So much damage is being inflicted out there. More mental than physical. So much time wasted, so much exploration guided by the inadequate.

When will they all learn, that Dominance is not about abuse of mind, body and soul. It is about care, protection, and thought.

Learn first what will fulfill, and at least go someways to making someone complete, then protect that dream. If you can not live toward that ethos, then go and buy a blow-up doll which does not have a brain or heart. A blow-up doll will not need honesty, and far too many people can't even be honest with themselves, let alone be honest with someone else.

Every submissive is a unique individual. This arena can include many activities and practices. Some are for some, but rarely are all for all.

LEARN:  CARE:  PROTECT:

You really do have to laugh at the lengths some people will go, to try and con you. It does though still baffle us, and we are sure, always will exactly what someone gets out of all the spinning of lies and deceit.

One can falsely profess this or boast that, portray false identity and even gender, knowing they will get found out at some time. Where can it possibly lead? What can they possibly achieve from it all? Are their real lives so inept, so empty? It is sad, indeed pitiful.

Dishonesty is rife, not just with the fake profiles, but even with the real ones. The frequency of reports and testaments of careless and reckless people, who take charge of the exploration and experiences of submissives is astounding. The mental damages of such negligence are hard to heal and often irreparable. Yet with honesty, responsibility mixed with understanding, this 'Lifestyle' creates so much fulfillment.

To all those who seek something on here or the other such websites ( and it is a two way requirement ) try this formula:- Honesty + care + responsibility. It works.

A certain female who promotes herself to be a lesbian submissive called lauren, is extremely proficient in wasting others time. First professing interest in becoming a subject of ours, then separately attempting to befriend our slave, with a very different story of who and what she is supposed to be.

Beware of this person. We both doubt very much anything she says is true.

When resolve is needed, it is found. When understanding is required it is offered. When re-direction is a solution, it is employed. When value is evident it is considered.

Through resolve, understanding, re-direction and consideration, the door which was closed is re-opened. Time will tell if we have all made the correct decisions.

When something comes to an end, irrespective of reason, it is often sad. Something has come to an end within our life, and it is sad.

We are a decision making couple and sometimes we need to make a decision which hurts. A recent decision has been made, and it has hurt.

Sometimes a decision we make, can not be understood, even when explained. It is because it can not be understood, which affirms it is the correct decision.

Life nevertheless will move on, and we can only hope, something has been learned, which makes us stronger, wiser and better.

We are often asked;  “What do you get out of owning a slave or controlling a submissive?” Many have presumed it is merely to have a being at our feet, for our use in whatever way that may entertain us, consensual infliction of pain or unlimited sex, but how wrong they are.

So to answer the many who ask us, we must first explain what our ownership and/or control often entails.

Whoever comes before us, beit briefly or long term, are seeking something missing in their lives, or to replace / enhance what is currently inadequate or lacking. Most seek to please, the most common desire within a submissive. But each and every soul, will have different buttons, which need pressing to make the difference.

Some have had a life of mistakes and wrong judgements.

Some have had traumatic experiences, maybe bereavement, or abuse, or worse.

Some have lives in such high pressured arena’s in their vanilla lives and need to have another/others take their helm.

Some have led mundane lives and seek excitement, adrenalin rushes.

Some have explored all they can within vanilla sex and wish to explore their depths of pleasure, something that might really stimulate them.

Some have had an experience in their vanilla lives, which has left a mark upon their minds, which they seek to repeat, because they now understand.

Some have been constantly belittled and taken for granted, and wish to be acknowledged for their efforts, to know they have pleased.

Some have begun to understand the links between pain (at whatever level) and pleasure.

Some will feel arousal quicker within their mind than their body.

Some have or desire an alter ego, to become someone totally opposite from their vanilla persona.

All, will have some extent of fantasies, they wish to realise.

On understanding the needs of the person who enters our life, we set about designing, creating, and producing what enhances or improves their life.

They do indeed become under our control, direction, management, be that for a few hours a week / month, or more frequent.  Through that control, they learn to obey, comply, serve, please, understand the reasons, believe, and have what was missing.

To be successful through each stage, gives us a sense of pride and satisfaction. The pleasure she gives us, in what she provides us. This is what we get out of owning / controlling.

A prime example is our slave. In eight months, through her probation and full ownership, she has displayed a growth in stature and ability second to none. She has listened, learned, obeyed, complied, followed, and continues to do so. Now she has a sense of purpose in her life, worth, value, substance. She is  exceptional,. Her transformation outstanding, and she in turn enriches our lives, hence the thought behind the name we gave her ‘ Teshu Nu’.  

There are others who have come before us and some who still do,  each receives methods best suited to them as unique individuals, to enhance their lives, and ultimately creating that sense of pride for us.

