producers, and the stock is valued at $60 per share and rising due to the growing markets in Asia. Suddenly, I am $600,000 richer and I am praying those Asians keep smoking like chimneys … and I start breathing a sigh of relief whenever I see an American here buy a pack or XYZ Smokes and light up! Suddenly cigarettes are not worthless. ***
A history lesson, back in the 1600’s and 1700’s, when smallpox was ravaging the world and devastating many communities and systemically killing entire families, there was another disease called cowpox, which often infected milkmaids on the farms. This cowpox was disease was more of a temporary nuisance that lasted a few days, left some scars and made the infected person miserable for a couple of days. Edward Jenner, while still in his early teens in England often heard milkmaids brag that they will never get smallpox, because they had cowpox in their systems. Many years later, Dr. Jenner scientifically researched and studied this and interviewed many farm help who had had cowpox and discovered it was true. In the face of much redicule, criticism and skepticism he began the vaccinations using cowpox in the early 1800’s and it eventually led to the cure and eradication of small pox in England, Europe and North America. [see link below] Smallpox was eradicated worldwide in late 1970's. Cowpox was not worthless after all! ***
Happy Birthday Golden Girl!!! It is hard to believe that you are now 37; you do not look like a day over 27 and are still very fit and athletic ... and your baby blues still twinkle & sparkle with warmth, wonder & excitement.
Much love & affection!
Mr.B
Las Vegas was a blast!! Very hot, as in extremely very hot … baking oven heat hot!!! But, at least it was not humid. Normally, I prefer 'Vegas trips before June and after September ... but circumstances always got me there in August, July and June. ***
Nonetheless … a great time was had by all. Not only enjoyed the Love (Cirque du Soleil) theatrical production at The Mirage, BUT also caught the Penn & Teller magic show live at the Rio Las Vegas … now this is an edgy show unlike any other magic production in Las Vegas with magic tricks, laughs and gags … and loads of audience in stage participation. Some of their stuff still got me thinking what the f*ck!!***
The drive to and from Las Vegas from southern California was a little over five hours (one way, of course) and not bad going or coming … a pleasant surprise! I guess I must have timed it just right. ***
Las Vegas!!! Here I come ... leaving bright and early at 7:00 AM on Friday, August 17 and driving to Las Vegas ... takes around five (5) hours from San Diego, California ... hell, I may let my "vanilla" female companion do about 50% of the driving; she is a much younger than me ... I start, she takes over while I chill and then when we are outside 'Vegas, I take over and cruise onto the strip! Then later in the afternoon pick up a couple from Texas at the airport and let the weekend festivities begin.
The best parts: 1) I do not have to get on another plane; 2) the three nights in a lovely hotel two bedroom and two baths suite on the strip are all paid for ... not costing us a penny ... and dinner on Friday and Saturday night are paid for also; and 3) the Love (Cirque du Soleil) theatrical production tickets (4 with excellent seats) at The Mirage are all free!! Life can be good at times!
Mr.B
October, I shall visit New Orleans for the first time, and be there for about ten days. Only bad thing, I got to climb on another plane.
RE: Speech Restrictions! --- Time to speak another TRUTH!!!
Some so called female submissives and female slaves do not accept, believe and/or understand speech restrictions. Hhhmmmmm ... sad, but true. They probably do not accept or embrace domestic discipline and corporal punishments either. Why should they, they think the BDSM lifestyle is all about wild, wanton, kinky and "exotic" sexual activities and depraved debauchery. Yes! There is a lot of that. However, BDSM stands for Bondage DisciplineSadism and Masochism. This is an alternative lifestyle with its own unique lifestyle and peculiar sub-culture. Some schools of thought state that the DS part in BDSM can also stand for Dominance and Submission. There are six key elements to the BDSM lifestyle and sub-culture; these are:
1. Domination
2. Submission
3. Discipline
4. Bondage
5. Sadism, and
6. Masochism
Even if you are a submissive woman who does not need, desire or seek bondage or sadomasochistic activities, you MUST accept, embrace and understand domination, submission and discipline or you are not serious. Part of being dominated by someone and being in submission to that Dominant is being subjected to his discipline and this often involves learning how to be respectful and complying with established protocols, etiquette, rules, instructions and guidelines. Part of being in submission and in discipline is obeying speech restrictions and knowing when, where, the manner and under what circumstances a submissive may speak to her Dominant/Domme or a slave to her Master/Mistress with or without permission. Every relationship in which there is a superior and inferior relationship has speech restrictions … parent & child, military officer & low level enlisted man, teacher & student, judge & defense attorney (in court at trial), coach & athlete, powerful corporate CEO & office clerk and etc. The mail room clerk does not bust into the CEO's office while he is meeting and say, "Damn! Look here bitch, I just seen your memo on restricted overtime, this is bullsh*t!" Some Dominants may not require or know how to implement speech restrictions and then their submissive or slave does as she pleases until instructed otherwise. In my book, in a Master & slave relationship there MUST be speech restrictions! NUFF SAID!
Since he has been running for president in the last 12 months or so, former governor of Massachusetts, Mitt Romney, has not always spoken truthfully, especially about things, which he and his team of advisors … and also his puppet masters deem to be politically incorrect; but every now and then a Freudian slip happens (also known as a ”gaffe”) and out comes the truth.
Romney introduced his new running mate, Paul Ryan, on Saturday, August 11 at a massive rally in the state of Virginia rally as “the next PRESIDENT of the United States." YES! Romney is an empty suit running away from his record as governor and his decisions as CEO at Bain. He is the flip-flop king! If elected, Romney may have the title of president, but the authority and power shall belong to Paul Ryan and the wealthy & influential puppet masters who control, dominate and direct Romney. The Republican leaders already have stated, all they need is someone capable of signing legislation they send up to him … he does not need to be able to think or propose anything.
The Los Angeles Lakers just got “Superman” (Dwight Howard) from the Orlando Magic and therefore in the 2012-13 NBA season, they shall be able to start: Kobe Bryant, Dwight Howard, Pau Gasol and Steve Nash all on the floor together with whatever other forward they desire to put on the court. Prediction: If all stay healthy and the chemistry works … next stop, after winning the NBA Western Conference, shall be hoisting the NBA championship trophy during a parade next June/July 2013 in downtown LA, after the Lakers make short work of whatever comes out of the eastern conference. Andrew Bynum could have been a great and dominant center while with the LA Lakers, but, as much as I liked the kid, he was too lazy, too lackadaisical, too prone to knee injury and too damn immature! Howard is the best center in the NBA and always brings his A+ game!! No player is perfect, but now the LA Lakers have the pieces they need. I am not a fan of Nash (and not just because he is “butt ugly” and hard to look at) … but, he is a premier and very talented All-Star point guard with excellent knowledge, talent and skills.
Life is good! Now, if only President Obama is re-elected and the Dallas Cowboys can get back to and win the NFL Super Bowl, it shall be the perfect Trifecta!!!
Mr.B
This was last posted in my journal on June 2, 2012 at 8:31:18 PM (Pacific/California time) and previously on December 23, 2011 at 11:20 AM (Pacific)
Education & Retraining Time Again!
SUBJECTS: Travel and/or Relocation
I see that many female members who self-identify as a submissive, slave or switch are still confused about the meaning of the terms “relocation” and “travel” … time to educate, inform and clarify once more. ***
TRAVEL ---when you state that you live for, love or like or are curious about “travel” … that actually means that you enjoy or look forward to going on a trip that is a long distance away from where you live and probably in a foreign country. Travel, usually involves getting on a ship, plane, train or Greyhound Bus and taking a long journey far away from your home, city and county (it usually means leaving your state, where you live). If you travel via automobile, it means driving outside of your state and going at least 600 miles away from your home.
Travel doesnot mean taking the bus around town or driving to the next county, and it does not mean a 90 minute drive up the road apiece. ***
NOTE: For those of you who live close to the border of another state or Canada or Mexico, travel does not mean running across the border to shop, gamble, party or see friends or relatives.
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RELOCATION ---- when you check that you are willing to relocate, it does not mean simply moving in with someone. As a matter of fact you can relocate to be with and near someone and not move-in with them! Relocation, is packing up all your stuff (or some of it, and discarding or giving away the rest or putting it in storage) and moving across country or very far away from home. It often means moving out of state or to another country. If you live in a large state such as California, Texas or Florida, it could mean moving within the state BUT at least 200 – 300 miles from where you were living. When you relocate, it is more than a 90 minute drive on the free-way.
Relocation is not moving across town or moving to the next county or moving six blocks to live with your family or moving 10 miles away to live with boyfriend. Those things are “moving” and not “relocating!”
NOTE: For those of you who live close to the border of another state or Canada or Mexico, even though moving out of state is technically a “relocation” it does not count as a relocation if you are hopping back and forth across the state line, because you live within 20 miles of the state line. If you are in a state bordering Mexico or Canada, then if you actually move to that nation, it is always considered a “relocation” because now you are in a foreign country and the laws, rules, culture, society, language, currency, demographics and government are usually totally different, and your American constitutional and civil legal rights no longer apply.
IF YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS ABOUT TRAVEL OR RELOCATION, PLEASE DO NOT LIST IT ... THANKS!!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
San Diego, CA USA
PRIVATE MUSING (as in pensive reflection & remembrances)
Remembering Mama on Her Birthday … July 27
My older sister texted me, as I knew she would. Today, July 27 is my now deceased mother’s birthday. I always feel guilty, even though those who know reassure me that I was a very good son for my mother. I still remember the early morning around 5:00 AM when I found her in front of my bedroom door unable to speak or get up … she was paralyzed by devastating stroke and she was obviously trying to reach my door for help when I heard the thud.
The noise woke me in an alarmed state, I was in my 20’s then and I charged out, weapon in hand, expecting to confront an intruder and almost stepped on her … those young athletic youthful bodies just jump with a split-second notice when you need them to … I had a 79 year old grandmother in one room and my 47 year old mother in another … that means, one of my jobs was defend the women folk! No intruder … I picked up mom and put her in my bed she was babbling nonsense and looking scared and wild eyed. I had to get her to the hospital … but my old car was in the “not working properly” mode again, I called my main man Mike, who lived about 12 blocks away …Mike was 6’4” and 215 lbs of rock hard athletic muscle, he was a 400 meter, high jump and long jump track star in college … who held regional records. He was in his car on the way when it started steaming and acting up, he parked it ran to a phone booth and called me … no cell or I-phones back then.
Two guys with broke down unreliable cars and no money for an ambulance … and mom is dying ... my mind is racing. I had other options of people to bother at 5:30 AM … but, damn!! … hhhmmmmm … suddenly Mike is at the door and his piece of sh*t car dies out front … somehow, perhaps divine intervention, we get my old ‘dump’ started and going, Mike loads her in the car and I am racing through the mostly empty dark streets to the nearest hospital about four to five miles away … I run in and commandeer half the emergency room staff … the medical team save her life!!
Now is when you begin to have to make tough decisions and “fight” battles with doctors, cut-happy surgeons, government bureaucrats, bored & lazy nursing staff, careless and unethical house-keeping staff and administrators of hospitals, convalescent centers and nursing homes … I was lacking money and credit and had virtually no financial resources …
… but, I have always been intelligent, astute, resourceful and blessed with a mind that can easily compartmentalize and dissect challenges and fashion pragmatic and logical strategies to overcome adversities … and before the age of the Internet, Google and personal computers, I was an expert at reading government regulations, laws and complicated small print on documents … and I was a political activist who had helped many high level politicians get elected on local, state and federal level … I could pick up the phone and get my calls answered and have a staff assigned to research my issue and assist me. Why is this important? Because my abilities and commitment ensured my mother got premium top notch care in excellent facilities and physical therapy and speech coaches and every facility she was ever in … all staff were on notice, do not f*ck with that guy’s mother because she has got someone fighting for her … and he takes no sh*t from anyone and personally knows the top local law enforcement agency heads and federal officials in regional offices.
She lived ten more years and was able to walk with a quad cane, live alone in an independent living residence with her own apartment, she could cook and care for herself … and, every facility or residence I ever put her in were new, modern, clean, safe and properly staffed and well managed.
If you ever have a loved one in a facility or ‘home’ … always drop in regularly, even for only 5 minutes and make arrangements to keep a steady flow of different people visiting her/him at all hours … this tells the staff of the facility or ‘home’ that your loved one is cared about, loved and protected and not abandoned. Except for my elderly grandmother who lived about 40 miles away, I had no family in the state, but I had male and female friends, co-workers, girlfriends (including two submissives and one slave), and church folk parading through.
Another tip … take them out places away from the facility … I took my mom on long drives, to the movies, fancy high class restaurants and night clubs and dinner at other folk’s homes … I even sent her on vacations to visit my sister in Texas and brother in North Carolina … the airlines back then took better care of the disabled and the seats had more space. Once I loaded her and my 84 year old grandmother into my car and drove to Reno Nevada to see family … I took along one of my submissive lovers who was a trained EMT and worked with disabled people at a shelter workshop. And … no, I was not driving that piece of junk, I had a newer & much better previously owned car … ever heard of a Tornado? It was a large luxury car with gear shift on the steering wheel and bench seats up front with double arm rests, which can be lifted up. On the way home, I was cruising at about 75 – 80 mph around 10:00 PM at night. Mama is sleeping in back, my submissive lover is laying down in the front seat with her head in my lap and grandma is constantly talking to me to keep me company and help me stay awake (as she put it) … she thought the “nurse” as she called my submissive lover was exhausted and sleeping after taking care of her and mama for three days. Ha ha ha … I was in cruise control with my pants undone and my submissive lover was sucking and worshipping my cock!!
Years later, when her kidneys were failing mama got dialysis three times weekly and a special disability van picked her up and took her home … nursing aides visited twice per week and home care aids visited twice weekly … cost to us = $00.00! I got her on federal Medicare, and what they did not pay for state Medicaid did … both the state and federal government paid her supplemental security income. Eventually, my mother understood why we could never live together again, because, I could not risk my salary disqualifying her for anything.
Then I got a great job offer in California … 65% pay increase, better benefits, executive position and a relocation package … I had to move in mid-October, I told my mother that after I was settled and the winter months ended, I would relocate her. Christmas season came and on December 20 I was calling long distance to mama and she had two of my lady friends with her we all sang Christmas carols via phone and my friends had her tree up; all was good. About 6:30 AM on December 22, the administrator of the independent living residential facility (a good buddy of mine) called to let me know my mother was dead … that is when the music stopped … I called my submissive lover and woke her up and told her to get her ass there and report back to me … she did, the news was the same … and final.
My guilty mind always says, mama would have lived longer, if I had not relocated. Who really knows. She always felt safe with me and her eyes always lit up and she would smile as soon as she saw me enter.
I swore I would never complain about paying taxes after the way the government hooked mom up! To date I have kept that promise.
Peace & Love!
Master.B (that is what my mother called me, nothing to do with BDSM)
I know that many of you do not like good, classy and well performed music and are not Mariah Carey fans ... do not read or listen to Harry Connick Jr. croon.
Following weeks of speculation, Fox's entertainment president Kevin Reilly made the announcement at the Fox executive session panel at the Television Critic's Association Summer Press Tour. "I'm so excited to be joining 'Idol.' I wanted to be there today and I wish I could've been there myself to tell you," Carey told the audience via phone after Reilly called her and put her on speaker. "It happened really quickly. I can't wait to get started in a couple months. Everybody have a great TCA and I will see you in January."
ATTENTION: Staight heterosexual men, lesbians and all people who truly appreciate the female human body in its most healthy, fit and perfect 'beautiful' form. If you were planning on not watching the 2012 Olympics in London, UK ... please rethink that ... let Ms. Michelle Jenneke be an inspiration and a 'revelation' regarding the visual treats that await you when you watch track & field events ... do not miss gymnastics and any events in the pool either ... ... I suggest taping the live events, then you can watch later and zoom through and skip the commercials and women's shot putters also ... unless those type of super BBW appeal to you ... to each his own!
Michelle Jenneke, a young Australian hurdler, is taking the Internet by storm with her performance during the IAAF World Junior Championship recently in Barcelona ...
Friday 13th ... still alive and all is well, at least to the best of my knowledge ...
... two ladies who went for a walk 50 minutes ago have yet to check in ... hhhmmmmm ...
NO! This is not about Obamacare. YES!!! This is really about Obama Cares!!! Is it perfect? No legislation is perfect, and when President Obama is re-elected in November 2012, he and the next US Congress can agree on amendments to improve and 'refine' this most beneficial and marvelous piece of legislation. The link above provides a simple and easy to read and understand outline of the Affordable Health Care Act of 2009.
12 years from now, when this law is in place and has become the established status quo, people will wonder what all of the hostility and outrageous debate was all about.
With this big US Supreme Court WIN for the president and when the Transportation Bill is approved and adopted this weekend, thus stimulating the economy and reducing unemployment and he gets the Congress to act to prevent the rates of student loans from being automatically raised 100% ... he will be ranked in the top 10 of all US Presidents; then when he is re-elected, by the end of Obama's second term he shall rank among the top six presidents of all time. Guaranteed!
Many of those protesting against this legislation and objecting to it and criticizing it, have been digesting too much of the unfiltered misinformation put out by right-wing ‘hate-mongering’ talk radio shows and they have been misled by these ultra-right wing conservative “talking-heads” and Republican politicians (especially those who kneel and worship at the altar of the ‘looney-bin’ Tea Party gang of “haters”) … the truly funny part of it is, they are already benefiting from some of its provisions and will benefit from more as the law continues to be phased in between now and 2014.
Good job Mr. President. Stay on the JOB! America thanks you!
P/SI have no desire to debate anyone who falls into one or more of the following categories:
A Mental incompetent who is unable to follow logical arguments and debate and respond in a thoughtful, intelligent, realistic and rational manner
An irrational zealous fanatic who does not care about facts, data, logic or compelling arguments … he or she shall cling to their ‘subjective’ beliefs and opinions come hell or high water
A totally uninformed and marginally educated ignoramus who is too ignorant and/or out-of-touch with reality to offer a reasonably informed opinion
It appears that some folk still do not understand discipline vs. punishment.
THIS IS A REPOSTING OF A JOURNAL ENTRY MADE ON 1/28/2008
Monday, January 28, 2008 at 1:33 PM (Pacific time)
Difference Between Discipline and Punishment
In both the ‘vanilla’ world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ***
DEFINITION OF DISCIPLINE
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hardworking fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples … He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ‘Master’ and referred to Him as their Teacher. ***
Discipline is teaching, programming and indoctrinating a person to behave in a very specific manner under certain types of circumstances or when faced with various challenges. It provides very specific rules, protocols, etiquettes and guidelines, which must be strictly followed. The Master or Teacher uses various forceful techniques and effective learning strategies (academic typeinstruction, reading & memorization and repetitive practice) & molding methodologies (a combination of scientific, artistic and coercive methods, including reward & punitive) in order to ensure the trainee behaves and performs in a certain required manner. Often discipline involves learning how not to follow your normal basic instincts, desires and habits when faced with certain challenges or choices. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or wellbeing. The trainee must be taught and conditioned to follow their superior with the authority and power over them without question or challenge. ***
Example:Discipline may be training a slave to stand nude and perfectly still with head bowed & eyes closed and arms folded behind her back and legs straight and feet shoulder width apart ... never to change position/move without permission unless real emergency like house on fire ... remain so even if visitors arrive and no speaking. *** The violation may be the plumber arrives to fix the guest bathroom toilet and he is shocked and says something to the slave and she instinctively speaks (without Master's permission) and covers her naked genitals and exposed breasts (without her Master's permission). *** Punishment for this obvious violation is required ... the Master determines an appropriate corrective punitive measure. ***
Instructional Phase
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is the more academic instructional that usually involves verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ***
Training Phase
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master’s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ‘vanilla’ world. ***
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up their anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ***
PUNISHMENT (The punitive “corrective” penalty function)
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately, most Dominants do not. ***
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. This is not sadomasochistic "playtime." Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective than physically hurting her. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention and correct behavior and/or improve performance; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ***
Btw …regarding spankees … he he he … some can take a really severe whipping BUT … perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière (aka ass, booty or buttocks) sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese … whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. The addition of a little public humiliation in front of those she tries to impress will get her attention, unless she enjoys public humiliation. ***
However, it is important to never kill the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ***
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance … when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently seriously injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ***
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen … hhhmmmmm … that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six-year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature ‘even tempered’ adult arrives to help you deal with it. ***
Be mature, careful and sane … we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers … but I digress. You get the general idea. ***
IN CONCLUSION
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient, compliant, deferential, subservient, submissive and respectful, and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Discipline is instructing and training a person to react and perform in a very specific and approved manner under certain specified circumstances. Punishment is about correcting defiance, misdeeds, disobedience, recalcitrance, unacceptable services and various insubordinate violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real naturally submissive woman or genuine true female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered, offended and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master. ***
Btw ... disciplinary punishment is different than subjecting a submissive woman or female slave to sadistic torture, stressful torments, harsh whippings or degrading humiliations when being done to satisfy kinky, depraved & sadistic needs or desires!
There is more to be said on this topic, but … NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir’s humble opinion …
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
Back from Vacation
Yeah Mon!! Barbados was fresh, alive and lovely! Only pain in the ass was the five hour flight between LA and Miami, especially going when we hit some major turbulence that lasted damn near 90 minutes!
Anyone familiarwith the late night clubbing and dancing nightlife down on St. Lawrence Gap district in Christ Church Parish, Barbados, will know that it is alive Caribbean style and it is HOT, HOT HOT ... as are the women, local and tourist ... lots of great action to be had by all.
Damn good beach action too ... soft white sand and strong thundering waves. Even with no hurricane nearby, the waves of southern Barbados are larger, louder and stronger than many of the other islands ... and I have visited quite a few Caribbean islands and lived in Jamaica for 10 years. Got in some pool volleyball but not as much as usual; spent more time away from the resort than I usually do; the snorkeling with the big turtles was a blast! I must confess that I was very impressed with Bridgetown, the capital city.
Went to the Plantation to enjoy the “Roots & Rhythm” live show. Funniest thing, this 18 year old white girl in my party (who had never been out of the USA) jumped up and volunteered to enter the limbo contest after the show … I thought this local Bajan woman had it won, but this little conservative cutie stepped her game up and the crowd went crazy for her and she won first place among women … who knew?
She not only got her long 5’8” slim frame under the low bar but when she pulled her tight dress up to high thigh and did the required self-choreographed booty shaking dance before going under … babygurl blew the competition away!
She has a nice ‘sexy’ little derrière, but I never expected her butt could move & shake in competition like the healthy ‘phat’ buttocks of those Barbadian women … or so everyone thought … well, the prize was a bottle of rum and real genuine jewelry from a jewelry store, and she LOVES jewelry! Ha ha ah hah!
Yeah Mon!
Mr.B
This was last posted in my journal on 12/23/2011 @ 11:20 AM (Pacific)
Education & Retraining Time Again!
SUBJECTS: Travel and/or Relocation
I see that many female members who self-identify as a submissive, slave or switch are still confused about the meaning of the terms “relocation” and “travel” … time to educate, inform and clarify once more. ***
TRAVEL --- when you state that you love or like or are curious about “travel” … that actually means that you enjoy or look forward to going on a trip that is a long distance away from where you live and probably in a foreign country. Travel, usually involves getting on a ship, plane, train or Greyhound Bus and taking a long journey far away from your home, city and county (it usually means leaving your state, where you live). If you travel via automobile, it means driving outside of your state and going at least 600 miles away from your home.
Travel doesnot mean taking the bus around town or driving to the next county, and it does not mean a 90 minute drive up the road apiece. ***
NOTE: For those of you who live close to the border of another state or Canada or Mexico, travel does not mean running across the border to shop, gamble, party or see friends or relatives.
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RELOCATION ---- when you check that you are willing to relocate, it does not mean simply moving in with someone. As a matter of fact you can relocate to be with and near someone and not move-in with them! Relocation, is packing up all your stuff (or some of it, and discarding or giving away the rest or putting it in storage) and moving across country or very far away from home. It often means moving out of state or to another country. If you live in a large state such as California, Texas or Florida, it could mean moving within the state BUT at least 200 – 300 miles from where you were living. When you relocate, it is more than a 90 minute drive on the free-way.
Relocation is not moving across town or moving to the next county or moving six blocks to live with your family or moving 10 miles away to live with boyfriend. Those things are “moving” and not “relocating!”
NOTE: For those of you who live close to the border of another state or Canada or Mexico, even though moving out of state is technically a “relocation” it does not count as a relocation if you are hopping back and forth across the state line, because you live within 20 miles of the state line. If you are in a state bordering Mexico or Canada, then if you actually move to that nation, it is always considered a “relocation” because now you are in a foreign country and the laws, rules, culture, society, language, currency, demographics and government are usually totally different, and your American constitutional and civil legal rights no longer apply.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
San Diego, CA USA
My good God!! Why are there so many mentally incompetent people on these websites?!?!? I almost prefer to deal with the corrupt, unethical, fraudulent criminal element from various African nations and the UK. At least they are smart enough to run a con game. These ‘brain dead’ types are little more than a waste of protoplasm. Then again, perhaps it is a new scam; this person may be only pretending to be mentally inept in order to drive me crazy. Damn! That sheds a whole new light on the matter … hhhmmmmm … Damn! Mr.B
... the count down continues; on Monday, June 4, I shall leave for eight days of fun in the sun, party time and chilling at a lovely all-inclusive resort in the Caribbean island of Barbados! Yeah Mon! Mr.B
It is time to say a word about what is “attractive” &“beautiful” and sexy again. This is a journal entry first posted on Saturday, May 31, 2008 at 10:24 PM (Pacific). With minor edits, it is once again posted towards the front of my journal. *** Remember, a submissive woman or female slave needs to bring more than just a cute face, voluptuous breasts and a fine ass. ***
What is 'Beauty' ... Every Dominant most likely prefers a slave or submissive that he considers beautiful, sexy and physically attractive BUT remember three things:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder --- Each Dominant has his own concept of what he may consider beautiful, sexy and attractive … therefore, just because in the ‘vanilla’ world men are begging for the pleasure of your company and putting you on a pedestal and throwing money, jewelry and material things at you to win your attention and affection … that does not mean that all Dominant men find you attractive … I do not give a damn about you being a "pretty girl." Btw … word of advice for the southern California girls; not all Dominants find super skinny anorexic looking Barbie doll types with the platinum blonde hair and narrow ‘boyish’ looking hips, flat butts and too thin weak wobbly-looking legs, and overly big fake breast implants and plastic “Hollywood” personalities to be 'attractive' ... many Dominant Males prefer more naturally voluptuous thick women with real breasts.
Beauty is as beauty does --- Attractive physical attributes such as a beautiful face and a sexy physique are great, BUT once you are found to be dishonest, untruthful and not trustworthy and especially if you are discovered to be one of many fake wannabes or manipulating criminal scammers trying to unethically and unlawfully separate a man from his cash … your beauty turns to dog feces and your desirability value is equivalent to that of last week’s newspaper used to scoop up the previously mentioned dog sh*t!
Beauty is relative in the BDSM realm --- When a genuine Dominant or Master seeks a submissive or slave … YES!! It is nice to find a real “hottie” … however, if the beautiful woman is neither submissive nor slave and not even a ‘switch’ then you cannot meet his needs and cravings! This is not some sort of ‘vanilla’ dating service like: adultfriendfinder.com. In the long term, it is your character, demeanor, attitude, behavior, maturity, self-discipline, honesty and natural submissiveness and compliant subservience that matters most … and not your beauty. It is your honest deep-seated desire to surrender your control and submit before and accept the authority, discipline, usage and training of a serious Dominant that matters most. If your new found Master is an extreme hard-core sadist, then your ability, capacity and willingness to be subjected to hard-core forceful sexual penetration and to accept dangerous & painful sadistic torture, extreme humiliations, harsh degradations, incapacitating bondage, uncomfortable confinements and strict discipline and harsh punishments that makes you attractive and desirable … not your facial features, mesmerizing & tantalizing breasts, delicious looking “bubble butt” or sexy body.
Remember that each and every Dominant has different tastes and unique cravings and a so called ‘sexy’ & ‘beauty’ hot young woman may be shocked to discover that not everyone is desperate for her attention especially if she has few other non-physical characteristics, talents, qualities and attributes that make her attractive to a genuine Dominant within the BDSM realm.
That is this Sir’s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
I am beginning to withdraw from the demoralizing, suffocating and dreary fog of ‘dispirited’ depression; it is so very disheartening to see the once proud and universally feared & respected LA Lakers NBA organization go through this period of inconsistency, incompetence, poor performances and routine failures on and off the court. The LA Lakers should have gone back to Oklahoma City with a 3-1 lead; how pathetic they were … only Kobe Bryant, Metta World Peace and Hill played as if they really wanted to compete hard and win it. As great as Kobe was, is and shall continue to be, he cannot singlehandedly win an NBA championship. Perhaps my upcoming tropical vacation shall provide the pleasures, solace and distractions I need to heal after this depressing loss. NUFF SAID!Mr.B
Today’s Subject: SLAVERY
There shall be many who disagree with part or most of what I shall write, but, that does not mean what I have to say is inaccurate, unreasonable, untrue, illogical, impractical and/or inconsistent with the realities of owning a BDSM slave within the United States of America during this 21st Century.
FYI ---In this posting I refer to slaves having the female gender and Dominant/Masters having the masculine gender. Thus female pronouns and nouns refer to submissives or slaves and masculine pronouns and nouns refer to Dominants or Masters. However, I know there are Dommes/Mistresses (Dominant Women) and that there are submissive men, sissy boys and male slaves.I also know that there are homosexual, bisexual and asexual (those without sexual desire for others) and pansexual (attracted to all regardless of gender and any “sexuality") types who are dominant or submissive, and as such, Masters may have male and/or female slaves and Mistresses often also enslave male and female slaves.
Just for the record ---In this posting, I am not referring to those so called ‘slaves’ who only role play, do scenes and switch back and forth. “True” slaves do not “switch” of their own accord, unless an emergency, life threatening situation, catastrophic circumstances or dire conditions demand such. The Master of a slave may order and direct her to whip someone or give instructions to someone or block someone’s entrance BUT the slave only does so under the authoritative power of her Master and fear of displeasing Master and the possibility of harsh punishment and other punitive actions if she fails to follow Master’s instructions.
Also, for the record --- “True” slaves do not have to bow down before, submit to, compliantly obey and humbly serve others (regardless of their status) unless their Master dictates such. The “true” slave is usually polite, respectful, modest, ‘helpful, and humble when interacting with others, because that is her natural submissive nature … BUT the slave never forgets who owns, controls and enslaves her. The slave knows she is obligated to only her Master and those whom He identifies she must also serve, worship and submit before.
Firstand foremost, always remember that a ‘true’ slave within the BDSM realm MUST be a naturally submissive woman or man! Naturally submissive, as used within this context, means that being obedient, humble, subservient, compliant, respectful, deferential, acquiescent and docile comes naturally to them and a natural submissive enjoys making people pleased, satisfied and happy. It also implies that they get great joy and much satisfaction in serving, taking care of and pleasing others, especially those whom they love and/or have a close relationship with. The naturally submissive person takes great pride in her/his ability to make others comfortable, happy, pleased, satisfied and comforted. ***
Secondly, a “true” slave is a naturally submissive woman who has the heart, mind and soul of a slave. She needs, desires and craves strong, strict and forceful control, micro-management and subjugation within the context of a consensual BDSM relationship in which there is a total power exchange (TPE) agreement and the slave surrenders her personal authority and power to the Dominant whom she admires, respects and trusts enough to be her Master who owns her in real life. Slaves within the BDSM realm must accept and embrace self-renunciation (see below), domestic discipline, corporal punishment, rigid control, strict protocols, speech restrictions, archaic old-fashioned etiquette, micro-management and total subjugation. ***
Thirdly, a “true” slave is “owned” property,and is considered human chattel. As a slave, your body and material possessions belong to your Master (and/or Mistress) who own you. You and all your education, abilities, skills, knowledge, talents, creativity, rational thoughts and commonsense and physical strength, stamina and endurance are owned by your Master (and/or Mistress) and must, at all times, be used to assist, benefit, care for, comfort, please, protect, serve and worship your Master (and/or Mistress). The “true” slave surrenders herself, her body, her sexuality and 99% of her personal authority/power and self-will to her Master to forcefully abuse, control, use, torment, humiliate, work, sexually penetrate and dominate, subjugate and micro-manage as He sees fit. ***
A Dominant Master & submissive slave relationship is based upon consensual agreements that both parties fully discuss, negotiate in good faith, willing agree to and honestly commit to make the relationship work. There needs to be serious, honest and detailed communication during which both the Dominant and the slave share their individual and mutual needs, expectations, desires, fantasies, anxieties and limitations, as well as “vanilla” responsibilities and medical & health issues that may complicate or limit the Master & slave relationship. Only mature, mentally competent, intelligent people with good commonsense should enter into such a lifestyle. Both must know, understand and accept their status, role, and hierarchal position both within the established BDSM community hierarchy and their agreed upon relationship with each other. Both Master and slave must fully understand and accept the responsibilities, duties, risks, and burdens their positions require. ***
In a Master & slave relationship, there is not a competition to see who will be on top or who can win the ‘power’ struggle. A naturally submissive woman with the heart, mind and soul of a slave, is one who needs and craves being with, obeying, serving, satisfying, 'worshipping' and pleasing a Dominant whom she admires, respects and trusts enough and has complete faith and confidence in to accept as her Master who owns, trains, disciplines, uses, punishes and controls her. Thus, she willingly and happily surrenders her authority and decision making power to Him and agrees to be his personal sex-slut, play toy, domestic servant, 'masochistic' doll, personal assistant, intimate companion and faithful & loyal confidant. ***
The sole purpose of the BDSM slave in life must be to focus on the happiness, comfort, pleasure and satisfaction of her Master who owns her and to anticipate His needs, desires and cravings and attend to them without being told. Therefore, her mind must be open and liberated to accept and adjust to all taboo kinky sexual perversions, exotic erotica and forceful sexual penetrations of all her sexual orifices, and, she should embrace various forms of ‘abnormal’ depraved debauchery and demeaning sexual humiliations. Also, she must willingly surrender her body for ritual spankings/whippings, sadomasochistic torments/tortures, bondage (mental & physical), degrading humiliations and very invasive and thorough physical inspections. The slave must obtain her pleasure, joy and satisfaction and peace of mind by being totally subjugated, subservient, enslaved, controlled, used, worked and dominated by her Master, and doing all she can to make His life a pleasant, relaxing, joyous, comfortable, stress-free, fun and pleasure filled one. It is unacceptable for a slave to deny her Master or refuse Him … except in certain unique and special circumstances. ***
LIMITATIONS --- Regarding limits, unless something is a direct and serious threat to a slave's health, safety, sanity and well-being, it will not be accepted as a “hard” limit. Legitimate hard limits would include anything that is unlawful and would be a violation of the criminal code of the United States or the state or local municipality. However, a Master establishes limits and the Master is in control. The Master, not the slave, determines the limits and the slave can expect to have her limits stretched and boundaries tested and extended. The Master legally cannot threaten a slave’s life, health, safety or security or force her into any illegal activities BUT after that, there are no limits, unless there were negotiated limitations upfront that both Master and slave reached agreement on. The slave has certain basic human & civil rights in the United States of America, which a Master must protect even if the slave does not care. Such basic 'rights' shall include: life, health, security, safety, protection and the provision of adequate shelter, toilet facilities, clothing, nourishment, food, water, and access to prescribed medication or therapy, first aid, emergency treatment and medical & dental care, as needed in addition to proper hygiene and sanitation. ***
Regarding limitations --- The Master may not deliberately, knowingly and/or negligently engage in activities that threaten a slave’s life, and He shall not harm His slave by breaking her bones or subjecting her to any maiming, disfigurement or permanent serious injuries, and He shall not deliberately, knowingly and/or negligently cause her to be exposed to unwanted sexually transmitted or other infectuous public health disease or serious illness. The Master must be very careful & cautious conducting risky invasive medical-type procedures, cutting & blood-letting or ‘extreme’ body modifications, severe scarifications, immediate tattoos or excessive piercing in nontraditional ‘delicate’ places. Forcing a slave into sexual or “adult” type activities with underage children, prostitution or bestiality and/or forcing a slave to abuse prescription medications or use controled illicit drugs or other unlawful acts are all criminal acts, which are punishable by severe legal fines and long-term incarceration. ***
A slave never gets involved in her Master’s personal affairs, business transactions or other "vanilla" or BDSM relationships that He, her Owner/Master, may have, because it is none of her concern and it is neither her business nor prerogative to be involved. Unless her Master asks her point of view or seeks her opinion, she remains silent and passive on His worldly ‘vanilla’ business matters and other BDSM activities. She will obey speech restriction protocols, at all times. Her concern is about being obedient and compliant with His instructions, directives and daily needs & desires. However, if she has skills, knowledge, talents, information or education that she knows her Master needs and will be beneficial to Him, she must immediately inform Him and offer her services or information. Unless there is a prior negotiated agreement and understanding, the slave will embrace and welcome any other Dominant or Mistress or sister slave or other female submissive that He exposes her to and interact with them as He demands. ***
Please know the following:
Slaves do not have to be a hard-core masochistic pain-slut who craves dangerously extreme tortures, brutally harsh beatings and severe torments
Slaves do not have to need, desire or seek extreme humiliating & demeaning degradation
Slaves do not have to engage in activities that any reasonable, mature and sane person would consider detrimental and a threat to their health, safety, sanity and well-being
Slaves do not have to agree to dangerous & unsanitary invasive medical procedures, cuttings, body modifications, tattoos, piercings (in places you do not desire) and/or anything that would seriously harm or inhibit the ‘normal’ natural functioning of your genitals, breasts, eyes, mouth/throat or anus/rectum
Slaves do not have to agree to being restrained and confined in physical bondage and caged & locked away in some dungeon without adequate shelter, light, water, food, sanitary conditions, toilet & washing/bathing facilities, fresh air and sunshine and physical exercise
Slaves do not have to become a promiscuous community cum-dump sex slut for all to use and abuse sexually; she does not have to agree to sell her sexual services for money
Slaves do not have to violate sacred covenants and conduct and dress standards required by their religious beliefs (explain these up front and negotiate as part of your agreement)
Slaves do not have to agree to be bred against their will and give their child away (discuss these concerns up front and negotiate as part of your agreement)
Slaves do not have to accept being owned and enslaved by a Dominant they do not admire, respect and trust and in whom they have no confidence and faith
Self-renuniciation (noun) >>> the renunciation of one's own interests, rights or desires, especially for the benefit of another or others; it is the ultimate incorporation of selflessness, self-sacrifice and the personal sacrifice of acting with less concern for oneself than for the benefit, advancement, success, pleasure and satisfaction of another, others or a team/community. Self-renunciation includes self-denial and excludes selfishness; it requires one to surrender one’s personal authority, powers, rights and independent decision making authority. It demands that one surrender rights, priviledges and personal authority and power in order to serve, sacrifice and satisfy another or others.
NUFF SAID! (for now)
Mr.B
Damn!! The count down to the tropical paradise vacation at a luxury resort in Barbados is only 15 days away! The warm waters of the Caribbean Sea ... great food ... and Barbadian rum drinks await me. YUM!! ... and many fun-filled hours of pool volleyball! Yeah!! I shall see if Barbados can match Jamaica in "party time" and rum ... I have my doubts BUT, Rihanna is a Barbadian ... who knows, I hear good reports about the party time and deh rum! Except for the long-ass flights, this shall be an excellent & wonderful get away. YEAH MON!
With the War On Women abreast, both sides of the aisle have accused the other of cynically bringing women's health issues to the forefront of political debate in an election year. But over the last few months, it seems clear that Republicans are choosing this moment to drastically overhaul existing reproductive and female health laws. And Funny Or Die is finally giving voice to the voiceless -- the millions of women who wantRepublican politicians to make decisions about their vaginas for them. [SEE VIDEO LINK ABOVE]
May 5, 2012
Happy Cinco de Mayo!!!
It is the 5th of May, which makes it Cinco de Mayo celebrations! And, this year it fell on a Saturday, how convenient for the restaurant and alcohol & beer industries. Drink carefully and responsibly … no drunk driving, please! ***
Btw … May 5 is not the official Mexican Independence Day. Mexico actually declared independence from Spain on September 16, 1810. ***
May 5, 1862 (Cinco de Mayo day) is when a small battalion of Mexican troops defeated a more powerful French army, which invaded their nation in the 1860’s, and forced the French to retreat. After that significant victory, the United States pledged military support to the Mexican army in the form of troops, weapons and ammunition to oust the French and send them home. It took five years of warfare BUT the French were eventually sent packing. Since then, the Mexican people and government have pledged their military support to the United States when crises have arisen, solidifying a partnership that began on May 5th, 1862. ***
I shall not be loading up on alcohol & beer. These days I am into sobriety and being sober and no addicting and/or intoxicating drinks, medications or substances … although when in the Caribbean islands at a resort, I will enjoy a “tropical” drink or two or three … … he he he. However, I LOVE most Mexican food and dishes, although these days, I lack the iron cast stomach of my youth, and so, although I like hot, but not too spicy hot. ***
Hey, pssst … Amigo … While you are out partying, bet a couple not too sober companions that they do not know the Mexican Independence Day … then when they say “May 5” … whip out your BlackBerry, I-Pad or I-phone and prove otherwise and take their $10! ***
Mr.B
Saturday, May 5, 2012 at 12:12 AM (Pacific) THIS IS A REPOSTING OF A JOURNAL ENTRY MADE ON 1/28/2008
Monday, January 28, 2008 at 1:33 PM (Pacific time)
Difference Between Discipline and Punishment
In both the ‘vanilla’ world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ///
DEFINITION OF DISCIPLINE
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hardworking fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples … He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ‘Master’ and referred to Him as their Teacher. ///
Discipline is teaching, programming and indoctrinating a person to behave in a very specific manner under certain types of circumstances or when faced with various challenges. It provides very specific rules, protocols, etiquettes and guidelines, which must be strictly followed. The Master or Teacher uses various forceful techniques and effective learning strategies (academic typeinstruction, reading & memorization and repetitive practice) & molding methodologies (a combination of scientific, artistic and coercive methods, including reward & punitive) in order to ensure the trainee behaves and performs in a certain required manner. Often discipline involves learning how not to follow your normal basic instincts, desires and habits when faced with certain challenges or choices. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or wellbeing. The trainee must be taught and conditioned to follow their superior with the authority and power over them without question or challenge. ///
Instructional Phase
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is the more academic instructional that usually involves verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ///
Training Phase
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master’s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ‘vanilla’ world. ///
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up their anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ///
PUNISHMENT (The punitive “corrective” penalty function)
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately, most Dominants do not. ///
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective than physically hurting her. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention and correct behavior and/or improve performance; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ///
Btw …regarding spankees … he he he … some can take a really severe whipping BUT … perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière (aka ass, booty or buttocks) sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese … whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. The addition of a little public humiliation in front of those she tries to impress will get her attention, unless she enjoys public humiliation. ///
However, it is important to never kill the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ///
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance … when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently seriously injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ///
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen … hhhmmmmm … that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six-year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature ‘even tempered’ adult arrives to help you deal with it. ///
Be mature, careful and sane … we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers … but I digress. You get the general idea. ///
IN CONCLUSION
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient, compliant, deferential, subservient, submissive and respectful, and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Punishment is about correcting misdeeds, unacceptable services and various violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real naturally submissive woman or genuine true female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master. ///
Btw ... disciplinary punishment is different than subjecting a submissive woman or female slave to sadistic torture, stressful torments, harsh whippings or degrading humiliations when being done to satisfy kinky, depraved & sadistic needs or desires!
There is more to be said on this topic, but … NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir’s humble opinion …
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
Well, they say that music is good for the soul and calms the 'beast' within ...
The LA Lakers & Kobe are winning and doing well in the NBA playoffs without the unfairly suspended (seven games was too harsh) Metta World Peace ... yes, it was an unfair punishment!
My 8 day vacation in June at an all-inclusive luxury resort on the Caribbean island of Barbados is finalized and all paid for … YES!
Did the tax man eat my lunch all last year … YES! However, did my wonderful CPA in 2012 make the state and federal IRS open up their treasure chests and fill my wheel barrow … YES! This guy only charges me $400 … I feel like I am stealing from my CPA or definitely sinning ... I pray for forgiveness … he he he …
Now … if I can just do something about this damn knee which I injured recently, and the painful & disabling horrible back ‘problems’ I get in the mornings when I sleep wrong! Damn!
My blessings far outweigh my various minor miseries … stocks up, rates up, new contract pending … ‘vanilla’ life has been very good to me in many ways. I must be thankful.
Life is good!
Mr.B
This is not BDSM folks! Caramba!
OK … just for the record, and since no one else will state these facts, I submit the following: The mere fact that someone desires or routinely participates in any of the various activities listed below, does not necessarily mean they are a genuine true slave, submissive or Dominant:
Swinging and wife or partner swapping … every major suburban community in or near big cities has some type of a swing & swap group
Prostitution or charging a fee for sexual favors; and if the entire relationship between a so called “slave” and her so called “Master” is strictly, “Get out there and sell your ass and bring me my money!” … we got a hooker and pimp thing going on more than anything else … this is not BDSM
Bestiality … over my many years I have known a few women (and even witnessed a couple) have sexual experiences with their "loving" pets (dogs) … they had no Dominant or Master and knew nothing of BDSM
Being a promiscuous cum-dump sex-slut whore … I knew girls in college who were legendary for sexually servicing the football and basketball team members; they got invited to all the best jock parties (and were passed around regularly) … one college co-ed was legendary for her oral capabilities and she got seriously & forcefully face fucked and deep throated by some huge ballers with monster cocks … this was one talented whore … BDSM? She never heard the term!
Engaging in unlawful domestic violence and illegal assault & battery on a vulnerable and terrified woman who happens to be your wife, fiancée, live in lover, girlfriend … all you are asking for here is lots of police, prosecuting attorney and court action … and the expenditure of sums of money on bail, lawyer’s fees and paying fines and perhaps doing six months to 10 years in government sponsored incarceration
And regarding all of the role playing and social scene stuff … that is a toss-up … I live in California and I have seen straight heterosexual men put on crazy costumes and prance around in the “Gay Pride” parades to show support for their friends and family members who are lesbian or gay … people watching may think they are homosexual or at least bisexual BUT they are not! Just because a woman enjoys a little kinky sex and some fun night out in a costume and role playing a scene does not make her a true slave or even a submissive in terms of the BDSM lifestyle … she is just partying
Taboo kinky sex … well, the first time a woman not only kissed and licked my ass but shoved her very long thick tongue up my ass while she jacked my penis, I was in my early 20’s and … fly me to the moon and let me gaze upon the stars and go visit planets like Jupitor and Mars … in other words BLOW MY MIND! But she knew nothing of BDSM, and I met her because her ex-boyfriend whom she broke off with because he slapped her around and got violent with her was stalking her … she found out the local District Attorney was a close friend of mine … well, the point being she was not into domestic discipline and corporal punishment or being slapped around BUT … she was a stone hard-core sexual freak and kinkster!
Tupac Shakur resurected from the dead and joined Dr. Dre and Snoop Dogg live on the main stage at Coachella (in San Diego County, California) late Sunday night.
Damn! I wondered why things were going so difficult today; it is Friday, April 13, 2012. That means it is Friday the Thirteeth! Should we not be warned in advance; are not the state and local governments required to post warnings on the local news programs and at all government agencies and public buildings, parks, beaches and facilities. Perhaps I should just go to bed now and set my alarm for 1:30 AM on Saturday the 14th of April ...
... oh my goodness, it just ocurred to me that Sunday is April 15, which is tax day!!! Ha ha ha ... wonder how many folks forgot to file and did not request an extension ... BUT when April 15 falls on the weekend, you get until the next Monday (April 16) to file. Yeah, my CPA hooked me up weeks ago ... $$$ have begun to arrive ... this guy is excellent ... he he he.
The new and lone photo was at a very hot and hard-core New Years' Eve party at a night club in San Diego, California on December 31, 2010 to ring in the 2011 New Year ... I was there with two "lovely ladies" BUT ... I deliberately avoided anyone's face being recognizable ... no one with me can be identified!! Although I list race/ethnicity as "mixed," I am a black man with Cherokee, Jamaican & African American roots! As I mentioned earlier, if I write to someone, I shall usually attach three or more photos, if I think it necessary ... Mr.B
NOTICE: The abandonment, shut-down and withdrawal process begins
The many photos of me shall be removed immediately and then, I shall essentially ignore this site except to check a couple times per week to see if anyone of interest contacted me. If I write someone, I shall attach photos. By the end of May or June 2012, I expect to have ended my active presence on CollarMe.com.
Shortly thereafter, it shall truly be "lights Out" ... as I like to say.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA USA
Today is February 29, 2012. Celebrate it and enjoy it. Many people will never see another Leap Year Day again … February 29!For those who may not know, February usually only has 28 days and only every … ahhh … fuck it, if I must explain it, why bother, because the lights must be out upstairs! Mr.B
To Whom it may concern and other interested persons ~~~
Before I abandon this site forever, please know that I offer no apology for being able to communicate in an articulate, coherent and thoughtful manner; I am not sorry for being intelligent, thoughtful, reasonable & logical in my thinking and communications; and I am most proud of the fact that I insist on being rational, pragmatic and using good commonsense regarding the balance between BDSM and the “vanilla.” ***
I have always and shall continue to enjoy thoughtful intellectual discourse, witty repartee and friendly “banter.” I am not being an egotistic “ass” when I warn someone in advance that if they take the opposing side and argue a particular issue with me, they shall “lose the debate” … I am just being honest and speaking the truth. The record to date bears me out. ***
I love & enjoy politics. Mark my word, that unless some really unfortunate tragedy or great ‘scandal’ happens between now and the first Tuesday of November 2012, our duly elected President of the United States of America and Commander-in-Chief, Mr. Barack Hussein Obama, shall be easily re-elected in November 2012 for a second term and he will have coattails sufficient to drag a large number of Democrats and progressive independents (regardless of party affiliation) in to the United States Congress this year. If re-elected and accompanied by a more 'progressive' and less 'hostile' and obstructionist U.S. Congress, President Obama shall rank as one of the greatest presidents to date, even ahead of Ronald Reagan. ***
Once again, I still maintain that the BDSM lifestyle and culture is not totally all about taboo kinky sex with a little degrading humiliation & sadistic torture thrown in for fun. It is much more; and Dominants have an awesome responsibility for the health, safety, security and well-being of the submissive and/or slaves whom they own, control, train, discipline, exploit, use, dominate and subjugate/enslave. ***
For the record--- A man can be a genuine naturally dominantAlpha Male with a sadistic, depraved, forceful and kinky nature without being a woman-hating misogynistic brute who disrespects women and does not give a damn about them. All Dominants should know that yes, even slaves have rights, even if the female slave is too ‘dumb’ to realize that, a true Master in the BDSM realm should. This is the 21st Century United States of America; do not forget it! ***
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California USA
WHAT IS THE DEAL WITH “SHAVED PUSSY?”
Why do so many profiles presenting so called female slaves or submissive females have to mention that their “pussy is shaved” … what & why? What does having a shaved pussy have to do with anything; it does not tell me a damn thing about how genuine, sincere and serious you are about the personal data and writings in your profile. It tells me nothing about your intellect, personality, character or attitude. It definitely does not tell me anything about whether or not you are a naturally submissive woman who is not only humble, subservient, obedient, compliant and/or deferential, but also honest, truthful and trustworthy. Having a shaved pussy (and especially a thoroughly waxed smooth genital area) does not mean you have the heart, mind and soul of a slave, it offers no insight into your need, desire or fantasies for taboo kinkiness, abhorrent depravity, perverted proclivities … or if you are a pain-loving masochist. So, you shave your pussy? Big deal, I live in southern California, I bet there are at least 5 million women between the age of 18 and 50 who shave their genitals. ***
***News Flash --- not all Dominant Men desire or prefer shaved pussy! ***
As for the genuine female slaves, your Master (or Mistress) who owns and controls you decides whether or not you have an unshaved hairy genital area or a smooth shaved & waxed pussy!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
THESE HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS (probably ages 16-18) WERE INTERVIEWED ABOUT SIMPLE QUESTIONS OF AMERICAN HISTORY AND POLITICAL GEOGRAPHY ... IT REVEALS THE QUALITY OF EDUCATION AND THE QUALITY OF THE MATERIAL YOUNG FOLK READ, WATCH AND STUDY ON THEIR OWN TIME; AND IT SAYS MUCH ABOUT THEIR FAMILY LIFE ... eg. some students struggled to name the Vice President of America and one guessed "Bin Laden" ... well ... HHHmmmmm ... damn! Guess again ... two more guesses ...
Those who are unable to quickly read, the light is out!
Mr.B
Damn! My first journal entry of 2012!
January 21, 2012
Today’s Rant
I must offer comments about something that perhaps most so called “Doms” on CollarMe.com and other BDSM websites may disagree with, but, some things are important enough to be stated. I know that my comments may sound like pandering to the ‘lowly” and “inferior” class of submissives and slaves … BUT … I am an anomaly and an acknowledged eccentric maverick; I often deviate from the accepted conventional wisdom, when appropriate and necessary. YES! I am a nonconformist who has no problem being rebellious as the situation and circumstances dictate. I do not enjoy being a dissident, but as Shakespeare once wrote, “To thine ownself be true!” It makes sense to me. ***
The subject of today’s rant is: Whether or not slaves should be referred to as or called “worthless.” Thus, that begs the question, are slaves nothing more than “worthless” beings. Are the lowest level and most untalented and horribly obnoxious slaves who are also extremely unattractive in their physical appearance, only a mere “worthless” being? ***
I have three comments about that, they are:
The word/term worthlessmeans that something or someone has absolutely no useful purpose, and as such, no ‘measureable’ value, provides no discernable benefit and is totally insignificant to your life or the life of others, the local community, society at large and/or the world.
I hate when submissive women or female slaves are called “worthless” … ask yourself, if a woman is totally insignificant, serves no useful purpose, provides no discernable benefit and has absolutely no value; then why are all of these so called Doms checking out her profile and sending her dozens (if not hundreds) of written messages and trying to convince her to meet them or be with them or serve them? These female slaves on this site must have something of value that these so called Doms desire and need; therefore, how can they be “worthless” … think about it. YES! A hot, wet and willing female hole (pussy, mouth or ass) is desired, valued and sought after and therefore that gives the woman who has those hot, wet and willing female holes value, and if she has other non-sexual talents, some academic education or vocational training and good domestic skills also, she has even more worth; and throw in a good personality and nice pleasant disposition and she is worth much more! Remember, a Dominant Sadist needs and values a submissive masochist, because without her He is incomplete and cannot satisfy His ‘depraved’ sadistic cravings. That makes her at least not worthless because she serves a useful purpose, has measureable value and provides discernable benefits that sadistic dominant people within the BDSM lifestyle need, crave and seek.
Perhaps, there are too many woman-hating misogynists and low self-esteem folk with fragile egos on these sites disguising themselves as Dominants or Dommes; and this is their chance to appear confident, superior and dominant, because in the real world many of them are unsuccessful, broke, unemployed, desperate and destitute and cannot get a classy attractive “sexy” youthful woman to give them the time of day. NUFF SAID!
We must always be careful when we call anyone or anything, “worthless.” Even the damn little creatures and insects that we hate. Think about this, I do NOT smoke and cannot stand the smell and suffocating effects of tobacco smoke. I could say, that for me, a cigarette is worthless. BUT … what if somehow, I got 10,000 shares of XYZ Smokes’ stock, which is the largest and prosperous tobacco cigarette producers, and the stock is valued at $60 per share and rising due to the growing markets in Asia. Suddenly, I am $600,000 richer and I am praying those Asians keep smoking like chimneys … and I start breathing a sigh of relief whenever I see an American here buy a pack or XYZ Smokes and light up! Suddenly cigarettes are not worthless. ***
A history lesson, back in the 1600’s and 1700’s, when smallpox was ravaging the world and devastating many communities and systemically killing entire families, there was another disease called cowpox, which often infected milkmaids on the farms. This cowpox was disease was more of a temporary nuisance that lasted a few days, left some scars and made the infected person miserable for a couple of days. Edward Jenner, while still in his early teens in England often heard milkmaids brag that they will never get smallpox, because they had cowpox in their systems. Many years later, Dr. Jenner scientifically researched and studied this and interviewed many farm help who had had cowpox and discovered it was true. In the face of much redicule, criticism and skepticism he began the vaccinations using cowpox in the early 1800’s and it eventually led to the cure and eradication of small pox in England, Europe and North America. [see link below] Smallpox was eradicated worldwide in late 1970's. Cowpox was not worthless after all! ***
HAPPY NEW YEAR'S GREETINGS ... and best wishes to all!!! Tomorrow, Sunday, January 1, 2012 is the beginning of the new year. Damn! This year flew by. Guess, I shall be catching up with you all on the flip side in the new year of 2012, which shall be my last year on CollarMe.com.
Peace & Love! That is Jamaica style! ... already making plans for another Caribbean island resort vacation.
Mr.B
San Diego, CA USA
Education & Retraining Time Again!
SUBJECTS: Travel and/or Relocation
I see that many female members who self identify as a submissive, slaves or switches are still confused about the meaning of the terms “relocation” and “travel” … time to educate, inform and clarify once more. ***
TRAVEL --- when you state that you love or like or are curious about “travel” … that actually means that you enjoy or look forward to going on a trip that is a long distance away from where you live and probably in a foreign country. Travel, usually involves getting on a ship, plane, train or Greyhound Bus and taking a long journey far away from your home, city and county (it usually means leaving your state, where you live). If you travel via automobile, it means driving outside of your state and going at least 600 miles away from your home.
Travel doesnot mean taking the bus around town or driving to the next county, and it does not mean a 90 minute drive up the road apiece. ***
NOTE: For those of you who live close to the border of another state or Canada or Mexico, travel does not mean running across the border to shop, gamble, party or see friends or relatives.
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RELOCATION ---- when you check that you are willing to relocate, it does not mean simply moving in with someone. As a matter of fact you can relocate to be with and near someone and not move-in with them! Relocation, is packing up all your stuff (or some of it, and discarding or giving away the rest or putting it in storage) and moving across country or very far away from home. It often means moving out of state or to another country. If you live in a large state such as California, Texas or Florida, it could mean moving within the state BUT at least 200 – 300 miles from where you were living. When you relocate, it is more than a 90 minute drive on the free-way.
Relocation is not moving across town or moving to the next county or moving six blocks to live with your family or moving 10 miles away to live with boyfriend. Those things are “moving” and not “relocating!”
NOTE: For those of you who live close to the border of another state or Canada or Mexico, even though moving out of state is technically a “relocation” it does not count as a relocation if you are hopping back and forth across the state line, because you live within 25 miles of the state line. If you are in a state bordering Mexico or Canada, then if you actually move to that nation, it is always considered a “relocation” because now you are in a foriegn country and the laws, rules, culture, society, language, currency, demographics and government are usually totally different, and your American rights no longer apply.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
San Diego, CA USA
Is it just me, or does anyoneelse get the feeling that too many of these self-described “female slaves” or “submissive females” come on this site looking for a traditional “vanilla” love & marriage, or seeking “hot guys” to hook up with, have sex with & date, or are women who are just bored with their “vanilla” lives and are looking for something new and interesting to amuse themselves while killing time. Seems some are lost and think they are on a traditional “vanilla” dating site. ***
Another interesting development, which I have noticed in the last 15 months or so, there are many so called bisexual women or lesbian women on here who are man-haters who loath, despise and totally disrespect men. Now … some men, by their poor attitude, misogynistic behavior and disrespectful communications, have more than earned the ire, disrespect and furious rage of women, but, that does not mean all men must be immediately judged and scorned for no reason. This is not a "battle of the sexes site!"***
Mr.B
Well ... family are safely back in the state of Georgia (USA, of course). It was actually a very enjoyable, busy and fun-filled few days with the southern folks. Caught the Broadway theatrical production of Jesus Christ Superstar ... that was damn good! I love good live theatre.
Merry Christmas & Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Getting ready to go pick up family at the airport. If I am rarely online or non-communicative, it is because I am busy with family, friends and Christmas & holiday related activities ... I often will not have privacy from curious family who may walk into my den uninvited ... southern folk are a little different, I think. By next week Tuesday, December 13, I should be almost back to normal ... I hope!
There are people I desire to communicate with and I will respond to those who write, as soon as I am able. Thanks!
Mr.B
MERRY CHRISTMAS ... and may all enjoy a very bountiful, joyous and fun-filled holiday season of gift giving and good cheer … but be safe & careful out there and do not buy what you cannot afford and do not charge beyond your credit limit (or ability to pay). Drunken driving is no fun for anyone, especially those who end up in the morgue, the hospital or local jail … and the families of these people have their holidays ruined also. ***
Hanukkahgreetings also … Hey! I never forget my Jewish people out there … best wishes and prayers go out to you during the Hanukkah festival of lights, which I think is celebrated this year between sunset December 20 through December 28 (on our typical secular calendar). I know Hanukkah commemorates the Maccabees military victory over the Greek Syrians and the rededication of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem, but, it has been a long time since I read. If I got it wrong, some kind-hearted ‘sober’ soul out there shall educate me. Thanks! ***
Do not forget the homeless, poverty-stricken and those less fortunate than you. Make some selfless and heart-felt charitable donations whenever you can … I have and shall! Trust me, you will feel better for it!!! ***
One of the great things about this time of year is all of the gathering and visitings by family, friends and loved-ones!!! One of the worst things of this season is all the gathering and visitings by family, friends and loved-ones!!!
Yes! I got family coming from out of state starting on Thursday, December 8 and staying until December 12. Kind of cramps a brotha's style ... party poop, party poop! But, I love them and it should be fun. Too bad everyone is not at least 21 years old. ***
Mr.B
This updated version of my original BDSM poem is being reposted ---
A Poem of Righteous Dominance & submission
Your faith and religious beliefs matter not
Your trust in the God or any deity is of no consequence
The Almighty One created all humanity pure and perfect
But gave them burdens to bear, challenges and struggles
His word shows the truth and provides the light
Each one is endowed with creativity, free will and choice
The choice for good and evil is a daunting one
Each must stand and decide his or her own fate or be dragged along
Wisdom, knowledge and understanding and heeding the good word
These are the keys to the light and the road map to success
Chastity, discipline, submission, obedience, charity and humility
Provide the fertile ground to receive the good word and wise counsel
Caste aside bigotry, greed, lusts, superstitions and irrational fears
Before you ignore the so-called “untouchable” One, listen thoughtfully
Open your mind, do not close your heart, but look beyond the physical
The naked eye alone cannot discern what it is you seek and need
The counsel, guidance and teaching from the Dominant One with authority
You need His knowledge, wisdom and understanding and strict discipline
If you only but submit, listen, obey and surrender control and authority
He shall lead you down that path to satisfaction and self-actualization
Where you shall find comfort, peace of mind and freedom from want
Put your body, mind and heart before the righteous Dominant One
Let Him train you and guide you and mold you and develop you and protect you
Feel His power within and about you and hide not from His forcefulness
Submit before Him and accept His authority, discipline, control and teachings
He shall study you and learn your weaknesses, faults and transgressions
Every blemish, scar or imperfection He shall observe and note
Yet, like the Almighty One, He shall accept you and reward your goodness
Your secrets, failures and misgivings are safe with Him, and shall be corrected
Your subjugation under Him shall provide you confidence, calm and peace
There may be times when He appears unjust, too harsh or too strict; waver not
Be neither hesitant nor irresolute; do not falter during your rebuilding phase
Like birth, the rebuilding involves pain, hardship, vulnerability and struggle
Like a child before her father or student before her taskmaster, you may tremble
Come before Him with love, respect, trust, faith and fear and serve Him
He shall be your salvation and your provider and your protection
His business is to correct and repair your sources of weakness, He rids you
Of your addictions, anxieties, doubts, egotism, greed, ignorance and lusts
He teaches you the joy of being selflessly subservient and compliant
He teaches you to embrace self-renunciation, self-control and obedience
Although He must break you down, discipline, mold and punish you,
He is a judicious, fair and sane One who only seeks to repair and develop you!
He pushes you to fully explore and experience the depth and breadth of your nature,
And to realize that within your subjugation and surrender of power, you are freed
You shall be strengthened and invigorated and motivated as you develop
Soon the mysteries, uncertainties and confusions shall disappear
Where once there was weakness, timidity, self-doubt and lack of purpose
There shall be a humble, compliant and obedient one who is at peace with nature
And she radiates self-confidence and self-respect and possesses good self esteem
The evil doers, unsavory predators, false prophets and self-righteous ones
May no longer trespass upon you and subject you to abuse or ridicule
The righteous Dominant One keeps you safe, secure, satisfied and comforted
HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY TO ALL!!! May all enjoy a blessed, relaxed and peaceful day. FYI --- Gluttony is a sin! Do not overeat ... and remember, we are entering the season of peace on Earth and good will towards all men (and women, too). So as Christmas approaches, be charitable and share your bounty with others, if you have any bounty. Spread the love, but, be careful out there, there is some seriously dangerous sh*t out there!
Cheer for the NFL Dallas Cowboys today! They are America's team and to not support the 'Boys is unpatriotic and not wise.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
RESULTS: Dallas Cowboys: 20 and Miami Dolphins: 19 ... like I said, it would be not only unpatriotic, but "unwise" to not support America's team! Too bad the Kobe and the LA Lakers are not in action due to the NBA negotiations; damn! When are the damn New York Yankees going to win MLB World Series again? (I am not a baseball fan ... but love the Yankees)
Today, November 22, 2011, makes exactly 48 years since the late President John F. Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas, Texas.
Kennedy was shot and killed on November 22, 1963.
The following below is an excerpt from my rather lengthy profile, which is detailed and comprehensive. If you are a woman who claims to be a slave within the meaning of the 21st Century BDSM lifestyle, please read. A genuine slave must first be naturally submissive and then she must have the heart, mind and soul of a ‘true’ slave, which means that she must also be subservient, compliant, differential, obedient, humble, respectful and long suffering. In addition, her whole purpose in life should be dedicated to serving, pleasing, satisfying, pleasuring, obeying, protecting and caring for her Master who owns her. A “true” slave learns to embrace self-renunciation and how to not only be selfless but fully self-disciplined in order to sacrifice, struggle and suffer as she strives to meet the expectations, needs and cravings of her Master. ***
WHAT I EXPECT FROM A SLAVE:
It is my expectation, that when a woman identifies herself as a ‘slave’ within the BDSM realm, that means that she is naturally ‘submissive’ and she has the heart, mind and soul of a true slave; and when she agrees to be owned and enslaved by her Dominant Master, she willingly surrenders all her personal decision-making authority to her Master and she consents to her Master, who owns her, having full control of her and her life. She understands and agrees that she shall be 'helplessly' before him and totally under her Master’s control and power in all matters. Whenever I first take possession of a slave, after she has been properly cleansed and showered, she is immediately subjected to a thorough inspection in which her entire body is carefully examined, and this includes visual and physically invasive methods, as well as sniffing and smelling her. I do this to not only establish in her mind that she is property (like chattel), but also because no one takes possession of any thing or property without fully examining it. You do not “buy a puss in a bag” as the old saying goes!
Each submissive slave is different, BUT, all must embrace the concept of consensual enslavement in real life that includes strict domestic discipline, corporal punishment, obedient subservience, humble submission, domestic servitude, loyal faithfulness, sadomasochistic torments, routine humiliations, forceful use, micromanagement and total control within a total power exchange (TPE) dynamic. A slave should expect to participate, on some level, in activities considered taboo kinky sexual perversions, sadomasochistic and exotic erotica. A slave should know that hers shall be a life of sacrifice, struggle, suffering and self-denial in order to amuse, please, serve, pleasure, satisfy and worship her Owner/Master and meet his various needs. The slave must be a sufficiently educated, intelligent, mature and mentally competent ‘adult’ (18 years old and above) to make such a commitment, because she is agreeing to be "owned personal property" with few rights and little control and no authority.
*** A slave must understand that, depending on her Master, she often shall be subjected to dehumanizing objectification, degrading humiliations, painful sadistic tortures, extreme abuse, routine forceful sexual penetrations of all of her orifices & shared use, and she will be expected to willingly consent to providing her body to her Owner to use in any manner that may amuse, excite and please him. A slave’s primary focus must be on learning and understanding her Master (and/or Mistress) and his needs, desires, hungers and expectations and then meeting and exceeding them to the best of her ability, without having to be told, reminded or instructed! THIS IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX! She must NEVER want to see her Master displeased, frustrated, dissatisfied or upset with her due to her disobedience, negligence, laziness and/or lack of responsiveness. In addition, she labors as an enslaved indentured servant without compensation, reward or benefits. ***
YES! Got in last night from my family reunion in Orlando, Florida. A good time was had by all and the weather was GREAT! I just wish that there was not so much bumpy rough & tumble plane rides between the Atlanta airport and down through the Atlantic coast of Florida. Oh well, cannot have everything ... at least we did not almost crash while falling from the skies off the coast near Miami on my way to the Turks & Caicos island all inclusive resort in June 2010. There was not an atheist left on that flight except three drunks, one of whom kept bitching about his Bloody Mary drink ruining his new shirt ... damn, we were dropping down and this damn fool was pissed about his shirt ...
... Ha ha ha ... did manage to hang with some of the younger folk and teenagers during a volley ball game in a soft sand pit!
I am back in lovely and most pleasant San Diego, California. Back to work today. Life is good!
Mr.B
Family reunion in Orlando, Florida in mid-October. Hhhmmmmm ... I wonder how hot and humid it shall be there. 32 people from four different states, and most are bringing babies, toddlers, grade school kids and teenagers ... damn!!!
From early on Wednesday, October 12 through late evening on Tuesday, October 18, I am travelling or doing "family reunion" stuff with family ... near Disneyland or Disney World and all of those amusement parks. Oh well ...
... I am not baby-sitting or watching any little kids or babies ... you had all the fun & pleasure making them, thus, your responsibility!
This shall either be very good or "hell!"
Mr.B
Humor and laughter is always good for the mind, heart, body & soul! These crazy stupid little cartoons provide raunchy "adult" humor without being too overly depraved. The dragon ball z clips and the perverted Bulma moments are hilarious. There are others too ... check it out and enjoy.
This is not a complaint, it is a plea for due consideration … and … well, a plea for mercy. I make a great effort not to focus on a woman’s physical attributes and facial features … matter of fact, things like race, ethnicity, religion, national origin and color mean very little to me. When I view profiles of female slaves or submissive women, I make a point of not being overly influenced by the photo(s); because I know that regardless of how physically attractive, sexy and beautiful they look … it is the inner qualities that truly matter in the long run. I am mostly concerned about whether they are for real and serious about what they write in their profile and or journal. I mainly want to discover if they are truly submissive or a genuine slave and if they are sincere, honest, honorable and trust worthy. ***
However, confession is good for the soul. I am a leg & butt man. When I see a nice, succulent, firm, thick “healthy” and delicious looking bubble-butt type female derrière, I confess that it is most difficult to concentrate on the more important inner qualities of the heart, mind and soul and the character and non-physical nature of the woman. It is even difficult to word process and one’s mind wanders to the “dark” side, especially if that fine ass is being held up by a wonderful pair of shapely, muscled, firm and smooth legs with thick calves and thighs. I mean some of the super fine ass on displayed is covered completely by clothing and yet the effect is mesmerizing and compelling in the most erotic and sensual manner. ***
Recommendation: It would be helpful if you ladies just gave nice face shots … showing your facial features and your eyes. ~~~ smile ~~~ This way those men who are leg & butt men can provide a more objective, rational and thoughtful assessment of you without having our mental faculties compromised by stimulating visions. It is not fair. ***
A little consideration and mercy would be helpful!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
I am not a Conan O'Brien fan, but this is real funny ... check out video link!
*** To Whom it May Concern or Interest --- As previously stated in my journal, it was my intent to discontinue my participation on CollarMe.com and ALT.com. I have discontinued ALT.com on June 30, 2011. My intent is to continue on Collarme.com until either the end of September or the end of December of 2011, at the latest. Thus, if any genuine, sincere and honest and trustworthy female slave, submissive woman or female switch desires to communicate with me and get to know and meet me, she must do so soon, without delay. ***
I have been speaking with other Dominants, and we lament the fact that there are so many disingenuous members on here masquerading as a female slave or submissive woman. A couple of us also notice how many so called female slaves and submissive women often demand that people read their profile (and sometimes even their journal postings) before contacting them. YES! Many slaves and subs bitch and moan about Dominants write without reading their profiles. And often, these same so called female slaves and submissive women insist that they will ignore or delete unread and automatically reject any one line messages AND anyone who does not have a photo in their profile or attached to their message. ***
Yet! Many of these very same so called female slaves and submissive women lack photos in their profile or have photos that are not of themselves or are just scenery or cartoon type drawings depicting their fantasies or cravings. We also notice that when a Dominant writes a long message or has a long profile, often these slaves and subs do not take the time and expend the effort to read … some actually criticize long profiles or message … they often find it too tiresome and boring! ***
Ha ha ha … a woman who claims that she is a slave and ready to be owned, enslaved and relocated, yet does not want to expend the time, energy and visual & mental effort to read a long message or long profile. Unless a woman is extremely desperate and destitute or is a complete mentally incompetent ‘moron’ with little commonsense, she should be trying to find out as much as possible about a potential Master or Dominant. ***
Of course, it does beg the question, how serious, honest, genuine and trustworthy are many of these so called female slaves and submissive women on Collarme.com. Is there any aspect of their profiles and writings that is a factual, sincere and truthful representation of who they are and what they need and seek. Have the majority of the profiles now fallen into the category of fakes, frauds, pretenders and wannabes? Are most of the rest just money grubbing miscreants up to no good deed or perhaps immature teenage juvenile delinquents on here wasting the time and efforts of the serious members. ***
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
State of California USA
PIA TOSCANO … The best on American Idol 2011
American in their stupidity voted her off much too early, as they like to do to many of the best contestants. What do the voters have against beautiful, classy & talented young female singers? However, as I predicted, she shall enjoy a successful career.
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Growing up in Queens, New York, Pia Toscano always wanted to be a singer, and after auditioning for 'American Idol' five times she was finally granted a pass to the top tier of the 10th season of the Fox juggernaut TV show. Toscano was a true contender on 'Idol,' hitting the highest notes with ease. But rather than fulfilling what many felt to be her destiny, the singer shocked the nation and judges Jennifer Lopez, Randy Jackson, and Steven Tyler when she was unexpectedly given the boot halfway through the season. However, all is not lost for this makeup-artist-turned-singing-sensation, as she recently signed with Jimmy Iovine's Interscope records. And with the recent release of single 'This Time,' we're sure Pia is well on her way to becoming a pop music mainstay. AOL Music spoke to the singer about her current tour, upcoming album and the current state of her love life.
Hear her once again sing: “All By Myself” [link below]
WARNING TO ALL MEN! A wife is accused of cutting off the penis of her estranged husband. She was arrested late at night earlier this week after investigators responded to a 911 call and she is now in custody at the Orange County, California Jail. Men, when you become “estranged” with your wife, mate, woman, female lover or whatever she is to you, please do not accept dinner or a romp in the sack and sleep over, you could awake all bound and see an evil vixen she-devil with cutting tools slicing and dicing your male genitalia! You have been warned. This was one angry, cold-hearted & evil bitch! Damn! Wonder what the poor son-of-a-bitch did to provoke her wrath.
Kind Folk & Gentle People, Now I realize that men can quiet often be most difficult and very challenging to deal with and that many men make horrible mates or husbands or lovers or boy friends or Dominants etc. BUT ... is the Catherine Kieu Becker method really required to deal with such men? I think this meets the test of cruel & unusual punishment as forbid by the U.S. Constitution. Please read link below!
OK folks!! Some one cut words and sentences out of my profile statement again. Why must people do this sh*t?
If you wish to copy and paste from my profile and/or journal … that is fine, BUT … PLEASE do NOT cut and paste!! Copying is fine, but when you cut out words, sentences and paragraphs, then often you leave the writing incomplete, unclear, inarticulate, disjointed and/or incomprehensible. Then I have to come behind you and recreate what was written to the best of by knowledge and recollection!
Damn!! Have a little due consideration for others. NUFF SAID!!
Mr.B
*** To Whom it May Concern or Interest --- As previously stated in my journal, it was my intent to discontinue my participation on CollarMe.com and ALT.com no later then July 4, 2011. However, I have adjusted that to discontinue ALT.com on June 30, 2011; and then continue Collarme.com until either the end of September or the end of December of 2011. Thus, if any genuine, sincere and honest and trustworthy female slave, submissive woman or female switch desires to communicate with me and get to know and meet me, she must do so soon, without delay. ***
NBA Championship 2010-11 --- I always knew that if Dallas stayed healthy and energetic and played tough defense, they would beat queen james and the south beach Miami bunch! My hat off to Dwayne Wade who is an excellent player, class act and worthy former champion, BUT that over rated, over hyped and over paid ‘punk’ rightfully called queen james, could not lead anything or anyone ... he could not lead a thirsty horse to water. Congratulations to the Dallas Mavericks! They earned & deserve the victory ... and championship! ***
NBA Championship 2011-12 --- I would say that in the 2011-12 season, Kobe and the LA Lakers shall reclaim their crown, BUT, the hire of Mike Brown as head coach, makes me want to with hold my decision until Christmas. *** The LA Lakers were a bunch of tired, sick, injured and in some cases too old group of players with an aging coach whose head was no longer in the game. Even Kobe had an ankle / foot and knee and finger injuries. When you play for the championship three years in a row and always are playing deep into the NBA playoffs, that takes a heavy physical toll on your team and especially the starters and the older players. ***
Kobe Bryant needs help! The LA Lakers need to get a couple new pieces ... some 6'8" or 6'9" power forwards that can run fast, rebound, drive to the hole & score and play tough defense. They need to get a young muscular, strong & experienced 6'3" point guard type who is both quick and fast, as well as an excellent free-throw shooter, ball handler and confident & talented, who can also score! and LA must sit Fisher down and have him come off the bench like Lamar Odom. Pau Gasol needs to get in the gym and build muscle, strength and stamina! This 2010-11 season being shortened for LA is a good thing in a way. The team and players get to rest longer and recover from ailments and injuries and also sit and watch other teams play for the NBA Title. That should motivate them next season. ***
Mr.B
*** As previously stated in my journal, it is my intent to discontinue my participation on CollarMe.com and ALT.com no later then July 4, 2011. Thus, if any genuine, sincere and honest and trustworthy female slave, submissive woman or female switch desires to communicate with me and get to know and meet me, she must do so soon, without delay.***
Time to repost this journal entry to the top of my journal again!
Original Posting: Thursday, November 22, 2007 [Thanksgiving Day]
8:03 AM (California-Pacific time)
The Relationship Between Master & Slave or Dominant & Submissive
A true naturally submissive one without a good Dominant Master is like a small boat casting about in the rough seas rudderless and without a skilled and knowledgeable Captain to guide her safely through the storm into calm waters and a safe port. This is especially true of naturally submissive women with the heart, mind & soul of a slave. Neither the Dominant nor the submissive is complete and satisfied without their complementary BDSM partner.
