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I'd like to say thanks for the website update. I doubt I'm the only one worried CS might not come back up. The new server seems pretty snappy! I'm hoping that with a new server maybe users can begin to update thier profiles without getting locked out or requiring a seemingly endless approval or re approval period. I've seen to many people get locked out and have to create new profiles. That's more of a administrative issue I suspect rather than server hardware. I'm not trying to criticize the admins. Just comment on the state of things in the past. 

I for one am grateful for the upgrade. 

Thank You! 

Finding myself thinking a lot about ass worship lately.  I could say I'm not sure why but there's a whole bunch of reasons. In no particular order. 

I assume that for a woman into receiving it that it could be very relaxing and I'd like to give that. There's the idea that it's perhaps somewhat degrading but I'm not looking at it that way but rather in several other ways. One is the idea of just making love to a woman that enjoys this or as a service. By making love I mean I could see myself with my tongue buried in someone's sweet now very relaxed shincter. Much like french kissing. Just delving deeply inside her now slippery relaxed hole and basically seeing if I might not be able to somehow lick her soul or something. Of course things a perfectly clean in this fantasy. But basically I'm making out with her bottem like it's her face. I'd like this to feel just as natural and as desirable. Not something degrading or somehow dirty. Being into cuckolding and chastity and service this feels like it could also incorporate or enhance those kinks for both her and myself. Being into the darker side of BDSM or being trained to please someone this adds some interesting potential elements for me as a sub that may or may not fit anyone. There's the idea of mastering the ass before being offered the pussy. That's attractive because it's earned. There's the idea of being or becoming good at ass worship and that a dominant might just wish to keep me chaste for that service or specific service. There's the idea that I'm not worthy of cunniligus snd never will be. Therefore all I'll ever do is eat ass. That's not entirely unattractive. Or if it is some sort of relationship that involves others like cuckolding theres the idea I'm not worthy of cunniligus because someone else is. That's primarily about role and my place in the pecking order. Not entirely unattractive and it meshes well with chastity and service and truly being pussyfree as the web seems to be calling it these days. As much as I love giving a woman oral and would stay locked for a lifetime to do just that the idea of just eating ass as a pussy replacement has a certain allure. There's the idea that in a very heavy BDSM relationship I could simply be kept for ass eating skills. I don't know that level of subjegation is worth giving up being able to eat pussy but probably yes if the Dominant wished to keep me so. A number of female dominants seem to love the idea of ass worship. I'd not mind finding one to find out what they like. I'm also definitely curious if this could be a nice reason I could just stay chaste for someone and maybe have this be seen as normal and common place. 

I'm just feeling like I'd like to be able to connect with a woman this way and find a heightened degree of intimacy. 

That doesn't feel the slightest bit degrading. That seems highly desirable.

I'd not mind hearing from some ass Queen that wants to be worshipped this way. 

I think at heart what I'm really looking for in one aspect of life is simple. A keyholder that's both happy and pleased yet always wanting more. 

And Love

Lately I've thinking a lot about somehow finding myself in what I'd call a anal only lifestyle. I've been pegged. And am pretty well trained back there. I'm mostly curious if it could A) Actually happen B) If I could be rewired to live this way and find it satisfying C) Find that elusive release from being pegged D)!Find just the right cage and keyholder Dominant that wanted something similar and get a PA to ensure my own compliance and submission. F) be kept this way G) Potentially explore my bi side but as a slave. H) explore this with a female Top. 

Oddly I'm not femme although I suppose sexually this borders on what we define as a sissy. Feminization is not a limit it's just that my interests are more androgynous. I'm attracted to women emotionally and romanticly. Any bi curiosity seems to be based on physical and sexual service. And maybe the idea of me not having any barriers of who I serve. I'm in a odd place since I equate chastity with service and the idea of purely serving so I'm NOT looking for my own gratification in the normal penile orgasm way. I'd like to avoid that at all costs somehow if I could. But I do have a high sex drive in that I wish to please a woman. So I'm seeing this as a mostly oral role combined with a lot of other BDSM activities that both can bond over. I'm well trained as a house boy or service slave and that's part of my desire. I'm also a bit interested in what I'll call harder core BDSM. Things like being fisted over milking where maybe I'm expressed in pain without even knowing I've released. So there's room for a harder core FemDom. They exist I hear. 