We are pleased. She was in residence for the Bank holiday, during which time her probation period came to an end. The past six months has been hard, yet rewarding. It has seen much of the destructive teachings and poor guidance of her past corrected, her mind cleared and she has been allowed to express herself and her soul without fear if ridicule nor abuse. She has been helped, and guided turning such a negative existence into one of beauty and worth, and as such contracts were signed by all parties.

Full and indefinite ownership of her is now in place. A new page and chapter in her life. She is back in residence from Wednesday.

she will be used to show others, how fulfilling and beautiful this life can be. she will be used as testement and aid to those others, and this too will further enrich her.

Now then, here's an interesting little occurrence.  A female domme on this site, first sends our slave a fairly spiteful little message in response to our slaves latest journal entry. Something along the lines of " get off this site you bore everyone". There followed a tit for tat few messages.

As our slaves Owners, we decideed to send this person a message asking her if she had the same probem with everyone, who maintained a journal, yet was no longer seeking a dom or a sub.

Her response was to accuse first us of being a man and a fake, then our slave of being a man and a fake and then to..fuck off.

Now we find this quite sad, that someone who had not even been messaged, feels the need to throw insults, spite and accusations, and can only presume, it must be a case of 'Pot & Kettle'

This persons profile in the name of purgatory1 has much to learn, and even though fairly young at 28 yrs, really should know better. So an open invitation to her/it:- Bring you little snack wagon along to anywhere you wish, and we will meet you, all three of us, and maybe along with some others from within the Lifestyle world who know us.

Maybe a chance to sell some more sandwiches!

One day short of her six months of probabtion, and she has progressed well. There is still much correcting of bad habits, from historical misdirection and misuse, but the change in her in such a short time is immense.

So, today she is back in residence and tomorrow will see a new page opened at the start of a new chapter in her life.

There was a tree, deceased and dying, its roots too shallow in ground too swamped with all thas bad for it. We uplift it, cut back all the decease to find it still has life, albeit the slimmest vein of life. We take what is left and we find the ground which will support the roots required for it to grow strong, and then we carefully dig the trench for it.

We plant that tiny vein of beauty, and we tend it, each day as it begins to grow. Each inch it grows we stake supports, and create a frame, ensuring it's branches will grow in the direction best suited for it. We stay alert to its needs, snipping and pruning any sign of decay or wrong influence. It becomes upright, where before it was bent. It becomes strong where before it was weak. It blossoms into colour, where before it was grey and dank.

This beauty, finds strength in our care. This beauty learns its value with that strength. This beauty now has worth, where before it was worthless.

Tis such a beautiful thing to create beauty. Beauty with strength, beauty with worth, beautry with self esteem. She is ours and we are proud she is!

The times somebody makes a mistake, and error of judegment, a misdemeanour, or even an enormous 'cock-up', is the times support becomes strongest. When someone seems lost in the maze of life, is when the guidance becomes deeper.

Neglect is never an option. Neither is abandonment, nor lack of control.

Direction is for reason. Reason is for benefit and progress.

For whom?

Not for one, for ALL.

For goodnessake! There are some very silly people on here, and there are some very dangerous people as well. For the genuine submissives, we feel really sorry for the BS that is spewed at them from those who proclaim they are this and that. To all submissives, slaves and people chomping at the bit, seeking a dominant, be fair to yourselves, investigate thoroughly the person you are just about to let into your lives. Do not rely on just their word.

Care, thought, understanding and honesty . Those aspects of a D/s and Owners/slave relationship, which we deem most important. From these foundations, we build upon.

TeshuNu now stands tall in her abilty to serve us, as we wish, but which fulfill's her.

Her obedience even though natural to her, becomes easier, for the slave understands, but more because the slave knows her Owners understand the slave.

Teshunu now has her own quarters, established within our home. She learns each day, beit when she is in residence or not, protocol, meaning, reason and value. She learns that the strength and impact of our minds, can far outweigh the strength of our physique and equipment. Yet she knows, each have their time and place, beit to arouse, train or punish.

The past, is being corrected but will never be forgotten, for it was her past which brought her to us. It is surely the most beautiful thing to have this slave stand, kneel or lay, stripped of all her materials, inhibitions, reservations, doubts, and hesitancies, no matter where, when or how, in the knowledge she wishes to please us and serve us and feel fulfilled.

We know how it feels to make someone feel whole. We know how it feels to make someone feel belonged. We know how it feels to make someone feel of value. Because we also feel all those ourselves.

Her commitment pleases us. Her devotion is exhibitted extremely naturally. Her very first term of residency in our home went well, and 'Teshu Nu' was indeed the correct choice for her. But there again, we are rarely wrong!

This then makes it that much easier to move forward, her as our property and us as her Owners. With each step, her place in our home and our lives becomes cemented in strong foundations. With each step she sees further proof just how different we are from her past experiences.