Before I begin my dissertation, there are some myths that should be debunked immediately. Just because someone likes forceful rough kinky sex or swinging or swapping or group sex or being gang banged by a bunch of horny guys, does not make her a true submissive or a slave. Promiscuous women who enjoy one-night stands and routinely engage in irresponsible and unsafe sex do not automatically qualify as a submissive or slave. Another fact is that women who unwillingly allow their mates to domestically abuse them, beat them up and terrorize them on a regular basis in violation of laws are not necessarily a true submissive or a slave. Women who are very passive, naturally shy and somewhat naïve are not necessarily submissive. Just because a woman has a high pain tolerance and tends to enjoy pain and discomfort, does not make her a real submissive or true slave. ***
Role playing and going to BDSM social scenes where people “act out” or engage in sadomasochistic activities or sexual acts publicly does not mean the recipient is a true submissive or a slave! Many “vanilla” women are promiscuous sluts or enjoy exhibitionism or like a little extra kinkiness in their life and so they go enjoy “play time” occasionally. They play and “dabble” in BDSM, but do not live the lifestyle and most likely lack the natural submissive nature. Submission is about hungering to give up control and to offer one’s personal authority to another person, who is Dominant, and accepting that dominant person’s control, discipline and dominance. Submission is about self-renunciation, which includes selflessly renouncing your personal interests in order to attain, satisfy and meet the interests, needs and desires of another (your Dominant). Submission is about craving to find pleasure by giving another pleasure, and being willing to suffer and sacrifice in order to make another happy, contented, satisfied, pleased and amused. Submission is about finding the One whom you adore, respect, trust, admire and find worthy and then living your life in accordance with his demands, needs, rules and governance and doing all within your power to make him happy, fulfilled and satisfied. ***
Ultimately, it is always the submissive or slave’s choice about whether or not she enters into a relationship with a Dominant One. In all candor, the slaves or submissive ones have the ultimate control to surrender, submit and serve or to resist and run! The submissive or slave is the one surrendering control and authority and leaving herself vulnerable to abuse and misuse. The submissive woman must be in a position to make her decisions regarding with whom she associates or to whom she submits and serves without threats, coercion or unfair severe manipulation. Only mature, thoughtful, careful and mentally competent adult women (18 and over) with at least average intelligence and good common sense should be making these decisions and they should not be forced by destitution or desperate economic or living circumstances to rush, without thinking, into the clutches of every so called “Dom” or “Domme” out there. ***
Btw …“mature” does not mean “old.” Many women between the ages of 18 and 24 can be very mature, astute and intelligent and have good common sense. Although I prefer my submissive or slave to be at least 21, because it means that we have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything and not have issues of “underage” or jail-bait” become an issue, I am open-minded and have considered those between 18 and 20 who seem particularly mature, intelligent, articulate and self-assured about who and what they are and what they need. ***
The Dominant must convince the mind, romance the heartand calm the spirit of the submissive one or slave so that she is neither anxious nor fearful. The submissive or slave should be wooed, enticed and stimulated mentally, emotionally & physically. The Dominant must try to cultivate mutual trust & confidence between them. The Dominant must earn her respect and admiration. Then the body of the submissive one or slave does what her mind & heart dictate and she can easily relax and be obedient, compliant & faithful and submit & serve and be subjugated. It is only then that the mind & heart of the submissive one or slave open fully to be taught, disciplined and controlled. Once this is established and there is mutual respect and trust in each other and each finds the other trust worthy and a potential match, then a true relationship can begin. When the slave or submissive accepts the collar of a Dominant One, there is a strong bond and mutual commitment and the Dominant or Master takes on an awesome responsibility; especially in the case of a slave. The bondage is primarily mental and emotional and in some ways spiritual; the kinky sex, BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and other taboo activities are just physical manifestations of what is deep within the heart, mind and soul. ***
The issue regarding the relationship between a Dominant and his submissive or Master and slave often comes up in discussion or in people’s profile narrative or journal writings; and sometimes during written communications on adult BDSM web-sites or via personal e-mail. Just For The Record --- Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. Do not get me wrong, it is possible to find a true Dominant Master who also would make a wonderful husband or boyfriend, BUT … usually it is unlikely. It is also possible for a submissive woman or female slave to fall in love with their Dominant or Master and visa versa. The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don’t go looking for “Mr. Right” ala “vanilla” world. ***
First --- I must state that each D/s relationship or M/s relationship is unique to the individuals involved. Second --- I must emphasize that the Dominant One and the submissive one (this includes slave) must negotiate the terms and conditions of their specific relationship up front before they ever have any real intimate or physical interaction. Third --- It is critical that the Dominant One and submissive one must fully and honestly discuss and resolve the issue of expectations, “soft” limitations and “hard limits.” Then the submissive (includes slaves) must understand that the relationship is not “vanilla” and as such, it is not a politically correct, socially approved and traditional relationship of equality between the two partners.The Dominant One must acknowledge that he knows and understands his great responsibilities and must commit to live up to the awesome burden of ownership.Remember --- When two mature, mentally competent and intelligent adults (18 and over) establish some form of a BDSM relationship, which meets both of their individual cravings, needs and desires, then it is really no one else’s business. As long as there is nothing illegal taking place and the health, safety and general wellbeing of the community and society at large is not threatened or endangered. Just because persons on the outside may consider a particularly extreme, sadistic, dehumanizing and hard-core Master & slave (or Dominant & submissive) relationship outrageous, disgusting and insanity personified, does not make the relationship wrong for the two consenting adults involved. YES! There are really Daddy Dominants who are not pedophiles, but seek babygirls or submissive daughters who need and crave a Daddy! ** smile **
Please remember that all slaves by definition are a submissive one, BUT, not all submissive ones are slaves. There are also different types and levels of non-slave submissive ones. People often get confused and use the terms “submissive” and “slave” interchangeably. There are many similarities at times, because there are about nine different levels or types of submission. Some submissive ones can be very extreme and welcome all types of hard-core activity and surrender damn near all of their control and authority to their chosen Dominant One; these submissive ones may at some point cross over into enslavement. ***
Many womenidentify as a “slave” and do not fully understand what that really means. Often, they confuse a “slave” with a “submissive” and then they do not understand that the commitment for the slave is deeper, stronger, greater, more permanent and a slave usually has few or no limitations. The critical difference is that a slave surrenders her personal authority & decision making power and total control to her Dominant Owner/Master. The slave has neither rights (except safety, sustenance, life & health and respect for valid “hard limits”) nor self will (except to submit, serve, be used, obey & worship). ***
All of the slave’s property, material possessions, money and assets of value are given to her Owner/Master to manage and use as he determines best as soon as he takes full time ownership of her as his slave. The slave has her “vanilla” life dictated and restricted by her Owner/Master. A true slave is powerless and is considered like chattel, just property, and as such, she cannot own property. Any money a slave has, receives or earns through work is immediately confiscated by her Owner/Master and taken from her by her Owner/Master. It is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities; even a slave’s self-gratification (masturbation) is controlled and regulated by her Owner/Master. ***
A slave must know and understand that eventually her limits must be expanded and her threshold for pain, bondage, humiliations, defilement and forceful “kinky” sexual penetrations shall be challenged and stretched. As a slave, she agrees that almost nothing her Dominant Owner/Master does may be characterized by her and reported to law enforcement as criminal misconduct, physical assault & battery, false imprisonment, illegal detention, domestic abuse, hate crime, sexual assault or rape. DISCLAIMER --- Having said this, please know that I fully believe that the negotiated agreements & understandings and the hard limits must be respected by the Owner/Master and that the slave should not be required to participate in illegal activities. Also, the Owner/Master has an awesome burden and responsibility to protect the life, health, sanity, well-being and general welfare of the slave. ***
All people (Dominant & submissive) have limitations due to their family upbringing, religious or faith beliefs, personal ethics & values, cultural/ethnic or national origin background, health/medical restrictions, physical or mental disabilities, unexplainable phobia or irrational fears, self-esteem issues and/or prior experience with childhood molestation, domestic abuse or being a victim of a violent crime. Some people just cannot get beyond the “Yuk!” factor. There are those who have very serious and important business or personal or family responsibilities in the “vanilla” world, which demand their attention. These various issues and situations may prevent an individual from participating in certain kinky, sadomasochistic or sexual activities and may limit their ability to submerge full time into total enslavement and live the life 100% of the time. ***
The Dominant’s or Master’s sadistic side screams out “she serves with no limits” BUT that is more often than not unrealistic and nonsensical. The Dominant or Master must keep an open-mind and patiently & honestly discuss the submissive or slave’s needs, concerns, anxieties, expectations, fears, phobia and anxieties. He must try to understand her limitations and help her determine whether or not they are “soft” limits or valid “hard” limitations. A thoughtful, mature and sane Master determines whether a limit is health related or caused by a disability. However, even with a hard-core pain-loving masochistic sex-slut slave who wants to be dehumanized and objectified and be given no voice or rights, it is unrealistic to believe that she shall live the next seven years of her life in a dark dungeon naked and without any contact with the “vanilla” world while she is routinely brutalized, tortured, gang raped, ritually whipped into unconsciousness and subjected to other physical and mental mistreatments. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN … although not impossible. ***
An Owner/Master needs to be very aggressive, forceful, strict, sadistic and domineering when he owns a slave. Nonetheless, the Owner/Master must exercise self-discipline and be intellectual, judicious and thoughtful regarding how he treats, uses and cares for his slave. The Owner/Master must never become so intoxicated with his lust for power, control, dominance and satisfying his sadistic cravings and kinky sexual desires that he neglects the slave’s humanity and legal rights and loses his self-control and neglects his responsibilities to protect his slave and keep her safe from real harm, sickness or death. The health, safety, well being and happiness of the slave should be very important. The slave is valuable property and must be kept sufficiently fit, healthy, sane, happy and functioning at a highly acceptable level and the Owner/Master must never kill her passion to be enslaved and subjugated while she voluntarily submits and serves. Only a damn fool damages and destroys his valuable slave property. ***
Neither a submissive nor a slave should be in terror and freight when she thinks of her Dominant or Master. But … she should fear disappointing him and she should dread disobeying him or violating his rules. The submissive or slave should fear her Master’s wisdom, knowledge and power; but she should also be comforted by his wisdom, knowledge and power. The same way a child fears her father, BUT is glad he is strong, forceful and knowledgeable, because then he can protect the child, develop the child and provide for the child and keep the child safe. A submissive one’s or a slave’s greatest pain should be when she knowingly displeases, neglects, disappoints, disrespects and/or disobeys a good Owner/Master. ***
If all is as it should be, then the submissive or slave should hold her Dominant or Master in high regard and with great esteem, she should trust his judgment and she should respect and greatly value his word and teachings. The submissive or slave should hunger every day to please, amuse and satisfy her Master and obtain his approval and compliments. The submissive or slave should listen attentively to her Master and study him and learn his habits, needs, cravings and dislikes AND with this knowledge she should anticipate his desires and needs and offer such, before he orders her, in order to see him pleased and impressed. The submissive or slave should get her pleasure by giving her Dominant or Master pleasure. His kind words and smile of satisfaction and look of blissful approval & pleasure should be her primary objective. ***
A Dominant One or Master must be much more than just the man who fucks, tortures, humiliates, restrains and beats a submissive woman or slave. I strongly believe that he must be able, willing and qualified to be a Benefactor,Counselor, Disciplinarian, Teacher, Protector, Lover, Provider and Life’s Guide … and of course, Tormentor Extraordinaire! When I use terms and words like life’s guide, counselor, teacher, protector, provider and disciplinarian, I mean the Dominant One that you choose as your Master and who has earned your trust and confidence to provide you the counsel, guidance, instruction, structure and support you need in your everyday “vanilla” life as well as for your development in the BDSM realm. ***
YES!!! I do mean “protection” because I am of the opinion that there are too many low-esteem half-crazy women-hating misogynistic male brutes out there subjecting vulnerable passive submissive women to criminal assault and battery and unlawful domestic violence and calling it BDSM activities. A decent, intelligent, reasonable and good Dominant Man does not expose his submissive companion or female slave to unnecessary danger or harm, and when she faces danger or harm, he is there to protect her. Domestic discipline and corporal punishment does not mean getting drunk and punching a woman with closed fist or pointing a gun at her or slapping her around and choking her for no reason. Spewing venomously vile & hateful profanity at a woman and routinely calling a woman by demeaning names without valid provocation does not make anyone Dominant and definitely not a Master. Being a Dominant or Master does not equate to mean, dumb & abusive brute! ***
The Dominant Master also protects his submissive or slave from herself. Many submissive women lack any self-control or sense of proportionality and they routinely engage in self-destructive and non-productive behavior and have serious personal problems. They go through life with a woe is me attitude and keep wondering why they are unsuccessful at everything and constantly rejected or disrespected by others and unhappy and dissatisfied with themselves and their life in general. YES!! Life is not fair and horrible things often happen to good & decent people; and it seems that the wicked live long prosperous lives while the good die destitute and young. Sometimes a woman has been dealt a very bad hand in life. Nonetheless, a good Dominant One who honestly cares about his submissive or slave and desires to rehabilitate and improve his submissive one or slave, must help her to escape self-destructiveness that may be contributing to her misfortunes and malaise. ***
I have broken submissive women and female slaves of alcohol & drug addiction, destructive lifestyles, associations with unsavory & unscrupulous characters, unproductive selfish preoccupations and making poor personal and foolish business decisions. I have shown long-term welfare moms how to legitimately and forever escape welfare and become self-sufficient and self-supporting. A Dominant or Master must be a strict disciplinarian and a forceful and robust instructor. He must have a vision about where he needs to take his submissive and what unacceptable and negative attitudes, behaviors and beliefs he must break from her and replace with more acceptable and positive ones. He must visualize what she shall look like after he breaks her down, molds her, disciplines her and rebuilds her. The Dominant or Master must teach her self-control, self-discipline and self-respect and help her understand the importance of rejecting her self-destructiveness. The Master must teach the submissive that she must guard & protect herself as if she is a highly prized and greatly valued sacred Temple; she must understand that until she loves herself, she cannot truly love & serve another … although the greatest love is suffering and sacrificing oneself for another in order to keep them healthy and safe and make them happy, satisfied and successful. ***
If a woman is my submissive, then even when she is hundreds or thousands of miles away, she is following my written rules and guidance and she is in constant communication and keeping me informed and seeking my counsel. I give her the “tools” and guidelines to assist her manage her every day life in a successful and productive manner. It is not incompatible for a submissive woman to be a strong successful and highly paid professional or executive in the “vanilla” world and yet submissive and enslaved full time by her Dominant Master. A submissive woman may be a political activist and community organizer and still be in submission and subjugation to her Dominant One or Master. A submissive woman may be an entrepreneur or business owner, while submitting and serving. It is not incompatible for her to remain separated from her Master for long periods in order to care for family members or loved ones or attend personal business. Bondage and subjugation do not mean locked away in a basement forever. The bondage is mainly mental and emotional. It is based on faith, confidence and trust in each other. It is something felt deep within your soul. The relationship does require stimulation, support and encouragement and there does need to be some form of intimate bonding. ***
When a submissive commits to a BDSM relationship with a Dominant, and after the terms and conditions have been negotiated up front and there is mutual agreement on expectations, limitations, commitments and standards of service, then education, training and discipline sessions begin. Both slave and submissive require obedience training to condition them to learn to obey another adult and to accept a Dominant’s commands and guidelines. It is hard for the average modern day in-control & self-sufficient woman to suddenly surrender her authority to another and give him control over her life. It is difficult for a woman in the modern 21st Century American culture to bow down and humbly obey. The slave is for all practical purposes totally owned, controlled and dominated in all matters by the Master. Many Dominants will seek to restrict or totally control your sexual activities. However, with a slave, it is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities. With the non-slave submissive one the Dominant does not wield as much power and lacks as much control and must be very skilled, talented and thoughtful about how he uses his authority and powers of persuasion. ***
The submissive woman or female slave should be rewarded,complimented and recognized when she provides outstanding service or when she has stretched her normal boundaries of BDSM play tolerance and explored above & way beyond her comfort levels of sadomasochism and taboo kinky sexual pleasures and hard-core use. The Dominant or Master should always be willing to show his appreciation and gratitude as much or even more than to show his displeasure and anger. In an ideal situation, the Dominant or Master feels and demonstrates real passion and genuine affection, concern and respect for his chosen submissive or slave. ***
When I show my appreciation, it may take many forms … special gifts, little treats, shopping escapades, trip to the theatre or amusement park, a night out for fine dining and music & dance or something as simple as a lovely massage by a paid certified professional at a high-class spa & gymnasium. It also may be 'affectionate after-care' that includes gently cleaning her up (with hot wet wash rags and soft towels) after a prolonged, forceful and hard-core kinky sexual session that has left her satisfied but fully-used, exhausted, thirsty, weak, “wobbled kneed” and sore … and then bringing her nourishment (food and drink) to enjoy as we cuddle and I whisper delightful compliments and passionate “sweet nothings” to her and/or read poetry while enjoying some slow, soft soulful R&B or jazzy blues music playing. YES! Showing affection, concern and thoughtfulness to a slave or submissive is appropriate and does not make one a weak person. ***
Disclaimer --- YES! I acknowledge that there are many slaves who do not wish to be shown any concern, affection, thoughtfulness or care. They want hard-core Sadists who are never gentle or kind to them. This is what would be discussed and negotiated up front when you both establish the terms and conditions of the BDSM relationship and what is to be expected. My experience is that, most slaves who say this, believe it until they live it and then they begin to want periodic tenderness, compliments and affectionate after-care. ***
Now that I have put everyone in to a comatose like deep sleep, I shall cease further boredom.
Nonetheless, those are this Sir’s humble opinions. NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
*** As previously stated in my journal, it is my intent to discontinue my participation on CollarMe.com and ALT.com no later then July 4, 2011. Thus, if any genuine, sincere and honest and trustworthy female slave, submissive woman or female switch desires to communicate with me and get to know and meet me, she must do so soon, without delay. ***
Why I lament in frustration --- In the last 15 days I wrote 17 messages to 15 different submissive women or female slaves. I always write intelligent, thoughtful and interesting messages … some very brief and others lengthy. I tailor my messages to the individual’s profile or comment about some matter they discuss in their journal. I always attach one to five photos. My profile is filled out and has a photo in it and I have a long journal. I am never rude, obnoxious or disrespectful when I initiate communication with any member on this site. Thus the mystery as to why I have these results (see below). ***
RESULTS: Responses: 1 (5.8%) *** Read No Response: 6 (35.2%) Unread: 6 (35.2%) *** Deleted Unread: 4 (23.6%) *** Around 59% were unread, and of the six read, there was response from only one individual or 16.6% of those who read them. As any reasonably mentally competent person can see and conclude, these are horrible odds and a total waste of a person’s time, effort and thought. What is particularly galling over the years since 2005, and especially in the last several months, is when someone poses a question or seeks an explanation in their profile or journal, and one takes the time and expends the energy to respond thoughtfully and in a complete and comprehensive manner and they either ignore the message or read and NEVER respond back. ***
It should be so much harder to discover a BDSM submissive or slave in the ‘vanilla’ world, but, it is not really. AND … these online BDSM sites should yield a very diverse multitude of many different types of submissive women or female slaves BUT, unfortunately, these sites are mostly a waste of time, money and energy. This is why I shall be done with them, or at least, no longer be an active member before the Fourth of July holiday this year. ***
On a side note, I was in a club recently, waiting for a ‘vanilla’ lady friend of mine to show, when somehow I was suddenly in a deep and amusing frivolous conversation with this young lady, who looked like she could have been at most 19 years old. She was being flirtatious and tantalizing in a very provocatively enticing manner as we engaged in a little friendly banter. I cautioned her that I was awaiting some lady, and I remained somewhat aloof, although fully engaged and curious about this friendly little sexy vixen. Suddenly, she said something about being bored with the guys she knew and needing “pain” … she got my total undivided attention! I leaned in and whispered “… as in BDSM type pain? Are you a submissive masochistic woman?” Her eyes lit up and she asked if I knew about BDSM, I said, I am a Dominant. Suddenly, all of her kinky cravings, desperate desires, deep throat talents and unquenched hunger for real pain were being explained to me … when I explained my little bag of toys, tools and equipment, she got wet (yes, I found this out for sure 5 minutes later, when she put my hand under her short skirt and against her soaked panties) and her eyes got glassy, as she explained how she has been with only one Dom twice and he was a major disaster and incompetent. But the most interesting part was her complaint that no clamps worked on her nipples … she has a nice pair of breasts, I could not under stand why not. She explained her nipples were too small … then she parted her blouse and showed me a most lovely, firm succulent and natural creamy white breast BUT … yes, her nipples were the smallest I ever saw on a woman. It was almost flat with just a little bud for a nipple. I asked, if they were sensitive, “Yes” she said; and right there before God and any who cared to observe in the darkened club, I had a nice little breast nipple in my mouth and she was moaning and groaning softly.
I was facing the door/entrance and her back was to the door … my lady friend walked in about 5 minutes later and I saw her, she paused and stared … then after about 3 minutes, she marched over and interrupted the little impromptu get together and evicted the young lady ... I smiled. Later, by the bar, that girl snuck me a napkin with her e-mail address and I told her mine. To be continued. I hope! ***
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
*** As previously stated in my journal, it is my intent to discontinue my participation on CollarMe.com and ALT.com no later then July 4, 2011. Thus, if any genuine, sincere and honest and trustworthy female slave, submissive woman or female switch desires to communicate with me and get to know and meet me, she must do so soon, without delay. ***
After a discussion regarding whether a BDSM slave in The United States of America in the 21 st Century has rights or needs that must be met, I have decided to repost a journal entry, which I posted on September 4, 2008 at 4:53:22PM (California time)
The article below was first entered in my journal on Monday, July 21, 2008 at 2:33 PM (Pacific). However, it has got lost in some later articles and so I am moving it to the top, so it is easier to access.
Subject: The Rights and Needs of Slaves
This often comes up and there are many opinions regarding whether or not a slave within the BDSM realm has any rights or needs that her Owner/Master must meet. As everyone agrees, for the most part, the slave is like chattel or property the way one may own and use a vehicle or animal. However, this is not 1808, this is 2008 and real slavery is outlawed in the United States, and as such, Dominants who own, control and use slaves within the BDSM realm must protect themselves and their submissive slave.
First, in today’s America, the Master & slave relationship is going to be governed by ‘contract’ law and remains legal and valid as long as no one is killed or gets seriously injured or suffers a grievously serious harm and/or is forcefully held against her will, because then the criminal statutes of federal, state, county and/or municipality kick in! Among the agreements to be discussed are limitations and how to dispose of, manage or confiscate the slave's property, assets, money, income and other valuables.
Second, the relationship must be between mentally competent adults who are both at least 18 years old and are able to think and consider their options and make rational decisions based upon their needs and desires and their understanding of the agreement they have with the other person. As they make these agreements, they must be free from coercion, threats of harm and unlawful fraudulent deceit and unfair manipulation. It is preferred that the submissive slave not be in desperate and destitute circumstances, and that she freely chooses to surrender her free will and be owned and controlled by a Dominant Master to whom she gives complete power and authority over her.
Third, both parties must agree on the slave’s limitations and the types of services the slave agrees to provide. The last thing a Master wants or needs is to have the police busting down his door based on a 911 call or complaint that he is holding a young woman against her will and forcing her to do all types of outrageous, perverted and painful things. Trust me, no man wants to be reading about these kinds of ‘misdeeds’ in the newspaper or watching it on the local news with his name and photo attached. The police report and criminal complaint filed in court is no fun either.
RIGHTS: YES! Within the BDSM realm, once a woman agrees to be enslaved by a Dominant Master, then she is like his property and she surrenders all power, authority and control and offer her services, talents and body to do with as he pleases. However, as a slave, she still has the right to have her life, health, safety, security and sanity protected and she has the right to not be subjected to unlawful activities and not be forced into prostitution. The slave has the right to not knowingly be exposed to life threatening infectious diseases or subjected to sadistic abuse or deliberate negligence that causes her to suffer a seriously severe harmful injury. The slave has the right to be provided shelter, sustenance & nourishment (food & water), warmth and medical attention and first aid, as may be required. How you meet these rights are up to the adults involved in the BDSM relationship. Some Masters require the slave to work outside the home and earn the money for their care and health care benefits.
NEEDS: YES! It is true; slaves have needs also. The following is an imperfect list, but it is a good start:
First and foremost, she needs to know what is expected of her and what type of services that you need for her to perform on a routine basis
She needs to know the rules, protocols, guidelines, etiquettes, dress style, grooming, sanitation, personal hygiene standards and type of communications you demand from her
The slave needs the opportunity to serve, submit, obey and be subjugated by her Master; the slave needs to feel owned, controlled & enslaved; and she needs to be able to please, amuse and satisfy the needs, cravings and proclivities of her Master; she needs to be found pleasing
She must know what her domestic duties and household chores are
The slave must know how to behave and respond when out in public with her Master … there should not be awkward confusion about who sits where in a restaurant or theatre, and how she must behave when a ‘vanilla’ business associate approaches and needs to talk to you
She needs to know what will cause her to be punished, and what will make her Master happy, pleased, satisfied and content
The slave needs intense obedience training, strict discipline, strong control and instruction regarding her lifestyle of slavery while she is enslaved, from her Master’s point of view
She must be taught about domestic discipline and corporal punishment and have a full understanding as to what that means
The slave needs to know her Master’s particular kinky proclivities, deviant sexual perversions and the types of role playing, body worship, taboo pleasures and sadistic tortures that give her Master amusement, pleasure and enjoyment
Before a Master relocates a slave and moves her into his home, the slave needs to know if she shall be in a ‘poly’ household with other slaves and also if there are underage children in a household (and disapproving spouses); the slave needs to know about tobacco smoking, pets (snakes, cats and dogs etc.) and other annoying things that may aggravate her allergies and/or scare the sh*t out of her
Most slaves (but not all), need to feel respected, appreciated, valued and cherished; they expect punishments when they have misdeeds and are lazy and negligent or provide poor service; BUT … many slaves also need and crave compliments, rewards, gifts, praise, treats and a pleasant recognition from their Master when they are very good and provide outstanding services or have their limits ‘willingly’ stretched above and beyond previous agreements ... a pat on the head and smile would not hurt either
Last but not least … some slaves need aftercare when they have been subjected to some very challenging, prolonged, intense and exhausting sadistic tortures or hard-core sexual usage sessions … aftercare may take many forms
This Sir acknowledges that there is a category of very extreme masochistic hard-core slaves who crave full time dehumanization & total objectification in addition to routine degrading humiliations and extensive painful tortures and extreme sadistic abuse without mercy or compassion; they desire to be reduced to a non-person thing that is forcible used. These are rare, but they also exist.
That is this Sir’s humble opinion. NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
*** As previously stated in my journal, it is my intent to discontinue my participation on CollarMe.com and ALT.com no later then July 4, 2011. Thus, if any genuine, sincere and honest and trustworthy female slave, submissive woman or female switch desires to communicate with me and get to know and meet me, she must do so soon, without delay. ***
These comments were originally posted 2010. I post these comments again, because, I have often been asked what it is exactly that I seek in a submissive or slave. I guess even my abbreviated profile is too long and convoluted for someone to have to waste time and energy carefully reading to gather that information; thus I post the statements below, which I hope detail it. I confess to being particularly garrulous and long-winded at times; and I know that my writings can be tortuous for some (where are the true masochistic ones … smile). However, regardless of what I write, I know that each person is different and I always try to communicate with them and assess chemistry and compatibility in terms of needs, expectations, limitations and types of services and enslavement.
The slave or submissive must be a biological female (natural from birth or post-op transsexual female who lives and looks like a feminine woman and is accepted by her community as a 'real' woman).
I do not like to focus on the physical appearance in terms of facial features, body type or physique or racial or ethnic background. I try to focus on the inner qualities and as to whether I think the woman is being honest, serious and truthful about what she presents in her profile and what she states when we communicate. Although, I prefer a naturally submissive woman with slave potential, that is NOT a requirement! Just be for real, truthful, trustworthy and not a fraud. I am more interested in her character, personality, nature, abilities, talents, cravings, needs, fantasies and the depth of her desire to submit, obey, serve and be trained. I also constantly test her honesty, sincerity, genuineness, ethics and trust-worthiness. If a female slave or submissive woman, under consideration, is suspected or proven to be part of the fraudulent criminal element of scam-artists with a fake profile, trying to manipulate members out of money or waste their time ... she is quickly dismissed.
PLEASE KNOW THAT EACH BDSM RELATIONSHIP IS SPECIAL AND UNIQUE, AND MUST BE CAREFULLY & THOUGHTFULLY NEGOTIATED IN ADVANCE
THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN/FEMALE SLAVE I SEEK & PREFER ***
I am only interested in a BDSM relationship with an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable woman, whose age qualifies her as a 'legal' adult. I prefer ‘youthful’ women who embrace learning, are engaged in positive & productive activities in real life, and have a curious, liberated & open mind. I appreciate and respect submissive woman who are gainfully employed, engaged in business, politically aware and/or involved in community or charity efforts; and who explore any artistic or creative talents they possess. I like responsible women who set personal goals and take real action to accomplish such goals. In other words, I do not insist upon, but prefer a naturally submissive woman with a life in the “vanilla” world, which she finds rewarding, worthwhile and satisfying … or at least, a submissive woman who strives every day to improve and uplift herself and others around her … I also accept those who need and hunger for full time ownership, total subjugation and consensual enslavement with a total power exchange dynamic, BUT not because they are desperate and destitute and are seeking someone to “rescue” them from their personal “hellish” Diaspora. ***
She must not be cursed with irrational bigotry and unfair prejudice. Regardless of age, she must be youthful and young-at-heart and look enthusiastically at life and its possibilities. I prefer naturally submissive women who have the heart, mind & soul of a slave … she does not need to be a self-defined slave; however, I prefer if she is ready to be taken in hand and accept strong control, strict discipline and enforced obedience. She must be intelligent, mature, honest, truthful, genuine and trustworthy AND real & sincere and committed to what she writes in her profile or journal. In her public "vanilla" life, she may be strong, dynamic and powerful; but in her private personal life with me, she should be very humble, obedient, subservient, respectful, very disciplined and well-mannered. NO! I do not seek a "door mat" with low self-esteem. ***
The ideal submissive woman or female slave would be an intelligent, thoughtful, mature and sophisticated woman who is naturally submissive with slave potential; but, she would be like a modern day version of the ancient Greek hetaerae, which were highly cultured, educated, sophisticated and intelligent companions (often referred to as "courtesans") who were often required to provide sexual services as well as companionship and conversation. Mental incompetents, morons, 'robotic' types and those devoid of good commonsense are neither needed nor desired in a serious real life and long term relationship. ***
The woman I seek must like strong, forceful, strict, kinky, sadistic naturally dominant 'Alpha' men who are confident and secure in their dominance and able to lead, direct and control and subjugate women with the strength of their character, personality, intellect, persuasive powers and communications skills without resorting to unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery. She must appreciate a dominant man who brings strong passion to the relationship and is capable of being affectionate and loving, as well as sadistic! She must know and agree that BDSM lifestyle is much more than just eroticism, sensuality or taboo kinky sexual pleasures! She should crave a dominant man who can be rough, demanding, forceful and hard-core; AND who knows how to walk, with ease, familiarity and skill on the wild-side in the darker, seamy, depraved and seedy shadows of society and satisfy his kinky, perverted & sadistic needs & taboo lusts (in a safe and sane manner), AND yet lead a normal successful life in the vanilla world. She must crave a deeply passionate man, who is loving & affectionate. ***
However, she must be very open-minded and have few inhibitions when being used by her Master. She should crave and need to enjoy extreme taboo kinky sexual perversions, “nasty” erotic decadence considered abhorrent, forceful sexual penetrations of all of her 3 sexual orifices and all forms of oral & anal sex as well as Kinging, Queening and rimming and sexual bondage, denials, torments & confinement. She must willingly get down and dirty and enjoy mental stimulation of exotic erotica and the feel, smell and taste of sexual activities! She must be an affectionate, erotic, sensual, romantic, open-minded ‘liberated’ and sexy woman with strong deep-seated passionate cravings for being forcefully sexually dominated by a Dominant Master. Nonetheless, I prefer that she be a decent and respectable woman who has a good sense of self-worth, dignity, self-confidence and humble pride, preferably involved in positive and productive activities, and no criminal activities or drug usage or alcoholism. She must be well and in good health; she MUST NOT have any HIV infection, AIDS or any other sexually transmitted disease (STD) or infectious public health diseases. I do not want the community cum-dump promiscuous slut who willing allows herself to be used by a multiple of different, unknown and strange men. She must understand that a real BDSM relationship is much more than just wild, wanton continuous kinky irresponsible sex with multiple men. Although not a requirement, I prefer her to be bi-sexual or bi-curious sexually. ***
I do not like the self-righteous hypocrites or religious zealots, but I enjoy women with a spiritual side, a religious background and/or a moral compass that they use to sustain them and guide them as they make ‘tough’ decisions and face life's many complicated and difficult challenges. ***
She must seek strict discipline with mandated rules, guidelines, structure, etiquette and protocols; but, if she is submissive and not a slave, she need not be micro-managed or subject to TPE. She must understand that this BDSM relationship is about much more than ‘wild wanton sexual depravity’ or BDSM role playing or taboo kinky sadomasochistic pleasures or painful tortures and uncomfortable confinement or physical bondage. She must faithfully submit and serve out of admiration, respect and trust. She must accept and embrace strong control and obedient subjugation, and TPE (if she is a slave). She must fully understand the ramifications of being a submissive woman or female slave in a BDSM relationship, who agrees to submit, serve and obey her chosen Dominant/Master and be controlled, disciplined and subjugated by him in a power exchange dynamic.***
She must want a real life physical intimate relationship and NOT the 'juvenile' unreal cyber-relationship bullsh*t. To submit and serve me, she must be one who offers her heart, mind and body and all of her creativity, education, eroticism, knowledge, resourcefulness, sexuality, skills, talents and physical capacity to her Master (me) to use as I please and need. She should know that she must suffer, sacrifice and struggle in order to serve, please, service and pleasure her Master and keep him comfortable, happy, pleasured, entertained, satisfied, pleased, nursed, cared-for, stress free and fulfilled. ***
She must understand that the bondage and enslavement are primarily mental, and as such, she may be a controlled and subjugated submissive woman or an enslaved female and still enjoy many aspects of the “vanilla” world; I do not fear her success or achievement in the “vanilla” world, because if she is enslaved mentally and bound to me emotionally, then I still own, control and dominate her … and her success benefits her Master, me. Btw ... my submissive woman may be employed, have a career or be a business entrepreneur who lives a self-sufficient and fairly independent life; she is not powerless, micro-managed and totally subjugated like a slave BUT she must be obedient, loyal, respectful, compliant, subservient and well disciplined. ***
If she is a slave ‘owned’ by me, then she is my slave property, and she must agree, know and understand that all of her knowledge, skills, talents, abilities and information she possess are mine, and she must generously use them to benefit, please, satisfy, protect & serve and worship her Master (and/or a Mistress, whom I designate). ***
She must have self-control and not be addicted to anything but serving her Master and LIFE! She must not be controlled by unlawful drugs or abuse prescription medication or dominated by tobacco products or be a chronic alcoholic. I do notdesire those who smoke or use illegal drugs, and I prefer either non-drinkers of alcohol or those who restrict and control their alcohol use to special or rare occasions and avoid drunkenness. ***
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California USA
Under the leadership, direction and guidance of President Barack H. Obama, the notorious mass murderer international terrorist name Osama Bin Laden has been killed by U.S. Special Forces (SEALS) in Pakistan on Sunday, May 1, 2011. ***
These should be days when all Americans unite to pause for patrioticcelebrations and come together literally and spiritually to give thanks! However, since the leadership and high profile figures in the Republican Party cannot stomach the idea that President Barack H. Obama did within 27 months what former President George H. Bush could not do in over seven years, and they chose partisan politics and irrational bigotry over civil discourse, American unity and a spirit of patriotic pride; I shall accommodate them. ***
RE: Killing of Osama Bin Laden --- The GOP / Republicans cannot hardly stand this major accomplishment by the Obama administration ... they try to avoid mentioning President Obama by name and often speak as if the accomplishment was due to Obama benefiting from the continuing efforts of the Bush administration. Bull manure! The Republicans and their cohorts and cronies just refuse to believe that an African American man who was born in the non-state of Hawaii, the product of ‘unnatural’ miscegenation* between a black non-American father from Kenya (Africa) and an obviously ‘misguided’ young white woman from Kansas could not only capture the White’s House (oooops … word processing error, I mean the White House), but also do anything good for our nation known as the United States of America. ***
Oh how the Republicans and their cohorts and the racist “Birthers” and “Tea Party” crowd must be groaning with disappointment and disillusionment today. They are crying in their tea-cups … first Obama proves he is an American citizen and reveals how racist, misguided, uninformed and stupid most of them are. Then he did in less than 27 months what George W. Bush could never do in seven years … that is … get Osama Bin Laden! ***
And these Republicans, “Birthers” and the Tea Party folk still do not know about all the much more successful economic accomplishments the Obama administrations has achieved when compared to the Bush administration. The data is out there but, it is had to see when one is too blinded by irrational bigotry, uncompromising political partisanship and the “blinding” and “deafening” side effects of too much right-wing talk radio and Fox News blah blah blah … I can hardly wait until they are rudely awakened and arise from their deep mental slumber and discover even one little facts like:
In eight years in office, the Bush administration created 1 million jobs between February 2001 and January 2009. However in one year alone, 2010, the Obama administration created 1.1 million jobs … oh my goodness … wait until these folk have to digest this little bit of ‘unpleasant’ data. Oh … some folk do not believe me … check the link below. ***
TRUST ME, THIS GREAT ACCOMPLISHMENT HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH EX-PRESIDENT GEORGE W. BUSH; except for one thing, President Barack H. Obama cleaned up the mess that he found as it applies to the war on terror being fought in Afghanistan and Pakistan. Since Barack Obama came into office, he added 30,000 troops to the Afghanistan war on terror effort and he significantly increased the use of special forces and CIA operatives inside Pakistan and the armed drone attacks inside Pakistan in the border regions with Afghanistan increased at least 5 times what Bush did and Obama dared the Pakistanis to obstruct his efforts and often never informed them of what his special forces, CIA operatives and drones were doing inside Pakistan. ***
Remember in October 2001, President Bush and his military leaders and national security staff allowed both the Taliban leader, Omar, and his senior staff and family to escape in a car caravan while CIA drones tracked them with armed, CIA and national security leaders and then the White House over three hours, if not longer, to get authorization to 'pull the trigger' ... but, by then, Omar and the Taliban had escaped and ended up in Pakistan, where they lived to reorganize, rearm and fight another day. Shortly there after, President Bush and his military leaders and national security staff allowed Osama Bin Laden and his family, entourage and guards to escape when they could have been trapped killed and/or captured in the Bora Bora Mountain areas on the Afghanistan side ... Bush ordered the U.S. Special Forces to stand down, wait and not to proceed without the approval and involvement of local Afghanistan militia forces. The Afghanistan militia people were unready or unwilling to go in when the U.S. Special Forces were ready and the Americans had to watch helplessly as Osama Bin Laden escaped to Pakistan. ***
Two years later ... Bush and his administration took the emphasis off the war on terror and invaded Iraq and they essentially neglected the true war on terror in Afghanistan and the border regions of Pakistan! They withheld valuable troops, equipments and covert operatives from the Afghanistan war theater, while he played “cowboy” in Iraq. ***
President Barack Obama may not play cowboy and toot his own horn, but he is in control and silently doing what is necessary to keep America and its people safe and improve the efforts of home land security personnel and the anti-terror efforts abroad. ***
In addition, the Obama administration never intended to capture Osama Bin Laden alive and try him in America. As the Obama appointed US Attorney General, Eric Holder, stated forcefully to various Republican Congressmen in early 2010, "… Let's deal with reality," Holder said. "The reality is that we will be reading Miranda rights to the corpse of Osama bin Laden. He will never appear in an American courtroom." [see link below] The Republicans did not believe him then, I wonder if they believe him now. As we all know that when you put these ‘unqualified’ African Americans into positions of authority (like President and US Attorney General), they cannot be trusted to do anything correct or appropriate to the situation. ***
* Miscegenation (Latin miscere "to mix" + genus "kind") is the mixing of different racial groups through marriage, cohabitation, sexual relations and etc.
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Those who would choose to debate this issue with me, it is better not to humiliate yourself … you will not win! And please, spare me the whole Obama used Bush’s Iraq “surge” strategy to accomplish whatever success he has achieved in Afghanistan. That is the most nonsensical argument I have ever heard. That is like saying, Football Team A keeps kicking Football Team B’s ass … however, Football Team A has 13 men playing on offense when they take the field of play, and also 13 men playing defense. Meanwhile Football Team B only fields 10 men on offense and 10 on defense. Then one day, the offensive strategy Coach for Team B whispers in the Head Coach’s ear, "it would probably help if we at least play 12 men on offense and defense." Team B’s Head Coach reluctantly agrees and then … oboy! Happy days are here again! Team B starts kicking ass.
Do you understand the analogy yet, the American military and their allies were without adequate numbers of troops in Afghanistan and the American military leaders for years begged and pleaded relentlessly for more troops and Bush and his senior advisors were so locked in on Iraq that they refused to provide the men, money, weapons systems and equipment and supplies the Americans needed in Afghanistan.
The document provided by the White House shows the official long-form birth certificate of Barack Obama. [check link above]
WASHINGTON -- Responding to critics' relentless claims, President Barack Obama on Wednesday produced a detailed Hawaii birth certificate in an extraordinary attempt to bury the issue of where he was born and confirm his legitimacy to hold office. He declared, "We do not have time for this kind of silliness." By going on national TV from the White House, Obama portrayed himself as a voice of reason amid a loud, lingering debate on his birth status. Though his personal attention to the issue elevated it as never before, Obama said to his critics and the media, it is time to move on to bigger issues. Citing huge budget decisions in Washington, Obama said, "I am confident that the American people and America's political leaders can come together in a bipartisan way and solve these problems. We always have. But we're not going to be able to do it if we are distracted."
Obama spoke shortly after the White House released a copy of the long form of his birth certificate, which contains more extensive data than a version released earlier. The certificate says Obama was born to an American mother and Kenyan father, in Hawaii, which makes him eligible to hold the office of president. Obama released a standard short form before he was elected in 2008 but requested copies of his original birth certificate from Hawaii officials this week in hopes of quieting the lingering controversy.
White House officials have said the issue was settled long ago. But so-called "birthers" opposed to Obama have kept it alive. Potential Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump recently began questioning why Obama hadn't ensured the long form was released. "We're not going to be able to solve our problems if we get distracted by sideshows and carnival barkers," the president said. Obama never named names in addressing his critics. --- END ---
For all the racist “birther” haters out there who may try to dismiss this latest concrete evidence as irrelevant because Hawaii was not a state. Listen up all you illiterate mentally challenged ignoramuses, Barack H. Obama was born August 4, 1961. Hawaii became the 50th state of the United States of America on August 21, 1959, after it was approved by the United States Congress. The modern United States of America received its crowning star when President Dwight D. Eisenhower signed a proclamation admitting Hawaii into the Union as the 50th state. The president also issued an order for an American flag featuring 50 stars arranged in staggered rows: five six-star rows and four five-star rows. The new flag became official July 4, 1960.
For those who are still too blinded by chronic ignorance, irrational racial bigotry and fanatical political partisanship to accept and/or understand what that means, I shall pray for you!
April 26, 2011
2:59 PM
NOTICE:To those who subscribe to my profile & journal and other interested persons; I have radically reduced my comprehensive, detailed and very long profile narrative in preparation to gradually discontinue my participation on this web-site. Like many others before me, I have come to realize that it is mostly a waste of my time, efforts and resources on Collarme.com. I also removed the 15 photos in my profile and replaced with only one; which is a ‘lousy’ photo, but my current previous primary photo of me in sports coat and white shirt holding a Betty Boop calendar is still up until the censors at Collarme.com approve the new primary photo … I hope they do not determine that it is too dreadfully abysmal to expose to their ‘delicate’ members on Collarme.com. After all we do have some underage young ones on this site. Anyway, by the end of Wednesday, April 27, 2011, I should have the new primary photo in place. At the end of May, most likely further cut backs shall be made and before July 1, 2011, I shall be forever off this site.
NUFF SAID!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
California USA
THE PORCH
A young blonde girl in her late teens, wanting to earn some extra money for the summer, decided to hire herself out as a "handy woman" and started canvassing a nearby well-to-do neighborhood where the richer and college educated folk lived in her southern town.
She went to the front door of the first house and asked the owner if he had any odd jobs for her to do.
"Well, I guess I could use somebody to paint the porch" he said. "How much will you charge me?"Delighted, the girl quickly responded, "How about $50?”
The man agreed and told her that the paint and brushes and everything she would need were in the garage.
The man's wife, hearing the conversation, said to her husband, "Does she realize that our porch goes ALL the way around the house?" ... "That's a bit cynical, isn't it?"he responded. The wife replied, "You're right. I guess I'm starting to believe all those dumb blonde jokes."
A couple hours later the blonde came to the door to collect her money.
"You're finished already??"the startled husband asked. "Yes," the blonde replied, "and I even had paint left over so I gave it two coats."Impressed, the man reached into his pocket for the $50 and handed it to her along with a $10 tip.
"Thank you," the blonde said, "And, by the way, it's not a Porch, it's a Lexus."
Editorial comment: And, she was the “dumb” one? RIGHT ... Need I say more?
RANTS for the day ---
American Idol observers, you f*cked up big time by voting off Pia, on April 6; she was without any doubt probably the best singer in the top 11 this season, and if not definitely in the top three; she was also the most attractive, sexy and beautiful of all the competitors left on April 6, 2011.
Kobe of the LA Lakers* does not deserve to have his character maligned and his reputation slandered and being talked about as if he was some type of homophobic hate criminal; all of these overly hostile defamatory statements by the gay & lesbian community is a bunch of bullsh*t!!! Obviously, they know nothing about what actually goes on when men play sports hard and vigorously and get caught up in the heat of the moment … all types of profanities and obnoxious words and comments are used … when Kobe uttered the so called “derogatory gay slur” when he was hit with a technical, he was not trying to demean or initiate violence against homosexual, bisexual and transgender people; get a grip and get on with your lives and stop trying to destroy Kobe’s; AND … he has already apologized and sought forgiveness for his indiscretion and he paid his excessive $100,000 fine to the NBA … he does not need to dress up like a “sissy” and ride in some gay-pride parade to be ridiculed in order to satisfy the egos of the leadership of the gay community in Los Angeles!!!
Republican Paul Ryan and his Republican cohorts in the U.S. House of Representatives have now revealed their true colors and their disregard for the unfortunate middle class, the poor, the destitute poverty stricken, students from middle income and poor homes AND their love for the wealthy billionaires and millionaires and the large multinational corporations; that deficit reduction plan that Congressman Ryan put forth will do serious damage to the relationship between the average American and the United States government; these politicians like Ryan and his cohorts and the Tea Party crowd lack any ounce of Christian charity or empathetic concern for the plight of those who are unfortunate, struggling and suffering … damn!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
* YES! I am a die hard LA Lakers fan, andKobeis dah Man!
First, the facts. According to a study reported in the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity, the erect penis size of most men — 68 percent — is between 4.6 and 6 inches long. About 16 percent of men have an erect penis size longer than 6.1 inches, and of those only 2.5 percent are over 6.9 inches. About 16 percent of men have an erect penis size that’s shorter than 4.5 inches, with only 2.5 percent of those under 3.7 inches
I am not certain how or where they conducted these penis size surveys or got their scientific information, BUT … I know it was not in my neighborhood, because I grew up on the west side of Kingston in the Caribbean island nation of Jamaica, and in my local community (Jones Town next to Trench Town), if an adult man or an older teenage young man presented these types of ‘dismal’ measurements, they probably could not survive the routine public ridicule that the other boys and men would heap upon them, especially in high school. I went to an all-boys high school, and the age group ranged from 12 to 19. Even if you lacked pubic hair you caught hell and being insufficiently developed in the genital area was tantamount to a criminal act or unforgivable insult. An erect penis under 5” … hhhmmmmmm … about 2” of flaccid meat? ***
My grandfather in Jamaicawas hung like a horse … long, uncut and thick! He was 94 years old when I met him and he died at 104. He was a vigorous and naturally dominant old man with lots of energy and stamina. He out lived three wives and his fourth (my grandmother) was at least 30 years younger than him. He gave me an inferiority complex until I returned to America at age 18 and started college when I was 19. By the time I was 20, and many “intimate” encounters later, I lost that inferiority complex … yeah, women will let you know if you are bringing it!
When I grew up in a mostly black Third World country, the word G-spot may not have been established as yet, and no one in my community had a word for the clit (clitoris) … they did not know about that. As for oral sex? Well we heard rumors that Jamaican prostitutes not only shaved their pubic hair but also sucked the cocks of American marines and sailors when they came to the island from the American military base at Guantánamo Bay, Cuba. When I was in high school this 18 year old white Jewish student from America would fascinate us with his detailed stories about eating pussy. We were mesmerized and repulsed all at the same time, but very curious … then he would talk about licking and eating the love juices of his girlfriends … some of the guys got nauseated. We loved him but thought he was a little weird and crazy. I did learn something from him, women had orgasms and released a secreted fluid which lubricated them and made it easier to get in. He also knew about the clit, but did not know the proper name for it … he used a slang word I do not recall. It was always great sex education sessions with him; and I paid close attention. ***
If you enjoy attractive & "talented' young Asian girls who love to swing and enjoy playing in public and really know how to "blow" ... check out this video ... it is hot!!!
Mr.B
Once more, I must repeat this. If you are a slave or submissive woman who indicates that you are willing to relocate, that does not mean moving across town or somewhere nearby in your county. It must mean moving out of state or at least more than 45 miles away and outside of your county. Relocation does not necessarily mean you have to move in with your new Dominant, it may mean that you move near by in the same metropolitan area, city, township or rural village where your new Dominant Master or Mistress resides.
Also, when you express that you live for, love or like to travel; that does not mean taking a 25 minute bus ride across town. Travel does not mean walking, jogging, cycling or driving around in your county or the metropolitan area, city, township or rural village in which you currently reside. It usually means getting on a large ship or airplane or train or Greyhound Buss or in a car and taking a journey to a foreign country or across country in the United States … or at least to a state that is at least hundreds of miles away. I have lived in San Diego while working in downtown Los Angeles; each day for six years, I drove 115 miles one way to work … I had a daily five-hour round trip commute Monday through Friday. Sometimes I took the Amtrak train or Metrolink commuter train … BUT … I did not consider that traveling! So, get for real and stop misleading other members about being willing to relocate or enjoying travel. *** Mr.B ***
This season's American Idol is the BEST it has been in many years! Last night the best of the best was Jacob Lusk! He blew everyone away! Check it out; turn it up and enjoy!
Seeking a three-carat diamond in a barrel of human excrement
During the past coupleof weeks I have enjoyed the ‘displeasure’ of having to communicate with other serious Dominants regarding our continuing frustration and anger at the amount of time, thought and energy wasted in these BDSM websites because of all of the so called female slaves and submissive women who are little more than fakes, flakes, phonies, and frauds and immature juvenile delinquents playing stupid ‘childish’ games. I shall not share the exact quotes of our private message exchanges, but since one Dominant from Austin Texas, valo, actually discussed this in his journal for all to see, I have included valo’s journal entries below on the subject, which he posted on 2/13/2010 and 2/26/2011.
I totally agree with both of valo’s journal entries below. These so called female slaves and submissive women write all kinds of bullsh*t in there profile and journal and then hide anonymously behind their computer screen in the safety of their homes and talk that I want to be used with no-limits, I want degradation & humiliation and to be tortured and whipped and beat senseless etc. Then they all love or like to travel and are willing to ‘relocate’ BUT … when faced with all they claim they desire by a serious Dominant, they run and hide like the pathetic little wannabes or frauds they are.
While I am lamenting, I may as well express another point of view, which complements this continuing frustration commentary. Advice to Male Dominants and Masters: 1) Do not invest much time, energy and thought writing a long, thoughtful and detailed message to these so called female slaves and submissive women, it is not worth it; they usually just scan them quickly, or delete without reading or never open the mail anyway. Even if they say no “one liners” … do not write more than three paragraphs and keep the paragraphs short to no more than five simple sentences in language that a third grader could understand. Remember --- If one of these so called female slaves and submissive women is interested in you, she will let you know and it does not matter what your profile says or what you write to her; if she has a prejudice against you, it matters not what you write or what your profile says!2) Do not take their profile narratives and lists of activities too serious, most of them have no idea what they are talking about and do not know what many of the activities they have listed are anyway. 3) Always remember that at least 50% of the so-called female slaves and submissive women on this site fall into one of the following categories: underage juvenile delinquents playing “stupid” games; some people (usually in an African nation or the UK) posting fake profiles to conduct fraudulent schemes and to scam you out of money; women who are lost on a BDSM website who seek ‘vanilla’ love & romance; women who are curious and just looking around; and women trying to sell you something or get you to join another site (which will cost money) or trying to get you to purchase ‘dirty’ panties, photos or a webcam show.
A Dominant Male can only keep making a genuine effort to find his ideal submissive or slave, but it is like trying to find a three-carat diamond in a barrel of human excrement, with no guarantee of success. YUK!!
God... so i have given this site another chance, and still just fake as people.. People say they want a certain thing, and your exactly what they want.. and dont give you the time of day.. Fake ass fucking people.. if you want to be owned, then have balls, meet people.. if you wanna be humilated.. fucking meet the person willing to do it.. you cant be picky in this lifestyle..
So yea.. I have come to the conclusion people from this site are a waste of time.. they want to live the life style, yet to scared to meet, or tell you how they feel, or to be honest..... to be honest, i would consider most to be fake.. What a fucking waste of time..
24 Hours in the life of …
It is always good to live in the real world and forget all of the fraudulent, dishonest and deceptively deceitful and untrustworthiness and bigotry of these BDSM web sites. Yes … a lovely young Taiwanese lady friend, who is both a licensed certified professional masseuse and an ‘exotic’ dancer came by early Friday evening around 6:16 PM and massaged out some of the aches and pains from a particularly rigorous gym resistance training & weight lifting regimen, I started ten days ago … think I strained or overworked something a couple days ago. Such strong and talented hands for a little 5’2” woman; and yes, she really is working her way through college! ~~ smile ~~
Then at 10:30 AM today, I enjoyed a lovely brunch with three young female friends of mine. All are in college on their daddy’s dime or scholarships … I had the multi-grain and nut pancakes with two poached eggs and turkey sausage patties with a tall glass of orange juice and steaming hot water & honey (rather than my usual decaffeinated herbal tea or decaffeinated coffee). So I am sitting there enjoying three very attractive ladies between the age of 23 and 26, and various men were discretely and obviously checking them out. ~~ smile ~~ Of course, I got my special indoors dark glasses on … my signature trademark ... these are a new pair, just picked them up three days ago. Their meal was on my dime, of course … inexpensive meal … only $42.67 for the four of us, not including the $8 tip.
I no longer bar-hop and my hard-core partying night clubbing days are over, but, tonight, I shall be checking out a place or two downtown, where certain female “associates” informed me that they shall be hanging out. Next week, being dragged to the theatre, when my dear “vanilla” lady friend returns to the city from out of state. Oh well, even the “vanilla” world is not all a bed of roses … not roses, they have sharp thorns … bed of rose petals sounds more comfortable. ~~ smile ~~
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Happy Valentine’s All
At precisely 7:27 AM this morning the door bell rings; I am furious about who is interrupting me so early. Some nice college kid delivering a huge tray of baked goods (cookies saying Happy Valentine’s Day) and my favorite oatmeal raisin cookies … yum!!! I know loving thoughts are behind this effort, but ... Damn!!!
Ever wonder why Americans get obese and are unable to lose weight, well consider the following:
q Halloween --- eat all the sweets and candy possible
q Thanksgiving --- lots of pie and a huge dinner with all the delicious “fattening” stuff … and more pie
q Winter holiday season --- eat, drink and be merry, eat more, party hardy and eat and drink and eat lots of cakes, pies, candy & anything filled with sugar and fat stuff and wash down with alcoholic beverages
q Christmas Eve & Christmas Day --- Loads of pie, cookie and cake eating on top of a huge dinner with all the delicious “fattening” stuff … and hey … eggnog!!!
q New Year’s Eve --- Out for a formal dinner with dessert and/or drink plenty of alcoholic beverages until you pass out
q Super Bowl Sunday --- Gallons of beer to wash down all the Mexican food, pizza and chips & cheese dips
q Valentine’s Day --- More formal dining with alcoholic drinks and … yes, dessert … and loads of Happy Valentine cookies at home and work!
q St. Patrick’s Day --- Beer and food and getting drunk again!
At least on Martin Luther King day, it was about marching or walking in parades … oops … forgot about the early morning prayer breakfasts!
Presidents Day … do not eat, just shop and spend money!
All of the festive or celebration holidays listed occur between late October and March, when the days are short and cold and the nights are long and frigid! The weather outside is frightful (unless in southern California) and inside is much more delightful. Americans huddle indoors to escape the unpleasantness … and eat, munch and snack. By the time we get up the energy and resolve to work out and run and walk … usually around April, May or June … oops .. did I forget high school and college graduations in May and June … time to eat, drink and be merry again. Finally in July and August, we are starting to look good (or better, anyway) and we begin to control all of the eating … although Memorial Day and July 4thdid interrupt progress. Mid August and September arrive and it is back to school and the start of the first college semester. Now it is all about studying and home work and research projects and doing papers ... and getting drunk and partying in spare time. ... and here comes October 31st!
NUFF SAID!
So my dear singer/entertainer, Ms. Rihanna, has provoked controversy again. A song & video about S&M ... hhhmmmmm ... it seems rather tame, why are countries banning it and radio stations and TV stations all alarmed? All these self-righteous hypocritic people in the 'vanilla' world need to get a life ... or get a grip! Or ... get lost! Do your thang my Caribbean island gurl ... and get paid!
I completed the repair of my profile's written narrative about 10 minutes ago. It was a rush job, as I must scurry off to business appointments soon, after I grab a quick bite to eat, and then shower, brush, floss & gargle and hop in a suit with tie, of course.
This was a rush job, but better than the mess before!
Mr.B
MY PROFILE STATEMENT IS ALL SCREWED UP NOW!
To whom it may concern & other interested persons ~~~
No! I have not suddenly taken leave of my senses and I did not just juggle and distort my profile’s narrative statement. First, people are cutting and stealing parts and now, I see paragraphs moved around and butchered and placed in the narrative in such a manner as to make it a bumpy, rough and uneven reading experience with weird glitches and poor literary flow. Now it is very unsmooth!
I apologize to readers who find it disjointed and incoherent.
Is this the result of another Collarme.com technical screw-up, or are immature, inconsiderate, thoughtless ‘juvenile’ miscreants at work.
For the first time since 2005, I must cut the whole damn thing out, and rewrite and reorganize it … this pisses me off!!
Mr.B
I am so very tired of all of these so called submissives and slaves coming on this site and doing nothing more than trying to get you to join another website. They are not real profiles, just “sneaky’ advertisements for other web-sites. Come on Collarme.com censors, figure this one out. Here is the latest example: In the least 60 days, many new female profiles have the exact same statement, which is:
“Hey.. I love to show off my body! I think its perfect LOL. I can't show my pics in public or I'll lose my job so I keep them in my profile on http://www.cupidcities.net.tc Its free to register so come see my pics, maybe I can get on cam for you. Goto http://www.cupidcities.net.tc (copy and paste it into your browser's address bar)”
That statement was in the three profiles below, which all joined on the same exact day … coincidence, I doubt it!
Btw … if you doubt they are frauds, then how does AntonetteSilva from the state of Nebraska reside only 299 miles from me in San Diego, California?
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
UPDATE: Then there is WinnieReide0cU, a 31 year old Female Submissive, who joined on January 26, 2011; she lives in the state of Michigan (448 mi) … yeah, Michigan is only 448 miles from San Diego, California. Damn! Who knew? Send a bulletin to the airlines industry, Greyhound Bus and Amtrak and all the truckers. By coincidence, her profile has the exact same wording and mentions the cupidcities.netwebsite also.
HEY!! I do not care if you steal and copy & paste writings from my profile’s narrative or journal! Feel free to plagiarize away!
BUT … damn it! There is no need to cut out my writing from my profile!!!
Just … copy, but do not cut.
Are we still in junior high school here … damn!
NUFF SAID!
Thanks!
Mr.B
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!
I PRAY YOU ENJOY A PEACEFUL, FESTIVE, JOYOUS & BOUNTIFUL CHRISTMAS FILLED WITH THE WARMTH, FRIENDSHIP & LOVE OF FAMILY, FRIENDS & LOVED ONES.
May your New Years celebration be fun-filled, exciting and SAFE!!!
May the New Year, 2011 be one filled with good health, much success, excessive happiness and productive & positive activities, which improve your finances and economic stability? May all of the taboo kinky perverted pleasures and sadomasochistic desires, which you need and crave be fully realized and satisfied!
Those who wish to meet and know me in 2011, please write.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
To Whom It May Concern & other interested folk ~~~
Please be advised, that due to the Christmas Season and New Years Holiday celebrations and related activities ... and family and friends visiting and intruding upon my personal private time between now and January 10, I shall rarely be on Collarme.
I shall make an effort to periodically check for messages, and endeavor to respond as promptly as possible.
By the second week of January 2011, I should be back on schedule.
Merry Christmas! Enjoy a safe, joyous and prosperous New Year!
Mr.B
P/S If someone wishes to tell me how to adjust the spacing between lines, it would be much appreciated. Thanks!
Today is December 22 ... the day my mother died; I shall always remember and think of her!! Now I must return to the Christmas activities, holiday festivities and family affairs. Damn! Now I must run to the mall and the store! Mr.B
Humor & levity are good for the human soul and physical & mental health
Three Dog Story
Three dogs were sitting in the waiting room at the vet's when they struck up a conversation. The Yellow Labrador turned to the Black Labrador and said, "So why are you here?"
The Black Lab replied, "I'm a pisser. I piss on everything....the sofa, the curtains, the cat, the kids. But the final straw was last night when I pissed in the middle of my owner's bed."
The Yellow Lab asked, "So what's the vet going to do?"
"Gonna cut my nuts off", came the reply from the Black Lab. "They reckon it'll calm me down."
The Black Lab then asked the Yellow Lab "Why are you here?"
The Yellow Lab said, "I'm a digger. I dig under fences, dig up flowers and trees, I dig just for the hell of it. When I'm inside, I dig up the carpets. But I went over the line last night when I dug a great big hole in my owners' couch."
"So what are they going to do to you?" the Black Lab inquired.
"Looks like I'm losing my nuts too," the dejected Yellow Lab said.
The Black Lab then turned to the Great Dane and asked, "Why are you here?”
"I'm a humper," said the Great Dane. "I'll hump anything. I'll hump the cat, a pillow, the table, fence posts, whatever. I want to hump everything I see. Yesterday my owner had just got out of the shower and she was bending down to dry her toes, and I just couldn't help myself. I hopped on her back and started hammering away."
The Black and the Yellow Labs exchanged a sad glance and said, "So, its nuts off for you too, huh?"
The Great Dane said, "No, apparently I'm here to get my nails clipped!"
Editorial Note: Obviously, the Great Dane, did his name proud, and has been elevated from guard dog & pet, and promoted to K9 paramour in the owner’s boudoir.
Paramour: this isan illicit lover, especially a sexual partner in an adulterous affair
Boudoir: this is a lady's private bedroom, sitting room or dressing room. The word “Boudoir” comes from the French …
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
Once again, I must post my thoughts on physical appearance and “beauty” as applies to BDSM. Thus, once again, I have moved the journal entry entitled “What is Beauty?” that I originally wrote and posted on May 31, 2008 to the beginning of my journal. This allows people to quickly and easily read and understand my point of view on appearance, body types and physical ‘beauty’ … thanks!
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What is 'Beauty' ... Every Dominant prefers a slave or submissive that he considers beautiful, sexy and physically attractive BUT remember three things:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder --- Each Dominant has his own concept of what he may consider beautiful, sexy and attractive … therefore, just because in the ‘vanilla’ world men are begging for the pleasure of your company and putting you on a pedestal and throwing money, jewelry and material things at you to win your attention and affection … that does not mean that all Dominant men find you attractive … I do not give a damn about you being a "pretty girl." Btw … word of advise for the southern California girls; not all Dominants find super skinny anorexic looking Barbie doll types with the platinum blonde hair and narrow ‘boyish’ looking hips, flat butts and too thin weak wobbly-looking legs, and overly big fake breast implants and plastic “Hollywood” personalities to be 'attractive.'
Beauty is as beauty does --- Attractive physical attributes such as a beautiful face and a sexy physique are great, BUT once you are found to be dishonest, untruthful and not trustworthy and especially if you are discovered to be one of many fake wannabes or manipulating criminal scammers trying to unethically and unlawfully separate a man from his cash … your beauty turns to dog feces and your desirability value is equivalent to that of last week’s newspaper used to scoop up the previously mentioned dog sh*t!
Beauty is relative in the BDSM realm --- When a genuine Dominant or Master seeks a submissive or slave … YES!! It is nice to find a real “hottie” … however, if the beautiful woman is neither submissive nor slave and not even a ‘switch’ then you cannot meet his needs and cravings! This is not some sort of ‘vanilla’ dating service like: adultfriendfinder.com. In the long term, it is your character, demeanor, attitude, behavior, maturity, self-discipline, honesty and natural submissiveness and compliant subservience that matters most … and not your beauty. It is your honest deep-seated desire to surrender your control and submit before and accept the authority, discipline and training of a serious Dominant that matters most. If your new found Master is an extreme hard-core sadist then your ability, capacity and willingness to be subjected to hard-core forceful sexual penetration and to accept severe & painful sadistic torture, extreme humiliations and strict discipline and harsh punishments that makes you desirable.
Remember that each and every Dominant has different tastes and unique cravings and a so called ‘sexy beauty’ may be shocked to discover that not everyone is desperate for her attention, especially if she has few other non-physical characteristics, talents, qualities and attributes that make her attractive.
That is this Sir’s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
December 1, 2010
9:18 AM (Pacific)
TIME FOR A LITTLE LEVITY & MERRIMENT …
… laughing is great medicine and good for the heart, mind and soul!
Never Choke in a Restaurant in the South!
Two hillbillies walk into a restaurant. While having a bite to eat, they talk about their moonshine operation. Suddenly, a woman at a nearby table, who is eating a sandwich, begins to cough. After a minute or so, it becomes apparent that she is in real distress. One of the hillbillies looks at her and says, “Kin ya swallar?” The woman shakes her head ‘no.’ Then the same hillbilly asks her, “Kin ya breathe?” The woman begins to turn blue and shakes her head ‘no.’ The hillbilly walks over to the woman, lifts up her dress, yanks down her drawers and quickly gives her right ass cheek a good wet lick with his tongue. The woman is so shocked that she has a violent spasm and the obstruction flies out of her mouth. As she begins to breathe again, the Hillbilly walks slowly back to his table. His hillbilly partner says, “Ya know, I'd heerd of that there 'Hind Lick Maneuver' … but I ain't niver seed nobody do it!”
Editorial Comment: Neither has this Sir!
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A foursome of guys is impatiently waiting at the men’s tee while a foursome of women is hitting from the ladies' tee.
The ladies are taking their time. When the final lady is ready to hit her ball, she hacks it 10 feet. Then she goes over and whiffs it completely. Then she hacks it another ten feet and finally hacks it another five feet.
She looks up at the ‘patiently’ waiting men and says apologetically, "I guess all those ‘Fucking LESSONS’ I took over the winter didn't help."
One of the men immediately responds, "Well, there you have it. You should have taken ‘golf lessons’ instead!"
He never saw it coming or even had a chance to duck. He was 43 .......
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IMPORTANT: If you don't send this to five friends, there will be five fewer people laughing heartily in the world.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
Mr.B
San Diego, CA USA
November 25, 2010
Unhappy Thanksgiving Day! How does America's Team, the great Dallas Cowboys turn a guaranteed win into a horribly depressing loss within the last 3 – 5 minutes? Stupid plays, lousy coaching & poor strategy, especially on defense ... hey defensive coordinator/coach, ever heard of a "prevent defense" in the final minutes when you are ahead and they have to travel at least 50 yards to score? Spread at least four speedy defenders across the field long and mid range covering sides and middle. No offensive receiver catches a ball seven yards beyond the line of scrimmage … damn!! Why is there no serious pressure up front on the QB … did we not eat our Wheaties this morning, or did the Dallas ‘Boys pig out on turkey and stuffing before the game and were too bloated and full to perform?
Btw ... who was that damn fool who had a clear run to the end zone to score for Dallas at the end and let some punk run him down from behind and snatch the ball away, while in full stride?
Every text message, phone call and e-mail I get after the game from around the country are talking bad about me and my team … could they at least say “Happy Thanksgiving” first … oh, that is right … it was not a happy Thanksgiving day today. Damn!
Mr.B (fuming and pouting in San Diego, CA)
P/S Well, at least I still have my LA Lakers!
Thanksgiving Day is on the 25th of the month, same as Christmas is this year.Hhhmmmmm ... both holidays land on the 25th of the month ... ... how wierd is that ... eh? Am I the only one who observes and watches these signs of the times? Happy Thanksgiving to all ... and if you watch NFL football on Thanksgiving Day, root for the Dallas Cowboys, America's team!
November 23, 2010
12:48 PM (Pacific)
I guess it is time to move this old journal entry to the front again. People are still confused … discipline and punishment are two different things, although, discipline may include various forms of corrective punishment. Also, not all punishment is corporal punishment (spanking, whipping, paddling and/or caning). Punishment takes many forms. Discipline is always much more important than punishment! Some of you all need prayer!
Wednesday, September 29, 2010 at 12:55 PM (Pacific) THIS IS A REPOSTING OF A JOURNAL ENTRY MADE ON 1/28/2008
Monday, January 28, 2008 1:33 PM (Pacific time)
Difference Between Discipline and Punishment
In both the ‘vanilla’ world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ///
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hard working fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples … He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ‘Master’ and referred to Him as their Teacher. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or well being. ///
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is usually verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ///
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master’s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ‘vanilla’ world. ///
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up their anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ///
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately, most Dominants do not. ///
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ///
Btw …regarding spankees … he he he … some can take a really severe whipping BUT … perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese … whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. ///
However, it is important to never break the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ///
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance … when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently seriously injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ///
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen … hhhmmmmm … that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six-year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature ‘even tempered’ adult arrives to help you deal with it. ///
Be mature, careful and sane … we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers … but I digress. You get the general idea. ///
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient and respectful and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Punishment is about correcting misdeeds, unacceptable services and various violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real true naturally submissive woman or genuine female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master.
There is more to be said on this topic, but … NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir’s humble opinion …
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
This is an original poem I wrote some time ago. It is posted in my journal previously, but buried back in 2006 or somewhere … thought I should move it to the front. It may interest you, if you are a for real natural submissive woman with a real slave potential.
A Poem of Righteous Dominance & submission
Your faith and religious beliefs matter not Your trust in the God or any deity is of no consequence The Almighty One created all humanity pure and perfect But gave them burdens to bear, challenges and struggles His word shows the truth and provides the light Each one is endowed with creativity, free will and choice
The choice for good and evil is a daunting one Each must stand and decide his or her own fate or be dragged along And all are free to seek counsel from righteous men of dominance Wisdom, knowledge and understanding and heeding the good word These are the keys to the light and the road map to success and peace of mind Obedience, discipline, submission, humility, charity, self-renunciation and chastity Provide the fertile ground to receive the good word and wise counsel
Caste aside bigotry, greed, lusts, superstitions and irrational fears Before you ignore the so-called “untouchable” one, listen thoughtfully Open your mind, do not close your heart, but look beyond the physical The naked eye alone cannot discern what it is you seek and need The counsel, guidance and teaching from the Dominant One with authority You need His knowledge, wisdom and understanding and strict discipline
If you only but submit, listen, obey and surrender control and authority He shall lead you down that path to satisfaction and self-actualization Where you shall find comfort, peace of mind and freedom from want Put your body, mind and heart before the righteous Dominant One Let Him train you and guide you and mold you and develop you and protect you Feel His power within and about you and hide not from His forcefulness
Submit before Him and accept His authority, discipline, control and teachings He shall study you and learn your weaknesses, faults and transgressions Every blemish, scar or imperfection He shall observe and note Your secrets, failures and misgivings are safe with Him, and shall be corrected He may chastise and rebuke in displeasure; but it is done from a place of love Yet, like the Almighty One, He shall accept you and reward your goodness Your subjugation under Him shall provide you confidence, calm and peace There may be times when He appears unjust, too harsh or too strict; waver not Be neither hesitant nor irresolute; do not falter during your rebuilding phase Like birth, the rebuilding involves pain, hardship, vulnerability and struggle Like a child before her father or student before her taskmaster, you may tremble Come before Him with love, respect, trust, faith and fear and serve Him He shall be your salvation and your provider and your protection His business is to correct and repair your sources of weakness, He rids you Of your addictions, anxieties, doubts, egotism, greed, ignorance and lusts
You shall be strengthened and invigorated and motivated as you develop Soon the mysteries, uncertainties and confusions shall disappear Where once there was weakness, timidity, self-doubt and lack of purpose There shall be a humble, compliant and obedient one who is at peace with nature And she radiates self-confidence and self-respect and possesses good self esteem The evil doers, unsavory predators, false prophets and self-righteous ones May no longer trespass upon you and subject you to abuse or ridicule The righteous Dominant One keeps you safe, secure, satisfied and comforted
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) San Diego, California USA
Btw … Yesterday was November 22. A significant historical anniversary. Am I the only one who remembers that on November 22, 1963, President John F. Kennedy was shot in the head and assassinated in Dallas Texas? Hhhmmmmm …
The Tender Trap …
Recently, while enjoying drinks and the company of a lovely woman, I looked into her mischievous eyes with their provocative twinkle and then shook my pointing finger accusingly at her and groaned, “Aaaahhh lady, you are a dangerous woman …” and then I leaned in close to her ear and quietly sung the following little ditty to her, to a tune reminiscent of 1950’s & 1960’s songs from crooners like Frank Sinatra:
“Those Eyes, those Lips, those Thighs, and those Hips,
Are all part of the tender trap! … Yeah.”
No! Ours is a non-sexual friendship, which involves much flirting, friendly banter, intellectual debate and … provocative erotic behavior on her part. Because she trusts me and considers me to be safe, so she lets her hair down, crosses her legs and hikes her skirt (revealing heavenly thighs), she lets her guard down … and teases.
YES! This 39 year old woman is blessed with great genes, and the hours spent jogging, swimming and working-out have worked miracles on her body. She is tanned brown BUT not burnt … her eyes are green and her hair dark reddish auburn, she is 5’8” and wears killer heels and expensive business suits … yes, she is an all business high 6 figure woman, who rarely lets her guard down or reveals her sensuality or erotic nature.
Yes, I drink my Perrier water on the rocks with lime, or perhaps enjoy a chilled OJ straight up; but she is all about good Scotch, fine wines and high priced champagne … unless she is in a foul & dirty mood, then it is Kentucky Bourbon.
So, as I sing my little ditty to her, and she pretends not to know what I mean and says, “Why, Mr.B, pray tell, whatever do you mean, kind sir? What is this “tender trap” of which you speak?” To which I retort, “Woman, now why you want to play a brotha like that. You women always know how to distract, lure and reel a man in. When he thinks he hunted and captured you; he was just a victimized prey of the ultimate predator ‘a beautiful sexy woman’ like you.” She knows that I will not make the mistake of trying to score and hit it, so she acts in the most provacative, sensual, stimulating and vulnerable manner … just to test. I am her friend, and whenever we meet, which is rare these days, it is a pleasure to enjoy her company, and watch others gaze with curiosity & envy.
Women … you got to love them!
Mr.B
DATE: November 16, 2010 TO: Memo to Myself FROM: Mr.B SUBJ: Family Matters / Sister's Kidney Transplant Your older 63 year old sister is undergoing kidney transplant surgery in Dallas Texas at this very moment. Your sister's oldest daughter, who is 40, is the organ donar, and she is still on the operating table and one of her kidneys has already been removed and transported to the operating room where my sister is asleep and waiting ... no word yet on how they are doing. Recommendations: Breath deep and stay cool, calm and collected, as always!
November 22, 2010 UPDATE
My niece is doing excellent, and was released from the hospital last week, but must remain at this special nearby hotel for another few days and visit her doctor at the hospital every other day; if all goes well, she flies back to Atlanta by the coming weekend.
My sister is doing very well, much better than expected. The one old barely functioning kidney (it was about 6% useful), which is left in her, is now being a real bitch and tossing little sand grain size kidney stones … which is no fun! But … the old girl was up walking around by the third day, and her new kidney is one of the best the doctors have ever seen, it has been nick named “super kidney” … it cleans, flushes and pumps out the liquid with enthusiasm and confidence … her ability to pass clean freshly filtered urine on her own is perfect … she was taken off the catheter today, but still got tubes in the arms. She is back to her feisty self … tried to debate NFL football with me on Sunday … I am a Dallas Cowboys fan (like 75% of America) and she is a Washington’s Red Skins fan (how pathetic). I told her that since she is in a large hospital in Dallas Texas, she needs to keep her NFL team preferences to herself until she is discharged. Those damn Texans take their football very seriously! … and they love dem der ‘Boys! ~~~ smile ~~~ … after all, they are America’s Team, it would be unpatriotic not to love them. Besides, it has been ordained from the highest Heavens that a hole is left in the roof of any Dallas Cowboy stadium in order that the Creator, Himself, and all the billions of loyal Dallas Cowboy fans in Heaven can have an unobstructed view. He he he …
This would be so much easier, if women who identify as a slave, submissive or switch would indicate their preferences or thoughts regarding the following:
1. Whether or not they are interested in men
2. Whether or not they are straight, lesbian or bisexual
3. Whether or not they would consider “older” Dominants, between the age of 41 and 70
4. Whether or not they are willing to travel within North America (Canada and/or the USA)
5. Whether or not they have ethnic/racial preferences, and what those are; for example, if they do not desire black/African Americans
6. Whether or not they discriminate against articulate, educated, intelligent, mature and rational Dominants, who are sane, safe and thoughtful
7. Whether or not, they are interested in meeting in real life
Thanks!!
Mr.B
I cannot believe it!! My poor Dallas Cowboys beat the mighty New York Giants!! America's team is on the rebound, even without their injured QB Romo! My LA Lakers are off to a pretty nice start, although they did stumble and lose in Denver. I see that the NBA Miami Heat continues to struggle with queen james playing for them ... ha ha ha!! GREAT! Mr.B
In the last 90 days, I have had members write to me first and initiate discussions, and then suddenly stop communicating, change their minds or abruptly come up with some immature unreasonable excuse why they are suddenly unavailable or can no longer do what they expressed interest in or what their profile states. Please do not contact me, if you are not serious, honest and trustworthy and/or if you do not desire real time interaction. Some turned out to be frauds. I do not mind those who wish to have questions answered, seek guidance or information. DO NOT MAKE PROMISES YOU CANNOT KEEP! Do not waste my time.
Thanks!
Mr.B
IT IS ELECTION DAY IN THE USA!
PLEASE ...
... GO TO YOUR POLLING PLACE ... AND ...
VOTE BEFORE 7:00 PM TODAY!!!
P/S If you plan to vote a straight Republican ticket,it is ok to stay homeand relax and watch your favorite TV show with a bottle of beer and pizza ... just chill at home and rest yourself ... leave all that confusing "dirty" election work for those 'horrible' Democrats, besides the Republicans will win all in major landslides ... so, kick back on the sofa and enjoy life ...
Yesterday, every single message that I have sent was corrupted and unreadable, even messages I sent many days ago or weeks ago, which were fine and readable were then just a bunch of unreadable gobbly-gook! What is the problem with CollarMe.com that it always has these wierd chaotic technical problems! That kind of bullsh*t just pisses me off!!! Today, it is back to normal BUT … they have made technical changes, which appear to be better but still technically difficult at times. Mr.B
I post these comments again, because, I have often been asked what it is exactly that I seek in a submissive or slave. I guess my profile is too long and convoluted for someone to have to waste time and energy carefully reading to gather that information; thus I post the statements below, which I hope detail it. I confess to being particularly garrulous and long-winded at times; and I know that my writings can be tortuous for some (where are the true masochistic ones … smile). However, regardless of what I write, I know that each person is different and I always try to communicate with them and assess chemistry and compatibility in terms of needs, expectations, limitations and types of services and enslavement.
The slave or submissive must be a biological female (natural from birth or post-op transsexual female who lives and looks like a feminine woman and is accepted by her community as a 'real' woman).
I do not like to focus on the physical appearance in terms of facial features, body type or physique or racial or ethnic background. I try to focus on the inner qualities and as to whether I think the woman is being honest, serious and truthful about what she presents in her profile and what she states when we communicate. Although, I prefer a naturally submissive woman with slave potential, that is NOT a requirement! Just be for real, truthful, trustworthy and not a fraud. I am more interested in her character, personality, nature, abilities, talents, cravings, needs, fantasies and the depth of her desire to submit, obey, serve and be trained. I also constantly test her honesty, sincerity, genuineness, ethics and trust-worthiness. If a female slave or submissive woman, under consideration, is suspected or proven to be part of the fraudulent criminal element of scam-artists with a fake profile, trying to manipulate members out of money or waste their time ... she is quickly dismissed.
PLEASE KNOW THAT EACH BDSM RELATIONSHIP IS SPECIAL AND UNIQUE, AND MUST BE CAREFULLY & THOUGHTFULLY NEGOTIATED IN ADVANCE
THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN I SEEK & PREFER ***
I am only interested in an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable woman, whose age qualifies her as a 'legal' adult. I prefer ‘youthful’ women who embrace learning, are engaged in positive & productive activities in real life, and have a curious, liberated & open mind. I appreciate and respect submissive woman who are gainfully employed, engaged in business, politically aware and/or involved in community or charity efforts; and who explore any artistic or creative talents they possess. I like responsible women who set personal goals and take real action to accomplish such goals. In other words, I do not insist upon, but prefer a naturally submissive woman with a life in the “vanilla” world, which she finds rewarding, worthwhile and satisfying … or at least, a submissive woman who strives everyday to improve and uplift herself and others around her … I also accept those who need and hunger for full time ownership, total subjugation and consensual enslavement with a total power exchange dynamic, BUT not because they are desperate and destitute and are seeking someone to “rescue” them from their personal “hellish” Diaspora. ~~~
She must not be cursed with irrational bigotry and unfair prejudice. Regardless of age, she must be youthful and young-at-heart and look enthusiastically at life and its possibilities. I prefer naturally submissive women who have the heart, mind & soul of a slave … she does not need to be a self-defined slave; however, I prefer if she is ready to be taken in hand and accept strong control, strict discipline and enforced obedience. She must be intelligent, mature, honest, truthful, genuine and trustworthy AND real & sincere and committed to what she writes in her profile or journal. In her public "vanilla" life, she may be strong, dynamic and powerful; but in her private personal life with me, she should be very humble, obedient, subservient, respectful, very disciplined and well-mannered. NO! I do not seek a "door mat" with low self-esteem. ~~~
The woman I seek must like strong, forceful, strict, kinky, sadistic naturally dominant 'Alpha' men who are confident and secure in their dominance and able to lead, direct and control and subjugate women with the strength of their character, personality, intellect, persuasive powers and communications skills without resorting to unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery. She must appreciate a dominant man who brings strong passion to the relationship and is capable of being affectionate and loving, as well as forceful, demanding and sadistic! She must know and agree that BDSM lifestyle is much more than just eroticism, sensuality or taboo kinky sexual pleasures! However, she must be passionate about taboo kinky sexual perverted pleasures, enjoy exotic erotica and desire extremely intense BDSM play. She should crave a dominant man who can be rough, demanding, forceful and hard-core; AND who knows how to walk, with ease, familiarity and skill on the wild side in the darker, seamy, depraved and seedy shadows of society and satisfy his kinky, perverted & sadistic needs & taboo lusts (in a safe and sane manner), AND yet lead a normal successful life in the vanilla world. She must crave a deeply passionate man, who is loving & affectionate, but also committed to testing her limits and forcing her to challenge her boundaries. ~~~
She must be an affectionate, erotic, sensual, romantic, open-minded ‘liberated’ and sexy woman with strong deep-seated passionate cravings for taboo kinky perverted sexual pleasures and being forcefully sexually dominated by a Dominant Master. HOWEVER, she must be a decent and respectable woman who has a good sense of self-worth, dignity, self-confidence and humble pride, preferably involved in positive and productive activities, and no criminal activities or drug usage or alcoholism. She must be well and in good health; she MUST NOT have any HIV infection, AIDS or any other STD or public health diseases. I do not want the community cum-dump promiscuous slut. She must understand that a real BDSM relationship is much more than just wild, wanton continuous kinky irresponsible sex with multiple men. Although not a requirement, I prefer her to be bi-sexual or bi-curious sexually. ~~~
I do not like the self-righteous hypocrites or religious zealots, but I enjoy women with a spiritual side, a religious background and/or a moral compass that they use to sustain them and guide them as they make ‘tough’ decisions and face life's many complicated and difficult challenges. She must seek strict discipline with mandated rules, guidelines, structure and protocols; but, if she is submissive and not a slave, she need not be micro-managed or subject to TPE. She must understand that this BDSM relationship is about much more than ‘wild wanton sexual depravity’ or BDSM role playing or taboo kinky sadomasochistic pleasures. She must faithfully submit and serve out of admiration, respect and trust. She must accept and embrace strong control and obedient subjugation, and TPE (if she is a slave). She must fully understand the ramifications of being a submissive woman or female slave in a BDSM relationship, who agrees to submit, serve and obey her chosen Dominant/Master and be controlled, disciplined and subjugated by him in a power exchange dynamic.~~~
She must want a real life physical intimate relationship and NOT the 'juvenile' unreal cyber-relationship bullsh*t. To submit and serve me, she must be one who offers her heart, mind and body and all of her creativity, education, eroticism, knowledge, resourcefulness, sexuality, skills, talents and physical capacity to her Master (me) to use as I please and need. She should know that she must suffer, sacrifice and struggle in order to serve, please, service and pleasure her Master and keep him comfortable, happy, pleasured, entertained, satisfied, pleased, nursed, cared-for, stress-free and fulfilled. ~~~
If she is a slave ‘owned’ by me, then she is my slave property, and she must agree, know and understand that all of her knowledge, skills, talents, abilities and information she possess are mine, and she must generously use them to benefit, please, satisfy, protect & serve and worship her Master (and/or a Mistress I designate). ~~~
She must have self-control and not be addicted to anything but LIFE! She must not be controlled by unlawful drugs or abuse prescription medication or dominated by tobacco products or be a chronic alcoholic. ~~~
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California USA
October 10, 2010 = 10/10/10
Am I the only one who notices this phenomenon?
Mr.B
Hello folks ---
I remember when I joined Collarme.com in early 2005, they really scrutinized your profile and made you edit and change things. Also, you were not allowed to solicit or promote other web-sites. Their censors were vigilant and tough! Now, all types of ?professionals? are selling all types of ?stuff? onsite and the fraudulent scam artists are running wild!! The latest scam is the ?My name is Lucifer ?? scam, where they try to lure you to other sites.
Just this morning the following ten new female profiles all had the same profile narrative: swordfdfe000, swwsasads, swofeee, swogfrtrhghg, swo45rdlee000, ssfdfswordlee000, swoererdlee000, swor2332dlee000, swordlfgdfgee000 and sdsfdswordlee000 ? Do you notice any patterns in the names? Btw .. Lucifer is the devil's real name. Each profile stated exactly:
?Hey HONEY
My name is Lucifer I joined http://bisexualkiss.com a time ago and since then this project became a lifestyle. The world is really smaller than you think and I can say that it's not only a slogan, it's real! In behalf of bisexualkiss.COM feel welcome with us!
As long as you take a time to surf on the top bar and discover what the tabs are for you'll see that this is your spot, an amazing platform for lesbians&BI and to exchange experience about places?cultures and love.
Due to its nature CS does not operate like Facebook and similars, just add people as your friend when you really have a reference and send them your lovely winks.This helps to have a reliable community.
May you meet a friendly face out there(http://bisexualkiss.com ). Happy surfing and good luck. sry to disturb you,if you don;t like this site! Lucifer?
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It is time for CollarMe.com to shut these folk down.
Mr.B
October 1, 2010 = 10/01/10 Please tell me that I am not the only one who notices these things? Am I? Oh NO! Mr.B
Wednesday, September 29, 2010 at 12:55 PM (Pacific) THIS IS A UPDATED REPOSTING OF A JOURNAL ENTRY MADE ON 8/24/2010
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
1:46 PM (Pacific)
How Should a slave or submissive select her Dominant One
The following message may not apply to those submissive women or female slaves who believe that they desire to be caged and locked away in dark dungeon or housed outdoors with the farm animals or dogs. This message also may not apply to those submissive women or female slaves who believe that they are inanimate masses of ‘worthless’ matter or a useless “door mat” who is incapable of rational thoughts or using good commonsense. This particular message may not apply to those just seeking wild wanton irresponsible kinky sexual thrills with taboo depraved sexual pleasures without any discipline, structure, training, protocols and being broken down, molded and rebuilt. ~~~
Just because a submissive woman or female slave is inexperienced and new to the BDSM lifestyle is not a disadvantage and it does not make her worthless or less desirable. Often the inexperienced neophyte may be preferred by some Dominants, because they are not cursed with a ‘jaded’ attitude or “I know it all” attitude and/or “bad habits” they picked up along the way. It is critical to know, understand and accept that each Dominant has different needs, cravings and expectations and Dominants have different standards for conduct. Each Dominant must train his new submissive or slave to meet and satisfy his unique proclivities and peculiar fetishes; and in addition, some Dominants are more sadistic, demanding and forceful and/or more strict. ~~~
I also often discuss the reality of the physical beautify and sexy & attractive body. A beautiful face and a “hot” body may capture a person’s immediate attention BUT … that does not guarantee a successful relationship filled with great compatibility, good chemistry or mutual admiration, respect and trust. We all desire someone whom we find attractive BUT … that is "attractive" on many different levels, not just physical. Many submissive women searching on CollarMe.com are in romantic "vanilla" relationships with young men whom they love and find sexy ... but, these guys cannot meet their deep-seated "submissive" needs, and their boyfriends have no idea how to dominate, control and subjugate.Some confuse "rough" sex and brutal domestic abuse with being dominant. Age limitations are also nonsensical if there is compatibility and good chemistry. To me, she must demonstrate that she is genuinely submissive within her heart, mind and soul. Usually, words mean nothing, when not backed up by actions that demonstrate the level, depth and breadth of her submission, subservience, obedience, commitment, sincerity, humility and trustworthiness, and prove that she is for real. ~~~
I often counsel submissive women or female slaves not to get all hung up on physical appearances. Many post requirements like HWP (height weight proportionate) and list other physical attributes and age requirements. They act as if they are on adultfriendfinder or some “vanilla” web-site seeking a romantic ‘loving’ relationship leading to fantastic dates and eventually meeting the family and progressing to engagement and marriage. Also, if you are a young woman needing a Dominant Daddy, do not search for “hot young studs” who can only provide you a good time and some sexual experiences for a brief period, before they get bored; but they lack the wisdom, knowledge, experience, seriousness and discipline to properly educate, train, discipline, develop, protect, mentor, counsel and lead and guide a submissive daughter, babygirl or submissive woman who needs a Daddy. This is not your typical romantic dating hook-up website. ~~~
In my journal, I wrote the following in an entry posted on November 22, 2007:
“Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. … The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don’t go looking for “Mr. Right” ala “vanilla” world.” ~~~
As you seek a Dominant to be your Master and BDSM Teacher, seek someone who has demonstrated the level of intellect, maturity, sanity, experience and knowledge that you prefer, as well as the level of sadism, strictness, kinkiness, forcefulness and extreme hard-core capacity and control (power exchange) that you need and desire in real life. ~~~
Besides requiring a submissive or slave be an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable woman, who is at least 18 years old, and she is not crazy and not a criminal or a fraudulent fake; and she can provide current valid government ID with a photo proving that she is at least 18 years old or older, the only things I give a damn about are the following six things, and they are:
That she is a woman with the heart, mind & soul of a truly naturally submissive within the context of the BDSM lifestyle and fetish sub-culture
That she be honestly sincere, committed and serious about what she writes in her profile and that she is trust worthy and not a fake, fraud or wannabe
That she and her body are clean and healthy and free from any sexually transmitted diseases including HIV infection (AIDS), Syphilis, Gonorrhea, HPV, Chlamydia, genital warts or other STDs … and she does not have infectious active TB, or any type Hepatitis or mononucleosis
That she is genuinely interested in a real life and physical BDSM relationship, and not a “juvenile” unreal cyber relationship
That she desires the structure, protocols, discipline and is seriously committed to being trained, educated, disciplined and broken down, molded and rebuilt to be the best submissive woman or female slave possible
That she have religious or moral beliefs or strong ethical values that lead her to be sincere, honest and trustworthy, and committed and faithful to the one whom she agrees to submit before, obey, please and serve
That she agrees to visit San Diego, California, within 45 to 90 days, after she has been sufficiently educated and trained via e-mail and phone, and we have a mutual agreement and understanding, for two to three days of obedience training, bonding & discipline instruction, and introduction to sadomasochistic activities, taboo kinky ‘perverted’ pleasures, BDSM play and spankings … within her limitations and capacity; and exposure to real time control, subjugation and domination
The minute, I know that she is dishonest, a fake, an unethical fraud, an untruthful deceitful person, and/or totally untrustworthy, then I shall immediately be finished with her, and cut off further communications and interactions with her. It matters little how beautiful and attractive the images in her photos are. They are most likely fakes and as unreal as she is also. ~~~
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California USA
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
September 27, 2010
11:48 AM (Pacific)
Tips for ?horny? women ---
Damn! I have not posted a comment since my birthday, September 9th ? it is time for a commentary. This is not a rant, just a brief factual commentary.
Listen up folks, when a so called submissive female or female slave posts a profile on Collarme.com or any other BDSM lifestyle or fetish web-site, and the profile includes one or more photos of a very attractive, sexy, youthful & athletic looking woman between the age of 18 to 39 ? AND ? in her profile, she laments about being so lonely, horny and desperate for sexual action and gang-bangs etc., it is time to look upon such a profile with great suspicion, unless she is locked away in a monastery and guarded by emasculated neutered gay eunuchs.
I have lived in Ontario Canada, Kingston Jamaica and in five different states in the United States; and I have traveled through, vacationed in and partied in nine different countries, and I have business associates, friends and relatives throughout the world ? one thing we all know ? when a woman wants to get fucked, all she needs to do is make it known and make herself available ?
? even in small conservative towns in Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, Utah, Oregon and Colorado or Eastern Washington ? the sexual activity is raunchy, regular and very promiscuous. YES! I have first hand experience! ~~ smile ~~
Tips for ?horny? women --- If you are really horny and desperate for some cock, and do not know how to get fucked, walk into any bar, pool hall, night club or the local dance meat market and proclaim your interests and availability. Go on any college campus and approach men, or walk into a Frat House and talk to the fraternity brethren, or go where the football, basketball, hockey, rugby, track & field and other athletic players hang out, let them know your needs ? just walk into any men?s dorm and go down the hall in a skimpy revealing out fit and ask, ?Who wants a free piece of ass?? If you are an attractive college co-ed, proposition your professors, after sitting up front in a short mini-skirt (with no panties) and flashing the goodies; remember to show lots of cleavage also! Do not forget the beaches after dark ? check out the most boisterous drunk group of ass holes; hell, you do not need to ask, they will just take it! If you are real cute, go to church and join the choir ? yes, the preacher will soon invite you for some one-on-one ?counseling? sessions.
If you want guaranteed fucking, hit the Biker bars where the hard-core bad ass ?criminal biker gangs? hang out (although, you may get your ass whooped by a biker bitch). Go to any strip club, gentlemen?s club or exotic dancing place and approach the doormen, bouncers, manager, bar tender or any male customer or male member and graphically explain what you need, they will accommodate you ? hhhmmmmm ? BUT ? if all of this fails, put on a sexy outfit and go hitch hiking ? but be careful out there ? these days there are real life werewolves, wolf-like creatures and blood-sucking vampires prowling out there.