I suppose I'm seeking some type of Chastratrix first and foremost with the desire for a Service slave. But I could see myself doing well and being very submissive as some sort of permanently locked pussyfree anal only service slave. Talk about wanting to be pidgeon holed into a very defined role. But I have experienced in all of these areas and could see myself thriving and being a very good and devoted slave. I know She's out there. And all or part of this may fit You. Maybe You will read this someday  

From a older long dead profile here by a MissChastity777

" Miss Chastity.  The name should be quite self explanatory.  I seek a slave who will be in complete chastity while in service to me.

My slave will forego all future orgasms and sexual pleasure and devote himself entirely to my own pleasure.  My slave will be milked periodically for medical reasons, but beyond that there will be no release.

If you would like the opportunity to become my completely chaste slave, you will write to me describing why you would want a life in 24/7 chastity, and how you envision it." 

This seems like it should not be so hard to find. Yet it is for some reason. Am I weird for wanting to give myself so completely? Or wishing some type of service based life of total submission? This seems like such a good starting point. More Woman should demand this type of submission. How do we make it all about You? This seems like the best starting point. I suppose I'm posting this to grouse that my own kink desires are too extreme. But it just feels to me that if You could have this any other kink or BDSM desire could or would happen naturally in time. I suppose the answer to "Why can't this happen?" Is that no one wants it or is demanding it. What does seem nice to me is this idea of being a year or so into this and finding that the resulting D/s isn't really missing anything and undoubtedly centered on the woman as a lifestyle. Does it need to be so extreme or absolute? Probably not. Real submission is about accepting someone else desires. From the standpoint of giving something however this will always seem nice. I'm not quite willing to give up hope. But I'm still seeking someone that wants this. 

It's been years it seems since CS dms formatted correctly. You do your best to type out something sensical and hit send and what gets sent is stripped of punctuation and special charators. Leading to something close to gibberis. I've wondered if it's a iOS vs Android thing or PC vs mobile device issue. 

I was wondering if anyone knew a workaround like let's say changing the font?

Its reduced the ability to effectively communicate and greatly increased the chances of something being misinterpreted. 

CS is been tinkering around changing how some interests are displayed depending on one's level of interest. They recently revised how a woman's interest in Cuckolding reads to someone browsing profiles. 

"The freedom to pursue romance and intimacy with other men while you remain passionately faithful and devoted to me" 

As someone with a dread fascination in long term chastity all I can say here is basically  

Yes  or perhaps 

YES! 

Thats very much how I feel about this. 

Thats not about "Swinging" to me at all. It does not imply that the sub does not desire his partner. But rather that his desire is to see something that's bigger and better happen. That his partner was free to engage with others as a enhancement of sorts. A woman could want many things. Some of those things may be at odds with each other. This seems like a fantastic way to have it all. 

i just feel this new change is very nicely put and I very much approve. 

I'm not sure exactly how to express this but feel like writing about this. 

I recently lost my remaining parent after a 15 year period of recovery and then decline. Family obligations are what they are and you can either stand tall or run. I choose the former. Setting the idea of loss and grief aside I'm realizing that in a way this was in fact keeping me from engaging in the type of service based submission relationship I truly desire. 15 years is a very L O N G time. But my loyalty to family kept me from relocating. My vocation and history mean that I should be able to land a job anywhere in about 30 minutes. Like anyone I've got a rather full life as far as household and possessions go. Those or that is something I do have full control over. Unlike caring for a family member in decline. 

They like to say when one door closes another opens. And that's the case here. 

I feel a great deal freer in some respaspects. A burden has been lifted and I'm far freer to perhaps consider relocating for the right person. I almost can't wrap my head around this aspect since I've been playing a support role for so long. You get one life. You get one family. How much you value that is up to you. I'll just say I'm loyal. 

This was never my time table to set. It simply had to run its course. 

But to anyone reading this I suppose it may say something about my desire to put you first or my loyalty. Many times we are accused of putting kink first. But that's not the case with me. Do I want kink? Well. Of course! Honestly I want lifestyle which really isn't kink at all it's simply a new norm. 