This was only possible through, our welcoming her questions, listening and learning about her and managing her natural ability and attributes in our own unique way. A slave of such inner beauty deserves all we bestow upon her. She is indeed Teshu Nu

Another step is taken. Another lesson is achieved and she continues.

The falsehoods she has known, the carelessness she has experienced, the disappointments she accepted, will soon have paled into insignificance, to be overtaken only by the fulfilling times.

Over the ensuing months and years, she will learn our ethos and understand why that ethos is so important to her. She is already benefitting from it and she knows she is. We are aleady benefitting from her, and she knows we are.

Her whole life is in our hands and our grip will be warming and secure.

Our Teshu nu, currently with some sore bits and a racing pulse.

We sought not to rename her, yet wished for a word or phrase which would encapsule a description of her. The English language can be so basic sometimes. 'Slave' does not suffice as she is more. Even adding a prefix to 'slave' did not work.

We found a way around this using Mandarin. Now what we have is something which goes better to describing here. 'Special'...'Unusual'...'Extraordinary'....'Exceptional'...Distinctive'...'Unique'....'Outstanding'

She is proving to be all of these.

Our 40+ years within this 'Lifestyle' have been spent sometime with an intense association, and sometimes merely on the periphery and experienced, discovered and learnt much, and seldom have we happened on a someone with as much to offer and provide as her, yet whose life has often lacked that which made her whole.

Now, slowly maybe, every day of her life she is able to embrace our ethos, made all the easier, as she arouses our minds, stimulates them and pleases us.

She enriches our lives.

Look out and beware for this one: iwantsex profile of a 5ft 8in 40 yr old female sub weighing 7st 2lbs.

When approached as to why it had a photo from our own profile posted within its profile, its response asked first off, which one? and signed off as master bob.

When said photo was identified, its answer was, "one of my subs was approached by another female who said the photo was what she wanted" followed by "who gives a f*ck".

When suggested he should remove it and post its own photos to give a better protrayal of itself, his final response came back, "f*ck off you london scum".

Now there lays and exhibition of thoughtfulness, respect for other users, and pure Dominance all submissives will profit from. Its profile quite possibly includes no photos of any scene it has been involved with ever, and only things it dreams and fantasises about. The sooner this site finds some method of outlawing these imbeciles, the better.

Owner & Submissive

Aims - Quests - Goals - Objectives.

The Submissive / Slave:  Care: Protection: Love: Honesty: Appreciation: Knowledge: Experiences: Mental & Physical arousal, stimulation and pleasure: Gratitude for her/his efforts: Fulfillment of her/his need to please: Respect of her/his submission: We see these as the main aspects a submissive/slave needs from her/his Owners:

The Owner:  Honesty: Trust: Obedience: Compliance: All without question

For the sane and sensible of this beautiful 'Lifestyle' none of the above should be missing from any relationship between sub/slave & Owner. But often there are.

Sometimes the submissive may find training too much to bear. The Owner having exhausted kinder methods must change direction and sometimes it can hurt. ( not neccessarily physical but mentally), but essentially, without its four part neccessity there is nothing. Just as there is nothing without the submissives eleven part neccessity.

Relationships fail, and will fail unless both, submissive and Owner, follow our "Eleven to Four" rule.

This of course is set aside from all those who see this 'Lifestyle' as an inlet to; Extra marital or cheap and easy sex, kinky sex, swinging, financial gain, random abuse, or quick and easy remedies for an 'Itch'.

The Owner has responsibilities and duties. The submissive/slave also.

We have recently had a relationship end and the soul reason was the exclusion of one facet of the Eleven to Four and something which was never included. More importantly, we deem it a great shame.

A profile posted, has amazed us:-

"My name is Mistress Alex and I'm 21. I have been in this lifestyle for a few years now.

I have lots of toys to use on my slaves, including ball gags, whips, cages, latex, just about every toy you can think of. So if you think you can handle that and are interested in becoming my long term slave  it can be online if you like then drop me an email. All I ask is that you are willing to do what I say when I say".

We are sure she must have hoards running to get their emails off to her!

We both wonder:

How many profiles would be on here if there was a fee to pay for being on here!

How many profiles would be on here if each and every profile on here had to be verified, ( such as gender, age, passport etc)

How many profiles would be on here if to have a profile on here if your confirmed name and address was required.

Hmmmm.....maybe 2% ?

To live a life without purpose nor goal

To live a life without effort

To live a life without achievement

Is a life of vegetation

Vegetation develops into stagnation

A profile known as angelgrl8 are using two photos on their collection which have been taken from our profile. Both pictures feature the female of us being served by two different submissives.

They do not have permission nor have they even requested permission.

We have sent them a message requesting they remove them.

Its Crazy! 

How can so many people on here, be so ignorant and oblivious as to what this beautiful lifestyle is all about.

So many dominants, destructive and careless.