Yes!!! There is plenty of kinky sex, gang-bangs, swapping and group sex in the ?vanilla? world! So stop going on the Internet and lying! NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble point of view. If a rational intelligent adult has a different perspective, and he or she would like to communicate in a mature, reasonable, thoughtful, objective and respectful manner, I am ready and willing to hear the other point of view. But ? those infantile nincompoops who wish to submit some nonsensical marginally coherent incomprehensible moronic rambling ? keep it to yourself or share it with your kind, because, I do not wish to waste my time and energy trying to decipher and interpret incoherent incomprehensible moronic rambling.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
September 9, 2010
9:23 AM (Pacific)
Technical problems ? cannot attach photos to mail
Why can I not successfully attach photos to the mail I send to other members? As of yesterday, for reasons unknown to me, whenever I try to attach pictures to messages ? some weird technical glitch with CollarMe.com prevents me from doing such. Damn!!! This is really starting to piss me off, especially since most women just delete mail without photos!
There is always some bullsh*t technical issue on Collarme.com ? or could it be my computer system ? who knows???
Mr.B
September 9, 2010
Today is my birthday!!! I was born at 12 minutes to 12:00Noon on the ninth day of the ninth month!
Mr.B
Tuesday, September 07, 2010
10:23 AM (Pacific)
Just private thoughts ?
Hhhmmmmm ? well, the doctor said it takes six weeks to recovery from this type of surgery, unless there were surgical mishaps, infections or serious complication (which there were none). Well, 5:00 PM on Thursday, September 2 made exactly six weeks since discharged from hospital ? AND ? yeah, I feel like I am 90% back to normal and can return to usual and customary activities ? but ? there remain lingering little nagging byproducts of surgery and side effects of some medications ? I HATE taking narcotics or other meds! Thank goodness, that is over! Perhaps I can get back to my power walks, regular gymnasium, and spa visits without being disabled by pain and severe discomfort.
GREAT Labor Day holiday weekend! Relaxed, refreshed and enjoyed! I did not check in on CollarMe.com; real ?vanilla? life was much more pleasurable than the cyberspace bullsh*t. I was too busy and very occupied with real live warm blooded people anyway. Lest I forget, I did get great pleasure spanking a little tart over the holiday. There are many different types of spankings, which are delivered for various reasons. Harsh whippings to satisfy sadistic pleasure, sensual erotic spankings, serious corporal punishments to correct & punish, and of course the routine spankings to ensure the submissive or slave knows, understands and accepts her subordinate and lower status as a submissive or owned subjugated enslaved woman. There are so many enjoyable aspects to spanking a woman ? I find it most often very invigorating and sexually stimulating ? except during corporal punishments, of course ? I think.
Question: Is it just my imagination or are more than 50% of the new female slaves and submissive women posting profiles with no photos? Usually at least 75% of profiles had photos ? now, within the last ten days or so, only about 25% to 33% include one or more photos in their profile. Why are less people doing it, are the criminals and fraudulent scam artists running out of photos to steal?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
September 1, 2010
YES! Today begins my month.
I AM A SEPTEMBER VIRGO!!!
MY BIRTHDAY IS SEPTEMBER 9 ...
Mr.B
August 25, 2010
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GOLDEN GIRL!!! YEAH!
Mr.B
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
1:46 PM (Pacific)
How Should a slave or submissive select her Dominant One
The following message may not apply to those submissive women or female slaves who believe that they desire to be caged and locked away in dark dungeon or housed outdoors with the farm animals or dogs. This message also may not apply to those submissive women or female slaves who believe that they are inanimate masses of ‘worthless’ matter or a useless “door mat” who is incapable of rational thoughts or using good commonsense. This particular message may not apply to those just seeking wild wanton irresponsible kinky sexual thrills with taboo depraved sexual pleasures without any discipline, structure, training, protocols and being broken down, molded and rebuilt. ~~~
Just because a submissive woman or female slave is inexperienced and new to the BDSM lifestyle is not a disadvantage and it does not make her worthless or less desirable. Often the inexperienced neophyte may be preferred by some Dominants, because they are not cursed with a ‘jaded’ attitude or “I know it all” attitude and/or “bad habits” they picked up along the way. It is critical to know, understand and accept that each Dominant has different needs, cravings and expectations and Dominants have different standards for conduct. Each Dominant must train his new submissive or slave to meet and satisfy his unique proclivities and peculiar fetishes; and in addition, some Dominants are more sadistic, demanding and forceful and/or more strict. ~~~
I also often discuss the reality of the physical beautify and sexy & attractive body. A beautiful face and a “hot” body may capture a person’s immediate attention BUT … that does not guarantee a successful relationship filled with great compatibility, good chemistry or mutual admiration, respect and trust. We all desire someone whom we find attractive BUT … that is "attractive" on many different levels, not just physical. Many submissive women searching on CollarMe.com are in romantic "vanilla" relationships with young men whom they love and find sexy ... but, these guys cannot meet their deep-seated "submissive" needs, and there boyfriends have no idea how to dominate, control and subjugate.Some confuse "rough" sex and brutal domestic abuse with being dominant. Age limitations are also nonsensical if there is compatibility and good chemistry. To me, she must demonstrate that she is genuinely submissive within her heart, mind and soul. Usually, words mean nothing, when not backed up by actions that demonstrate the level, depth and breadth of her submission, subservience, obedience, commitment, sincerity and trustworthiness, and prove that she is for real. ~~~
I often counsel submissive women or female slaves not to get all hung up on physical appearances. Many post requirements like HWP (height weight proportionate) and list other physical attributes and age requirements. They act as if they are on adultfriendfinder or some “vanilla” web-site seeking a romantic ‘loving’ relationship leading to fantastic dates and eventually meeting the family and progressing to engagement and marriage. Also, if you are a young woman needing a Dominant Daddy, do not search for “hot young studs” who can only provide you a good time and some sexual experiences for a brief period, before they get bored; but they lack the wisdom, knowledge, experience, seriousness and discipline to properly educate, train, discipline, develop, protect, mentor, counsel and lead and guide a submissive daughter, babygirl or submissive woman who needs a Daddy. This is not your typical romantic dating hook-up website. ~~~
In my journal, I wrote the following in an entry posted on November 22, 2007:
“Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. … The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don’t go looking for “Mr. Right” ala “vanilla” world.” ~~~
As you seek a Dominant to be your Master and BDSM Teacher, seek someone who has demonstrated the level of intellect, maturity, sanity, experience and knowledge that you prefer, as well as the level of sadism, strictness, kinkiness, forcefulness and extreme hard-core capacity and control (power exchange) that you need and desire in real life. ~~~
Besides requiring a submissive or slave be an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable woman, who is at least 18 years old, and she is not crazy and not a criminal or a fraudulent fake; and she can provide current valid government ID with a photo proving that she is at least 18 years old or older, the only things I give a damn about are the following six things, and they are:
That she is a woman with the heart, mind & soul of a truly naturally submissive within the context of the BDSM lifestyle and fetish sub-culture
That she be honestly sincere, committed and serious about what she writes in her profile and that she is trust worthy and not a fake, fraud or wannabe
That she and her body are clean and healthy and free from any sexually transmitted diseases including HIV infection (AIDS), Syphilis, Gonorrhea, HPV, Chlamydia, genital warts or other STDs … and she does not have infectious active TB, or any type Hepatitis or mononucleosis
That she is genuinely interested in a real life and physical BDSM relationship, and not a “juvenile” unreal cyber relationship
That she is seriously committed to being trained, educated, disciplined and broken down, molded and rebuilt to be the best slave or submissive possible
That she agrees to visit San Diego, California, within 45 to 90 days, after she has been sufficiently educated and trained via e-mail and phone, and we have a mutual agreement and understanding, for two to three days of obedience training, bonding & discipline instruction, and introduction to sadomasochistic activities, taboo kinky ‘perverted’ pleasures, hard-core BDSM play, degrading humiliations & defilements, and spankings … within her limitations and capacity
The minute, I know that she is dishonest, a fake, an unethical fraud, an untruthful deceitful person, and/or totally untrustworthy, then I shall immediately be finished with her, and cut off further communications and interactions with her. It matters little how beautiful and attractive the images in her photos are. They are most likely fakes and as unreal as she is also. ~~~
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California USA
Friday, August 13, 2010
1:41 PM (Pacific)
Recently I read a most interesting question posed by a Dominant in his journal. I responded to him and the following is what I wrote:
In your journal, you posed the following scenario question: ?If a Dom/sub relationship ends should the sub keep the collar that was given by their Dom? Is a collar symbolic to you or do you feel its just a simple novelty?? That is a most interesting question, which deserves a well thought out and reasonable response. I never really thought seriously about it before. The simple answer is NO, YES, MAYBE or YES&NO ? but, that solves nothing. ~~ smile ~~ I shall be more serious. ~~~
I pose this question to you: If two people are engaged to be married, and before the wedding date, they break up and separate, should the woman be able to keep the engagement ring that her ex-fiancée gave her, when times were good? It all depends on the facts and circumstances of the break up ? and the attitude of the persons involved. Social etiquette and protocol states that it depends on whose fault it is for the break-up and dissolution of the engagement. If the woman decides to break it off due to reasons that are not the fault of her fiancée, then she must return the ring, especially if it is a family heirloom. If the man is at fault and he betrays and abuses her, she can keep the ring, no matter who decides to break it off first. Sometimes, the man does not desire the ring back, even if it is his right to reclaim it, for one of three reasons: 1) he is still in love and to keep the ring would be too traumatic and hurtful, 2) he just wants to move on and is angry and wants no part of her, and/or 3) the ring is inexpensive and unimportant to him ? just a ?simple novelty.? In instances of a valuable heirloom, regardless of whose fault it is, most men will seek its return; if it is the man?s fault, he may have to negotiate a small settlement with his rejected future bride in order to convince her to give it up. ~~~
I think the same standard applies to a Dom/sub relationship. There are essentially three types of collars in my book, 1) the inexpensive one used during the sub?s initial training; 2) the nicer leather collar, which she earns once she is trained and the Dom/sub relationship is fully established; and 3) the high quality expensive one you buy for her to use on special occasions. The inexpensive training collar, belongs to the Dom and not the sub, she uses it and wears it at his discretion, he kicks her out of training or rejects her or she leaves, the first training collar is the Dom?s right to keep. The second collar, the sub earned and the sub should be able to keep it, if the relationship dissolved due to no fault of her own, or due to a mutual amicable agreement. The third ?expensive? collar, it depends, if it is given to the sub as a gift (then it is her property) and she keeps it regardless of the nature of the break up ? BUT ? if the Dom is smart enough to buy it for her to be able to use, only when the Dom decides the occasion calls for something special, but, he retains ownership and possession of it, then when the break-up happens the Dom has the right to keep it, even if it is his fault. ~~~
One other comment on the second collar, which the sub earned after training, if the Dom terminates the D/s relationship and the sub did nothing wrong and was serving him well, then the sub should be able to keep the collar, if she wants to do so.
I trust this offered you some assistance as you consider this situation.
Have a good day!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
It is Friday, August 13, 2010!!! How more lucky can it be?
Today shall be a very good day; and I finally have begun to feel like I have recovered from my surgery ? I even stopped taking all post-surgical medications! I hate narcotics and any drugs, unless I am desperate in pain and discomfort.
Friday the 13th ? a damn good day!!
Mr.B
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
1:15 PM (Pacific)
A RANT ?
In the last three weeks, I wasted much time, energy, thought and personal resources interacting with some so called ?slaves? or ?submissives? on Collarme.com, who, and no real surprise here, turned out to be: one devious money-hungry fraudulent criminal, two confused ?scared? little wannabes, one not very bright phony, and one big-time flake. Not all of these were part of the well-organized criminal scams coming out of African and the UK.
I swear at least 50% of those women claiming to be a submissive or slave are in reality just fakes, flakes, game-players, wannabes & phonies and/or part of the well-organized fraudulent scam artists posting fake profiles. Btw ? if you post a profile, which you know that you are incapable, unwilling or unable to live up to, then you fall into the category of wannabe, fake, phony, game-player and/or a fraud! I admit, that on a few occasions, women post a profile with sincerely good and honest intentions, but, unforeseen circumstances and situations beyond their control change significantly, AND ? they can no longer live up to what they listed in their profile. Fine, I understand ? sh*t happens! Then please do the right and considerate thing ? amend and change your profile, as soon as possible ? do not continue to mislead other members.
And ? since I am ranting. What the hell ? have all of the elementary and secondary school systems in America become so incompetent and dysfunctional, and has our society digressed so much, from a literary and communication stand point, that almost 90% of the population can not write a reasonably articulate, coherent, thoughtful and meaningful sentence ? much less paragraph or longer piece of communiqué?
I guess when these so called ?slaves? and ?submissives? state that they do not want a one sentence message sent to them, they are really looking for perhaps about four to six short simple sentences written on the fourth grade level.
For those who object to my characterization of many of these so called ?slaves? and ?submissives? ? go ahead, prove me wrong.
These are my humble opinions. If a rational intelligent adult has a different perspective, and they would like to communicate in a mature, reasonable, thoughtful and respectful manner, I am ready and willing to hear the other point of view. But ? those infantile nincompoops who wish to submit some nonsensical marginally coherent incomprehensible moronic rambling ? keep it to yourself or share it with your kind, because, I do not wish to waste my time and energy trying to decipher and interpret incoherent incomprehensible moronic rambling.
Aha ? that feels so much better!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Does anyone else realize that today is August 9, 2010, which is 08/09/10 or 8/9/10 ? it is eight, nine & ten ? HHHmmmmm ?
I shall remain cautiously optimistic that this is a very positive & progressive sign of the times ?
*** HAPPY 4tH OF JULY
INDEPENDENCEDAY
CELEBRATIONS!!! ***
? I went to church and prayed for the nation ?
in case you have not heard ?
The United States of America needs some prayer!
Now you may return to your regular programming of debauchery, depravity, perversions, sadomasochism and taboo kinky pleasures! Heh heh heh ?
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
Friday, July 02, 2010
5:20 AM (Pacific Daylight Savings Time)
The following are four previously posted journal entries, which I feel are important to update and repost today in order that they are more readily discovered and more available to members. They answer questions and provide my opinions and philosophy regarding the BDSM lifestyle, the fetish sub-culture and Master & slave or Dominant & submissive relationships. A couple of the postings are serious laments expressing my frustration and disgust with problematic ?intruders? into this Collarme.com website.
Some may have questions or comments regarding my expressed opinions, I am open to answering and participating in thoughtful, intelligent and mature discussions with reasonable mentally competent people.
Mr.B. (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
The four posted articles are:
q This is an Adults Only BDSM Lifestyle & Fetish Culture Web-Site
q The Relationships Between Master & slave or Dominant & submissive
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THIS IS AN ADULTS ONLY BDSM LIFESTYLE & FETISH CULTURE WEB-SITE!
ATTENTION!!! This site is only for adult men and women who are at least 18 years old and who are reasonably intelligent, mentally competent, emotionally stable, and, of course either interested in establishing a BDSM relationship with a member or members of their choice, or learning about the BDSM lifestyle and/or the fetish sub-culture ? or discussing issues related to the fetish lifestyle, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism, and related bondage, discipline, sadomasochistic tortures/torments, protocols, punishments and/or extreme exotic erotica and taboo kinky perverted pleasures & depraved proclivities, which would be considered immoral, abnormal, unnatural and unacceptable in the more polite and genteel ?vanilla? society.
If one has absolutely no interest in such matters or is offended by these types of activities, discussions and alternative lifestyles, then, why the f*ck are you here???
If you are not at least 18 years of age ? PLEASE, do not contact me!!! If I contact you, due to some fraudulent fake profile you have posted, do us both a favor ? DO NOT RESPOND! I have absolutely no interest in under-age immature delinquent juvenile minors.
Thanks! NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
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Monday, March 8, 2010 at 10:30 AM (Pacific) THIS IS A REPOSTING OF A JOURNAL ENTRY MADE ON 1/28/2008
Monday, January 28, 2008 1:33 PM (Pacific time)
Difference Between Discipline and Punishment
In both the ?vanilla? world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ///
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hard working fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples ? He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ?Master? and referred to Him as their Teacher. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or well being. ///
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is usually verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ///
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master?s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ?vanilla? world. ///
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up their anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ///
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately, most Dominants do not. ///
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ///
Btw ?regarding spankees ? he he he ? some can take a really severe whipping BUT ? perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese ? whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. ///
However, it is important to never break the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ///
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance ? when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently seriously injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ///
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen ? hhhmmmmm ? that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six-year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature ?even tempered? adult arrives to help you deal with it. ///
Be mature, careful and sane ? we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers ? but I digress. You get the general idea. ///
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient and respectful and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Punishment is about correcting misdeeds, unacceptable services and various violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real true naturally submissive woman or genuine female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master.
There is more to be said on this topic, but ? NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
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Monday, January 11, 2010
11:22 AM (Pacific)
The Purpose of this website called CollarMe.com
I have noticed more often that many women come on this site to find love & romance in the more traditional sense and to ?date? ala ?vanilla? style, with the expectation, in some cases, that it leads to the traditional romantic love and living happily ever after in the lovely middle class suburban community with manicured green grass lawns and the white picket fence and the double car garage; and mom & dad over for Sunday dinner ?
Hhhmmmmm ? well, that is possible, I guess. How very lovely.
YES! There are BDSM relationships with love & romance and people in the BDSM lifestyle enjoy regular everyday 'vanilla' activites also; and they work and go to college. Many are married and many have children living at home. However ...
My question, rhetorical though it be, remains, what is the original purpose and intent of this CollarMe.com web-site. As I understand it, Collarme.com is a free web-site to be used only by consenting adults (18 years old and older) for the purpose of communicating with and establishing relationships with other similar minded adults who are active in the BDSM community, live the BDSM lifestyle and/or are interested in matters related to BDSM (as in bondage & discipline and sadism & masochism).
I hate to be too presumptuous, but based on all available information that I have seen and read, one of the objectives of the Collarme.com web-site is to facilitate an on-line place where BDSM Dominants, switches, slaves and submissives can search for prospective BDSM lifestyle ?play? partners or to establish a short or long-term Dominant & submissive or Master & slave relationships, as per the agreement they discuss and reach agreement on.
Therefore, if someone is not interested in, or at least curious about BDSM and the culture, lifestyle and related protocols and activities; and if they have no desire to dominate & use a submissive one or be dominated & used by a Dominant One, why are they here ? are they conducting an anthropological study, or some type of social science academic research ? are they searching for family-valuesdating.com in the 'vanilla' world and got lost in cyber-space or what??? Are they a spy for the ultra-conservative hypocritical religious right or the ever vigilant local police or the FBI?
This is the BDSM realm of consensual bondage & discipline, sadomasochistic tortures, domestic discipline, corporal punishments (yes, with whips, Bamboo canes, leather riding crops & floggers, belts, hairbrushes, the bare hand and etc.), weird exotic erotica, taboo kinky ?perverted? sexual pleasures, degrading humiliations, ?nasty? defilements, forceful sexual penetrations (of all holes - mouth, anus & vagina), outrageous & abnormal depraved proclivities, unpaid domestic indentured servitude, voluntary sexual enslavement, total power exchange submission, humble subservience and compliant subjugation.
I believe that all members deserve to be treated with respect, common courtesy and with due consideration. However, do not sign up for bikini mud wrestling, and then complain because you got your hair ?mussed-up? and mud all over you. Do not agree to play full contact football and then get mad because you get hit hard, pushed or knocked down? Do not sign up for water polo and get distressed because you got pulled under water and dunked hard and got your hair wet and water up the nose. In other words, if someone writes and wants to discuss BDSM types of activities and kinky proclivities and inquire as to what you need, crave and seek as regards to the BDSM realm, do not get offended. That is what CollarMe.com is all about. This is not sweetfriendfinder.com!
Stop saying you will relocate or love to travel, when you only mean moving across town or a short 90 minute drive away from home. That is not relocating or travel. Also, all of you so called ?slaves? begging for Masters to pay your relocation, while you are attending these slave schools in the UK, Nigeria or other countries in Africa, and/or in the state of Texas ? we know that you are nothing more than fraudulent scams and fake profiles designed to separate Americans from their hard earned dollars! Stop it already!!
NUFF SAID!!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
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Monday, January 04, 2010
11:33 AM (Pacific)
The following journal entry was originally written by me on November 22, 2007. Nonetheless, because it answers and addresses so many issues regarding the dynamic BDSM relationships between a Dominant & submissive or Master/Owner & slave, I must constantly move it to the top of my journal writings, in order that it is easily found.
The Relationship between Master & slave or Dominant & submissive
************************************** Thursday, November 22, 2007 [Thanksgiving Day]
8:03 AM (California-Pacific time)
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALLANDMAY THE MILITARY WARRIORS COME HOME SAFE!
The Relationship Between Master & Slave or Dominant & Submissive
A true naturally submissive one without a good Dominant Master is like a small boat casting about in the rough seas rudderless and without a skilled and knowledgeable Captain to guide her safely through the storm into calm waters and a safe port. Neither the Dominant nor the submissive is complete and satisfied without their complementary BDSM partner.
Before I begin my dissertation, there are some myths that should be debunked immediately. Just because someone likes forceful rough kinky sex or swinging or swapping or group sex or being gang banged by a bunch of horny guys, does not make her a true submissive or a slave. Promiscuous women who enjoy one-night stands and routinely engage in irresponsible and unsafe sex do not automatically qualify as a submissive or slave. Another fact is that women who unwillingly allow their mates to domestically abuse them, beat them up and terrorize them on a regular basis in violation of laws are not necessarily a true submissive or a slave. Women who are very passive, naturally shy and somewhat naïve are not necessarily submissive. Just because a woman has a high pain tolerance and tends to enjoy pain and discomfort, does not make her a real submissive or true slave. ///
Role playing and going to BDSM social scenes where people ?act out? or engage in sadomasochistic activities or sexual acts publicly does not mean the recipient is a true submissive or a slave! The Dominant & submissive or Master & slave relationship is NOT all about the ?scene? and going to dungeons for public play! Many ?vanilla? women are promiscuous sluts or enjoy exhibitionism or like a little extra kinkiness in their life and so they go enjoy ?play time? occasionally. They play and ?dabble? in BDSM, but do not live the lifestyle and most likely lack the natural submissive nature. Submission is about hungering to give up control and to offer one?s personal authority to another person, who is Dominant, and accepting that dominant person?s control, discipline and dominance. Submission is about craving to find pleasure by giving another pleasure, and being willing to suffer and sacrifice in order to make another happy, contented, satisfied, pleased and amused. Submission is about finding the One whom you adore, respect, trust, admire and find worthy and then living your life in accordance with his demands, needs, rules and governance and doing all within your power to make him happy, fulfilled and satisfied. ///
Ultimately, it is always the submissive or slave?s choice about whether or not she enters into a relationship with a Dominant One. In all candor, the slaves or submissive ones have the ultimate control to surrender, submit and serve or to resist and run! The submissive or slave is the one surrendering control and authority and leaving herself vulnerable to abuse and misuse. The submissive woman must be in a position to make her decisions regarding with whom she associates or to whom she submits and serves without threats, coercion or unfair severe manipulation. Only mature, thoughtful, careful and mentally competent adult women (18 and over) with at least average intelligence and good common sense should be making these decisions and they should not be forced by destitution or desperate economic or living circumstances to rush, without thinking, into the clutches of every so called ?Dom? or ?Domme? out there. ///
Btw ??mature? does not mean ?old.? Many women between the ages of 18 and 24 can be very mature, astute and intelligent and have good common sense. Although I prefer my submissive or slave to be at least 21, because it means that we have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything and not have issues of ?underage? or jail-bait? become an issue, I am open-minded and have considered those between 18 and 20 who seem particularly mature, intelligent, articulate and self-assured about who and what they are and what they need. ///
The Dominant must convince the mind, romance the heartand calm the spirit of the submissive one or slave so that she is neither anxious nor fearful. The submissive or slave should be wooed, enticed and stimulated mentally, emotionally & physically. The Dominant must try to cultivate mutual trust & confidence between them. The Dominant must earn her respect and admiration. Then the body of the submissive one or slave does what her mind & heart dictate and she can easily relax and be obedient, compliant & faithful and submit & serve and be subjugated. It is only then that the mind & heart of the submissive one or slave open fully to be taught, disciplined and controlled. Once this is established and there is mutual respect and trust in each other and each finds the other trust worthy and a potential match, then a true relationship can begin. When the slave or submissive accepts the collar of a Dominant One, there is a strong bond and mutual commitment and the Dominant or Master takes on an awesome responsibility; especially in the case of a slave. The bondage is primarily mental and emotional and in some ways spiritual; the kinky sex, BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and other taboo kinky activities are just physical manifestations of what is deep within the heart, mind and soul. ///
The issue regarding the relationship between a Dominant and his submissive or Master and slave often comes up in discussion or in people?s profile narrative or journal writings; and sometimes during written communications on adult BDSM web-sites or via personal e-mail. Just For The Record --- Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. Do not get me wrong, it is possible to find a true Dominant Master who also would make a wonderful husband or boyfriend, BUT ? usually it is unlikely. It is also possible for a submissive woman or female slave to fall in love with their Dominant or Master and visa versa. The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don?t go looking for ?Mr. Right? ala ?vanilla? world. ///
First --- I must state that each D/s relationship or M/s relationship is unique to the individuals involved. Second --- I must emphasize that the Dominant One and the submissive one (this includes slave) must negotiate the terms and conditions of their specific relationship up front before they ever have any real intimate or physical interaction. Third --- It is critical that the Dominant One and submissive one must fully and honestly discuss and resolve the issue of expectations, ?soft? limitations and ?hard limits.? Then the submissive must understand that the relationship is not ?vanilla? and as such, it is not a politically correct, socially approved and traditional relationship of equality between the two partners. The Dominant One must acknowledge that he knows and understands his great responsibilities and must commit to live up to the awesome burden of ownership. Remember --- When two mature, mentally competent and intelligent adults (18 and over) establish some form of a BDSM relationship, which meets both of their individual cravings, needs and desires, then it is really no one else?s business. As long as there is nothing illegal taking place and the health, safety and general wellbeing of the community and society at large is not threatened or endangered. Just because persons on the outside may consider a particularly extreme, sadistic, dehumanizing and hard-core Master & slave (or Dominant & submissive) relationship outrageous, disgusting and insanity personified, does not make the relationship wrong for the two consenting adults involved. YES! There are really Daddy Dominants who are not pedophiles, but seek babygirls or submissive daughters who need and crave a Daddy! ~~ smile ~~ ///
Please remember that all slaves by definition are a submissive one, BUT, not all submissive ones are slaves. There are also different types and levels of non-slave submissive ones. People often get confused and use the terms ?submissive? and ?slave? interchangeably. There are many similarities at times, because there are about nine different levels or types of submission. Some submissive ones can be very extreme and welcome all types of hard-core activity and surrender damn near all of their control and authority to their chosen Dominant One; these submissive ones may at some point cross over into enslavement. ///
Many womenidentify as a ?slave? and do not fully understand what that really means. Often, they confuse a ?slave? with a ?submissive? and then they do not understand that the commitment for the slave is deeper, stronger, greater, more permanent and a slave usually has few or no limitations. The critical difference is that a slave surrenders her personal authority & decision making power and total control to her Dominant Owner/Master. The slave has neither rights (except safety, sustenance, life & health and respect for valid ?hard limits?) nor self will (except to submit, serve, be used, obey & worship).
All of the slave?s property, material possessions, money and assets of value are given to her Owner/Master to manage and use as he determines best as soon as he takes full time ownership of her as his slave. The slave has her ?vanilla? life dictated and restricted by her Owner/Master. A true slave is powerless and is considered like chattel, just property, and as such, she cannot own property. Any money a slave has, receives or earns through work is immediately confiscated by her Owner/Master and taken from her by her Owner/Master. It is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities; even a slave?s self-gratification (masturbation) is controlled and regulated by her Owner/Master. ///
A slave must know and understand that eventually her limits must be expanded and her threshold for pain, bondage, humiliations, defilement and forceful ?kinky? sexual penetrations shall be challenged and stretched. As a slave, she agrees that almost nothing her Dominant Owner/Master does may be characterized by her and reported to law enforcement as criminal misconduct, physical assault & battery, false imprisonment, illegal detention, domestic abuse, hate crime, sexual assault or rape. DISCLAIMER --- Having said this, please know that I fully believe that the negotiated agreements & understandings and the hard limits must be respected by the Owner/Master and that the slave should not be required to participate in illegal activities. Also, the Owner/Master has an awesome burden and responsibility to protect the life, health, sanity, well-being and general welfare of the slave. ///
All people (Dominant & submissive) have limitations due to their family upbringing, religious or faith beliefs, personal ethics & values, cultural/ethnic or national origin background, health/medical restrictions, physical or mental disabilities, unexplainable phobia or irrational fears, self-esteem issues and/or prior experience with childhood molestation, domestic abuse or being a victim of a violent crime. Some people just cannot get beyond the ?Yuk!? factor. There are those who have very serious and important business or personal or family responsibilities in the ?vanilla? world, which demand their attention. These various issues and situation may prevent an individual from participating in certain kinky, sadomasochistic or sexual activities and may limit their ability to submerge full time into total enslavement and live the life 100% of the time. ///
The Dominant?s or Master?s sadistic side screams out ?she serves with no limits? BUT that is more often than not unrealistic and nonsensical. The Dominant or Master must keep an open-mind and patiently & honestly discuss the submissive or slave?s needs, concerns, anxieties, expectations, fears, phobia and anxieties. He must try to understand her limitations and help her determine whether or not they are ?soft? limits or valid ?hard? limitations. A thoughtful, mature and sane Master determines whether a limit is health related or caused by a disability. However, even with a hard-core pain-loving masochistic sex-slut slave who wants to be dehumanized and objectified and be given no voice or rights, it is unrealistic to believe that she shall live the next seven years of her life in a dark dungeon naked and without any contact with the ?vanilla? world while she is routinely brutalized, tortured, gang raped, ritually whipped into unconsciousness and subjected to other physical and mental mistreatments. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN ? although not impossible. ///
An Owner/Master needs to be very aggressive, forceful, strict, sadistic and domineering when he owns a slave. Nonetheless, the Owner/Master must exercise self-discipline and be intellectual, judicious and thoughtful regarding how he treats, uses and cares for his slave. The Owner/Master must never become so intoxicated with his lust for power, control, dominance and satisfying his sadistic cravings and kinky sexual desires that he neglects the slave?s humanity and legal rights and loses his self-control and neglects his responsibilities to protect his slave and keep her safe from real harm, sickness or death. The health, safety, well being and happiness of the slave should be very important. The slave is valuable property and must be kept sufficiently fit, healthy, sane, happy and functioning at a highly acceptable level and the Owner/Master must never kill her passion to be enslaved and subjugated while she voluntarily submits and serves. Only a damn fool damages and destroys his valuable slave property. ///
Neither a submissive nor a slave should be in terror and freight when she thinks of her Dominant or Master. But ? she should fear disappointing him and she should dread disobeying him or violating his rules. The submissive or slave should fear her Master?s wisdom, knowledge and power; but she should also be comforted by his wisdom, knowledge and power. The same way a child fears her father, BUT is glad he is strong, forceful and knowledgeable, because then he can protect the child, develop the child and provide for the child and keep the child safe. A submissive one?s or a slave?s greatest pain should be when she knowingly displeases, neglects, disappoints, disrespects and/or disobeys a good Owner/Master. ///
If all is as it should be, then the submissive or slave should hold her Dominant or Master in high regard and with great esteem, she should trust his judgment and she should respect and greatly value his word and teachings. The submissive or slave should hunger every day to please, amuse and satisfy her Master and obtain his approval and compliments. The submissive or slave should listen attentively to her Master and study him and learn his habits, needs, cravings and dislikes AND with this knowledge she should anticipate his desires and needs and offer such, before he orders her, in order to see him pleased and impressed. The submissive or slave should get her pleasure by giving her Dominant or Master pleasure. His kind words and smile of satisfaction and look of blissful approval & pleasure should be her primary objective. ///
A Dominant One or Master must be much more than just the man who fucks, tortures, humiliates, restrains and beats a submissive woman or slave. I strongly believe that he must be able, willing and qualified to be a Benefactor,Counselor, Disciplinarian, Teacher, Protector, Lover, Provider and Life?s Guide ? and of course, Tormentor Extraordinaire! When I use terms and words like life?s guide, counselor, teacher, protector, provider and disciplinarian, I mean the Dominant One that you choose as your Master and who has earned your trust and confidence to provide you the counsel, guidance, instruction, structure and support you need in your everyday ?vanilla? life as well as for your development in the BDSM realm. ///
YES!!! I do mean ?protection? because I am of the opinion that there are too many low-esteem half-crazy women-hating misogynistic male brutes out there subjecting vulnerable passive submissive women to criminal assault and battery and unlawful domestic violence and calling it BDSM activities. A decent, intelligent, reasonable and good Dominant Man does not expose his submissive companion or female slave to unnecessary danger or harm, and when she faces danger or harm, he is there to protect her. Domestic discipline and corporal punishment does not mean getting drunk and punching a woman with closed fist or pointing a gun at her or slapping her around and choking her for no reason. Spewing venomously vile & hateful profanity at a woman and routinely calling a woman by demeaning names without valid provocation does not make anyone Dominant and definitely not a Master. Being a Dominant or Master does not equate to mean, dumb & abusive brute! ///
The Dominant Master also protects his submissive or slave from herself. Many submissive women lack any self-control or sense of proportionality and they routinely engage in self-destructive and non-productive behavior and have serious personal problems. They go through life with a woe is me attitude and keep wondering why they are unsuccessful at everything and constantly rejected or disrespected by others and unhappy and dissatisfied with themselves and their life in general. YES!! Life is not fair and horrible things often happen to good & decent people; and it seems that the wicked live long prosperous lives while the good die destitute and young. Sometimes a woman has been dealt a very bad hand in life. Nonetheless, a good Dominant One who honestly cares about his submissive or slave and desires to rehabilitate and improve his submissive one or slave, must help her to escape self-destructiveness that may be contributing to her misfortunes and malaise. ///
I have broken submissive women and female slaves of alcohol & drug addiction, destructive lifestyles, associations with unsavory & unscrupulous characters, unproductive selfish preoccupations and making poor personal and foolish business decisions. I have shown long-term welfare moms how to legitimately and forever escape welfare and become self-sufficient and self-supporting. A Dominant or Master must be a strict disciplinarian and a forceful and robust instructor. He must have a vision about where he needs to take his submissive and what unacceptable and negative attitudes, behaviors and beliefs he must break from her and replace with more acceptable and positive ones. He must visualize what she shall look like after he breaks her down, molds her, disciplines her and rebuilds her. The Dominant or Master must teach her self-control, self-discipline and self-respect and help her understand the importance of rejecting her self-destructiveness. The Master must teach the submissive that she must guard & protect herself as if she is a highly prized and greatly valued sacred Temple; she must understand that until she loves herself, she cannot truly love & serve another ? although the greatest love is suffering and sacrificing oneself for another in order to keep them healthy and safe and make them happy, satisfied and successful. ///
If a woman is my submissive, then even when she is hundreds or thousands of miles away, she is following my written rules and guidance and she is in constant communication and keeping me informed and seeking my counsel. I give her the ?tools? and guidelines to assist her manage her every day life in a successful and productive manner. It is not incompatible for a submissive woman to be a strong successful and highly paid professional or executive in the ?vanilla? world and yet submissive and enslaved full time by her Dominant Master. A submissive woman may be a political activist and community organizer and still be in submission and subjugation to her Dominant One or Master. A submissive woman may be an entrepreneur or business owner, while submitting and serving. It is not incompatible for her to remain separated from her Master for long periods in order to care for family members or loved ones or attend personal business. Bondage and subjugation do not mean locked away in a basement forever. The bondage is mainly mental and emotional. It is based on faith, confidence and trust in each other. It is something felt deep within your soul. The relationship does require stimulation, support and encouragement and there does need to be some form of intimate bonding. ///
When a submissive commits to a BDSM relationship with a Dominant, and after the terms and conditions have been negotiated up front and there is mutual agreement on expectations, limitations, commitments and standards of service, then education, training and discipline sessions begin. Both slave and submissive require obedience training to condition them to learn to obey another adult and to accept a Dominant?s commands and guidelines. It is hard for the average modern day in-control & self-sufficient woman to suddenly surrender her authority to another and give him control over her life. It is difficult for a woman in the modern 21st Century American culture to bow down and humbly obey. The slave is for all practical purposes totally owned, controlled and dominated in all matters by the Master. Many Dominants will seek to restrict or totally control your sexual activities. However, with a slave, it is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities. With the non-slave submissive one the Dominant does not wield as much power and lacks as much control and must be very skilled, talented and thoughtful about how he uses his authority and powers of persuasion. ///
The submissive woman or female slave should be rewarded,complimented and recognized when she provides outstanding service or when she has stretched her normal boundaries of BDSM play tolerance and explored above & way beyond her comfort levels of sadomasochism and taboo kinky sexual pleasures and hard-core use. The Dominant or Master should always be willing to show his appreciation and gratitude as much or even more than to show his displeasure and anger. In an ideal situation, the Dominant or Master feels and demonstrates real passion and genuine affection, concern and respect for his chosen submissive or slave. ///
When I show my appreciation, it may take many forms ? special gifts, little treats, shopping escapades, trip to the theatre or amusement park, a night out for fine dining and music & dance or something as simple as a lovely massage by a paid certified professional at a high-class spa & gymnasium. It also may be 'affectionate after-care' that includes gently cleaning her up (with hot wet wash rags and soft towels) after a prolonged, forceful and hard-core kinky sexual session that has left her satisfied but fully-used, exhausted, thirsty, weak, ?wobbled kneed? and sore ? and then bringing her nourishment (food and drink) to enjoy as we cuddle and I whispers delightful compliments and passionate ?sweet nothings? to you and/or read poetry while enjoying some slow, soft soulful R&B or jazzy blues music playing. YES! Showing affection, concern and thoughtfulness to a slave or submissive is appropriate and does not make one a weak person. ///
Disclaimer --- YES! I acknowledge that there are many slaves who do not wish to be shown any concern, affection, thoughtfulness or care. They want hard-core Sadists who are never gentle or kind to them. This is what would be discussed and negotiated up front when you both establish the terms and conditions of the BDSM relationship and what is to be expected. My experience is that, most slaves who say this, believe it until they live it and then they begin to want periodic tenderness, compliments and affectionate after-care. ///
Now that I have put everyone to a comatose like deep sleep, I shall cease further boredom.
Nonetheless, those are this Sir?s humble opinions.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
11:35 AM (Pacific Daylight Time)
Once again, I must post my thoughts on physical appearance and “beauty” as applies to BDSM. Thus, I have moved the journal entry entitled “What is Beauty?” that I wrote in May 2008 to the beginning of my journal. This allows people to quickly and easily read and understand my point of view on appearance, body types and physical ‘beauty’ … thanks!
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Saturday, May 31, 2008
10:24 PM (Pacific)
What is 'Beauty' ... Every Dominant prefers a slave or submissive that he considers beautiful, sexy and physically attractive BUT remember three things:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder --- Each Dominant has his own concept of what he may consider beautiful, sexy and attractive … therefore, just because in the ‘vanilla’ world men are begging for the pleasure of your company and putting you on a pedestal and throwing money, jewelry and material things at you to win your attention and affection … that does not mean that all Dominant men find you attractive … I do not give a damn about you being a "pretty girl." Btw … word of advise for the southern California girls; not all Dominants find super skinny anorexic looking Barbie doll types with the platinum blonde hair and narrow ‘boyish’ looking hips, flat butts and too thin weak wobbly-looking legs, and overly big fake breast implants and plastic “Hollywood” personalities to be 'attractive.'
Beauty is as beauty does --- Attractive physical attributes such as a beautiful face and a sexy physique are great, BUT once you are found to be dishonest, untruthful and not trustworthy and especially if you are discovered to be one of many fake wannabes or manipulating criminal scammers trying to unethically and unlawfully separate a man from his cash … your beauty turns to dog feces and your desirability value is equivalent to that of last week’s newspaper used to scoop up the previously mentioned dog sh*t!
Beauty is relative in the BDSM realm --- When a genuine Dominant or Master seeks a submissive or slave … YES!! It is nice to find a real “hottie” … however, if the beautiful woman is neither submissive nor slave and not even a ‘switch’ then you cannot meet his needs and cravings! This is not some sort of ‘vanilla’ dating service like: adultfriendfinder.com. In the long term, it is your character, demeanor, attitude, behavior, maturity, self-discipline, honesty and natural submissiveness and compliant subservience that matters most … and not your beauty. It is your honest deep-seated desire to surrender your control and submit before and accept the authority, discipline and training of a serious Dominant that matters most. If your new found Master is an extreme hard-core sadist then your ability, capacity and willingness to be subjected to hard-core forceful sexual penetration and to accept severe & painful sadistic torture, extreme humiliations and strict discipline and harsh punishments that makes you desirable.
Remember that each and every Dominant has different tastes and unique cravings and a so called ‘sexy beauty’ may be shocked to discover that not everyone is desperate for her attention especially if she has few other non-physical characteristics, talents, qualities and attributes that make her attractive.
That is this Sir’s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
11:01 AM (Pacific Daylight Time)
I post these comments again, because, I have often been asked what it is exactly that I seek in a submissive or slave. I guess my profile is too long and convoluted for someone to have to waste time and energy carefully reading to gather that information; thus I post the statements below, which I hope detail it. I confess to being particularly garrulous and long-winded at times; and I know that my writings can be tortuous for some (where are the true masochistic ones … smile). However, regardless of what I write, I know that each person is different and I always try to communicate with them and assess chemistry and compatibility in terms of needs, expectations, limitations and types of services and enslavement. The slave or submissive must be a biological female (natural from birth or post-op transsexual female who lives and looks like a feminine woman and is accepted by her community as a 'real' woman). I do not like to focus on the physical appearance in terms of facial features, body type or physique or racial or ethnic background. I try to focus on the inner qualities and as to whether I think the person is naturally submissive with slave potential. I am more interested in her character, personality, nature, abilities, talents, cravings, needs, fantasies and the depth of her desire to submit, obey, serve and be trained. I also constantly test her honesty, sincerity, genuineness, ethics and trust-worthiness. If a female slave or submissive woman, under consideration, is suspected or proven to be part of the fraudulent criminal element of scam-artists with a fake profile, trying to manipulate members out of money or waste their time ... she is quickly dismissed.
PLEASE KNOW THAT EACH BDSM RELATIONSHIP IS SPECIAL AND UNIQUE, AND MUST BE CAREFULLY & THOUGHTFULLY NEGOTIATED IN ADVANCE
THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN I SEEK & PREFER ***
The woman I seek must like strong, forceful, strict, kinky, sadistic naturally dominant 'Alpha' men who are confident and secure in their dominance and able to lead, direct and control and subjugate women with the strength of their character, personality, intellect, persuasive powers and communications skills without resorting to unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery. However, she must crave a man who knows how to walk, with ease, familiarity and skill on the wild side in the darker, seamy, depraved and seedy shadows of society and satisfy his kinky, perverted & sadistic needs & taboo lusts (in a safe and sane manner), AND yet lead a normal successful life in the vanilla world. ~~~
I am only interested in an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable woman, whose age qualifies her as a 'legal' adult. I prefer women who embrace learning, are engaged in positive & productive activities in real life, and have a curious, liberated & open mind. I appreciate and respect submissive woman who are gainfully employed, engaged in business, politically aware and/or involved in community or charity efforts; and who explore any artistic or creative talents they possess. ~~~
She must not be cursed with irrational bigotry and unfair prejudice. Regardless of age, she must be youthful and young-at-heart and look enthusiastically at life and its possibilities. I prefer naturally submissive women who have the heart, mind & soul of a slave … she does not need to be a self-defined slave. She must be intelligent, mature, honest, truthful, genuine and trustworthy AND sincere and committed to what she writes in her profile or journal. In her public "vanilla" life, she may be strong, dynamic and powerful; but in her private personal life with me, she should be very humble, obedient, subservient, respectful, very disciplined and well-mannered. ~~~
She must be an erotic, sensual, romantic, open-minded ‘liberated’ and sexy woman with strong deep-seated passionate cravings for taboo kinky perverted sexual pleasures and being forcefully sexually dominated by a Dominant Master. HOWEVER, she must be a decent and respectable woman who has a good sense of self-worth, dignity, self-confidence and humble pride, preferably involved in positive and productive activities, and no criminal activities or drug usage or alcoholism. I do not want the community cum-dump promiscuous slut. She must understand that a real BDSM relationship is much more than just wild, wanton continuous kinky irresponsible sex with multiple men. Although not a requirement, I prefer her to be bi-sexual or bi-curious sexually. ~~~
I do not like the self-righteous hypocrites or religious zealots, but I enjoy women with a spiritual side, a religious background and/or a moral compass that they use to sustain them and guide them as they make ‘tough’ decisions and face life's challenges. She must seek strict discipline with mandated rules, guidelines, structure and protocols; but, if she is submissive and not a slave, she need not be micro-managed or subject to TPE. She must understand that this BDSM relationship is about much more than ‘wild wanton sexual depravity’ or BDSM role playing or taboo kinky sadomasochistic pleasures. She must faithfully submit and serve out of admiration, respect and trust. She must accept and embrace strong control and obedient subjugation, and TPE (if she is a slave). She must fully understand the ramifications of being submissive or slave in a BDSM relationship. ~~~
She must want a real life physical intimate relationship and NOT the 'juvenile' unreal cyber-relationship bullsh*t. To submit and serve me, she must be one who offers her heart, mind and body and all of her creativity, education, eroticism, knowledge, resourcefulness, sexuality, skills, talents and physical capacity to her Master (me) to use as I please and need. She should know that she must suffer, sacrifice and struggle in order to serve, please, service and pleasure her Master and keep him comfortable, happy, pleasured, entertained, satisfied, pleased, nursed, cared-for, stress-free and fulfilled.
If she is a slave ‘owned’ by me, then she is my slave property, and she must agree, know and understand that all of her knowledge, skills, talents, abilities and information she possess are mine, and she must generously use them to benefit, please, satisfy, protect & serve and worship her Master (and/or a Mistress I designate). ~~~
She must have self-control and not be addicted to anything but LIFE! She must not be controlled by unlawful drugs or abuse prescription medication or dominated by tobacco products or be a chronic alcoholic. ~~~
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) San Diego, California USA
The LA Lakers have successfully defended their NBA Championship crown and they continue to dominate all other NBA teams. KobeBryant is the NBA Championship Finals? most valuable player (MVP) as per usual. Now that the Celtics have been beaten and dismissed, as I predicted, I can concentrate on what is going on in this Collarme.com website and the BDSM realm.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
3:20 PM (Pacific)
NBA Championship Play-Off Update
LA Lakers: 89 Boston Celtics: 67
Yeah! Talk about a beat down from start to finish! The Celtics took an old-fashioned ass whipping and met the real NBA Champs in Los Angeles. The NBA Finals game 7 shall be on Thursday, June 17 ? expect a tougher fought game, BUT the results shall remain the same ? LA Lakers retain the championship crown, after they spank the Celtics and send them back to bean-town!
Kobe Bryant shall be crowned the NBA Championship MVP and all shall be well!
Mr.B
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
6:30 PM
Damn!! I go on vacation and my beloved LA Lakers get their ass kicked, stomped & whipped good by the Boston Celtics ? damn!!!
Well, I have returned and I expect Kobe and the LA Lakers to start playing some serious hard-core championship style ball and whip some Celtic ass! It is win or go fishing time ? and we do not need to go fishing this summer.
GREAT vacation ? but, some very horrible plane flights going from Atlanta, Georgia to Turks & Caicos islands ? ok ?
? one incident of small jet plane cannot pressurize and cannot fly high enough to get above 27,000 and avoid the hellacious thunder storms and then runs low on fuel requiring a sharp turn and hasty return to Atlanta with a ?hard? landing was enough ? BUT ? the small replacement jet gets beat up and bounced around for at least an hour in the dark thundering skies at 30,000 feet and then loud noise, plane drops, lights out, plane drops more and drops more and shit is flying everywhere ? drinks, lap tops, food, people, books and anything not safely stored or tied down is hitting the ceiling ? it is late afternoon, but nothing but grey outside ? cannot see the wings or anything ?
? some shit gets funny!! I am trying to ascertain as to whether or not I die today in a plane crash at sea with all kinds of soda pop and alcoholic drinks spilled on me as this plane keeps falling and yet, this lovely lady keeps leaning across the aisle trying to wipe me off with a towel ? until I yell at her to stop ? then this damn fool behind me is complaining about his Bloody Mary drink showering him and ruining his new shirt and he shall never drink anything with tomato juice again while flying ? fool, check out the situation, this may be your last flight FOREVER!
? no fun when you stare death in the eye over the ocean and you can do nothing about it BUT trust the pilot and hope the plane stays intact ? NUFF SAID!
YES! Prayers were answered and we arrived. Great vacation and I am safe & sound!
Mr.B
Saturday, June 05, 2010
10:55 AM (Pacific)
Hello kind folk & gentle people (he he he) ~~~
Well later this evening, I leave for vacation at a tropical all-inclusive luxury resort on the British Caribbean island of Providenciales, Turks & Caicos (90 miles southeast of Miami, Florida and north of the DominicaRepublic & Haiti). I shall be gone on vacation between Sunday, June 6 and Monday, June 14, 2010. There will be some serious pool volleyball played during this time ? I love to play at least two to four hours per day. AND ? I shall enjoy some alcoholic beverages, which I usually enjoy except when on a cruise or lovely vacation! Rum & Coke with lime; all deh time ? and perhaps I shall experiment. Lots of real women walking around in next to nothing, while half drunk and horny ? damn!
My only regret is that I shall not be here to root for the LA Lakers, and without my strong cheers, they could slip ? I hope the cable TV stations have the NBA games or it is check American newspapers at the gift shops.
Any online friend or submissive woman or female slave who is interested in me contacting them upon my return or who wishes to respond to a message of mine, please send a response or brief note asking me to write you upon my return.
I should be back on CollarMe.com by Tuesday, June 15.
Stay safe and be careful out there.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Please pray for me, I fear I may sin mightily!!!
May 29, 2010
10:29 PM
LA Lakers are crowned NBA Western Conference Champs!
Once again, for the third year in a row, the mighty Los Angeles Lakers prevailed and have defeated the ?pesky? little Phoenix Suns in six games. YES! They flew into Arizona and whipped the Suns in Phoenix and then quickly left the state.
Now that all of the pretenders to the throne have been vanquished in the east and west, the real Big Boys shall meet next week in Los Angeles to play for the NBA Championship title. It will be a rough & tough series with two experienced and champion caliber teams, Kobe & the LA Lakers v. the Boston Celtics. Shall I be presumptuous and say, the LA Lakers win in five or six games ? YEAH!
It shall be another big Championship ring for Kobe, the Black Mamba, the league?s best and most consistently greatest & most valuable player!
Peace Out!
Mr.B
May 27, 2010
12:15 PM (Pacific Day Light Time)
With all of the NBA sports journal entries and other discussion, what I seek in a woman has been buried again. Thus, I have moved the journal entry below, which I wrote on April 1, 2010, to the beginning of my journal again; so it is easier to find. There are a couple updates and edits. This is a basic outline of what I need and prefer in a submissive woman or female slave.
In the last ten days or so, I have been asked three times, what it is exactly that I seek in a submissive or slave. I guess my profile is too long and convoluted for someone to have to waste time and energy carefully reading to gather that information; thus I post the statements below, which I hope detail it. I confess to being particularly garrulous and long-winded at times; and I know that my writings can be tortuous for some (where are the true masochistic ones ? smile).
However, regardless of what I write, I know that each person is different and I always try to communicate with them and assess chemistry and compatibility in terms of needs, expectations, limitations and types of services and enslavement.
The slave or submissive must be a biological female (natural from birth or post-op transsexual female who lives and looks like a feminine woman and is accepted by her community as a 'real' woman).
I do not like to focus on the physical appearance in terms of facial features, body type or physique or racial or ethnic background. I try to focus on the inner qualities and as to whether I think the person is naturally submissive with slave potential. I am more interested in her character, personality, nature, abilities, talents, cravings, needs, fantasies and the depth of her desire to submit, obey, serve and be trained. I also constantly test her honesty, sincerity, genuineness, ethics and trust-worthiness.
If she is suspected or proven to be part of the fraudulent criminal element of scam-artists with a fake profile, trying to manipulate members out of money or waste their time ... she is quickly dismissed.
THIS IS NO APRIL 1ST FOOLS? DAY JOKE
WHAT I SEEK AND NEED IN A SUBMISSIVE OR SLAVE ?
The woman I seek must like strong, forceful, strict, kinky, sadistic naturally dominant 'Alpha' men who are confident and secure in their dominance and able to lead, direct and control and subjugate women with the strength of their character, personality, intellect, persuasive powers and communications skills without resorting to unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery. However, she must crave a man who knows how to walk, with ease, familiarity and skill on the wild side in the darker, seamy, depraved and seedy shadows of society and satisfy his kinky, perverted & sadistic needs & taboo lusts (in a safe and sane manner), AND yet lead a ?normal? successful life in the vanilla world. ~~~
I am only interested in an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable bisexual woman, whose age qualifies her as a 'legal' adult. Regardless of age, she must be youthful and young-at-heart and look enthusiastically at life and its possibilities. I prefer naturally submissive woman who have the heart, mind & soul of a slave ? she does not need to be a self-defined slave. She must be intelligent, mature, honest, truthful, genuine and trustworthy AND sincere and committed to what she writes in her profile. In her private personal life, she should be very humble, obedient, subservient, respectful, very disciplined and well-mannered. I also prefer someone who can easily fit in and function well in all types of social situations, "vanilla" or BDSM. ~~~
A woman need not be religious, but being ?spiritual? and having some type of belief system that guides her life, strengthens and sustains her during the suffering, struggles and survival challenges that we all face, is most desirable. I prefer a woman with strong values and ethics regarding charity, honesty, truthfulness, sincerity and making great efforts to be loyal, faithful and true to her word. She ought to be humanistic, humble and subservient. ~~~
She must be an erotic, sensual, romantic, open-minded ?liberated? and sexy woman with strong deep-seated passionate cravings for taboo kinky perverted sexual pleasures and being forcefully sexually dominated by a Dominant Master. HOWEVER, she must be a decent and respectable woman who has a good sense of self-worth, dignity, self-confidence and humble pride, preferably involved in positive and productive activities, and no criminal activities or drug usage or alcoholism. I do not want the community cum-dump promiscuous slut. She must understand that a real BDSM relationship is much more than just wild, wanton continuous kinky irresponsible sex with multiple men. Although not a requirement, I prefer her to be bi-sexual or bi-curious sexually. ~~~
She must seek strict discipline with mandated rules, guidelines, structure and protocols. She must accept and embrace strong control and obedient subjugation, and TPE. She must fully understand the ramifications of being submissive or slave in a BDSM relationship. She must want a real life physical intimate relationship and NOT the 'juvenile' unreal cyber-relationship bullsh*t. To submit and serve me, she must be one who offers her heart, mind and body and all of her creativity, education, eroticism, knowledge, resourcefulness, sexuality, skills, talents and physical capacity to her Master (me) to use as I please and need. She must be open-minded and enjoy being taught by her Dominant or Master and hunger for learning and self-development. She must not harbor irrational and unfair bigotry or harmful prejudices in her heart or mind. She should know that she must suffer, sacrifice and struggle in order to serve, please, service and pleasure her Master and keep him comfortable, happy, pleasured, entertained, satisfied, pleased, nursed, cared-for, stress-free and fulfilled. ~~~
She must have self-control and not be addicted to anything but LIFE! She must not be controlled by unlawful drugs or abuse prescription medication; she must not be addicted to cigarettes or any tobacco products, or be a chronic alcoholic. ~~~ Mr.B (aka Master Barry) San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
May 27, 2010
11:33 AM (Pacific Day Light Time)
My dearly beloved Los Angeles Lakers have been very disappointing lately ? as usual, Kobe is playing his heart out and playing excellent ball; the rest of the bunch are goofing off on defense, especially. Jackson needs to learn how to use his bench more effectively and if Bynam is unable to play much, due to his f*cked up knee, let us see more of # 28 Didier Ilunga-Mbenga, the 7 foot back-up center who brings 260 lbs of rough & tough hard muscle and five years experience to the court ? and he is healthy, fit and ready to play ? he blocks shots, rebounds very well and can also score (inside & out). Btw ? congrats Orlando Magic!
My prediction is: whichever team wins game 5 tonight, shall be the eventual winner of the NBA Western Conference Finals
NUFF SAID ?
Mr.B
San Diego, CAUSA
May 27, 2010
11:13 AM (Pacific Day Light Time)
NINE DAYS TO GO ? the count down has begun. On Saturday, June 5, I fly out to an all-inclusive luxury resort in the Turks & Caicos islands. Then it is all about sun & fun in the Caribbean Tropics on an island with some of the best white sand powdery beaches in the western hemisphere.
YES! Eight days of pleasure in Providenciales, Turks & Caicos, is just what the doctor would have ordered! Hhhmmmmm ? oh yeah!
Mr.B
San Diego, CAUSA
ATTENTION!!! This site is only for adult men and/or women who are at least 18 years old and who are reasonably intelligent, mentally competent, emotionally stable, and, of course either interested in establishing a BDSM relationship with a member or members of their choice, or learning about the BDSM lifestyle and/or the fetish sub-culture ? or discussing issues related to the fetish lifestyle, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism, and related bondage, discipline, sadomasochistic tortures/torments, protocols, punishments and/or extreme exotic erotica and taboo kinky perverted pleasures & depraved proclivities, which would be considered immoral, abnormal, unnatural and unacceptable in the more polite and genteel ?vanilla? society.
If one has absolutely no interest in such matters or is offended by these types of activities, discussions and alternative lifestyles, then, why the f*ck are you here???
If you are not at least 18 years of age ? PLEASE, do not contact me!!! If I contact you, due to some fraudulent fake profile you have posted, do us both a favor ? DO NOT RESPOND! I have no interest in under-age immature juvenile minors.
Thanks! NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
NBA Play-Off Results --- Boston Celtics: 94Cleveland cavaliers: 85
Well, now that queen james and his pathetically over-rated little cavaliers from that disgusting town called Cleveland have been sent packing, only real legitimate NBA contenders are left to challenge for the NBA Championship. Let the true play-off games begin ? hopefully the Los Angeles Lakers shall prevail and win back-to-back championships; but, if not, I hope Orlando Magic or Boston Celtics win.
All true Lakers?? fans hate the Phoenix Suns!!!
NBA UPDATE
Well well well ?queen james and her/his (whatever) ?merry? band of pathetic cavaliers from that miserable town called Cleveland got their collective asses stomped on their own home court by the Boston Celtics. Final score on Tuesday night, in Cleveland, was Boston Celtics: 120 and Cleveland cavaliers 88 ? beat by 32 points, at home in the playoffs ? the women & families in the life of queen james and his ?merry? band of pathetic cavaliers must be so proud! ~ smile ~ Now, we know why the press keep voting the little pathetic queen ?MVP? ? queen james shot the ball 14 times and made 3 baskets (that is shooting about 21%) ? NICE!
Tonight, the queen and his/her little Cleveland boys play the Boston Celtics in Boston, perhaps they shall redeem themselves and earn the right to wear a jockstrap and collect their millions of dollars annually. It is Win or Go-Home time ? imagine having to drag one?s sore ass back to a place like Cleveland and be booed at home by a town full of losers. Too bad and so sad ? maybe they could volunteer to play in the WNBA, and perhaps try to win a championship there and get a feel for the big time feeling of winning ? BUT ? what if they lost in the WNBA playoffs and got eliminated? Ouch!!!
There have been 60 NBA Championship Finals, the powerful and esteemed Los Angeles Lakers have played in the NBA Finals 30 times and won 15 times. That is winning 25% of all NBA Championships and competing in 50% of all NBA Finals. Kobe may not be the most revered and liked by the press, BUT ? Kobe is The Man!!! His game speaks for him!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
KOBE is most popular NBA player --- Who is the most popular player in NBA? Yes,he wears the No. 24 jerseys of The Lakers - Kobe Bryant(basketball jerseys). Recently, the NBA Official announced the sales ranking list of NBA polo shirts in the first half of the sports competition season in 2009 to 2010. In statistics, Laker's star Kobe Bryant, who has forcibly occupied the top of the list all the time since last season, is still staying high in the top of the list. This ranking is the result from the statistic of NBA official real and website stores, showing the popularity of the superstar player. Kobe's Number 24 polo shirt has already sustained a sencond-year's bestseller with a good market in NBA Union. Kobe has been selected in the All-star for eleven times in his career, thus showing him as the best player in the Union without doubt. Read more: http://www.articlesbase.com/basketball-articles/nba-jersey-sales-volume-tells-who039s-the-super-star-2054784.html#ixzz0npsYzkQt Under Creative Commons License: Attribution
Thursday, April 29, 2010
11:27 AM (Pacific California Time)
Important NBA Play-Off Update
What a pleasure to have the privilege of watching the ?real? Los Angeles Lakers play like the Champions that they truly are. They whipped some Oklahoma Thunder ass on Tuesday night and it was indeed a pleasure to behold. I mean they stomped those talented upstart young ?punks? good!! The referees decided to let the men play true play-off basketball and damn! ? L.A. Lakers seriously spanked ? no ? whipped some collective ass, old school style. AND ... the little boys from Oklahoma faded fast.
Now they return to the scene of the crime in Oklahoma City tonight, I hope the bring the same level of intensity, determination and dominance to the game, like they did in Los Angeles. If they do, they close out this series to night. Amen!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
Monday, April 19, 2010
11:25 AM (Pacific daylight)
Damn!MyLos Angles Lakers are still not playing up to par, and Kobe?s injuries have finally caught up with him BUT, the LA Lakers, led by Kobe, still defeated The Oklahoma Thunder in the first play-off game between them in the first round of the NBA Western Conference Championship rounds. If they can stay focused and heal or not aggravate any current injuries, Kobe and the LA Lakers should be in the Championship series against whoever makes it out of the East.
OOPS!Sorry for intruding with more basketball stuff ? sometimes a little ?vanilla? intrusion is good for the soul. Hey! At least I had the decency not to discuss politics, domestic policy issues and world affairs ? all matters that I find most provocative & stimulating ? intellectually, of course ? although ?power? is a great aphrodisiac, as well all know. And, no ? I refuse to explain that last statement, but I shall defend it.
Now you mayall return to your regular programming of discussions of wild wanton irresponsible promiscuous sexual debauchery and dangerously unhealthy sadomasochistic tortures, humiliating defilements and other taboo kinky ?abnormal? depravities ? the things so near and dear to all our kinky hearts and opened minds ? sorry nothing here for the soul.
I may have a liberated mind and a ?libertine? spirit, but, I for one, shall never forget that with freedom and ?adulthood? comes responsibility, accountability and liability. YES! As I seek to satisfy my lusts for the kinky, taboo & sadistic, I shall never forget the humanity of the recipient of my ?attentions? and I shall exercise due care, intelligence, commonsense and wisdom in order to avoid easily foreseen consequences of a most undesirable or catastrophic nature.
Go Lakers!!! ? damn ? I did it again ?
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
My chosen teams to play in the finals of the NCAA Tournament have now all lost. I pick either West Virginia or Michigan State to win it all!
The damn LA Lakers are playing like sh*t right now ... they went 2-3 on this last five game road trip! They are playing very 'sorry' lately.
Thursday, April 01, 2010
9:59 am (Pacific Daylight Time)
In the last ten days or so, I have been asked three times, what it is exactly that I seek in a submissive or slave. I guess my profile is too long and convoluted for someone to have to waste time and energy carefully reading to gather that information; thus I post the statements below, which I hope detail it. I confess to being particularly garrulous and long-winded at times; and I know that my writings can be tortuous for some (where are the true masochistic ones ? smile).
However, regardless of what I write, I know that each person is different and I always try to communicate with them and assess chemistry and compatibility in terms of needs, expectations, limitations and types of services and enslavement.
The slave or submissive must be a biological female (natural from birth or post-op transsexual female who lives and looks like a feminine woman and is accepted by her community as a 'real' woman).
I do not like to focus on the physical appearance in terms of facial features, body type or physique or racial or ethnic background. I try to focus on the inner qualities and as to whether I think the person is naturally submissive with slave potential. I am more interested in her character, personality, nature, abilities, talents, cravings, needs, fantasies and the depth of her desire to submit, obey, serve and be trained. I also constantly test her honesty, sincerity, genuineness, ethics and trust-worthiness. If she is suspected or proven to be part of the fraudulent criminal element of scam-artists with a fake profile, trying to manipulate members out of money or waste their time ... she is quickly dismissed.
THIS IS NO APRIL 1ST FOOLS? DAY JOKE
WHAT I SEEK AND NEED IN A SUBMISSIVE OR SLAVE ?
The woman I seek must like strong, forceful, strict, kinky, sadistic naturally dominant 'Alpha' men who are confident and secure in their dominance and able to lead, direct and control and subjugate women with the strength of their character, personality, intellect, persuasive powers and communications skills without resorting to unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery. However, she must crave a man who knows how to walk, with ease, familiarity and skill on the wild side in the darker, seamy, depraved and seedy shadows of society and satisfy his kinky, perverted & sadistic needs & taboo lusts (in a safe and sane manner), AND yet lead a normal successful life in the vanilla world. ~~~
I am only interested in an intelligent, mature, mentally competent, emotionally stable bisexual woman, whose age qualifies her as a 'legal' adult. Regardless of age, she must be youthful and young-at-heart and look enthusiastically at life and its possibilities. I prefer naturally submissive woman who have the heart, mind & soul of a slave ? she does not need to be a self-defined slave. She must be intelligent, mature, honest, truthful, genuine and trustworthy AND sincere and committed to what she writes in her profile. In her private personal life, she should be very humble, obedient, subservient, respectful, very disciplined and well-mannered. ~~~
She must be an erotic, sensual, romantic, open-minded ?liberated? and sexy woman with strong deep-seated passionate cravings for taboo kinky perverted sexual pleasures and being forcefully sexually dominated by a Dominant Master. HOWEVER, she must be a decent and respectable woman who has a good sense of self-worth, dignity, self-confidence and humble pride, preferably involved in positive and productive activities, and no criminal activities or drug usage or alcoholism. I do not want the community cum-dump promiscuous slut. She must understand that a real BDSM relationship is much more than just wild, wanton continuous kinky irresponsible sex with multiple men. Although not a requirement, I prefer her to be bi-sexual or bi-curious sexually. ~~~
She must seek strict discipline with mandated rules, guidelines, structure and protocols. She must accept and embrace strong control and obedient subjugation, and TPE. She must fully understand the ramifications of being submissive or slave in a BDSM relationship. She must want a real life physical intimate relationship and NOT the 'juvenile' unreal cyber-relationship bullsh*t. To submit and serve me, she must be one who offers her heart, mind and body and all of her creativity, education, eroticism, knowledge, resourcefulness, sexuality, skills, talents and physical capacity to her Master (me) to use as I please and need. She should know that she must suffer, sacrifice and struggle in order to serve, please, service and pleasure her Master and keep him comfortable, happy, pleasured, entertained, satisfied, pleased, nursed, cared-for, stress-free and fulfilled. ~~~
She must have self-control and not be addicted to anything but LIFE! She must not be controlled by unlawful drugs or abuse prescription medication or dominated by tobacco products or be a chronic alcoholic. ~~~ Mr.B (aka Master Barry) San Diego, California USA
NCAA Basketball Men's National Championship --- Damn! Kentucky and KansasState better make the final 2 or I will lose out on a major win! I thought Kansas would go all the way, but they were too arrogant and over-confident, and got out-worked by a lesser team! Guess they were saving their big effort for the Final Four ... eh? Too bad and so sad ... bye bye Kansas!!
... at least my NBA Los Angeles Lakers are on a six game win streak and played well against San Antonio, and beat them in San Antonio. Hope Kobe and the Lakers keep it together and WIN it all ... again!!! Mr.B
Monday, March 8, 2010 at 10:30 AM (Pacific) THIS IS A REPOSTING OF A JOURNAL ENTRY MADE ON 1/28/2008 Monday, January 28, 2008 1:33 PM (Pacific time)
Difference Between Discipline and Punishment
In both the ?vanilla? world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ///
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hard working fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples ? He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ?Master? and referred to Him as their Teacher. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or well being. ///
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is usually verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ///
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master?s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ?vanilla? world. ///
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up their anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ///
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately, most Dominants do not. ///
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ///
Btw ?regarding spankees ? he he he ? some can take a really severe whipping BUT ? perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese ? whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. ///
However, it is important to never break the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ///
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance ? when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently seriously injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ///
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen ? hhhmmmmm ? that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six-year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature ?even tempered? adult arrives to help you deal with it. ///
Be mature, careful and sane ? we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers ? but I digress. You get the general idea. ///
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient and respectful and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Punishment is about correcting misdeeds, unacceptable services and various violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real true naturally submissive woman or genuine female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master.
There is more to be said on this topic, but ? NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
YES!!! I was in Jamaica (the Caribbean island) at a lovely ?adults? only resort, next to one of the Hedonism, while on vacation for my birthday on 09/09/09) ? and yes, I went zip lining up in the very high rain forest country for at least two hours across at least nine different lines and at time up to 40 ? 50 miles per hour through some very dense and thick tall trees and brush and over fast running deep rivers ? yes, we had to do some steep climbing on very slippery and odorous twisting slopes! No! No one had to assist me although at times I was beat and winded; one man and one young lady often had to be carried up to the next platform when it was very steep ? we were all sweating & wet as hell ? BUT it was fun and exhilarating! THE PHOTOS ARENOW IN MY PROFILE!
I have noticed more often that many women come on this site to find love & romance in the more traditional sense and to ?date? ala ?vanilla? style, with the expectation, in some cases, that it leads to the traditional romantic love and living happily ever after in the lovely middle class suburban community with manicured green grass lawns and the white picket fence and the double car garage; and mom & dad over for Sunday dinner ?
Hhhmmmmm ? well, that is possible, I guess. How very lovely. YES! There are BDSM relationships with love & romance and people in the BDSM lifestyle enjoy regular everyday 'vanilla' activites also; and they work and go to college. Many are married and many have children living at home. However ...
My question, rhetorical though it be, remains, what is the original purpose and intent of this CollarMe.com web-site. As I understand it, Collarme.com is a free web-site to be used only by consenting adults (18 years old and older) for the purpose of communicating with and establishing relationships with other similar minded adults who are active in the BDSM community, live the BDSM lifestyle and/or are interested in matters related to BDSM (as in bondage & discipline and sadism & masochism).
I hate to be too presumptuous, but based on all available information that I have seen and read, one of the objectives of the Collarme.com web-site is to facilitate an on-line place where BDSM Dominants, switches, slaves and submissives can search for prospective BDSM lifestyle ?play? partners or to establish a short or long-term Dominant & submissive or Master & slave relationships, as per the agreement they discuss and reach agreement on.
Therefore, if someone is not interested in, or at least curious about BDSM and the culture, lifestyle and related protocols and activities; and if they have no desire to dominate & use a submissive one or be dominated & used by a Dominant One, why are they here ? are they conducting an anthropological study, or some type of social science academic research ? are they searching for family-valuesdating.com in the 'vanilla' world and got lost in cyber-space or what??? Are they a spy for the ultra-conservative hypocritical religious right or the ever vigilant local police or the FBI?
This is the BDSM realm of consensual bondage & discipline, sadomasochistic tortures, domestic discipline, corporal punishments (yes, with whips, Bamboo canes, leather riding crops & floggers, belts, hairbrushes, the bare hand and etc.), weird exotic erotica, taboo kinky ?perverted? sexual pleasures, degrading humiliations, ?nasty? defilements, forceful sexual penetrations (of all holes - mouth, anus & vagina), outrageous & abnormal depraved proclivities, unpaid domestic indentured servitude, voluntary sexual enslavement, total power exchange submission, humble subservience and compliant subjugation.
I believe that all members deserve to be treated with respect, common courtesy and with due consideration. However, do not sign up for bikini mud wrestling, and then complain because you got your hair ?mussed-up? and mud all over you. Do not agree to play full contact football and then get mad because you get hit hard, pushed or knocked down? Do not sign up for water polo and get distressed because you got pulled under water and dunked hard and got your hair wet and water up the nose. In other words, if someone writes and wants to discuss BDSM types of activities and kinky proclivities and inquire as to what you need, crave and seek as regards to the BDSM realm, do not get offended. That is what CollarMe.com is all about. This is not sweetfriendfinder.com!
Stop saying you will relocate or love to travel, when you only mean moving across town or a short 90 minute drive away from home. That is not relocating or travel. Also, all of you so called ?slaves? begging for Masters to pay your relocation, while you are attending these slave schools in the UK, Nigeria or other countries in Africa, and/or in the state of Texas ? we know that you are nothing more than fraudulent scams and fake profiles designed to separate Americans from their hard earned dollars! Stop it already!!
NUFF SAID!!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Monday, January 04, 2010
11:33 AM (Pacific)
The following journal entry was originally written by me on November 22, 2007. Nonetheless, because it answers and addresses so many issues regarding the dynamic BDSM relationships between a Dominant & submissive or Master/Owner & slave, I must constantly move it to the top of my journal writings, in order that it is easily found.
The Relationship between Master & slave or Dominant & submissive
************************************** Thursday, November 22, 2007 [Thanksgiving Day]
8:03 AM (California-Pacific time)
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALLANDMAY THE MILITARY WARRIORS COME HOME SAFE!
The Relationship Between Master & Slave or Dominant & Submissive
A true naturally submissive one without a good Dominant Master is like a small boat casting about in the rough seas rudderless and without a skilled and knowledgeable Captain to guide her safely through the storm into calm waters and a safe port. Neither the Dominant nor the submissive is complete and satisfied without their complementary BDSM partner.
Before I begin my dissertation, there are some myths that should be debunked immediately. Just because someone likes forceful rough kinky sex or swinging or swapping or group sex or being gang banged by a bunch of horny guys, does not make her a true submissive or a slave. Promiscuous women who enjoy one-night stands and routinely engage in irresponsible and unsafe sex do not automatically qualify as a submissive or slave. Another fact is that women who unwillingly allow their mates to domestically abuse them, beat them up and terrorize them on a regular basis in violation of laws are not necessarily a true submissive or a slave. Women who are very passive, naturally shy and somewhat naïve are not necessarily submissive. Just because a woman has a high pain tolerance and tends to enjoy pain and discomfort, does not make her a real submissive or true slave. ///
Role playing and going to BDSM social scenes where people ?act out? or engage in sadomasochistic activities or sexual acts publicly does not mean the recipient is a true submissive or a slave! Many ?vanilla? women are promiscuous sluts or enjoy exhibitionism or like a little extra kinkiness in their life and so they go enjoy ?play time? occasionally. They play and ?dabble? in BDSM, but do not live the lifestyle and most likely lack the natural submissive nature. Submission is about hungering to give up control and to offer one?s personal authority to another person, who is Dominant, and accepting that dominant person?s control, discipline and dominance. Submission is about craving to find pleasure by giving another pleasure, and being willing to suffer and sacrifice in order to make another happy, contented, satisfied, pleased and amused. Submission is about finding the One whom you adore, respect, trust, admire and find worthy and then living your life in accordance with his demands, needs, rules and governance and doing all within your power to make him happy, fulfilled and satisfied. ///
Ultimately, it is always the submissive or slave?s choice about whether or not she enters into a relationship with a Dominant One. In all candor, the slaves or submissive ones have the ultimate control to surrender, submit and serve or to resist and run! The submissive or slave is the one surrendering control and authority and leaving herself vulnerable to abuse and misuse. The submissive woman must be in a position to make her decisions regarding with whom she associates or to whom she submits and serves without threats, coercion or unfair severe manipulation. Only mature, thoughtful, careful and mentally competent adult women (18 and over) with at least average intelligence and good common sense should be making these decisions and they should not be forced by destitution or desperate economic or living circumstances to rush, without thinking, into the clutches of every so called ?Dom? or ?Domme? out there. ///
Btw ??mature? does not mean ?old.? Many women between the ages of 18 and 24 can be very mature, astute and intelligent and have good common sense. Although I prefer my submissive or slave to be at least 21, because it means that we have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything and not have issues of ?underage? or jail-bait? become an issue, I am open-minded and have considered those between 18 and 20 who seem particularly mature, intelligent, articulate and self-assured about who and what they are and what they need. ///
The Dominant must convince the mind, romance the heartand calm the spirit of the submissive one or slave so that she is neither anxious nor fearful. The submissive or slave should be wooed, enticed and stimulated mentally, emotionally & physically. The Dominant must try to cultivate mutual trust & confidence between them. The Dominant must earn her respect and admiration. Then the body of the submissive one or slave does what her mind & heart dictate and she can easily relax and be obedient, compliant & faithful and submit & serve and be subjugated. It is only then that the mind & heart of the submissive one or slave open fully to be taught, disciplined and controlled. Once this is established and there is mutual respect and trust in each other and each finds the other trust worthy and a potential match, then a true relationship can begin. When the slave or submissive accepts the collar of a Dominant One, there is a strong bond and mutual commitment and the Dominant or Master takes on an awesome responsibility; especially in the case of a slave. The bondage is primarily mental and emotional and in some ways spiritual; the kinky sex, BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and other taboo kinky activities are just physical manifestations of what is deep within the heart, mind and soul. ///
The issue regarding the relationship between a Dominant and his submissive or Master and slave often comes up in discussion or in people?s profile narrative or journal writings; and sometimes during written communications on adult BDSM web-sites or via personal e-mail. Just For The Record --- Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. Do not get me wrong, it is possible to find a true Dominant Master who also would make a wonderful husband or boyfriend, BUT ? usually it is unlikely. It is also possible for a submissive woman or female slave to fall in love with their Dominant or Master and visa versa. The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don?t go looking for ?Mr. Right? ala ?vanilla? world. ///
First --- I must state that each D/s relationship or M/s relationship is unique to the individuals involved. Second --- I must emphasize that the Dominant One and the submissive one (this includes slave) must negotiate the terms and conditions of their specific relationship up front before they ever have any real intimate or physical interaction. Third --- It is critical that the Dominant One and submissive one must fully and honestly discuss and resolve the issue of expectations, ?soft? limitations and ?hard limits.? Then the submissive must understand that the relationship is not ?vanilla? and as such, it is not a politically correct, socially approved and traditional relationship of equality between the two partners. The Dominant One must acknowledge that he knows and understands his great responsibilities and must commit to live up to the awesome burden of ownership. Remember --- When two mature, mentally competent and intelligent adults (18 and over) establish some form of a BDSM relationship, which meets both of their individual cravings, needs and desires, then it is really no one else?s business. As long as there is nothing illegal taking place and the health, safety and general wellbeing of the community and society at large is not threatened or endangered. Just because persons on the outside may consider a particularly extreme, sadistic, dehumanizing and hard-core Master & slave (or Dominant & submissive) relationship outrageous, disgusting and insanity personified, does not make the relationship wrong for the two consenting adults involved. YES! There are really Daddy Dominants who are not pedophiles, but seek babygirls or submissive daughters who need and crave a Daddy! ~~ smile ~~ ///
Please remember that all slaves by definition are a submissive one, BUT, not all submissive ones are slaves. There are also different types and levels of non-slave submissive ones. People often get confused and use the terms ?submissive? and ?slave? interchangeably. There are many similarities at times, because there are about nine different levels or types of submission. Some submissive ones can be very extreme and welcome all types of hard-core activity and surrender damn near all of their control and authority to their chosen Dominant One; these submissive ones may at some point cross over into enslavement. ///
Many womenidentify as a ?slave? and do not fully understand what that really means. Often, they confuse a ?slave? with a ?submissive? and then they do not understand that the commitment for the slave is deeper, stronger, greater, more permanent and a slave usually has few or no limitations. The critical difference is that a slave surrenders her personal authority & decision making power and total control to her Dominant Owner/Master. The slave has neither rights (except safety, sustenance, life & health and respect for valid ?hard limits?) nor self will (except to submit, serve, be used, obey & worship).
All of the slave?s property, material possessions, money and assets of value are given to her Owner/Master to manage and use as he determines best as soon as he takes full time ownership of her as his slave. The slave has her ?vanilla? life dictated and restricted by her Owner/Master. A true slave is powerless and is considered like chattel, just property, and as such, she cannot own property. Any money a slave has, receives or earns through work is immediately confiscated by her Owner/Master and taken from her by her Owner/Master. It is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities; even a slave?s self-gratification (masturbation) is controlled and regulated by her Owner/Master. ///
A slave must know and understand that eventually her limits must be expanded and her threshold for pain, bondage, humiliations, defilement and forceful ?kinky? sexual penetrations shall be challenged and stretched. As a slave, she agrees that almost nothing her Dominant Owner/Master does may be characterized by her and reported to law enforcement as criminal misconduct, physical assault & battery, false imprisonment, illegal detention, domestic abuse, hate crime, sexual assault or rape. DISCLAIMER --- Having said this, please know that I fully believe that the negotiated agreements & understandings and the hard limits must be respected by the Owner/Master and that the slave should not be required to participate in illegal activities. Also, the Owner/Master has an awesome burden and responsibility to protect the life, health, sanity, well-being and general welfare of the slave. ///
All people (Dominant & submissive) have limitations due to their family upbringing, religious or faith beliefs, personal ethics & values, cultural/ethnic or national origin background, health/medical restrictions, physical or mental disabilities, unexplainable phobia or irrational fears, self-esteem issues and/or prior experience with childhood molestation, domestic abuse or being a victim of a violent crime. Some people just cannot get beyond the ?Yuk!? factor. There are those who have very serious and important business or personal or family responsibilities in the ?vanilla? world, which demand their attention. These various issues and situation may prevent an individual from participating in certain kinky, sadomasochistic or sexual activities and may limit their ability to submerge full time into total enslavement and live the life 100% of the time. ///
The Dominant?s or Master?s sadistic side screams out ?she serves with no limits? BUT that is more often than not unrealistic and nonsensical. The Dominant or Master must keep an open-mind and patiently & honestly discuss the submissive or slave?s needs, concerns, anxieties, expectations, fears, phobia and anxieties. He must try to understand her limitations and help her determine whether or not they are ?soft? limits or valid ?hard? limitations. A thoughtful, mature and sane Master determines whether a limit is health related or caused by a disability. However, even with a hard-core pain-loving masochistic sex-slut slave who wants to be dehumanized and objectified and be given no voice or rights, it is unrealistic to believe that she shall live the next seven years of her life in a dark dungeon naked and without any contact with the ?vanilla? world while she is routinely brutalized, tortured, gang raped, ritually whipped into unconsciousness and subjected to other physical and mental mistreatments. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN ? although not impossible. ///
An Owner/Master needs to be very aggressive, forceful, strict, sadistic and domineering when he owns a slave. Nonetheless, the Owner/Master must exercise self-discipline and be intellectual, judicious and thoughtful regarding how he treats, uses and cares for his slave. The Owner/Master must never become so intoxicated with his lust for power, control, dominance and satisfying his sadistic cravings and kinky sexual desires that he neglects the slave?s humanity and legal rights and loses his self-control and neglects his responsibilities to protect his slave and keep her safe from real harm, sickness or death. The health, safety, well being and happiness of the slave should be very important. The slave is valuable property and must be kept sufficiently fit, healthy, sane, happy and functioning at a highly acceptable level and the Owner/Master must never kill her passion to be enslaved and subjugated while she voluntarily submits and serves. Only a damn fool damages and destroys his valuable slave property. ///
Neither a submissive nor a slave should be in terror and freight when she thinks of her Dominant or Master. But ? she should fear disappointing him and she should dread disobeying him or violating his rules. The submissive or slave should fear her Master?s wisdom, knowledge and power; but she should also be comforted by his wisdom, knowledge and power. The same way a child fears her father, BUT is glad he is strong, forceful and knowledgeable, because then he can protect the child, develop the child and provide for the child and keep the child safe. A submissive one?s or a slave?s greatest pain should be when she knowingly displeases, neglects, disappoints, disrespects and/or disobeys a good Owner/Master. ///
If all is as it should be, then the submissive or slave should hold her Dominant or Master in high regard and with great esteem, she should trust his judgment and she should respect and greatly value his word and teachings. The submissive or slave should hunger every day to please, amuse and satisfy her Master and obtain his approval and compliments. The submissive or slave should listen attentively to her Master and study him and learn his habits, needs, cravings and dislikes AND with this knowledge she should anticipate his desires and needs and offer such, before he orders her, in order to see him pleased and impressed. The submissive or slave should get her pleasure by giving her Dominant or Master pleasure. His kind words and smile of satisfaction and look of blissful approval & pleasure should be her primary objective. ///
A Dominant One or Master must be much more than just the man who fucks, tortures, humiliates, restrains and beats a submissive woman or slave. I strongly believe that he must be able, willing and qualified to be a Benefactor,Counselor, Disciplinarian, Teacher, Protector, Lover, Provider and Life?s Guide ? and of course, Tormentor Extraordinaire! When I use terms and words like life?s guide, counselor, teacher, protector, provider and disciplinarian, I mean the Dominant One that you choose as your Master and who has earned your trust and confidence to provide you the counsel, guidance, instruction, structure and support you need in your everyday ?vanilla? life as well as for your development in the BDSM realm. ///
YES!!! I do mean ?protection? because I am of the opinion that there are too many low-esteem half-crazy women-hating misogynistic male brutes out there subjecting vulnerable passive submissive women to criminal assault and battery and unlawful domestic violence and calling it BDSM activities. A decent, intelligent, reasonable and good Dominant Man does not expose his submissive companion or female slave to unnecessary danger or harm, and when she faces danger or harm, he is there to protect her. Domestic discipline and corporal punishment does not mean getting drunk and punching a woman with closed fist or pointing a gun at her or slapping her around and choking her for no reason. Spewing venomously vile & hateful profanity at a woman and routinely calling a woman by demeaning names without valid provocation does not make anyone Dominant and definitely not a Master. Being a Dominant or Master does not equate to mean, dumb & abusive brute! ///
The Dominant Master also protects his submissive or slave from herself. Many submissive women lack any self-control or sense of proportionality and they routinely engage in self-destructive and non-productive behavior and have serious personal problems. They go through life with a woe is me attitude and keep wondering why they are unsuccessful at everything and constantly rejected or disrespected by others and unhappy and dissatisfied with themselves and their life in general. YES!! Life is not fair and horrible things often happen to good & decent people; and it seems that the wicked live long prosperous lives while the good die destitute and young. Sometimes a woman has been dealt a very bad hand in life. Nonetheless, a good Dominant One who honestly cares about his submissive or slave and desires to rehabilitate and improve his submissive one or slave, must help her to escape self-destructiveness that may be contributing to her misfortunes and malaise. ///
I have broken submissive women and female slaves of alcohol & drug addiction, destructive lifestyles, associations with unsavory & unscrupulous characters, unproductive selfish preoccupations and making poor personal and foolish business decisions. I have shown long-term welfare moms how to legitimately and forever escape welfare and become self-sufficient and self-supporting. A Dominant or Master must be a strict disciplinarian and a forceful and robust instructor. He must have a vision about where he needs to take his submissive and what unacceptable and negative attitudes, behaviors and beliefs he must break from her and replace with more acceptable and positive ones. He must visualize what she shall look like after he breaks her down, molds her, disciplines her and rebuilds her. The Dominant or Master must teach her self-control, self-discipline and self-respect and help her understand the importance of rejecting her self-destructiveness. The Master must teach the submissive that she must guard & protect herself as if she is a highly prized and greatly valued sacred Temple; she must understand that until she loves herself, she cannot truly love & serve another ? although the greatest love is suffering and sacrificing oneself for another in order to keep them healthy and safe and make them happy, satisfied and successful. ///
If a woman is my submissive, then even when she is hundreds or thousands of miles away, she is following my written rules and guidance and she is in constant communication and keeping me informed and seeking my counsel. I give her the ?tools? and guidelines to assist her manage her every day life in a successful and productive manner. It is not incompatible for a submissive woman to be a strong successful and highly paid professional or executive in the ?vanilla? world and yet submissive and enslaved full time by her Dominant Master. A submissive woman may be a political activist and community organizer and still be in submission and subjugation to her Dominant One or Master. A submissive woman may be an entrepreneur or business owner, while submitting and serving. It is not incompatible for her to remain separated from her Master for long periods in order to care for family members or loved ones or attend personal business. Bondage and subjugation do not mean locked away in a basement forever. The bondage is mainly mental and emotional. It is based on faith, confidence and trust in each other. It is something felt deep within your soul. The relationship does require stimulation, support and encouragement and there does need to be some form of intimate bonding. ///
When a submissive commits to a BDSM relationship with a Dominant, and after the terms and conditions have been negotiated up front and there is mutual agreement on expectations, limitations, commitments and standards of service, then education, training and discipline sessions begin. Both slave and submissive require obedience training to condition them to learn to obey another adult and to accept a Dominant?s commands and guidelines. It is hard for the average modern day in-control & self-sufficient woman to suddenly surrender her authority to another and give him control over her life. It is difficult for a woman in the modern 21st Century American culture to bow down and humbly obey. The slave is for all practical purposes totally owned, controlled and dominated in all matters by the Master. Many Dominants will seek to restrict or totally control your sexual activities. However, with a slave, it is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities. With the non-slave submissive one the Dominant does not wield as much power and lacks as much control and must be very skilled, talented and thoughtful about how he uses his authority and powers of persuasion. ///
The submissive woman or female slave should be rewarded,complimented and recognized when she provides outstanding service or when she has stretched her normal boundaries of BDSM play tolerance and explored above & way beyond her comfort levels of sadomasochism and taboo kinky sexual pleasures and hard-core use. The Dominant or Master should always be willing to show his appreciation and gratitude as much or even more than to show his displeasure and anger. In an ideal situation, the Dominant or Master feels and demonstrates real passion and genuine affection, concern and respect for his chosen submissive or slave. ///
When I show my appreciation, it may take many forms ? special gifts, little treats, shopping escapades, trip to the theatre or amusement park, a night out for fine dining and music & dance or something as simple as a lovely massage by a paid certified professional at a high-class spa & gymnasium. It also may be 'affectionate after-care' that includes gently cleaning her up (with hot wet wash rags and soft towels) after a prolonged, forceful and hard-core kinky sexual session that has left her satisfied but fully-used, exhausted, thirsty, weak, ?wobbled kneed? and sore ? and then bringing her nourishment (food and drink) to enjoy as we cuddle and I whispers delightful compliments and passionate ?sweet nothings? to you and/or read poetry while enjoying some slow, soft soulful R&B or jazzy blues music playing. YES! Showing affection, concern and thoughtfulness to a slave or submissive is appropriate and does not make one a weak person. ///
Disclaimer --- YES! I acknowledge that there are many slaves who do not wish to be shown any concern, affection, thoughtfulness or care. They want hard-core Sadists who are never gentle or kind to them. This is what would be discussed and negotiated up front when you both establish the terms and conditions of the BDSM relationship and what is to be expected. My experience is that, most slaves who say this, believe it until they live it and then they begin to want periodic tenderness, compliments and affectionate after-care. ///
Now that I have put everyone to a comatose like deep sleep, I shall cease further boredom.