Lets just say a burden has been lifted and I feel I can actually consider moving forward. 

Those that have cared for or lost a loved one will likely feel some empathy. 

Yet if anyone truly desired a locked male slave kneeling before them or standing at their side in life. To those that genuinely want that for whatever their reasons might be I'll just say that is now a great deal more likely. 

I see that someone is working on the web site again. Journals have been back. 

I'm loving the most recent change that seems to translates our interests into longer more deive phases as far as Likes and Loves and Interests Go. Along with the Lives for catagory. It's interesting to see old familier profiles in a new light.

I'd suggest everyone revisit their Interests section in their profile and start fine tuning what they want. It says quite a bit more and I'm seeing a lot of accuracy. It describes each of us and our wants and needs a little better. 

Everyones looking for that perfect partner or partners. Hopefully this helps. 

Love to all. 

Chastity. Why am I so in love with the idea of staying locked for someone that wants me locked? And why would anyone want to lock me? There's a lot of reasons. Some sexual. Others less so. 

Above all I wish to be kept. By someone thrilled to keep me. In time totally empowered to choose how long. I wish to please them in many ways and my goal which may run contrary to many thoughts is to actually earn the lock and not the key. In other words to do so well that in time my partner is only thinking about how they wish to enjoy tomorrow or next week or maybe the month after that. I'm not seeking release nearly as much as being kept. To me that's where the value lies. This idea of providing endless pleasure and hopefully the act of denial itself brings pleasure as only that can. 

I'm seeking intimacy and service. In both traditional and non traditional ways. By being denied small things become larger. A caress or touch becomes more meaningful. Time spent together is more focused and higher quality. In the long run there is more satisfaction to be found over a broader time frame. For me attending to someone's satisfaction and pleasure is simply a more soulful experiance and something I wish to explore far deeper. 

I've always enjoyed giving pleasure orally more than "Getting Off" myself. There's room for both but given a choice or preference I'd always much rather give than receive. There's many ways of giving pleasure and oral of course is only one of them. But the one thing Ive always wanted or hoped for was a oral centric relationship where I could just concentrate on giving pleasure. So in a way while this is definatly about sex it's also part of a larger picture that's hopefully about bliss for both. 

Service can be defined as filling the Tops desires. That can be anything domestic chores or pampering like running a perfect bath and attending to them to foot worship or BDSM activities like bondage or being a pain slut to cleaning the gutters or being a receptive anal target. Or whatever You desire. 

Chastity can be used as a tool to train or draw a sub closer. In time needs are anticipated ahead of time. Obedience is enhanced. The sub becomes a seamless extension of your desires. 

I'm not looking for conventional intercourse or my own orgasm. I wish in time to find greater gratification in this nebulous thing we will call service. 

In a way I'm looking for someone that's very special. Someone that sees the value in pleasure at their beck and call. Someone that's capable of seeing the value and worthy of receiving it. Someone that wishes to feel empowered to the point that if they desired they might just desire to keep me locked unconditionally so that they could receive my service and attention while enjoying it. 

Denial is not cruel. It's just another way of expressing desire and love. It's about wanting to unabashedly keep someone for themselves. Ideally that desire becomes truly endless. 

Thats what I'm seeking. Someone to welcome me and draw me close. 

If you read this far I thank you and perhaps you understand a bit more about me and what motivates me. Do You wish to draw someone so close that they become a part of you? Where throwing away the key makes the most sense? If so we might be right for each other. 

So. Journals are working again. Does anyone know if we can upload pictures without incurring a multi week time out for the approval period? At some point mine was deleted - not by me. And I'd like to update my profile. I don't think many actually read journal entries but if someone's recently updated and was approved on a timely basis I'd like to know. 

Are Journals really fixed? Can I update my woefully outdated profile or upload a pic without waiting 6 weeks for approval or being able to reply to messages? Maybe they will bring back the ability to add punctuation in iOS messaging. Or to send a picture with a message. Things that have been broken for years now. Rather than bitch about that I'll just say thanks for one small step on the path towards functionality.