So many needy, mis-directed

So many have blinker on who cannot see.

To be honest with yourself

To be honest with all around you

Together, both these, will make your life so much richer.

Confirmed....'Am...Shter...Dam' is a very 'inter..esh..ting' place !

Much fun was had.

We are both in Amsterdam Mon 19th for four days

You have to laugh at the patheticness of some people on here.

Those who struggle to explore, experience, and realise, we endeavour to help.

Thos who struggle with honesty, well we just laugh!

Ha!

Just seen a profile lilbunniegirl who has invented a new county. Dorsetshire.

Maybe she made a mistook and she comes from Kentshire, or Cornwallshire !

Or maybe from the same bunch who think Slough is pronounced Sluff. Its a funny ole day today!

Helping people is rewarding for us, beit guidance, advice, direction or things more involved. However our time is valuable to us and we will not waste that time on anyone, no matter what their needs, no matter how inviting for them or for us, on people who can not validify who and what they are.

Faceless profiles tags are not for us. We deal in the real world, beit Vanilla or Alternative. 

Those who respect this and have sought our attention will testify the level of friendship we do indeed provide.

Inanity and Ineptness. Uneducated and ignorance.

The constant stream of the above, continues through the journals, profiles and messages of the masses intruding within this beautiful lifestyle.

Those of you seeking the dominance from the dominants. Dont get taken in by those promising what they cannot fulfill. Those who are unable to support their claims. Those incapable of revealing exactly who and what they are. Those who keep parts of their life hidden. For they are only here to trick, con, use and abuse. Dont get taken in by someone you will never meet in person. Dont get taken in by claims of experience when those claims can never be substantiated. Dont get taken in by the Jackanory or Roald Dahl talents.

Dont get taken in by those wishing to extort for a service, or those who merely wish easy sex with some kink.

Domination has duties. It has responsibilities. Domination devoid of these is a danger to a mind, a heart, a body and a soul. It is a waste of time and life.

To all. Be who and what you are. No false pretences. If you cant be honest with yourself, you certainly have no chance being honest with another.

Why is it that the majority of Doms see it as their duty, to destroy every sub that comes into their contact?                                                                                                              Why is that they can not come clean about not only waht they want, but what they are capable of and willing to provide a sub?

Why is that the majorty of Doms can not even be honest with themselves, let alone the subs they ultimately damage.

Once again the evidence is clear to see. There are too few who understand their real responsibilities.

We have just read the biggest pile of drivvel. You really must read through it from a profile with the photo of a face splattered and the eyes blacked out.

"accepted temporary ownership for one week"

"a long distance between me and master"

"I hope to learn alot from him"

and thats just a journal entry. The profile is even better!

The lack of basic intelligence of some of the profiles gets worse.

Its the little things that count!

A photo of woman who clearly is somewhere between a size 8 and a 10 and she weighs 10st 10lbs.

No limits either she professed! Hmmm, no limits to her/hi / its stupidity we think.

We wonder if her surname is 'Rabbit' or may the '147' is the amount of profiles she/he/it has created.

40 collective years between us, and as we look into this lifestyle as it is today, we reflect and see:-

The delusional, the egotists, the ignorants, the thieves, the angry, the bully's, the psychotics, the careless, the neglegents, the fantasists, the paranoid, the cheats, the selfish, the greedy, the liars. All who are:-

Misguiding, misinforming, misdirecting, abusing, neglecting, damaging, destroying, the needy, the explorers, the adventurers, the frightened, the petrified.

And we implore to all:- Don't ruin, don't damage, don't neglect, don't lie, don't deceive, these people, but instead nurture, care and protect them. This life is far far too beautiful, so embrace the responsibilities and duties. If you cant understand this, then best get educated or stay away..

Having been involved and associated with this beautiful 'LifeStyle' for so many years, we are still surprised!

Surprised at how disturbed we both still are at the ratio between:-

Those who retain a sense of reality and those living their lives in dreamland.

Those who cannot write two sentences without one of them being a blatant lie and those totally honest.

Those who actually know what they are talking about and those who have not a clue. Those who dont know what gender they are and those that do.

Those who have something of benefit to another, and those who merely wish to steal.

Those who dont know they are in a relationship and those who do.

Those who know their age and those who dont

Those who know what 'real time' means and those who dont.

Those who know the difference between nurture and groom and those that dont

Those who know the difference between dominating and domineering and those that dont

Those who know the difference between Bullying and Dominating and those who dont

Continually, day by day either via journal entries of other, friends call for help, featured profiles, or within ordinary conversation, we witness the enormity of crap, delusions, abuse, bilge, any genuine person, be them Dominant or Submissive are faced with.

Forty collective years within this lifestyle, and yes, we are still disturbed.

Here we go, our new profile mark 3.

We hope this one does not attract any technical problems

So hello to all our contacts, associates and friends.