Nonetheless, those are this Sir?s humble opinions.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, January 1, 2010
3:27 PM (Pacific Standard)
Happy New Year!January 1, 2010 is finally here. 2009 was not a bad year for me ? matter of fact, it was pretty good, especially considering the circumstances and misfortunes of others. Many things did not go my way exactly as I desired BUT ? I am still truly blessed and I should be grateful.
Keep the faith America ? have hope ? do not let the gloom & doom merchants who make wealth and political gains off of your misery, discomfort and fear. The good ole USA shall bounce back in 2010 beginning around June or July of this year. President Obama?s policies are working, but, Americans want immediate gratification and all gain with no pain. YES! There is wide spread suffering in the land and the middle class has been devastated, but this began at least three to five years ago and reached the zenith early in 2009, as the newly elected American president was sworn in and taking office.
Corporate corruption & greed remain the culprits, except now they have an evil partner called ?fear? ? yes, when there is uncertainty and doubt throughout the land, and the official unemployment rate hits double digits, fear is everywhere. When people have fear, they do not buy, spend or invest, they hoard money. Businessmen and major corporations play a waiting game regarding expansion, investment and hiring new workers or re-hiring employees who were laid off.
In addition, even though Wall Street and many businesses and major corporations had a banner year and made tons of money in 2009 and watched their stock quickly rise significantly in 2009; they refuse to hire or rehire, because it is cheaper and easier to over-work the few employees they have left and threaten them to stay put and work harder because there are hundreds or thousands waiting to take their place. So, unemployment remains high ? those working are stressed, tired and burnt-out BUT due to fear are scared to leave or complain ? and big business, major multi-national corporate giants and the financiers on Wall Street haul in a ton of money with huge profits, and ship more American jobs overseas where ?slave labor? is dirt cheap, employee protection laws are weak or nonexistent, and health & safety regulations are few, if any ? that is the untold story.
America is like an aircraft carrier, a huge ocean liner or a big oil tanker, it takes awhile to turn around or make a change ? often when on a large ship, they can turn and only the captain and crew realize it at first. Yes! The recession has ended and things are improving and change is happening BUT ? when you are unemployed, under-employed, or just filed bankruptcy or had your home foreclosed on, it is hard to see or feel good.
Some may say, what do you know ? you are not suffering. Maybe not lately, but I have paid my dues. I have been subject to a lay-off three times and once went almost three years either unemployed or under-employed. In my most recent lay-off about nine years ago, after ten months of searching, I accepted a job 115 miles north in Los Angeles and took a $9,000 salary cut and had to work in a cubicle (I was accustomed to offices and subordinate staff reporting under me) AND had an expensive five hour round-trip commute daily. I have known severe poverty, homelessness and desperate times ? BUT ? when the going gets tough, the tough always get going!
Now is the time to learn & develop ? get into the community colleges and post secondary training programs and improve your knowledge and skills for the new economy ? now is the time to be willing to travel long distances and relocate, if necessary to get back on your feet. Be a consultant or self-employed person and market your skills and knowledge. Many employers are willing to hire temporary & contract workers over regular employees. If they like you and the job you do, they will either hire you or give you more contracts and refer you to other businesses for contracts. Get busy folks.
If you know anything about the United States of America, the country is at its best when adversity & real hard times strike. The Pacific Railway Act was signed into law by President Abraham Lincoln on July 1, 1862, in the midst of the Civil War. This act provided Federal government support for the building of the first transcontinental railroad, which was completed in May 1869. Franklin D. Roosevelt (FDR) took on Japan and Germany and jumped into World War II before the Great Depression had ended. Truman initiated the Marshall plan to rebuild and develop Europe. Most people know little about President Truman, except that he dropped the atomic bombs on Japan. Check out a little history below.
Happy New Years & Best Wishes ? better times are coming. YES! I voted for President Obama and although I am troubled by some decisions and strategies, I still have confidence and trust in him and he is on the right track ? right wing talk radio does not scare me. I am proud of my vote and support for our current president.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
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History
Harry S. Truman was the 33rd President of the United States (1945-1953), he succeeded Franklin D. Roosevelt, who died less than three months after he began his fourth term as prsident. He popularized such phrases as?The buck stops here? and "If you can't stand the heat, you better get out of the kitchen.? At the end of World War II, when America was in great debt and economic trauma resulting from the lingering effects of the Great Depression and the high deficit spending to fight World War II, President Truman initiated the Marshall Plan to rebuild and develop all of war torn Europe. Between 1948 and 1951, the United States poured financial aiding totaling $13 billion (over $100 billion in 2009 dollars) into the economies of Western Europe. Officially termed the European Recovery Program (ERP), the Marshall Plan was approved by Congress in the Economic Cooperation Act of April 1948. The US Congress appropriated payments to European countries in annual installments. Most of U.S. assistance under the ERP took the form of financial grants, which did not need to be repaid to America.
Between the years 1947 ? 1948, President Truman accomplishments were distinguished also by civil-rights proposals and the de-segregation of the U.S. military. Against the advice and objections of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, almost all generals and many public officials with political and military backgrounds, he issued an executive order that black and white men could serve together and live in the same quarters and blacks could rise in rank and advance as officers based on meritorious ability and performance.
During President Truman?s State of the Union address in January 1949, President Harry S. Truman unveiled plans for a legislative agenda that he termed the Fair Deal that would build upon the New Deal plans developed by his predecessor Franklin Delano Roosevelt. The primary goals of Truman's Fair Deal was to increase employment to capacity, provide assistance to farmers and extend Social Security. In addition to those policies listed above, Truman's Fair Deal policies also sought to enact legislation that would put an end to the often brutal discriminatory practices throughout America, but especially in the South. Part of the Fair Deal of Harry Truman (who some consider to otherwise have been an absolutely horrific President) would have been a move toward universal health coverage. The Republican Congressmen and their southern Democrats (aka ?Dixiecrats?) collaboraters banded together and defeated that universal health care initiative. Just think, if it hadn't been for the fact that even in the 1940s and 1950s so many politicians were in the pockets of the lobbyists for the doctors and insurance companies back then, tens of millions of people would have lived because they would have been able to afford health insurance, and this would not be a controversial issue today.
New Years Eve 2009
Well praise the Lord! I actually updated my profile and added/removed and changed photographs ? and the changes took place immediately ? and it went much smoother than what I remembered back in 2005 and 2006. Well praise the Lord! Miracles continue to happen. Perhaps Collarme.com is improving technically. This 2010 may just get off to a great beginning. Enjoy your celebration revelry. I know that there must be plenty carousing, debauchery, drinking, festivities and partying, but stay safe out there!
Happy New Years all!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEARS!!
Greetings to all! May you have an enjoyable, peaceful, fun-filled and loving Christmas holiday with lots of gifts, eating sessions and interaction with family, friends, loved ones and those others of importance to you. I wish all good health, friendship, love, fulfilled harmless cravings & lusts, erotic Tantra sex, sadomasochistic satisfactions, taboo kinky sexually perverted pleasures, peace of mind and success in all positive and productive worthwhile endeavors; and prosperity, gainful employment & business productivity. May we all be blessed and enjoy a happy & quick riddance of these fraudulent criminal money scams on Collarme.com! ~~~ smile ~~~
I look forward to Kobe & the World Champion LA Lakers kicking queen james and his cavaliers collected ass and sending them back to ? Ohio ? yuk!
Peace & Love! (Jamaica style)
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
P/S I may not be on much between now and Sunday, I shall try to check mail.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
10:39 AM (Pacific Standard Time)
NO NEED TO READ THIS! It is personal and not related to BDSM
Today is Tuesday, December 22, 2009. Today is the 21st anniversary of mama?s death. She died three days before Christmas in 1988. It has been 21 years without mama and her unconditional love & affection. Those who have never enjoyed such a relationship, will never fully understand. When she was 48, she was disabled and partially paralyzed by a massive stroke.
I took good care of my mother for ten years afterwards, she even became able to fully talk and learned to write with her left hand and was pretty self-sufficient. Nonetheless, I had a steady stream of health aides, nursing assistants and home-care aides (as well, as lady ?friends?) coming and going in her lovely handicapped apartment. Then, I relocated to California and promised to move her out later, after winter. But, she died suddenly less than three months after I left. I pray I see her again one day, perhaps, in the afterlife.
Mr.B
Thursday, November 26, 2009
HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY!
It will be a happy holiday, if America?s Team, the NFL Dallas Cowboys kick some Oakland Raider ass and win their game today. No ? I shall have no big family ?turkey dinner? today, those days are done; and it is still all good. I am invited to a little evening house get-together, where there will be all the usual Thanksgiving food and pies and drink, which I shall attend if Dallas wins and I am in a celebration mood. Well, after I finish the requisite phone calls to family and friends in Texas, North Carolina and Utah.
All kidding aside, I am blessed in many ways and I should be thankful. Unlike most people, when I am alone, I usually chose to be and I am never lonely when alone ? I enjoy my company ? ha ha ha ? I am not trying to be arrogant, egotistical or self-centered. Too often people focus on the ?negative? and difficult challenges they must face and endure and ignore all of their blessings and good fortunes.
There is an old story about the boy complaining about not having new shoes and then he saw a man with no shoes to wear, and the man without shoes was bemoaning the fact he had only worn out socks and no shoes to wear on his feet, then he saw an old man with no feet ?
So, I counted my many blessings and made a nice charitable donation to a worthy religious organization to assist their charitable efforts for the poor and those who are less fortunate ? and pray that the NFL Dallas Cowboys kick some Oakland Raider ass and win their game today.
Peace & Love! Mr.B
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
P/S Score in 4th quarter with 11 minutes left in the game:
Dallas 24
Oakland 7
November 22, 2009
2:39 PM (Pacific time)
Remembering JFK, the former President John F. Kennedy, who was shot to death as in Dallas, Texas, on November 22, 1963.
That was 46 years ago. Americans have been known to assassinate their presidents or make a concerted attempt to kill them.
Just remembering a tragic and sad legacy of American political violence ? we must remember and learn from the past, to avoid the same problems in the future ?
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Monday, October 26, 2009
10:55 AM (Pacific)
Although humor is mostly man?s inhumanity to man (and women, of course); all mental health therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, health & wellness professionals and even fitness trainers ? and those comedians too; they all agree that a good healthy laugh is good for the heart, mind and soul and it reduces stress and relieves any pent up angst and anxiety.
Therefore, since you will not read my more articulate, coherent, comprehensive, educational, informative and thoughtful journal entries, here is a little humorous ?trash? to make you smile ? you know you like it ? go ahead and smile. Hey, why not just laugh out loud, who is going to know?
A Piece of Humorous ?Trash?
A crusty old biker out on a long summer ride in the country pulls up to a tavern in the middle of no where, parks his bike and walks inside. As he passes through the swinging doors, he sees a sign hanging over the Bar:
COLD BEER: $2.00 HAMBURGER: $2.25 CHEESEBURGER: $2.50 CHICKEN SANDWICH : $3.50 HANDJOB: $50.00 Checking his wallet to be sure he has the necessary payment, the ole' biker walks up to the bar and beckons to the exceptionally attractive female bartender who is serving drinks to a couple of Sun-wrinkled farmers. She glides down behind the bar to the ole biker.
"Yes?" she inquires with a wide, knowing smile, "may I help you?"
The ole biker leans over the bar, "I was wondering young lady,"he whispers, "are you the one who gives the hand-jobs?"
She looks into his eyes with that wide smile and purrs "Why yes, yes, I sure am".
The ole' biker leans closer and into her left ear whispers softly,"Well, wash your hands real good, cause I want a cheeseburger."
They call me ?Mr.B? and I reside in San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Monday, October 12, 2009
11:16 AM (Pacific)
Why All the Anger, Disrespect, Hostility & Hating?
First, I shall preface my comments with the statement that I believe all members on Collarme.com, regardless of their role or status, should be accorded common courtesies, respect and due consideration. Also, if a slave or submissive woman is not owned or collared, then she remains a free agent and does not need to bow down and grovel in submission before every Dominant who may contact her. The slave or submissive should be respectful and follow established protocol of the BDSM culture, but she need only be submissive before her chosen Domme or Dominant. Therefore, Dominants should approach a submissive or slave with respect and in a pleasant manner.
However, I have noticed a significant increase in the vitriol being spewed out in profiles by women who list themselves as a slave, submissive or switch on CollarMe. At least 90% of this vitriolic fury is directed at men who list as a Dominant. Why all the anger and bitterness? I know that some Dominants can be unnecessarily rude, crude and disrespectful and very presumptuous in their initial contacts, BUT ? why be mad at all Dominants? Direct your anger and displeasure at the ones offending you and present an attractive, interesting and pleasant profile to others.
Also, be honest, clear and specific about whom or what you seek, but, do so in a calm matter of fact manner, without acting as if you hate somebody. It helps if you state what type of member you are not interested in serving. For example,
q AGE ? I prefer older Dominants over the age of 40 or I am not interested in anyone over the age of 35 etc.
q GENDER ? I am lesbian, I seek to serve only a Domme or female switch or I am bisexual and willing to serve a male Dominant or female Domme or I am straight and will only serve a male Dominantetc.
q RACE/ETHINICITY --- My preference is to serve a white/Caucasian Master or I am only willing to serve a black or African American etc.
q REGION --- If you do not live in the metropolitan area of Chicago, I am neither available nor interested or I am only interested in Dominants in New York or those on the North East coast within a four hour drive or I am interested in all Dominants throughout the United States and Canada, I am willing to travel and available for future relocation etc.
YES! Someone who is not what you are interested in shall still contact you, but just delete and not respond, and if they continue block them and hide your profile from them ? it is easy to do. Do members frustrate you, of course, the Internet and web-sites are similar to the real world; people can be rude, boring, disrespectful, inconsiderate, egotistical and/or too pushy. You meet them in college, at school, at work, at church, at the nightclub, at the sports stadium and at home (smile) among other places. That is life!
Another thing of concern and interest to me, when did so called slaves start dictating to Dominants what must be done. I totally understand the ?no-pics no reply? and the ?no completed profile no response? comments. However, I have read profiles from submissive or slaves demanding that a Dominant provide photos revealing their nude body or male genitals, and others demanding that a Dominant must provide photos of scenes of them torturing or whipping or sadistically abusing or sexually using women. News Flash --- Masters inspect slaves, not visa versa. Many photos are staged or photo-shopped, and mean absolutely nothing. Also, The fact that a man has whipped, spanked, tortured or had sex with a woman and recorded it, does not mean that he is a good Dominant or will be your ideal Master.
Please explain to me why so many so called submissive or slaves continue to complain and whine about all the mail they get. Members will write to you, unless, you write some thing in your profile that states: ?I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ANYONE WRITING TO ME. PLEASE, DO NOT WRITE TO ME, I SHALL NOT RESPOND!? Even then, a few will still write, even if only to ask, ?why?? That is life! Be glad that members are interested in you. Be glad that you have 50 or 150 or 300 to choose between ? the process of discarding those you do not like is not that complex. You can also hide your profile for awhile until you catch up with your reading. This situation reminds me of three very good-looking attractive women who dress up in ?hot? sexy outfits go out on the town on a Friday night and enter the hottest local 'meat-market' dance club; and then bitch, moan and complain because men keep asking them to dance or offering to buy them a drink. Makes one wonder ? what did they expect?
Stop all the irrationality and hating, please!
NUFF SAID!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Master: ?The whip!?
slave: ?Oh no, not the whip ??
Master: ?The whip!!?
slave: ?Oh no, not the whip ??
Master: ?The whip!!!?
slave: ?Oh no, my lord, please not the whip ? anything, but the whip ? ?
Master: ?Anything????
slave: ?? the whip ??
Of course, the Master smiles that sadistic grin, as he reaches for his single tail.
Friday, October 02, 2009
10:22 AM (Pacific)
A genuine and sincere D/s relationship
The writing below is posted in the profile of 1joyful_sub, a 36 year old submissive woman in Oklahoma, on ALT.com. She refers to her relationship with Deon, to whom she is submissive.
?I am not a lesser being, not in any way confined or even defined by my role as woman, wife, mother. I?m encouraged to learn & grow & stretch myself, recognizing there are some things I?d just as soon be carried by stronger shoulders. I delight in serving my Man, in doing things which make his job easier & make him look good. We are a team. There is actually mutual submission/surrender. Each yielding rights & expectations at times. He serves me in many ways. I am free to be His Lady on his arm and the lusty wench in His bed. Delicious!
About 8 years ago I stumbled into the D/s scene online. It felt as if I?d come home. I?d always been very feminine, preferring dresses to pants. Soft, sweet, girlish, female. Actually liking men, not embracing the feminism that considers men the enemy. It saddens me to see our men ridiculed, belittled, emasculated in the media & in our culture. I love that men & women are different. Viva la difference! That wasn?t the message I was getting from society tho, so I was delighted to find affirmation in my submission & encouragement to explore it too.?
Every now and then I find a very articulate, thoughtful, heartfelt and meaningful piece of writing in a submissive woman?s or female slave?s profile, which is very compatible and consistent with my beliefs, thoughts and philosophical approach. Granted, their specific relationship may not suit all, BUT ? at least it captures the essence of a genuine D/s relation; one that may be unique and satisfying to them and their needs, desires, expectations and limitations; but at least sincere and honest. All I shall say to her is, Amen & Touché!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
12:53 PM (Pacific)
"The submissive woman or female slave is the special sacred Temple where her Master comes for affection, amusement, care, love, comfort, nursing, pleasure, rejuvenation, relaxation, sustenance and sexual satisfaction and kinky & sadistic gratification. Her body is his special sacred Temple and she is but the guardian and care taker of his Temple. The submissive or slave is responsible to keep his Temple (her body) clean, sanitary, healthy, safe, nourished and properly cared for in order that when her Master, the Lord of the manor, comes he is comfortable, happy, satisfied and relaxed. The submissive or slave must ensure she is healthy, clean, groomed & cleansed according to her Masters dictates and preferences, and has good dental/oral & personal hygiene and no sexually transmitted disease (STD). The submissive or slave never allows other men or women to transgress or trespass upon her Master?s special sacred Temple for to do such would tarnish, defile and violate the sanctity of her Master?s special sacred Temple. He has sole authority, control and power over her body and determines how, where, when and in what manner she is used. He determines if and how she serves others, and who they may be.?
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?A true naturally submissive one without a good Dominant Master is like a small boat casting about in the rough seas rudderless and without a skilled and knowledgeable Captain to guide her safely through the storm into calm waters and a safe port. Neither the Dominant nor the submissive is complete, fulfilled and satisfied without their complementary BDSM partner.?
~~~ After recent discussions with a few CollarMe.com members, I have once again decided that it may be valuable to move excerpts from some of my earlier journal writings to the front of my journal for easy access and perusal by any interested persons. Please read and feel free to offer comments or ask questions ~~~
?Before I begin my dissertation, there are some myths that should be debunked immediately. Just because someone likes forceful rough kinky sex or swinging or swapping or group sex or being gang banged by a bunch of horny guys, does not make her a true submissive or a slave. Promiscuous women who enjoy one-night stands and routinely engage in irresponsible and unsafe sex do not automatically qualify as a submissive or slave. Another fact is that women who unwillingly allow their mates to domestically abuse them, beat them up and terrorize them on a regular basis in violation of laws are not necessarily a true submissive or a slave. Women who are very passive, naturally shy and somewhat naïve are not necessarily submissive. Just because a woman has a high pain tolerance and tends to enjoy pain and discomfort, does not make her a real submissive or true slave. ///
Role playing and going to BDSM social scenes where people ?act out? or engage in sadomasochistic activities or sexual acts publicly does not mean the recipient is a true submissive or a slave! Many ?vanilla? women are promiscuous sluts or enjoy exhibitionism or like a little extra kinkiness in their life and so they go enjoy ?play time? occasionally. They play and ?dabble? in BDSM, but do not live the lifestyle and most likely lack the natural submissive nature. Submission is about hungering to give up control and to offer one?s personal authority to another person, who is Dominant, and accepting that dominant person?s control, discipline and dominance. Submission is about craving to find pleasure by giving another pleasure, and being willing to suffer and sacrifice in order to make another happy, contented, satisfied, pleased and amused. Submission is about finding the One whom you adore, respect, trust, admire and find worthy and then living your life in accordance with his demands, needs, rules and governance and doing all within your power to make him happy, fulfilled and satisfied. ///
Ultimately, it is always the submissive or slave?s choice about whether or not she enters into a relationship with a Dominant One. In all candor, the slaves or submissive ones have the ultimate control to surrender, submit and serve or to resist and run! The submissive or slave is the one surrendering control and authority and leaving herself vulnerable to abuse and misuse. The submissive woman must be in a position to make her decisions regarding with whom she associates or to whom she submits and serves without threats, coercion or unfair severe manipulation. Only mature, thoughtful, careful and mentally competent adult women (18 and over) with at least average intelligence and good common sense should be making these decisions and they should not be forced by destitution or desperate economic or living circumstances to rush, without thinking, into the clutches of every so called ?Dom? or ?Domme? out there. ///
Btw ??mature? does not mean ?old.? Many women between the ages of 18 and 24 can be very mature, astute and intelligent and have good common sense. Although I prefer my submissive or slave to be at least 21, because it means that we have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything and not have issues of ?underage? or jail-bait? become an issue, I am open-minded and have considered those between 18 and 20 who seem particularly mature, intelligent, articulate and self-assured about who and what they are and what they need. ///
The Dominant must convince the mind, romance the heartand calm the spirit of the submissive one or slave so that she is neither anxious nor fearful. The submissive or slave should be wooed, enticed and stimulated mentally, emotionally & physically. The Dominant must try to cultivate mutual trust & confidence between them. The Dominant must earn her respect and admiration. Then the body of the submissive one or slave does what her mind & heart dictate and she can easily relax and be obedient, compliant & faithful and submit & serve and be subjugated. It is only then that the mind & heart of the submissive one or slave open fully to be taught, disciplined and controlled. Once this is established and there is mutual respect and trust in each other and each finds the other trust worthy and a potential match, then a true relationship can begin. When the slave or submissive accepts the collar of a Dominant One, there is a strong bond and mutual commitment and the Dominant or Master takes on an awesome responsibility; especially in the case of a slave. The bondage is primarily mental and emotional and in some ways spiritual; the kinky sex, BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and other taboo activities are just physical manifestations of what is deep within the heart, mind and soul. ///
The issue regarding the relationship between a Dominant and his submissive or Master and slave often comes up in discussion or in people?s profile narrative or journal writings; and sometimes during written communications on adult BDSM web-sites or via personal e-mail. Just For The Record --- Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. Do not get me wrong, it is possible to find a true Dominant Master who also would make a wonderful husband or boyfriend, BUT ? usually it is unlikely. It is also possible for a submissive woman or female slave to fall in love with their Dominant or Master and visa versa. The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don?t go looking for ?Mr. Right? ala ?vanilla? world. ///
First --- I must state that each D/s relationship or M/s relationship is unique to the individuals involved. Second --- I must emphasize that the Dominant One and the submissive one (this includes slave) must negotiate the terms and conditions of their specific relationship up front before they ever have any real intimate or physical interaction. Third --- It is critical that the Dominant One and submissive one must fully and honestly discuss and resolve the issue of expectations, ?soft? limitations and ?hard limits.? Then the submissive must understand that the relationship is not ?vanilla? and as such, it is not a politically correct, socially approved and traditional relationship of equality between the two partners. The Dominant One must acknowledge that he knows and understands his great responsibilities and must commit to live up to the awesome burden of ownership. Remember --- When two mature, mentally competent and intelligent adults (18 and over) establish some form of a BDSM relationship, which meets both of their individual cravings, needs and desires, then it is really no one else?s business. As long as there is nothing illegal taking place and the health, safety and general wellbeing of the community and society at large is not threatened or endangered. Just because persons on the outside may consider a particularly extreme, sadistic, dehumanizing and hard-core Master & slave (or Dominant & submissive) relationship outrageous, disgusting and insanity personified, does not make the relationship wrong for the two consenting adults involved. YES! There are really Daddy Dominants who are not pedophiles, but seek babygirls or submissive daughters who need and crave a Daddy! ~~ smile ~~ ///
Please remember that all slaves by definition are a submissive one, BUT, not all submissive ones are slaves. There are also different types and levels of non-slave submissive ones. People often get confused and use the terms ?submissive? and ?slave? interchangeably. There are many similarities at times, because there are about nine different levels or types of submission. Some submissive ones can be very extreme and welcome all types of hard-core activity and surrender damn near all of their control and authority to their chosen Dominant One; these submissive ones may at some point cross over into enslavement. ///
If a woman is my submissive, then even when she is hundreds or thousands of miles away, she is following my written rules and guidance and she is in constant communication and keeping me informed and seeking my counsel. I give her the ?tools? and guidelines to assist her manage her every day life in a successful and productive manner. It is not incompatible for a submissive woman to be a strong successful and highly paid professional or executive in the ?vanilla? world and yet submissive and enslaved full time in her private life by her Dominant Master. A submissive woman may be a political activist and community organizer and still be in submission and subjugation to her Dominant One or Master. A submissive woman may be an entrepreneur or business owner, while submitting and serving. It is not incompatible for her to remain separated from her Master for long periods in order to care for family members or loved ones or attend personal business. Bondage and subjugation do not mean locked away in a basement forever. The bondage is mainly mental and emotional. It is based on strict discipline & strong control, and faith, confidence and trust in each other. It is something felt deep within your soul. The relationship does require stimulation, support and encouragement and there does need to be some form of regular intimate bonding. ///?
That continues to be this Sir?s opinion!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
1:09 PM (Pacific)
Frauds, Fakes & Flakes
Well ? I return from a lovely Caribbean island vacation in Jamaica, and last weekend when I accessed CollarMe.com, I am suddenly confronted with numerous new profiles of attractive sexy young ?switch? women (ages 21 to 24), who live all around the country, BUT they suddenly decided to join CollarMe.com at the same time and post essentially the same profile statement, using the exact same color coordination and very similar wording. ///
I tried to ignore this most interesting and intriguing phenomena, during the past three days, but, today, I saw a parade of more new profiles of attractive sexy young ?switch? women (ages 21 to 24), who live all around the country, BUT ? once again, they suddenly decided to join CollarMe.com at the same time, on September 15, 2009, and once again, all posted essentially the same profile statement, using the exact same color coordination and very similar wording. None of them list any BDSM, sexual or ?vanilla? activities that they live for, love, like, are curious about, dislike, hate or that may be a hard limit. In addition, they are searching exactly for the same thing ? verbatim. Everyone of them seek:
Actively Seeking:
Dominant Women
Dominant Men
Submissive Women
Submissive Men
Switch Women
Switch Men
Dom/Domme Couples
Male-Dom Couples
Roommates
Joining a Poly Household
Now, I may not be the brightest bulb in the pack, but simple commonsense and rudimentary use of the ability to analyze and deduce and come to a rational and logical conclusion, leads any reasonably thoughtful person to belief that something strange is amiss. Hhhmmmmm ? Do not believe me, check out the six profiles listed below.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
NUFF SAID
Mr.B in San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
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backwards48
Female Switch, 21, Utah (446 mi)
Hola,
I have just recently moved to this area and am new to this scene. I'm 21/bi-sexual/Switch, (but top leaning).
I'm not on here that much, so it'd probably be easier if you msg me at "collarmenot@live.com" on msn messenger..
Very Important: Please do not be rude or aggressive or try to "top" me if you IM me. That's the quickest way to get blocked
thanks
scenester99
Female Switch, 24, Arizona (446 mi)
hi,
I have just recently moved to this area and am new to the scene. I'm 24/bisexual/Switch, (but bottom leaning).
I'm not on here that much, so it'd probably be easier if you hit me up at "fungirl18s@hotmail.com" on msn.
Note Please do not be rude or aggressive or try to "top" me if you IM me. That's the quickest way to get blocked
Ciao
throwabeat66
Female Switch, 24, Tennessee (255 mi)
hi,
I have just recently moved to this area and am new to this scene. I'm 24/bi-sexual/switch, (but top leaning).
I'm not on here that much, so it'd probably be easier if you msg me at "collarmenot@hotmail.com" on msn messenger..
Note Please do not be rude or aggressive or try to "top" me if you IM me. That's the quickest way to get blocked
cya
munchesgrl19
Female Switch, 21, Wisconsin
howdy,
I have just recently moved to this area and am new to the scene. I'm 21/bi-sexual/Switch, (but top leaning).
I'm not on here that much, so it'd probably be easier if you hit me up at "fungirl18s@hotmail.com" on msn messenger..
Note Please don't be rude or aggressive or try to "top" me if you IM me. That's the quickest way to get blocked
Ciao
sentientlove63
Female Switch, 24, Florida
Hello,
I have just recently moved to this area and am new to this scene. I'm 24/Bi-sexual/Switch, (but bottom leaning).
I'm not on here that much, so it'd probably be easier if you message me at "collarmenot@live.com" on msn messenger..
NOTA BENE: Please don't be rude or aggressive or try to "top" me if you IM me. It'll get you blocked quickly.
cya
bowbandita05
Female Switch, 22, Iowa (255 mi)
Hello,
I have just recently moved to this area and am new to this scene. I'm 22/bi/Switch, (but top leaning).
I'm not on here that much, so it'd probably be easier if you hit me up at "collarmenot@live.com" on msn...
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: Please do not be rude or aggressive or try to "top" me if you IM me. You'll be blocked immediately.
thanks
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
1:03 PM (Pacific Daylight Time)
To Whom It May Concern & other interested persons:
Later this evening, today, September 2, I leave for an all-inclusive "adults only" resort in Negril, Jamaica and I do not return until late September 11. I shall celebrate my birthday on September 9, 2009 (which is 09/09/09) in Jamaica. Hey ... 09/09/09 ... we shall never see that date again! Got to celebrate and do it up right in the Caribbean island. Although I shall be mostly off-line and incommunicado, please feel free to write or leave responses to any message I sent to you.
Enjoy yourself and stay safe out there!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
September 1, 2009
9:36 AM (Pacific)
Laugh of The day
Below is the laugh for the day. Are we supposed to feel sympathy for some moronic juvenile who blew $3 million she won in the British lottery, including spending at least $400,000 on cocaine? That is a rhetorical question ? do not answer. She was quoted, as saying to the Mail: "Until you win such a large amount of money at such a young age, you don't realize the pressures that come with it." Ha ha ha ha ? $400,000 on cocaine ? $730,000 on designer clothes, partying and having her breasts augmented ? damn, lots of pressure. She is a pathetic waste of homo-sapian protoplasm, and does not have my sympathy; I do not suffer fools lightly. I do believe that the British lottery system is partially to blame, underage juveniles should not be allowed to play the lottery, and if they do, their winnings should be managed, controlled and superised until they are 18. However, I suspect, that even if she was 21 at the time of her winning, she is such an unintelligent ignoramus, that she would still have blown it. Guess the boyfriend is long gone, after the money disappeared. Btw ? she is the mother of two young children; that is truly scary!
They walk amongst us, they win lotteries, they breed and reproduce and even vote! They have babies ? oh my goodness ? and they vote.
(Aug. 31) - A young woman who won over $3 million in the lottery when she was just 16 says she blew it all on wild shopping sprees, breast implants and cocaine.
Rogers, from Cumbria in northwest England, was a shop assistant when she hit the jackpot in 2003. Now 22 and the mother of two young children, she says she has about $32,000 left.
"I honestly wish I'd never won the lottery money -- and knowing what I know now I should have just given it all back to them,? she told in an interview published in Sunday's News of the World.
Rogers said she spent the money on homes for herself, her parents and her grandmother. She bought expensive cars and gifts and lent money to relatives. She spent more than $730,000 on designer clothes, partying and having her breasts augmented, according to the Daily Mail.
And she estimates she spent $400,000 on cocaine -- most of which went to a boyfriend.
"I was spending a fortune on cocaine, a nasty evil drug which tears your life apart," she told News of the World. "I might as well have thrown it down the toilet."
Rogers said she was far too immature to have been entrusted with a fortune.
"I was just too young to cope with suddenly having that amount in the bank when I'd come from nothing," she told News of the World.
"In the past six years I've sunk into a black hole -- a black hole that at one point I thought I could never crawl out of." She said she became so depressed that she attempted suicide three times.
Rogers now lives with her mother and said she has taken three cleaning jobs to make ends meet.
"Until you win such a large amount of money at such a young age, you don't realize the pressures that come with it," she told the Mail.
"Winning the lottery has ruined my life. I wish I had never won."
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2009-08-31 17:03:37
August 26, 2009
6:20 PM (Pacific DST)
News Bulletin
Senator Ted Kennedy, the senior senator from Massachusetts, died late at night on Tuesday, August 25, 2009; he was 77 years old, at the time of his death.
The "Lion of the Senate" is gone.
Does anyone know the significance of this? Does anybody care? ... damn!!!
Mr.B
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
July 23, 2009
9:55 AM (Pacific)
News Report Summary:
NATICK, Mass. (July 23) -- A white police sergeant who arrested renowned black scholar Henry Louis Gates Jr. at his home says he followed procedure and is disappointed President Barack Obama said officers acted "stupidly," despite acknowledging he didn't know all the facts. Gates has demanded an apology from Sgt. James Crowley, who had responded to the home near Harvard University last week to investigate a report of a burglary and demanded the scholar show him identification. Police say Gates at first refused and then accused the officer of racism.
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YES! I am a black African American male and I am over the age of 50. YES! I have had close relatives who were police officers, one of whom was killed in the line of duty, before he turned 30. YES! I and other close friends and associates, who were African American men, have been subjected to police racial profiling.
However, I have an inside view of police officer and deputy sheriff trainings and internal affairs investigations, because I have been an EEO and Human Resources professional or manager assigned to work with city police departments and county Sheriff departments in three different states, and I was the manager responsible for threat management and violence prevention for a major public transportation authority with over 10,000 employees and an armed security staff with ?police? powers.
We do not live in a dictatorial police state folk; in a situation like this and others, all citizens or legal residents have the right to demand the name and badge number of a police officer or deputy Sheriff who is confronting them, and the officer or deputy MUST comply.
Regarding the situation in question, once the police knew that there was no burglary and that Mr. Gates was in his own home and committing no crime, the officer in charge had the duty to encourage calm and defuse the situation, apologize for any inconvenience, explain to the concerned neighbor that all was well, and leave peacefully without arresting anyone. The officer in charge (Sgt. James Crowley) should have provided his name and badge number as requested.
~~~ Remember, the legitimate ?objective? criticism and scrutiny of the police and their conduct does not make one unpatriotic or anti-police ~~~
Mr.B in CaliforniaUSA
P/S Of course, the police officers acted ?stupidly,? and if anyone wishes to know my rationale for such a conclusion, feel free to inquire.
July 22, 2009
12:29 PM (Pacific)
It is time to discuss beauty again and to remind these so called submissive women and female slaves what beauty really is all about in the BDSM realm. Remember three things: 1) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; 2) Beauty is as beauty does; and 3) Beauty is ?relative? within the BDSM realm. I wrote about this in my journal entry on May 31, 2008; it is time to bring it up front and update it and hope people pay attention. Please read below.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
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Saturday, May 31, 2008
10:24 PM (Pacific)
What is 'Beauty' ... Every Dominant prefers a slave or submissive that he considers beautiful, sexy and physically attractive BUT remember three things:
1) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder --- Each Dominant has his own concept of what he may consider beautiful, sexy and attractive ? therefore, just because in the ?vanilla? world men are begging for the pleasure of your company and putting you on a pedestal and throwing money, jewelry and material things at you to win your attention and affection ? that does not mean that all Dominant men find you attractive ? I do not give a damn about you being a "pretty girl." Btw ? word of advise for the southern California girls; not all Dominants find super skinny anorexic looking Barbie doll types with the platinum blonde hair and narrow ?boyish? looking hips, flat butts and too thin weak wobbly-looking legs, and overly big fake breast implants and plastic ?Hollywood? personalities to be 'attractive.' As my daddy used to say, only a dog wants a bone and he will bury it; give a man some meat!
Btw ? hairy does not mean unclean! Many men find a hirsute woman who is au natural with lots of pubic hair (even thick & ?bushy?) to be very ?womanly?, erotically sexy and normal. Being clean means being fully acquainted with hot water, soap and shampoo and the shower or bathtub on a regular basis; it also means taking good care of one?s teeth and practicing good oral hygiene and visiting the dentist twice annually; and being clean also means knowing how to properly cleanse one?s body (inside and out) to avoid obnoxiously pungent ?fowl? body odors. It may, on occasion, mean douches and enemas. It does not mean splashing cheap ?loud? smelling perfume on an unwashed body.
2) Beauty is as beauty does --- Attractive physical attributes such as a beautiful face and a sexy physique are great, BUT once you are found to be dishonest, untruthful and not trustworthy and especially if you are discovered to be one of many fake wannabes or manipulating criminal scammers trying to unethically and unlawfully separate a man from his cash ? your beauty turns to dog feces and your desirability value is equivalent to that of last week?s newspaper used to scoop up the previously mentioned dog sh*t!
3) Beauty is relative in the BDSM realm --- When a genuine Dominant or Master seeks a submissive or slave ? YES!! It is nice to find a real ?hottie? ? however, if the beautiful woman is neither submissive nor slave and not even a ?switch? then you cannot meet his needs and cravings! This is not some sort of ?vanilla? dating service like: adultfriendfinder.com. In the long term, it is your character, demeanor, attitude, behavior, maturity, self-discipline, honesty and natural submissiveness and compliant subservience that matters most ? and not your beauty. It is your honest deep-seated desire to surrender your control and submit before and accept the authority, discipline and training of a serious Dominant that matters most. If your new found Master is an extreme hard-core sadist then your ability, capacity and willingness to be subjected to hard-core forceful sexual penetration and to accept severe & painful sadistic torture, extreme humiliations and strict discipline and harsh punishments that makes you desirable. ///
Remember that each and every Dominant has different tastes and unique cravings and a so called ?sexy beauty? may be shocked to discover that not everyone is desperate for her attention especially if she has few other non-physical characteristics, talents, qualities and attributes that make her attractive.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
The 8th Of July?
What is so different about the 8th of July this year?
At five minutes and six seconds after 4:oo AM, today, on the 8th of July, the time, date and year was exactly 04:05:0607/08/09.
Hmmm ? very interesting, but I was born on September 9 ? this year that shall be 09/09/09 and imagine at precisely nine minutes and nine seconds after nine in the morning on September 9, 2009, it shall be 09:09:09 09/09/09 ? very interesting, I hope I remember to check my watch, because I shall be at an all inclusive (Adults only) tropical resort in Jamaica ? you know, I usually do not wear a watch floating in the pool near the swim up bar sipping a Cuba Libre! Peace & Love Mon!! Mr.B
P/SThe Cuba libre is a mixed alcoholic drink that contains rum, lime juice, with slices, and a little bit of Coca Cola. I shall be enjoying real Jamaican over-proof white rum ? a man?s drink!
TMZ: Michael Jackson Dead at 50
June 25, 2009
http://www.tmz.com/2009/06/25/michael-jackson-dies-death-dead-cardiac-arrest/ href="http://www.tmz.com/2009/06/25/michael-jackson-dies-death-dead-cardiac-arrest/" target=_blank>TMZ is reporting that Michael Jackson, the ?King of Pop,? has died at age 50. According to the site, the pop legend suffered a cardiac arrest this afternoon and medics were unable to revive him. A source says Jackson was dead when paramedics arrived.
Michael Jackson was one of the greatest and most successful musical entertainers of the 20th Century. Many people, especially those under the age of 30, have little knowledge of his great genius and the wonderful gift he shared with the world. I hated to see him degenerate into the sad figure that he became in the last ten to 12 years of his life, but that does not take away his contributions to music, theatre, entertainment and the music video industry. He has already been missed. NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
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PopEater reports ---
June 25, 2009
Farrah Fawcett, the actress who shot to worldwide fame thanks to her role in 'Charlie's Angels' and other Hollywood ventures along the way, has passed away after a long battle with cancer. She was 62 years old.
It was only two weeks ago that I watched her very sensitive and touching story regarding her struggle to survive cancer and find treatments in Germany and the United States that would help her beat the cancer beast! But, she died today.
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Monday, June 15, 2009
4:59 PM (Pacific)
Los Angeles Lakers, are the 2009 NBA Champions; all must now agree that after they beat down the poor ill prepared magic from Orlando Florida, that the Lakers led by Kobe Bryant (best all around player in the league), are indeed the best team in the NBA. As I expected, Kobe won the most valuable player (MVP) award for the NBA Championship Finals ? that is as it should be. Next year, unless there are serious injuries to key players, most likely the LA Lakers will be successfully defending their championship. All ?haters? stop the hating!!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
P/S No personal checks, only cash, money orders or cashiers checks please.
Friday, June 12, 2009
12:21 PM (Pacific)
YES!! The LA Lakers kicked some ass last Thursday evening. They may have stomped with little magic is left in the defeated & weary team from Orlando. Come the summer, ?superman? may be sticking to his Clark Kent role and not trying to project himself as the man of steel who can fly faster than a speeding bullet and leap tall buildings with a single bound. Did anyone else notice Kobe guarding and manhandling ?superman? in the paint during the fourth quarter ? he even physically outwrestled a ball from the caped one ? well when our center and forwards failed, Kobe had to take care of business.
I kept saying we can beat them in overtime, if we can stop them and score three points. When Fraser hit that 3 point shot with 4 seconds left ? it was like Christmas and the Fourth of July all rolled into one at my house ? men in the neighborhood began letting the anxious & frightened women and children back out of hiding as the loud angry profanity and threats of violence ended and was replaced with cheers, laughter and celebration eruptions.
The LA Lakers are now up 3-1 with three games left and two of those games in Los Angeles, California. Baring an untimely death, does anyone doubt that Kobe & the Lakers shall rock the house and claim the golden NBA Championship Trophy and return it to Los Angeles, where it belongs. Anyone think other wise ? put your money where your mouth is ? it is put up or shut up time ? Btw ? except for his puppet, I have not seen queen james any where lately ? looks like he could not even afford a scalped ticket to the NBA championship finals games ? hhhmmmmm ? too bad, he could learn something.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
Thursday, June 11, 2009
6:30 PM (Pacific)
Tonight?s NBA championship game between the LA Lakers and the Orlando Magic is critical for both teams ? this is a very decisive game for both teams ? Orlando wins, they will be totally fired up and motivated to win again on their home court come Sunday, then the Lakers are in a sudden death situation!! If the LA Lakers win inn Orlando tonight ? they go up 3 -1 and it is lights out for the Magic, because they would have to beat LA three times straight, including two games in Los Angeles ? will not happen!
Let us hope the Lakers stop the foolishness of last Tuesday night and whip some Magic ass like they are supposed to and bring the golden trophy back to LA where it belongs.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, June 05, 2009
11:03 AM
Kobe(aka the ?Kryptonite Kid?) and his merry band of talented LA Lakers, destroyed the not so ?super? Superman and the Orlando Magic last night ? damn! Kobe dropped 40 points on them, it was never close! It was tacos for the fans last night ... yeah!!! Guess the magic and super powers got lost with some luggage on the cross country flight from Florida to southern California. Trust me on this, if the Lakers win again on Sunday, it will all be over in five (and no more than six) games, with the golden NBA Championship Trophy back in Los Angeles, California, where it belongs. I think, that the Magic will win at least once on their home court.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B
Friday, June 5, 2009
10:53 AM (Pacific)
The Master & Slave and Dominant & submissive relationship
Once again, it is time to move a couple of old journal entries to the top to clarify and outline my thoughts about these BDSM relationships. As per usual, I remain open to comments and questions. I know the average CollarMe.com member will not invest the time, energy and mental resources to thoughtfully read all or at least scan these writings, because they are long ? lots of ?gray? matter sometimes requires the use of much ?grey? matter. NUFF SAID!
Recently, I engaged in another one of these hot topic discussions regarding the nature of the relationship between the Dominant & submissive and/or the Owner/Master & slave. The issue was mainly can the relationship be one of equality and with each having 50% authority. As I began to write my thoughts, I remembered that I wrote in my journal about this many months ago. I searched my journal and found the thesis below regarding this issue of whether or not the BDSM relationships between a Dominant One and a submissive one (this includes slave) are based on equality and if they can be considered 50/50. The writing below was prepared and posted in my journal on 4/11/2006 at 10:20:44 AM. I did take the liberty of doing a few minor edits, correcting a couple of mistakes and making a few changes.
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4/11/2006 10:20:44 AM
IS THE DOMINANT & SUBMISSIVE RELATIONSHIP ONE OF 50/50 EQUALITY?
The debate continues to rage as to whether or not the D/s lifestyle, especially the relationship between an Owner/Master and His slave property can be considered an equal one. There are those that say that it oftentimes is a 50/50 relationship in which both are having their needs met equally and others say not so, because there can be no equality when One, the Dominant or Owner/Master is not only the One with full authority, but exercises complete control and also makes the rules. In addition, the Dominant or Owner/Master has the power of passing judgment and subjecting the submissive or slave to punitive & corrective actions including domestic corporal punishment. ///
First and foremost, each D/s or M/s relationship must be completely negotiated and agreed to in advance and then all persons involved (Dominant One and submissive one) must assume the burden, responsibilities and pleasures & benefits of His or her previously agreed upon role. Of course, it is understood that every single thing will not be considered and discussed in advance; it is also understood that the relationship shall be ever changing and each shall grow and develop within the boundaries of the relationship. ///
THESE RELATIONSHIPS ONLY WORK WHEN THERE IS GENUINE & HONEST UP-FRONT COMMUNICATION AND MUTUAL TRUST AND TOTAL CONFIDENCE IN EACH OTHER. SINCERE FRIENDSHIP & ADMIRATION ARE REQUIRED ELEMENTS FOR SUCCESS ALSO ? and even then there are no guarantees, because we are all fallible humans; sometimes our individual weaknesses and frailties catch up with us and the burden of the imperfections are too great for a particular relationship; at other times, ?sh*t happens? and LIFE gets in the way of a beautiful relationship.
It works best when both (Dominant One & submissive one) are equally yoked, because this promotes compatibility. However, often we are on our own predestined path and sometimes the harmony just cannot be established and maintained, especially when the value systems and/or religious or spiritual beliefs clash. Always remember, that even in the vanilla world, no relationship is totally equal and exactly 50/50 sharing. People may not admit it, but even "vanilla" relationships are usually about 60-40. ///
As such, build the relationship on a strong and sturdy foundation of full and open candid communication (does not mean there cannot be speech restrictions), negotiated preliminary agreements or written contracts (regarding roles, expectations, limits and boundaries), honesty, discipline, trust and mutual confidence in each other and a strong commitment to the agreed upon responsibilities. ///
One could say that if both parties get what they need and desire, it is a relationship of equality in which both must give and receive 50/50 and if having that type understanding makes it more palatable and comfortable for one or both persons involved, that is fine. However, The Dominant One, especially in a true Owner/Master & slave relationship, possesses full authority and exercises total control, and as such, is in the power position of making decisions, establishing rules, issuing edicts, passing judgments and meting out punishments. The true Dominant One or Master must also be the Teacher and Leader and carries the heavy burden of educating, training, molding, teaching, and guiding His submissive one or slave and He must also provide protection and provide for the general welfare, health and safety of His submissive one or slave. With power & authority come responsibility and the burden of leadership, which many so called ?Doms? fail to acknowledge and exercise. ///
When the submissive one or slave surrenders her authority and relinquishes her control and willingly, humbly and dutifully delivers her power to her Dominant or Master, such a transfer is an awesome and most generous offering (especially in the modern North American culture). It is expected that she be obedient, compliant, subservient, submissive, disciplined and subjugated under her Dominant or Master; she trusts and has faith that He will have the wisdom, knowledge and understanding to accept the transfer of power and fully understand the burdens, challenges, responsibilities and risks that such a commitment brings. Shall He become a totally insensitive brute, will His decisions be inadequate and unrealistic, will He squander His new powers on self-serving over-indulgence that fails to nourish and develop the relationship and will He become drunk with the intoxicating aura of authority and power and become a failure. Will he be thoughtful, judicious, careful and responsible in all he does or will he throw all caution and reason to the wind and indulge his lusts and vices without regard to the potentially adverse consequences. ///
The Dominant must never forget that His submissive or slave is His most valuable & prized possession and she must be treasured, carefully possessed, loved and shown much affection and due consideration and respect. Even when He must subject her to painful sadistic BDSM tortures, forceful sexual penetrations and uncomfortable bondage and demeaning humiliations; there must be affectionate, nourishing and reassuring ?after-care? and tender compliments, when she deserves such. One thing is for sure, if He does not meet His obligations and provide her the ?50%? that she expects and if she begins to see His weaknesses, inabilities and incompetence, she shall lose respect for Him and begin to question His knowledge and capabilities and challenge His authority. The submissive or slave may eventually demand to be released and seek her freedom from Him or she will be easy prey for another Dominant One who sees her plight or she will flee and escape of her own accord. ///
Does this Sir consider the D/s lifestyle and a Dominant/Master & submissive/slave relationship one of total equality? The answer is a qualified NO ? in many ways it is and they both may be getting their 50% but the One with the authority, control and power, may have a more superior position (even if He does not behave in an overly egotistical superior manner), and in addition, the Dominant One or Owner/Master takes on many responsibilities and burdens that are not equally shared with His submissive or slave. Even though this may not be a relationship based on equality, it still requires mutual respect, mutual trust and mutual confidence and faith in each other. When the trust, faith, confidence and respect dies, so does the relationship. ///
The submissive one or slave may be expected to submit and serve Him and satisfy His sadistic, kinky and sexual cravings and please Him as per His desires and anticipate His needs and expectations and to humbly and obediently accept His subjugation of her. The submissive one or slave should gladly be humble, compliant, accommodating and long-suffering and her burden and responsibility is to submit and serve without complaint within her capacity and previously agreed upon limitations. ///
However, being a submissive or slave does not mean that the surrender of her control and authority to her chosen Dominant One or Owner/Master means that she must relinquish all her personal self-esteem, self-respect and self-preservation. Even when she is willingly being subjected to BDSM torture, hard-core use, objectification, corporal punishment, embarrassing humiliation and forceful sexual penetrations; her Dominant One or Owner/Master must continue to see her as a real person and a human being with needs and rights, AND he must never forget that she is a prized possession who is worthy of being protected, cherished, respected, loved and appreciated. People love their non-human pets and inanimate possessions such as a new car or a rifle or comfortable Lazy-Boy chair ? why is it unseemly for a Master to love his slave? It may not be a romantic ?eros? type love, but there should be some passion, compassion and feelings of affection for the submissive or slave. ///
The Dominant One or Owner/Master must also know and understand His submissive one or slave; He must fully understand her unique mental, emotional, spiritual and physical nature and physical capacity. He must know about her ailments, medical conditions, health problems, disabilities, anxieties, fears and any phobia she may have. Without such information and understanding, it is difficult to comprehend how to thoughtfully and carefully achieve His desires and satisfy His needs without permanently harming her, breaking her vital spirit or extinguishing her flame of passion for Him, the lifestyle and/or her submission or slavery. He may need to break her down, bend her to His will and rid her of bad habits; but He also is responsible to build her anew and mold and develop her. He wants to keep the twinkle in her eye, the smile upon her lips and the passionate fire of desire in her heart, mind and soul. ///
Regarding sexuality, sexual orientation and sensuality & eroticism, it is absolutely critical that the Dominant One fully appreciate and understand the total sexual nature and base carnal cravings of His submissive or slave. The Dominant One must, at a minimum, know her true sexual orientation, and if she is a straight heterosexual, whether she is bi-sexual curious or sees it as her duty and obligation to provide sexual services in whatever manner or with whomever her Dominant One dictates, regardless of gender. By definition and description, the submissive women retains more personal authority, control and decision making power than the slave; many submissive women need to have certain base elements of their sexuality and sexual nature appreciated, respected and nurtured. Often a bi-sexual submissive or slave needs a sister-slave or other female submissive companions or lifestyle female ?friends? with whom they can interact affectionately and also share the deep seated cravings they may have for sexual, erotic and intimate interaction with another female whom they admire, trust and find attractive. The female slave understands that she has no choice regarding her sexual partners or their genders; these decisions are not hers to make ? BUT ? her Master, must either figure out how to completely smother and ?kill? her basic sexual orientation and sexual nature or He must find a suitable outlet to allow this to be expressed and released periodically. ///
Some women need multiple partners (male & female) and a promiscuous BDSM lifestyle with plenty of sharing, swapping and swinging. Others need a more sedate and chaise sexual experience in which their sexual services involve only their Master or a specially selected and screened female companion (submissive or slave) or Domme. If the Dominant One wants a monogamous one-on-one sexual relationship with his slave or submissive, in which she embraces chastity and periodic abstinence as a way of life, then he must not accept a sex-slut who hungers for gang-bangs, group rape scenes, hard-core multiple use on a routine basis or being on the giving end of ?glory holes? for anonymous strangers. When a Dominant One has a submissive or slave under consideration, these details must be discussed, explored and discovered in order that the relationship be a good fit and both are comfortable with the chemistry and compatibility. ///
The Dominant One or Owner/Master must also is obligated to fully educate and train His submissive or slave and ensure that she is totally knowledgeable regarding His rules, protocols, expectations and standards of conduct, dress, grooming and personal hygiene. He must communicate to His submissive one or slave what gives Him pleasure and ensure she is well aware of what types of misconduct, negligence or mistakes will incur His wrath and displeasure. If He is incompetent and negligent in His communications, trainings and discipline and then in an unexpected furious rage subjects her to harsh punishments, retributions and denial of treats or banishment for a matter of which she was unaware of the consequences; such conduct on His part is neither judicious nor responsible and it is disrespectful and unfair to His submissive or slave and may have a lasting demoralizing effect on her. Such actions quickly lead to the destruction of the relationship. ///
Finally the Dominant One or Owner/Master is responsible to exercise due care and diligence and ensure that the health, well-being, general welfare, safety, and security of His submissive one or slave is at all times fore most in His mind and protected. He may hurt her and cause her physical pain & discomfort, mental anguish & emotional stress and humiliating embarrassment & humbling debasement BUT ? he must not seriously harm her or injure her or threaten her life or sanity. Often times the submissive one requires confidentiality, privacy and discretion due to a myriad of reasons; the Dominant or Master must also respect and protect such. The life, sanity, health and protection of the submissive or slave is often in His hands. His uncontrolled addiction to drugs and alcohol and His irresponsible intoxication to carnal pleasures, extreme egotism, foolish arrogance and juvenile immaturity must never cloud His good judgment or cause Him to neglect His responsibilities. ///
Of course, here is the disclaimer: Some submissive ones, especially those with genuine ?slave? tendencies, desire to turn over full authority and have no say so in their life, they insist on making no decisions, and they provide no-limits service regardless of the pain, discomfort, humiliation, degradation or hard use. These submissive ones or slaves do not desire any equality and see such as a sign of weakness on the part of the Dominant One or Master, if He offers them any freedom of speech, rights and decision making. There are those submissive/slaves who desire to withdraw from the realities of the ?vanilla? world and immerse deeply and completely into their servitude, subjugation and slavery without rights, without love & affection, without voice and without any freedom! They are few and they are rare, but they exist. In my lifetime, I have met three and known one very well. But ? that is another discussion. ///
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The Relationship Between Master & Slave or Dominant & Submissive
A true naturally submissive one without a good Dominant Master is like a small boat casting about in the rough seas rudderless and without a skilled and knowledgeable Captain to guide her safely through the storm into calm waters and a safe port. Neither the Dominant nor the submissive is complete and satisfied without their complementary BDSM partner.
Before I begin my dissertation, there are some myths that should be debunked immediately. Just because someone likes forceful rough kinky sex or swinging or swapping or group sex or being gang banged by a bunch of horny guys, does not make her a true submissive or a slave. Promiscuous women who enjoy one-night stands and routinely engage in irresponsible and unsafe sex do not automatically qualify as a submissive or slave. Another fact is that women who unwillingly allow their mates to domestically abuse them, beat them up and terrorize them on a regular basis in violation of laws are not necessarily a true submissive or a slave. Women who are very passive, naturally shy and somewhat naïve are not necessarily submissive. Just because a woman has a high pain tolerance and tends to enjoy pain and discomfort, does not make her a real submissive or true slave. ///
Role playing and going to BDSM social scenes where people ?act out? or engage in sadomasochistic activities or sexual acts publicly does not mean the recipient is a true submissive or a slave! Many ?vanilla? women are promiscuous sluts or enjoy exhibitionism or like a little extra kinkiness in their life and so they go enjoy ?play time? occasionally. They play and ?dabble? in BDSM, but do not live the lifestyle and most likely lack the natural submissive nature. Submission is about hungering to give up control and to offer one?s personal authority to another person, who is Dominant, and accepting that dominant person?s control, discipline and dominance. Submission is about craving to find pleasure by giving another pleasure, and being willing to suffer and sacrifice in order to make another happy, contented, satisfied, pleased and amused. Submission is about finding the One whom you adore, respect, trust, admire and find worthy and then living your life in accordance with his demands, needs, rules and governance and doing all within your power to make him happy, fulfilled and satisfied. ///
Ultimately, it is always the submissive or slave?s choice about whether or not she enters into a relationship with a Dominant One. In all candor, the slaves or submissive ones have the ultimate control to surrender, submit and serve or to resist and run! The submissive or slave is the one surrendering control and authority and leaving herself vulnerable to abuse and misuse. The submissive woman must be in a position to make her decisions regarding with whom she associates or to whom she submits and serves without threats, coercion or unfair severe manipulation. Only mature, thoughtful, careful and mentally competent adult women (18 and over) with at least average intelligence and good common sense should be making these decisions and they should not be forced by destitution or desperate economic or living circumstances to rush, without thinking, into the clutches of every so called ?Dom? or ?Domme? out there. ///
Btw ??mature? does not mean ?old.? Many women between the ages of 18 and 24 can be very mature, astute and intelligent and have good common sense. Although I prefer my submissive or slave to be at least 21, because it means that we have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything and not have issues of ?underage? or jail-bait? become an issue, I am open-minded and have considered those between 18 and 20 who seem particularly mature, intelligent, articulate and self-assured about who and what they are and what they need. ///
The Dominant must convince the mind, romance the heartand calm the spirit of the submissive one or slave so that she is neither anxious nor fearful. The submissive or slave should be wooed, enticed and stimulated mentally, emotionally & physically. The Dominant must try to cultivate mutual trust & confidence between them. The Dominant must earn her respect and admiration. Then the body of the submissive one or slave does what her mind & heart dictate and she can easily relax and be obedient, compliant & faithful and submit & serve and be subjugated. It is only then that the mind & heart of the submissive one or slave open fully to be taught, disciplined and controlled. Once this is established and there is mutual respect and trust in each other and each finds the other trust worthy and a potential match, then a true relationship can begin. When the slave or submissive accepts the collar of a Dominant One, there is a strong bond and mutual commitment and the Dominant or Master takes on an awesome responsibility; especially in the case of a slave. The bondage is primarily mental and emotional and in some ways spiritual; the kinky sex, BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and other taboo activities are just physical manifestations of what is deep within the heart, mind and soul. ///
The issue regarding the relationship between a Dominant and his submissive or Master and slave often comes up in discussion or in people?s profile narrative or journal writings; and sometimes during written communications on adult BDSM web-sites or via personal e-mail. Just For The Record --- Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. Do not get me wrong, it is possible to find a true Dominant Master who also would make a wonderful husband or boyfriend, BUT ? usually it is unlikely. It is also possible for a submissive woman or female slave to fall in love with their Dominant or Master and visa versa. The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don?t go looking for ?Mr. Right? ala ?vanilla? world. ///
First --- I must state that each D/s relationship or M/s relationship is unique to the individuals involved. Second --- I must emphasize that the Dominant One and the submissive one (this includes slave) must negotiate the terms and conditions of their specific relationship up front before they ever have any real intimate or physical interaction. Third --- It is critical that the Dominant One and submissive one must fully and honestly discuss and resolve the issue of expectations, ?soft? limitations and ?hard limits.? Then the submissive must understand that the relationship is not ?vanilla? and as such, it is not a politically correct, socially approved and traditional relationship of equality between the two partners. The Dominant One must acknowledge that he knows and understands his great responsibilities and must commit to live up to the awesome burden of ownership. Remember --- When two mature, mentally competent and intelligent adults (18 and over) establish some form of a BDSM relationship, which meets both of their individual cravings, needs and desires, then it is really no one else?s business. As long as there is nothing illegal taking place and the health, safety and general wellbeing of the community and society at large is not threatened or endangered. Just because persons on the outside may consider a particularly extreme, sadistic, dehumanizing and hard-core Master & slave (or Dominant & submissive) relationship outrageous, disgusting and insanity personified, does not make the relationship wrong for the two consenting adults involved. YES! There are really Daddy Dominants who are not pedophiles, but seek babygirls or submissive daughters who need and crave a Daddy! ~~ smile ~~ ///
Please remember that all slaves by definition are a submissive one, BUT, not all submissive ones are slaves. There are also different types and levels of non-slave submissive ones. People often get confused and use the terms ?submissive? and ?slave? interchangeably. There are many similarities at times, because there are about nine different levels or types of submission. Some submissive ones can be very extreme and welcome all types of hard-core activity and surrender damn near all of their control and authority to their chosen Dominant One; these submissive ones may at some point cross over into enslavement. ///
Many womenidentify as a ?slave? and do not fully understand what that really means. Often, they confuse a ?slave? with a ?submissive? and then they do not understand that the commitment for the slave is deeper, stronger, greater, more permanent and a slave usually has few or no limitations. The critical difference is that a slave surrenders her personal authority & decision making power and total control to her Dominant Owner/Master. The slave has neither rights (except safety, sustenance, life & health and respect for valid ?hard limits?) nor self will (except to submit, serve, be used, obey & worship).
All of the slave?s property, material possessions, money and assets of value are given to her Owner/Master to manage and use as he determines best as soon as he takes full time ownership of her as his slave. The slave has her ?vanilla? life dictated and restricted by her Owner/Master. A true slave is powerless and is considered like chattel, just property, and as such, she cannot own property. Any money a slave has, receives or earns through work is immediately confiscated by her Owner/Master and taken from her by her Owner/Master. It is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities; even a slave?s self-gratification (masturbation) is controlled and regulated by her Owner/Master. ///
A slave must know and understand that eventually her limits must be expanded and her threshold for pain, bondage, humiliations, defilement and forceful ?kinky? sexual penetrations shall be challenged and stretched. As a slave, she agrees that almost nothing her Dominant Owner/Master does may be characterized by her and reported to law enforcement as criminal misconduct, physical assault & battery, false imprisonment, illegal detention, domestic abuse, hate crime, sexual assault or rape. DISCLAIMER --- Having said this, please know that I fully believe that the negotiated agreements & understandings and the hard limits must be respected by the Owner/Master and that the slave should not be required to participate in illegal activities. Also, the Owner/Master has an awesome burden and responsibility to protect the life, health, sanity, well-being and general welfare of the slave. ///
All people (Dominant & submissive) have limitations due to their family upbringing, religious or faith beliefs, personal ethics & values, cultural/ethnic or national origin background, health/medical restrictions, physical or mental disabilities, unexplainable phobia or irrational fears, self-esteem issues and/or prior experience with childhood molestation, domestic abuse or being a victim of a violent crime. Some people just cannot get beyond the ?Yuk!? factor. There are those who have very serious and important business or personal or family responsibilities in the ?vanilla? world, which demand their attention. These various issues and situation may prevent an individual from participating in certain kinky, sadomasochistic or sexual activities and may limit their ability to submerge full time into total enslavement and live the life 100% of the time. ///
The Dominant?s or Master?s sadistic side screams out ?she serves with no limits? BUT that is more often than not unrealistic and nonsensical. The Dominant or Master must keep an open-mind and patiently & honestly discuss the submissive or slave?s needs, concerns, anxieties, expectations, fears, phobia and anxieties. He must try to understand her limitations and help her determine whether or not they are ?soft? limits or valid ?hard? limitations. A thoughtful, mature and sane Master determines whether a limit is health related or caused by a disability. However, even with a hard-core pain-loving masochistic sex-slut slave who wants to be dehumanized and objectified and be given no voice or rights, it is unrealistic to believe that she shall live the next seven years of her life in a dark dungeon naked and without any contact with the ?vanilla? world while she is routinely brutalized, tortured, gang raped, ritually whipped into unconsciousness and subjected to other physical and mental mistreatments. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN ? although not impossible. ///
An Owner/Master needs to be very aggressive, forceful, strict, sadistic and domineering when he owns a slave. Nonetheless, the Owner/Master must exercise self-discipline and be intellectual, judicious and thoughtful regarding how he treats, uses and cares for his slave. The Owner/Master must never become so intoxicated with his lust for power, control, dominance and satisfying his sadistic cravings and kinky sexual desires that he neglects the slave?s humanity and legal rights and loses his self-control and neglects his responsibilities to protect his slave and keep her safe from real harm, sickness or death. The health, safety, well being and happiness of the slave should be very important. The slave is valuable property and must be kept sufficiently fit, healthy, sane, happy and functioning at a highly acceptable level and the Owner/Master must never kill her passion to be enslaved and subjugated while she voluntarily submits and serves. Only a damn fool damages and destroys his valuable slave property. ///
Neither a submissive nor a slave should be in terror and freight when she thinks of her Dominant or Master. But ? she should fear disappointing him and she should dread disobeying him or violating his rules. The submissive or slave should fear her Master?s wisdom, knowledge and power; but she should also be comforted by his wisdom, knowledge and power. The same way a child fears her father, BUT is glad he is strong, forceful and knowledgeable, because then he can protect the child, develop the child and provide for the child and keep the child safe. A submissive one?s or a slave?s greatest pain should be when she knowingly displeases, neglects, disappoints, disrespects and/or disobeys a good Owner/Master. ///
If all is as it should be, then the submissive or slave should hold her Dominant or Master in high regard and with great esteem, she should trust his judgment and she should respect and greatly value his word and teachings. The submissive or slave should hunger every day to please, amuse and satisfy her Master and obtain his approval and compliments. The submissive or slave should listen attentively to her Master and study him and learn his habits, needs, cravings and dislikes AND with this knowledge she should anticipate his desires and needs and offer such, before he orders her, in order to see him pleased and impressed. The submissive or slave should get her pleasure by giving her Dominant or Master pleasure. His kind words and smile of satisfaction and look of blissful approval & pleasure should be her primary objective. ///
A Dominant One or Master must be much more than just the man who fucks, tortures, humiliates, restrains and beats a submissive woman or slave. I strongly believe that he must be able, willing and qualified to be a Benefactor,Counselor, Disciplinarian, Teacher, Protector, Lover, Provider and Life?s Guide ? and of course, Tormentor Extraordinaire! When I use terms and words like life?s guide, counselor, teacher, protector, provider and disciplinarian, I mean the Dominant One that you choose as your Master and who has earned your trust and confidence to provide you the counsel, guidance, instruction, structure and support you need in your everyday ?vanilla? life as well as for your development in the BDSM realm. ///
YES!!! I do mean ?protection? because I am of the opinion that there are too many low-esteem half-crazy women-hating misogynistic male brutes out there subjecting vulnerable passive submissive women to criminal assault and battery and unlawful domestic violence and calling it BDSM activities. A decent, intelligent, reasonable and good Dominant Man does not expose his submissive companion or female slave to unnecessary danger or harm, and when she faces danger or harm, he is there to protect her. Domestic discipline and corporal punishment does not mean getting drunk and punching a woman with closed fist or pointing a gun at her or slapping her around and choking her for no reason. Spewing venomously vile & hateful profanity at a woman and routinely calling a woman by demeaning names without valid provocation does not make anyone Dominant and definitely not a Master. Being a Dominant or Master does not equate to mean, dumb & abusive brute! ///
The Dominant Master also protects his submissive or slave from herself. Many submissive women lack any self-control or sense of proportionality and they routinely engage in self-destructive and non-productive behavior and have serious personal problems. They go through life with a woe is me attitude and keep wondering why they are unsuccessful at everything and constantly rejected or disrespected by others and unhappy and dissatisfied with themselves and their life in general. YES!! Life is not fair and horrible things often happen to good & decent people; and it seems that the wicked live long prosperous lives while the good die destitute and young. Sometimes a woman has been dealt a very bad hand in life. Nonetheless, a good Dominant One who honestly cares about his submissive or slave and desires to rehabilitate and improve his submissive one or slave, must help her to escape self-destructiveness that may be contributing to her misfortunes and malaise. ///
I have broken submissive women and female slaves of alcohol & drug addiction, destructive lifestyles, associations with unsavory & unscrupulous characters, unproductive selfish preoccupations and making poor personal and foolish business decisions. I have shown long-term welfare moms how to legitimately and forever escape welfare and become self-sufficient and self-supporting. A Dominant or Master must be a strict disciplinarian and a forceful and robust instructor. He must have a vision about where he needs to take his submissive and what unacceptable and negative attitudes, behaviors and beliefs he must break from her and replace with more acceptable and positive ones. He must visualize what she shall look like after he breaks her down, molds her, disciplines her and rebuilds her. The Dominant or Master must teach her self-control, self-discipline and self-respect and help her understand the importance of rejecting her self-destructiveness. The Master must teach the submissive that she must guard & protect herself as if she is a highly prized and greatly valued sacred Temple; she must understand that until she loves herself, she cannot truly love & serve another ? although the greatest love is suffering and sacrificing oneself for another in order to keep them healthy and safe and make them happy, satisfied and successful. ///
If a woman is my submissive, then even when she is hundreds or thousands of miles away, she is following my written rules and guidance and she is in constant communication and keeping me informed and seeking my counsel. I give her the ?tools? and guidelines to assist her manage her every day life in a successful and productive manner. It is not incompatible for a submissive woman to be a strong successful and highly paid professional or executive in the ?vanilla? world and yet submissive and enslaved full time by her Dominant Master. A submissive woman may be a political activist and community organizer and still be in submission and subjugation to her Dominant One or Master. A submissive woman may be an entrepreneur or business owner, while submitting and serving. It is not incompatible for her to remain separated from her Master for long periods in order to care for family members or loved ones or attend personal business. Bondage and subjugation do not mean locked away in a basement forever. The bondage is mainly mental and emotional. It is based on faith, confidence and trust in each other. It is something felt deep within your soul. The relationship does require stimulation, support and encouragement and there does need to be some form of intimate bonding. ///
When a submissive commits to a BDSM relationship with a Dominant, and after the terms and conditions have been negotiated up front and there is mutual agreement on expectations, limitations, commitments and standards of service, then education, training and discipline sessions begin. Both slave and submissive require obedience training to condition them to learn to obey another adult and to accept a Dominant?s commands and guidelines. It is hard for the average modern day in-control & self-sufficient woman to suddenly surrender her authority to another and give him control over her life. It is difficult for a woman in the modern 21st Century American culture to bow down and humbly obey. The slave is for all practical purposes totally owned, controlled and dominated in all matters by the Master. Many Dominants will seek to restrict or totally control your sexual activities. However, with a slave, it is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities. With the non-slave submissive one the Dominant does not wield as much power and lacks as much control and must be very skilled, talented and thoughtful about how he uses his authority and powers of persuasion. ///
The submissive woman or female slave should be rewarded,complimented and recognized when she provides outstanding service or when she has stretched her normal boundaries of BDSM play tolerance and explored above & way beyond her comfort levels of sadomasochism and taboo kinky sexual pleasures and hard-core use. The Dominant or Master should always be willing to show his appreciation and gratitude as much or even more than to show his displeasure and anger. In an ideal situation, the Dominant or Master feels and demonstrates real passion and genuine affection, concern and respect for his chosen submissive or slave. ///
When I show my appreciation, it may take many forms ? special gifts, little treats, shopping escapades, trip to the theatre or amusement park, a night out for fine dining and music & dance or something as simple as a lovely massage by a paid certified professional at a high-class spa & gymnasium. It also may be 'affectionate after-care' that includes gently cleaning her up (with hot wet wash rags and soft towels) after a prolonged, forceful and hard-core kinky sexual session that has left her satisfied but fully-used, exhausted, thirsty, weak, ?wobbled kneed? and sore ? and then bringing her nourishment (food and drink) to enjoy as we cuddle and I whispers delightful compliments and passionate ?sweet nothings? to you and/or read poetry while enjoying some slow, soft soulful R&B or jazzy blues music playing. YES! Showing affection, concern and thoughtfulness to a slave or submissive is appropriate and does not make one a weak person. ///
Disclaimer --- YES! I acknowledge that there are many slaves who do not wish to be shown any concern, affection, thoughtfulness or care. They want hard-core Sadists who are never gentle or kind to them. This is what would be discussed and negotiated up front when you both establish the terms and conditions of the BDSM relationship and what is to be expected. My experience is that, most slaves who say this, believe it until they live it and then they begin to want periodic tenderness, compliments and affectionate after-care. ///
Now that I have put everyone to a comatose like deep sleep, I shall cease further boredom.
Nonetheless, those are this Sir?s humble opinions.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
May 26 never goes unnoticed ? never!
Marianne, ma chère femme et amant; je me souviens de votre vie et votre mort en 2003. Je vous pleure et je vous manque... Je vous aime toujours! Vous ne quittez jamais mon coeur ou mon esprit.
Tel est la vie! Tel est la mort!! La vie doit continuer...
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, June 03, 2009
4:11 PM (Pacific)
Hey ? this is neither a complaint nor a ?rant? of any sort. Just reminiscing in a nostalgic moment. Those under the age of 36, need not read any further, because you do not fully understand what I am reminiscing about. Does anyone remember 15 years ago ? when life was much more simple, honest and real. My goodness, how did Dominants and submissives interact without web-cams and cyber hook-ups. I remember in 1995 & ?96 when I first joined AOL. One could go into a chat room, have real genuine conversations in the chat room or privately to the side via instant message and soon it led to phone and if all went right, you met real time shortly there after.
Now ? everyone wants to be involved in some type of online unreal cyber for ever chat or go to web-cam show ? these days, half the time you do not know who or what you were communicating with ? so many fake profiles with ?stolen? or photo-shopped pictures ? you think you are communicating with a real 27 year old woman in Boise Idaho who is submissive ? come to find out, it is some damn unscrupulous criminal scam operation trying to run money stealing fraud operation out of Ghana, Nigeria, South Africa or the UK.
Damn near 25% to 30% of the women are hooked up with some money earning operation through some type of XXX pornographic web-site or the ladies lure you into a web-cam situation and before you can say ?oh my god? ? someone or some criminal cartel has got your credit card number and some personal data ? and the web cam show is boring and tasteless. Hey when a woman puts her full name and also her yahoo e-mail address in her profile ? BEWARE!!!
You want some intelligent and thoughtful conversation or to meet a real life honest to goodness natural ?biological female? woman ? go down to the local strip joint or gentleman?s club, pay the small $8 to $15 to enter and then sit at the tip rail and observe actual real woman hood ? then, often you can have some most enjoyable conversation if the night or day is slow ? at least you can walk out and know you did not compromise your credit card or personal data.
Yes ? I confess, I have met some female slaves or submissive women from online, including four from CollarMe.com. Shared some lunch and brunch and enjoyed a ?vanilla? type meeting with them. One lady and I enjoyed a BDSM session; she claimed to be a genuine ?spankee? and could not handle my three minute warm up ? oh well. I enjoyed a lovely four month Master & slave relationship with one nice lady from online in 2004, before I joined Collarme.com ? it ended abruptly & unfortunately on a ?bad? note on Thanksgiving Day 2004 ? she is the genuine article; periodically we talk via phone or e-mail. She was and is the real deal, but ? shit happens! ///
In 2005, I met a lovely 22 year old from Minnesota, who was going to college in Idaho. Now she was a naturally submissive woman with the heart, mind and soul of a slave!!! We met on-line (not CollarMe.com). Even when she was in Idaho or Minnesota, she accounted, to me, for every minute of her day ? she was a true pain slut masochistic slave, and very loyal. Before she could relocate here, her beloved father suffered a major heart attack and stroke. She raced back to his hospital bed side ? after he stabilized, she went back to Idaho and drove a U-Haul Truck across country to Minnesota, we communicated via phone the whole time ? except in dead spots. Lots of more unfortunate things happened in Minnesota and then her father suddenly died ? I could not reach her for three days and I heard nothing from her ? then a cryptic e-mail arrived from her older sister, explaining that she (my slave) committed suicide. ///
My point is that there are many genuine and decent folk online; and there are genuine slaves and real naturally submissive women ? BUT? too often one must wade through so many tons of disgusting ?garbage? to find the real deals.
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, June 02, 2009
11:45 AM (Pacific time)
Now ?slaves? make demands & issue instructions?
Ha ha ha ha ha ? now I have lived to see and hear damn near everything; and the longer one lives, the more one sees the folly and the humor in almost all human activities. First, let me preface my comments with the following beliefs of mine:
q YES!! All slaves have legitimate rights and basic needs (I have written on this previously in great detail) ?
q YES!!! All slaves may have a legitimate and valid ?hard? limit and some genuine ?soft? limits ? when I say ?soft? limits, I mean things or activities that give her anxiety and fear and with which she is inexperienced and would need time, education, training, encouragement and greater trust & confidence in her Master and his ability before she feels secure and safe enough to try such ?
q YES!!! All un-owned slaves without collars are free to advertise their availability and provide information about themselves and their hopes, aspirations, needs, limitations, preferences, fantasies and hard-core cravings, while soliciting Dominants to consider as their new Owner ? because an un-owned slave without a collar, is a free and independent agent, she may negotiate the ?initial? basic terms and conditions of her proposed enslavement ? I say ?initial,? because all relationships change and never remain stagnant (this is even true in ?vanilla? relationships); relationships grow & progress or they regress and die ? every slave must know and understand that eventually her limits (especially the ?soft? ones) shall be challenged and tested, and her boundaries, tolerances and capacities shall be aggressively and forcefully pushed, stretched and expanded
Now, I shall continue with today?s discussion (or is it a ?rant?). All slaves are first and foremost, naturally submissive. However, not all submissive women are or can be a slave. A naturally submissive woman would first need to have the heart, mind and soul of a slave, and in addition, she must have the commitment, dedication and perseverance necessary to be a true slave. I am not talking about ?role playing? or acting the part of a slave in a TV drama, in a movie or on stage ? I am not talking about dressing like a slave and playing slave at a Halloween costume party ? I am not talking about going to some BDSM club for 90 minutes and act out some ?kinky? masochistic fantasy scene! ///
I am talking about being ?owned? as ?slave property? real time 24/7 (whether you live with Master or not) and surrendering all of your personal power and decision-making authority to the Dominant One who is your Master. I am talking about truly being obedient, humble, subservient, respectful, compliant and diligently attentive and faithfully loyal at all times ? as if your life & existence depended on such. Most truly naturally submissive women lack the ardor and zeal for such a level of commitment. It is especially hard for North American women raised in our western civilized society with its Judeo-Christian values and a US Constitution & culture that guarantees personal freedom, equality of opportunity and the pursuit of life, liberty and happiness for all. ///
Some reader(s) may wonder what is my point. Here is my point, when a person joins CollarMe.com and lists herself as a ?slave? and then begins making demeaning and unreasonable demands and giving outlandish instructions to prospective Dominants in her ?slave? profile, it is evidence that she is not a naturally submissive woman, and she does not have the heart, mind & soul of a slave. I do not expect a slave to exhibit low self-esteem, and I do not suggest they demean themselves and behave like a 'door mat' ... but, they do not need to be arrogant, disrespectful, obnoxious, rude or hostile. For example, some so called ?slaves? have advertising for only Dominant BBC and require that they provide photos to prove their BBC status. Now, ?BBC" means ?Big Black Cock? ? therefore, these so called ?slaves? want black men, who list as a Dominant, to send them nude photos that clearly show their ?genital package? in order that the slave may assess their qualifications. Hhhmmmmm ? any so called ?Dominant? that would stoop so low and subject himself to such an insulting examination, is not a real Dominant, within the meaning of the BDSM. ///
There is a difference in a slave saying, my hard limits are: nothing illegal, I do not have sex with animals, I will not have you cut me and draw blood and scar up my body, I will not sleep with the hogs in a muddy filthy farm pen, and I shall not eat human feces (aka shit ? you know, ?scat? toilet services); AND a slave demanding that a Dominant send photos of his penis or provide a financial portfolio and copies of his bank statements. The former is reasonable and appropriate, the latter is outrageous and ridiculous. Any so called ?slaves? making such absurd demands and issuing such disrespectful instructions is neither slave nor submissive. ///
Btw ? I hate to burst any so called slave?s ?bubble? BUT, it is the Dominant who inspects, probes, interrogates and examines the prospective ?slave property? to ensure that she is fit, healthy, sane and sufficiently capable of performing the services desired. In addition, why would it concern a ?true? slave if her potential Master has two inches or 11? inches of ?hard meat? when his penis is erect; this BDSM lifestyle is not all about ?sex? and certainly a ?true? slave is not on a BDSM site interviewing for potential ?studs? to entertain her ?fancy? and satisfy her fantasies. ///
Psst ? hey little slave girl ? I got a tip, if you want some ?BBC,? go to any major city with an NBA or NFL team and find out the hotels, restaurants, night clubs, strip joints and other ?adult? entertainment venues that the professional athletes frequent and hang out at ? yeah, always loads of BBC, especially between September and March. If the professional athletes are a little beyond your capacity, go to any large university campus with football and basketball teams that play intercollegiate NCAA games ? lots of ?big? young fresh meat just waiting to dump a huge load! They got black, brown & white ? oh what a little whorish slut?s delight!! ~~~ smile ~~~
I am sorry, I meant this to be an intelligent and thoughtful piece of writing, BUT ? I am laughing too hard ? Btw ? did I say ?piece? ? ha ha ha!! Bye.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Monday, June 01, 2009
3:10 PM (Pacific)
The bratty, disrespectful, boastful and taunting ?submissive? ones
I find that many so called ?slaves? and ?submissive? women on Collarme.com like to say how difficult they are to obey and be controlled. Often, they taunt & ridicule Dominants and boastfully proclaim that they cannot be controlled, discipline or tamed. Of course, it is easy to talk a bunch of ?sh*t? when the so called 'slave' or 'submissive' lives a 1,000 miles away and has no intention of revealing her true identity or meeting someone in real time for obedience training, discipline instruction, sadomasochistic activities and physical & mental bondage. It is most safe when she can hide anonymously in the comfort and safety of her home many miles away, and type whatever she wants on the computer. On February, 9, 2006 at 11:39 AM, I wrote a poem about a such a ?submissive? woman, and what happened when she finally got in a private session with a real Dominant, who was strict, strong and forceful (and demonstrated his ?sadistic? side). Please see the journal entry below with the poem. ///
There are so many curious ones seeking to dabble and play and then quickly retreat to the safety and comfort of their ?vanilla? domiciles before it gets too rough, too demanding, too humiliating or too painful & uncomfortable, BUT, they enjoy the brief stroll on the ?wild side? and they like the safe, sane & consensual ?role playing? and the costumes and social scenes ? blah blah blah ? all talk & show and not real action! ///
Come into the real world and spend some time being trained, broken down, molded and disciplined by a strong, strict and experienced Dominant ? travel away from your mommy & daddy and family and friends ? far away from your support systems. Then when you are fully under the authority and control of a genuine Dominant, and you are at his mercy, it will be interesting to watch you beg, plead, cry and express your sorry ? or threaten to yell for the ?police!? ? YES!! ? you will obey, submit, comply and surrender your authority and control and have the ?bratty? unacceptable & disrespectful misconduct beat, caned and tormented right out of you and you will wallow in your degradation and humiliation, when you are ?broken-down? and bent to the will of the Dominant one. ///
I once knew a girl from near Atlanta, deep in the ?Dirty South?
Most profane she was, and like some brats, she had a very ?dirty? mouth;
She was full of hurtful sarcasm, offensive jokes and obnoxious banter;
This disrespectful young ?subbie? gossiped, complained and griped quite a bit;
And made it clear to all whom she hurt or offended that she did not give a shit;
Most unruly, blasphemous, vulgar, disobedient and uncontrollable she was;
When safely on the phone or at her computer in cyber space alone;
She abused, ridiculed and cursed out all while in the comfort at home.
Some found her behavior amusing, merely annoying and little more than naughty
The strong and strict Dominant Ones thought her rebellious, defiant and tawdry
Then like a moth to the flame, a good Sir lured her to the fire;
He played her game and filled her head with satisfying all her lustful desires;
The Sir lured her away with delicious & stimulating bait, and concealed the trap;
She was intoxicated with desire, the way the scent of cheese attracts a hungry rat;
Now don?t get this Sir wrong, He enjoys humor, friendly repartee and jovial banter;
But her mouth spewed a cruel, mean-spirited, vile and rude chatter;
Yes, she was a submissive one, a genuine ?brat? she was, and so she claimed;
And dared any Dominant to discipline or control her; she said she could not be tamed!
Then like the unsuspecting fly, she flew into the Spiders web;
Oh, what a costly mistake, because soon her uncontrollable days were dead;
Of course she fought and struggled against her restraints and cursed the rules;
But quickly grew silent once her jaws were propped open with dental tools;
Soon there was much sweating, heavy breathing and anxious dry mouth horror;
When this Dominant One approached with cane and crop to tighten her collar;
Were those tears in her pleading eyes, which bulged in terror;
When she felt the vicious stink of the lash and her ass tasted the brutal cane!
Railed she did; she made such a fuss, as her ass was plugged with one cruel thrust!
Nine strokes later she had no fight left and forgot even her own name;
But the Master whipped on with the crop and burned her body with the cane;
There was only a whimper heard, when at last her jaws were relaxed;
And a barely audible and weak curse whispered as the fist reamed her ass;
No curses or sounds of protest were uttered, but she silently pleaded in vain;
As He raped her genitals with the big bat and asked, ?bitch, what is My name??
?Sir, Master, my Lord & Master, Sir? she barely said with a cry;
His Cock was soon in her dry mouth and she swallowed it all and sucked Him dry!!!
That is the story of the unruly submissive one from Atlanta. How will your story end, will you hide in the comfort and security of home and continue to rant & rave alone or come see this kind Sir and learn self-discipline and obedience while you enjoy the kinky taboo pleasures and suffer the sadistic pain? ///
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) San Diego, CA
Sunday, May 31, 2009
9:33 AM
Now that the arrogant, classless, over-rated and self-indulgent ?queen james? has been uncrowned and returned to his ?little hovel? in Cleveland, the best teams in the NBA shall meet next week in LA to commence the competition for the NBA championship. Both Howard and Kobe will show more class and play within a team structure ? may the better of the best teams win ? I pray it is the LA Lakers, but if not, at least it will be a deserving and classy Orlando team led by a classy talented and respectful athlete.
Let the final games begin on Thursday, June 4, 2009!!!
Thursday, May 28, 2009
1144 AM (Pacific)
The LA Lakers whipped some Nugget ass last night in LA. Well ... all Orlando Magic have to do is win tonight in Cleveland and they can rest, relax and recuperate ... and prepare for the LA Lakers ... if LA keeps its end of the bargain and wins tomorrow in Denver or Sunday in LA. Kobe and the Lakers should win against Denver.
Then it is a nice pleasant NBA Championship game of Superman and his supporting cast of talented players versus Kobe with his mixture of 'not ready for prime time' but skilled & talented bunch of lackadaisical, immature, inconsistent and weak cast of Hollywood characters. May the best team win! ? at least, it will not be Queen James and his bunch of Cavaliers in the NBA Championship finals ? was he both anointed and crowned a little too quickly? Did Queen James, get his MVP a little prematurely, we shall see ? the NBA Championship series games begin next week!
As for those who hate sports and abhor any discussion of sports in a person?s journal; grin and bear it ? it shall all be over by the third week of June!!! At least, as I explained to one ?submissive lady? ? when I discuss NBA basketball and sports with the guys on the site, I know that everyone is being mostly honest, sincere and truthful.
Now back to regular programming of bondage & discipline and sadomasochism and domestic discipline, corporal punishment, outrageous depravity, taboo kinky perverted sexual pleasures, sadistic tortures, humiliating degradations and ?abnormal? proclivities and etc.
Let the games begin, continue and play out to the bitter end ?~~ smile ~~
Mr.B in CaliforniaUSA
Saturday, May 23, 2009
8:55 PM (Pacific)
Greetings from the land of the Lakers kingdom, I guess the final score of LA Lakers: 103 and the Denver Nuggets: 97 speaks for itself. The Lakers have regained the home court advantage and they lead the series 2-1. Hopefully after they play on Monday in Denver, the Lakers will leave Colorado on a RockyMountain high after defeating the Nuggets again.
Now, if only Superman (Dwight Howard) and the Orlando Magic, defeat Queen James and his bunch of Cavaliers on Sunday ? it will be a wonderful weekend! NUFF SAID!
DENVER(AP) Kobe Bryant's 3-pointer wasn't nearly as dramatic as LeBron James' but equally effective.
Kobe Bryant's big shot over J.R. Smith gave Los Angeles a one-point lead with just over a minute left Saturday night and sparked the Lakers to a 103-97 victory over the downtrodden Denver Nuggets for a 2-1 lead in the Western Conference finals.
Bryant, who scored 41 points, went 5-of-6 on free throws to ice it after his 3-pointer gave Los Angeles a 96-95 lead.
Carmelo Anthony scored 21 points but just three after halftime for Denver, which lost at home for the first time since March 9. He was 4-for-13 in his worst performance of the postseason.
Friday, May 22, 2009
2:27 PM (Pacific)
YES!!! Kobe and his merry team of inconsistent and often ?confused? band of Lakers got what they deserved on Thursday night ? a loss! They have the talent and the skills and the home court advantage, but they just pissed it away with stupidity and lack of effort down the stretch ? hey, Carmello Anthony of the Nuggets, is a damn good player (among the top 12 in the league), but, he is not that good! Some body needs to be able to stop his regular stroll to the basket and disrupt his outside shots ? Kobe should not be required to carry defense and offense also. Now it is tied 1-1 and the Lakers must head into the mile high city ? and steal one or win both. In these times and situations, I always say, game three is the key ? the winner of game three regains control of the series and barring injuries or poor referring, the team that wins game three, should win the series. NUFF SAID!
Now, if only Superman & his rugged bunch or ?magical? players from Orlando, can steal game two and knock ?king james? on his ass and the MVP crown off his head ? damn! That shall provide something good to cheer about.
Damn! Here comes the three day Memorial Day holiday weekend ? I just realize that I am double booked all over the place ? however, I shall be watching the NBA playoffs ? I do not care what is being placed on my social calendar schedule!
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
4:09 PM (Pacific)
I had my First Root Canal Work Done Today ? Ouch!
Last night I was joyfully and loudly celebrating the victory of the LA Lakers over the Denver Nuggets after a tough and hard fought game in Staples Center, Los Angeles, California USA ? yeah, it was all good and I knew I would be enjoying sweet dreams about a 2009 NBA Championship victory when I pulled up the blankets & sheets and went to sleep ? oh NO!!!
A slight sensitivity in a tooth, which I have ignored for about ten days, suddenly flared up around 12:30 AM this morning and ? damn! I could hardly brush, floss & gargle before bed ? I was miserable all night long and even had a nightmare of King James raising the wonderful NBA trophy in June ? you know I was in pain!!!
By 6:30 AM ? even my lip touching the damn tooth caused extreme pain ? now all the surrounding teeth were getting sympathetic and acting all weird in a most unpleasant manner ? how many teeth can suddenly go ?bad? at the same time? I forgot how bad a toothache could be. 7:45 AM ? I am on the phone to my dentist?s office ? they never tell me ?NO? ? they offer an 8:30 AM appointment, I said 8:15 AM, and the office manager said, ?you got it ? hurry in.? I was there by 8:18 AM (yeah, I checked as I signed in) ? the dental assistant had me in the chair by 8:25 AM.
11:34 AM, I stumbled out into the beautiful warm southern California sunshine wondering what the hell just happened to my dearly departed mama?s youngest child? I had my first root canal ? and I liked it!!! First let us back up to about 8:40 AM after x-rays were taken and assessed and the dentist had given me two strong shots to numb me. PAIN! PAIN! PAIN and no relief in sight ? two more shots later ? she still could not even tap the damn tooth with her tools much less drill and saw and wrestle off a sturdy crown of porcelain with a gold metal underlay. Now my tooth and his partners in crime are pissed and raising hell!
? I did say ?she? when I referred to my dentist, right? Yeah ? she is this very sexy and extremely attractive Chinese lady who is probably about 40, but looks like a 27 year old Asian ?hottie? ? she is very good and never gets flustered ? she is always cool, calm and very confident. Today, she realized that she was facing a challenge, because both she and the dental assistants agreed, I had what is known in the dental industry as a ?hot? tooth, which cannot be sufficiently numbed from the outside. All my teeth are thick, large and have deep, deep, deep roots. I am cursed with a inherited trait of being difficult to deaden during dental procedures ? runs in the family, mother, siblings, child, nieces and nephews all suffer this inheritance.
We discussed options ? NO! I did not want to go home on anti-bacteria medication and a hot tooth and come back next week, when perhaps it may be more calm. The other option was, tolerate two minutes of specialized drilling on an angle from behind and she guarantees no pain and a quick painless root canal procedure without removing the big hard gold & porcelain crown ? ?huh ? you can do that, are you serious?? She said, ?YES! I can, but you must be still and bear two minutes of drilling as I described.? I said go ahead ? do it.
She began ? 15 seconds later ? STOP! Then she got a smaller special drill ? I was suffering big time, but, it was better and I kept my end of the bargain, stayed steady, no squirming and no hand raising or jumping ? she paused and said, ?I am through the porcelain and metal and entering the tooth? ? about 45 seconds later she found the nerve and opened the narrow hole enough to get a needle in and shot numbing medication in once, twice and on the third time ? it worked ? after that, she did microscopic surgery through that little narrow hole and root channel ? I felt nothing .. matter of fact, on a couple of occasions, she scraped out some areas and it felt like she was nicely scratching an itch. She worked ? I hummed songs ? the dental attendant stopped sweating ? I have always heard such horror stories about root canals and I vowed never to have one ? today, I had a ?hot? tooth and needed one; and I got a ?hot? dentist, who is pretty skilled and talented with her work! No one I mentioned her technique to have seen or heard that strategy done before.
Then I stumbled out into the wonderful southern California sunshine ? about 90 minutes later, I had pain medication and anti-bacteria in me working magic and I was able to eat, while I read the Sport Section of the LA Times about, you guessed it, the Lakers whipping the Nuggets ass! YES! Life is good!
Mr.B in CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
6:06 PM (Pacific)
Spankings & Whippings Do not Mean ?Punishment?
OK ? repeat after me, ?I will never say that spankings or whippings means punishment again!? There, now just try to memorize and envision that thought. YES! Sometimes, punishment takes the form of ?corporal punishment? and that usually means the submissive one or slave is whipped, caned, flogged or spanked. Quite often, it is required to use other more creative methods to improve performance, correct behavior and get the miscreant?s attention. Please see the excerpt below from my journal, which I wrote on January 28, 2008.
Remember, often a Dominant whips, flogs or spanks his slave or submissive just because he is a sadist and enjoys subjecting her to pain and discomfort ? some in the lifestyle, including slave, submissive, switch, Dominant or Domme get sexually aroused and erotically excited by being whipped or spanked or when they whip or spank another. There is no punishment going on ? it is just taboo kinky sexual proclivities being explored and enjoyed. Ever heard the term ?spankee? or ?OTK? ? these terms refer to those who love to spank and those who enjoy being spanked. ?OTK? means, over-the-knee? ? get it. NUFF SAID! ? for now anyway!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Pssst ? by the way, unlike Texas, California is still part of the union, and we have no plans to rejoin Mexico or secede. Thought you should know ? heh, heh, heh.
In both the ?vanilla? world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ///
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hard working fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples ? He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ?Master? and referred to Him as their Teacher. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or well being. ///
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is usually verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ///
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master?s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ?vanilla? world. ///
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up there anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ///
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately, most Dominants do not. ///
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ///
Btw ?regarding spankees ? he he he ? some can take a really severe whipping BUT ? perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese ? whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. ///
However, it is important to never break the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ///
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance ? when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently seriously injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ///
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen ? hhhmmmmm ? that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature adult arrives to help you deal with it. ///
Be mature, careful and sane ? we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers ? but I digress. You get the general idea. ///
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient and respectful and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Punishment is about correcting misdeeds, unacceptable services and various violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real true naturally submissive woman or genuine female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master.
There is more to be said on this topic, but ? NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
12:21 PM (Pacific)
The Unfairness of the Social Security (OASDI)Payroll Tax
I read a rant by a CollarMe.com member recently in her journal about Social Security and Medicare, I sent comments to her with my opinions. Then I watched a political and economics discussion on TV and now I am discussing this. Did you know that the federal government is quickly running out of adequate money to meet its obligations to the American people under Social Security and Medicare programs. This is happening for three main reasons:
q Too many sick, disabled and older folk living longer; and not enough young healthy folk working and earning good wages and paying into the Social Security pot
q The federal government under previous presidents and executive administrations with the concurrence of the U.S. Congress regularly raided and borrowed money from the Trust Fund set aside to guarantee financial stability for Social Security and now it is damn near empty ? with all of George W. Bush?s huge deficits, no one could think to begin paying back the social security money that was borrowed. YES, there is still an annual surplus raised via payroll taxes, but according to various reports, it is estimated that the Social Security annual surplus would be eliminated entirely in 2016, which means Social Security will have to turn to its trust fund to make up the difference between Social Security taxes and the benefits being paid out beginning in 2016. The few funds left in the trust fund would be totally depleted around 2037, and the annual Social Security taxes collected would be enough to pay for three-fourths of current benefits through 2083. Then ? it is all over!
q All employees are supposed to pay 6.2% of their total annual income into the Social Security pot for ?Old-Age, Survivors, and Disability Insurance? ? known as OASDI or Social Security, which is separate from Medicare ? Hospital Insurance (HI) funds. Rich and upper income workers do not pay their fair share of 6.2% like the poor and lower middle class workers!
Social Security and Medicare Contributions
The FICA (for Federal Insurance Contributions Act) tax (also known as Payroll Tax or Self-Employment Tax, depending on your employment status) is your contribution to Social Security and Medicare as a percentage of your salary:
Social Security (OASDI): 12.4% on your first $106,800 of wages
Medicare ? Hospital Insurance (HI): 2.9% on all your wages
However the employee pays 50% (half) of the 12.4% taxes due for Social Security (OASDI) and his/her employer pays the other half. The employee also only pays 50% (half) of the 2.9% taxes due for Medicare ? Hospital Insurance (HI) and his/her employer pays the other half. Thus, the total FICA payroll is shared equally by employer and employee.
Total FICA: 15.3% maximum
Employee?s Share
Social Security (OASDI): 6.2%
Medicare ? Hospital (HI) 1.45%
Total: 7.65
Social Security (OASDI) Tax Rates are Unfair to Poor & Middle Class
The ?unfairness? problem is with the Social Security (OASDI) payroll taxes and not with Medicare ? Hospital Insurance (HI). Thus my comments shall focus on the 6.2% the employee pays for Social Security (OASDI). If you are an employee, then you must pay 6.2% of the first $106,800 of your annual income into social security payroll taxes each year and then when you are old or disabled, it is there for your protection and assistance; if you die, your survivors are assisted. This is usually taken out each payroll check as a taxable withholding; your employer pays the other half for you (and then gets a deduction for their half on their corporate tax return, since it's an expense - for them it's as if the FICA "half" is an additional piece of salary). If you are self-employed, then you pay the whole total yourself as Self-Employment tax, and then get a tax deduction on half of it as an "adjustment" on your tax return. However, I am not discussing self-employed persons now.
Based on one of several census and economic reports, I present the following data. In 2007, the median annual household income rose 1.3% to $50,233.00 according to the Census Bureau. Remember, ?household income? means the income of all persons working and earning money (reported to the governement) who live in the same house as family. The real median earnings of men who worked full time, year-round climbed between 2006 and 2007, from $43,460 to $45,113. For women, the corresponding increase was from $33,437 to $35,102. The median income per household member (including all working and non-working members above the age of 14) was $26,036 in 2006.
In 2006, there were approximately 116,011,000 households in the United States. Approximately 1.93% of all households had annual incomes exceeding $250,000. About 12.3% fell below the federal poverty threshold and the bottom 20% earned less than $19,178. The aggregate income distribution is highly concentrated towards the top, with the top 6.37% earning roughly one third of all income, and those with upper-middle class incomes control a large, though declining, share of the total earned income.
What does all of the bull shit data above mean ? it means that the average individual wages or salaries that an American worker earns (including overtime), is, at most, no more than $40,000. However, regardless of income level, we must all pay Social Security (OASDI) payroll taxes on the first $106,800 we earn. Hey, how many people in your house make more than $106,800 (even with tips or over time pay)? What is the problem you inquirer?
Rich and upper income people do not pay their fair share! Think about this carefully: The average American makes $40,000 per year or less and the luckier ones may earn between $60,000 and $80,000 per year, but, how many earn over $100,000 even with overtime pay? Let?s do the math ? if you make $45,000 and must pay 6.2% on the first $106,800, then you pay $2,790, exactly 6.3% of your annual income; if your father earns $65,000 per year and must pay 6.2% on the first $106,800, then he pays $4,030, exactly 6.2% of his annual income; if a manager earns $106,800 per year and must pay 6.2% on the first $106,800, then she pays $6,930, exactly 6.2% of her annual income; BUT ?
? a corporate vice president may earn $350,000 per year and must pay 6.2% on the first $106,800, then he pays $6,930, which is exactly 1.98% of his annual income (he pays the same as the manager and never pays 6.2% like the lower income staff); a professional athlete or entertainer earning $3 million per year and must pay 6.2% on the first $106,800, then he pays $6,930, which is exactly 0.23% of his annual income (he pays less than 1% per year, while the lower income pay their share of 6.2%). Does anyone out there see the injustice and economic unfairness?
Administrative Asst.
Annual Salary: $45,000
Pays Social Security Tax: $2,790 (6.2%)
Pays Medicare Tax: $652.50 (1.45%)
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Civil Engineer II
Annual Salary: $65,000
Pays Social Security Tax: $4,030 (6.2%)
Pays Medicare Tax: $942.50 (1.45%)
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Division Manager
Annual Salary: $106,800
Pays Social Security Tax: $6,621.60 (6.2%)
Pays Medicare Tax: $1548.60 (1.45%)
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Vice President, Operations
Annual Salary: $350,000
Pays Social Security Tax: $6,621.60 (1.89%)
Pays Medicare Tax: $5075.00 (1.45%)
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Professional Athlete / Entertainer
Annual Salary: $3,000,000
Pays Social Security Tax: $6,621.60 (0.22%)
Pays Medicare Tax: $4,350.00 (1.45%)
President Obamawants those earning over $249,000 to pay 6.2% on their total income up to about $3 million. That would mean that the vice president earning $350,000 would pay $21,700, which is 6.2% of his income, and the athlete or entertainer would pay $186,000. Please stop and think about an income of $350,000 ? this is $29,166.66 per month before taxes; and if we take out 30% for taxes, it is still taking home $20,416.66 per month ? could you afford to live on that?
Trust me ? these rich and upper middle income folk can afford to pay their fair share! I have preached this for years ? it would keep Social Security more adequately funded & solvent and all pay their fair share, while we try to resolve the health care ?mess? and our current economic recession dilemma! I know that when the special interest groups and bought off politicians in Congress get through with his proposals, this fairness adjustment may never occur, but, it is probably because average people do not fully understand or know about this issue.
Sorry for boring everyone and introducing real ?vanilla? issues into the BDSM realm ? I apologize ? please go back to your various kinky perversions, sexual debauchery and sadomasochistic endeavors. Those running your usual unscrupulously unethical and probably unlawfully fraudulent scams, please get back at it there is lots of money to be had. Hey ? if you got a good sob story and are real nice, I may toss a couple hundred your way ? I am a charitable kind of guy. ~~~ smile ~~~
Now, I must go vote, yes, it is a special election day in California, lots of serious budget propositions to consider.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Monday, May 18, 2009
12:39 AM (Pacific)
Los Angeles Lakers whip ass!!!
Extra! Extra! Read all about it ? The best team in the NBA finally woke up and played up near their potential and kicked the little rockets ass all the way back down to Houston (that is at the bottom of Texas). Next victim for the LA Lakers is the talented Denver Nuggets ? hhhmmmmm ? this should be a sweep, but, the Lakers will screw around again and need six games to win the series 4 ? 2.
That is this Sir?s humble and biased opinion!
Mr.B
Monday, May 18, 2009
12:33 AM (Pacific)
I better get more than a smile ? I want an outright laugh this time, or at least a good chuckle in addition to a smile ? or I am going to come find you and tickle you good ? I know which ones are not laughing! ? well, the female members, perhaps ? hhhmmmmm ? Btw ... I stole this joke from someone and cannot remember who ... oops! Hope it is not you ... just sharing a little joy!
Mr.B
Divorce VS Murder -- priceless
A respectable lady went into the pharmacy, walked up to the pharmacist, looked straight into his eyes, and said, ?I would like to buy some cyanide.?
The pharmacist asked, ?Why in the world do you need cyanide??
The lady replied, ?I need it to poison my husband.?
The pharmacist's eyes got big and he exclaimed, ?Lord have mercy! I can't give you cyanide to kill your husband. That's against the law! I'll lose my license! They'll throw both of us in jail! All kinds of bad things will happen. Absolutely not! You CANNOT have any cyanide!?
The respectable lady calmly reached into her purse and pulled out a very explicit photograph of her husband in bed having sexual intercourse with the pharmacist's wife.
The pharmacist looked at the picture and replied, ?Well now, that's different. You didn't tell me you had a prescription.?
Friday, May 15, 2009
12:39 PM (Pacific)
The LA Lakers lost again to the Houston Rockets in Texas; obviously, the team from LA is not as committed and serious as the one in Houston. LA deserved to lose last night and probably do not deserve to continue in the playoffs if their attitude and play do not change for the better ? it does not help that Phil Jackson is such a laid-back coach who does not like to call time outs or know how to motivate his team ? he also has a problem coming up with a good game plan and effective rotation ? there were too many times when Fish was in when the younger Farmer who is more aggressive and much faster & quicker, on both ends of the court, should be playing.
Why does Jackson routinely put in Sasha Vujacic and Luke Walton, both of whom have been ineffective and mostly lost out on the court ? but, he will not try the four year veteran, DJ Mbenga who is an aggressive 7?0? 255 lb bruiser who knows how to guard the basket and grab rebounds and block shots ? Mbenga is a very fresh and fit 28 year old who is one of the most muscular players in the NBA ? he does not tire easily ... and he knows how to score, he can get you at least 8 points in 15 minutes. He used to get lots of playing time last year and some in the regular season BUT in the playoffs ? nothing, zip & zero.
The LA Lakers will most likely win the seventh game on Sunday in Los Angeles and they will probably beat Denver with only one or two losses BUT, at this level of inconsistent play, ineffective strategy, lousy rotation and poor coaching ? Boston, Cleveland or Orlando could beat them in six.
NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
Thursday, May 14, 2009
11:22 AM (Pacific)
It is expected that Kobe and the boys from LA shall end the foolish drama and shut down those little rockets in Houston this evening! THERE ARENO EXCUSES!!!
NUFF SAID
Mr.B
Thursday, May 14, 2009
11:09 AM (Pacific)
This is an Adults Only XXX BDSM website
Please correct me and educate me, if I am wrong, but, I thought that this was a web-site for adults who desire to live the BDSM lifestyle or at least seek friends, partners or mates who share a deep seated passionate need and cravings for sadomasochistic tortures, subservient subjugation, domestic discipline, corporal punishment for adults, taboo kinky sexual perversions, depraved debauchery, non-traditional ?abnormal? proclivities, forceful sexual penetrations, degrading humiliations, voyeurism & exhibitionism, physical & mental bondage, outrageous ?adult? scenes at public BDSM clubs or social gatherings ? sadistically administering pain, discomfort, humiliation and degradation, and being the masochistic who willingly accepts the pain, discomfort, humiliation and degradation ? dominating, controlling, disciplining, training and using a submissive or slave; or being a submissive or slave who needs to be dominated, controlled, disciplined, trained and used ? and etc.
I do not expect all Dominants to be an extreme hard-core sadistic Dominant or Domme, and I do not expect all submissive ones or slaves to be an extreme hard-core masochistic pain-slut or community cum-dump whore BUT ? although, I know that the BDSM realm is a very large community that can accept all who enter and allow them to participate on whatever level they choose within their interests, capacity, need, craving, nature, ability and limitations; I thought it would not be too presumptuous to conclude that those persons who are 18 year old and older who join are sufficiently literate, intelligent and astute, and blessed with enough commonsense to realize what type of site this is and not be here looking for the usual, more traditional & socially approved ?vanilla? type relationships.
I read so many profiles that have images of lovely looking ladies who write that they are seeking what amounts to a ?vanilla? boyfriend to date and enjoy a lovely romance that will lead to marriage and the desired prodigy resulting from their amorous procreation activities (as in romantic ?love making?) and sweet & tender blah blah blah ? this is not matchmaker or adultfriendfinder or whatever the more than 500 main stream "vanilla" type dating sites are called.
Please do not misunderstand me, I am not being critical of or dissing ?love? or ?romance? or ?marriage? ? I am totally in favor of those wonderful feelings, emotions and the marital institution; I know that people can enjoy a BDSM lifestyle within the context of a marriage or an committed, exclusive & monogamous loving relationship. My point is that when they are offended, shocked and appalled by the discussions, language, activities, relationships, images and culture & predominant lifestyle within the BDSM community and they would never accept even minor domestic discipline, then they are in the wrong place for who and what they are ... unless, of course, they are just here to gawk and play voyeur as they check out Collarme.com and its ?weird? members.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, May 04, 2009
9:33 AM (Pacific)
OK ? this coming weekend, I shall be at home ? thanks goodness! The weekend of Saturday, April 18 and Sunday, April 19, I was still in Utah ? the weekend of Saturday, April 25 and Sunday, April 26, I worked eight to nine hours on each day ? this most recent weekend of Saturday, May 2 and Sunday, May 3, I worked nine hours Saturday and six hours on Sunday ? that is it ? next weekend belongs to me!!! Yeah ? yeah ? yeah ? I confess, it was not hard labor out in the elements; and the compensation was most 'rewarding' and the people were ?cool? ? BUT, I like to own and control my own time! You know how we Dominants are, we like to own and control ~~ smile ~~
Mr.B
P/S If the LA Lakers whip Houston?s ass this evening, it shall be all good!
Thursday, April 30, 2009
5:27 PM (Pacific)
The late great Frank Sinatra used to sing a popular song from his era, which included the following lyrics: ?Riding high in April ? shot down in May!?
Poetry and the lyrics to certain songs can be very significant, powerful and meaningful ? often in subtle ways ? usually, you have to forget about the beat & the rhythm, and listen carefully and thoughtfully to what the artist or writer is trying to convey. These days, people are so distracted by the video that they miss the message and lose an important piece of communication.
This journal entry message is incomplete, because I forgot all the lyrics and cannot find the damn CD. However, you know where this is going ? ever heard the saying ?Don?t burn bridges behind you? or ?when you fall from the top, you must pass by many whom you stepped on your way up.? Most people tend to get arrogant, callus and cocky when times are good and they are on the fast track rising to the top, but as my Jamaican grandma used to say, ?The higher the monkey climb, is the more he expose himself ? and it is not pretty? ? and in my community, we all know, God hates ?ugly? and we are not talking about physical features either!!
You used to love me so ?
When your life was low;
Always remember, my friend ?
The world may change again;
And, you may have to come back ?
To everywhere you have been.
To be continued ?
Mr.B
Monday, April 27, 2009
2:39 PM (Pacific)
The ?vanilla? world continues to spin & must go on ?
YES! The Utah trip is over and it was quite enjoyable, although constantly driving up and down the narrow two lane winding road to the Wolfe Creek township, which is close to Powder Mountain (a ski resort in northern Utah), where my resort is located, was a real pain, especially at night and when it snowed. That did take much of the ?J? out of joy. Driving Ogden Canyon with all of its various twists and turns and blind corners at night or worse, when the roads are slippery & snow covered is not exactly my preferred ?cup of tea? ? for those interested, I take my tea herbal, decaffeinated and some exotic brand of green, and always with a ?bit? of honey. My goodness, I do not know how I used to drive into that canyon and drink & party 'till the wee hours of the morning and safely drive out speeding with all the other drunks!
Flying into Salt Lake City was no picnic ? first, I was upset that I got booked on some small jet that can only seat around 50 passengers ? I like my planes big, modern and powerful. Half an hour outside the SLC airport, it got choppy & rough with blowing snowing causing a blind ?white out? ? this is when you need a well maintained and properly built airplane, a skilled flight crew and the correct instruments in the cockpit for flying blind. YES! A calm, pleasant and relaxed group of passengers and ?friendly? reassuring flight attendants help also. The pilot was obviously talented and the Tower staff were great ? and we landed as if at a airstrip on a beautiful sunny balmy day in the Bahamas. ///
The occasion ? my university?s alumni association had reunion for all former students who worked on the college newspaper. I was at various times, over a three to four year period, a reporter, cartoonist, Op-Ed writer and columnist. I had the pleasure of seeing folk I have not seen in at least 25 years; we told many war stories and shared 'private' insider jokes and marveled at the latest technology and wonderful facilities that the current staff enjoy ? although they have their faculty advisor embedded in a private office in their workspace ? back in the good old days, it was truly a student paper, the student editor-in-chief, met with the advisor once per quarter and he knew he was neither needed nor wanted, unless we called him. I returned in the late afternoon on Sunday, April 19. ///
Back to the grind --- I spent all day Saturday and all day Sunday during this most recent weekend working from 8:00 AM to 5:30 PM at the college!! To make matters worse, I am scheduled once again to do the same again this coming weekend. I cannot believe that I agreed to do this BUT ? the selection committees cannot meet, conduct business or interview candidates without the designated hiring compliance officer (yours truly) present and monitoring ? hey, I am a considerate and reasonable gentleman. Damn!!! I hate giving up my weekends to go work outside my home office; even if they do pay me a very nice hourly rate ... oh, well.
Now life could be back to normal, if we could just stop these immigrants and American visitors to foreign countries like Mexico to stop bringing the pig (or is it hog) version of influenza (aka ?swine flu?) to these United States of America. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, April 08, 2009
1:15 PM (Pacific)
Flying, the fear of ?
Damn!!! I checked my travel/business agenda and realize that I am beginning to stack up the out of state trips again. Now, I admit that I am not particularly fond of getting in an aluminum tube and being hurled through the sky 30,000 feet above ground at 360 miles per hour, but ? I usually suck it up and do what I got to do to get where I am going. Flying to Las Vegas and Phoenix, Arizona is always great 99% ? great weather with few mountains, which are relatively low ? only about 55 minutes actually spent in the ?flying machine? ? even Salt Lake City, Utah is not too bad; only about one hour and 20 minutes flying time fro San Diego.
However, I got trips scheduled for ?The Big Easy? (aka New Orleans), Atlanta, Georgia and Montego Bay, Jamaica within the next six months!!! And ? I know, I have a couple other trips under discussion ? as far as flying to New Jersey, hell no ? a man must draw the line somewhere! My rule on flying is first: fly on big powerful jets; second: keep the flights short, simple & sweet ? this means, avoid flights longer then three hours, if possible; always fly straight through (if forced to, no more than one stop); and third: avoid flying in the winter zones between November and March! Btw ? I used to reject ?horrible? flight food; these days, no problem, all you get is salty nuts and something to drink anyway.
I have always enjoyed Air Alaska (or whatever it is called these days), my trip down to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico a few years back reaffirmed my faith ? great flight and excellent eight days of vacationing & fun in the sun; although a hurricane passed by and brought rain, rough waves & high seas one day ? no problem. Now I am sold on Air Canada ? last years trip to Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada involved a straight through flight from San Diego to Vancouver ? excellent accommodations, great service and a wonderful flight, which was pleasant and relaxing. VancouverBC was great.
Have I ever been on a ?bad? or ?rough? or ?scare you shitless? flight ? hell yes! However, today we shall be positive in our thinking, because next week Wednesday, April 15, 2009, I must board a ?small? jet and fly to Salt Lake City, Utah. We shall be brave, cool, calm and collected ? right? RIGHT!!! ... oh hell, forgot about UK & Europe in 2010 ... damn!!
I do not fear flying ? I do not fear flying ? I do not fear flying!!!
? then, you must deal with those blinded by their various prejudices and irrational bigotry ?
? then there are the nice lovely ?ladies? on here for all the wrong reasons; they do not mean ?harm? and their intentions are good and even mostly honest, BUT they just waste your time because this Sir seeks to own & control, to dominate & subjugate, to discipline & train; and to enjoy the more taboo, kinky & sadomasochism; and this Sir needs obedience, subservience, compliance and the non-traditional life ? AND, these lovely, well meaning decent ?ladies? seek ?vanilla? ? damn!
Forget about the criminal plague infesting the site from the UK and various other foreign countries, especially many African nations; now many have set up shop in places like Kentucky, Oklahoma and Nevada (even 'Vegas)!
Of course, there are the egotistical female ?game players? who have let the dozens and hundreds (dare I surmise thousands) of messages from Dominants fill their heads with delusions of ?oh my god, i am not only a princess, i am a super-star!?
Then one has to deal with those who get offended by a coherent, thoughtful, articulate and well-written (and grammatically correct) message that is longer than seven sentences and has good spelling ? I never intended to offend.
It is like you know there are three 100 carat uncut pure diamonds in the bottom of the barrel filled with 300 pounds of fresh human feces; you know it is there; BUT ... do you really want to submerge in and wade through all of the sh*t! Hhhmmmmm ? damn!
Has this now become more effort that it is worth ? I guess, when one is on a free site, one gets what one pays for ? a whole lot of nothing and wasted time, energy, effort and resources.
If you do not like my comments, that is fine ? if the shoe fits, wear it with pride!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ? NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
10:13 AM (Pacific Daylight)
What is being: ?Real? and ?For Real?
Often, I make the comment ?be real and for real? to other members or about other members on CollarMe.com. I discovered, as I already suspected that some members were uncertain by exactly what I mean by ?be real and for real? and most did not know the distinction I make between the concept of ?be real? and ?be for real? ? although compatible and related in many ways, these are two totally different concepts.
Thus, since it is important to be true to one of the essential basics of communication, which is to ensure that the speaker accurately and completely conveys the message in his or her mind to the listener or recipient of the message for whom it is intended, I shall provide a detailed explanation of what I mean.
Being ?Real? means:
This means that you are being factual, honest and truthful when you describe who and what you are. This also means that the person portrayed actually exists in real life and the photos and physical descriptions are genuine, factual and an authentic representation of who the person is in terms of physical looks, gender, sexual orientation, race/color, religious beliefs, culture/ethnicity and national origin and citizenship. Do not list yourself as a ?slave? if you are really a ?switch? and do not claim to be a Dominant when you know you are a submissive one.
Being real means that if you claim to be a 27 year old naturally voluptuous attractive athletic submissive woman in Jackson, Wyoming, and provide a photo that presents such a woman ... then do not really be some juvenile delinquent 14 year old boy playing stupid games on an adult web-site and wasting everyone?s time. It also means, do not be a 36 year old man located in the UK or an African nation such as Kenya, Nigeria, South Africa, Ghana or Liberia who is perpetrating a fraud and trying to scam people out of money. It also means do not be some super obese 50 year unkempt and out of shape old woman in Mississippi sitting in a little shack pretending to be something she is not.
Being real also means, do not say you are a female bisexual, when you are not only ?lesbian? but you hate men ? say in your profile: I am lesbian, I hate men! That is being real. If you claim to be ?Native American,? you should have some ?blood? or biological family relationship with people from one of the original indigenous tribes native to North America and be able to trace your family heritage to one of the nations such as Cherokee, Sioux, Black Foot, Apache and etc.
Just for the record, if someone?s profile says they are 38 and they are really 41, I do not have problems with that ? could mean that you have been a member for three or four years and forgot to update your profile. If someone says they are 5?7? and they are really 5?5? ? that is no big deal either ? do not say you are 5?11? and you are really 5?3? ? such as disparity is too great to miss. Please do not claim to be 145 lbs, when you know you are really 210 lbs, I could understand a 10 lb mistake, but not a 50 to 60 pound difference on a woman, it is too obvious.
A word about transsexuals, especially biological males who are pre-op and not truly living and looking like & dressing as a woman and accepted as a woman in their local community. A male transsexual wannabes should not list himself as ?female? when you look like a cross dressing male pretending to be a female. A transsexual pre-op male should be honest about his current status and whether or not he still has male genitalia and has not completed the transition. Please do not show misleading photos of yourself and list yourself as female, that is dishonest. Of course this does not apply to any post-operation transsexuals who have completed all psychological, pharmaceutical and surgical requirements and have totally transitioned to the other gender; nor does this apply to genuine pre-op male transsexuals who act, look, sound, behave and live on a daily basis as the woman they desire to be and they are truthful up front about who and what they are.
NUFF SAID!
Being ?For Real? means:
This means that you are being factual, honest and truthful when you describe your proclivities, fantasies, cravings, desires, interests and needs. This also means that you be honest and truthful about your actual BDSM and lifetime experiences. Do not claim to know about things of which you have no knowledge. Do not claim to be a ?virgin? when you are the local community ?cum dump? and sex slut. Do not list BDSM, kinky or sexual activities under ?live for? or ?love? if you have never done them or are scared to death to experience them. If you have never done something, but it excites you and interests you, list it under ?curious? about and then write about your interests and curiosity and fascination about that kink, BDSM play or sexual act in your profile?s narrative or in your journal and explain yourself.
Being for real just means that you are truthful and sincerely honest about your interests, knowledge, experiences, proclivities, fantasies, needs and cravings. It also means being honest bout your fears, anxieties, limitations, religious or moral beliefs and physical, mental & emotional restrictions, which may inhibit you from experimenting or exploring certain activities. There is absolutely no need to portray yourself as something that you are not; there are thousands of members and you will find plenty of interested people to communicate with you or who will share and empathize with you and assist you ? especially if you are a female.
NUFF SAID! YES! In answer to an inquiry ... some people can be "real" and still not be "for real."
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Today is Friday the 13th ... all I got to do is be cool for eight more hours and I shall be safe ... damn!
Then it is February 14 ... Valentine's Day ... NOOOOOooooooo ....there is no place to hide ... hearts & chocolates and hearts and roses and hearts and diamonds and hearts & expensive cuisine and more hearts and more expensive demands ...
And the pimps think they got it hard ...
~~~ smile ~~~
Friday, January 23, 2009
11:45 AM (Pacific)
This is neither a ?rant? nor ?criticism? ? just curiosity & observation.
Doms & Masters Who Send subs/slaves to CollarMe to Learn.
I have noticed many so called submissive women and female slaves on this web-site who claim in their profile statement that they have a husband or boyfriend who is their ?Dom? ? and others who claimed that they have a ?Dom? or are already owned and serving a ?Master? AND ? yet they are coming on Collarme.com to get more information ? some even say, that their husband or boyfriend or ?Dom? or ?Master? encouraged or commanded them to join Collarme.com in order to learn how to be a better ?submissive? or ?slave? ? one profile stated that her ?Dom? was desperate in need of help for Dominants to assist him control, discipline and train his submissive or slave or whatever she was supposed to be.
I readily admit that no one knows it all, and we all can afford to gain more information, and education is always preferred. As one of my favorite high school teachers used to say, ?It is better to raise your hand and ask a question and appear to be an ignorant fool, than to keep silent and be a foolish ignoramus the rest of your life.? Yes, we all can use more information. I wish I knew more about and was an expert at ?Shibari? rope restraints; I know I can easily find someone to teach me that; BUT, I also know that being a ?Shibari? rope expert has little to do with controlling, disciplining, dominating, molding and training & totally subjugating a slave; AND even less to do with educating and controlling a submissive woman.
BDSM relationships are more emotional, mental and even ?spiritual? than physical. If the slave or submissive woman does not have great admiration & respect for her Master or Dominant, in addition to total trust & confidence in her Master or Dominant, and if she is not experiencing a strong emotional bonding and ?mental bondage? and there is not a deeply internal desire to never disappoint or displease her Master or Dominant, then the relationship is in trouble, and will soon end. Relationships between human beings are always particularly vexing and complex and present very difficult challenges and tough choices on a daily basis. This is true between best friends, among family members and siblings (brothers & sisters), during the work shift with co-workers and supervisors, when interacting with business associated, AND even in romantic & sexually intimate relationships involving lovers, couples and husband & wife. As a matter of fact, at least 45% to 55% of all marriages end in separation or divorce. It is tough!
An Owner/Master & slave or aDominant & submissive relationship within the BDSM realm is the most exhaustive, intimate and weighty of relationships and requires much thoughtful reflection, lots of in-depth deliberations and some serious cogitation by both parties involved, especially the Dominant One who bears most of the responsibility and the burdens inherent in ownership. You cannot behalf like two immature 17 year olds who want to run off and get married and have ?kids? and neither has a job, a functioning automobile, a high school diploma or any money saved. At least one of the two (usually the male in our western culture & American society) is required to think and consider the full ramifications of such a marriage. Where do they live, how do they survive and in what manner to they expect to be able to support themselves and a new born. Marriage is more than love & sex ? there are real world practical responsibilities.
I do not want to be rude or disrespectful, however, why would a so called ?Dom? and especially a ?Master? take on a submissive or the ownership of a slave and have no clue as to how to educate, control, discipline, mold and train her. A Dominant or Master must not only be willing to assume ownership & control, he must be able and ready to do so, before he takes on that responsibility. It is like a prospective surgeon in his first year of medical school wanting to conduct advanced & delicate brain surgery before he is even an intern. This is not all about taboo kinky ?perverted? pleasures, wanton sex and sadomasochistic tortures. This is not about love & romance. This is more about discipline and control in which the submissive partner surrenders some or all of her decision-making authority and personal control of her personal life to the dominant one whom she admires, respects and trusts.
One does not need to be a misogynistic woman-hating brute or a physical bully, and it is neither necessary to engage in unlawful domestic violence or illegal assault & battery to prove one?s dominant manhood. A Dominant or Master should first be able to lead, direct and control with the strength of his wisdom, knowledge and understanding and the power of his personality, character and ability to teach, discipline and communicate. Remember, dominance and submission is more mental than physical! Once you capture the heart, control the mind and relieve her spirit of anxiety and fear, then she is like ?putty? in the hands of a knowledgeable, skilled and experienced Dominant or Master and she is waiting to be molded. Then a Master can command his slave to bend over while nude and hold a wine glass in each hand (delicately balancing in the palm of each hand) with her arms outstretched, while he aggressively and sadistically wails away with cane, crop or whip, or pierces her tender breasts with needles, and successfully commands that she not drop the glasses. He can take her to dinner at a high-class restaurant and place a vibrating dildo up her anus (ass hole) and expect her to behave normally and interact socially and with proper etiquette, while he remotely controls the vibrating dildo.
My word of advise to Dominants ? do not send the submissive or slave to Collarme.com or any other BDSM web-site to learn and get trained, she may learn habits and behaviors and attitudes that are incompatible with what you need and expect. She may run into man-hating jaded feminists who will ?warp? her mind with negativity. The submissive or slave may find some other much more qualified and desirable Dominant or Master, and may leave you. Worst of all, you will lose whatever admiration, respect and trust that she has in you AND then the relationship is ?dead? even before the final separation. Therefore, read books or informative articles or go out privately and talk to other Dominant Ones and have them educate and train you on the side, and then go back and practice what you learn.
NUFF SAID for now.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Mr. Barack Hussein Obama, is now the elected and duly sworn in President of the United States of America and Commander in Chief of all American military and defense forces. He got sworn in twice, once on Tuesday, January 20 and again on Wednesday, January 21 in the White House, just to be sure that all was legal and appropriate.
Mrs. Michelle Obama, is now officially the First lady of the United States of America. Damn! Change has come to the nation.
Thank goodness the nightmare is over and hope has arrived ?
Mr.B
Thursday, January 15, 2009
5:05 PM
RE: The military?s ?Don?t ask, Don?t Tell? anti-gay policy
When Obama is president, he must immediately within the first six weeks of being sworn in order the Secretary of Defense and senior military brass to cease and desist from any more enforcement of the ?Don?t ask, Don?t Tell? anti-gay policy while he takes steps to eliminate and overturn the policy and/or any federal statutes that require it.
This is the most outrageous thing that President Clinton allowed himself to be manipulated into approving. Homosexual and bisexual men have served throughout our armed services (army, navy, marine corps and air force) since the beginning of this nation and many fought in the Revolutionary War with George Washington. They have served in all ranks including flag officers (generals and admirals). Currently we are forcing highly skilled, patriotic and loyal gay men and lesbians out of the military and it is having an adverse impact on ?readiness? and available skill sets. This policy is impractical, unfair, discriminatory, nonproductive and stupid.
We should not discriminate or punish a person based on his ?legal? and perhaps ?natural? sexual preferences; we must eliminate and punish unacceptable conduct for all those who serve within the military. Every man knows that he has been around men who may be ?gay? or bisexual ? some in ?the closet? and some who live an open homosexual lifestyle. We routinely encounter both heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual men in gyms, spas, the military, school, college, the work place, social gathering, family gatherings and when ever we are in public ? some men have to deal with a gay man even when he is alone in the privacy of his own closet (I will let you figure that one out). As long as one is not rudely propositioned or sexually assaulted or sexually harassed on the job, who in the military should give a hot damn what their sexual preferences may be.
What do I mean by punishing or eliminating ?unacceptable conduct? ? this is very simple. I remember when I was in the US Navy Reserve at Officer Candidate School (OCS) at the US Naval Education Training Center in New Port Rhode Island, we had codes of conduct manuals and specific written orders clarifying certain policies and we got direct instructions from the senior officers in charge of the OCS; which were reinforced in out Leadership & Management academic curriculum. The following conduct was forbidden:
q Officers & officer candidates could not fraternize with or date enlisted personnel
q Officers could not go into the enlisted men?s barracks and living quarters or their cafeteria except when on specific official duties ? for example, each meal two officers were assigned to eat in the enlisted men?s cafeteria to ensure the quality of food and service ? officer candidates could not stray near enlisted personnel areas
q Public displays of affection were banned (this meant no kissing, hugging, erotic embracing, sexual caressing & groping or affectionately holding hands); even when your wife or loved ones visited officer candidates had to wait until they left the OCS property or were in the officers club or the Datum (the officers & officer candidates night club on base)
q Engaging in anything like sexual activities during duty time on base was grounds for immediate dismissal or being kicked down to the fleet as a lowly sailor
q There were five male officer candidate companies and one female officer candidate company (Bravo Company) ? we referred to female officer candidates as a ?bravo? (it was not a compliment) ? Each company had its own area in the three (or was it six?) story dormitory building ? the company area was two long corridors with rooms on either side and each company had a state room with lounge chairs, couch and television and film projector ? each room was called a ?space? and accommodated two officer candidates ? no male officer candidate could be in a bravo?s space (room) and sit on her bed and visa versa; and members of the opposite sex could not be in each other?s space after lights out (about 10:00 PM) ? there were three appointed company offices, each had their own private spaces
q If you did not have approved leave or if you failed an inspection or failed a test, your leave was secured and you could not leave base on the weekend until it was cleared up
q As per the old Navy tradition, one did not smoke unless the ?smoking lamp was lit? ? marijuana and other unlawful drugs were forbidden and there could be no alcohol in your personal vehicle or anywhere in the OCS dormitory building ? there was plenty of booze to be had at the on base clubs and PX store
YES! Some of us pushed the envelope and got away with things BUT we took the risks and knew the consequences. I was in E company (which was called ?Echo?) and we were well known for excellent performance in certain areas (especially academic achievements, being ?cocky? smart asses who push the envelope and water polo competitions) and being particularly mischievous. My space mate dated a bravo and had regular sex with her in his space ? he also had an old Volkswagon van that he get stocked with great ?weed? (as in the unlawful type), which he shared with a few interested officer candidates whom he trusted.
Our Echo Company movie nights consisted of watching real pornography in our state room and we had outrageously disgusting pornographic books (and I mean hard-core filthy stuff) that any Echo officer candidate could check out ? I saw ?Deep Throat? for the first time in our company area!
By chance one evening I met a very attractive & sexy black woman who worked in the Personnel Office; she was an enlisted woman who lived off base. I was on guard duty patrolling a mostly empty education building and I observed an enlisted person on hands and knees scrubbing a hall floor All I saw was 'his' back and buttocks; I turned to leave and then thought ? damn, that ass looked very ?female? ? I went back and asked the enlisted person how much longer they would be cleaning. She turned and looked up and responded ? I was smitten and she obviously liked what I had to say. We began dating, she would pick me up in civilian clothes and in the day time we pretended not to know each other. Even on weekends when my leave was ?secured? I would sneak off to see her. I even took her to the officers club (she was scared to death) BUT all the officer candidates were just curious and hot for her ? the older officers speculated that she must be an old friend, girl friend or fiancé from the civilian world. I was breaking rules and got away with it. I knew the risks.
What does this have to do with no more enforcement of the ?Don?t ask, Don?t Tell? anti-gay military policy, you may wonder. President Obama must have the military establish rules of conduct for all military personnel and enforce them fairly and firmly. If you bust a male soldier having sex with a female soldier during duty hours in the barracks ? court martial & punish them fully ? if you catch two gay male soldiers doing the same apply the same justice and punishments ? if two lesbian sailors ?get busy? on duty & on ship, court martial & punish them fully. If PDA (public display of affection) is forbidden, then gay men cannot walk on base and hold hands or erotically embrace or kiss and the same is true for lesbians or a heterosexual couple. If some one rapes, sexually assaults or unlawfully harasses another person, apply justice and punish regardless of gender or sexual orientation. This keeps it fair, even-handed and nondiscriminatory.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
2:15 PM
Doms & Masters Who Manipulate subs/slaves to Find Other Women For Them *** This is not a rant ? at least I hope not. ~~ smile ~~ It is just mostly an observation and a public communication of my intense concern & curiosity. This is an interesting issue that has come up a lot within the last 12 months and I have recently noticed a couple of similar comments made by other members in their profile and in brief communications with me.
Who are all of these submissive women or female slaves who are so easily manipulated or coerced or brain washed into assisting their so called ?Dom? identify and solicit other submissive women or female slaves to serve join them and serve their ?Doms? while being a ?sister slave? to them? That, of course is a rhetorical question ? but if you are one or you know one and wish to discuss the matter with me, feel free to write.
About one year ago, I was communicating with a new and inexperienced submissive woman who was in North Carolina and agreed to meet a so called ?Dom? in Georgia for training ? he ordered her to purchase her own bus ticket and rent a motel room for two days upon her arrival. He abused her sexually for two days and bullied her and slapped and spanked her. Then he told her that in order for her to prove that she was an obedient, faithful and respectful submissive, she must solicit other women for him. Before she met him the one time in Georgia, they had talked on the phone a couple of times had a couple brief Collarme.com message exchanges.
She returned to North Carolina without the expenses reimbursement money he promised and was dazed, confused, hurting and uncertain ... she felt that she never got the training she went to receive from him. She was considering soliciting other submissive women or female slaves for him, when she and I spoke on Collarme.com. She was expressing concern and anxiety that she was being misused and manipulated. She was just a poor low-income undereducated not very bright woman in her mid 20s. I know that if I counseled her to do as her ?Dom? told her, she most likely would, because she was new & inexperienced, found him exciting and ?hot? and she suffered from an extreme and chronic case of lack-of-good commonsense and toxic naïveté. What next ? would she be ?hooking? on the mean side streets of Atlanta? I advised her to run and run fast away from him in the opposite direction and to avoid him forever and to go get checked for HIV infection and other STDs.
Hey ladies ? if all you want is sex and you are half way decent looking and know how to be a little flirtatious ? you do not need a BDSM website ? just go on any college campus, check out the local ?meat markets? passing as dance clubs ? go sing on the church choir (sooner or later some deacon, pastor or choir member shall make his move) ? pool halls and juke joints are filled with horny men waiting to pounce upon some unsuspecting prey (or even available willing ?prey?) ? want swinging and swapping or a little ass slapping; no problem the ?vanilla? suburbs are filled with that type stuff ... need the more hard-core gang-bangs or group rape sex; yeah, check out the college and professional sports teams action and the local college campuses, fraternity row houses or venture down into dah ?hood or el barrio at the wrong time or wrong corner; and most horny young men have plenty of testosterone filled drunk buddies able & willing to accommodate your fantasies (even if you have a sudden change of heart). BDSM is not all about ?sex? and helping some ?Dom? find more sexual conquests ? let him go find his own, especially if you just met him and hardly know him and he lacks a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. The hunter does not sit back in his tent waiting for others to go out into the woods with weapons and stalk and hunt and then bring him back ?fresh meat? ? no ? he gets off his ass and joins the hunt and takes the risks and suffers the wet & cold and close calls and disappointments and exhilarating victories that he has earned himself. NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
January 13, 2009
3:00 AM
HAPPY NEW YEAR to all and I hope that this year provides all the best of what you need and seek. This is 2009 ? this is my year! I was born September 9 and on September 9, 2009 it will be 09/09/09AND that will be an amazing day for me. Yeah, I keep thinking I can get a couple of my old running partners and enjoy three to five days filled with intense exotic pleasures & debauchery in Brazil or Jamaica (can you say Hedonism III). This 09/09/09 thing is very significant because three (3) is my number and 3x3 = 9 ? how fortuitous that I should be born on September 9 (the ninth day of the ninth month) at 11:48 AM, which is like 12 minutes to 12:00Noon. All divisible by three ? hhhmmmmm ? YES! It all fits ? and makes sense to me, anyway. ///
I have been on this Collarme.com website since February 2005. I think I shall waste about 30 to 90 more days of my time and energy pursuing BDSM relationships here, and if it continues to be as unrewarding, frustrating, boring and unsatisfactory as it has been to date, then I shall move on. I always prefer the real world to this cyber stuff anyway. There are just too many frauds, fakes, phonies and unreal folk here ? the bigotry part I understand and accept, that is all part of life. ///
However, I find it interesting that I can get up later this morning and go out into real life society and quickly meet an attractive and interesting woman in ?vanilla? society with very little effort. In the real world, most women do not have the benefit & luxury of posting a profile and then sitting back and receiving dozens, hundreds and thousands of enticing messages from large numbers of men from across the country. In the real world, you immediately can observe what & whom you are interacting with and you can read body language and listen to the tone and manner of her verbal responses and read facial expression clues and have much more honest and immediate feed back. YES! You still can get lies and misinformation BUT at least you quickly have an idea what you are dealing with. At least you know that you are not writing to some pubescent 14 year old boy who has created a fake profile with photos of a beautiful woman. ///
NUFF said for now ? That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Peace & Love!!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
9:39 AM
Seasons? Greetings to all! Merry Christmas! Happy Hanukkah (the Jewish festival of lights, which celebrates and commemorates the Maccabees military victory over the Greek Syrians and the rededication of the HolyTemple in Jerusalem), and belated best wishes to all the Muslim brothers and sisters who completed Ramadan and enjoyed a righteous, wonderful & peaceful 'Eid-ul-Fitr celebration (the three day Festival of Fast-Breaking after Ramadan). I know that almost everyone in the United States gets caught up in the charitable spirit, excessive consumerism and joyful celebrations of the winter holiday season.
Most likely, I shall spend much less time in this weird unreal cyber world starting on Christmas Day (December 25, for those who are in denial) and through January 1, 2009. Although, I may check my messages periodically, I shall be mostly absent from CollarMe.com. However, by January 4, 2009, I should be back on a regular basis.
Damn!! Beautiful blue skies outside and no rain! Hey, we all know it never rains in southern California ? right? Yeah! The weather folk say ? much more rain on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day from San Diego to LA ? oh, well ? we need the water!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, December 22, 2008
11:33 AM
Suddenly my holiday calendar of events caught up with me ? dinner & house party on Thursday evening with business associates, Friday night was an employer holiday bash at the new Hilton downtown by the Bay (stayed overnight on the 24th floor ? excellent view of bay, city and Petco Park), caught the afternoon matinee musical production ?Xanadu? live at the La Jolla Play House on Saturday afternoon, then dinner & drinks ? late evening shopping. Did an early movie on Sunday (had to see my man, ?Big Willie? aka Will Smith in ?Seven Pounds?) ? more shopping. With all of this, many long distance phone calls all weekend long ? damn ? surprised I got anything done.
Crawled in bed at 5:45 AM this morning, forgot to put the garbage out ? jumped up, and did that in my robe and underwear at 7:45 AM. Up by 9:15 AM and ready to get this day started. Have to finalize some business reports and get them sent off and then squeeze in at least a 45 minute work out somehow ? and then hit the road again.
No disrespect meant to any particular member on this site, BUT with all of the ?hidden? deceptions and obvious dishonesty, bigotry, fakery, fraudulence and phony profiles found on CollarMe.com, I must confess it is always good to ignore the cyber-world and web-sites such as this for a few days and deal with real live human beings in the here & now up close and personal situations, and know exactly who and what one is dealing with. YES!! The touch of warm willing flesh is much better than staring at a damn PC screen trying to figure out whether or not some one is for real or another bored 14 year old playing games or some criminal minded miscreant trying to perpetrate a financial fraud.
It is raining again in San Diego ? not the heavy flooding down pours of last week BUT a more soft, gentle and light rain. It is cooler these days down in the 50s and low 60s (damn ? down right chilly, may need a heavy shirt of jacket) ? glad not to be in the North East right now!! The Terminex man just rang the door bell and informed me he is here to do his quarterly treatment ? I ask ?In dah rain? How effective will dat be?? He reassured me ? much better, because the little granules need the wet to release their hidden powers of terminating those pesky destructive little pests ? great!!
It has been a good last few days ? I got out of a car lease ? I hate car leases and let myself be talked into one for the first time in January 2006. Some people like to lease for two or three years and then turn the car in and keep driving new cars under warranty. I LIKE TO OWN and not always have to pay a monthly car note!!! These guys thought I would have around 24,000 to 45,000 in two years and that the car would be beat to death ? Ha Ha Ha ? I had 11,000 miles and the car inspector rated my vehicle as pristine, outstanding and in virtually new condition ? so, Ford Financing wanted to take it back and action it off to the highest bidder or sell it to me above the listed top price in the auto Blue Book, the dealer sales man said they could easily get $24,000 for the two year old car on the auction block ? they offered to finance through Ford Credit for three to five years at some low percentage ? I did him one better, I bought that cash out the door ? once I wrote the check and signed the last of many documents, I asked ?Are we done here, is this final?? He said yes ? I said: ?GREAT, dis bitch is mine!? ? he was shocked ? I laughed, got the paper work and walked out to my property and drove off. AND ? yes I paid less than the others were bidding. ~~ smile ~~~
Too many people are over extended and wrongly invested and drowning in debt. In this economy, I shall keep my debt low and investments and savings secure and stable .. to me, it is better to earn 4.5% than lose 15% to 30% ? Once President Elect Obama and his administration take over and get this country back on the right track, then it shall be happy days are here again and folks can go back to fast credit and irresponsible consumerism.
Today is the anniversary of my mother?s death ? she is always in my heart and on my mind! There is nothing like the unconditional & all encompassing love of a good mother!!! My greatest accomplishment was taking damn good care of my mother during her last ten years of life after she was paralyzed on her right side by a stroke.
Happy Hanukah, Seasons? Greetings and Merry Christmas
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
9:30 AM (Pacific)
WHY DO MEN PAY PROSTITUTES?
So there was a recent debate among some ... uhh er uhh ? gentlemen , we shall say, regarding the cost and price of prostitution and whether or not a real man should be buying himself some ?pussy? ? as one ?gentleman? stated, why purchase what a real man, with proper game and rap skills, can get for free in the market place. Then the only true ?gentleman? in the group spoke up and said, ?Everyone knows that there is no such thing as a free 'piece of ass' ... there is always a price to pay (even if only the cost of gas, two movie tickets and a big mac meal) ... oftentimes it is much more!?
Everyone pondered that and started mentioning Michael Jordan, Shaq, Kobe and the former governor of New York who got busted for paying an escort service for the sexual pleasures of a lovely young prostitute he enjoyed in a Washington DC hotel suite. Then we started reminding each other about what ?pussy? has cost us, and some of our male friends, male family members and male business associates, in the past (and some in the present ? not me). We even had a nice ?nervous? chuckle at an ?in-the-closet? lesbian who was a manger and got busted at work for allegedly sexually harassing a female subordinate ? oops! Damn!!! Even the ladies are learning the price of trying to get & enjoy a lovely ?piece of ass? ? I know that hurt; welcome to the club Ms. Manager!!!
Therefore, back to the original question: When a man pays a prostitute, what is he really paying for? The general agreement and consensus is outlined below in three points ... one obvious old pervert kept insisting, if you got to pay anyway, may as well buy what you want.
A man never pays the prostitute for sex, he pays the whore to leave!
When a man offers and pays money to a prostitute and then she provides sexual pleasures; he is not necessarily paying for a 'cash for sex' transaction. The money is to pay her to do three things ? 1) go away, until he desires her again ? 2) shut up and be discrete & quiet and do not discuss his sexual performance, personal kinky ?proclivities? or the nature of the sexual activities ? and 3) stay out of his business and personal life.
Now that is what the "John" (aka 'trick') really pays for ... any questions?
That is this Sir?s humble opinion! NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, December 08, 2008
1:43 PM (Pacific)
THIS IS FOR THE WOMEN ***
This is not a ?rant?? well I hope not. I shall try to be positive and helpful.
Now I realize that there are many submissive women, female slaves and female switches who for various personal reasons are angry at the world, upset with life in general and not particularly trusting and hospitable when it comes to most men. We all have ?sad? life stories, traumatic experiences and personal tragedies that impact how we feel, think and behave & react socially. Most of us have suffered a love lost, a relationship gone ?sour? and a ?broken heart? caused by the object of our love and affection (well most have, anyway).
Having said that, remember that there are literally hundreds (perhaps thousands) of men on this web site from all over the United States and many around the world in other countries ? at least 93% to 99.999% of them have never met you and never did anything to abuse, misuse, disrespect or offend you ? unless, you are a woman who is offended at the mere thought of a biological male version of the human species. YES! 93% to 99.999% of the men here do not know you and are not responsible directly or indirectly for your misfortunes or miserable living situation ? they did not make false promises and then break your heart, and they are not the heartless ?brute? who left you waiting for the phone call or standing impatiently outside the theater. They are also not your baby daddy who refuses to step up and take care of his children ? phew!!
Now I know that there are some serious male egomaniacs and quite a few woman-hating misogynistic boorish brutes on this and many other BDSM web sites ? there are also the desperate excessively horny ones and a large number of fake wannabe ?Doms? and numerous male Dominants and self proclaimed Masters who take themselves just a little too serious and presumptuously conclude that they own and control a female slave or submissive woman as soon as they write to her ? add all these together and they are less than 30% ? well may less than 45% ? please do not paint all men with the same brush due to a few unfortunate encounters with some obnoxious, rude and inconsiderate disrespectful types.
Here are a few requests and comments:
Please be very specific about what you need, seek and prefer and state up front what type of persons interest you and the types that you are not interested in ? some of you do BUT the overwhelming majority of women are not specific. You should for example: state your age preferences; gender preferences; race/color, ethnicity & national origin and cultural or religion preferences, if any AND explain clearly if you only prefer to communicate with those local to your community or from a particular region of the country; ALSO be very specific if you have limits and if you want to be considered a slave or submissive or open to either ? give those something to work with so they can self-screen themselves out or in depending on if they think you make a good match ? Do not be hostile and angry when you write this; I know you will still get messages from those you may not seek ? just bulk mail, delete and block if need be
Do not demand photos from others if you do not post photos or you have photos that are unclear, fuzzy and of such poor quality that no one can make an intelligent guess as to what it is a picture of ? this is 2008, everyone on the Internet should be able to come up with a relatively clear and recent photo
Stop demanding ?No one liners? when you know that when a person writes a long and comprehensive message you will not take the time, energy and thoughtfulness necessary to read it ? Btw ? some Dominants like myself write long, well thought out and detailed messages that not only introduce ourselves and our approach to BDSM but also address specifics found in a slave?s or submissive woman?s profile and answers questions or addresses issues she poses in her journal ? then what happens --- ?Deleted Unread? or it is read and there is no response, not even a thanks but not interested or there is a response, but it is either a ?one liner? or a very brief and incoherent message that does little to acknowledge one?s efforts and thought
Stop demanding ?No form letters? until you can explain what a form letter is ? I think that anything that sounds like what is written in one?s profile or that uses the third person or that sounds like one is speaking in generalities rather than directly to the recipient may be considered a form letter by most BUT I do not know and I suspect that most slaves and subs do not know ? I suspect also that anything that is too long and well written seems like a form letter. Here is the problem that Dominant men have --- we have to initiate everything ? you post your profiles and then sit back and wait to be inundated with dozens and hundreds and thousands of messages and letters ? Dominant men have to write many letters to get a few responses ? a few slaves and subs feel free to write and initiate contact with a Dominant ? most slaves and subs are too busy sorting through the bulging mail bag ? as they complain (or boast) about being overwhelmed by too much mail ? oh, how awful it must be ? look at it this way, if an attractive woman dresses ?sexy? and goes into a local popular dancing and ?pick-up? night club, she should not be upset because men constantly ask her to dance, offer to buy her a drink or try to meet her ? our society and cultural protocol dictate that men must initiate the action and pursue, and women accept or reject the attention ? would you rather all men ignored you and everyone else danced and had fun and you were bored and lonely all night? If you post a profile on this site, and you are female, expect to have men contact you!
If you do not want anyone to contact you and you are not searching or interested in any potential Dominants ? if you have a Master or Dominant and you are happy ? please say so loud and clear up front! Most men will look and move on
Not every male Dominant who writes to a female submissive or female slave is trying to seduce her or win her affection ? not every piece of mail you receive is about trying to make you his slave, submissive, bitch, slut etc. Sometimes he is just offering a comment about something you wrote or trying to offer some information or compliment you about your poem or photography etc.
This is not adultfriendfinder ? this is not a ?vanilla? love connection romance site ? this is a BDSM web site for adults only! If you are seeking the love of your life or a loving boyfriend or a loving husband and you are not interested in taboo kinky sexual perversions, forceful sexual dominance, domestic discipline & spankings, bondage (mental & physical), sadomasochistic activities and other peculiar deviant proclivities not usually found in ?polite? society ? pray tell, why the f*ck are you here? I know it is free BUT ? it caters to a particular element of society.
Dominants do not have to provide photographic displays of scenes they have been in or provide written detailed descriptions of every type of thing they shall subject you to ? this is neither necessary nor required. There are too many curious cyber hounds on here looking for cheap titillation and salacious photos and chat to help them achieve some sort of private stimulation and ?satisfaction? ? that is not what a Dominant needs to do to prove he is a Dominant.
Do not be offended because after a couple positive communications, a Dominant asks your real name, or e-mail address or a phone number; if you do not feel secure and comfortable enough to provide such, just say so ? however, I know many of the same women will walk into a local club and give up the name, place of employment, phone number and even e-mail address within 90 minutes of dancing, drinking and some light weight conversation ? and we are not even talking about those who invite the stranger home that night ? If you talk to a Dominant and exchange numerous positive, enjoyable and informative messages over a ten day period and you are still scared to provide a name and e-mail address, something is wrong ? if 90 days later, you are still holding out; the Dominant should move on ? ?cus, it ain?t happening!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ? NUFF SAID!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, November 28, 2008
8:36 PM (Pacific)
I HAVE PHOTOS!!! But ? I changed photo #1 and added another photo and now, none can be seen, I guess this will take 48 hours for the Collarme.com censors and screeners to review and approve my photos.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Sometimes the odds are against one ? today, I got out early around 7:45 AM and went on a nice slightly challenging two mile power walk, then I went to the gym and did 30 minutes of walking on the tread mill, sometimes with the elevation up to 9% and 10% ? then did about 50 minutes of non-stop upper body weight training with a mixture of free weights and machines ? everything is going well, even my left foot?s chronic Plantar Fasciitis problem did not flare up and I did not aggravate my back or my knees. All is well .. then I got too enthusiastic at the end of my workout and did with 60 lbs dumb bells what I usually do with 45 pounders; left there and ended on the butterfly machine using AND then damn! I either pulled a muscle or pinched a nerve from the top of my back into my neck! Caramba!! Lots of cursing & praying and plenty of stretching, hot packs and a couple of anti-inflamatory pills forced upon me by a friendly & helpful lady and it is not too bad now ? but as the night cools down and I sit at this computer, it stiffens up and hurts some ? I can tell I need some deep heating rub ointment and on Sunday, a good professional massage at the spa is required. Mr.B
Saturday, November 22, 2008
10:55 PM (Pacific Standard)
YES!! Barack Obama is the president-elect ? for this I am most thankful, especially after the George W. Bush ?nightmare? & ?disaster? BUT after the Obama victory generated massive creative celebrations, unheard of mass exuberance and emotional joy seen throughout the United States and internationally ? one is reminded that the death threats against him have multiplied and he required more Secret Service protection than any other presidential candidate.
YES! It is a sobering thought to remember that today is the anniversary of President John F. Kennedy?s violent death when he was assassinated by gunshots on November 22, 1963.
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, October 27, 2007
6:14 PM (Pacific)
The Health & Fitness Vacation in Utah
Well ? I have returned from a most interesting and different type of vacation. After spending a couple of days in Las Vegas, spent seven days at a health & fitness resort in southern Utah, which featured long hard-core hikes in the hills and mountains. There was plenty of gym time with weights, treadmills, and cycles and other exercise contraptions ? and lots of aquatic aerobic, cardiac and muscle building in the pool. This was a daily six to seven hours of constant movement, breathing and sweating ? and suffering ~~ smile~~~
They did all of this while limiting us to a controlled diet of three meals per day of a maximum of 1200 daily calories intake (with no sugar, caffeine or fats)!!! NOTE: The average American Male needs at least 1400 ? 1800 calories per day. The average American man probably eats over 4000 calories per day.
Funny thing ? by the afternoon, I was tired and exhausted; BUT I enjoyed it and met some really great people. I also learned much about my capacities.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Thursday, October 16, 2008
9:00 AM (Pacific)
To Whom It May Concern:
? and other interested parties; please know that I shall be out of state in Las Vegas, Nevada and then in the state of Utah between Friday, October 17 and Sunday, October 26. During that period, I shall be offline and not on Collarme.com. I should return to Collarme.com on Monday, October 27.
Just because the big dog is away, does not mean all the little kitty cats are authorized to disobey and stray away to play. ~~ smile ~~
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, October 01, 2008
11:48 AM (Pacific)
Sometimes I can be an ornery and cantankerous ?old man? when something interrupts my plans or I am being encouraged to do something that I am not necessarily excited about. For example, I love live theatre, concerts and dance productions BUT, I hate going unless I get ideal seats ? up close near the center with an aisle seat for me!
Anyway, last week Saturday I attended the La Jolla Playhouse and saw the live theatrical production of ?Memphis? ? I had perfect center seats on aisle! That was damn near the best live theater I have seen in many years, excellent actors & actresses, the singing was perfect and the costumes, scenery, orchestra and technical aspects were just right. The stage manager and his/her back stage crew were perfect as they changed the sets and set up each new scene!
Sunday, I caught spike Lee?s new film about the Buffalo Soldiers (black American troops) who fought in Italy during World War II ? it is called the ?Miracle of Saint Ann? (or something like that). Spike did a damn good job directing. NO! It is not a ?black movie? ? there were many white American and Italian actors & actresses playing major roles. Often it had English sub-titles as the Germans and Italians spoke their native tongue, so to speak.
Sunday evening, I went to the live dance production, ?So You Think You Can Dance?? ? I thought I had lousy seats (bought the ticket three days after they went on sale). The top 12 dancers (plus one) from the actual TV reality show starred and performed. I hate the Sports Area for anything but ice hockey, but there I was in a major traffic jam (taking 25 minutes to go about 2 to 3 miles) on a pleasant Sunday evening in San Diego ? then paying $20 to park at the Sports Area!! The lady with me brought binoculars just in case ? must be nose bleed seats right? Hot damn!! I lucked out ? we had the second row in a balcony relatively close to the stage and I had an aisle seat! The view was perfect and I only used the binoculars to get a very graphic view of some of the almost naked female dancers. All in all, it was a good B+ production ? the drive home was not bad once I escaped all the damn morons near in the parking lot and within six blocks of the damn Sporting Arena.
The best news is ? I almost had to go to New Jersey for three days of business ? and I avoided it!! Hip Hip Hooray!!!
Mr.B in San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
5:50 PM
To Whom It May Concern:
? and other interested parties; please know that I shall be in Kansas City, Missouri between Thursday, September 18 and Monday, September 22. During that period, I shall be offline and not on Collarme.com. I should return to Collarme.com on Tuesday, September 23.
Just because the big dog is away, does not mean all the little kitty cats are authorized to disobey and stray away to play. ~~ smile ~~
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
4:58 PM (Pacific)
Today, September 9, is my birthday BUT hold the applause and do not shower me with gifts ? I am waiting to celebrate big time in 2009, when my birth date shall be 09/09/09 ? YES! Next years shall be a once in a lifetime! Mr.B
Thursday, September 04, 2008
4:54 PM (Pacific)
The article below was first entered in my journal on Monday, July 21, 2008 at 2:33 PM (Pacific). However, it has got lost in some later articles and so I am moving it to the top, so it is easier to access.
Subject: The Rights and Needs of Slaves
This often comes up and there are many opinions regarding whether or not a slave within the BDSM realm has any rights or needs that her Owner/Master must meet. As everyone agrees, for the most part, the slave is like chattel or property the way one may own and use a vehicle or animal. However, this is not 1808, this is 2008 and real slavery is outlawed in the United States, and as such, Dominants who own, control and use slaves within the BDSM realm must protect themselves and their submissive slave.
First, in today?s America, the Master & slave relationship is going to be governed by ?contract? law and remains legal and valid as long as no one is killed or gets seriously injured or held against their will. Among the agreements to be discussed are limitations and how to dispose of, manage or confiscate the slave's property, assets, money, income and other valuables.
Second, the relationship must be between mentally competent adults who are both at least 18 years old and are able to think and consider their options and make rational decisions based upon their needs and desires and their understanding of the agreement they have with the other person. As they make these agreements, they must be free from coercion, threats of harm and unlawful fraudulent deceit and unfair manipulation. It is preferred that the submissive slave not be in desperate and destitute circumstances, and that she freely chooses to surrender her free will and be owned and controlled by a Dominant Master to whom she gives complete power and authority over her.
Third, both parties must agree on the slave?s limitations and the types of services the slave agrees to provide. The last thing a Master wants or needs is to have the police busting down his door based on a 911 call or complaint that he is holding a young woman against her will and forcing her to do all types of outrageous, perverted and painful things. Trust me, no man wants to be reading about these kinds of ?misdeeds? in the newspaper or watching it on the local news with his name and photo attached. The police report and criminal complaint filed in court is no fun either.
RIGHTS: YES! Within the BDSM realm, once a woman agrees to be enslaved by a Dominant Master, then she is like his property and she surrenders all power, authority and control and offer her services, talents and body to do with as he pleases. However, as a slave, she still has the right to have her life, health, safety, security and sanity protected and she has the right to not be subjected to unlawful activities and not be forced into prostitution. The slave has the right to not knowingly be exposed to life threatening infectious diseases or subjected to sadistic abuse or deliberate negligence that causes her to suffer a severe harmful injury. The slave has the right to be provided shelter, sustenance and medical attention and first aid, as may be required. How you meet these rights are up to the adults involved in the BDSM relationship. Some Masters require the slave to work outside the home and earn the money for their care and health care benefits.
NEEDS: YES! It is true; slaves have needs also. The following is an imperfect list, but it is a good start:
First and foremost, she needs to know what is expected of her and what type of services that you need for her to perform on a routine basis
She needs to know the rules, protocols, guidelines, etiquettes, dress style, grooming, sanitation, personal hygiene standards and type of communications you demand from her
The slave needs the opportunity to serve, submit, obey and be subjugated by her Master; the slave needs to feel owned, controlled & enslaved; and she needs to be able to please, amuse and satisfy the needs, cravings and proclivities of her Master; she needs to be found pleasing
She must know what her domestic duties and household chores are
The slave must know how to behave and respond when out in public with her Master ? there should not be awkward confusion about who sits where in a restaurant or theatre, and how she must behave when a ?vanilla? business associate approaches and needs to talk to you
She needs to know what will cause her to be punished, and what will make her Master happy, pleased, satisfied and content
The slave needs intense obedience training, strict discipline, strong control and instruction regarding her lifestyle of slavery while she is enslaved, from her Master?s point of view
She must be taught about domestic discipline and corporal punishment and have a full understanding as to what that means
The slave needs to know her Master?s particular kinky proclivities, deviant sexual perversions and the types of role playing, body worship, taboo pleasures and sadistic tortures that give her Master amusement, pleasure and enjoyment
Before a Master relocates a slave and moves her into his home, the slave needs to know if she shall be in a ?poly? household with other slaves and also if there are underage children in a household (and disapproving spouses); the slave needs to know about tobacco smoking, pets (snakes, cats and dogs etc.) and other annoying things that may aggravate her allergies and/or scare the sh*t out of her
Most slaves (but not all), need to feel respected, appreciated, valued and cherished; they expect punishments when they have misdeeds and are lazy and negligent or provide poor service; BUT ? many slaves also need and crave compliments, rewards, gifts, praise, treats and a pleasant recognition from their Master when they are very good and provide outstanding services or have their limits ?willingly? stretched above and beyond previous agreements ... a pat on the head and smile would not hurt either
Last but not least ? some slaves need aftercare when they have been subjected to some very challenging, prolonged, intense and exhausting sadistic tortures or hard-core sexual usage sessions ? aftercare may take many forms
That is this Sir?s humble opinion
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
11:11 AM (Pacific)
YES!!! Last night Sen. Hillary Clinton gave a great speech and got it right! Granted she should have taken the next step and more aggressively criticized the Bush-Chaney-McCain totalitarian right wing ultraconservative regime with their arrogant ?blustering? militaristic foreign policies and incompetent, uncaring pro-rich & big business only domestic policies, and ?healthy earth hostile? policies BUT ? it was an excellent and unifying speech. I expect former President Bill Clinton to follow with more support for Sen. Barack Obama and a more aggressive approach towards the Bush-Chaney-McCain totalitarian regime.
YES! I am a strong supporter of Sen. Barack Obama for President.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
August 8, 2008
Today is the eighth day of the eighth month of the eighth year of this century. You will never see this date again ? 08/08/08 ? unless, you live to be at least 118 years old! Enjoy, the once in a century day ? too bad eight is not my number.
I, the Penis, hereby request a raise in salary for the following reasons:
I do exhausting and demanding physical labor, which causes a significant rise in my blood pressure. I work at great depths. I plunge headfirst into everything I do. As a matter of fact, there are many days when I am very excited, enthused and raring to get to work, when I am told that management will not allow any work at that time. This is very confusing and really unfair to me when on other occasions I am told that I lack adequate performance and show no initiative.
I do not get weekends or public holidays off (I am expected to put in uncompensated extra work on those days). I am required to work in a very dark workplace in a damp environment, which is often very confining. My primary functions cause me to work in tight spaces that have poor ventilation and are usually filled with very pungent ?foul? suffocating odors. I work in high temperatures. In all candor, there are a few days each month when the internal work environment is particularly ?unpleasant? and would definitely not meet federal or state occupational health and safety standards.
As you know, my work can subject me to unpleasant health ailments unique to this job; and it is known that those who perform this work are often exposed to contagious diseases, some of which are debilitating with long term negative effects and others are incurable and quite lethal, especially if not quickly diagnosed and provided the best medical treatment available. I have no workers compensation insurance.
Sincerely,
P. Niss
The Worker
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Management?s response:
Dear P. Niss:
After assessing your request, and considering the arguments you have raised, the administration rejects your request for the following reasons:
You do not work 8 hours straight;
you rarely are able to perform your primary functions for longer than 15 to 30 minutes before you become dysfunctional and require a significant rest and recuperation period
You often fall asleep after brief work periods
You do not always follow the guidance and desires of the management team
You are often in a rush and usually neglect the recommended and preferred preliminary duties, which not only make your work easier, but also guarantee a more satisfactory performance
You rarely take the initiative - you need to be pressured, coaxed and stimulated in order to start working and meet your responsibilities
Sometimes you report to work without having washed; management prefers you to be fresh, cleaned and well groomed before you show up ; by the way, what makes you think you can go in the backdoor and ?fuck around? and then just want to come around front and get busy before you clean your ?nasty? ass off! This is totally UNACCEPTABLE and a clear violation of the safety & health requirements!
As a matter of fact, there are occasions in which you are unable to rise to the task., and you just cannot handle your business!
Management is having a difficult time getting you to accept advanced technology and new methods and more creative strategies that provide much better performance
You leave the workplace rather messy at the end of your shift, and management always has to clean up behind you, because you are often too lazy, too exhausted or too inconsiderate
For unknown reasons, your concentration, attention to detail and performance really suffer when one of your favorite sports teams lose!!
You don't always observe necessary safety regulations, such as wearing the correct protective clothing & equipment
You are unable to work double shifts
You are not a team player; management has offered to bring in other talented and experienced men and women to pick up where you have failed, and you absolutely refuse
You do not stay in your designated assigned work area, and you are often caught trying to penetrate secured off-limits locations, without prior authority
There are reports that you are seeking similar work elsewhere and that you are submitting proposals to others
Loyalty and honesty are valuable requirements for management and lately you seem distracted and uninterested; there are questions regarding your ability to be satisfied with your current place of work
You will retire well before you are 65, and workers such as you begin having significant performance problems by the time they are 45
You sometimes leave your designated work area before you have satisfactorily completed the assigned tasks ? And ?
If that were not all, you have been seen constantly entering and exiting the workplace carrying two suspicious-looking bags.
We shall continue to evaluate your work performance, attention to detail, attitude towards your current work assignment and your willingness to take initiative, perform the preferred preliminary functions before rushing into the depths and to give management priority. There will be further close observation and evaluation regarding the reports and suspicions that you are seeking work away from current management. If it is determined that you are ?moonlighting? elsewhere, you shall be dismissed and denied any future work opportunities or benefits at this site. Please feel free to submit another request in six months.
Sincerely,
V. Gina
The Management
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
1:20 PM (Pacific)
A little humor always goes a long way ? and takes the edge off!
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Subject: Are my Testicles Black?
A male patient is lying in bed in the hospital, wearing an oxygen mask over his mouth and nose. A young student nurse shows up to give him a partial sponge bath. "Nurse," he mumbles, from behind the mask, "Are my testicles black?" Embarrassed, the young nurse replies, "I don't know sir. I'm only here to wash your upper body and feet."
He struggles to ask again, "Nurse please check. Are my testicles black?" Concerned that he may elevate his blood pressure and heart rate from worry about his testicles, she overcomes her embarrassment and pulls back the covers. She raises his gown, grabs his penis in one hand and his testicles in the other. Then, she takes a close look and carefully examines his genitals and scrotum; then she says, "There's nothing wrong with them sir!"
The man pulls off his oxygen mask, smiles at her and says very slowly, "Thank you very much. That was wonderful! But listen, very closely ??. Are - my - test - results - back????
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Subject: The Baptist cowboy
A cowboy, who is visiting Wyoming from Texas, walks into a bar and orders three mugs of Bud. He sits in the back of the room, drinking a sip out of each one in turn. When he finishes them, he comes back to the bar and orders three more.
The bartender approaches and tells the cowboy, ?You know, a mug goes flat after I draw it. It would taste better if you bought one at a time.? The cowboy replies, ?Well, you see, I have two brothers. One is in Arizona, the other is in Colorado. When we all left our home in Texas, we promised that we'd drink this way to remember the days when we drank together. So, I'm drinking one beer for each of my brothers and one for myself.?
The bartender admits that this is a nice custom, and leaves it there.
The cowboy becomes a regular in the bar, and always drinks the same way. He orders three mugs and drinks them in turn. One day, he comes in and only orders two mugs. All the regulars take notice and fall silent. When he comes back to the bar for the second round, the bartender says, ?I don't want to intrude on your grief, but I wanted to offer my condolences on your loss.?
The cowboy looks quite puzzled for a moment, then a light dawns in his eyes and he laughs.
He realizes they think one of his brothers died. ?Oh, no, everybody's just fine,? he explains, ?It's just that my wife and I joined the BaptistChurch, and I had to quit drinking.? ?Hasn't affected my brothers though.?
Monday, July 21, 2008
2:33 AM (Pacific)
Subject: The Rights and Needs of Slaves
This often comes up and there are many opinions regarding whether or not a slave within the BDSM realm has any rights or needs that her Owner/Master must meet. As everyone agrees, for the most part, the slave is like chattel or property the way one may own and use a vehicle or animal. However, this is not 1808, this is 2008 and real slavery is outlawed in the United States, and as such, Dominants who own, control and use slaves within the BDSM realm must protect themselves and their submissive slave.
First, in today?s America, the Master & slave relationship is going to be governed by ?contract? law and remains legal and valid as long as no one is killed or gets seriously injured or held against their will. Among the agreements to be discussed are limitations and how to dispose of, manage or confiscate the slave's property, assets, money, income and other valuables.
Second, the relationship must be between mentally competent adults who are both at least 18 years old and are able to think and consider their options and make rational decisions based upon their needs and desires and their understanding of the agreement they have with the other person. As they make these agreements, they must be free from coercion, threats of harm and unlawful fraudulent deceit and unfair manipulation. It is preferred that the submissive slave not be in desperate and destitute circumstances, and that she freely chooses to surrender her free will and be owned and controlled by a Dominant Master to whom she gives complete power and authority over her.
Third, both parties must agree on the slave?s limitations and the types of services the slave agrees to provide. The last thing a Master wants or needs is to have the police busting down his door based on a 911 call or complaint that he is holding a young woman against her will and forcing her to do all types of outrageous, perverted and painful things. Trust me, no man wants to be reading about these kinds of ?misdeeds? in the newspaper or watching it on the local news with his name and photo attached. The police report and criminal complaint filed in court is no fun either.
RIGHTS: YES! Within the BDSM realm, once a woman agrees to be enslaved by a Dominant Master, then she is like his property and she surrenders all power, authority and control and offer her services, talents and body to do with as he pleases. However, as a slave, she still has the right to have her life, health, safety, security and sanity protected and she has the right to not be subjected to unlawful activities and not be forced into prostitution. The slave has the right to not knowingly be exposed to life threatening infectious diseases or subjected to sadistic abuse or deliberate negligence that causes her to suffer a severe harmful injury. The slave has the right to be provided shelter, sustenance and medical attention and first aid, as may be required. How you meet these rights are up to the adults involved in the BDSM relationship. Some Masters require the slave to work outside the home and earn the money for their care and health care benefits.
NEEDS: YES! It is true; slaves have needs also. The following is an imperfect list, but it is a good start:
First and foremost, she needs to know what is expected of her and what type of services that you need for her to perform on a routine basis
She needs to know the rules, protocols, guidelines, etiquettes, dress style, grooming, sanitation, personal hygiene standards and type of communications you demand from her
The slave needs the opportunity to serve, submit, obey and be subjugated by her Master; the slave needs to feel owned, controlled & enslaved; and she needs to be able to please, amuse and satisfy the needs, cravings and proclivities of her Master; she needs to be found pleasing
She must know what her domestic duties and household chores are
The slave must know how to behave and respond when out in public with her Master ? there should not be awkward confusion about who sits where in a restaurant or theatre, and how she must behave when a ?vanilla? business associate approaches and needs to talk to you
She needs to know what will cause her to be punished, and what will make her Master happy, pleased, satisfied and content
The slave needs intense obedience training, strict discipline, strong control and instruction regarding her lifestyle of slavery while she is enslaved, from her Master?s point of view
She must be taught about domestic discipline and corporal punishment and have a full understanding as to what that means
The slave needs to know her Master?s particular kinky proclivities, deviant sexual perversions and the types of role playing, body worship, taboo pleasures and sadistic tortures that give her Master amusement, pleasure and enjoyment
Before a Master relocates a slave and moves her into his home, the slave needs to know if she shall be in a ?poly? household with other slaves and also if there are underage children in a household (and disapproving spouses); the slave needs to know about tobacco smoking, pets (snakes, cats and dogs etc.) and other annoying things that may aggravate her allergies and/or scare the sh*t out of her
Most slaves (but not all), need to feel respected, appreciated, valued and cherished; they expect punishments when they have misdeeds and are lazy and negligent or provide poor service; BUT ? many slaves also need and crave compliments, rewards, gifts, praise, treats and a pleasant recognition from their Master when they are very good and provide outstanding services or have their limits ?willingly? stretched above and beyond previous agreements ... a pat on the head and smile would not hurt either
Last but not least ? some slaves need aftercare when they have been subjected to some very challenging, prolonged, intense and exhausting sadistic tortures or hard-core sexual usage sessions ? aftercare may take many forms
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, June 27, 2008
10:59 AM (California USA time)
To whom it may concern and other interested parties; especially those who enjoy the more hard-core extreme end of sadomasochistic enslavement with severe torture, degrading humiliations and painful & invasive tortures. All Dominant Sadists must be wary and careful when you decide to subject a so called ?slave? to the more extreme forms of servitude, punishments and slavery. It is very important that there be a negotiated agreement and full understanding up front. Some use contracts to protect themselves ? this often works.
Today, I am not talking about when a Dominant or Master gets careless and makes a mistake and goes too far and seriously injures or harms a ?slave? ? no, I am talking about when the relationship ?sours? and the so called ?slave? is angry at her Master and runs to law enforcement. Perhaps not very probable, but still possible even within the BDSM realm. Often when I communicate with a self-described pain-loving masochistic ?slave? who claims to crave the most extreme forms of BDSM play & torture and intensive physically invasive medical procedures. I am very cautious even before initial training. Often I include language such as the following in some of my messages:
Allextreme submissive ones and slavesknow and understand that eventually their limits must be expanded and their threshold for pain, bondage, humiliations and forceful ?kinky? perverted sexual penetrations shall be challenged and stretched. Therefore you, as the acknowledged & self-proclaimed masochistic hard-core pain-slut submissive slave, must agree that nothing that I, the sadistic Dominant Master, shall do to you may be characterized by you as criminal misconduct, physical assault & battery, false imprisonment, illegal detention, unlawful domestic abuse, hate crime, sexual assault or rape.I shall keep you healthy and alive BUT, when my sadistic nature is aroused, I can be very demanding, depraved, forceful, perverted, dehumanizing and sadistic ///
Below is an interesting piece of journalism taken from the ?vanilla? world. I have followed this case for awhile. The actions of this couple is similar to what a Dominant Sadist may subject a masochistic enslaved woman to within the ?vanilla? world. YES ? I have met BDSM slaves who would consider this ?mild? abuse, but ? who knows how the ball bounces and where it lands, especially when relationships fall apart and end in acrimony and bitterness.
Prison for Woman Who Enslaved Maids
AP
Posted: 2008-06-27 11:02:43
Filed Under: Crime News, Nation News
CENTRAL ISLIP, N.Y. (June 26) - A millionaire who inflicted years of abuse on two Indonesian housekeepers held as virtual slaves in her Long Island mansion was sentenced Thursday to 11 years in prison.
Varsha Sabhnani, 46, was convicted with her husband in December on a 12-count federal indictment that included forced labor, conspiracy, involuntary servitude and harboring aliens.
The trial provided a glimpse into a growing U.S. problem of domestic workers exploited in slave-like conditions.
The victims testified that they were beaten with brooms and umbrellas, slashed with knives, and forced to climb stairs and take freezing showers as punishment. One victim was forced to eat dozens of chili peppers against her will, and then was forced to eat her own vomit when she couldn't keep the peppers down, prosecutors said.
U.S. District Judge Arthur Spatt called the testimony "eye-opening, to say the least - that things like that go on in our country."
"In her arrogance, she treated Samirah and Enung as less than people," said Assistant U.S. Attorney Demetri Jones. "Justice for the victims: That's what the government is asking for."
Federal sentencing guidelines had recommended a range of 12 to 15 years in prison for Sabhnani, who was identified as the one who inflicted the abuse. In addition to prison, she will serve three years' probation and was fined $25,000.
"I just want to say that I love my children very much," the defendant told the court as two of her grown children looked on. "I was brought to this Earth to help people who are in need."
Mahender Sabhnani, 51, who is free on bail while awaiting his own Friday sentencing, wept as he watched his wife's punishment pronounced.
He was charged with the same crimes because he allowed the conduct to take place and benefited from the work the women performed in his home, prosecutors said. He is expected to receive a much shorter prison term.
Prosecutors contended the accusations amounted to a "modern-day slavery" case. They said the maids were subjected to "punishment that escalated into a cruel form of torture," which ended in May 2007, when one of the women fled early on the morning of Mother's Day. She wandered into a Dunkin' Donuts wearing nothing but rags, and employees called police.
"This did not happen in the 1800s," Assistant U.S. Attorney Mark Lesko said during the trial. "This happened in the 21st century. This happened in Muttontown, N.Y."
The women, whose relatives in Indonesia were paid about $100 a month - the women themselves received no cash - said they were tortured and beaten for misdeeds that included sleeping late or stealing food from trash bins because they were poorly fed. Both women also said they were forced to sleep on mats in the kitchen.
Spatt postponed a decision on the amount of back wages owed to the women. Prosecutors suggested the women were due more than $1.1 million, while defense attorneys said the figure should be much lower. The couple also face fines and could be forced to forfeit their home, which is valued at almost $2 million. Mahender Sabhnani ran a lucrative international perfume business out of a home office.
One of the women arrived in the Sabhnanis' Muttontown home in 2002; the second in 2005. Their passports and other travel documents were immediately confiscated by the Sabhnanis, the women testified.
The defense, which intends to appeal, contended the two women concocted the story as a way of escaping the house for more lucrative opportunities. They also argued the housekeepers practiced witchcraft and may have abused themselves as part of a self-mutilation ritual.
Defense attorney Jeffrey Hoffman said 175 letters were submitted to the court detailing Sabhnani's charitable acts around the world. He called her "a woman who spent a lifetime doing good deeds."
Hoffman said that around 2004 or 2005, Sabhnani's weight plummeted from 325 pounds to 135. "She did it by starving herself," and that resulted in a chemical imbalance and significant malnourishment. "She had become a very different person."
"I think it's very harsh," Hoffman said after the sentencing. "She has suffered dramatically."
Copyright 2008 The Associated Press. The information contained in the AP news report may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or otherwise distributed without the prior written authority of The Associated Press.
2008-06-27 09:01:53
Friday, June 06, 2008
7:55 PM (Pacific)
OK ? for the member who wished to know why CBT is a ?hard limit? and the other member who inquired as to what CBT was, I offer the following response. The acronym ?CBT? means cock & ball torture training in regular BDSM parlance. CBT involves all manner of sadomasochistic activities ? some quiet hard-core and extreme to the point of causing serious temporary or long term injury or infection.
Being a Dominant, I shall not be willingly allowing anyone to subject me to such torture and I have no desire to torture myself in such a manner. Many years ago, when I was about 20, I had surgery and could not provide sufficient post surgical void ? in other words, I did not urinate to the doctor?s satisfaction, even though my bladder was bursting. The decision was made to insert a catheter in me to relieve the pressure ? I could not be released until I voided so many centimeters of urine and also had a good healthy defecation (sh*t). I was having problems with both. They solved the latter, but not the former ? yet. I shared a room with a man who looked to be about 40 and he had his leg hung up in a sling and was in much discomfort. He asked if I had ever had a catheter before ? I said ? no, and I have no idea. That son-of-a-bitch disconnected himself and grabbed crutches and hobbled off out of the room as he said, ?Good luck, grit your teeth and hang-on, but I do not want to witness this? ?
This young guy in a lab coat comes in and wants to push this long thick tube up my penis into the bladder and he wants me to lay perfectly still and not touch anything or he will have to start over again ? lets just say that when Mr. Lab Coat got it in about 1.5? ? I grabbed him and we had a brief and yet powerfully honest ?come to Jesus? conversation regarding how much pain & discomfort I would bear before, he also suffered. His skill, talent and bed side manner improved immensely and when he achieved full success, the dam broke and I gushed gallons and was glad!! Although, for the next three to five days, it burned whenever I urinated ? that I hated.
As a straight man, I avoid training male slaves or male submissives ? I definitely have no desire to handle another male?s genitals even if being done in a non-sexual and almost clinical and sanitary conditions including the use of medical latex or rubber gloves. Many years ago, there used to be Wesson Oil parties ? simple ? about 15 to 30 young men and ladies get together and got drunk and/or got high and then stripped nude and with the lights down low to almost darkness, people applied Wesson cooking oil to themselves and each other and every one frolicked around and fondled, kissed & f*cked as best they could ? it was slippery and crazy and half the time you could not figure out who was whom and whether or not you were enjoying an erotic romp with the one you desired and sought ... sometimes a particular tryst involved three or five slippery bodies ? it was lots of ?innocent? fun BUT I was always concerned about making sure that I did not accidentally have a homosexual moment.
In my life, I have known, associated with and socialized with female hermaphrodites, and known transgender males who have not completed the final surgery but look, speak, act, dress, behave and live like a beautiful, sexy & feminine natural born woman (some have the real breasts) ? even using the ladies rest rooms. But, I digress ? Ok ? nuff said! Regarding the gross and sordid details of CBT ? if someone really needs more details ? write me ? not bite, write!~~~ smile ~~~
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Saturday, May 31, 2008
10:24 PM (Pacific)
What is 'Beauty' ... Every Dominant prefers a slave or submissive that he considers beautiful, sexy and physically attractive BUT remember three things:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder --- Each Dominant has his own concept of what he may consider beautiful sexy and attractive ? therefore, just because in the ?vanilla? world men are begging for the pleasure of your company and putting you on a pedestal and throwing money, jewelry and material things at you to win your attention and affection ? that does not mean that all Dominant men find you attractive ? I do not give a damn about you being a "pretty girl." Btw ? word of advise for the southern California girls; not all Dominants find super skinny anorexic looking Barbie doll types with the platinum blonde hair and narrow ?boyish? looking hips, flat butts and too thin weak wobbly-looking legs, and overly big fake breast implants and plastic ?Hollywood? personalities to be 'attractive.'
Beauty is as beauty does --- Attractive physical attributes such as a beautiful face and a sexy physique are great, BUT once you are found to be dishonest, untruthful and not trustworthy and especially if you are discovered to be one of many fake wannabes or manipulating criminal scammers trying to unethically and unlawfully separate a man from his cash ? your beauty turns to dog feces and your desirability value is equivalent to that of last week?s newspaper used to scoop up the previously mentioned dog sh*t!
Beauty is relative in the BDSM realm --- When a genuine Dominant or Master seeks a submissive or slave ? YES!! It is nice to find a real ?hottie? ? however, if the beautiful woman is neither submissive nor slave and not even a ?switch? then you cannot meet his needs and cravings! This is not some sort of ?vanilla? dating service like: adultfriendfinder.com. In the long term, it is your character, demeanor, attitude, behavior, maturity, self-discipline, honesty and natural submissiveness and compliant subservience that matters most ? and not your beauty. It is your honest deep-seated desire to surrender your control and submit before and accept the authority, discipline and training of a serious Dominant that matters most. If your new found Master is an extreme hard-core sadist then your ability, capacity and willingness to be subjected to hard-core forceful sexual penetration and to accept severe & painful sadistic torture, extreme humiliations and strict discipline and harsh punishments that makes you desirable. ///
Remember that each and every Dominant has different tastes and unique cravings and a so called ?sexy beauty? may be shocked to discover that not everyone is desperate for her attention especially if she has few other non-physical characteristics, talents, qualities and attributes that make her attractive.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
YES!! I AM BACK ?
AND YES ?
VANCOUVER, BRITISH COLUMBIA, CANADA WAS GREAT!!!
Mr.B
Monday, May 5, 2008
4:35 PM (Pacific)
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN AND OTHERS THAT MAY BE INTERESTED. I SHALL BE IN VANCOUVER, CANADA BETWEEN WEDNESDAY, MAY 7 AND MONDAY, MAY 12 ? I SHALL NOT BE ONLINE OR ON COLLARME.COM
Have a good day!
Mr.B
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
11:09 AM (Pacific)
Well ? more significant on this web-site than politics, it is important to offer opinions and discussion regarding matters of importance to members of the BDSM community and others interested and curious about this lifestyle. I in the last few days I have had questions and inquiries regarding my definition of speech restrictions. As usual, I have a written guideline on this subject, which is critical during obedience training sessions as well as throughout a Dominant & submissive (or Master & slave) relationship.
My speech restrictions include: (1) Free Speech Time, (2) Silent Time & (3) Request for Voice.
Free Speech Time
This is the period of time when Master and His submissive partner engage in an unregulated and free flowing conversation in which both discuss a range of topics and question and answer each other and even debate topics of concern or interest. It is relaxed and ?easy going? type speech that is similar in nature to normal talk that family members, business colleagues, college chums, friends or lovers in the ?vanilla? world would engage in. The only regulations are that the submissive is required to:
Be respectful and address Master in accordance with approved protocol, proper salutations, acceptable titles & names and appropriate courtesies
Never bring up challenges to agreed upon rules, protocols, conduct or previous decisions of significance that the Master has made firm decisions on or to try to change the nature of the previously agreed upon ?limitations? or ?expectations;? such discussions must be brought up under a request for ?voice? on a matter; for example, Master and submissive one may debate the Iraqi war & occupation or discuss what movie to see BUT the submissive may not use this free speech time to discuss shaving her genital areas and changing the grooming standard, not may she use free speech time to try to change the name Master assigned to her
Never use profane or negative racist terms to address Master or subject Him to abusive profanity and out of control yelling
Never refer to herself using superior terms or names or grant herself titles that would place her on the same level as her Master or suggest any superiority to your Dominant Partner or Master
Never become hostile, excessively loud and obnoxious for no good reason
In all speech (written or oral) with Master follow proper protocol and respect as expected and use language, tones, a type of voice, styles of speaking and nouns or pronouns that show humility, modesty and meekness on her part and shows respect and honor to her Master
Free speech time ends when Master determines it must end
Silent Time (aka Period of Silence)
This is a period when the submissive one may not speak at all unless Master asks a direct question or seeks some type of verbal response on a matter. Then she must make a quick, respectful and brief response and then immediately be silent again. Under no condition may she speak except by first requesting permission from her Master, and the subject of her speech request must fall into the categories of health, illness, safety, security or impending danger or humiliating exposure or risk of possible arrest by public safety or law enforcement officers. The need to go to the rest room must also be requested, if she is in bathroom regulation training time. In order to speak, she must be respectful and formal in her request, by saying, ?Sir/Master/Mr.B your submissive one (or slave) requests permission to speak on an urgent matter of health, Sir.? Or ?Sir/Master/Mr.B your submissive one (or slave) requests permission to speak on an urgent matter of safety, Sir.?
Request for Voice
This is when the submissive one does desire to raise issues or express her disagreement with a matter of significance that her Master has already made a firm decision on or both have previously agreed to and it is part of the original understanding, as amended. In order to have ?voice? on matters on which you have not been previously granted authority or ?privilege,? you should calmly & respectfully say words to this effect, ?Master, I acknowledge your authority in this matter of concern to me and I accept your control and appreciate Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding in these matters; but I respectfully and humbly request you grant me the privilege of ?voice? on the following matter of ?? Then the submissive one or slave waits patiently for the approved ?voice? unless it is a real emergency. The Master may decide to grant ?voice? with limits or agree to allow voice but delay until another later time.
Master shall grant the submissive one or slave the privilege of significant control and ?voice? in many areas that are vital to her health, fitness, wellness, safety, security, academic education, career, professional success, employment opportunities, financial & business success, community reputation, positive family relationships and any risk of humiliating & harmful public ridicule and scorn. The only other exceptions are in matters of health, illness, safety, security or impending danger or humiliating exposure or risk of possible arrest by public safety or law enforcement officers.
In essence the term ?voice? simply means approved permission to speak on a matter. It normally refers to the submissive one requesting the right or privilege of speaking on particular sensitive matters or expressing disagreement with her Master. As has been explained previously, even during periods of silence, the submissive one may seek ?voice? when it is an emergency regarding health, normal bodily functions, safety and security and urgency is required. ?Voice? is always raised in a respectful manner when permission is sought or when the submissive one exercises her previously approved ?voice? over certain subjects. ///
It is a punishable violation and the submissive one or slave may lose favor and fall into displeasure with her Dominant-Master, if she is disrespectful, rude, obnoxious, loud & hostile or profane. Racist and ethnocentric slurs are not tolerated and grounds for immediate punishment, release and/or abandonment. None of this type of conduct is approved or appropriate and shall not be tolerated under any circumstances.
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April1, 2008
1:24 PM (Pacific)
After a recent debate following all the focus on elected officials and other public personalities purchasing the services of prostitutes, I post the following:
I think that we waste too much time, energy, money and law enforcement resources pursuing johns & hookers. In my opinion, prostitution, the oldest profession, should be decriminalized and regulated by state and county public health officers. These public health offices should have the authority to license and collect quarterly fees from prostitutes and mandate routine periodic public health & infection control examinations on a monthly basis in order to prevent and control HIV infection, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, HPV and other venereal or sexually transmitted diseases as well as TB, mononucleosis and Hepatitis. They can also license, inspect and regulate licensed houses of prostitution and brothels, and establish standards for such businesses. The prostitutes would be required to pay taxes and file their taxes each year.
As you may know, state and county public health officers have the authority and police powers to detain, confine and quarantine anyone with a seriously infectious disease who does not cooperate with health officials and/or refuses or is unable to follow the mandated medical treatment and especially if the individual behaves socially in an irresponsible and careless manner that may pose a direct threat to unsuspecting individuals and the public in general. Local police and county sheriffs assist public health officers identify, locate and detain such persons.
The state, county and municipalities can adopt statutes and ordinances with guidelines for where these licensed prostitutes, call girls and escorts may practice their trade and where houses of prostitution and brothels may be located. State legislatures may establish the age requirements for those in the trade and those who purchase their services the way they do with ?adult? entertainment performers and the sale and purchase of ?adult? sex products, videos and materials as well as alcohol and tobacco products.
Trust me the ?hookers? would help to police those illegally practicing the trade without a license or without the proper current medical certificates; they need to eliminate the competition.
This is this Sir?s humble opinion
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
April 1, 2008
10:21 AM (Pacific)
Today is April Fools Day!! Does this mean that today all of the unreal wannabes, fakes, frauds, phonies and manipulating unethical criminal types take a rest from their deviousness & lying and either stay off line or be truthful, honest and sincere for one day ? today? After all they fool and mislead people all year long. Will all the unreal wannabes, fakes, frauds, phonies and manipulating unethical criminal types give us a break and take a holiday today!
Thanks!
Mr.B
Thursday, March 06, 2008
2:55 PM (Pacific)
I always explain to submissive women and female slaves that I need to discuss their medical needs, their fitness to serve, and the state of their mental & physical health. I need this information in order that I fully understand how they may be trained, used and dominated. I have actually been rejected by a couple of so-called pain-slut masochistic slaves when I would not indulge in very sensitive and intrusive ?medical? procedures. I will engage in hard-core sadomasochism and painful procedures BUT ? I shall never take ?torture? or BDSM play beyond a level in which I cannot guarantee the woman?s safety, health and well being.
I have often said that regardless of the sadistic nature of a Dominant or Domme, they must be careful, thoughtful, cautious and vigilant to protect the health and safety of the submissive or slave during BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and taboo kinky pleasures & forceful sexual penetrations. The Dominant Sadist or Master must fully know and understand the emotional and mental make-up of his submissive or slave, and he must have her full trust, respect and confidence to take her where he wants and be able to successfully push her limits. I for one shall not be caught up in a situation involving police, emergency medical personnel, hospitals, coroners, judges and juries and the local mass media. I do not need the drama or trauma and I want no deaths or severe injuries on my conscience.
CBCnews.ca
Quebec woman dies during kinky sex: police
Last Updated: Tuesday, February 26, 2008 | 4:41 PM ET
CBC News
A Quebec man may face criminal charges after a woman died while they were having sadomasochistic sex.
The 39-year-old woman died Saturday night in a home in Saint-Bruno-de-Montarville on Montreal's South Shore, police said.
She went into cardiac arrest while engaging in "out of the ordinary" sexual practices using "very particular" accessories, said Longueuil police agent Martin Simard.
When police arrived at the residence on Sommet-Trinité Street, the man was trying to resuscitate the woman, but she died, Simard said.
Police say they found torture devices in the homes, but would not give specifics.
The man was arrested and questioned but released without charge, police said.
Investigators are waiting for the autopsy report to determine if he'll be charged with criminal negligence causing death.
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That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
02/29/2008 @ 9:29 am
TODAY IS FEBRUARY 29, 2008 ? HAPPY LEAP YEARS DAY!!!
Monday, February 25, 2008
10:58 AM (Pacific)
This web-site has too many technical problems; there is always some malfunction or everything is just too damn slow ? sending photos takes forever. Now I cannot even send e-mail and I cannot even access my sent mail. Although this has not yet happened to me, a number of members complain about being knocked off the web-site or having their profile inexplicably closed or deleted for reasons they cannot explain, and new photos in the profile take longer than necessary to be approved and posted in profiles. After all this is an adult website.
I would rather pay a small $15 monthly service charge and have them provide a smoothly efficient and well operated web-site without all of the delays, blank pages, technical glitches, connection issues and unnecessary censorship.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Sunday, February 24, 2008
7:48 AM (Pacific)
I recently learned of a less expensive but more effective form of birth control.
ALABAMA VASECTOMY
After their 11th child, an Alabama couple decided that was enough, as they could not afford a larger bed.
So the husband went to his veterinarian and told him that he and his cousin didn't want to have any more children.
The doctor told him that there was a procedure called a vasectomy that could fix the problem but that it was expensive. "A less costly alternative," said the doctor, "is to go home, get a cherry bomb, (fireworks are legal in Alabama) light it, put it in a beer can, then hold the can up to your ear and count to 10."
The Alabamian said to the doctor, "I may not be the smartest tool in the shed, but I don't see how putting a cherry bomb in a beer can next to my ear is going to help me."
"Trust me," said the doctor.
So the man went home, lit a cherry bomb and put it in a beer can. He held the can up to his ear and began to count!
"1"
"2"
"3"
"4"
"5"
( you'll love this...)
At which point he paused, placed the beer can between his legs and continued counting on his other hand.
This procedure also works well in Tennessee, Kentucky, Louisiana, Arkansas, Mississippi, Missouri, Florida, Oregon, West Virginia and WashingtonDC.
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, February 04, 2008
11:07AM (Pacific)
What a great Super Sunday of Sports!!! Everything went as I desired. Too bad I was not a serious betting man, my gambling would have paid off big time.
NBA Game --- LA Lakers 103, Washington Wizards 91
Once again Kobe Bryant led the way with 30 points on excellent shooting and great leadership and excellent hustle; Kobe actually outscored the entire Wizards in the first quarter, 19-15! Anyone who knows me knows that I am a die-hard Los Angeles Lakers fan, and as we all must know Kobe is the man!!! The Lakers are winning on the road with their talented young 7? center, Andrew Bynum, still out with a knee injury. They are winning and their new trade acquisition, the 7? forward/center, Pau Gasol, has yet to step foot on the court BUT when he does, we shall dominate the Western Conference and win the NBA title when Bynum returns, if we stay healthy.
SUPER BOWL XLII (42) --- Giants 17, Patriots 14
The New York Giants in a thrilling fourth quarter came back and defeated the previously unbeaten and highly favored New England Patriots 17 -14!! Anyone who knows me knows that I am a die-hard Dallas Cowboys fan, but when New York beat Dallas and the Green Bay Packers during the playoff to win the NFC title and a trip to the Super Bowl. I wanted my fellow NFC East team to destroy the arrogant and over confident New England Patriots AND ? New York came through with tough defense and a great final 2 minutes of the fourth quarter!!
DubairDesert Classic --- Tiger does it again ? wins!!
Yeah ? I used to ignore golf also, until Tiger Woods came on the scene. Now watching the man in the Sunday red shirt is a pleasure to behold as he came from 4 strokes behind and once again destroyed the pack of golf wannabes! Since the 2008 PGA season began, he has played in two tournaments and won both.
Yeah ? Sunday was a great sports day for celebration! My apologies to those not interested in professional sports activities ... as for the Patriot fans, hire a classier head coach, because when Bill Belichick rushes off the field, in humiliation and anger, before the came ends, he showed very little class or professionalism when he got his ass-whipped!
Mr.B of CaliforniaUSA
Friday, February 01, 2008
10:06 AM (Pacific)
Well ? nothing like some hard-core political action to get the adrenaline flowing, the blood pumping and the mind working overtime. Yeah ? Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton is fine, BUT Obama gets my vote!!! It looks as if Sen. John McCain has this Republican nomination almost all wrapped up ? too bad, so sad for the Republican Party and the nation. Sen. McCain is a good and decent man, but damn, he is not just old, he is out of touch with reality ? does he really belief that having our military occupy Iraq for ten to perhaps 100 more years is good for this country. Damn!
Guess it does not really matter, if Sen. Barack Obama gets the Democratic nomination, game over, there shall be a Democratic president taking the oath of office next year. NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Monday, January 28, 2008
1:33 PM (Pacific time)
Difference Between Discipline and Punishment
In both the ?vanilla? world and BDSM realm people often confuse discipline with punishment and these words are often used interchangeably. In our society today, the concept of discipline is thought about in very negative terms. Many people believe that since we live in a free and open secular pluralistic society, it should be totally permissive and there need be no self-discipline. I disagree with that, because with freedom must come the burden of responsibility and accountability or society will breakdown into chaotic lawlessness in which everyone is out of control and irresponsible and unconcerned about the adverse effects their actions have on others. I say this even though I am a libertineat heart. ///
The root word of discipline is disciple (= a student, a learner). Discipline may be defined as education, training and preparation that develops self-control within someone and assists them regulate and change their attitude, behavior and lifestyle in positive ways. Discipline, in the true sense of the word is positive, encouraging, and even proof of affection, concern and love. For those followers of Christ, Christians and others who study the Bible, you will know that Jesus Christ found 12 mostly illiterate and hard working fishermen and laborer types whom He disciplined, taught and trained to be His disciples ? He was constantly teaching them and correcting their behavior and rebuking and chastising them as he taught them and molded them to be what he needed them to become. Those disciples called Jesus ?Master? and referred to Him as their Teacher. However, military personnel must be disciplined and taught self-discipline in order that they can perform and work as a team under the most stressful and challenging conditions and follow orders even though it may endanger their life or well being. ///
The foundational level of discipline is the InstructionPhase. Discipline begins with the Dominant One or Master clearly communicating, instructing, and teaching his submissive one or slave regarding the appropriate and acceptable attitude, demeanor, conduct, manners, etiquette, protocols, expectations, responsibilities, duties, communication styles and responses to commands. This is usually verbal and written directives and guidance. I have much written material available for a submissive or slave to read and comprehend and learn. ///
The next segment is theTraining Phase in which the Dominant or Master leads and directs the submissive or slave through a series of orders and exercises designed to test whether or not the submissive or slave has learned and understood what she was taught during the instruction phase. In addition, during this obedience training phase the Dominant or Master designs in activities to test whether or not the submissive or slave will willingly obey and submit and follow instructions and direction without debate or challenges to the Dominant or Master?s authority. Oftentimes this is when certain exercises involve the submissive or slave willingly allowing herself to do things she may find painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, demeaning and totally against her normal way of responding in the everyday ?vanilla? world. ///
For example, most adult women have never had to request permission to go to the bathroom, and rarely have someone administer an enema up there anus & rectum and then have to wait until authorized to defecate (squat & sh*t) AND then have the indignity of One standing and observing and supervising their bathroom activities. Then there is learning not to speak unless authorized. Domestic discipline (this is not unlawful domestic violence) and being subjected to routine spankings and whippings because someone else gets kinky sexual or sadistic pleasures administering such is also a new experience. During the obedience training phase the Dominant or Master learns much about his submissive or slave and the submissive one learns much about herself and what her limits, capacity and willingness levels truly are. This is where mutual trust, admiration, respect and confidence in each other comes into play. ///
The other part of discipline is the Punishment Phase. This is when the Dominant or Master must correct the disobedience, attitude, disrespect, misconduct, rudeness, inattentiveness, negligence and unacceptable services of the submissive or slave. Punishment does not always involve corporal punishment (physically whipping, flogging or spanking). Remember, there are genuine pain-loving masochistic spankees out there who enjoy a really brutally harsh prolonged whipping. Whipping or spanking them will not be a punishment, that is pleasure for them UNLESS you have the experience, skill and fitness & endurance level to take them to a level that they never imagined possible. Unfortunately most Dominants do not. ///
Remember, you are trying to correct behavior and improve and develop the submissive or slave, you are not trying to injure or harm her or mistreat her. Think like a parent, sometimes, prolonged periods of corner time or cage time or locked in a dark room without windows or light is more effective. The amusement park trip or the dress-up evening of fine dining and the theatre may be cancelled for her. Denying her promised treats or a shopping spree or making her do things that she absolutely abhors and fears may be more effective than a beating. You are trying to get her attention; it is up to you to read, study and analyze and know the woman who has submitted to you or whom you have enslaved. Do your homework and know what stimuli she responds to in what manner. ///
Btw ?regarding spankees ? he he he ? some can take a really severe whipping BUT ? perhaps after you have her tied nude with her derrière sticking up naked and fully exposed in a most vulnerable manner, then without her prior knowledge have some visitors drop in whom she knows and likes to impress and while they enjoy their wine (or beer), crackers and cheese ? whip that ass like your life depended on it with no gag. This may be the humiliation and embarrassment that works as she starts to cry & sob and utter unintelligible sounds and her body makes involuntary obnoxious sounds and disgusting pungent odors. ///
However, it is important to never break the passion your submissive or slave has to serve, submit and be subjugated. Also, never discipline her for something that she had no reason to believe was a violation or unacceptable. For example, suppose you expect that after sexual activities, your submissive or slave must immediately arise and get hot soapy wash cloths and clean towels to wash off your genitals and clean you up, BUT you never instructed her or trained her regarding this expectation; if she does not do it, she should not be punished, she must be instructed and trained. ///
Also, it is best not to punish when you are very angry and hostile to the point of being mad. It is best to send the submissive or slave to a corner or the cage or bathroom or somewhere where she can wait while you calm down and regain your composure. Punishment must be delivered like you would vengeance ? when you are cool, calm and collected. A Dominant or Master must never be out of control and so angry that you could inadvertently serious injure or harm one of your most prized and valuable possessions, your submissive slave. ///
Think about it, if every time you got mad at your computer or TV you followed your base instincts and threw a bottle at the screen ? hhhmmmmm ? that could get very messy and costly and serve no purpose. When your six year old child totally pisses you off, do you punch the little guy in the mouth with a clenched fist or delay punishment or any adverse actions until you calm down or your spouse or some other mature adult arrives to help you deal with it. ///
Be mature, careful and sane ? we do not want to do anything that must involve emergency medical personnel and hospitals, and law enforcement officers and prosecuting attorneys, and judges and juries and undertakers ? but I digress. You get the general idea. ///
Just remember that discipline is about instructing one how to be in control of themselves and how to be obedient and respectful and training them to react and respond according to specific expectations and rules. Punishment is about correcting misdeeds, unacceptable services and various violations. Punishments may take many forms and often all you need to do is verbally reprimand and chastise her with carefully chosen words. Sometimes just quickly rebuking and scolding someone with a look and a few sharp words of displeasure may be all that is required. After all for a real true naturally submissive woman or genuine female slave, the greatest pain and worst punishment is just knowing she has angered and displeased her Dominant or Master and that she is out of favor with him. She hungers to be back in the good graces of her Dominant or Master.
There is more to be said on this topic, but ? NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Friday, January 18, 2008
9:29 AM (Pacific)
I often like to consider myself to be a patient, thoughtful, open-minded and kind & generous type of person; and I like to have faith in humanity and to believe that although we are all imperfect humans everyone of us can be redeemed, saved and rehabilitated. However, when one is locked in cyber space dealing with members that one does not really know, then often one wastes one?s time with certain types of individuals. As such, effective immediately, when I have strong reason to suspect that a member on Collarme.com is afflicted with one of the following, I shall either avoid or quickly cease communications and abandon them to their fate:
q Those with an unreasonable, immature and ?juvenile? mind
q Those with serious mental problems who need psychiatric therapeutic intervention and perhaps prescribed medication
q Those obviously unscrupulous and unsavory scam artists looking to fraudulently and unlawfully scam and manipulate others members out of money
q Those suffering from irrational bigotry and overt hostile racist attitudes
q Those with outrageous cock & bull stories about being trapped penny-less in Africa or on never-ending business trips to Africa
Whew!! That little rant felt good. Damn!! What happened to everyone ? HELLO! Anyone out there???
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Thursday, January 17, 2008
12:20 PM (Pacific)
When this was originally posted on 01/17/2008, I neglected to include the question(s) that served as the basis for the comments. They are now included.
Question #1: Is it possible to have a loving relationship within the context of a Dominant & submissive or Master & slave BDSM relationship? Question #2: Is it possible to regularly sadistically torture, strictly discipline, harshly punish, embarrassingly defile & humiliate, and subject to rough forceful sexual penetrations someone that you passionately love and care deeply about? Answers: YES, to both questions. However, the discipline, punishment, BDSM play, sadomasochistic activity and testing of limitations must be done in an environment of mutual respect, trust and confidence in each other and within the comforts of loving subjugation and thoughtful domination.
Caution and beware ? sometimes the Master & slave relationship is jeopardized and dies a slow and quiet death because the Dominant One becomes too emotionally involved and falls in love (in the most ?eros? & romantic manner) and allows the relationship to gradually slip from taboo kinky BDSM to plain old fashioned boring ?vanilla? ? damn!!!
It is fine to have strong affection and love for your submissive or even a slave, BUT never forget what brought you together and what it is that you both initially sought ? to escape the drudgery, noncomplementary and unsatisfactory lifestyle of traditional ?vanilla? relationships and replace it with a private life that stimulates, excites and satisfies your dominant or submissive nature and bring you the taboo kinky pleasures and domestic discipline, strong controls, rigid structure, sadomasochism activities and power exchange that you both crave and need.
It is sad, but at times true, that LOVE does not always conquer all, not when it interferes with and destroys the foundation upon which the relationship is based. The ideal D/s relationship is best when there is genuine affection, passion and even love for each other. Some Dominant Couples invite a submissive into their home and share a loving relationship among the three of them; but the submissive or slave is always subjugated and dominated and in submission. Some folk in a D/s or M/s relationship even marry and continue to enjoy a BDSM relationship, because it never goes totally ?vanilla.?
There is more to be said on this subject BUT ? enough for now!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
3:09 PM (Pacific Standard)
Monday, January 07, 2008
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Recently, I engaged in another one of these hot topic discussions regarding the nature of the relationship between the Dominant & submissive and/or the Owner/Master & slave. The issue was mainly can the relationship be one of equality and with each having 50% authority. As I began to write my thoughts, I remembered that I wrote in my journal about this many months ago. I searched my journal and found the thesis below regarding this issue of whether or not the BDSM relationships between a Dominant One and a submissive one (this includes slave) are based on equality and if they can be considered 50/50. The writing below was prepared and posted in my journal on 4/11/2006 at 10:20:44 AM. I did take the liberty of doing a few minor edits, correcting a couple of mistakes and making a few changes.
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4/11/2006 10:20:44 AM
IS THE DOMINANT & SUBMISSIVE RELATIONSHIP ONE OF 50/50 EQUALITY?
The debate continues to rage as to whether or not the D/s lifestyle, especially the relationship between an Owner/Master and His slave property can be considered an equal one. There are those that say that it oftentimes is a 50/50 relationship in which both are having their needs met equally and others say not so, because there can be no equality when One, the Dominant or Owner/Master is not only the One with full authority, but exercises complete control and also makes the rules. In addition, the Dominant or Owner/Master has the power of passing judgment and subjecting the submissive or slave to punitive & corrective actions including domestic corporal punishment. ///
First and foremost, each D/s or M/s relationship must be completely negotiated and agreed to in advance and then all persons involved (Dominant One and submissive one) must assume the burden, responsibilities and pleasures & benefits of His or her previously agreed upon role. Of course, it is understood that every single thing will not be considered and discussed in advance; it is also understood that the relationship shall be ever changing and each shall grow and develop within the boundaries of the relationship. ///
THESE RELATIONSHIPS ONLY WORK WHEN THERE IS GENUINE & HONEST UP-FRONT COMMUNICATION AND MUTUAL TRUST AND TOTAL CONFIDENCE IN EACH OTHER. SINCERE FRIENDSHIP & ADMIRATION ARE REQUIRED ELEMENTS FOR SUCCESS ALSO ? and even then there are no guarantees, because we are all fallible humans; sometimes our individual weaknesses and frailties catch up with us and the burden of the imperfections are too great for a particular relationship; at other times, ?sh*t happens? and LIFE gets in the way of a beautiful relationship.
It works best when both (Dominant One & submissive one) are equally yoked, because this promotes compatibility. However, often we are on our own predestined path and sometimes the harmony just cannot be established and maintained, especially when the value systems and/or religious or spiritual beliefs clash. Always remember, that even in the vanilla world, no relationship is totally equal and exactly 50/50 sharing. People may not admit it, but even "vanilla" relationships are usually about 60-40. ///
As such, build the relationship on a strong and sturdy foundation of full and open candid communication (does not mean there cannot be speech restrictions), negotiated preliminary agreements or written contracts (regarding roles, expectations, limits and boundaries), honesty, discipline, trust and mutual confidence in each other and a strong commitment to the agreed upon responsibilities. ///
One could say that if both parties get what they need and desire, it is a relationship of equality in which both must give and receive 50/50 and if having that type understanding makes it more palatable and comfortable for one or both persons involved, that is fine. However, The Dominant One, especially in a true Owner/Master & slave relationship, possesses full authority and exercises total control, and as such, is in the power position of making decisions, establishing rules, issuing edicts, passing judgments and meting out punishments. The true Dominant One or Master must also be the Teacher and Leader and carries the heavy burden of educating, training, molding, teaching, and guiding His submissive one or slave and He must also provide protection and provide for the general welfare, health and safety of His submissive one or slave. With power & authority come responsibility and the burden of leadership, which many so called ?Doms? fail to acknowledge and exercise. ///
When the submissive one or slave surrenders her authority and relinquishes her control and willingly, humbly and dutifully delivers her power to her Dominant or Master, such a transfer is an awesome and most generous offering (especially in the modern North American culture). It is expected that she be obedient, compliant, subservient, submissive, disciplined and subjugated under her Dominant or Master; she trusts and has faith that He will have the wisdom, knowledge and understanding to accept the transfer of power and fully understand the burdens, challenges, responsibilities and risks that such a commitment brings. Shall He become a totally insensitive brute, will His decisions be inadequate and unrealistic, will He squander His new powers on self-serving over-indulgence that fails to nourish and develop the relationship and will He become drunk with the intoxicating aura of authority and power and become a failure. Will he be thoughtful, judicious, careful and responsible in all he does or will he throw all caution and reason to the wind and indulge his lusts and vices without regard to the potentially adverse consequences. ///
The Dominant must never forget that His submissive or slave is His most valuable & prized possession and she must be treasured, carefully possessed, loved and shown much affection and due consideration and respect. Even when He must subject her to painful sadistic BDSM tortures, forceful sexual penetrations and uncomfortable bondage and demeaning humiliations; there must be affectionate, nourishing and reassuring ?after-care? and tender compliments, when she deserves such. One thing is for sure, if He does not meet His obligations and provide her the ?50%? that she expects and if she begins to see His weaknesses, inabilities and incompetence, she shall lose respect for Him and begin to question His knowledge and capabilities and challenge His authority. The submissive or slave may eventually demand to be released and seek her freedom from Him or she will be easy prey for another Dominant One who sees her plight or she will flee and escape of her own accord. ///
Does this Sir consider the D/s lifestyle and a Dominant/Master & submissive/slave relationship one of total equality? The answer is a qualified NO ? in many ways it is and they both may be getting their 50% but the One with the authority, control and power, may have a more superior position (even if He does not behave in an overly egotistical superior manner), and in addition, the Dominant One or Owner/Master takes on many responsibilities and burdens that are not equally shared with His submissive or slave. Even though this may not be a relationship based on equality, it still requires mutual respect, mutual trust and mutual confidence and faith in each other. When the trust, faith, confidence and respect dies, so does the relationship. ///
The submissive one or slave may be expected to submit and serve Him and satisfy His sadistic, kinky and sexual cravings and please Him as per His desires and anticipate His needs and expectations and to humbly and obediently accept His subjugation of her. The submissive one or slave should gladly be humble, compliant, accommodating and long-suffering and her burden and responsibility is to submit and serve without complaint within her capacity and previously agreed upon limitations. ///
However, being a submissive or slave does not mean that the surrender of her control and authority to her chosen Dominant One or Owner/Master means that she must relinquish all her personal self-esteem, self-respect and self-preservation. Even when she is willingly being subjected to BDSM torture, hard-core use, objectification, corporal punishment, embarrassing humiliation and forceful sexual penetrations; her Dominant One or Owner/Master must continue to see her as a real person and a human being with needs and rights, AND he must never forget that she is a prized possession who is worthy of being protected, cherished, respected, loved and appreciated. People love their non-human pets and inanimate possessions such as a new car or a rifle or comfortable Lazy-Boy chair ? why is it unseemly for a Master to love his slave? It may not be a romantic ?eros? type love, but there should be some passion, compassion and feelings of affection for the submissive or slave. ///
The Dominant One or Owner/Master must also know and understand His submissive one or slave; He must fully understand her unique mental, emotional, spiritual and physical nature and physical capacity. He must know about her ailments, medical conditions, health problems, disabilities, anxieties, fears and any phobia she may have. Without suck information and understanding, it is difficult to comprehend how to thoughtfully and carefully achieve His desires and satisfy His needs without permanently harming her, breaking her vital spirit or extinguishing her flame of passion for Him, the lifestyle and/or her submission or slavery. He may need to break her down, bend her to His will and rid her of bad habits; but He also is responsible to build her anew and mold and develop her. He wants to keep the twinkle in her eye, the smile upon her lips and the passionate fire of desire in her heart, mind and soul. ///
Regarding sexuality, sexual orientation and sensuality & eroticism, it is absolutely critical that the Dominant One fully appreciate and understand the total sexual nature and base carnal cravings of His submissive or slave. The Dominant One must, at a minimum, know her true sexual orientation, and if she is a straight heterosexual, whether she is bi-sexual curious or sees it as her duty and obligation to provide sexual services in whatever manner or with whomever her Dominant One dictates, regardless of gender. By definition and description, the submissive women retains more personal authority, control and decision making power than the slave; many submissive women need to have certain base elements of their sexuality and sexual nature appreciated, respected and nurtured. Often a bi-sexual submissive or slave needs a sister-slave or other female submissive companions or lifestyle female ?friends? with whom they can interact affectionately and also share the deep seated cravings they may have for sexual, erotic and intimate interaction with another female whom they admire, trust and find attractive. The female slave understands that she has no choice regarding her sexual partners or their genders; these decisions are not hers to make ? BUT ? her Master, must either figure out how to completely smother and ?kill? her basic sexual orientation and sexual nature or He must find a suitable outlet to allow this to be expressed and released periodically. ///
Some women need multiple partners (male & female) and a promiscuous BDSM lifestyle with plenty of sharing, swapping and swinging. Others need a more sedate and chaise sexual experience in which their sexual services involve only their Master or a specially selected and screened female companion (submissive or slave) or Domme. If the Dominant One wants a monogamous one-on-one sexual relationship with his slave or submissive, in which she embraces chastity and periodic abstinence as a way of life, then he must not accept a sex-slut who hungers for gang-bangs, group rape scenes, hard-core multiple use on a routine basis or being on the giving end of ?glory holes? for anonymous strangers. When a Dominant One has a submissive or slave under consideration, these details must be discussed, explored and discovered in order that the relationship be a good fit and both are comfortable with the chemistry and compatibility. ///
The Dominant One or Owner/Master must also is obligated to fully educate and train His submissive or slave and ensure that she is totally knowledgeable regarding His rules, protocols, expectations and standards of conduct, dress, grooming and personal hygiene. He must communicate to His submissive one or slave what gives Him pleasure and ensure she is well aware of what types of misconduct, negligence or mistakes will incur His wrath and displeasure. If He is incompetent and negligent in His communications, trainings and discipline and then in an unexpected furious rage subjects her to harsh punishments, retributions and denial of treats or banishment for a matter of which she was unaware of the consequences; such conduct on His part is neither judicious nor responsible and it is disrespectful and unfair to His submissive or slave and may have a lasting demoralizing effect on her. Such actions quickly lead to the destruction of the relationship. ///
Finally the Dominant One or Owner/Master is responsible to exercise due care and diligence and ensure that the health, well-being, general welfare, safety, and security of His submissive one or slave is at all times fore most in His mind and protected. He may hurt her and cause her physical pain & discomfort, mental anguish & emotional stress and humiliating embarrassment & humbling debasement BUT ? he must not seriously harm her or injure her or threaten her life or sanity. Often times the submissive one requires confidentiality, privacy and discretion due to a myriad of reasons; the Dominant or Master must also respect and protect such. The life, sanity, health and protection of the submissive or slave is often in His hands. His uncontrolled addiction to drugs and alcohol and His irresponsible intoxication to carnal pleasures, extreme egotism, foolish arrogance and juvenile immaturity must never cloud His good judgment or cause Him to neglect His responsibilities. ///
Of course, here is the disclaimer: Some submissive ones, especially those with genuine ?slave? tendencies, desire to turn over full authority and have no say so in their life, they insist on making no decisions, and they provide no-limits service regardless of the pain, discomfort, humiliation, degradation or hard use. These submissive ones or slaves do not desire any equality and see such as a sign of weakness on the part of the Dominant One or Master, if He offers them any freedom of speech, rights and decision making. There are those submissive/slaves who desire to withdraw from the realities of the ?vanilla? world and immerse deeply and completely into their servitude, subjugation and slavery without rights, without love & affection, without voice and without any freedom! They are few and they are rare, but they exist. In my lifetime, I have met three and known one very well. But ? that is another discussion. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
January 1, 2008
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008!!!
ONE MORE YEAR I AVOIDED THE HIGHWAY PATROL
AND
THE DRUNKS, DRUGGIES, CRAZIES AND DAMN FOOLS
NEVER GOT ME!
Peace & Love to All!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
YES!!! I know it is damn near almost 5:45 PM (pacific time) in California. It is bed time! Damn! This season of good cheer and joy to the world can get expensive, time consuming and exhausting in some most pleasant and delightful ways. I enjoy GIVING ? in more ways than one. I also like RECEIVING! Yeah ? getting is good too! BUT ? I do have a lot to give BUT only to the very good little girls!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS, SEASON?S GREETINGS
& MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Friday, December 07, 2007
10:18 AM (Pacific-California)
This is known as some mild intellectual discourse, which hopefully may be thought provoking and stimulate some impromptu meaningful discussions with whomever takes the time to read it.
Recently I wrote to an 18 year old young lady, whose profile identified her as ?submissive female.? The primary purpose of my writing was to respond to questions and issues she raised in her journal. According to her, men (presumably, so called ?Doms?) are starting to ask her write her opinion on various issues in response to questions they wrote. In all candor, I find it both amusing and most interesting that an older man, especially one that is a Dominant, would pose such questions to an 18 year old submissive who admits to being ?new? to the BDSM lifestyle and also acknowledges that she may not be that ?qualified? to address these issues.
I would recommend that you also read my journal entry that I wrote at 8:00 AM on Thanksgiving Day (11/22/2007); it is about the Relationship between a Master and his submissive or slave. It may help provide more insight to how I think on such matters. I am not an overly politically correct person, and certainly not in the BDSM realm, but the use of the term ?girl? to describe women in this alternative lifestyle seems a poor word choice. Below are the questions posed (written in bold brown). My responses begin with, ?This Sir?s response:? Read and enjoy, and feel free to write and offer your comments.
11/19/2007Question:?does the girl have the right to choose her master? or should the master feel free to claim the girl??This Sir?s response: It is a mutual decision, and in order that they be equally yoked (compatible with good chemistry) it is imperative that there be a period when she is under consideration that they engage in a very detailed and comprehensive discussion regarding needs, cravings, fantasies, anxieties, limitations, hard limits and expectations, as they negotiate the terms and conditions of the Dominant & submissive or Master & slave relationship. Anything less is immature, irresponsible, unwise and irrational, especially if the two have never met and known each other previously. The ?girl? being considered must be at least 18 and be mentally competent, intelligent and mature and have good commonsense and preferably an academic education comparable to at least the ninth grade. Hopefully, she makes the decision not out of desperate living circumstances and/or destitute economic situations and she should not be manipulated, conned and coerced. Let?s be honest, on the internet web-sites, it is virtually impossible for a Master to just ?claim? anyone. In real life, a Master may try to just walk up and claim, capture, subdue and control a ?girl? without her permission, but, if she resists, and he forcibly persists, than the Master is breaking all types of federal, state and local criminal statutes. NUFF SAID!! ///
11/10/2007Question:?how can a girl really get to the point of relinquishing all choices?? This Sir?s response: It is rare in which a woman or ?girl? is able to relinquish all control and decision making authority regarding choices that directly impact her health, sanity, survival, financial solvency, shelter and general welfare, and choices regarding the manner in which she is educated, trained, molded, disciplined, punished, tortured, sexually used, bound, restrained and abused. Probably for a brief period this is possible, but the average modern American woman who has grown up in the North American culture during the last 20 years shall have a real hard time adjusting and accepting such powerlessness for ever. It is very impractical, highly improbable, but not impossible. The ?girls? who would be most inclined to do so would be those extreme slaves who desire full time enslavement with TPE (total power exchange) and complete subjugation 24/7 with no further contact with the ?vanilla? world. THIS IS SO VERY UNLIKELY. Women in other nations from countries where the dominant culture, social mores and religious beliefs force women to accept obedient submissiveness, compliant subjugation and humble subservience as well as domestic discipline and sexual enslavement, are much more likely to relinquish their choices completely because they have been conditioned from birth through adulthood. Such women from foreign cultures are more readily able to surrender all choices and decision making of significance. NUFF SAID!! ///
11/09/2007Question: ?do i think girls should belong to one man or that girls should be public property??This Sir?s response: The idea that someone is floating the idea that ?girls? should be public property just speaks to the level to which members in this BDSM website have sunk. That is such a nonsensical question, unless he or she was just testing you. First, I would have the person asking define what he or she meant by ?public property? ? there is a difference between ?ownership? and ?usage? ? a Master may own a slave but make her services available for anyone who desires to use her sexually, sadistically torture her, take advantage of her domestic & culinary skills and etc. BUT, the Master still owns her. However, a three or seven person cartel of Dominant Masters or a large association of Dominants or a BDSM community made up of Dominants and slaves may establish ownership of one or more slaves. Then in such situations, the cartel members have equal rights to use and enjoy the services of the slave, and they have to establish rules, protocols and expectations in order to avoid conflicts and disagreements. The large association of Dominants could function similar to the cartel. In the BDSM community, it could be more like a commune functioning like an independent society of 25-100 persons or more in which there are Dominant Ones and submissive ones and slaves. Like any society, in order to have some semblance of order, there would be leaders (who are Dominants) and those in power would establish agreed upon rules, guidelines and protocol for how One could have access to the services of the slaves, if they were all community property. It could be first come first served or a rotation basis or something else. If a slave ?girl? was truly community property in every sense, then neither she nor anyone else, including her Mentor or a Dominant lifestyle friend, may disagree about who, how, when, where, whether or in what manner the slave was used. That would invite chaos and the girl would have no protections and her valid ?hard limits,? if any, would be routinely violated. This is impractical, unsafe for all and unrealistic. NUFF SAID!!
11/09/2007Issue: ?Cyber Sex? This Sir?s response: Well, whatever floats a person?s boat ? I find this cyber stuff mostly boring and too unreal. Nonetheless, if you are to have a real enjoyable experience, to me the best approach would be to both have web-cams with clear audio & visual in order that you can see and hear the other and communicate in real time. This is like mutual masturbation where you and a partner are in the same room (even on the same bed) masturbating while you watch, but not touch, your kinky partner. If all the cyber sex they offer is you constantly typing erotic & ?nasty? sexual things onto a screen filled with words and no sound and no sight ? boring ? YUK! ? boring and pathetic. Phone sex is so much better than the latter! The former, involving cyber sex with the webcam and video & audio hook-up real time, may be fairly enjoyable. Give me the real deal & hot flesh! NUFF SAID!!
11/09/2007Issue: ?Considering a man of color? This Sir?s response: This is relatively simple, either you are a racist bigot or you are not. It does not mean that you would accept any ?man of color? ? they should have characteristics and qualities that excite, entice and stimulate you in various ways.
All black African American men cannot be Sen. Barack Obama, Gen. Colin Powel, Tiger Woods or Denzel Washington ? any woman claiming to be holding off on being with a black man until she can get a Sen. Obama or a Gen. Powel or a Tiger or a Denzel are merely masking their own brand of racist bigotry. This is the United States of America in the year 2007, if one is still debating this matter, there is a serious problem. However, if you are contemplating marriage and children, then you may wish to deal with the real issues of family & local acceptance, religious compatibility and the cultural differences of significance, if any. Even though I agree that the true Master & slave relationship is the most intimate of relationships on so many levels, it tends to be more underground, discrete, private and confidential and only practiced publicly among like minded persons. The Dominant who may make an excellent Master to own, train, use and control you, may not be the ideal person to marry and have children with for all kinds of reasons (beyond race, ethnicity and color). In my book, even though it may be more convenient to be with a black African American woman, it means little to me. I seek the woman with the virtues, intellect, character, attitude, qualities and demeanor that appeal to me on many levels including sexual, erotic, romantic, intellectual, trustworthiness, loyalty, honesty, faithfulness and others and etc. Color, race, ethnicity, culture and religion mean little to me if she desires me and will provide what I need and crave. NUFF SAID!
Today?s subject: submissive ones and slaves need to pay attention, obey & follow instructions and life is always much easier and better for them. ///
Many years ago, I arrived in Kingston, Jamaica, British West Indies when I was a mere 8 years old; I was in third grade at the time (if I remember correctly). The Jamaicans skipped me over A class and stuck me in B class (like an American first grade); I resented it because everything they were learning, I knew and knew well. The teacher quickly knew this and after awhile would only ask me the most challenging questions (of which there were none), BUT she demanded that I perform all assignments my classmates did and I had to follow strict rules. All teachers used corporal punishment at their discretion and my teacher enjoyed whipping and spanking kids with her leather strap.
All children wore uniforms; the boys wore khaki shirts and khaki short pants ? I did not have a uniform yet and I often showed up neatly dressed in long pants ( a grave cardinal sin for boys under 10). Of course I spoke my American Yankee talk and had not yet learned the Jamaican patois. One day my class was instructed to bring 100 used kitchen matches to school the next day, because our Arithmetic lessons would involve counting beyond fingers (and toes?). I forgot and did not consider it important because the teacher knew I could easily count to a thousand and beyond. Next day ? she checked for 100 used kitchen matches; two students had less than 100 and I had none, she sadistically whipped them and me like her life depended on it. LESSON --- Pay attention, be obedient and follow instructions!
I quickly was promoted to First Class (like second grade in US). One day, we were given a list of 30 words to learn to spell; that evening I glanced at the list and was over confident about my spelling ability. The next day, we were marched outside and had class under a nice lovely tree in the sunshine. The teacher lined us up and began left to right asking each student to spell a word; those who misspelled their word got a few lashes and sent to the left end of the line. The word I got was ?color? (or so I thought) and I smiled and proudly said ?c-o-l-o-r Ma?am? ? she immediately lashed me about the arms & shoulder and as I was sent to the end of the line gave me an extra stroke across my back. I was near tears, I kept thinking I spelled it right , I spelled it right. YES & NO!!! In America ?color? is correct BUT in the UK and the British West Indies it is spelt ?colour? ? damn! LESSON --- Pay attention, be obedient and follow instructions!
Many years later, I am in the US Navy Reserve and I was on active duty and attending OfficerCandidateSchool at the US Naval Education Training Center in New PortRhode Island. I arrived on Friday, January 13 and it is wet, damp, cold and the temperatures had been between about 30 F for highs and below zero for lows and the wind was blustering all the time ? our dorm barracks were no more then 100 yards from the Atlantic Ocean, which was cold & furious. The chill factor was about 20 below zero at times.
At NavalOfficerCandidateSchool, there were two candidates per room and about 30 to 40 in each Company?s class. I was in E Company, (known as Echo) and my class had around 36. The first week was hell, you had to learn to think, behave, respond and work as a team. One very frigid, windy & icey day, we were to go and do close order drills with weapons (rifles). All candidates were standing at attention in the hall outside the door of their room and getting yelled at as they gave very explicit instructions. We were to fall back into our rooms, close the doors and take 90 seconds to dress appropriately for the outdoors drill.
Everything had to be in unison and uniform and exactly alike; we had to think as one. My space mate and I decided to wear warm woolen night watch caps, gloves, heavy blue work winter uniform and heavy pea coat. They yelled for us to fall out in the hall. Very few were dressed exactly alike. The space mates in one room had no coats on and one wore a hat and the other no head cover. They yelled at us, reminded us of the drill and what we would be doing and that it would be outside in the extreme cold. They fell us back in and fell us out again ? once again the dress styles, although closer in similarity, were very different. Space mates from one room had one candidate with a coat and no hat and his room mate, the the other candidate, with no coat but with a hat. After three times of this nonsense, they made us all go out into the frigid weather with no hats, no gloves and no coats! The barrels of the weapons were damn near sticking to our hands ? we froze! LESSON --- Pay attention, be obedient and follow instructions!
There are many so called submissive females and female slaves who could learn this lesson of --- Pay attention, be obedient and follow instructions!!! NUFF SAID!!!
That is this Sir?s rant today!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
DOES ANYONE ELSE HERE REMEMBER ---
NOVEMBER 22, 1963
PRESIDENT JOHN F KENNEDY ?
? SHOT AND ASSASSINATED IN DALLAS, TEXAS
Thursday, November 22, 2007 [Thanksgiving Day]
8:03 AM (California-Pacific time)
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL AND MAY THE MILITARY WARRIORS COME HOME SAFE!
The Relationship Between Master & Slave or Dominant & Submissive
A true naturally submissive one without a good Dominant Master is like a small boat casting about in the rough seas rudderless and without a skilled and knowledgeable Captain to guide her safely through the storm into calm waters and a safe port. Neither the Dominant nor the submissive is complete and satisfied without their complementary BDSM partner.
Before I begin my dissertation, there are some myths that should be debunked immediately. Just because someone likes forceful rough kinky sex or swinging or swapping or group sex or being gang banged by a bunch of horny guys, does not make her a true submissive or a slave. Promiscuous women who enjoy one-night stands and routinely engage in irresponsible and unsafe sex do not automatically qualify as a submissive or slave. Another fact is that women who unwillingly allow their mates to domestically abuse them, beat them up and terrorize them on a regular basis in violation of laws are not necessarily a true submissive or a slave. Women who are very passive, naturally shy and somewhat naïve are not necessarily submissive. Just because a woman has a high pain tolerance and tends to enjoy pain and discomfort, does not make her a real submissive or true slave. ///
Role playing and going to BDSM social scenes where people ?act out? or engage in sadomasochistic activities or sexual acts publicly does not mean the recipient is a true submissive or a slave! Many ?vanilla? women are promiscuous sluts or enjoy exhibitionism or like a little extra kinkiness in their life and so they go enjoy ?play time? occasionally. They play and ?dabble? in BDSM, but do not live the lifestyle and most likely lack the natural submissive nature. Submission is about hungering to give up control and to offer one?s personal authority to another person, who is Dominant, and accepting that dominant person?s control, discipline and dominance. Submission is about craving to find pleasure by giving another pleasure, and being willing to suffer and sacrifice in order to make another happy, contented, satisfied, pleased and amused. Submission is about finding the One whom you adore, respect, trust, admire and find worthy and then living your life in accordance with his demands, needs, rules and governance and doing all within your power to make him happy, fulfilled and satisfied. ///
Ultimately, it is always the submissive or slave?s choice about whether or not she enters into a relationship with a Dominant One. In all candor, the slaves or submissive ones have the ultimate control to surrender, submit and serve or to resist and run! The submissive or slave is the one surrendering control and authority and leaving herself vulnerable to abuse and misuse. The submissive woman must be in a position to make her decisions regarding with whom she associates or to whom she submits and serves without threats, coercion or unfair severe manipulation. Only mature, thoughtful, careful and mentally competent adult women (18 and over) with at least average intelligence and good common sense should be making these decisions and they should not be forced by destitution or desperate economic or living circumstances to rush, without thinking, into the clutches of every so called ?Dom? or ?Domme? out there. ///
Btw ??mature? does not mean ?old.? Many women between the ages of 18 and 24 can be very mature, astute and intelligent and have good common sense. Although I prefer my submissive or slave to be at least 21, because it means that we have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything and not have issues of ?underage? or jail-bait? become an issue, I am open-minded and have considered those between 18 and 20 who seem particularly mature, intelligent, articulate and self-assured about who and what they are and what they need. ///
The Dominant must convince the mind, romance the heartand calm the spirit of the submissive one or slave so that she is neither anxious nor fearful. The submissive or slave should be wooed, enticed and stimulated mentally, emotionally & physically. The Dominant must try to cultivate mutual trust & confidence between them. The Dominant must earn her respect and admiration. Then the body of the submissive one or slave does what her mind & heart dictate and she can easily relax and be obedient, compliant & faithful and submit & serve and be subjugated. It is only then that the mind & heart of the submissive one or slave open fully to be taught, disciplined and controlled. Once this is established and there is mutual respect and trust in each other and each finds the other trust worthy and a potential match, then a true relationship can begin. When the slave or submissive accepts the collar of a Dominant One, there is a strong bond and mutual commitment and the Dominant or Master takes on an awesome responsibility; especially in the case of a slave. The bondage is primarily mental and emotional and in some ways spiritual; the kinky sex, BDSM play, sadomasochistic tortures and other taboo activities are just physical manifestations of what is deep within the heart, mind and soul. ///
The issue regarding the relationship between a Dominant and his submissive or Master and slave often comes up in discussion or in people?s profile narrative or journal writings; and sometimes during written communications on adult BDSM web-sites or via personal e-mail. Just For The Record --- Choosing a dominant man to be your Dominant One or your Owner/Master is not the same as selecting someone to be your boyfriend or fiancée or husband. The selection criteria must be different in many ways. Do not get me wrong, it is possible to find a true Dominant Master who also would make a wonderful husband or boyfriend, BUT ? usually it is unlikely. It is also possible for a submissive woman or female slave to fall in love with their Dominant or Master and visa versa. The key thing to remember, is if you are seeking a Dominant or Master who will own, control, dominate, train and discipline you and treat you like a submissive or slave in the BDSM realm, don?t go looking for ?Mr. Right? ala ?vanilla? world. ///
First --- I must state that each D/s relationship or M/s relationship is unique to the individuals involved. Second --- I must emphasize that the Dominant One and the submissive one (this includes slave) must negotiate the terms and conditions of their specific relationship up front before they ever have any real intimate or physical interaction. Third --- It is critical that the Dominant One and submissive one must fully and honestly discuss and resolve the issue of expectations, ?soft? limitations and ?hard limits.? Then the submissive must understand that the relationship is not ?vanilla? and as such, it is not a politically correct, socially approved and traditional relationship of equality between the two partners. The Dominant One must acknowledge that he knows and understands his great responsibilities and must commit to live up to the awesome burden of ownership. Remember --- When two mature, mentally competent and intelligent adults (18 and over) establish some form of a BDSM relationship, which meets both of their individual cravings, needs and desires, then it is really no one else?s business. As long as there is nothing illegal taking place and the health, safety and general wellbeing of the community and society at large is not threatened or endangered. Just because persons on the outside may consider a particularly extreme, sadistic, dehumanizing and hard-core Master & slave (or Dominant & submissive) relationship outrageous, disgusting and insanity personified, does not make the relationship wrong for the two consenting adults involved. YES! There are really Daddy Dominants who are not pedophiles, but seek babygirls or submissive daughters who need and crave a Daddy! ~~ smile ~~ ///
Please remember that all slaves by definition are a submissive one, BUT, not all submissive ones are slaves. There are also different types and levels of non-slave submissive ones. People often get confused and use the terms ?submissive? and ?slave? interchangeably. There are many similarities at times, because there are about nine different levels or types of submission. Some submissive ones can be very extreme and welcome all types of hard-core activity and surrender damn near all of their control and authority to their chosen Dominant One; these submissive ones may at some point cross over into enslavement. ///
Many womenidentify as a ?slave? and do not fully understand what that really means. Often, they confuse a ?slave? with a ?submissive? and then they do not understand that the commitment for the slave is deeper, stronger, greater, more permanent and a slave usually has few or no limitations. The critical difference is that a slave surrenders her personal authority & decision making power and total control to her Dominant Owner/Master. The slave has neither rights (except safety, sustenance, life & health and respect for valid ?hard limits?) nor self will (except to submit, serve, be used, obey & worship).
All of the slave?s property, material possessions, money and assets of value are given to her Owner/Master to manage and use as he determines best as soon as he takes full time ownership of her as his slave. The slave has her ?vanilla? life dictated and restricted by her Owner/Master. A true slave is powerless and is considered like chattel, just property, and as such, she cannot own property. Any money a slave has, receives or earns through work is immediately confiscated by her Owner/Master and taken from her by her Owner/Master. It is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities; even a slave?s self-gratification (masturbation) is controlled and regulated by her Owner/Master. ///
A slave must know and understand that eventually her limits must be expanded and her threshold for pain, bondage, humiliations, defilement and forceful ?kinky? sexual penetrations shall be challenged and stretched. As a slave, she agrees that almost nothing her Dominant Owner/Master does may be characterized by her and reported to law enforcement as criminal misconduct, physical assault & battery, false imprisonment, illegal detention, domestic abuse, hate crime, sexual assault or rape. DISCLAIMER --- Having said this, please know that I fully believe that the negotiated agreements & understandings and the hard limits must be respected by the Owner/Master and that the slave should not be required to participate in illegal activities. Also, the Owner/Master has an awesome burden and responsibility to protect the life, health, sanity, well-being and general welfare of the slave. ///
All people (Dominant & submissive) have limitationsdue to their family upbringing, religious or faith beliefs, personal ethics & values, cultural/ethnic or national origin background, health/medical restrictions, physical or mental disabilities, unexplainable phobia or irrational fears, self-esteem issues and/or prior experience with childhood molestation, domestic abuse or being a victim of a violent crime. Some people just cannot get beyond the ?Yuk!? factor. There are those who have very serious and important business or personal or family responsibilities in the ?vanilla? world, which demand their attention. These various issues and situation may prevent an individual from participating in certain kinky, sadomasochistic or sexual activities and may limit their ability to submerge full time into total enslavement and live the life 100% of the time. ///
The Dominant or Master?s sadistic side screams out ?she serves with no limits? BUT that is more often than not unrealistic and nonsensical. The Dominant or Master must keep an open-mind and patiently & honestly discuss the submissive or slave?s needs, concerns, anxieties, expectations, fears, phobia and anxieties. He must try to understand her limitations and help her determine whether or not they are ?soft? limits or valid ?hard? limitations. A thoughtful, mature and sane Master determines whether a limit is health related or caused by a disability. However, even with a hard-core pain-loving masochistic sex-slut slave who wants to be dehumanized and objectified and be given no voice or rights, it is unrealistic to believe that she shall live the next seven years of her life in a dark dungeon naked and without any contact with the ?vanilla? world while she is routinely brutalized, tortured, gang raped, ritually whipped into unconsciousness and subjected to other physical and mental mistreatments. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN ? although not impossible. ///
An Owner/Master needs to be very aggressive, forceful, strict, sadistic and domineering when he owns a slave. Nonetheless, the Owner/Master must exercise self-discipline and be intellectual, judicious and thoughtful regarding how he treats, uses and cares for his slave. The Owner/Master must never become so intoxicated with his lust for power, control, dominance and satisfying his sadistic cravings and kinky sexual desires that he neglect the slave?s humanity and legal rights and loses his self-control and neglects his responsibilities to protect his slave and keep her safe from real harm, sickness or death. The health, safety, well being and happiness of the slave should be very important. The slave is valuable property and must be kept sufficiently fit, healthy, sane, happy and functioning at a highly acceptable level and the Owner/Master must never kill her passion to be enslaved and subjugated while she voluntarily submits and serves. Only a damn fool damages and destroys his valuable slave property. ///
Neither a submissive nor a slave should be in terror and freight when she thinks of her Dominant or Master. But ? she should fear disappointing him and she should dread disobeying him or violating his rules. The submissive or slave should fear her Master?s wisdom, knowledge and power; but she should also be comforted by his wisdom, knowledge and power. The same way a child fears her father, BUT is glad he is strong, forceful and knowledgeable, because then he can protect the child, develop the child and provide for the child and keep the child safe. A submissive one?s or a slave?s greatest pain should be when she knowingly displeases, neglects, disappoints, disrespects and/or disobeys a good Owner/Master. ///
If all is as it should be, then the submissive or slave should hold her Dominant or Master in high regard and with great esteem, she should trust his judgment and she should respect and greatly value his word and teachings. The submissive or slave should hunger every day to please, amuse and satisfy her Master and obtain his approval and compliments. The submissive or slave should listen attentively to her Master and study him and learn his habits, needs, cravings and dislikes AND with this knowledge she should anticipate his desires and needs and offer such, before he orders her, in order to see him pleased and impressed. The submissive or slave should get her pleasure by giving her Dominant or Master pleasure. His kind words and smile of satisfaction and look of blissful approval & pleasure should be her primary objective. ///
A Dominant One or Master must be much more than just the man who fucks, tortures, humiliates, restrains and beats a submissive woman or slave. I strongly believe that he must be able, willing and qualified to be a Benefactor,Counselor, Disciplinarian, Teacher, Protector, Lover, Provider and Life?s Guide ? and of course, Tormentor Extraordinaire! When I use terms and words like life?s guide, counselor, teacher, protector, provider and disciplinarian, I mean the Dominant One that you choose as your Master and who has earned your trust and confidence to provide you the counsel, guidance, instruction, structure and support you need in your everyday ?vanilla? life as well as for your development in the BDSM realm. ///
YES!!! I do mean ?protection? because I am of the opinion that there are too many low-esteem half-crazy women-hating misogynistic male brutes out there subjecting vulnerable passive submissive women to criminal assault and battery and unlawful domestic violence and calling it BDSM activities. A decent, intelligent, reasonable and good Dominant Man does not expose his submissive companion or female slave to unnecessary danger or harm, and when she faces danger or harm, he is there to protect her. Domestic discipline and corporal punishment does not mean getting drunk and punching a woman with closed fist or pointing a gun at her or slapping her around and choking her for no reason. Spewing venomously vile & hateful profanity at a woman and routinely calling a woman by demeaning names without valid provocation does not make anyone Dominant and definitely not a Master. Being a Dominant or Master does not equate to mean, dumb & abusive brute! ///
The Dominant Master also protects his submissive or slave from herself. Many submissive women lack any self-control or sense of proportionality and they routinely engage in self-destructive and non-productive behavior and have serious personal problems. They go through life with a woe is me attitude and keep wondering why they are unsuccessful at everything and constantly rejected or disrespected by others and unhappy and dissatisfied with themselves and their life in general. YES!! Life is not fair and horrible things often happen to good & decent people; and it seems that the wicked live long prosperous lives while the good die destitute and young. Sometimes a woman has been dealt a very bad hand in life. Nonetheless, a good Dominant One who honestly cares about his submissive or slave and desires to rehabilitate and improve his submissive one or slave, must help her to escape self-destructiveness that may be contributing to her misfortunes and malaise. ///
I have broken submissive women and female slaves of alcohol & drug addiction, destructive lifestyles, associations with unsavory & unscrupulous characters, unproductive selfish preoccupations and making poor personal and foolish business decisions. I have shown long-term welfare moms how to legitimately and forever escape welfare and become self-sufficient and self-supporting. A Dominant or Master must be a strict disciplinarian and a forceful and robust instructor. He must have a vision about where he needs to take his submissive and what unacceptable and negative attitudes, behaviors and beliefs he must break from her and replace with more acceptable and positive ones. He must visualize what she shall look like after he breaks her down, molds her, disciplines her and rebuilds her. The Dominant or Master must teach her self-control, self-discipline and self-respect and help her understand the importance of rejecting her self-destructiveness. The Master must teach the submissive that she must guard & protect herself as if she is a highly prized and greatly valued sacred Temple; she must understand that until she loves herself, she cannot truly love & serve another ? although the greatest love is suffering and sacrificing oneself for another in order to keep them healthy and safe and make them happy, satisfied and successful. ///
If a woman is my submissive, then even when she is hundreds or thousands of miles away, she is following my written rules and guidance and she is in constant communication and keeping me informed and seeking my counsel. I give her the ?tools? and guidelines to assist her manage her every day life in a successful and productive manner. It is not incompatible for a submissive women to be a strong successful and highly paid professional or executive in the ?vanilla? world and yet submissive and enslaved full time by her Dominant Master. A submissive woman may be a political activist and community organizer and still be in submission and subjugation to her Dominant One or Master. A submissive woman may be an entrepreneur or business owner, while submitting and serving. It is not incompatible for her to remain separated from her Master for long periods in order to care for family members or loved ones or attend personal business. Bondage and subjugation do not mean locked away in a basement forever. The bondage is mainly mental and emotional. It is based on faith, confidence and trust in each other. It is something felt deep within your soul. The relationship does require stimulation, support and encouragement and there does need to be some form of intimate bonding. ///
When a submissive commits to a BDSM relationship with a Dominant, and after the terms and conditions have been negotiated up front and there is mutual agreement on expectations, limitations, commitments and standards of service, then education, training and discipline sessions begin. Both slave and submissive require obedience training to condition them to learn to obey another adult and to accept a Dominant?s commands and guidelines. It is hard for the average modern day in-control & self-sufficient woman to suddenly surrender her authority to another and give him control over her life. It is difficult for a woman in the modern 21st Century American culture to bow down and humbly obey. The slave is for all practical purposes totally owned, controlled and dominated in all matters by the Master. Many Dominants will seek to restrict or totally control your sexual activities. However, with a slave, it is generally understood that the Owner/Master decides when, where, how, with whom and in what manner the slave may engage in sexual activities. With the non-slave submissive one the Dominant does not wield as much power and lacks as much control and must be very skilled, talented and thoughtful about how he uses his authority and powers of persuasion. ///
The submissive woman or female slave should be rewarded,complimented and recognized when she provides outstanding service or when she has stretched her normal boundaries of BDSM play tolerance and explored above & way beyond her comfort levels of sadomasochism and taboo kinky sexual pleasures and hard-core use. The Dominant or Master should always be willing to show his appreciation and gratitude as much or even more than to show his displeasure and anger. In an ideal situation, the Dominant or Master feels and demonstrates real passion and genuine affection, concern and respect for his chosen submissive or slave. ///
When I show my appreciation, it may take many forms ? special gifts, little treats, shopping escapades, trip to the theatre or amusement park, a night out for fine dining and music & dance or something as simple as a lovely massage by a paid certified professional at a high-class spa & gymnasium. It also may be 'affectionate after-care' that includes gently cleaning her up (with hot wet wash rags and soft towels) after a prolonged, forceful and hard-core kinky sexual session that has left her satisfied but fully-used, exhausted, thirsty, weak, ?wobbled kneed? and sore ? and then bringing her nourishment (food and drink) to enjoy as we cuddle and I whispers delightful compliments and passionate ?sweet nothings? to you and/or read poetry while enjoying some slow, soft soulful R&B or jazzy blues music playing. YES! Showing affection, concern and thoughtfulness to a slave or submissive is appropriate and does not make one a weak person. ///
Disclaimer --- YES! I acknowledge that there are many slaves who do not wish to be shown any concern, affection, thoughtfulness or care. They want hard-core Sadists who are never gentle or kind to them. This is what would be discussed and negotiated up front when you both establish the terms and conditions of the BDSM relationship and what is to be expected. My experience is that, most slaves who say this, believe it until they live it and then they begin to want periodic tenderness, compliments and affectionate after-care. ///
Now that I have put everyone to a comatose like deep sleep, I shall cease further boredom.
Nonetheless, those are this Sir?s humble opinions.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, November 09, 2007
2:02 PM (California ? Pacific)
Good day fellow members ---
Ok ? to begin with, I admit that I am somewhat eccentric and unusual and some may find me to be a bit anachronistic and out of touch. BUT ? hey! Please tell me what is the sin, shame or crime in using America on Line for my personal e-mail, instant message and default & primary on-line Internet search engine. I realize that Yahoo is fashionable and all the rage right now BUT I am not a fad follower. I have had an AOL account since 1995 or 1996 and it has served me well. AOL even offers free accounts now and any one can register and use AIM (AOL instant messenger) without paying for the service.
In the last three weeks I have had at least two women who list themselves as either submissive or slave, engaged me in initial communication and liked what I had to say and then both desired to communicate further, AND then they popped the dreaded question, ?you got Yahoo instant messenger?? ? I know that this is the ultimate test and one of the biggest hurdles to get over, BUT I honestly answered, ?NO? and then offered other means of communication.
Whoooa ? I know I am not perfect and God knows that I have sinned mightily and come very short of His glory BUT damn! At least He is a merciful Almighty One who has a confession, forgiveness and redemption plan.
However, these Yahoo IM women (hey ? that sounded good ?Yahoo IM women? ? I must remember that one) they have no mercy, no forgiveness and no redemption. As soon as I dare admit my grievous transgressions (failure to use Yahoo IM) they immediately cease all communications and one quickly blocked me! This has happened a couple other times earlier this year also.
Where do I get the rule book? How was I to know that not having Yahoo instant messenger was not only a serious offence, it is like a heinous crime ranking up there with first degree murder and pedophilia and incestuous molestation of a minor child under the age of 13. Who knows, I may now be on the dreaded list and I must register as a non-Yahoo user and advise all web-site users before joining any other adult or BDSM sites. My reputation and character are forever stamped with: BEWARE: Not Cool non-Yahoo user and my user privileges shall be closely monitored and restricted ? my goodness, I could be banned from chat rooms!
In all candor, let us be truthful, their attitude and behavior was not only bullsh*t ? but it is immature, juvenile, dishonest and supercilious! Hey folks ? listen up ? only adults 18 years and above are supposed to be in here, this is not junior high school!! If you really do not want to communicate with someone, just be honest and admit your lack of interest. If you dare not enter into serious dialogue via e-mail with a mature intelligent adult because you fear you cannot type reasonably intelligent, grammatically correct and relatively coherent complete sentences, just confess that you are deficient in the writing medium ? most people on these sites are anyway, so you are not alone. I know that the modern American public school system has failed us. Stop acting so haughty and discord your unnecessary & ridiculous pomposity. No one is impressed with snobbishness.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Thursday, November 08, 2007
3:23 AM (California-Pacific Time)
Today?s subject is my recommendation for a new movie shown at the artsy type theatres in larger urban communities. It is a shame that these movies do not make it to the large modern multi-theater movieplex with stadium seating. This movie is a NC-17 rated foreign film called ?Lust, Caution.? Now ? I encourage all to see the R rated ?American Gangster? staring Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe, which is based on a true story set in New York during the 1970?s BUT that movie was number 1 at the box office with $46.3 million, when it opened last weekend. YES!! It beat out the B-Movie by Jerry Seinfeld. But this is about another film.
Movie: Lust, Caution
Director: Ang Lee, the Taiwanese-born, Hollywood-cultivated filmmaker
Male lead: Tony Leung
Female Lead: Tang Wei
Rating: NC-17
Length: 2 hours 42 minutes
Cultural and historical ignorance should not prevent a mature, intelligent, curious and thoughtful movie-goer from enjoying this wonderful period movie set in Japanese-occupied Shanghai and Hong Kong during World War II (roughly 1939 ? 1946 for those who do not know). Any mature and intelligent adult should be able to appreciate the intrigue and emotional heft involved in the main characters' conflicting feelings of loneliness, desperation for emotional connection, fear and ambition. This is about the brutally cruel Japanese occupation of China during WW II and is a passionate love story between a young naïve and sexually inexperienced woman recruited to spy on, seduce and bring about the assassination of the most powerful & vicious Chinese collaborator with the Japanese. Although long and a little slow in the first 40 minutes and with Chinese sub-titles, it is a great movie.
For those who would love to see forceful sexual penetrations, kinky taboo sexual activities and passionate lustful encounters with total nudity and very explicitly graphic sex scenes, leaving little to the imagination, this is your movie.
CRITIC MOVIE REVIEW >>> The locales for Ang Lee's stately, sublime "Lust, Caution" are World War II Shanghai and Hong Kong, but its roots are as much in Hitchcock as in Chinese history. Set in affluent, Westernized districts with cafes, cinemas and European fashions that recall wartime London or Paris, it begins as the kind of elegant spy romance that could have starred Ingrid Bergman.
A simmering tension builds as a spy (the exquisite Tang Wei) weaves a seductive web to trap a powerful collaborator (cool, calculating Tony Leung). Then, when we've been lulled by its refined tone and languid pace, Lee pulls the rug out from under us with brutal, bloody murder and ferocious scenes of explicit sadomasochistic sex. Even more surprisingly, Lee handles those lurid sequences with impeccable artistic integrity. Like the martial arts battles in "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon," they are essential to our understanding of the characters.
Tang makes a stunning debut as Wang Chia Chi, an actress whose patriotic student troupe moves its opposition to the Japanese occupation off the stage and into real life. They make an assassination target of the Chinese collaborationist government's spy chief, Mr. Yee (Leung, a George Clooney-size superstar in Asia).
Acting the part of a wealthy merchant's wife, Wang enters Mrs. Yee's social circle, where gossip about official power plays and trade blockades circulates during afternoons of shopping and mah-jongg. When Yee drops by the parlor to pay his respects, Wang begins to turn his head. She pursues Yee, who trusts no one, on and off for three years. In the meantime, she witnesses the student actors blundering their way through a horrific killing that tests her convictions. When she finally meets Yee in a barren love nest, he lashes her with his belt as if he were brutalizing a suspect. Are her gasps and post- coital smile genuine or part of a performance? He can't tell; nor can we, nor possibly she.
Their physical intimacy acts as a catalyst toward love, while patriotism, ideology and morality become irrelevant. Yee repeatedly slips away from his bodyguards, exposing himself to danger to be alone with her. Wang confesses to the menacing Communist agent who becomes her controller that while she yearns for Yee's death, he has wormed his way into her heart. We are left to decide who is more cruel to Wang: Yee, a traitor whose savage lovemaking is shot through with moments of tenderness, or the resistance fighters who pushed her into his arms.
The couple's passion becomes their only respite from the war's approaching annihilation. It's as much an epic of doomed, forbidden love as Lee's "Brokeback Mountain," and every bit as well-acted. Tang, scarcely off-camera for a moment, transforms herself from a naive schoolgirl to skilled seductress to conflicted lover on the verge of hysteria without hitting a false note. And Leung, who plays Yee with his characteristic melancholy reserve, brings a surprising ferocity to his fearless sex scenes.
You don't often see the kind of meticulous craftsmanship that has been lavished on this film. Pan Lai's sets are striking and sophisticated, Alexandre Desplat's score has the haunting feel of a film noir thriller, and Rodrigo Prieto's cinematography is as glossy and sophisticated as one of Wang's form-fitting cheongsams. The script, from Hui-ling Wang and James Schamus, presents the story's moral riddles in all their complexity, hiding important clues to character in a subtle glance or a tossed-off line of dialogue. It's 158 minutes long, and worth every languorous second.
Colin Covert ? 612-673-7186
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
2:09 PM (Pacific Time)
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!! Below is a true story that I experienced many years ago on a very cool, damp and late Halloween night. I got a number of interesting comments on it and so, I have reposted it. It is a lovely little tale BUT true! Once again HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!! AND be safe and careful out there, the wicked and evil ones rule this night. Ha Ha Ha ?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
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Tuesday, October 31, 2006
11:55 AM Pacific
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!! Some of you do not even have to buy or make a costume, you have many choices hanging on the door, in the closet and laying on the floor amongst your regular clothing to choose from ? anyone will do ? masks are not necessary, just wear your normal make up and head attire and present yourself with goodie bag in hand and I am certain you will be rewarded with many treats ? and those willing to pull a quick trick will get some extra loot along with the sweet stuff ? hhhmmmmm ? ///
Btw ? did you know that there is a difference between a female slave, a submissive woman, a professional submissive/slave, a cum-slut whore and a prostitute? Yeah ? some folk do not know this ? oh well. If I can be of assistance to clarify anything, please let me know. ///
Now a word to all you particularly depraved ones with the ?little-child? kinky fetish ? take your medication, pop a chill pill also and invite a nice and decent sane adult over to answer the door and provide sweet treats to the little ones this evening. Save that nasty, perverted kinky debauchery for the mentally competent adult ones who share your proclivities. There are plenty of clean shaven childish looking adult ?boy-toies? and ?baby-girls? able and willing to come play child molester and incest games with you! ///
Well, confession is good for the soul they say, and in my youth, I was more often than not a ?bad, bad, bad boy? ? there was the Halloween night many moons ago when a woman (early 30s, perhaps) and her 4 year old daughter showed up later than usual on a dark, damp and misting night ? it was about 9:00 PM, and I had not seen any little kids for at least 20-30 minutes. The TV was on and the lights low and I was starting to enjoy some hot butter rum drink when ? ding dong ? the door bell rang ? damn! Anyway, both mom and daughter wore costumes (mom looked like snow white) ? while they stood at the door getting the treats and I flirted with mom and cautioned them not to be walking about alone so late, the little girl started to do a little dance and she had to pee ? she had to pee now! What could a kind hearted gentleman do BUT offer his guest bathroom down the hall. Mom and daughter returned both looked refreshed and more relaxed ? as mom was explaining it was late and they would stop trick or treating, little girl demanded hot cocoa which mom obviously had promised earlier ? gentleman to the rescue again ? after all the kettle was still full and steaming with hot water. ///
15 minutes later daughter was asleep on my couch and mom was on her knees putting her undivided attention and full talents into seriously sucking some very hard cock. Mom kept reassuring me that only a major catastrophe could wake little girl. Mom was a freak!! Soon she was behind the back of the couch bending over watching little girl sleep while I was slapping that ass and laying some serious pipe ? mom was moaning and groaning and suddenly yelled out some profanities and proclaimed to God that she was cumming as she violently convulsed and shook furiously ? little girl jumped up all excited and wanted to know why mommy was screaming & crying ? The good in me said stop and discretely withdraw ? but the devil in me said, ?fool you better get this pussy and bust a nut? hell, all the blood had rushed from my head and was fueling the misdeeds down below ? I continued driving hard to the finish line with greater urgency, while mom tried to calm and reassure little girl ? 10 minutes later I was all alone sprawled in my big chair while my heart returned to normal beats ? wondering, why did I not get her number ? damn, that stuff was good and a nice hot, juicy hairy one too! ///
Enjoy tonight lovers of the dark and evil because tomorrow, November 1st is All Saints Day! Then the good folk & angels rule for a day, while the wicked & evil ones rest and recuperate. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
11:00 AM (Pacific time)
The California Fire Storm!!!
YES! I am right in the midst of this major disaster BUT so far, all is well. Lets see it is now day four and we have over 900,000 people evacuated from their homes and over 600 residences destroyed and numerous employers and businesses shut down and about 25% of the highways and freeways either closed or with limited access ? over 8,000 firefighters between Los Angeles and San Diego in addition to some federal and military personnel and plenty of helicopters and planes dropping thousands of gallons of fire retardant liquids and water ? it is day four and about 12,000 people still reside at the local NFL foot ball stadium and every hotel and motel from southern San Diego County (near the Mexican border) to northern LA County is packed! ///
And still there is smoke, dust and ash raining down, and the air is filthy ? and fires still rage all around southern California. It has been a challenging and unpleasant experience BUT I have not been evacuated and my residential neighborhood is still safe with minor inconveniences. Although I briefly lost my TV cable connection and I still cannot connect to the Internet using the broadband connection. I have had to resort to dial-up telephone and my service provider has not yet been able to call back since Monday, because they closed down and half of their workforce is unaccounted for or displaced. ///
At least we are all volunteering and helping friends, neighbors, co-workers, family and loved ones. Such is life in beautiful warm and sunny southern California. ///
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Friday, October 19, 2007
12:39 PM (Pacific time)
Issue: Cyber BDSM Relationships ---
Now it is time to once again speak ?truth? and put another misnomer to rest. I see a number of profiles posted by so called ?slaves? or ?submissive? women who seek a Dominant One to Be their Master or Mistress and dominate and control them via e-mail. They desire, according to their profile to be dominated totally and only via e-mail and/or communication on CollarMe.com. He he he ? ah ah ha ha ? pardon me, that was very rude and insensitive. Allow me to regain my composure and objectivity.
Let us be serious; it is possible for a very skilled, knowledgeable, qualified and experienced Dominant (who is a Master at training) to provide some education, guidance, training and development for a submissive or slave via the Internet. If it is possible to include telephone communications after awhile, it is possible to move closer towards actual domination, but never the type of full control or total subjugation that is core basis of a real relationship.
Anyone who is seeking for a Dominant person to ?dominate? her, within the context of the BDSM realm, through the medium of the Internet using vehicles such as this web-site and private e-mail only, must be informed that such a venture is really not possible from a practical stand point. Any persons that state otherwise are lying, do not know what they are talking about or are trying to manipulate and/or misguide the ?slave? wannabe or ?submissive? trainee for various reasons.
I am being honest and sincere. The premise that underlies such requests or proposals is that it is possible to actually ?dominate? someone in a BDSM relationship 100% through the medium of the Internet. The barriers of the cyber world are many and complex and do not provide the possibility of true domination (especially of a slave) without going through extreme, costly and elaborate measures, which most likely would involve third party surrogates and proxies. However, once one introduces a surrogate or proxy, is this truly domination by Internet only ? probably not.
Damn it ? must I now define ?surrogate? and ?proxy? ? YES, I have been informed that I must. Damn it! A surrogate is a temporary stand-in, a replacement, a deputy who assists the One in authority with orders, this is an alternative person (who does the physical things that the Master is too far away to do). A proxy is another word for surrogate. In other words, if I am in California trying to dominate a cyber slave in Kentucky, to achieve something approaching real domination, I need to find a person in Kentucky whom I trust and who is available to follow-up and ensure the slave or submissive is doing as directed. Such a proxy would also be authorized to wield the whip and flail with the cane, when the Master directs.
The BDSM relationship between a Master & slave is much too intimate to exist long term in cyberspace and only via the Internet. There is a bonding that cannot truly occur. How does one administer domestic discipline? How does the slave or submissive truly serve the Master and cater to his needs and cravings?
In my humble opinion, it is like someone claiming to be a rugby player and yet desire no and avoids all physical contact and hard-hitting, and wants to never get dirty or muddy or have his uniform grass stained or his knees skinned & bloodied. That is no rugby player. Those ?cyber slaves? are just bored and looking to play games. Maybe there is one in every 300,000 cyber relationships that could work that way BUT, tell me how.
Below is a humorous little piece I wrote in May 2006 on the subject. Check it out.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B in CaliforniaUSA
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Monday, May 15, 2006 10:46 AM [Pacific Daylight Time]
It is time to get real. There is no way that O/one may have a legitimate Master/slave relationship or even a serious Dominant & submissive relationship via e-mail. That is a crock of sh*t!!! Anyone that believes that most likely does not know much about what this alternative lifestyle is based on, is in denial or is just delusional. ///
As the Dominant One sits at His computer (without the benefit of video cam or microphone) staring into His screen as He types giving orders and commands, how does He know that the submissive is not on the other end chuckling with her girl friends and enjoying a cheese burger & ice cold Pepsi. How does He discipline or punish her? How does He really know that she is living her life in accordance with His dictates? The submissive one may have a local stud laying on her bed urging her to hurry up with the nonsense and come back to him because he is hard again ? all this while she swears chastity and total sexual abstinence until she finally hooks-up with her Dominant One. ///
YES!!! There is much education, instruction and guidance that may be given via e-mail and supplemented with periodic phone calls. BUT, when the e-mail relationship stretches out beyond 15-45 days, chances are she is vulnerable to other distractions and more immediate temptations in the real world. ///
The other question becomes, how does she truly submit and serve ? how does she humbly meet the sadistic desires and base carnal cravings of her Dominant One? Hhhmmmmm ? yeah there is phone sex, I guess; BUT cyber sex is a joke ? ha ha ha! How does the Dominant take her firmly in hand and bend her to His will and desires. When does she taste the painful sting of the lash and the discomfort of actual bondage, confinement and restraint? When and how is the intimate relationship consummated? How do they BOND? ///
No, when someone starts telling Me that they have served a Master via e-mail for many months or years, I just smile and say, that this Sir does not engage in unnecessarily prolonged cyber-relationships, because I seek something honest, real and true life. ///
Here comes the disclaimer >>> I know that there are those special situations involving very unique circumstances that create the perfect environment for a genuinely natural submissive one to be in submission to a skilled, experienced and talented Dominant One; and that this may be possible to go on for months and years. I met such a submissive woman about nine months ago, but it ended abruptly after less than ten days when she mistook something I wrote, got scared and she retreated to the safe and secure, but lonely, confines of her brother?s home, where she lives a "sheltered" life as the personal door mat, baby-sitter and servant for her very strict older brother and his wife. It is a sad existence, BUT that would be the perfect situation because she had no life and was not exposed to out side influences and was rigidly controlled by a dominating and insensitive brother ? yeah, perfect, if she had her own computer, which she did not. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B
Friday, October 19, 2007
11:48 AM (Pacific time)
I have decided that it is time to offer comments on an obvious phenomenon in this and other similar adult and BDSM web-sites. That is the many women who identify as ?slave? or ?switch? or ?submissive? and they languish on these sites searching and are unable to find the One, even though they complain about being bombarded with dozens and in some cases hundreds of messages and requests to chat on a daily or weekly basis from Dominant Masters and Dominant Mistresses.
Yet, week after week and month after month stretching into over a year, they are still here in their so called search. Hhhmmmmm ? something is afoot. Below is what I wrote about this in October 2006.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B in CaliforniaUSA
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Wednesday, October 11, 2006 12:21 PM Pacific Time
After observing how many women who identify as ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? conduct themselves in this and other similar websites, I am gaining a better understanding and appreciation for their behavior. They are like little kids in a massive candy store with dozens of rows of sweet confectionaries and hundreds of bins over flowing with delicious colorful delights and staff tasters tempting them at every corner and aisle. Yet daddy has said you may choose only one ? hhhmmmmm ? damn! What is a poor candy addicted kid supposed to do? Valuable time is wasted as daddy quickly selects what he needs and grows impatient as he glances at his watch and encourages the child to make up her mind or they shall leave without any candy. ///
On these sites, the men live up to their role and aggressively pursue the women AND they make all kinds of offers that they believe will catch the female object of their interest?s attention. Men inherently know and understand that they are required to be the hunter and predator and even though women complain about it, they know that they are programmed to pursue and hunt and pounce and often times they get ignored or rejected, BUT as a good ?running buddy? of mine used to say, ?You make your profit off of the volume ? you hit on a hundred, sooner or later, you get lucky and score.? Hhhmmmmm ? Yeah, but what if you desire more than just a one night stand or quick piece of ass ? sometimes the wrong ones respond and then you are stuck trying to escape or explain your sudden reluctance. ///
The problem is that most women who identify as ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? on these sites get inundated and overwhelmed with perhaps dozens of messages in one day and some get hundreds in less than a week. Yes ? they complain about all the attention and modify their profiles to help men self-screen themselves out BUT deep down inside they are flattered and excited by all of the possibilities ? I mean what if just ten percent (10%) of the 100 messages that interested them were genuine, real and sincere ? that is ten interesting and desirable men that sought the woman?s attention. There is now a 50% chance that of the ten, at least five are ?hot? guys that are just what she craves and seek ? what is a poor ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? to do AND ? oops!! I forgot about the dozen ?hot? women who may have contacted her with enticing offers ? damn!! Now she can live out her bisexual curious side too. Oh my god!!! Life on these sites is too good! ///
Then rather than make too hasty of a choice she decides to play the game of seeing which has the most and best to offer and which will cave in to all her heart?s desires and then she tries to see if she can play two or three at one time BUT wait ? more messages are coming ? she fears that she must be cautious and carefully shift through the next batch of 300 or so and ensure that there is no great diamond awaiting her response. Life is so demanding for a ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? on these sites AND the intoxicating effects of so much attention is most addictive ... and in all candor, one should not be too surprised that she gets a little "light headed" and carried away ... he he he ... ///
Then there are those looking for a real experienced, knowledgeable and strong Dominant to develop, train, mentor and mold them etc., however, the "Dom" must not be over 25 years old ? AND of course, there are those who have messed around with being sub or slave and now think it may be fun to play the dom for awhile and see which they prefer ... BUT those are other subjects for discussion.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) California USA
Monday, October 15, 2007
12:12 PM (Pacific Time)
RE: The word ?Righteous?
Just in case there are more than two members on this site who misconstrued or overreacted negatively to my use of the term ?righteous? because they got the wrong impression regarding my meaning and intent, this is for all of you, and of course, other interested persons.
Righteous in this and most contexts has nothing or little, if anything, to do with organized religion or being religious. One may be righteous and be totally agnostic or an atheist.
To clear up misunderstandings and any misapprehensions, please know that the words I would associate with my use of the word ?righteous? in the poem I wrote in my journal on October 13 would include the following: decent, good, honest, just, moral and respectable ? even a hard-core sadist can be ?righteous? if he possesses certain qualities, characteristics and self discipline. Those who wish to discuss the matter further, please contact this Sir.
Enjoy the day as if it were the last ?
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Saturday, October 13, 2007
12:01 PM (Pacific Time)
It has been awhile since I have felt like sharing, but I have much to communicate, which I shall withhold at this, BUT I do offer the following even though it has not been edited and properly vetted and smoothed out ~~~
A Poem of Righteous Dominance & submission
Your faith and religious beliefs matter not
Your trust in the God or any deity is of no consequence
The Almighty One created all humanity pure and perfect
But gave them burdens to bear, challenges and struggles
His word shows the truth and provides the light
Each one is endowed with creativity, free will and choice
The choice for good and evil is a daunting one
Each must stand and decide his or her own fate or be dragged along
And all are free to seek counsel from righteous men of dominance
Wisdom, knowledge and understanding and heeding the good word
These are the keys to the light and the road map to success
Chastity, discipline, submission, obedience, charity and humility
Provide the fertile ground to receive the good word and wise counsel
Caste aside bigotry, greed, lusts, superstitions and irrational fears
Before you ignore the so-called ?untouchable? one, listen thoughtfully
Open your mind, do not close your heart, but look beyond the physical
The naked eye alone cannot discern what it is you seek and need
The counsel, guidance and teaching from the Dominant One with authority
You need His knowledge, wisdom and understanding and strict discipline
If you only but submit, listen, obey and surrender control and authority
He shall lead you down that path to satisfaction and self-actualization
Where you shall find comfort, peace of mind and freedom from want
Put your body, mind and heart before the righteous Dominant One
Let Him train you and guide you and mold you and develop you and protect you
Feel His power within and about you and hide not from His forcefulness
Submit before Him and accept His authority, discipline, control and teachings
He shall study you and learn your weaknesses, faults and transgressions
Every blemish, scar or imperfection He shall observe and note
Yet, like the Almighty One, He shall accept you and reward your goodness
Your secrets, failures and misgivings are safe with Him, and shall be corrected
Your subjugation under Him shall provide you confidence, calm and peace
There may be times when He appears unjust, too harsh or too strict; waver not
Be neither hesitant nor irresolute; do not falter during your rebuilding phase
Like birth, the rebuilding involves pain, hardship, vulnerability and struggle
Like a child before his father or student before his taskmaster, you may tremble
Come before Him with love, respect, trust, faith and fear and serve Him
He shall be your salvation and your provider and your protection
His business is to correct and repair your sources of weakness, He rids you
Of your addictions, anxieties, doubts, egotism, greed, ignorance and lusts
You shall be strengthened and invigorated and motivated as you develop
Soon the mysteries, uncertainties and confusions shall disappear
Where once there was weakness, timidity, self-doubt and lack of purpose
There shall be a humble, compliant and obedient one who is at peace with nature
And she radiates self-confidence and self-respect and possesses good self esteem
The evil doers, unsavory predators, false prophets and self-righteous ones
May no longer trespass upon you and subject you to abuse or ridicule
The righteous Dominant One keeps you safe, secure, satisfied and comforted
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
6:03 PM (Pacific Time)
Kind Folk & Gentlepeople ---
I got selected for jury duty and starting 9:00 AM today, I am Juror # 3 on jury for a criminal case. Damn! This really sucks ? and I do not mean in a pleasant way. I have been called to jury duty four times in my life, but this is the first time I got selected to serve as a juror. Well, my next four to five workdays are all tied up in a court room.
I guess life could be worse, BUT it costs $15 to $25 dollars each day to park near the Courthouse and the Metropolitan Hall of Justice. YES!! We get paid ? $15 per day and 33 cents per mile if we drive our car to the court. WOW!! I could get rich here!
Have a wonderful day!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Monday, September 17, 2007
8:45 AM (Pacific time)
JURY DUTY!!! I have jury duty again starting tomorrow ? damn!! I know , I know ? it is all my fault because this civic responsibility could have been over and done with two months ago BUT for business reasons and my ailing left foot with its Plantar Fasciitis, I sought and obtained an extension. Well, guess what folks ? eventually, as they say, one must pay the piper, and my account has come due. So on Tuesday, I shall hobble down to the lovely metropolitan hall of justice & courthouse and sit around and pray I do not get selected. Perhaps a beautiful submissive lady will sit beside me and get my attention ... and then she reveals that she is lost without either collar or master and she craves discipline, spankings and a strong firm hand ... Hhhmmmmm ... perhaps this may turn out all right. That is this Sir?s rant for the day.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Sunday, July 15, 2007
7:30 AM (Pacific)
Jury Duty!!! I got Jury Duty beginning on July 17 ? I have had more jury duty in southern California during the last nine years than all the rest of my life combined! Sometimes being a tax paying, registered voter American citizen brings burdens (or should I say civic responsibilities) that are both a challenge and major chore ? especially when I suffer from Plantar Fasciitis ? damn!!! Other wise it would be a interesting respite from the routine, and you do meet interesting people also.
Nuff Said!
Mr.B
Today is July 7, 2007 ? which is 07/07/07.
This is a once in a lifetime date and no one shall see it again
Mr.B
Thursday, July 5, 200710:39 AM (Pacific)
The issue of whether or not I or any Dominant should post photographs or provide upon request pictures showing actual sexual, kinky, punishment and/or sadomasochistic activities with any previous or current submissive or slave in order to prove authenticity keeps coming up. I also make it clear that I protect and respect my privacy too much and I prefer discretion and confidentiality. In addition, I highly value and treasure the relationship I may have with a submissive or slave and I respect their needs and rights for anonymity, privacy, confidentiality and discretion when they engage in BDSM play, sadomasochism and taboo kinky pleasures. I discussed this matter in my journal in January 2006, and my opinion has not changed. Please read below. Thanks!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California USA
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Originally posted: Friday, January 13, 2006 1:16 PM Pacific Standard Time
Some members believe that any true and genuine Dominant, submissive or slave must be able to provide proof through either documented and verified affiliation with BDSM groups or registration with some official site. Others demand that a Dominant Master or Mistress and even a submissive, switch or slave must show evidence of their participation and experience by providing photographs of actual BDSM play and/or written references to authenticate their status. ///
This is all well and good for those that need such. Nonetheless being the maverick that I am, I believe that the intimate and unique relationship between a Dominant and His submissive partner or slave is private and special and they do not need to publicly display it or provide photographic images of their erotic, sexual, kinky, torture or other BDSM activities. There is a mutual trust and confidence established between those in this sub-cultural alternative lifestyle and each is vulnerable in so many different ways. ///
With the exception of a small percentage of folk in the lifestyle, each of us must continue to live life and succeed in the ?vanilla? world and some have careers, business and other important interests and personal relationships of significance to develop, nourish and/or protect. As such, each must decide for his or herself whether or not they desire to conform with such expectations or requests and if it may cause more problems than it solves. Some interested in or drawn to the lifestyle are new and inexperienced or very much ?still-in-the-closet,? so to speak, and fear going public. Many refuse to post photographs in order to hide their identity (and protect their privacy), except to those special people whom they meet and trust. ///
No, those aforementioned demands and stipulated requirements are not real and conclusive litmus tests for who qualifies as a genuine Dominant, switch, submissive or slave in the BDSM realm. The best way to judge is by their demeanor, attitude, behavior, mannerisms, personality, writings and conversation. Even then you really do not know for certain until you truly interact with them. ///
In this Sir?s humble and yet strong opinion, there are also moral or ethical concerns. When a submissive one or slave consents and allows you to take photographs of her during some very intimate, stressful or intense moments of BDSM ?play? and expects that these are special gifts she offers humbly to her Dominant or Master, does she relinquish her right to protect her image from being smeared all over the world via the internet. ///
I rarely take photographs, because I am too busy with the pleasures or ?tasks? at hand BUT when I do, they are kept secured, private and confidential even if we separate on not too good terms. Unless, I have knowledge that she is publicly displaying such images and enjoys the publicity, I would never distribute such. ///
Just for the record, this lifestyle should be much more than just sexual activity, kink & erotica; and as such, although I love seeing the nude female body (especially the legs & derrière), it seems more appropriate to also include clear photos of your face in your profile and not just genitalia and breasts. ///
I know, I know, this is the year 2006 and we are in the 21st century and everyone is supposed to want to have 15 minutes of fame or notoriety and no one is to desire privacy, discretion and confidentiality BUT perhaps I am just the unconventional Dominant, who is eccentric and sufficiently rebellious to be the odd one out who goes off on His own path. /// It is all good! ///
Btw ... many photographic images are staged & posed for and not real activity. Some make a living as models doing this ... he he he. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
2:30 PM (Pacific)
People who identify as so called ?submissive women? and ?female slaves? on this web-site and others for that matter never cease to amaze me. Recently I had enjoyed a very brief and yet pleasant and interesting communication with a young lady in her mid-twenties who identified as a female slave, residing in California. ///
During the course of our writing back and forth I responding to questions she posed regarding slaves or submissive woman I have been involved in and mentioned that it was not my style to take photos of any BDSM activities between a sub or slave and myself and then distribute them to others online. I like to respect confidentiality, privacy and discretion issues BUT, I happened to mention that there were two who did some ?fetish modeling? and I considered that since some of those photos had been sold or displayed online, perhaps I could show such to her. ///
My goodness!! The response I received was brief, terse and unpleasant; and some what disrespectful ? even in the ?vanilla? world, it would be considered an inappropriate over reaction. She immediately blocked me, as if I were some sort of stalker. Her abrupt and brusque message was: ?Obviously you are a player. women who did fetish modeling? Geesh give me a break. Good luck? ///
If a woman in this lifestyle desires not to communicate with me any more that is fine. She should feel free to say so, and even comment to be too busy or no longer interested in any association with me. I will not develop severe mental problems and commit suicide. I can handle that honesty. There is no reason to invent and produce a pathetic baseless excuse such as that and then block immediately me. As I say, it is always a lady?s choice, and I expect little from these online encounters anyway. ///
For her to assume that becauseI have had a relationship with two women who did modeling for the BDSM realm means that they are in some manner low class trash or whorish sluts or unclean is bogus, because she knows nothing about them. What they did was pose for photos that could be marketed to the leather community and those with taboo kinky proclivities or those interested in BDSM lifestyle. ///
These women never engaged in prostitution and they were not irresponsibly promiscuous sluts. They were attractive women in the lifestyle who needed to supplement their income. One had already stopped modeling before I met her, but still had some photos in the marketplace and online ? she never did totally nude poses and hers were always tasteful and classy pictures. The other posed showing primarily bondage and spanking shots ? some times she was nude. Both used reputable photographers with real business license and studios. Neither had sex with the photographers nor anyone who was on the distribution end. ///
For a young woman residing in California who identifies as a slave and claims to be apart of the BDSM alternative lifestyle, her comments seem rather judgmental, unfair and prudish. Especially since she has a nude photo of her upper body posted in her on CollarMe.com and she admits in her profile that ?Right now I dance two times a week and make bucks? Hhhmmmm ? strikes me as being a little hypocritical for more reasons than one. ///
The question I still have is how does my previous association with these two women who were fetish models make me a ?player? ? that is overly presumptuous and not very fair. Now I know many interpretations for the word ?player? and some are very positive and others are negative in connotation. ///
I have known and had associations with all kinds of people in
my life time ? some were thugs and street hoods, many religious leaders, governors and various federal, state and local elected officials including US Senators and Congressmen ? I have known and hung with famous professional athletes and some folk in the music & entertainment industry. ///
People are people, and I do not jump to conclusions about who is bad and who is not ? I need more objective, tangible and compelling evidence than my own subjective bias and irrational prejudices. If some man kidnaps a little girl and rapes her, that is easy to make a quick negative assumption about his sanity, morality, criminal proclivities and etc. /// What if I had said that these ladies previously were featured in Playboy magazine as the centerfold model ? now, that would make me a real PLAYA ? right? Damn ? yeah, I can see it now ? old Hef and I hanging at dah mansion sipping on some Chrystal Champaign & Dom Perrier in our pajamas and robes while those cute bunnies and magazine models tried to catch our attention and display their luscious assets ? yeah! Talk about a Playa up in dah house ? cool! ///
The Good Book says judge not that you be not judged for with the same that you judge so shall you be judged ? or words to that effect. Trust me I have known strippers and call girls with more class, sophistication and higher ethical standards than many of the hypocrites out here. AND ? yeah, these strippers & call girls paid their way through college and own property, fine homes and drive expensive luxury cars and now have successful legitimate professional careers. Not promoting sex for sale BUT, many are more honest and genuine than their counter parts trying to scam and manipulate people out of money or borrowing with no intent to pay. Life is funny. Too bad ... I hoped to enjoy some provocative banter, mental stimulation and intellectual discourse with that dear young slave in California. ~~~ smile ~~~ ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Sunday, June 17, 2007
6:22 PM [Pacific]
OK already ?
?HAPPY BABY DADDY?S DAY!!! Now may we return to our regular programming of perversions, depravity, debauchery, sadomasochism, BDSM tortures and other taboo kinky pleasures!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Thursaday, June 14, 2006 11:16 AM (Pacific)
Just for the record. Any individual on this site talking about being a slave or establishing a long-term or live-in 24/7 TPE relationship with another would be wise to invest some time and energy in serious intense discussions up front. YES!!! A slave or submissive may discuss their fantasies, cravings, needs, fears, anxieties, limitations and concerns during the initial contact and "getting to know you phase." /// It is this Sir's point of view that if someone is not seriously interested in dealing with these issues up front, or if they are not interested or too bored to listen or read about the other person's philosophical approach to sadomasochism, BDSM, domestic discipline and living conditions, limitations and preferred activities, then they are either NOT serious and just playing games or they are immature and not very bright or they are a fraud with a fake profile. Always use good judgment and common sense and look before you leap! Of course, they may be someone just seeking a quick hook up and a play date rendezvous ... I guess that is alright too, BUT at least be honest. /// If a Dominant or Master cannot explain in detail how and in what manner they shall educate and teach and mold you, and if they have no guidelines or rules or protocols to provide the submissive or slave structure, then I question whether or not they are a true Dominant Master with the ability to teach, train, guide and mold anyone. /// That is this Sir's humble opinion! Mr.B (aka Master Barry) California USA
Friday, June 08, 2007
12:03 PM (Pacific)
It seems that whenever I try to communicate with various ones on this and other sites it seems as if we speak different versions of the Americanized English language. Could it be that we are experiencing normal confusion and misinterpretations due to everyday cultural dialect problems, unforeseen semantic issues or has this recent history practice of assigning new meanings to phrases, words and terminology finally caught up ? am I caught up in some type of generation-gap? Oh my goodness ? I may not be part of the hip-hop generation, but I am modern, relatively hip and up to date ? are there tutorials on MTV or BET that I am missing. ///
Damn!!! But wait ? some of the persons I have misunderstandings with are in my age group ? yuk! I realize that I am an enigma with most peculiar idiosyncrasies BUT I am no quirky eccentric locked away in some cave with an old semi-automatic 45 pistol, Bible and an oil lamp while still fretting about whether or not Roosevelt can convince Congress to declare war on Japan. ///
Anyway, my current dilemma is regarding the difference between two words, which, in all candor, are often used interchangeably in normal parlance. The words are ?harm? and ?hurt? ? YES!!! I may hurt you, but I shall endeavor never to harm you, my dear submissive one. Her response is, oh yeah sure ? what is the difference? ///
For purposes of this discussion, please may we agree to only consider hurt associated with physical suffering and not anything related to emotional, mental, psychological or spiritual distress. Please ? pretty please ? good ? thanks! ///
Hurt is defined as a physical suffering or distress characterized by actual pain, soreness, a tenderness or great discomfort. The pain continues as long as the activity that causes the pain continues unabated ? the pain, soreness or discomfort may linger on and continue to be tender for a brief period after the source of the pain ends. For example: dad grabs his belt and whips that child?s butt, yes the child feels the stinging painful lashes of the leather. The dentist pokes around your teeth and digs into your gums with sharp sterile instruments and that causes pain, soreness and discomfort. A Dominant grabs his slave?s breast nipple with pliers and clamps it tight and pulls it hard and twists aggressively ? yeah ? there is pain! In each case, the pain & discomfort either immediately ends or gradually goes away with no real damage within a short period after the torment ends. ///
Harm is defined as a resulting damage, detriment, impairment, injury and/or some type of disability caused by someone or some activity. Harm usually means that something happened that caused a major illness, long term or chronic injury or some type of permanent damage. When one is harmed physically, often times they have some aspect of their body or physical being ruined and it is no longer functioning as well or it has suffered a grievous wound or injury requiring professional medical attention and a period of healing and recuperation. It could mean that one is scared for life, maimed, disfigured or lost a major limb or use of one or more of their senses. When someone is harmed --- ambulances, doctors, emergency medical techs, police officers and fire fighters and lawyers and judges often get involved. ///
I attended grade & high school in the British West Indies on a island nation in the Caribbean. Teachers were allowed and did use bamboo canes and belts or leather straps to enforce punishment. Once when I was about 12 hanging out with some guys during recess, some of my associates thought it would be fun to torment certain girls with rocks and dirt and verbal teasing. This was reported, and although I never participated, I was identified as one of the miscreants. Each accused little reprobate (including myself) took turns going to the front of the class and the teacher took her long bamboo cane and beat us ? while the tattle tale girls quietly giggled with delight.
We had the choice of bending over or stretching out your arms and holding out your hands with palms up. I held out my hands and endured one of the most painful three minutes of my life ? six hard strokes in each hand delivered alternatively ? first right and then left. I wanted to both cry and pee my pants ? I did neither ? when done, I turned around and walked stoically to my desk with my dignity intact. My hands were red, welted and slightly swollen and were both very sore and severely tender to the touch. I could barely write. BUT ? by the time I got home 90 minutes later, all was cool ? pain was gone and no damage; just a bruised ego and anger at the injustice. ///
My point was that during the flogging I washurt and suffered greatly BUT I lived and all was well less than 90 minutes later and I suffered no real harm. A Dominant may hurt a submissive or slave during sadomasochistic activities, BDSM play or punishments BUT, he must be sufficiently thoughtful, careful and cautious and skilled to never harm his submissive or slave. ///
That is this Sir?s humble point of view!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Thursday, May 31, 2007
11:59 AM (Pacific)
I have to grudgingly admit that I was wrong about the holiday weekend. The theatre was top notch and very enjoyable & genuinely funny in the most pleasant manner. The dinner, which required about a one city block walk was outstanding and even more so because the service was EXCELLENT and about the best combination of pleasant atmosphere, comfortable seating, delicious food & great portions, beautiful people (male & female) waiting on you and excessively attentive courteous service that I have experienced in a very long time ?
? I hate having to admit it, BUT, I told the lovely lady, who dragged me kicking and screaming against my will, that I was most impressed and very delighted by the entire after noon and evening. She was not deterred even when I protested that my severe case of Plantar Fasciitis (a horrible foot ailment) would flare up and cause me much pain & discomfort with all the wearing of dress shoes and walking. She took my keys and drove the car and dropped me off in front of the theatre and then found a parking space about three blocks away and after dinner she retrieved the car while I waited in front of the restaurant ? door to door service ? she even bought the theatre tickets ? he he he ?
? BUT I felt so good about the evening, I paid for dinner ? considering all --- dinner, drinks, coffee, dessert etc. ? the cost of less than $150 was not bad ? a mere steal if I may add. The most attractive hostess regularly checking on us and often stopping by our table to enjoy friendly banter with us while she flirted and rubbed her body up close on mine ? priceless!!! I think I shall return again soon ? without a date ? maybe when this damn foot feels better!
It is probably best I do not encounter a genuine masochistic pain-slut in the immediate future, because this Plantar Fasciitis brings out a sadistic nature that may be hard to control! Any hard-core masochistic pain-sluts seeking some real miserable suffering, please write soon ? YEAH!! Do that ... but you better sign a waiver first, because I cannot be responsible for my actions once I get my hands on you and my tools of torture working ? he he he.
Peace & Love!
Master Barry
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, May 25, 2007
1:59 PM (Pacific)
I saw a horrible accident about 45 minutes ago ?
Life is so very interesting and mostly funny in a not very amusingly humorous way. Every time you think life is tough, you hear of the misfortunes of others and are immediately reminded of how great your own life is, even though you may not be satisfied or particularly satisfied with the facts and circumstances of your life at that moment in time.
I often joke with family & friends about how the last three to five years have been a series of one miserable ailment or injury after another ? some of it has been really dumb, some what disabling & often embarrassing stuff BUT none life threatening or particularly dangerous ?
? a very painful & infected ingrown toe nail that took three bloody & painful surgical treatments by two different podiatrists over 18 months to finally heal; I severely aggravated my left shoulder playing pool & beach volley ball in the Bahamas while on vacation (and that was before the damn toe was fixed!) ? we avoided surgery but it was about 15 physical therapy sessions & special at home exercises and a major change in lifestyle and physical activity before it was repaired and healed ? I was on a seven day cruise and on the last day slipped and fell on spilt water in the kitchen/dining area and injured both wrists and suffered some mild arthritic discomfort; damn wrists were almost useless always in pain for about three to five months ? aggravated my chronic bad back a couple of times and etc. etc. etc.
Now I have a bad case of Plantar Fasciitis, which is a horribly & painful foot ailment usually suffered by athletes and long distance runners ? this damn thing takes at least six to nine months to fully heal if you do all the right things ? There goes my power walking and even walking long distances through the parking lot is a real pain ? I hate soaking my foot in ice, I hate those stupid foot & calf stretching exercises, I hate taking anti-inflammatory pills ? I hate having to put special inserts into even the most comfortable shoes ? I hate I cannot wear my many lovely boots without pain & agony!!!
? back to the accident ? one fire engine, four police cars, two ambulances and all types of emergency medical technicians, police and fire men scurrying back and forth ? three severely damaged cars (two of which were smashed up real bad with air bags deployed) ? the public safety officers had to direct traffic through the tragic mayhem and we drove threw at 15 miles per hour and observed the sadness of it all ? people were seriously injured and perhaps some one died or may ? it looked bad!
So perhaps I should not be angry that a lovely lady is dragging me to a wonderful theatrical production and forcing me to enjoy a fancy dinner afterwards tomorrow after noon ? I keep saying my foot may start hurting as I walk from the car to the theatre or restaurant ? guess life is not as bad as it seems!
Enjoy the three day Memorial Day holiday weekend and be very careful out there ? we need you kinky perverted and depraved folk back for more debauchery and sadomasochistic pleasures!
That is this Sir's humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
4:56 PM (Pacific)
Kinky Erotic Poetic Banter
between ?
Barre the Francais (Dominant Sir)
and ?
The First Princess (a most precocious young lesbian Domme)
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ACT I
The First Princess: ?do you love me boi..?
Barre the Francais: ?? what is not to love; you my dearest one
are the epitome of erotic pleasures and sensual joy ?
obviously your sexual talents are legendary,
your mind is sharp, your wit is intellectual
and your spirit and personality are so divine ?
to not love you would be to offend the gods ?
how can any man or woman not love one so sexy, witty & kind?
The First Princess: ?always thinking of me ? boi??
Barre the Francais: ?? dearest lady, you are now always on my mind ? ?
you are the naughty girl who dares to call me ?boi?
and challenges this Sir to be your erotic plaything and sex toy
The First Princess ?will you serve me - not run .. ?
The First Princess ?adore me as your only one ? boi??
Barre the Francais: ?This Sir will service you and provide you multi-orgasmic pleasure ?
but, you must be my kinky little tart,
and to me surrender your heart;
then, yes, I can adore you, I shall play the part ...never
shall I run from you; I shall cherish you as my special treasure ??
The First Princess ?will you be my foo and drink my dew ? boi??
Barre the Francais: ?a foolish sissy boy toy, this Sir may never be,
but, I am the cad who will suck your ?punany,? rim your derrière
make you soil your panties in erotic delight, while you drink my pee?
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ACT II
The First Princess: *squats down and makes pee pee on your feetz*
Barre the Francais: ?Yes ? you made pee pee on my feet ?
BUT, pray tell the rest of the story!?
daddy takes babygurl on a drive to the moon lit beach
babygurl is freshly showered, baby powdered & smelling sweet
she sits provocatively in the car exposing her perky titties & hairy peach
she wears only a short loose frock and sandals for her feet
just the simple loose fitting dress, but neither bra nor panties
all admire her sexy slim athletic form as she frolics in water and on sand
daddy calmly watches over her from afar ? he leans against his car
suddenly babygurl rushes to daddy looks into his eyes and grabs his hand
?pee pee daddy, babygirl needs to pee pee? as panic fills her eyes
the tears begin to flow as she soils herself and pees upon daddy?s feet
he gently lifts her to the car hood, raises her dress and parts her thighs
daddy softly sings a soothing song as he towels her dry ?
then he buries his face between her thighs and begins to lick her peach
tongue, lips and teeth forage through her urine soaked hairy mound
and soon babygurl?s swollen clit and wet ?punany? are found
daddy kisses, sucks and licks her clean and muses ?babygurl?s pee pee is sweet!?
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Tuesday, May 8, 2007
11:33 AM [Pacific time]
Recently a submissive Christian young lady asked me the following question in one of her initial communications with me, she asked: ?? what do you think to be the best of all in relationship?? I tend to be very thoughtful and analytical and very comprehensive and detailed when I speak or write BUT this time I tried to be brief and to the point. I tried to put my response in the Christian religious context that I thought she would feel most comfortable reading. I wrote the following:
?My answer is the ?friendship? aspect of the relationship, because if there is a genuine friendship then there is mutual respect, honesty, sharing (of the good & bad), love (does not have to be the erotic/sexual ?love?), affection, compassion and a mutual trust & faith in each other. The friendship aspect endures even when people are separated or far away and even if there is no sexual intimacy.
The Christian ?agape? form of love is the brotherly or spiritual love of one Christian for another; it is similar to God?s unwavering love for mankind. The Christian ?agape? form of love is different from the eros (erotic, romantic & sexual) form of love. The agape love is unselfish and binds friends together without sexual implications. It is more true than an erotic/romantic type of love because it does not depend on sex, romance, physical intimacy, treats, marriage, dating or material gifts. It is the strong bond between two people (like a parent and child or two brothers ought to share) that remains constant and unchanged no matter what the situation or circumstances; each person only wishes to see the other person healthy, happy, satisfied, safe, secure and successful AND they can enjoy each other?s company without even having to speak.?
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I was quite satisfied with that simple answer because I thought it could apply in both the every day life ?vanilla? world as well as in the BDSM realm. I also thought that regardless of your religious beliefs or whether or not you were Christian, a member of some other faith or agnostic or an atheist, the above definition of ?friendship? had a useful meaning and was reasonable.
I often say that when two people enter into a meaningful BDSM relationship with a genuine commitment to each other and it is not just a periodic play time thing or lets get together for a sadomasochistic scene or some taboo kinky sexual fun, then there should be a mutual trust & faith in each other in which there is a friendship and genuine respect and affection.
A good Dominant or Master must go beyond merely being the One who controls, uses, subjugates, tortures, whips, punishes and dominates ? He must be the Mentor, Counselor, Protector, Benefactor and Teacher in addition to her Master. No Dominant One will willingly take on these roles and responsibilities unless there is a love & friendship on some level. It need not be the ?eros? type love, it most likely needs to be the ?agape? type love.
Once a submissive or slave knows that there is not only mutual trust & faith in each other BUT that her Dominant or Master has a genuine affection for her involving friendship & love, then her mind, heart and spirit are at ease and she more willingly surrenders her authority, gives him the total control he needs and offers her body to be used as he pleases, because she knows that although he may hurt her physically, privately humiliate her and make her uncomfortable at times, he shall always keep her safe, sound, secure and protect her health, sanity and well being while respecting her valid hard limits! Just because she may be a slave or submissive does not mean she is an unintelligent, ignorant and inanimate being with no thoughts, feelings or humanity.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Thursday, April 05, 2007
8:45 PM [Pacific Daylight]
WHAT IS SUBJUGATION ? why is it relevant & significant to BDSM?
Once again this Sir was questioned as to the meaning of the word subjugation and its significance and even relevance in the BDSM realm and a relationship between a Dominant One and a submissive one. I know that I have discussed this in my journal once before, but, I think it is time to refresh my journal and bring this word ?subjugation? to the fore for the edification of those who are interested in such. ///
Subjugationis a rarely used word in normal everyday parlance these days, but it is one of the most accurate words to fully and totally clarify the relationship between a real Dominant-Master and a true slave that is naturally submissive and who surrenders her total control and authority to her Dominant, who has taken her firmly in hand and is her acknowledged owner, Lord & Master. ///
Subjugationmeans to bring a person, a people, a state, a thing etc. under complete and total control; to conquer and dominate those or that under control and to use what ever means may be available to ensure those ?conquered? ones under control remain enslaved, submissive and subservient at all times. Those under control are vanquished and have had all of their power to resist destroyed, significantly reduced or rendered basically useless and ineffective. Rebellion is not tolerated. ///
In the Dominant/submissive lifestyle and the world of BDSM, a submissive one who becomes enslaved must be fully subjugated with the exception of those few areas that it is pre-agreed that she will have some limited authority to exercise control and make necessary decisions. However, when such prior agreements are reached, the relationship often reverts to one of submissive & her Dominant and not a slave & her owner, who is her Lord & Master! ///
The submissive one or sexual slave is subjugated through a number of methods including bondage (physical, emotional & mental), psychological mind-control, romance & seduction, corporal punishment, forceful detention, confinement or caging, and physical & social/sub-cultural isolation. The submissive one or sexual slave is overpowered and controlled by any means necessary, and this includes using her own petition for ownership by the Sir that she submitted to her current Dominant-Master when she sought His authority, dominance, discipline, training, leadership, instruction, protection, structure and mastery. The Dominant-Master may use any written or oral agreements and understandings they may have reached at the genesis of the Master/slave relationship to remind her of her commitment and deter her recalcitrance.
The Dominant One shall never completely own a submissive one until He has completely trained, disciplined and subjugated her. No submissive woman may be truly enslaved and subjugated until such time as her heart, mind and soul are committed, because then her physical actions follow the dictates of her heart and the instructions of her mind; when the submissive or slave is emotionally involved, then complete surrender is possible and physical cages, ropes, hand cuffs, restraints and bondage are no longer required, and all things are possible. ///
This type of subjugation requires that He do whatever is necessary, without compromising His position of authority, to woo her and romance her through eroticism and gratifying sexual activities and using tenderness and seductive words and actions to appeal to her heart. This further requires that He do whatever is necessary, without compromising His position of authority, to educate her about the natural order of Master & slave and the role each is ordained to play vis-à-vis each other, and how each is greatly benefited, more functional and satisfied once the natural order is firmly established and maintained. ///
This also requires that He do whatever is necessary, without compromising His position of authority, to encourage and assist the submissive one or sexual slave achieve certain of her primary personal goals and encourages her desired growth and development within the ?vanilla? world of academic education, business, commerce, politics, religion, social institutions and the community at large. He understands that this increases her value, overall worth and desirability, and provides greater self-esteem for her Owner! Finally, this also requires that He do whatever is necessary, without compromising His position of authority, to guarantee her safety, security, good health, well-being, emotional stability and sanity. He will also provide her the privacy, discretion and confidentiality she may need to function effectively and successfully in this life. ///
Disclaimer --- This Sir acknowledges that there are those submissive slaves who crave an extreme form of enslavement and subjugation that ?permanently? separates them from ?vanilla? society and forever takes away any and all decision making responsibilities for the rest of their life. Such a relationship may work for six to thirty six months, BUT in 97% of all Master/slave relationships by that third year all are climbing the wall. This may work best in a larger polyandrous household that includes a diversity of people with a myriad of relationships and different levels of submission, enslavement, authority and responsibilities.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
11:309 PM Pacific Day Light Time
There are those self-righteous ones on this site who overreact and respond with antagonistic comments, when another member attempts to communicate with them. Even if the member was respectful, honest and considerate in his/her communication, these sanctimonious ones become presumptuous and prejudgmental and make unfair assumptions and unpleasant insulting allegations in their brief terse responses. Then being the fair and even handed persons that they are, they do the mature & reasonable thing and immediately block you before you can respond or address their allegations. ///
I think the real concern and primary question that should cross a real submissive woman?s mind, when she is the recipient of correspondence, is whether or not the writer is genuine and sincere about what he/she wrote and if there was anything in the writer?s message, profile and/or journal writings that she found interesting, stimulating or attractive on some level. ///
YES!! There are many woman-hating misogynistic men out there looking to prey upon vulnerable women and subject them to all manner of misuse, abuse and unlawful violence, but I am not one of them. I would counsel members to not immediately dismiss another member based on some biased preconceived notion that they may have without giving him/her due consideration, because you may chase away or block the very person whom you crave & need. ///
In any case, I hold no animus towards this antagonist and still consider her a most interesting, desirable and ?classy? submissive woman that any Dominant One would be proud to be associated with. I sincerely hope that she finds that which she seeks and needs. ///
Other members have complained of this previously in their journals, and now I understand why they were so angry and frustrated. I shall now restrain myself and refrain from being my normal garrulous self, lest I once again be found guilty of some major infraction by a self-righteous one. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, January 02, 2007
10:15 AM Pacific Standard Time
Happy New Year to all Dominant Ones, submissive ones, slaves and those who switch also!
YES!! I know that I write extra long messages and they sometimes get a little redundant, BUT at least I make a genuine effort to introduce myself and explain who and what I am and my philosophical approach to BDSM activities and lifestyle. ///
One of the problems with today is that very few people read anything longer than a short quick "jingle" and too many leave secondary school ill prepared to communicate comprehensively and effectively in writing. When I write to someone, I pretend that we are sitting in a coffee shop or over lunch or dinner on a first meeting and enjoying a ?getting-to-know you? type conversation. I try to write many of the things that we would discuss and answer question that the recipient would ask if we talked for real in person. ///
Once again ? Happy New Year! I hope you got some cash & credit left for 2007 challenges. Btw ... the date Collarme gave of 12/29/06 and the time of 7:13 AM are inaccurate, this was written on Tuesday, January 2, 2007 at 10:15 AM. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, December 25, 2006
Kind folk and gentle people and the sadists and masochists are also included, I hope you enjoy a wonderful, bountiful, fun-filled, memorable, safe and restful holiday season AND that you still have sufficient money and credit left to meet your financial responsibilities and life?s costly challenges in 2007.
This greeting is meant for all including those who celebrate:
Good Day to all those still recovering from too much turkey and stuffing, too much football, too much shopping, too much debauchery, too much ass whipping, too much family getting together and the others of course. YES!! My thanksgiving was a most wonderful affair because the NFL Dallas Cowboys kicked ass big time down in Texas and won on Thanksgiving Day; they do not call them America?s team for nothing and we all know that the Heavens rejoice when they win and the stock market goes up significantly whenever they win the Super Bowl (yes ? this is true). Then last night my LA Lakers (that is the premier NBA basketball team) spanked New Jersey Nets and sent them back to the east coast. ///
Well ? I guess I should be thankful for the submissive lady who suddenly realized that she needed a good spanking and needed it done immediately! Let?s just say that that most beautiful and healthy brown round was tenderized and worked over real well ? no blood, no cuts and no severe bruises, but the Grand Master left his mark on her ass and in her heart & mind, in more ways than one! ///
TODAY?S SUBJECT IS ABOUT SUBMISSION
Remember >>> All slaves are submissive by nature, but not all submissives are slaves!!!
I often read and hear people wanting some Dominant to teach them to be submissive. NEWS FLASH!!! No Dominant can teach you to be submissive ? either you are submissive or you are not a submissive. A Dominant may introduce you to BDSM play, educate you about the lifestyle, engage you in sadomasochistic activities and help you learn your limits and tolerance for pain, humiliation, hard-core use, forceful sexual penetrations, torture, degradation and public play among other things. A good Dominant may assist you discover who you are and the true nature and type of your submission and whether or not you have slave tendencies. BUT ? he cannot make you be a true genuine submissive. Always remember, that this is about much more than sex, BDSM play and spankings ... it is emotional, mental and spiritual as well and is deeply imbedded into your heart mind & soul. It is about mostly discipline and the submissive having sufficient trust and confidence in a Dominant One to surrender her authority and give him the control! ///
YES! Anyone can role play for a couple of hours and pretend to be submissive or allow themselves to be tied up and subjected to kinky sex in a scene HOWEVER, that does not make you a genuine submissive! The person is just play acting out a role. It is important to understand that just because a couple agrees to experiment with and experience more kinky and taboo forms of sex and exotic erotic play in private, does not mean that they are in a BDSM type Dominant & submissive relationship! Nor does it make one partner Dominant and the other submissive. Such a couple is just playing games and having fun. ///
For a genuine and natural submissive, this is her life and she has a deep seated hunger for being controlled and subjugated and she craves being subservient and under the authority and strict discipline of a Dominant One whom she respects, admires, trusts and has confidence in ? this may even develop into a deep passionate erotic & romantic love for her chosen Master. The true submissive does not need to role play, that is how she lives her private life and it comes natural to submit, serve, bow down and be self-less and respectful. The genuine submissive woman hungers for domestic discipline (not unlawful domestic violence), rules, structure and guidance in her private life. Thus when a Dominant One agrees to own and control a submissive woman and "collar" her, that Dominant takes on an awesome burden and much responsibility. This is a commitment that must never be taken lightly. ///
Normally a true slave within the BDSM realm is an extreme submissive who seeks a Dominant Sadist to become her Owner/Master and totally possess, own and subjugate her in all aspects of her life. This type of extreme submissive woman usually craves hard-core sadomasochistic use, domestic servitude, BDSM tortures & play with no-limits (except life & health, food & shelter and safety), 24/7 TPE and live-in circumstances and to be treated as property in every sense of the word. She expects no rights or freedoms and places her life and future in her Master's hands. Often love, affection and romance is not part of the deal, although sometimes a strong passionate bond develops. This is the true submissive slave within the BDSM realm ... you cannot teach these types of tendencies and nature! ///
Among the things a Dominant Master can and needs to teach his submissive woman is what his expectations, behavior guidelines, rules, protocols and limitations for her shall be. After the two negotiate the initial parameters, conditions and terms of the new Dominant/submissive relationship and agree on her perceived ?hard-limits? ? I say perceived, because as time passes and there is greater trust and faith in each other, limitations change and boundaries are stretched and expanded. He can also educate her about the BDSM realm and this alternative lifestyle from his perspective and assist her understand certain peculiar communication styles, ?strange? terminology, unconventional activities and cultural idiosyncrasies that may be unique to the BDSM sub-culture. ///
The best thing that a good and genuine Dominant, who is truly a Master, can do in terms of training and education, is to assist the submissive understand her submissive side and help her not fall prey or victim to the ?evil predators? who hunt for vulnerable and docile women and then use and abuse them and then toss them away without regard to their feelings or needs. A Dominant Master must also teach coping skills to a submissive who must live in the ?vanilla? world ? he can assist her by providing guidelines and counsel on how best to deal with situations she may encounter out in the real cold hearted world of politics, business, commerce and power. For example, a submissive may be too meek and docile to stand up for her rights for overtime that is due her and she may allow others outside in the ?vanilla? world to push her around and take advantage of her. ///
On the flip side, many submissive woman hold powerful positions and are very dominant in the ?vanilla? world and sometimes that presents emotional and mental issues for them as well as conflicting internal stressors with which they must deal. A good Dominant Master must be supportive and assist her better manage the dilemmas and challenges she often faces (as submissive nature fights with the powerful political leader or business manager mind set). Ever wonder why Hillary never left William Jefferson Clinton ... hhhmmmmm ... damn! Bill is dah Man!!! ///
If all one craves is just kinky sex, then they are not truly submissive; if they want to dominate from the bottom, they are not submissive. The submissive begins to notice at an early age that she gets more joy and satisfaction in giving, serving and being used by others for their pleasure. The genuine submissive constantly feels a great sense of accomplishment and happiness when she knows that she has made others feel fulfilled, entertained, happy and satisfied. ///
Although the average submissive nature is one that tends to be more masochistic and willing to accept pain and discomfort and long suffering as her lot in life, being submissive has more to do with how much of her personal control and authority does she willingly and gladly surrender to her chosen Dominant Master. The more power the submissive relinquishes is the deeper and more comprehensive is her level of submission. Often times, due to business, responsibilities and obligations in the ?vanilla? world it is difficult for her to totally surrender authority and control as she prefers and craves to do ? when this happens she is often miserable within. Oftentimes the true submissive is most "free" and empowered when she has surrendered her control and given all authority to her Dominant One ... others may see her as imprisoned and oppressed and living the 1950s housewife existence before the feminist movement liberated women fully ... but that true submissive is happy and content in her subjugation and new found freedoms! ///
Submission is more spiritual, emotional and mental than it is physical. The submission is only often manifested in a physical manner, such as succumbing to domestic discipline and enduring the spanking or surrendering her body for torture and other physical hard-core use or performing ritual foot washing and doing domestic house work. However, as I often write --- Until a woman feels the passion in her heart, the conviction in her mind and the freedom from fear and worry in her spirit, her body can never truly relax and she will never submit or surrender to any Dominant One; she is never really controlled or dominated, even if she surrenders her body to be used for the sexual pleasures and sadistic desires of One, she is not owned until she gives her heart, mind and soul to that One. The submissive one saves the deepest and most valuable part of her nature for that true One that she seeks. Sometimes her need to serve and be used overwhelms her and she must seek play partners to satisfy the cravings BUT she is not owned. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Note: Idiosyncrasy --- unconventional behavior, eccentricity, peculiarities, quirks, weird habits, oddity, odd conduct, strangeness, different and not normal ///
Friday, November 17, 2006
3:15 PM Pacific Standard Time
Based on some recent observation of and communications with various so called ?submissive? ones and so called ?slaves? of the BDSM realm, I thought I should consult my dictionary and thesaurus to ensure that I am not mistaken in my interpretation of what a genuine and true submissive woman may be, especially in the unique realm of sadomasochism and BDSM. ///
The following are words and terms I found that either agreed or disagreed with the whole concept of a natural and genuine submissive person. Hey ? there were others, but, as they say, it was becoming overwhelming obvious. ///
I shall offer no interpretation or editorial commentary. I shall let the reader decide for him/herself. If anyone cares to discuss the issue, I am available and open. ///
WORDS & TERMS AGREEABLE WITH SUBMISSION:
Acquiesce >>> accept, agree, assent, comply, consent, give in, go along with, yield
That is this Sir?s most humble opinion (well, maybe the dictionary?s)!
Have a safe, pleasant, enjoyable, fun-filled and relaxing weekend!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
2:53 PM Pacific Time
At last the American people have arisen from their deep sleep and hypnotic state of subjugation and have thrown the bums out and reclaimed the Congress for the people. Finally George W. Bush felt compelled to fire the arrogant, hawkish and elitist Donald Rumsfeld and has already nominated a new Secretary of Defense. YES!!!
One can only pray that sanity, civility, ethics, reasonableness, competence and skilled leadership will return to the federal government. May be even war profiteering and corruption will at least be significantly reduced, if not ended. Perhaps finally the needs of the average man and woman struggling to survive and make a decent living will be given priority by the federal government. May be the right wing, hard-core ultra-conservatives will retreat to their holes for a brief period and allow some progress to be made for the average person and there can be more peace and prosperity and personal liberty!! Best wishes to all!!!
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, November 06, 2006
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
Greetings to all and I hope that on this eve of a most significant election in the United States of America, that my fellow adult American citizens are registered to vote and listening attentively and thoughtfully to what the political parties, political pundits and TV talking heads are saying ? I trust that in between all of the kinky perverted debauchery and sadomasochistic activities the adults on CollarMe.com who are American citizens have been performing their patriotic responsibility and obligation to be studying the issues and forming objective reasonable decisions about who best can lead this country. ///
Remember, those eligible US citizens who neither inform themselves about current issues and the performance of our elected officials nor vote on election-day must not complain too much about the results because they get what they deserve. Those adult US citizens who refuse or neglect their responsibilities and do not even bother to register to vote ? shame on you! People are dying (and I do not mean Iraq) in many countries for the right to have a legitimate and meaningful participation in the political, economic and social future of their nations and local communities. ///
I shall not spoil the festive & frivolous mood here any more than I already have with this writing by offering my honest views on the current administration and the war in Iraq. I shall only say ?Afghanistan ? YES!! Iraq ? NO!!? ///
I intend to vote and to vote as often as possible and I have some long diseased family members and friends still on the registered voter rolls, and they shall rise up, hustle to the polls and perform their patriotic duty ? hhhmmmmm ? Don?t forget to vote!!! ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ?
Please return to the perversions, debauchery and sadomasochistic frivolity AND I apologize to those rudely interrupted by this miniscule minute of rational thought. For those still scratching their heads and wondering what is a poll, registered voter and election ? do not be overly concerned just retreat back to the safe confines of ignorant bliss and continue to have a wonderful day! Btw ? Vice President Dick Chaney needs some new hunting buddies, don?t forget to sign up and join the lottery. ///
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, October 31, 2006
11:55 AM Pacific
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!! Some of you do not even have to buy or make a costume, you have many choices hanging on the door, in the closet and laying on the floor amongst your regular clothing to choose from ? anyone will do ? masks are not necessary, just wear your normal make up and head attire and present yourself with goodie bag in hand and I am certain you will be rewarded with many treats ? and those willing to pull a quick trick will get some extra loot along with the sweet stuff ? hhhmmmmm ? ///
Btw ? did you know that there is a difference between a female slave, a submissive woman, a professional submissive/slave, a cum-slut whore and a prostitute? Yeah ? some folk do not know this ? oh well. If I can be of assistance to clarify anything, please let me know. ///
Now a word to all you particularly depraved ones with the ?little-child? kinky fetish ? take your medication, pop a chill pill also and invite a nice and decent sane adult over to answer the door and provide sweet treats to the little ones this evening. Save that nasty, perverted kinky debauchery for the mentally competent adult ones who share your proclivities. There are plenty of clean shaven childish looking adult ?boy-toies? and ?baby-girls? able and willing to come play child molester and incest games with you! ///
Well, confession is good for the soul they say, and in my youth, I was more often than not a ?bad, bad, bad boy? ? there was the Halloween night many moons ago when a woman (early 30s, perhaps) and her 4 year old daughter showed up later than usual on a dark, damp and misting night ? it was about 9:00 PM, and I had not seen any little kids for at least 20-30 minutes. The TV was on and the lights low and I was starting to enjoy some hot butter rum drink when ? ding dong ? the door bell rang ? damn! Anyway, both mom and daughter wore costumes (mom looked like snow white) ? while they stood at the door getting the treats and I flirted with mom and cautioned them not to be walking about alone so late, the little girl started to do a little dance and she had to pee ? she had to pee now! What could a kind hearted gentleman do BUT offer his guest bathroom down the hall. Mom and daughter returned both looked refreshed and more relaxed ? as mom was explaining it was late and they would stop trick or treating, little girl demanded hot cocoa which mom obviously had promised earlier ? gentleman to the rescue again ? after all the kettle was still full and steaming with hot water. ///
15 minutes later daughter was asleep on my couch and mom was on her knees putting her undivided attention and full talents into seriously sucking some very hard cock. Mom kept reassuring me that only a major catastrophe could wake little girl. Mom was a freak!! Soon she was behind the back of the couch bending over watching little girl sleep while I was slapping that ass and laying some serious pipe ? mom was moaning and groaning and suddenly yelled out some profanities and proclaimed to God that she was cumming as she violently convulsed and shook furiously ? little girl jumped up all excited and wanted to know why mommy was screaming & crying ? The good in me said stop and discretely withdraw ? but the devil in me said, ?fool you better get this pussy and bust a nut? hell, all the blood had rushed from my head and was fueling the misdeeds down below ? I continued driving hard to the finish line with greater urgency, while mom tried to calm and reassure little girl ? 10 minutes later I was all alone sprawled in my big chair while my heart returned to normal beats ? wondering, why did I not get her number ? damn, that stuff was good and a nice hot, juicy hairy one too! ///
Enjoy tonight lovers of the dark and evil because tomorrow, November 1st is All Saints Day! Then the angels rule for a day, while the evil ones rest and recuperate. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California
Friday, October 13, 2006
11:00 AM Pacific Time
HAPPY FRIDAY 13th
I guess it is appropriate that the month of October, which has Halloween on October 31 also has a Friday 13 to further alarm and panic those superstitious ones out there. ///
The question of the day is: Why would anyone perceive the average submissive or slave as weak, immature, unintelligent, mentally deficient, ignorant, stupid and/or nothing more than an insignificant ?door mat? ? hhhmmmmm ? perhaps someone who is not particularly thoughtful and rational in their own conclusion drawing processes may assume such (remember never assume blab la bla). ///
We often draw conclusions based on [ 1 ] our own prejudices, [ 2 ] the accepted bigotry or bias of those whose opinion we trust or respect, [ 3 ] the amount of information and/or experience we have, [ 4 ] our ability to collect, study, analyze and objectively reach logical conclusions, and [ 5 ] our cultural, ethnic, religious or national origin background. /// In other words three people can observe the same situation and draw different conclusions depending on many personal factors. ///
The average ?vanilla? person who has lived under the accepted and approved mores and standards of their community would quickly state that any woman who would seek a life in which she agrees to surrender her control and give her personal authority to another person and then authorize and encourage them to regularly beat and flog her with whips, belts and canes AND force her to routinely eat out of a dog bowl on the floor AND do the other person?s house work without any financial compensation AND agree to be forcefully sexually penetrated at the whim of the other AND accept being bound up and locked away in very uncomfortable positions AND drink someone else?s urine and allow themselves to be peed upon AND have someone pinch their clitoris with pliers and stick needles through their breasts and a fist up their anus ? THIS PERSON MUST BE SICK, MENTALLY INSANE, WEAK, DEPENDENT, STUPID, UNEDUCATED, ON DRUGS, OR A POOR UNFORTUNATE IN A THIRD WORLD COUNTRY ETC. ///
Because no educated, mature, intelligent, sane and self sufficient person would do such ? right? WRONG! These are not necessarilly weak women with low self-esteem who are ashamed of themselves; many are proud of their submissive nature and happy to submit and serve the right Dominant One. Many very highly educated, self-made business women and highly paid professionals who succeed in the ?vanilla? world and live in the USA, Canada, UK, Japan and Europe seek this out everyday. Many of these submissive women or female slaves are brilliant and very successful, but they make the choice in order to achieve happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction. Btw ... many of these are very sexy, physically attractive and beautiful women some of whom could be fashion models if given the opportunity. ///
Actually this takes a strong and confident woman who knows and understands her personal needs and is in touch with both her masochistic nature and her cravings for extremely exotic, very erotic and kinky non-traditional sexual fulfillment, which would be considered too perverted, depraved and ?nasty? for a decent, self-respecting woman. Although some of these woman may not serve openly and never publicize their taboo proclivities in order to protect their economic, financial, political and self actualization status and avoid embarrassing, humiliating and upsetting family members, their need for discretion and privacy is a testament to their practical and logical thought process. ///
These submissive women or female slaves are not ashamed of what they are they take great pride in serving, submitting, being used and assisting their Dominant One or Master satisfy his sadistic needs and perverted sexual needs. They are proud of their accomplishments to routinely endure particularly harsh floggings and whippings and to endure hard-core sexual use, depraved abuse and BDSM tortures for hours or days at a time with little food & drink and even less rest or sleep. They have a ?libertine? spirit and are truly embracing the traditional American constitutional freedoms of adults being able to associate with whomever they choose and having the right to pursue life, liberty and happiness in any manner that is pleasurable, rewarding and satisfactory without the government or local community dictating what they do in private with other like minded and mentally competent adults. ///
These submissive women or female slaves only ask that they be appreciated, respected, protected and nourished and that the One they allow to control, discipline, dominate, subjugate and use them also sees them as a valuable, significant and desirable part of that One?s life and that he be sufficiently thoughtful, sane, reasonable, skilled and knowledgeable as to not cause them real harm or severe injury or illness. The submissive or slave places her heart, mind and body in the hands of the Dominant One and she needs him to protect, safe guard and ensure her physical health, mental well being and emotional stability! The relationship works best when there is an emotional bond and mutual consideration and respect. Most of these submissive women or female slaves consider it important to share more than just the physical aspect of this lifestyle. They yearn for it all, to surrender their heart, mind, body and soul to the Dominant One who has earned their trust, respect and admiration. The One who is worthy of their submission and servitude must also be their benefactor, friend, lover, mentor, adviser and protector. They may crave the painful tortures, brutal control, strict discipline, humiliating misuse, routine spankings and harsh corporal punishment and uncomfortable and restrictive bondage BUT yet they desire to know that there is genuine affection, empathy, compassion, passion and concern on the part of the Dominant Sadist and often look forward to expressions of appreciation, compliments and gentle after-care when the session is done. They desire a real emotional and mental bond and this gives them strength and the desire to go on. They hunger to be the source of amusement, pleasure, sexual satisfaction, comfort, pride and inspiration for their Master. ///
Btw ? If a so called ?Dominant One? still thinks that these are weak women, they must ask themselves: Could I give up my control, freedom, rights and authority to another and then be routinely subjected to any painful abuse, mistreatment, degrading humiliation, defilement or forceful sexual penetrations that some other person felt like subjecting me too? Hell No!! I know, I could not ? it was hard enough being in military training at the US Naval Officer Candidate School and having some bad breath ass hole yelling in my face while making us do close order drills with weapons without winter coat or gloves in 20 degree weather in New Port RI. /// A dear extreme masochistic pain-slut submissive friend of mine in California is under a six month contract with a new Dominant; she tells me that she is now into scat (shit play) and he and she get in her bath tub and they take turns defecating in each others hands and playing with shit ? she observes his inexperience and uncertainty with scat and neither she nor he knows where this may lead BUT until then among other things she must play with human feces. Could I have someone order me to do such ? Hhhmmmmm ? hell no! ///
NOTE: Now for the disclaimer ? YES!! There are women who identify as a slave or submissive who are immature, mentally deficient, insecure, hopeless, weak and in very unfortunate circumstances that make them exceedingly needy and very vulnerable. Often such submissive women or slaves are really seeking shelter, a safe harbor and someone to care for and protect them and they offer their body, sexual services and domestic abilities to compensate their so called ?benefactor? or Dominant One. There are others who desire to withdraw from society and the ?vanilla? world and desire to be treated as little more than inanimate property or a non-human animal with no rights and no limits ? they welcome being a ?door mat? ? each case is different and each person must deal with their own proclivities, fantasies, needs and cravings. ///
A good, decent and mature Dominant One must seek to truly know and understand his submissive or slave and he must assess the rationale behind her limitations and expectations and make decisions that are beneficial to the submissive or slave and not just his own selfish and self-serving cravings, because this is to be a voluntary relationship in which both parties negotiated an understanding and agreement in advance and truly embrace the relationship. Is it really voluntary when one is uneducated, financially destitute, virtually homeless, mentally incompetent and desperate ? the question is rhetorical because the answer should be obvious to even an immature self-centered nincompoop. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, October 11, 2006
12:21 PM Pacific Time
After observing how many women who identify as ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? conduct themselves in this and other similar websites, I am gaining a better understanding and appreciation for their behavior. They are like little kids in a massive candy store with dozens of rows of sweet confectionaries and hundreds of bins over flowing with delicious colorful delights and staff tasters tempting them at every corner and aisle. Yet daddy has said you may choose only one ? hhhmmmmm ? damn! What is a poor candy addicted kid supposed to do? Valuable time is wasted as daddy quickly selects what he needs and grows impatient as he glances at his watch and encourages the child to make up her mind or they shall leave without any candy. ///
On these sites, the men live up to their role and aggressively pursue the women AND they make all kinds of offers that they believe will catch the female object of their interest?s attention. Men inherently know and understand that they are required to be the hunter and predator and even though women complain about it, they know that they are programmed to pursue and hunt and pounce and often times they get ignored or rejected, BUT as a good ?running buddy? of mine used to say, ?You make your profit off of the volume ? you hit on a hundred, sooner or later, you get lucky and score.? Hhhmmmmm ? Yeah, but what if you desire more than just a one night stand or quick piece of ass ? sometimes the wrong ones respond and then you are stuck trying to escape or explain your sudden reluctance. ///
The problem is that most women who identify as ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? on these sites get inundated and overwhelmed with perhaps dozens of messages in one day and some get hundreds in less than a week. Yes ? they complain about all the attention and modify their profiles to help men self-screen themselves out BUT deep down inside they are flattered and excited by all of the possibilities ? I mean what if just ten percent (10%) of the 100 messages that interested them were genuine, real and sincere ? that is ten interesting and desirable men that sought the woman?s attention. There is now a 50% chance that of the ten, at least five are ?hot? guys that are just what she craves and seek ? what is a poor ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? to do AND ? oops!! I forgot about the dozen ?hot? women who may have contacted her with enticing offers ? damn!! Now she can live out her bisexual curious side too. Oh my god!!! Life on these sites is too good! ///
Then rather than make too hasty of a choice she decides to play the game of seeing which has the most and best to offer and which will cave in to all her heart?s desires and then she tries to see if she can play two or three at one time BUT wait ? more messages are coming ? she fears that she must be cautious and carefully shift through the next batch of 300 or so and ensure that there is no great diamond awaiting her response. Life is so demanding for a ?slave? or ?submissive? or ?switch? on these sites AND the intoxicating effects of so much attention is most addictive ... and in all candor, one should not be too surprised that she gets a little "light headed" and carried away ... he he he ... ///
Then there are those looking for a real experienced, knowledgeable and strong Dominant to develop, train, mentor and mold them etc., however, the "Dom" must not be over 25 years old ? AND of course, there are those who have messed around with being sub or slave and now think it may be fun to play the dom for awhile and see which they prefer ... BUT those are other subjects for discussion.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Thursday, September 28, 2006
5:55 PM Pacific
There are so many disingenuous profiles on this web-site that it is getting to the point when one begins to lose all objectivity when assessing the posted profile?s personal data and written narrative; it is beginning to all seem false. What really gets me is the various types of scams and fraudulent activity coming out of Africa, especially Nigeria, and other deceitful fake members from Russia. The truly funny part is how the majority of them do five things to give themselves away:
[1] List ?Native American? as their ethnicity; they have not the faintest idea what the designation ?Native American? means. I start asking them about tribal affiliation and the indigenous nation of which they are a part. They have not a clue! Most look like a black African American female or a white Caucasian woman with North American or Northern or Eastern European features and the facial attributes of a fashion model, and a few look like they are from India or Pakistan.
[2] They list themselves as living in an American city & state, but as soon as you communicate with them they then begin to tell some outrageously interesting story about currently living in Russia or some where in Africa, usually Nigeria.
[3] Then sooner or later you hear the great misfortune that they have suffered and they need some type of financial assistance; one so called business woman has been trapped in Lagos, Nigeria for over 90 days, because I could not send her $300-$500 to help her bribe and pay off corrupt customs officials. I wonder how she affords to stay at the hotel for so long ? hotels are not free and they cost more than $300 for a weeks stay, even in Africa.
[4] Their written communication is usually very bad with poorly spelt words, bad grammar and they do not communicate in regular American parlance.
[5] They all immediately fall in love and want to hurry to you to be your wife or 24/7 TPE permanent slave ? as soon as you pay all expenses and send cash.
The deviousness is appalling, but the dishonesty is so obviously pathetic and not straight forward that I am beginning to feel sorry for their simplistic, naïve and amateur efforts. These con artists are neither professional nor sophisticated and need to be better educated about contemporary American culture and language.
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
10:27 AM Pacific
Well my dear and very good ?vanilla? lady dragged me kicking and screaming in protest to a resort in Palms Springs, California for three days. Did not mind a nice retreat to Palms Springs, but the mandatory tour of the Joshua Tree National Monument & Park was not this Sir?s idea of a way to spend a lovely hot day in the dry dusty desert. Damn it!! I really enjoyed myself and it was good to take a non-business trip for a change. ///
Ever since my college days when I spent all summers working for the US Forest Service building camp grounds, clearing trails in wilderness areas, surveying & constructing roads, conducting ecological projects, reseeding the mountains and fighting fires, I have avoided most opportunities to ?enjoy? the forests and national parks. ///
Women always want to go into the woods for the picnic or to enjoy a camping get-away trip ? hhhmmmmm ? I must confess, I have had some hot & torrid adventures with the right woman under the stars, on a park bench or picnic table, in the more discrete confines of the sleeping bag or tent or up against the car in the bushes BUT ? oh well! ///
I guess one must always keep an open mind and leave his or her options open!
Peace & Love!!!
Mr.B
CaliforniaUSA
Thursday, September 21, 2006
11:09 AM Pacific Time
Once again I have decided that I must curtail my method of communication and adopt to a more appropriate and contemporary approach. I am too academic, detailed, comprehensive and thorough. It is a shame but too many members will not take the couple of minutes necessary to focus and read a lengthy profile narrative or extensive written message/e-mail in a careful and thoughtful manner. They may do a quick scan and check out the photographs but anything longer than half-a-dozen non-complex short sentences is a great tax on the attention span and a severe challenge to the intellectual capacity of too many on these types of sites.
Perhaps the dialogue below is more in keeping with the new approach I should follow. I can learn much from the obviously dominating, forceful and compelling style of this fictional Dom.
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Tuesday Morning
Dom: ?sup ? I am digging u and ur style is cool?
sub/slave: ?hi!?
Dom: ?u fine ? nice profile?
sub/slave: ?thanks. U got nice pics to?
Dom: ?yeah. Now u needs to bow down to serve ur master?
sub/slave: ?ok ? cool?
Dom: ?u mind now . you going submit?
sub/slave: ?yea ? sir u go train me 2?
Dom: ?hell yeah bitch!!!?
sub/slave: ?i in Colo and you in Albama. Sir u cumin to get me??
Dom: ?I send you bus ticket?
sub/slave: ?cool ? u so good to me! What about my little boy??
Dom; ?I send tickets for u and hem and train u all?
sub/slave: ?I am so lucky! Sir u is best Dom. just sent me name and address 2 ur email?
Dom: ?Good ? u got cam to show some pics?
sub/slave: ?this is my aunt?s pc and never use the cam before, will try?
Dom: ?strip naked bitch and bow down now. Get cam rollin , obey your Master?
sub/slave: ?sir i am trying but cannot do ? i can get naked after you send bus tickets?
Dom: ?later?
sub/slave: ?u got my address and send tickets??
Dom: ?yeah!?
Friday Morning
sub/slave: ?sir ii sent you 3 messages and e-mails and no reply. Why you block me ? when does training start??
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Damn!! Another happy ending and everyone got what they asked for ? hhhmmmmm.
Have a good day!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Monday, September 11, 2006
11:01 AM Pacific Time (California)
RE: September 11 (aka 9/11)
I just returned from a four day business to Salt lake City, Utah. It has been at least six years since I last traveled there, many interesting changes and developments. My trip was both pleasant and productive. While watching a news program in my hotel room, I began seeing all the 9/11 ?rememberance? documentaries and political discussion shows. Then the memories of that day flood back.
On September 11, 2001, I lived in San Diego and worked 110 miles north in downtown Los Angeles. Every week day I drove 28 miles to Oceanside and took the Metrolink commuter train to LA Union Station (about a 2 hour train ride, if all goes well). I was dozing in my favorite seat next to the window with my head phone in and CD music kicking. Then I noticed that some of the passengers were becoming very restless and agitated and many were making urgent cell phone calls and having particularly animated conversations with each other ? I kept gently going in and out of sleep, until the train stopped for no reason and before we reached a regular train station ? [this usually meant an accident, engine trouble, something on the track or the Southern Pacific was holding us up again].
We were 15 miles south of LA and the conductor was announcing over the intercom that anyone who wished to disembark and cross over to another stopped train heading in the opposite direction and head back home must do so now. People were standing and gathering there brief cases and coats and debating what to do. I asked what was going on and heard about the first airplanes crashing into the twin WorldTowers in New York. Then we were informed that all high rise buildings in LA were targets and that at least one plot to attack LA was thwarted. I worked in a 26 story building in downtown LA. I wanted to go back home, but I was a manager with 16 staff reporting under me who needed direction on how to proceed. I got to work and all was confusion, my staff told me that the on-site child care center was closing within the hour (I managed the child care facility, among many other things); we had about 10,000 staff and at least 3,000 were in my high rise building. I ordered all staff home with regular pay ? directed them to secure there work areas and confidential material and to take any valuable personal effects. My secretary and I waited with the staff supervisor under me until the others left and then we took off after I notified my manager, what I was doing.
It was unusually crowded, confused and chaotic as we piled out of the building and the LA Union Station was on high alert with police, k-9 and local security swarming everywhere. There were rumors of the train lines being bombed [that lasted for months] and LA Union Station remains a continuous ?soft? target for terrorists. I was the only manager out of five in my department who authorized my staff full pay for a day?s work even though they left after 90 minutes or so that day. Some managers even made their employees stay until about 3:00 PM when the executives could finally send out a coherent communiqué authorizing departure if anyone felt unsafe. Some managers resented that I approved regular pay for my staff and let them leave so early. Others had to take vacation leave. Even my director gave me a ?rash of shit? but, if a plane had hit our building, I know that my staff would have been long gone and safe at home!
Btw ? September 11 = 9/11 = 911 = emergency!!!
Mr.B
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
4:30 PM Pacific Time
For a very long time this Sir has struggled with whether or not I should continue to follow the unique cultural Dominant & submission lifestyle communication style and protocol that requires the use of capital cases for the first letter of the names of a Dominant One and also doing the same for nouns and pronouns that refer to a particular Dominant even when it is not at the beginning of a sentence. This unique cultural communication style and protocol mandates that those who identify as submissive or slave may never have a capital letter at the beginning of their name or any noun or pronouns that refers to them even when proper grammar and usual and proper written communication rules require such. ///
Effective immediately, I shall not follow such during normal communications AND, I shall only do so when the other person is more comfortable or if I actually own and control a slave as property and such discipline is appropriate. I shall also use capitals for proper nouns and names when communicating with anyone, unless or until the person is my owned slave property or the person is more comfortable with this unique cultural Dominant & submission lifestyle communication style and protocol. ///
However, I am perfectly comfortable speaking in the third person and referring to myself using third person nouns or pronouns. Also, I may continue to use capitals with the words ?Sir? ?Master? and ?Dominant? and lower case for ?submissive? or ?slave? unless it is at the beginning of a sentence. Any submissive or slave communicating with this Sir may feel free to use the capital letter ?I? rather than ?i? when referring to themselves. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, September 01, 2006
12:00 Noon Pacific Time
The more I participate on these adult alternative lifestyle type web-sites the more I realize that 90% of the time it is an exercise in futility, frustration and routine disappointment for a Dominant Man seeking a genuine female submissive or slave. /// Just for the record, I know that a submissive most likely has her own business and professional and even personal life that she controls AND she may be the leader, dominant one and parent in her "vanilla" life BUT once she commits to a Dominant One, there are still agreements and understandings that she must accept or tolerate. ///
Most of the so called ?female slaves? and ?submissive females? have no concept or understanding regarding such terms as subjugation, subservience, obedience, respect, etiquette, manners, submission, humility, service and slavery. As a matter of fact, these words appear to embody qualities and characteristics that are not only alien to them, but repugnant and unacceptable to them; and yet they advertise as a ?submissive? or ?slave? in the BDSM realm. AND, do not even mention rituals, protocols, speech restrictions, discipline and self-renunciation ? ha, ha, ha! They think you are ?crazy? and they head for the hills and the safe comfortable confines of their domicile. Then there are those who indicate they will relocate, but get anxious and offended if you ask for their e-mail address. ///
Now a word to the hot sexy beautiful ladies who are only looking for friends-with-benefits, no-strings sex, gang-bangs and the opportunity to meet a nice hot guy to date and marry, this is not the site. Hey, if you want to get fucked or swing or have a bunch of studs gang-bang you ? that is easy, just go to any bar, lounge, college campus, military base, street corner in a city, religious gathering, laundry mat, disco club, meat market hot spot, crowded beach or anywhere in a public place and announce that you are hot & horny and want to be fucked. Trust Me, even if you are very overweight and not very good looking, there are many men that will have sex with you within 15 minutes of meeting you ? and they will invite male friends, male co-workers, male relatives and drinking buddies if you desire to be gang banged or group raped. /// Those seeking ?vanilla? relationships involving traditional dating, romance, love & marriage, should try adultfriendfinders.com or such sites. ///
At least be honest about who and what you are and what you seek. A couple of young women have been most candid and honest ? they made it clear that they did not consider themselves a submissive or slave and were seeking someone to help them out financially, because they were facing some difficult and challenging times. At least they were not running fraudulent scams like all of these so called slaves in desperate unfortunate circumstances in Russia or Nigeria ? what a joke! ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion. Touché!!
Have a wonderful, safe, relaxing, pleasant & fun-filled holiday weekend!!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
11:48 AM Pacific Daylight Time
I know that I have said this many times, BUT, I must say again and again and again! This Sir?s interpretation of the Dominant/submissive or Master & slave alternative lifestyle within the BDSM realm is about much more than the kinky sex, administering & receiving pain via BDSM tortures or corporal punishment (i.e. flogging/beating/whipping) and role playing & scenes. There is much more to it and much of it has to do with psychological and emotional controls, self-discipline, protocols, etiquettes, service, manners, a very deep level of mutual trust and confidence in each other and accepting and committing to certain behaviors, responsibilities and duties. ///
It should be about living out O/one?s true and genuine nature in spite of the hostility or disapproval of a ?vanilla? society at large and achieving the delicate balance of survival in the ?vanilla? world while enjoying the taboo kinky pleasures in the BDSM realm ... it is about being true to One's need to dominate & subjugate or one's need to submit & serve while O/one achieves personal goals and maintains relationships in the larger non-BDSM community around us. ///
As such each Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationship is different as each P/person within the relationship has different and unique needs and limitations. They all bring to the relationship a personal background baggage of ethics, cultures, beliefs, insecurities, traumas & dramas, life experiences, misfortunes, illnesses & wellness issues, disabilities, family relationships & responsibilities, academic & vocational aspirations or deficiencies, career & employment situations, fears & anxieties (valid and irrational), and religious and philosophical indoctrinations. Then W/we all have our own unique individual idiosyncrasies, demeanors and personality characteristics. Add to that our special sadistic or masochistic cravings and sexual proclivities and perverted erotic desires and this is so very complex ? hhhmmmmm. ///
Oh yeah!!! This is about much more then kinky f*cking, tortures & whippings and playing roles & scenes. Whatever the relationship, all involved must benefit and find peace & satisfaction. As such, it should be fully discussed and negotiated up-front and all critical issues agreed to. Each participant should know and understand that relationships often grow and morph into something new and different over time and limitations and boundaries eventually are challenged and often stretched. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
11:13 AM Pacific Daylight Time
As the old saying goes, ?confession is good for the soul? AND, sometimes all of us make decisions and/or behave in a manner that is inconsistent with our own personal view of ourselves or that would appear to violate our own values and principles. I know that we are all ?sinners? and come short of the glory of God, as old folk say. ///
I belief that I am guilty of recently not being true to My own dearly held beliefs and morality ? there is rarely, if ever, a valid and reasonable cause to knowingly display bad manners and disrespect, devalue or be rude to anyone, especially when the recipient of the mistreatment has not done anything to deserve such treatment. This is true, even when a Dominant One is interacting or communicating with a submissive or slave, especially one that does not wear His collar of ownership. ///
Of course we all have excuses, I have good ones ? like 1) I got very busy with a civil court case that I am involved in, 2) I had to be out of town for a number of days on business, and 3) I have become somewhat frustrated, jaded and disillusioned with these adult web-sites and all of the unreal people who participate ? I was distracted and stressed ? hhhmmmmm ? it is all bullsh*t!!! I may have excuses, BUT no valid and good reason. I shall do the right thing and contact that submissive lady and apologize for My misdeeds and assure her that she did nothing to deserve My mistreatment. ///
Doing the right thing at times may make One appear weak and uncertain, but it takes a truly strong and self-confident person to acknowledge misdeeds and seek understanding and forgiveness. Besides, then you can rest and not have it nagging at you all the time. Damn!!! There are the times I wish I could just be an unethical, conscienceless brutal thug with no regard for the feelings or concerns of others ? those damn psychopathic unscrupulous Machiavellian types are so lucky; they don?t have that moralistic conscience nagging them in the daylight and keeping them awake at nights. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
11:33 AM Pacific Daylight Time
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Well ? miracle of miracles!!! My e-mail is now coherent and decipherable and anyone who received e-mail from this Sir, may now access and be able to read such. ///
Thanks!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
5:15 PM Pacific Daylight Time
For reasons beyond My control all messages that I have sent in the last three to five days or so have been corrupted and now look like a jumbled bunch of gobbligook. In My humble opinion this is unacceptable bullsh*t!!! I complain often about the technical deficiencies on CollarMe.com and perhaps this is a censorship effort by those in charge or perhaps a censoring of My communications. This is very unfortunate! Now I can neither respond to those who write Me nor initiate timely e-mails to persons of interest. Also, submissive ones and slaves I have recently written may not be able to decipher and read My messages. ///
This is My humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
California USA
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
10:06 AM Pacific Daylight Time
I fully realize that on web-sites, such as this one, I am not only very peculiar but an extreme anomaly. I make an attempt to write coherently in complete sentences which are grammatically correct and properly structured, and I make an effort to spell words correctly. I try to be detailed, comprehensive and informative as I write and when communicating with some submissive or slave, I make a genuine effort to provide them sufficient information in order that they can fully assess Who and What I am. Hopefully then, they may have some tangible objective matter on which to base their decision.
I realize that being garrulous and too wordy scares most members away because in today?s American society people have a very short attention span and they have become accustomed to sound bites, abbreviated comments that immediately ?cut to the chase? and the prevailing "keep it quick & simple" philosophy when communicating. BUT ? hey, we are not ordering a cheese burger and fries at the local fast food chain restaurant drive through ... we are not purchasing a ticket to the movies here ? we are not even supposed to be trying to talk our way into a "quick piece of ass" or some "not-so-quick hard dick" (depending on gender and/or sexual proclivity).
Kind folk and gentle people ? for those earnestly seeking a Dominant or submissive to establish a Master/slave or Dominant/submissive relationship, I suggest that they need to have some thorough and comprehensive discussions before the hook-up. Each one must know the needs, desires, cravings and philosophical approach of the person they are considering. If a Dominant One needs a very masochistic pain-loving submissive with no or very few limits; He does not need to end up with a babygirl seeking a loving Daddy for paternalistic guidance, care and affections. If a Dominant One seeks only a part-time play mate; He does not need to end up with a submissive seeking a long term live-in 24/7 360 TPE Master/slave non-poly relationship.
If a submissive or slave is not sufficiently educated, intelligent or mature enough to understand the value of taking the time and putting forth the effort to read, communicate and discuss thoroughly, then she screens herself out as not worthy in this Sir?s book, because it bodes ill for the future. Do not get Me wrong, if I met a genuine submissive who lacks (through no fault of her own or some disability) a proper education and has limited writing and reading comprehension skills, I would still consider her if she displayed other very desirable qualities and the proper attitude and demeanor.
That is this Sir?s humble point of view!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Tuesday, June 06, 2006
11:16 AM Pacific Daylight Time
It recently came to My attention that some members on this web-site were offended or in some manner upset because a Owner/Master desired to sell His female slave and was soliciting financial offers. YES!!! Once again, I see that many members forget the nature of this adult alternative lifestyle in the BDSM realm. When One possesses personal property including chattel, He has the right to dispose of His property as He deems appropriate. We all hope that He does so in a responsible, mature, humane and reasonable manner and within the boundaries of the laws. However, this is not the ?vanilla? world; this is a sub-culture with a very non-traditional set of customs, values and traditions. Most social interactions within the BDSM realm would be considered immoral, unethical, disgustingly abhorrent, excessively taboo and not acceptable to local community standards or societal mores. In the BDSM realm, slave persons are owned property and belong to Owner/Masters and the Dominant Ones may sell their property, if they chose and the slave concurs to such a transaction. ///
A Owner/Master should be able to rid Himself of His chattel or slave property in whatever manner He deems necessary and appropriate for His needs and current situation and specific circumstances. He may decide to release His slave and set her free to seek her own way in life and to solicit and negotiate terms with a new Owner/Master. If the situation demands such and the behavior, recalcitrance and attitude of the slave warrants such, He may immediately abandon and disown her and withdraw His protection and support from her and leave her destitute and adrift in the world; of course He could temporarily turn her over to those brutally cruel sadistic trainers (who operate in the underworld) to break her, tame her and ?re-educate? her. He also could divest Himself of her via auction or sale and turn her over to new Owners. ///
Some Owner/Masters due to advanced age, poor health, sexual dysfunction and/or other personal considerations decide to keep the slave property BUT regularly rent her out on a services-for-fees basis. If such is the case, and He is renting her, He must publicly post or have available to qualified interested Persons His rental fees and leasing agreement terms. ///
There is a great difference between rental property and property for sale. The current Owner/Master retains possession and control of the property and has full authority when He only leases her services out and He establishes terms, limits, conditions and rental fees under which the property is used on a temporary fee-for-services basis. When sold, He must relinquish all authority and control and immediately surrender the property to the new Owner(s) and the slave girl must agree to willing go and submit, serve and be subjugated by her new Owner/Master or the sale is null and void. ///
However, if His decision is to sell His slave property, He must ensure that the female slave is a mentally competent, intelligent adult of at least 21 years of age who understands the meaning and full ramifications of being sold, and she accepts and agrees to such, or she should be authorized a final veto or approval on any prospective buyer before the financial transaction is complete. Once that is accomplished, this Sir thinks it proper for the current Owner/Master to stipulate publicly the minimum dollar value He will consider as a realistic and serious purchase bid/offer and an opening and closing date to receive bids or purchase offers should be stated. ///
Because This Sir knows that regardless of how sexy and attractive a slave may look, all that glitters is not gold and no prudent, thoughtful and responsible Persons would buy any slave property without seeing and examining her. I know that this Sir would require recent documents attesting to her health and freedom from venereal or any sexually transmitted disease and/or any other infectious illnesses like Hepatitis or TB. I would also desire to know what the nature of her service was and how she was routinely used. A prospective Owner should desire to know whether or not she has minor children or is pregnant, or if the female slave is fertile and capable of bearing children, and if so, is she on birth control. Before this Sir would purchase such property He would desire a private BDSM session with her in a safe, comfortable and private setting of My own choosing; of course, I would bare all costs and pay a minor fee to the current Owner/Master. ///
When the purchase is to be completed, the final transaction should include some type of bill of sale and written agreement and understanding that if the slave girl suddenly just up and runs away after a couple days, the new Owner/Master must be reimbursed at least 75% of His money unless the slave stays longer than 90 days or so. There are those unscrupulous ones out there especially in third world countries who have all types of scams and fraudulent activities going to relieve the unsuspecting and vulnerable potential buyer of His coin & treasure. ///
That is This Sir?s humble opinion.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CaliforniaUSA
Saturday, June 3, 2006
10:39 AM Pacific Daylight Time
.. ~~~ WARNING!!! ALL THE FAKES & FLAKES AND THE FAINT OF HEART DO NOT READ THIS ARTICLE. THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS EXPLICIT ADULT MATERIAL ABOUT CERTAIN BDSM ACTIVITIES KNOWN AS WATERSPORTS!!! IF YOU ARE EASILY OFFENDED OR PRONE TO NAUSEA, IRRATIONAL MORALISTIC THOUGHTS OR HAVE A PHOBIA ABOUT TABOO ?KINKY? BDSM ACTIVITIES, PLEASE DO NOT READ!!! WARNING!!! ~~~
This Sir is fully aware that many members are here to meet people and have frivolous fun and hopefully find a cute person to hook-up with and date; it is becoming a regular adultfriendfinder or date web-site, and that is cool. Nonetheless, there are still a few folk that actually are seeking those involved in the Dominant/submissive alternative lifestyle and the kinky sub-culture found within the BDSM realm. ///
I noticed that some members are checking that they enjoy or are interested in WaterSports and when you try to discuss it with them, they panic and ?head for the hills? shrieking in disbelief and disgust. Ha ha ha ? I met a dear lady on here claiming to be both a genuine submissive one and then I found out she had another handle on this very site where she masqueraded as a Domme ? I made the mistake of discussing fellatio, and mentioned the eating or swallowing of the ejaculate part ? ooops! Damn!!! Lost another one to the up-chuck bowl!!! ? and she was in her 40s, had been married and had children. Oh, well. ///
Btw ? WaterSports has little if anything to do with going to the beach or community pool and playing games in the water or frolicking in the surf.
Today?s discussion is about Urolagnia, which is known in common BDSM realm parlance as Water/Sports and involves urine-play ? yes, we are talking ?piss? or ?pee? and toilet services etc. ///
UROLAGNIA --- Known as WaterSports (urine) in BDSM realm
?Though we have been conditioned to think of urine as "dirty," quite the opposite is true. Urine fresh from the "spigot" is actually sterile, devoid of any pathogens at all, (except in the case of a urinary or kidney infection). Urine is 95 percent water. The other five percent of our urine is made of dissolved and suspended solids, none of which are toxic. The two main components are simple salt and a compound called urea. In addition to salt and urea, other elements include hormones, proteins, antibodies and other beneficial pharmacological agents. So far from being harmful, urine actually does have known healing agents. Furthermore, if urine has a bad taste or smell, it is generally from the diet or habits of the contributor. Poor diet, poor habits and you will get a rank and smelly urine. The point is that urine components reflect the provider.?
?Urine Therapy ? If health is what you urine for, try this??
by Michael Braunstein
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As best I can I shall briefly describe the various types of WaterSports (urine) activities and play that is common within the BDSM realm. This Sir strongly recommends that everyone be in good health, when engaging in those activities classified as ?human toilet? ? it is just better for health & safety.
Urolagnia (aka WaterSports-urine)
Urolagnia is often referred to as WaterSports in the BDSM realm, and it involves the Dominant/Master involving His submissive/slave in or subjecting her to various types of BDSM kinky activities involving urine (?pee? or ?piss?) and urination. There are a large and very diverse range of activities that fall under this type of BDSM play and they include, but are not limited to, the following:
1) Golden Showers/Golden Waterfall--- This involves the Dominant urinating (pissing or peeing) on the body of the submissive or slave or the Dominant and submissive taking turns and urinating on each other; this is normally done as part of erotic kinky sexual play /// Sometimes the Dominant One subjects the submissive one to this as part of an obedience & submission training method or BDSM humiliation strategy to ?break down? the submissive one and firmly establish His Dominance over her and her body /// Sometimes it is done as a form of punishment, especially if the Dominant knows that His submissive or slave ?hates? being pissed on ///
2) Toilet Services --- This usually refers to when the Dominant either urinates directly into the mouth of His submissive one or urinates into a glass/cup and then pours it into her mouth (or she takes and drinks); in either case the submissive or slave must accept and drink the ?golden nectar? as it is commonly referred to /// The term ?drinking directly from the source? refers to when He places His penis near or inside her mouth and then urinates /// this practice is safe and not harmful when the Dominant One is healthy, free of disease and drinks plenty of water /// Often the Dominant may get sexually aroused and may require the submissive or slave to continue sucking until He ejaculates into her mouth and she swallows ///
3) Erotic Cavity Penetration --- This usually refers to when the Dominant either urinates directly into His submissive or slave?s vagina or anus/rectum (ass), while He is sexually aroused, as part of a kinky type of taboo erotic sexual activity /// once again this works best when both are healthy and the submissive one or slave voids (expels or passes) the urine shortly there after and flushes out her vaginal cavity with warm water or douches ///
4) Bodily Function Control & Supervision --- This usually refers to when the Dominant either mandates when, where and in what manner His submissive may urinate and/or insists on observing and supervising her urination or use of the toilet /// This may involve the Dominant requiring that she either squat or stand while outside and under the risk of being exposed to the public; this is public play /// Often, the Dominant One may require that the submissive or slave must request permission to use the toilet and explain what her urgent toilet needs are; she may not go until and unless He approves /// Some submissive ones or slaves prefer to wear an adult diaper or Depends and ?pee their pants? the way a baby or child would; some Dominants make Their submissive one or slave wear an adult diaper or Depends and ?pee their pants?
5) Golden Enema --- This usually refers to when the Dominant One places His penis inside the anus of the submissive or slave and urinates in her rectum and then the submissive or slave expels it into the toilet or other receptacle, or even outside if this is public play
Now that that is out of the way, we may return to our regular programming of pretending and planning our costumes for the next ?scene? social or role play AND those bored with that may try the exciting gossip in the chat rooms. He ? he ? he! ///
For those I offended or scared away and the others who have now permanently blocked this Sir, have a lovely weekend anyway! ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
CaliforniaUSA
Friday, May 19, 2006
2:22 PM (Pacific Daylight Time)
RE: Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding
And Prudence in all One does
I doubt that anyone will take the time to read the words of counsel from the man considered the most wise of all men (and women too), King Solomon. Those who do, as you read remember it is written as if ?Wisdom? ?Knowledge? and ?Understanding? are persons speaking to you.
Proverbs 8:1-21 (Bible, King James Version)
Proverbs 8
1 Doth not wisdom call out? Does not understanding put forth her voice?
2 She standeth in the top of high places, by the way in the places of the paths.
3 She crieth at the gates, at the entry of the city, at the coming in at the doors.
4 Unto you, O men, I call; and my voice is to the sons of man.
5 O ye simple, understand wisdom: and, ye fools, be ye of an understanding heart.
6 Hear; for I will speak of excellent things; and the opening of my lips shall be right things.
7 For my mouth shall speak truth; and wickedness is an abomination to my lips.
8 All the words of my mouth are in righteousness; there is nothing forward or perverse in them.
9 They are all plain to him that understandeth, and right to them that find knowledge.
10 Receive my instruction, and not silver; and knowledge rather than choice gold.
11 For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it.
12 I wisdom dwell with prudence, and find out knowledge of witty inventions.
13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogance, and the evil way, and the forward mouth and perverse speech, do I hate.
14 Counsel is mine, and sound wisdom: I am understanding; I have strength.
15 By me kings reign, and princes decree justice.
16 By me princes rule, and nobles, even all the judges of the earth.
17 I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me.
18 Riches and honour are with me; yea, durable riches and righteousness.
19 My fruit is better than gold, yea, than fine gold; and my revenue than choice silver.
20 I lead in the way of righteousness, in the midst of the paths of judgment:
2 I That I may cause those that love me to inherit substance; and I will fill their treasures.
Yes!!! When One has wisdom, knowledge and understanding and tempers all actions with prudence, surely He has riches greater than gold, silver or the almighty dollar!!!
That was this Sir?s humble opinion; forgive the intrusion, you may now return to debauchery, deceit, lunacy, depravity, sham, treachery, dishonesty, decadence, trickery and pornography. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
San Diego, CA
Wednesday, May 17, 2006
10:38 AM (Pacific Daylight Time)
I rarely read My own profile, but I do remember that shortly after I joined CollarMe.com I wanted to add newer photos and make changes to My profile and there were always technical problems and then delays of up to two or three days before My profile was approved and twice I had photos and changes rejected by the censors. So, I decided to leave well enough alone and often forget about the substance of My profile until someone writes and offers comments. Recently a Domme contacted this Sir and questioned Me about My use of the term ?Old Guard? in My profile. She wrote: ?you mentioned 'OLD GUARD' Would you mind telling me exactley what that entails. The history behind 'Old Guard'?
The reference to ?Leather? and ?Old Guard? should probably be taken out or at least clarified because it could be misleading and the definitions have changed so very much over the last 10-20 years or so. One of My dilemmas is that I hate waiting while CollarMe.com scrutinizes and censors My profile. The other is of course that some informed member could misinterpret Who and What I am and speculate about My sexuality and/or honesty. As such I shall post here and now a slightly amended version of My response to this Dominant Lady and hope this clarifies the matter for now until I dare edit My profile. ///
Think about a very masculine society of post-World War II 1950?s men who served in the military and they returned committed to the concepts of rigid structures of Discipline, Duty, Honor, Obedience, Integrity and other values carried from a military indoctrination. They loved to wear leather (boots, thick belts and jackets with epaulets) and clothing with a military look. They believed in working hard and playing hard. They also believed in a strict order of hierarchal structure in which every one knew their place and who they were subordinate to and whether or not they were a top or bottom. All believed in strict discipline, formal protocol and dutiful respect, and they often required the more submissive ones (or bottoms) to be in total subjugation and to speak in the third person (as in ?Sir, this lowly servant, requests permission to speak Sir!?). There was much emphasis on mandatory training, formal instructions and clear rules and behavior expectations. I actually served in the US Navy Reserve many years ago. When I went through Officer Candidate School and attained the rank & position of the Company First Lieutenant responsible for military bearing, discipline, inspections (of uniforms or rooms) and military arms drill and marching, My subordinates under instruction had to communicate with Me in third person as in "Sir, Officer Candidate Williamson requests permission for him and his fellow class mates to go the head, Sir!" ///
The reason that I have often considered it being removed is that most BDSM historians in the USA will tell you that the sub-culture and social order of the ?Old Guard? & ?Leather? came out of the male homosexual community when the gay men returned from war and they had spent one to two years in close living conditions with heterosexual men and each bonded and depended on each other for survival. These gay men enjoyed the Discipline, Duty, Honor, Obedience, Integrity and other values carried from the military indoctrination and regimentation AND they loved the work hard & play hard attitude of the soldiers and developed a taste for ?rough? sex and dividing the community into either Tops (Dominants) and bottoms (submissive) and there were no switches. The biker community had the ?Leather? society which many of these gays infiltrated and became apart of as well. There was much wearing of leather and military looking attire including insignia. They also wore military looking or biker hats (in the beginning, it was not helmets). ///
I grew up on an island in the Caribbean Sea which was a part of the colonized British West Indies. Everything was very formal, uniforms and proper dress was routine and the military bearing and proper protocol was drilled into boys at an early age. I went to a very prestigious all boys high school and wore a uniform and the head Master had a cane and could use corporal punishment. The students were often broken up into those at the top and those at the bottom based on your form (class), academics, athletics and favor from the administration. Discipline was strict, punishment harsh and there was protocol and rules for everything. Homosexuality was neither recognized nor tolerated. ///
However, I also grew up fully aware of male dominance and being loyal to the concepts of Discipline, Duty, Honor, Obedience, Integrity and other values carried from the British military indoctrination and regimentation. In addition I learned that being Dominant carried the responsibility of providing structure and training for the more submissive ones and enforcing strict discipline upon them. I was also indoctrinated with the concept of being the primary protector, provider and producer for My mate, family and community. These things fashioned My approach to the D/s relationships within the BDSM realm and you will find that Dominants such as Me, tend to be more formal, strict and demanding and yet We share the dutiful obligation to protect and provide for the submissive one. We also do not recognize ?switches? but either dismiss/ignore them or treat them as a submissive or slave, because we never switch! ///
When I refer to ?Old Guard? I am thinking about the use of strict discipline, formalized & stringent training, written rules for almost everything, firm guidelines for most things (including dress & grooming), mandated protocol, the use of firm speech & eye contact restrictions, corporal punishment, stipulated etiquette and social manners, required mutual respect between ?Top? and ?bottom,? hierarchal organization structures with clearly defined roles & responsibilities. There are also defined ?values? and a certain regimentation expected at times. /// I hope that provides some insight into My version of ?Old Guard.? /// Regarding ?Leather? ? I had My motor cycle accident as a novice bike rider at the age of 16 and had to suffer silently and hide My injuries from My strict mom (thank God for loving adult female cousins). The accident cured Me of any desire to be a biker, even though I often hung out with some biker gang types as a young man. BUT it did not cure Me of the love for leather boots, wide leather boots and etc. ///
Yeah ? then there was this super hot young independent minded ?biker chick? who was associated with a very racist & violent biker gang ? hhhmmmmm ? well, taking My life into My own hands I did not use better judgment and she and I ? ahhh ? that is another story for another time; besides it is irrelevant here. ///
Have a good day!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, May 16, 2006
10:22 AM (Pacific Daylight Time)
I am fully aware that America has led the world down the information super highway filled with ?internet speak,? acronyms, poor grammar, outrageous spelling and incomplete sentences! I know that it is 2006 and this Sir should get with the program and begin to shorten & ?dumb-down? His writings. BUT, as a once famous writer once wrote in a play?s dialogue, ?To thine own self be true? ? I shall not compromise and degrade My writings. ///
YES!!! I know that these days everyone has a very short attention span that makes it virtually impossible to read any thing longer than about three brief paragraphs and as such I may be boring them to death with My long epistles BUT, I thought that we are trying to communicate and provide the subject of our interest & desire with sufficient information to know you, understand your cravings, appreciate who you are and provide the recipient of your written message with enough so she may make an informed opinion. No one can do that by typing ?Hi? or one brief sentence, especially when their profile is also barren and uninformative. ///
Be My worst critics if you must, but I have faith that there are those out there hungering for some mature, adult, intellectual discourse of substance. Perhaps to believe such is to hallucinate, but that is My fantasy and this is a web-site on which each fantasy is tolerated, even if it disgusts the other members. ~~~ smile ~~~ ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Monday, May 15, 2006
10:46 AM [Pacific Daylight Time]
It is time to get real. There is no way that O/one may have a legitimate Master/slave relationship or even a serious Dominant & submissive relationship via e-mail. That is a crock of sh*t!!! Anyone that believes that most likely does not know much about what this alternative lifestyle is based on, is in denial or is just delusional. ///
As the Dominant One sits at His computer (without the benefit of video cam or microphone) staring into His screen as He types giving orders and commands, how does He know that the submissive is not on the other end chuckling with her girl friends and enjoying a cheese burger & ice cold Pepsi. How does He discipline or punish her? How does He really know that she is living her life in accordance with His dictates? The submissive one may have a local stud laying on her bed urging her to hurry up with the nonsense and come back to him because he is hard again ? all this while she swears chastity and total sexual abstinence until she finally hooks-up with her Dominant One. ///
YES!!! There is much education, instruction and guidance that may be given via e-mail and supplemented with periodic phone calls. BUT, when the e-mail relationship stretches out beyond 15-45 days, chances are she is vulnerable to other distractions and more immediate temptations in the real world. ///
The other question becomes, how does she truly submit and serve ? how does she humbly meet the sadistic desires and base carnal cravings of her Dominant One? Hhhmmmmm ? yeah there is phone sex, I guess; BUT cyber sex is a joke ? ha ha ha! How does the Dominant take her firmly in hand and bend her to His will and desires. When does she taste the painful sting of the lash and the discomfort of actual bondage, confinement and restraint? When and how is the intimate relationship consummated? How do they BOND? ///
No, when someone starts telling Me that they have served a Master via e-mail for many months or years, I just smile and say, that this Sir does not engage in unnecessarily prolonged cyber-relationships, because I seek something honest, real and true life. ///
Here comes the disclaimer >>> I know that there are those special situations involving very unique circumstances that create the perfect environment for a genuinely natural submissive one to be in submission to a skilled, experienced and talented Dominant One; and that this may be possible to go on for months and years. I met such a submissive woman about nine months ago, but it ended abruptly after less than ten days when she mistook something I wrote, got scared and she retreated to the safe and secure, but lonely, confines of her brother?s home, where she lives a "sheltered" life as the personal door mat, baby-sitter and servant for her very strict older brother and his wife. It is a sad existence, BUT that would be the perfect situation because she had no life and was not exposed to out side influences and was rigidly controlled by a dominating and insensitive brother ? yeah, perfect, if she had her own computer, which she did not. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B
Monday, May 15, 2006
10:10 AM [Pacific Daylight Time]
OK ? A little much ado about nothing right now; it is good to deviate periodically. First things first: Lets talk ?Survivor? ? I know that Danielle DiLorenzo, the 24-year-old medical sales representative from Boston, is a fine little hottie who would make an interesting submissive, and that Aras Baskauskas, the 24-year-old yoga instructor from Santa Monica, California played hard and worked hard and fought hard in the challenges. BUT ? the winner should have been the most deserving of all competitors >>> the 46 year old ex-US Navy fighter pilot Terry Deitz. NUFF SAID! ///
Let?s talk ?American Idol? ? after America unceremoniously dismissed without just cause, the rocker Chris Daughtry last week and allowed Taylor Hicks and Elliott Yamin to continue as pretenders to the American Idol throne, there is only one legitimate and marketable candidate left and that is the lovely & oft smiling Ms. Katherine McPhee. She has no peer or legitimate competitor left. Btw ? congratualations to Chris Daughtry who, after he was dumped, was immediately offered the lead singer position and contract with the rock group Fuel. Trust Me, they may find them interesting, fun and unique BUT there is no one or firm of significance in the music industry anxiously waiting to snag Taylor or Hicks with a big contract. Now, Ms. McPhee ? whether she wins the American Idol title or not, she will be a large success to rival and exceed Kelly Clarkson, if she is managed correctly and works hard. /// NUFF SAID!
That is this Sir?s humble and frivolous opinion! Peace & Love!!
Mr.B
Saturday, May 13, 2006
9:27 AM Pacific Daylight Time
Recently I had a discussion with a couple of submissive ones who were practicing Christians and wondered as to whether or not the concept of slavery and BDSM was inconsistent with their religious beliefs. Based on these conversations I found out that one actually thought that all women felt like her (the need to obey, submit and serve a good Dominant Man) then she realized it was not so and she grew confused and thought that perhaps she needed psychological counseling or something. ///
This Sir has always enjoyed intellectual discourse and philosophical discussions and those conversations with two separate submissive ones caused Me to begin thinking about My beliefs regarding this lifestyle and BDSM. Submitting is not simply something that a person does. It is must be very much a part of who she is and what she feels deep within her soul; it is her nature. For many years a submissive one may have been unfamiliar with this Dominant/submissive alternative lifestyle and she may have suppressed her natural desires and cravings to be controlled, used, disciplined and subjugated by a powerful and Dominant Man. Perhaps, she may have even denied her desires for this lifestyle, and suppressed her cravings because of family up bringing, social mores, cultural norms, religious beliefs and all the brain washing that the pathetic educational system perpetrates upon the vulnerable student. But, most likely, the natural submissive one with a desire to be obedient, submissive, subservient and disciplined before a Dominant One shall always feel incomplete and unsatisfied with a ?vanilla? existence. ///
A submissive one should be bursting with excitement, energy and enthusiasm for finally being able to express her submissive nature without reservation, fear or any hesitation. Often times some submissive ones are so filled with joy to finally be owned, disciplined, protected, collared and controlled for the first time in real life, that they bring special offerings and gifts to the first rendezvous to lay before their Master?s feet and pray that He is pleased. They also let their creative mind run amok and dream up erotic pleasures or special services to offer their Master. Many years ago, at My first visit with a new submissive one at her apartment, she had bought a vibrating foot massage water therapy tub to soak My feet and then gave Me a pedicure and foot massage with special creams and oils. This one always craved lacing up My boots or shoes and unlacing and removing My boots or shoes upon My arrival to help Me relax and be comfortable. Obviously she paid careful attention whenever we spoke on the phone and at the one Sunday brunch we shared; she knew Me before she ever submitted to and served Me. It was a most pleasant surprise, because that is one of My most favorite treats and it is Biblical. In the Bible, the wife, concubine, servant or lower level one always washed and massaged the feet of her Lord or Master when they came in from traveling or working. This is why Jesus, The Christ, at the last supper, humbled Himself and washed the feet of all His disciples even though they protested and said they were not worthy. I hope you know that Jesus, The Christ, was the ultimate Master and Teacher. ///
Hhhmmmmm ? well, enough musing for now!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Friday, May 5, 2006
8:33 AM Pacific Day Light Time
Good Morning Members ~~~
It is reality check time! In case anyone is unaware, the primary purpose of this web-site is to have like minded people who are interested in the Domination & submission alternative lifestyle & sub-culture and BDSM activities to have a forum and site where they may meet, communicate and hopefully hook-up socially and or intimately. Of course, we know that there are some here just to seek answers to questions and learn and others see this as little more than an interesting and exciting online chat room from which they can quickly retreat back to the safe & secure confines of their comfortable domicile. ///
However, based on the majority of the profiles posted by members (if anyone chooses to believe them), this Sir may only conclude that the majority of members are seeking to communicate and hopefully hook-up socially and or intimately; most are not looking for a cyber relationship online. They want real time!!! ///
Therefore, eventually there must be some exchange of personal information regarding city & state of residence, personal e-mail address, phone number(s) and real names. IT DOES NOT WORK ANY OTHER WAY!!! If you meet a person at the local bar, or at church (or synagogue or mosque etc) or at work, if you desire to establish a genuine friendship, intimate relationship or just hook-up for whatever reason you both may share, it will not happen if both people are too scared to communicate and exchange some personal data. I am not telling people to be stupid and give out social security numbers, bank account numbers, credit card data or the lock box code to their trust fund BUT an e-mail address or cell phone or some other information will shortly be necessary to make it happen. ///
Is there a danger in giving out any personal information, of course, BUT life is about considering the odds, assessing the risks and then taking a chance. Nothing comes without a price tag and a risk. Need more beer and chips & salsa ? got to drive to the corner store and stock up before the game; well first, it will cost you money and second you could have a traffic accident or get robbed or get a ticket for speeding. YES!!! A person may get their heart broke or be mistreated by someone they meet on Collarme.com or some other online site, but the same happens with people you meet at church, at work, at the local pub, at the club, at the laundry mat and etc. ///
My point is, just because a member requests some more personal information like name or e-mail address does not mean they are a scam artist, criminal or a depraved pervert ? oops! Correction, they may be a depraved pervert, but perhaps that is what you seek anyway ~~~ smile ~~~ Remember --- Nothing ventured, nothing gained! If you are not willing to take a risk, you shall never attain what you seek. Sooner or later, you must trust someone; and remember, with the exception of your natural birth mother, everyone was first a complete and unknown stranger until you met and got to know them. ///
That is My humble opinion!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Tuesday, May 2, 2006
8:26 AM Pacific Day Light Time
This most likely is an unfair and insensitive statement to make and is definitely not politically correct, but, I must speak and let the chips fall where they may. ///
It has now become this Sir?s experience that the assessment of many others is actually true, if you ban all the fakes and flakes off of this site, there would be less than 100 to 300 hundred total members (including Doms, subs, slaves and switches and the ?just looking? group). ///
However, the number of genuine submissive ones, BDSM ?sluts? or slaves (between the age of 20 and 45) who are neither owned nor collared would probably be less than a measly dozen or so. Yes!!! Now I am convinced that this is true. Looks like slim pickings ? hhhmmmmm ? ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion ? and it is shared by many. Not pointing the finger or calling anyone out; BUT just based on the empirical evidence and valid logical deduction, One can only reach this conclusion. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
6:09 PM Pacific Daylight Time
After a couple of inquiries by persons with whom I speak in this lifestyle, I began thinking the other day about when I first knew that I was Dominant and I realize that it was when I was in elementary school and while growing up as a teenager in the Caribbean island nation of Jamaica. My family were property owners and we employed two maids and had 3 tenants living in small apartments in our large back yard. I was often referred to as Master B. ///
I have always been a natural leader in most situations and I was born with a dominant nature. Although I was exposed to strong hard working women, I was raised in a paternalistic male-dominated society in a third world country and at an early age I developed a strong belief that men must control, discipline, rule and subjugate their women. These beliefs did not mean that a man must subject women to immoral mistreatment or unlawful domestic abuse, but it did mean that a man must be prepared to use punitive methods and force if necessary to ensure that women were well disciplined and controlled. I learned also that a real man must be the protector, provider and producer for his wife/woman and family. When all else fails, the burden and responsibility was the man?s to ensure the prosperity, security, welfare, safety and well-being of his family. ///
Between the age of 12 and 16 two incidents happened during My life that made me aware that the domination of women and the use of corporal punishment or spankings was also sexually stimulating. When in elementary school, all teachers have belts and canes which they may use to spank school children for misconduct, tardiness or poor academic performance. Once I watched a teacher bend a 11 year old girl over with her buttocks towards the class and whip her thighs, buttocks and legs with a wide thick belt. This was no ordinary 11 year old, she was a very attractive, light skinned black girl who had matured beyond her years and was both voluptuous and curvaceous in all the right places. I got a massive uncontrollable erection just staring at the punishment being meted out. Each stroke of the belt that reddened and welted her beautiful body caused Me more sexual stimulation. ///
When I was about 16, I had the unexpected pleasure of watching while one of the female tenants strong armed her 14 year old daughter and gave her a public spanking, which anyone in the back yard could observe and hear. This happened to be a young lady who had a crush on Me and whom I found most sexy we had shared some minor groping, fondling & kissing sessions when no one was around or watching. She wore a short wide & loose summer dress and simple white panties that were obvious as she flailed around. Watching this very well developed girl with her firm bubble butt and thick athletic shapely legs get whipped caused Me such sexual stimulation that I almost ejaculated in My pants. It was then that I knew that physically dominating a woman and spanking them with a belt, cane or whip of some sort was very stimulating and exciting. ///
Hhhmmmmm ? those were some very interesting developing years!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Tuesday, April 11, 2006
10:20 AM Pacific Daylight Time ///
Will all of those phony profiles from Africa and especially Nigeria, just give it a break already. I do not think anyone is foolish enough to waste their time, money, efforts and resources on these obvious frauds and scams. I must admit that the females portrayed in the photos are very sexy, attractive and inviting BUT, as the old saying goes, ?all that glitters is not gold? and we all know it by now! ///
I realize that a couple of genuine women in the part of the African continent south of the Sahara Desert may be ignored, brushed aside or dismissed as frauds, but these women will just have to find some creative and unique method of demonstrating their honesty, validity and genuineness. ///
Psst ? hey fraudulent scammers! When you present a woman as a college educated African American who lost her money in Nigeria and needs help, at least pay someone who knows the English language (and good grammar) to write the profile narrative. College educated African American women can write better than the horribly incoherent and disjointed broken English with the outrageous spelling and abysmal grammar, which you often present ? yuk!. ///
Yeah ? Yeah ? Yeah! Lots of college educated Americans in the USA cannot write properly, but at least they are not pleading for $3,000 to help them get back home! ///
This is My humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Tuesday, April 11, 2006
10:20 AM Pacific Daylight Time ///
The debate continues to rage as to whether or not the D/s lifestyle, especially the relationship between an Owner/Master and His slave property can be considered an equal one. There are those that say that it oftentimes is a 50/50 relationship in which both are having their needs met equally and others say not so, because there can be no equality when One, the Dominant or Owner/Master is not only the One with full authority, but exercises complete control and in addition makes the rules. In addition, the Dominant or Owner/Master has the power of passing judgment and subjecting the submissive or slave to punitive & corrective actions including corporal punishment. ///
First and foremost, each D/s or M/s relationship must be completely negotiated and agreed to in advance and then all persons involved (Dominant One and submissive one) must assume the burden, responsibilities and pleasures & benefits of His or her previously agreed upon role. Of course it is understood that every single thing will not be considered and discussed in advance; it is also understood that the relationship shall be ever changing and each shall grow and develop within the boundaries of the relationship. THESE RELATIONSHIPS ONLY WORK WHEN THERE IS GENUINE & HONEST UP-FRONT COMMUNICATION AND MUTUAL TRUST AND TOTAL CONFIDENCE IN OTHER; SINCERE FRIENDSHIP & ADMIRATION ARE REQUIRED ELEMENTS FOR SUCCESS ALSO ? and even then there are no guarantees, because we are all fallible humans; sometimes our individual weaknesses and frailties catch up with us and the burden of the imperfections are too great for a particular relationship; at other times, ?sh*t happens? and LIFE gets in the way of a beautiful relationship. ///
As such, build the relationship on a strong and sturdy foundation of full & open communication (does not mean there cannot be speech restrictions), negotiated preliminary agreements or written contracts (regarding roles, expectations, limits and boundaries), honesty, discipline, trust and mutual confidence in each other and a strong commitment to the agreed upon responsibilities. ///
Oftentimes, one could say that if both parties get what they need and desire, it is a relationship of equality in which both must give and receive 50/50 and if having that type understanding makes it more palatable and comfortable for one or both persons involved, that is fine. However, The Dominant One, especially in a true Master/slave relationship possesses full authority and exercises total control and as such is in the power position of making decisions, establishing rules, issuing edicts, passing judgments and meting out punishments. The true Dominant One or Master must also be the Teacher and Leader and carries the heavy burden of educating, teaching and guiding His submissive one or slave and He must also provide protection and provide for the general welfare, health and safety of His submissive one or slave. With power & authority come responsibility and the burden of leadership, which many so called ?Doms? fail to exercise.
When the submissive one or slave surrenders her authority and relinquishes her control and humbly and dutifully delivers her power to her Dominant or Master, such a transfer is an awesome and most generous. It is expected that she be obedient, subservient, submissive, disciplined and subjugated under her Dominant or Master; she trusts and has faith that He will have the wisdom, knowledge and understanding to accept the transfer of power and fully understand the burdens, responsibilities and challenges that it brings. Shall He become a totally insensitive brute, will His decisions be inadequate and unrealistic, will He squander His new powers on self-serving over-indulgence that fails to nourish and develop the relationship and will He become drunk with the intoxicating aura of authority and power and become a failure. ///
He must never forget that His submissive or slave is His most valuable & prized possession and she must be treasured, carefully possessed, loved and shown much affection and due consideration and respect. Even when He must subject her to painful sadistic BDSM tortures and forceful sexual penetrations and uncomfortable bondage and demeaning humiliations; there must be affectionate, nourishing and reassuring ?after-care? and tender complements. One thing is for sure, if He does not meet His obligations and provide her the 50% that she expects and if she begins to see His weaknesses, inabilities and incompetence, she shall demand to be released and seek her freedom from Him or she will be easy prey for another Dominant One who sees her plight. ///
Does this Sir consider the D/s lifestyle and a Dominant/Master & submissive/slave relationship one of total equality ? the answer is a qualified NO ? in many ways it is and they both may be getting their 50% but the One with the authority, control and power, may have a more superior position (even if He does not behave in an overly egotistical superior manner) and in addition the Dominant One or Owner/Master takes on many responsibilities and burdens that are not equally shared with His submissive or slave. This may not be a relationship based on equality BUT it still requires mutual respect, mutual trust and mutual confidence in each other. ///
The submissive one or slave may be expected to submit and serve Him and satisfy His sadistic and sexual cravings and please Him as per His desires and anticipate His needs and expectations and to humbly and obediently accept His subjugation of her. The submissive one or slave should gladly be humble, compliant, accommodating and long suffering and her burden and responsibility is to submit and serve without complaint within her capacity and previously agreed upon limitations. However, being a submissive or slave does not mean that the surrender of her control and authority to her chosen Dominant One or Owner/Master means that she must relinquish all her personal self-esteem, self-respect and self-preservation. Even when she is willingly being subjected to BDSM torture, hard-core use, objectification, corporal punishment, embarrassing humiliation and forceful sexual penetrations; her Dominant One or Owner/Master must continue to see her as a real person and a human being with needs and rights AND he must never forget that she is a prized possession who is worthy of being protected, cherished, respected and appreciated. ///
The Dominant One or Owner/Master must also know and understand His submissive one or slave; He must fully understand her unique mental, emotional, spiritual and physical nature and capacity and comprehend how to thoughtfully and carefully achieve His desires and satisfy His needs without permanently harming her, breaking her vital spirit or extinguishing her flame of passion for Him, the lifestyle and/or her submission or slavery. He may need to break her down, but He is responsible to build her anew and mold and develop her. He wants to keep the twinkle in her eye, the smile upon her lips and the passionate fire of desire in her heart, mind and soul. The Dominant One or Owner/Master must also is obligated to fully educate and train His submissive or slave and ensure that she is totally knowledgeable regarding His rules, protocols, expectations and standards of conduct, dress and grooming. He must communicate to His submissive one or slave what gives Him pleasure and ensure she is well aware of what types of misconduct, negligence or mistakes will incur His wrath and displeasure. If He is incompetent and negligent in His communications, trainings and discipline and then in an unexpected furious rage subjects her to harsh punishments, retributions and denial of treats or banishment for a matter of which she was unaware of the consequences; such conduct on His part is not judicious nor responsible and it is disrespectful and unfair to His submissive or slave and may have a lasting demoralizing effect on her. Such actions quickly lead to the destruction of the relationship. ///
Finally the Dominant One or Owner/Master is responsible to exercise due care and diligence and ensure that the health, well-being, general welfare and safety and security of His submissive one or slave is at all time fore-most in His mind and protected. Often times the submissive one requires confidentiality, privacy and discretion due to a myriad of reasons; the Dominant or Master must also respect and protect such. The life, sanity, health and protection of the submissive or slave is often in His hands. His irresponsible addiction to pleasures, extreme egotism, foolish arrogance and immaturity must never cloud His good judgment or cause Him to neglect His responsibilities. ///
Of course, here is the disclaimer: Some submissive ones, especially those with genuine ?slave? tendencies, desire to turn over full authority and have no say so in their life and they insist on making no decisions and they provide no-limits service regardless of the pain, discomfort, humiliation, degradation or hard use. These submissive ones or slaves do not desire any equality and see such as a sign of weakness on the part of the Dominant One or Master, if He offers them any freedom of speech, rights and decision making. There are those submissive/slaves who desire to withdraw from the realities of the ?vanilla? world and immerse deeply and completely into their servitude, subjugation and slavery without rights, without love & affection, without voice and without any freedom! ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) California USA
Monday, April 10, 2006
10:27 AM Pacific Daylight Time ///
OK ? and ?NO!? ? I did not wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. I have been carefully ?holding My tongue? for weeks and perhaps months on this subject and I think that it is time to be honest and candidly speak My mind even if it means that I may scare away some I desire to attract. ///
A great concern of Mine is that many women come on to these web-sites and misrepresent themselves and have no idea what the concept of ?submissive? or ?slave? within the BDSM realm is all about; they usually fall into a few categories:
1) The curious seeking to dabble and play and then quickly retreat to the safety and comfort of their ?vanilla? domicile before it gets too rough, too demanding, too humiliating or too painful & uncomfortable BUT they enjoy the brief stroll on the ?wild side? and like the safe, sane & consensual ?role playing? and the costumes and social scenes ? blah blah blah ? all talk & show and not real action!
2) There are those with extremely low self-esteem, no self confidence and who have known nothing but failure in the ?vanilla? world; they seek to hide in the BDSM realm under the protection and control of a Dominant One without fully understanding what the concept of ?submissive? or ?slave? within the BDSM realm is all about; this is just a continuation of the child abuse & molestation, domestic abuse, manipulation and domination they have known and accepted throughout life and
3) The game players who stroll in to the BDSM realm with an ?attitude? that has nothing to do with submission, slavery, servitude or obedience; they are here to dabble & play and shake things up; usually they start trying to top from the bottom, become neglectful, self centered and an inattentive submissive who often challenges authority. Often they pose as unruly brats, but they never had any intention of submitting & serving. They want to continuously role play ?bad spoiled teenager? and force the Dominant to play the frustrated at His wits end parent. ///
There are others who are desperately seeking a romantic ?vanilla? friendship affair & dating that leads to love & marriage. They do not mind a little consensual ?rough sex? with a little slap & tickle and some hair pulling & role playing once in a while, but they are not seriously involved mentally, emotionally, physically and commitment wise to the D/s life or BDSM. They need to be on adultfriendfinder.com or some other such web-site. ///
Disclaimer Note: Nothing that I have written in this journal writing means that a D/s relationship could not lead to love & marriage with the submissive continuing to submit to and serve his/her Dominant Spouse. In such relationships the Dominant Partner continues to subjugate the submissive one and subject them to bondage, restraints, tortures, edge-play, humiliations, objectification, degradations and punishment as before. ///
Now let us talk about the special ?gift? that the so called submissive or slave presents to a Dominant or Master. Yes! In a sense, when a woman makes herself vulnerable and surrenders her heart, mind, body & soul to a Dominant Sadist to do with as He pleases and she agrees to be obedient, compliant, subservient, disciplined and well behaved while she ?grins & bears? the pain, discomfort, humiliation, objectification and physical & mental abuse; that is a gift AND one hell of a big present to humbly & graciously provide to a Dominant or Master. BUT, if she is a genuinely natural submissive woman with strong ?slave? tendencies and a masochistic cravings to be subjected to depravity, painful tortures, humiliation, objectification, demeaning abuse, bondage & confinement and forceful perverted ?kinky? sexual acts by a Dominant Sadist who strips her of her control and authority THEN she is getting what she wants and He is getting what He wants! They are both enjoying the benefits of a mutually agreed upon D/s or M/s relationship within the BDSM realm and as such, each without the other is not whole. In all candor, theirs is like a 50/50 relationship because each depends on the other and both receive what they need and crave. It appears "equal" in a sense BUT is not exactly so, due to the control & authority issue. Nonetheless, they both equally need each other to be complete & happy. ///
One more comment on the ?gift? concept. In October 2004, the best one that ever got away, is a highly educated professional in a medical engineering specialty. Yes, she was and continues to be a very intelligent, beautiful and sophisticated bisexual woman. However, during our negotiations, she insisted that she needed two things in order to survive, 1) regular brutal beatings & floggings within an inch of her life as often per day as a Master could deliver (fine with Me, I can handle that); AND 2) periodic group sex and gang-bang parties where many men and women sexually use her and abuse her in every conceivable sexual manner and flail away with the whip, cane and crop as they could muster the strength (in the 21st Century before HIV & AIDS is cured that is too risky for Me). Besides, I tend to be selfish with My submissive or slave, keep her pleasures and service for me. The point I am making is, if I took her as My slave and agreed to provide those BDSM activities, it would seem that I, the Dominant, am giving more of a ?gift? than she gives to Me. ///
All of those who are not genuinely serious and committed, please stop contacted Me. If you just desire to ask a question or engage in some brief intellectual discourse, that is fine and all good; just say so up front. Stop pretending you are a ?submissive? or ?slave? and then waste My time during initial training sessions and communications. Just read My profile and journal, if you so desire and walk on by without bothering Me. Also, those who lack the ability to read & comprehend and cannot express an intelligent and coherent thought in writing, please either admit such up front or keep on stepping!!! At least let Me know what I am dealing with, because I will find out very quickly. ///
These are this Sir?s humble opinions.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Friday, April 07, 2006
10:36 AM Pacific Day Light Time ///
I have on occasion had the debate about what is the difference between ?hurt? and ?harm? and whether or not, there is a real difference. In all candor, it really depends on the context in which the words are being used and under what circumstances. From a legal standpoint in a court of law, one often hears that some person or corporation has hurt someone and caused them to suffer harm. In the BDSM realm it is important to make some distinctions and I truly hope that there is consensus among those who participate in and live this lifestyle. Why? Because a Dominant One must be honest and say that He will ?hurt? a submissive or slave, but He should be able to reassure the same submissive or slave that He shall not ?harm? her. ///
Here are My working definitions:
Hurt >>> This is temporary emotional, mental & physical suffering
q Cause temporary discomfort, aches, pain and suffering during certain types of BDSM tortures, play, bondage and/or confinements
q Cause temporary mental anguish & torment and physical agony and misery during certain types of BDSM tortures, play, bondage and/or confinements
q Cause one to be embarrassed, offended, upset, humiliated and/or distraught during certain types of demeaning obedience training, discipline sessions and BDSM activities designed to ?break down? and ?mold? the submissive or slave during subjugation training
Harm >>> This is long-term or permanent suffering, injury or damage
q Cause permanent maiming, scaring, marring, injury or disfigurement caused during certain types of BDSM activities, tortures, play, bondage and/or confinements
q Cause permanent mental anguish & torment and physical agony and misery resulting from serious injuries, physical damage or unwanted brands, scars or tattoos obtained during irresponsible, negligent, careless or unskilled BDSM tortures, edge-play or related activities
q Any serious injury, illness or chronic suffering requiring professional medical attention
q The transmission of a sexually transmitted disease (STD), especially one that is both lethal and incurable such as HIV infection or AIDS ///
A non-BDSM example of this may be two young men who engage in a fight and both take serious blows to the body and face and exert much effort and energy before they are separated. If afterwards they are tired, sore, a little swollen & red and probably ?black & blue? in places, but nothing that a little rest, some ice, minor first aid and the passing of a couple of days will not cure, then they both got ?hurt? but neither suffered any ?harm.? However, if one got his arm broken or was severely cut or shot and it required emergency medical attention, stitches, surgery and follow up medical care, then he experienced ?harm.? ///
As such, when a submissive or slave suffers when forcefully used, tormented or punished, she may ?hurt? and feel real aches, pain, discomfort, soreness, terror and anguish BUT if an hour later she is feeling fine and has recovered, then she has no real ?harm.? However, when more than minor first aid, ice, rest, soothing words, wonderful massage, nice warm bubble bath, glass of wine etc is required to recover and she needs emergency medical attention or long term medical care, then she has suffered ?harm.? A submissive or slave also may suffer harm if a Dominant or Master has them scarred, branded or tattooed against their will or subjects them to nonconsensual activities such as gang-rape. ///
Have a wonderful weekend!!!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
April 1, 2006
8:49 AM Pacific Standard Time ///
First allow Me to acknowledge that no one person is experienced and expert in all aspects of BDSM activities, and there is no one person who is fully knowledgeable regarding the volumes of information available on the controlling, disciplining, punishing and training of a submissive one or slave within the BDSM realm. The ability to discipline, dominate, subjugate, use and manage a submissive one or slave does take some special ability, talent, knowledge and strength of mind, body and character and requires a Dominant One to possess a diversity of resources, stamina and knowledge that not only must come naturally, but must be supplemented by education, academic study and research. ///
I believe that a Dominant One may learn from anyone, including a submissive one or slave and even a person in the ?vanilla? world with real time experience commanding, directing and controlling the life of others; for example an military officer commanding soldiers or marines during basic training or in a real war situation. Senior level managers of large corporations or huge government bureaucracies have much knowledge to offer as well. Those who study and possess some level of expertise in psychology, sociology, anthropology and medicine have much to offer as well. ///
I am all for a Dominant One seeking additional information and studying and even observing the techniques of One more experienced in certain activities. I even understand asking to borrow or rent a dungeon and rack (if One lacks one) from another Dominant. ///
However, I have seen, heard of and read about Dominants seeking other Dom/mes to teach & train their submissive one or slave. They actually desire to have the other Dominant take control of the person for a period and be the submissive or slave's temporary Dominant ? a few male Dominants believe that they must bring in a female Dominant who can better teach the female submissive or slave things that He is unable to. These things I do not understand; it seems to Me it must also be confusing to the submissive or slave also. ///
My advise would be to have the Dominant seek out advise, guidance or instruction from another Dominant and/or ask the other Dominant to train Him or Her in certain techniques and then assist Him or Her subject the submissive or slave to the particular torture, ?play? or restraint, BUT do not admit failure and incompetence by turning your submissive or slave over to the authority and control of another Dominant. This suggests to Me that other things are going on such as, the Dominant or Owner/Master is ill, distracted or exhausted and tired of dominating and/or has reached His/Her peak of competency and is now operating outside of His/Her knowledge and ability or that the submissive/slave is beginning to top from the bottom. ///
As for this Sir, I do not want some other Dominant trampling around in, contaminating (mentally, physically & spiritually) and using, abusing and misusing My special sacred Temple, which is the body and person of My submissive or slave. No, if I possess a submissive or slave, I shall selfishly restrict her to Me and not allow others free access to control, influence and misuse her mind, body & soul. ///
These are My humble opinions.
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California
Thursday, March 23, 2006
4:24 PM Pacific Standard Time
To: True submissive women or genuine female slaves in the BDSM realm.
When it comes to a submissive one or slave, I am very interested in seducing her mind, romancing her heart and calming her spirit!!! This Sir realizes that there must be a certain degree of attraction, chemistry and compatibility between those seeking to join in a D/s or M/s relationship. However, once the communication and interaction begins, then commences the most delicate and sophisticated time honored ?dance? of negotiation, wooing, seduction and persuasive enticements. This is the ?getting to know you? initial phase (similar to courtship; or it should be) during which both Dominant One and submissive one or slave carefully consider the prospects and possibilities and the benefits and drawbacks to a relationship with the other. Any responsible, prudent and practical person in the lifestyle must participate in this dance and be willing to compromise and find middle ground or go their separate ways.
This Sir honestly believes that once a woman?s mind is convinced, heart is emotionally involved and her spirit is freed of anxiety and fear; then her body follows the lead of her mind, heart & spirit /// I believe that when that unique and special submissive or slave is found, then her person & body becomes My sacred special Temple for My exclusive pleasure, use, comfort, refuge and satisfaction. The submissive/slave is the care-taker and custodian of My sacred special Temple and she must care for her body in accordance with the grooming, personal hygiene and healthy living standards mandated by this Sir. Therefore the submissive slave knows it is her responsibility and sworn duty as the custodian and care-taker of Master?s special sacred Temple (her body) to provide the stipulated and mandated care, protection, cleanliness, grooming, sanitation & hygiene demanded by her Master. This may require that she lead a fit & healthy lifestyle and avoid those activities such as drunkenness, drug abuse (including misuse of prescribed medicine), smoking or chewing tobacco, anorexia or other unhealthy eating disorders and unapproved self-mutilation. It also means that she must become self-disciplined and may never engage in any sexual activities unless pre-authorized to do so and carefully supervised by her Dominant-Master. Of course, any unsafe and risky promiscuous sexual acts with other persons are strictly prohibited. ///
To Me a submissive or slave is to be treasured as a most valuable and precious possession who complements a Dominant One and makes Him complete. The Dominant One must be the Protector, Provider and Producer for His submissive or slave and always be concerned about her welfare, happiness, health, security, safety and personal growth & development in both the ?vanilla? world and the BDSM realm. There must be a harmonious blend between sadism and tender loving care, between chastisement & punishments and compliments and rewards. Oftentimes brutal ?edge-play? and painful tortures need to be followed by affectionate ?after-care? and soothing reassurance and refreshments. The relationship works best when there is friendship, companionship and mutual respect & admiration. The relationship works best when there is an intense passion and compassion for each other in order to keep the fire burning hot it must be nourished and fed "fuel" "heat" and "oxygen" ... those who do not understand, may inquire of this Sir > No Dominant One may ever truly own, control and subjugate a submissive or slave until He captures and rules the mind, heart & spirit (so to speak) of the submissive or slave. The body always follows the heart, mind & soul. ///
One quick disclaimer >>> This Sir knows that some so called ?submissive? ones are not a real natural submissive who hungers and craves submission, servitude and subservience envisioned in the type of relationship considered above. Others are more about role playing, scenes and the socialization and taboo kinky activities. This Sir also knows that many so called ?slaves? desire to be objectified and denied any semblance of affection, humane treatment or freedom and some of these crave the risky & unsafe promiscuous sexual activities & group rapes, extreme ?bloody? tortures, particularly harsh mistreatment and demeaning humiliations. This is usually discovered and revealed during the initial ?dance? and agreed to up front. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) Southern California
Thursday, March 23, 2006
1:43 PM Pacific Standard Time
Free at last! Free at last!! Thank goodness I am free at last!!! As of Friday, March 31, 2006, I shall end My long five (5) hour round trip commute between San Diego and Los Angeles. I have continued to live in SD and work in LA since 1999. I rise early and drive 30 miles like crazy to catch the Metrolink commuter train for a one hour and 50 minute to Union Station in downtown LA and then walk briskly to My place of employment. Rising every weekday between 3:00 AM and 4:00 AM and returning home between 7:00 PM and 10:00 PM depending on weather, traffic conditions, business at work and car problems has not been a healthy experience. Well ? I prospered financially and I am fully vested in the CalPERS retirement plan and got a fat 401k account, but it is good to return to sanity and explore other options. ///
I am being recruited for positions in southern California, Oregon, Seattle metropolitan area in Washington and northern California in wine country near the Bay area. I am being encouraged to explore options in Utah and St Louis ? damn!!! These matters must be placed on hold for awhile. ///
First things first, I shall be going to Las Vegas and get My recuperation, rest and relax on while I enjoy some of the wonderful entertainment the sinful city offers. Got a lovely luxurious suite at the Bellagio and even scored excellent tickets for the ?O? by Cirque du Soleil; got aisle seats close to the stage in the center of the theatre (not close enough to get wet). The suite has a great view of both the strip and the huge water display by the Bellagio fountains; that should be cool. ///
Planned unemployment is nice BUT, I am always exploring options!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Wednesday, March 8, 2006
9:36 AM Pacific Standard Time ///
Please explain the wisdom of changing the ?personal notes? window to about 2? long and less than 1? wide; this makes it much more difficult to see the entire text of what one writes without constant scrolling up & down. It was more practical and user friendly when it was much larger. Sometimes I think that CollarMe.com needs a member focus group to offer critique, comments and suggestions when they get ?bright? ideas. ///
This is My most humble opinion! ///
Mr.B
P/S The CollarMe.com automatic Calendar date is wrong again!!!
Monday, March 06, 2006
10:48 AM Pacific Standard Time ///
Kind folk & gentlepeople it would seem that it is not asking too much to suggest that when a member posts a photograph in her profile that she considers the reason that she has posted a photograph. It is not required by CollarMe.com that one include a picture in one?s profile and many do not post any. In all honesty, it has been a struggle at times getting photographs either pass the censors or not rejected due to technical default issues (BUT those are topics for another day). ///
It may be presumptuous on this Sir?s part to conclude that the overwhelming majority include photographs in order that other members may view them and 1) have a general idea of what they look like physically, 2) make their profile more appealing to other members and 3) to be more competitive in their solicitation for attention and consideration. There may be other reasons BUT most fall under one of the three categories listed. ///
If such is the case, will some better informed person who has been blessed with greater wisdom, knowledge & understanding (regarding matters of importance, such as these) please inform this Sir why people often include photographs of such poor quality and so hazy & blurry that it would require NASA technology and CSI investigative methods to reveal the physical attributes of the member who owns these profiles. Others have good quality pictures BUT the person(s) in the photograph are so far away or so well hidden that you can not see them sufficiently to determine what they look like. Please consider whether or not the photograph(s) you include are achieving the objectives you seek. If not, have new ones or better ones (reasonably current of course) posted! A really interesting challenge is when the member has one picture with three women in it and does not say which one she is and it is not obvious based on the personal data she lists. ///
Btw ? I am no prude and I love gazing upon the beautiful nude body of a woman, especially if the delicious female derrière (aka buttocks or ass) is in full display; I am a ?butt & leg? Man ? he he he ? BUT ? I love seeing a woman?s face and to be able to try to read and interpret her facial features and assess her thoughts, demeanor and personality by observing her eyes, mouth and various facial characteristics. The face, especially the eyes, reveals so much about a person, at times. In other words, Men, such as I, love to see the body, but I crave to see the face. ///
Have a wonderful day!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, California
Saturday, February 25, 2006
11:55 AM Pacific Standard Time
I must confess that I am some what amused by women complaining about all of the messages they get on this web-site. I wonder sometimes if they are truly upset or just bragging so all who read know that they are hot and most desirable ? hhhmmmmm ? interesting thought. The way I see it, they are on this web-site and post solicitations in order that other members may check them out and if these members who read/view their profile are interested, then they expect to receive messages. If many people like what they read and view, then many people most likely shall write to them. ///
Even if you get 60 messages in one hour, most will obviously be undesirables (which you can easily spot and delete); many have very little to say and it would take 45 seconds to view their meager and pitiful message (these, you can quickly delete, after checking their profile to make sure they are not ?hot? ? he he he ?); and then there are a few that you may have to take your time and consider in a more thoughtful and careful manner (maybe 12 out of 60). ////
I suspect that most members are not seriously looking for what they advertise and as such are just being provocative with their nude and salaciously risqué photographs and stimulating lists of activities desired. Those who announce that they are ?not looking? or ?owned & happy? or ?just here to observe? or ?just here to chat with friends? are honest enough. But the others ? what is the purpose of their indelicate postings and stimulating solicitations? I know we do not have a bunch of mischievous ?teasers? on this site who take great secret pleasure in tempting the more lecherous amongst us ... right? ... hhhmmmmm ... ///
There are members who are seriously searching and most genuine in their quest and they may happen to write you; do with it what you may BUT if they are respectful and have something of quality to say, at least provide a brief courteous response and explain your interest or lack of such. There is no need to act as if members are ?bothering? you when you invited the attention with your profile. ///
That is this Sir?s humble opinion! Have a wonderful weekend!! ///
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Thursday, February 23, 2006
5:36 PM Pacific Standard Time ///
I once knew a very lovely and natural submissive lady who identified as ?slave? she was one of the few genuine true submissive slaves that I have had the pleasure of speaking with and she managed to retain her personal dignity, self-esteem and self-respect. This submissive slave was very selective and careful about whom she associated with and was particularly diligent and thorough about screening any potential Dominant Sir, which she considered worthy of her submission and servitude. /// However, the most interesting thing about her was, once she made her selection, she truly surrendered all control and authority about damn near all things including the mundane and her orientation and desires. If you asked her if she was bisexual, she would respond, ?I am if and whenever my Master ordains i be? and if you asked her if she performed the ultimate WaterSports (urine) such as drinking the golden nectar from the source or receiving & giving golden showers, she would respond that she does such if and when her Master decided that He craved or needed such services. This submissive slave had similar responses to ?breeding? and ?needle-play? and etc. Yes! That is one submissive slave who was totally selfless and understood the concept of obedience, subjugation and being subservient. Of course, she only served that "special" Dominant she admired, respected, trusted and revered and after careful scrutiny. ///
I do miss My conversations with her she was very educated, intellectual and up to date on domestic and foreign affairs AND has a most witty and wicked sense of humor. ///
Mr.B
Thursday, February 9, 2006
11:39 AM Pacific Standard Time ///
I once knew a girl from near Atlanta deep in the ?Dirty South?
Most profane she was, and like some brats, she had a very ?dirty? mouth;
She was full of hurtful sarcasm, offensive jokes and obnoxious banter;
This disrespectful young subbie gossiped, complained and griped quite abit;
And made it clear to all whom she hurt or offended that she did not give a shit;
Most unruly, blasphemous, vulgar, disobedient and uncontrollable she was;
When safely on the phone or at her computer in cyber space alone;
She abused, ridiculed and cursed out all while in the comfort at home.
Some found her behavior amusing, merely annoying and little more than naughty
The strong and strict Dominant Ones thought her rebellious, defiant and tawdry
Then like a moth to the flame, a good Sir lured her to the fire;
He played her game and filled her head with satisfying all her lustful desires;
The Sir lured her away with delicious & stimulating bait, and concealed the trap;
She was intoxicated with desire, the way the scent of cheese attracts a hungry rat;
Now don?t get this Sir wrong, He enjoys humor, friendly repartee and jovial banter;
But her mouth spewed a cruel, mean-spirited, vile and rude chatter;
Yes, she was a submissive one, a genuine ?brat? she was, and so she claimed;
And dared any Dominant to discipline or control her; she said she could not be tamed!
Then like the unsuspecting fly, she flew into the Spiders web;
Oh, what a costly mistake, because soon her uncontrollable days were dead;
Of course she fought and struggled against her restraints and cursed the rules;
But quickly grew silent once her jaws were propped open with dental tools;
Soon there was much sweating, heavy breathing and anxious dry mouth horror;
When this Dominant One approached with cane and crop to tighten her collar;
Were those tears in her pleading eyes, which bulged in terror;
When she felt the vicious stink of the lash and her ass tasted the brutal cane!
Railed she did; she made such a fuss, as her ass was plugged with one cruel thrust!
Nine strokes later she had no fight left and forgot even her own name;
But the Master whipped on with the crop and burned her body with the cane;
There was only a whimper heard, when at last her jaws were relaxed;
And a barely audible and weak curse whispered as the fist reamed her ass;
No curses or sounds of protest were uttered, but she silently pleaded in vain;
As He raped her genitals with the big bat and asked, ?bitch, what is My name??
?Sir, Master, my Lord & Master, Sir? she barely said with a cry;
His Cock was soon in her dry mouth and she swallowed it all and sucked Him dry!!!
That is the story of the unruly submissive one from Atlanta. How will your story end, will you hide in the comfort and security of home and continue to rant & rave alone or come see this kind Sir and learn self-discipline and obedience while you enjoy the kinky taboo pleasures and suffer the sadistic pain? ///
Mr.B (aka Master Barry) San Diego, CA
Saturday, February 4, 2006
9:33 AM Pacific Standard Time
I may be the only Person who does not like the latest unannounced technical change in CollarMe.com, but, I wish we had some input into the change. I like the ability to make notes on people?s profiles BUT wish that the message section to send messages was more extensive and allowed greater and longer as before. /// Oopps!! I made a mistake ... all is well & this is great and NEVER MIND!!!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Thursday, January 26, 2006
7:21 PM Pacific Standard Time
Anyone who knows Me will know that I am never one to complain about paying taxes because I know that the government needs the money to meet the needs of the American people and to meet all the demands the American people place on their federal and state governments. I just object to how they misappropriate funds, waste money and spend it on things I often disagree with. ///
But ? Damn!!! I got My W-2 form and I paid almost $50,000 in payroll taxes on earned income in 2005 ? Damn!!! I still got to wait for some 1099 forms to come in next week ? I may be literally crying in My beer when I see what that will cost Me, because I know I may be in trouble unless, of course My dear faithful, loyal and most talented CPA can bail Me out again this year! /// That dear man is worth every penny I pay him! ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B
Sunday, January 22, 2006
7:57 AM Pacific Standard Time ///
In the last three months I have assisted two submissive ones with financial and other help when they lost their employment and suffered great damages to their residences due to the Katrina hurricane & flooding. Both never asked for anything and both were shocked and surprised that I would send ?no-strings? attached assistance after I learned of their misfortune. One was a submissive under consideration and in training and the other was just one I communicate with often and counsel. ///
As an Owner/Master or Dominant Partner it is My obligation to provide for My submissive one? or slave?s health, well-being, security, safety and general welfare in addition to the education, training and disciplining required for her personal growth and development. I know I must make such provisions, arrangements and agreements as may be necessary to meet these obligations and make available My personal resources that are sufficient to supplement and ensure the meeting of these responsibilities. /// A good and genuine Master does value, respect, appreciate and cherish His submissive one or slave and holds a great affection and desire for His submissive one or slave. I can bring the stability, guidance, structure and counsel they need. I am obligated to assist My submissive one or slave with every day problems and even financial deficiencies. I can give friendship, companionship, sexual pleasures and even a ?father-figure? to counsel and advise them when needed. However, I need a naturally submissive woman with good character, honesty and a strong commitment ... not a irresponsible ?gold-digger? type. I do not want any woman with an unhealthy & unproductive lifestyle and bad habits, addictions or vises, which she clings to. /// Please know that I am a mature, reasonable, intelligent and educated man who is creative and resourceful, and I can assure one, that any submissive one or slave would benefit, grow & develop personally under My control and support, instruction & guidance and strict discipline. Once you accept this Sir as your Owner/Master and Teacher, then I become your Benefactor, Protector and Provider. ///
I am a generous and kind hearted man who bonds with His submissive partner or slave and feels passion and compassion for her. I always ensure My submissive partner or slave feels protected, valued, appreciated, safe, secure, respected and cared for! I am always concerned regarding the various challenges, traumas and misfortunes that she may suffer in her ?every day? life and I shall offer practical advise, counsel, guidance and other resources to assist her more effectively manage, control, resolve such situations, and help her learn from each experience. I enjoy serving as a father figure, leader, counselor, consultant and teacher who contributes to the success of My submissive partner or slave. I may be strict and brutal at times, but your development, personal growth, health, safety, security, sanity & well-being come first. ///
Mr.B
San Diego, CA
Thursday, January 19, 2006
9:18 AM Pacific Standard Time ///
Yes! I confess that I am an enigma and most complicated to those who communicate with and get to know Me. There are many layers to My personality and it is difficult to fully understand Me. For example, I am a libertine at heart and yet I consider Myself a Man of basic conservative Judeo-Christian values and I definitely am no war-mongering fool who believes that it is unpatriotic to criticize the corruptions, foolishness, bigotry, incompetence and arrogance of the current administration controlling the White House. Even those who have known Me for many years never figure out the ?puzzle? of My personality and I remain a mystery for most. ///
Even though I do not openly practice this Dominant/submissive (or Master/slave) lifestyle due to various business and professional career reasons in addition to personal responsibility concerns in the ?vanilla? world, I am naturally Dominant and fully belief in and support this sub-culture of the BDSM realm. My philosophical approach to life challenges laws that invade personal privacy & freedoms. I confront, question and reject social mores and taboos that limit the personal freedom of adults. I strongly resist and ignore any community standards or public policies that encourage bigotry & unfairness. I support philosophies, community standards and public policies that promote equal opportunity, upward mobility for the poor and for those who may be oppressed socially and economically. ///
I encourage adults enjoying the fullness of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness as guaranteed by the U.S. Constitution! I promote consenting adults participating in alternative lifestyles and enjoying the ?taboo? freedoms and pleasures found in certain sub-cultures. It is My belief that the original values of freedom and the more traditional conservative political philosophies actually support and allow the Dominant/submissive life and the BDSM realm. BUT the right wing hypocrites and the so-called fundamentalist Christians who dominate much of current political life have launched a successful campaign to get government into the lives of consenting adults. These zealots and their political conspirators demand economic lais sez-faire capitalism that manipulates and exploits the masses, but would deny the American people freedom to live life as they chose even if no mentally incompetents, children, innocent vulnerable ones, animals and/or the natural environment are being harmed. ///
I grew up in a foreign country where there were no age requirements to drink alcohol or smoke tobacco cigarettes. Corporal punishment was the rule of the land, at home and in school. Parents, families, and the prevailing ?wisdom? of the local community or neighborhood regulated and controlled social behavior. People were free to do as they chose, so long as no one was being forced or hurt. People policed their own conduct and men were dominant and responsible to provide & produce for and protect the women, family and local community. ///
Did you know that there used to be no age limits to get married and that alcohol and various currently unlawful drugs were legal in these United States. In some parts of the country men were allowed to have more than one wife. It may surprise you to know that even today the 1,400 year old custom among the Shiite Muslims that allows temporary ?pleasure? marriages for women whose husbands have died or divorced them is still sanctioned by the highest religious leaders. This custom is called ?Mutaa? and it allows a woman to marry any man for one day or one month or many years in order to have her sexual and economic needs met. These temporary ?pleasure? marriages are often with married men who have their own wives and children. Many men enjoy two or three pleasure marriages at the same time and usually the real wife never knows (or she turns a blind eye). My point is that even some of the most conservative ultra religious societies allow unique lifestyles in order to meet certain basic human needs. ///
However, although a Libertine at heart, I never want personal or social anarchy, chaos and/or irresponsibility, because I believe that with freedom must come reasonable conduct, responsibility and consideration of others. As such if a life style promotes infectious disease that threatens the larger population, the government has a legitimate interest is stepping in for public health reasons. Btw ? I do believe in a strong national defense and protecting our borders from a massive influx of undocumented workers and potential criminals and terrorists. ///
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER >>> The country I grew up in was democratic with equal opportunities for all including women. Women held many high-level political, academic, social, religious and economic positions and many ruled and controlled their families BUT for the most part, everyone considered that the natural order was for the man to lead and dominate. Also, I never knew any juvenile alcoholics or young drug addicts and I lived in a large metropolitan area with lots of ?street-action? and booze & ganja! ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
12:03 PM Pacific Standard Time
This Sir recently had an interesting question posed to Him by a supposedly experienced and certified submissive slave with at least four years real time experience serving and submitting to Dominant Ones. The question had to do with My insistence that a true submissive one or slave in the BDSM realm must learn, accept and even embrace the concept of self-discipline and self-renunciation in addition to obedience and the surrender of control. /// I was surprised that the so called ?slave? had never been taught these necessary virtues. My rhetorical question in such a circumstance usually is, how does one honestly relinquish authority and surrender control to the Dominant One and then truly submit, serve and be subjugated without strong self discipline and self-renunciation? ///
The human being is full of inner unconscious, or partly conscious, impulses. People sometimes say or do things they later regret saying or doing. On many occasions people (Dominant or submissive) do not think before they talk or act, they respond to urges and strong cravings. /// As a submissive or slave, one must submit to the desires, will and authority of the Dominant One or your Owner/Master, and the submissive one or slave surrenders her control to Him and obeys Him in complete humility, meekness and subjugation. /// Don?t get Me wrong, I believe that a Dominant must be responsible and regulate His behavior also, but, He is not under the authority of His submissive partner or slave. ///
Self-Discipline >> The trait of being well behaved and the trait of great self-denial (especially from worldly and lustful desires) /// includes the trait of abstinence (and continence) such as the exercise of self constraint in matters of sexual gratification for self and the self satisfying use of alcohol as well as other the suppression and moderation of other strong personal urges and cravings. ///
Self -denial >> the act of denying yourself and controlling your impulses (worldly or natural) rigorous self-denial and active self-restraint (asceticism) /// Includes Abstinence: The act or practice of refraining from indulging an appetite or a craving (food, alcohol, sexual activity, drugs, etc.); and the renunciation of your own interest in favor of the interests of another or others --- As a submissive slave willingly renounces her own self interests and controls her lusts and impulses in order to comply with the will and commands of her Dominant One or Owner/Master. Self denial requires she routinely control her urges and deny herself in order to continuously satisfy and meet the expectations, rules, interests, desires and needs of her Dominant One or Owner/Master, and to be in His good favor and graces. ///
A submissive one must exercise will power because it provides her the ability to control inner cravings and selfish and harmful impulses, when they are in conflict with her Master?s expectations, rules and directives. It is the ability to overcome laziness, disobedience and procrastination. It is the ability to arrive to a decision and follow it with perseverance until its successful accomplishment. It is the inner power that allows you to refuse to indulge in unnecessary, useless habits and grants you the strength to overcome inner resistances. It is one of the corner stones of success, spiritual and material. There is no self-discipline without genuine will power. ///
Self-renunciation is sacrificing one self and the act of renouncing, or setting aside, one's own wishes, claims, desires etc. and adhering to and meeting the needs, cravings, comforts and pleasures of another one. This often means forgoing one?s own pleasures and need for comfort, rest and nourishment focusing on denying self in order to serve and submit to the Dominant One or Owner/Master. Self-renunciation is the ultimate trait of self-discipline because it clearly embodies self-denial and self-restraint. /// This is truly a selfless act of love, submission and servitude. /// ?Love? likes to be a servant, and ?selfishness? likes to be served & satisfied. /// Nonetheless, there are Dominant Ones and Owner/Masters who do truly appreciate and value the selflessness, self-discipline and self-renunciation of a naturally submissive one who genuinely desires to serve, submit and be subjugated. ///
Important Disclaimer: >>> This Sir acknowledges that some who identify as slave or submissive have a desperate and chronic cravings for excessively brutal and severely painful tortures and live for ?playing on the edge? and the more extreme BDSM tortures. These are natural masochistic ?pain-sluts? who hunger for continuous harsh abuse and regular beatings and whippings (especially with the bull whip or cane). Many of them enjoy being objectified, totally humiliated and demeaned to the point where they forget their own humanity and personhood. Other submissive ones or slaves also have a strong sexual addiction that is all consuming and must be used forcefully by all ?cummers? and they demand to be ?gang banged? and ?raped? by many anonymous persons; they glory in having all three holes used hard and exercised beyond its intended limits! << smile>> These are genuine ?cum-slut? whores who relish that status. Sexual activity is intoxicating and even when alone for a few minutes they often seek self gratification. /// There always has been room in the BDSM realm for the ?door-mats,? ?cum-slut? whores and hard core masochistic ?pain-sluts? who need to be used, abused and demeaned without any consideration for their physical, mental or emotional health, personal self-esteem and/or value as a person. Usually they seek only life and the opportunity for hard usage. These are those special and unique ones who keep this lifestyle filled with spice, kink, debauchery, perversion and sadistic pleasures above and beyond the norm. Viva le ?sluts? too! ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
4:48 PM Pacific Standard Time
The naturally submissive one with ?slave? tendencies or a true submissive slave is often seen as someone who is weak, but few things are further from the truth, because it takes someone very strong to submit freely and give of herself without hesitation. A submissive one or slave most often is a very strong person because she willingly surrenders her control and cedes her authority to another and willingly accepts His subjugation. Many persons who are naturally submissive in their personal life are very competitive, strong, successful and dominant in the ?vanilla? world of business, commerce, careers, religion, academia, sports, politics and economics; and even have enjoyed much success as the predator, user and consumer of those they select to be part of their social and intimate sexual life. Nonetheless, if they are naturally submissive, they suffer in silence until such time as they break free of the ?vanilla? life and accepts the bondage and chains (physical, mental & emotional) of the BDSM realm of Dominance & submission. ///
The true submissive slave neither seeks nor desires any rewards for her servitude and sufferings BUT she looks upon her service and use as a great reward and derives much pleasure because it makes Him, her owner, Lord & Master happy and satisfied! /// The true submissive slave feels honored to be owned and used as her Master chooses and feels privileged that she was chosen by the Sir, to be His property and slave. /// As such the true female slave surrenders her ?all? to her Master and denies Him nothing; BUT she seeks only the pleasure and privilege of life, sanity and good health in order that she may continue to serve Him and be used by Him as He so desires and needs! /// Often such as submissive slave has given up material wealth, a successful career, political & economic influence in the ?vanilla? world and the respect and adoration of loved ones, family, friends, business associates, public officials, co-workers, college chums and casual acquaintances in order to surrender, submit and serve. ///
Nonetheless a true submissive slave will never be truly happy or content in her life if she is un-owned. A slave's most profound freedom is found within her Master's bondage, control and chains. Within the bondage, control and chains of her Master, she is free to live as she is destined to live life; to serve and please, and to be pleased in return for the privilege to serve and please her Master. /// Even when subjected to brutal BDSM tortures, excruciating pain, forceful sexual penetration, demeaning humiliations and the most severe & harsh whippings and punishments, this true submissive slave remains faithful, steadfast and true. ///
For a person to do such takes much self-discipline, self-renunciation and self-denial. It demands more will power in a month than most people (Dominants included) can muster in a decade. /// The strong will power to sacrifice one?s often very compelling internal urges and the ability to surrender even one?s civil and legal rights and legitimate voice in matters of significance to them, and then to totally trust and have confidence in the Master, takes a very powerful person. Such a submissive one must be appreciated, treasured, respected and highly valued. /// It is not only the true submissive slave who must be appreciated, treasured, respected and highly valued, but also the genuinely submissive one who is not just role playing and/or doing a ?scene? but actually lives her private life under such restrictions, dominance and control. /// Btw ? it also takes much psychological and physical strength and pain tolerance to endure and surrender to such physical, mental and emotional assaults & batteries. The submissive one or slave is "naked" and vulnerable in every meaning of the words, and she suffers much actual brutality and pain often with no compliment or reward. This is a very special gift for a Dominant to receive and with it comes a great burden and responsibility! ///
The Dominant One or Owner/Master should be prepared to break down, mold and rebuild the submissive or slave in accordance with His expectations and requirements. He should be the artistic and demanding sculptor and she is His formless clay. He must teach her how to be submissive, subservient and in subjugation to Him and He must train and discipline her to ensure she accepts and understands the principles of obedience, self-discipline (including self-renunciation) and total selflessness. That Dominant One or Owner Master must assume the responsibilities of Protector, Provider & Benefactor in addition to Teacher, as may be required depending on the situation and circumstances. Thus it is most vital and important that both Dominant Ones and those who are submissive, slave or switch must be very specific and comprehensive regarding the needs, desires, cravings and limitations T/they have and the type of P/person they seek and prefer. This is essential in order to have them equally yoked and matched. ///
One quick disclaimer >>> This Sir knows that many submissives and slaves are weak and cannot survive successfully in the world without S/some one to lead, guide, direct, control, discipline and subjugate them. There are submissives and slaves who are serious masochistic pain-sluts and others have a strong need to objectified and abused due to various unhealthy and pitiful reasons. Each rule has its exceptions. <<<
Therefore, Dominant Ones, this Sir believes that We as a group should believe in recognition & rewards and tender & affectionate ?healing? after-care. Last but not least let Us rejoice that there are real genuine submissive ones and especially those who identify as slaves. Without a true masochist, the Sadist cannot live His life and express that sadistic nature without running afoul of the law and the local ?vanilla? community. Where would a Dominant One be without the submission and servitude of the subjugated ones ? in frustration city! ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
San Diego, CA
Friday, January 13, 2006 1:16 PM Pacific Standard Time ///
Some members believe that any true and genuine Dominant, submissive or slave must be able to provide proof through either documented and verified affiliation with BDSM groups or registration with some official site. Others demand that a Dominant Master or Mistress and even a submissive, switch or slave must show evidence of their participation and experience by providing photographs of actual BDSM play and/or written references to authenticate their status. ///
This is all well and good for those that need such. Nonetheless being the maverick that I am, I believe that the intimate and unique relationship between a Dominant and His submissive partner or slave is private and special and they do not need to publicly display it or provide photographic images of their erotic, sexual, kinky, torture or other BDSM activities. There is a mutual trust and confidence established between those in this sub-cultural alternative lifestyle and each is vulnerable in so many different ways. /// With the exception of a small percentage of folk in the lifestyle, each of us must continue to live life and succeed in the ?vanilla? world and some have careers, business and other important interests and personal relationships of significance to develop, nourish and/or protect. As such, E/each must decide for H/him or H/herself whether or not they desire to conform with such expectations or requests and if it may cause more problems than it solves. /// Some interested in or drawn to the lifestyle are new and inexperienced or very much ?still-in-the-closet,? so to speak, and fear going public. Many refuse to post photographs in order to hide their identity, except to those special people they meet and trust. ///
No, those aforementioned demands and stipulated requirements are not real and conclusive litmus tests for who qualifies as a genuine Dominant, switch, submissive or slave in the BDSM realm. The best way to judge is by their demeanor, attitude, behavior, mannerisms, personality, writings and conversation. Even then you really do not know for certain until you truly interact with them. ///
In this Sir?s humble and yet strong opinion, there are also moral or ethical concerns. When a submissive one or slave consents and allows you to take photographs of her during some very intimate, stressful or intense moments of BDSM ?play? and expects that these are special gifts she offers humbly to her Dominant or Master, does she relinquish her right to protect her image from being smeared all over the world via the internet. /// I rarely take photographs, because I am too busy with the pleasures or ?tasks? at hand BUT when I do, they are kept secured, private and confidential even if we separate on not too good terms. Unless, I have knowledge that she is publicly displaying such images and enjoys the publicity, I never distribute such. /// Just for the record, this lifestyle should be much more than just sexual activity, kink & erotica; and as such, although I love seeing the nude female body (especially the legs & derrière), it seems more appropriate to also include clear photos of your face in your profile and not just genitalia and breasts. ///
I know, I know, this is the year 2006 and we are in the 21st century and everyone is supposed to want to have 15 minutes of fame or notoriety and no one is to desire privacy, discretion and confidentiality BUT perhaps I am just the unconventional Dominant, who is eccentric and sufficiently rebellious to be the odd one out who goes off on His own path. /// It is all good! ///
Btw ... many photographic images are staged & posed for and not real activity. Some make a living as models doing this ... he he he. ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
GREAT!!! The date and time work properly again! /// Thanks to whomever ... Mr.B
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
4:48 PM Pacific Standard Time
Please correct me if I am wrong, but am I the only one who noticed that the dates and times on e-mail messages that I have sent to members on CollarMe.com today have the wrong date and time on them. Earlier they had the correct date and time and then within the last short while, it has changed. /// For example I just sent a brief message at 4:45 today and it registered as 1/7/06 at 1:45 PM. /// If this is another technical glitch on this web-site, please advise. Has anyone else noticed this? ///
Mr.B
Sunday, January 8, 2006
11:29 AM Pacific Standard Time
I know that various women who identify as ?switch? or ?submissive? or ?slave? often complain about so called Dominants and Masters who are unable to express an intelligent & complete thought in writing and they bemoan the many single phrase or single sentence messages they get from so called Dominants and Masters. Many women who identify as ?switch? or ?submissive? or ?slave? also often angrily detest being addressed with disrespect by power hungry ?Doms? who immediately demand that they begin to humbly genuflect before them and submit to all types of verbal abuse and demeaning perverted diatribes before the ?Doms? even know them or fully read their profiles and journals. Many women who identify as ?switch? or ?submissive? or ?slave? also request that those who contact them make detailed offers or explain what they intend to do with them and appear to desire some level of comprehensive and detailed communiqué. ///
My experience has been a mixed bag; I actually have women who identify as ?switch? or ?submissive? or ?slave? complain about the excessive length and details of My written messages to them. One recently told Me it was a ?turn-off? ? hhhmmmmm ? I am in a quandary, should I be much more concise, less intellectual and ?dumb-down? My written messages to appeal to these individuals ? hhhmmmmm ? probably not! ///
Nevertheless, I guess I should shorten My messages and ask them to read My profile (oops! The written narrative in My profile is long also.). ///
I shall maintain the status quo and make an effort to avoid redundancy and also ensure My writings appear less erudite in nature; I shall make initial communications more succinct, until such time as the recipient of My communiqué has expressed a genuine profound interest in more detailed information.
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Friday, January 6, 2006
LOS ANGELES (Jan. 6) - Lou Rawls, who earned fame with his glorious voice and respect through his prodigious fundraising for the United Negro College Fund, died Friday of cancer. He was 72. /// It is most sad but true that just like the late greats Sam Cook and Barry White ... the deep deep velvet romantic crooning of Lou Rawls is silent due to cancer. ///
Btw ... HAPPY NEW YEAR to ALL! Have a pleasure filled, prosperous and successful 2006! ///
Mr. B San Diego, CA
Wednesday 23, 2005
7:30 PM Pacific Standard time
San Diego, California
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL!!! Have a safe, pleasant, relaxing and loving day of thanks! May all those traveling, arrive on time, safe & sound!
In case you are unsure which NFL team to root for ? cheer on the Dallas Cowboys, America?s team, of course!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Friday, November 11, 2005
9:29 AM Pacific Standard Time
Well ? once again a perfectly harmless and innocent journal entry has been censored and not posted. Perhaps it is only Me having these problems; there are so many members with journal entries that appear to severely challenge and even stretch the boundaries that CollarMe.com has established. After all, like daddy, ?Big Brother? always knows best! ? he he he ?
Best regards to all the veterans out there on this holiday and may all those military folk struggling to survive in Iraq, may you soon return alive and well with no serious injuries!
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Thursday, November 03, 2005
10:03 AM Pacific Standard Time
To Whom it May Concern or Interest & Others:
This Sir is amazed and dumfounded at the extensive degree of unreasonable censorship that CollarMe.com members must endure when they try to communicate their thoughts. This is after all an adult web-site. What really galls Me is the overt political correctness gone insane, and how simple journal entries that do not contain ?contact information, website links, criticism of other users, vulgarity, or illegal activities? are still denied posting with no explanation. It would seem to Me that if those controlling and managing this web-site would have the decency to explain why an entry was rejected, perhaps a person could make the correction and write an amended journal entry. ///
I suspect that those who must serve as censors do not appreciate My complicated brand of intellectual humor, sophisticated witticism, sardonic quips and sarcastic cleaver remarks. As you may know, humor, after all, is known as man?s inhumanity to his fellow man. Nonetheless, we all could use a little light hearted derision and friendly mocking just to lighten up the miserable moods and self righteousness that one and all are often afflicted by and guilty of, this writer excluded of course ? but, of couse. /// None the less I shall keep trying to communicate My thoughts and seek divine inspiration from on high to find some form of the Queen?s English or American dialect that the censors in question are more in tune with and positively responsive to. Yes!!! I realize I have ended a sentence with a preposition, but I am in a very irritable & cantankerous mood ? so there ? and ?whatever? as the more juvenile ones amongst us often say these days! ///
Peace & Love!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Thursday, October 6, 2005 /// 2:45 AM Pacific Daylight Time ///
This Sir shall be on a brief vacation and most likely incommunicado between Saturday, October 8 through Sunday, October 16.
As such, if you write and I do not respond immediately, it is because I am away in Miami or on My eastern Caribbean cruise. ///
Peace & Love! AND Have a good day!
Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
09/30/05 1:45 PM Pacific Time ///
Perhaps some more informed and learned person is able to explain, why it takes three full business days or more for CollarMe.com to allow your jounal entries to be posted and seen. Especially when there is nothing written that the web-site violate rules.
I thought computer & electronis technology were to speed things up ... damn!
Mr.B
Wednesday, July 20, 2005 at 0840 pdt
I know that participating on web-sites such as these may be frustrating at times, especially due to the censorship, unreasonable restrictions and technical flaws. However, I often see too much unnecessary animosity, hostility and ridicule when I read member profiles and journals. /// The greatest animus appears to be directed at straight male Dominants; and I am sure that some have earned the scorn, but there is no need to paint all with the same brush. /// There is just as much dishonesty, disrespect, discourtesy, rudeness and games playing coming from those who identify as ?submissive? or ?slave? and I know that there must be very effective methods to communicate your dislikes, needs, desires and preferences without the overt hostility. ///
Damn! There is that quiet little meow again; I hear a soft purring also ? one day soon, I am going to find that little kitty cat, capture & subdue her, train her, discipline her, break her bad habits, feed her some meat & milk and of course, protect her from those nasty dogs out there! Then she can be this Sir?s faithful companion, keep Me amused & pleasantly entertained and curl up with Me and warm My bed. BUT, if she does not behave I shall whip that little kitty cat ass! ///
Thursday, 05/19/05 at 1415 (CA time)
Hello web site officials ~~~ This is my second attempt in three days to post the following:
I grant that I may be a little more garrulous than required for what passes as normal written discourse on sites such as these, but, my intentions and motives are to initiate a genuine and serious dialogue with one, whom, for a myriad of reasons, may have caught my attention and even, perhaps, stimulated deep, base & ?dark? cravings of a more lustful & salacious nature (God forbid even insane thoughts akin to the great Marquis de Sade!)
None the less, I shall persevere and not allow these technical annoyances to unnecessarily distract me from my primary motives and honest intentions, and I commend those (obviously much more thoughtful and brilliant than I) who have the foresight to ensure that all are allowed to fully participate on CollarMe.com! If in my ramblings, I may have offended someone or ?touched a particularly sensitive nerve,? please know that no offense was meant and I shall try not to bore the dear submissive ones, whom I assumed desired more information and some indication of intellect from the so called Dominant Ones.
My goodness, I just had an epiphany! ? dare I say more? Hhhmmmmm ? AND ?NO? submissive ones, it is not proper protocol to stuff a ball gag in Master?s mouth! Have a Good Day!!!
5/02/05 at 11:05 AM (Pacific/CA time)
Sometimes sending messages and communicating on this CollarMe.com web site is a major challenge. When I write, I put some thought, energy and effort into it and my messages tend to be longer and more literate. Often I discover that due to some technical problems the message is some how deleted before the intended receiver is able to open and read it; and when they do, it is either blank or only has half a dozen words ... this is most frustrating! Such is life ... all these sites have problems!
Mr.B (aka master Barry) San Diego, CA
Wed 03 March 2005 [1431 PST] ... A day or two ago I made minor edits and tweeks to my profile narrative ... and now I wait for CollarMe.com to post the narrative once more! /// As for photos, I have basically given up all hope of posting the ones I want online, they have constantly rejected them for reasons only this "wonderfully efficient and technically superior" site could possibly explain ... I should be thankful for small mercies, at least I got three (taken in 2004) posted on the site! /// Mr.B (aka Master Barry)
Ok ... OK! Major props to Rapper Danny Brown scoring some head while performing live in concert and managing to not miss a bar, lyric or beat while his man-tool was polished off! Must have been a silent orgasm; maybe the the "blower" was on too much 'blow.' Hhhhmmmmm ... all went home happy ... the audience, the crew, the rap 'artist' and the surprise guest performer! Damn! Beyonce summoned security when her lovely "phat" derrière got patted. I guess security was waved off by the rapping recepient of the oral 'performance. ~~ smile ~~ 
[SEE VIDEO LINK ABOVE] 
... this guy is excellent ... he he he.
BUT ... I deliberately avoided anyone's face being recognizable ... no one with me can be identified!! Although I list race/ethnicity as "mixed," I am a black man with Cherokee, Jamaican & African American roots! As I mentioned earlier, if I write to someone, I shall usually attach three or more photos, if I think it necessary ... Mr.B 
... as I like to say. 
Do not overeat ... and remember, we are entering the season of peace on Earth and good will towards all men (and women, too). So as Christmas approaches, be charitable and share your bounty with others, if you have any bounty. Spread the love, but, be careful out there, there is some seriously dangerous sh*t out there! 
These crazy stupid little cartoons provide raunchy "adult" humor without being too overly depraved. The dragon ball z clips and the perverted Bulma moments are hilarious. There are others too ... check it out and enjoy. 
