Before you read any further please be aware that my biggest pet-peeve is when people will generalize all Dommes as Mistresses and refer to Us as such as a group. NOT Every Domme is a Mistress. Mistress is a title, and not one I am ever addressed by! If you email me and address me as such, I will not return that email. You will be placed on ignore.
What Im looking forI want someone who is addicted to me, lives to hear my commands, wants nothing more than to please me, and is happiest when they succeed in doing so.Must have good communication skills- This means some kind of contact every day, via phone, text, or in person. Emails do not count. Do not wait for me to contact you! This also includes, being able to talk openly about your feelings and your needs. Being able to be open and honest about these things, and not just telling me what you think I want to hear.
Having some of protocol training in the past, or natural slave tendencies is a plus. If you have good tea service skills, this is a bonus. Must enjoy foot worship. You should be clean shaven, and dress nice. Try to impress me. Looks do not matter as much as personality, devotion, and the emotional, mental and physical connection.
You must be at leastsemilocal. I am not into online relationships, they do nothingfor me. And you must be able to see me in person at least once a week.
About meI am a High Protocol, sadistic Lifestyle Domme. Come feel the bite of my kiss as I seductively twist you into submission.
I have been in the lifestyle for about seventeen years now. I am completely dominant and dont plan on changing anytime soon. When I first started in this lifestyle I spent some time researching and doing self-training. I have never been a submissive, nor do I believe it would benefit me to do so. I believe honesty comes first for any relationship. If you dont have open and complete honesty then how can you have trust?
I consider myself to be a Goddess. I am not one of those over the top jack asses that insist you address me as such, unless youre one of mine. But do NOT ever address me with a different title.
Titles are very important. I tend to be high protocol when in public, but very laid back when at home or just hanging out at a munch. There are many different titles for Dommes and submissives alike. Everyone chooses theirs to best suit them for different reasons. Some because they dont realize there are other titles, others because they feel that the title best represents them. I chose mine as Goddess because of my style of domination.
As a Goddess I take my role to my very soul. I know it is what I was meant to be. My submissives come first. I do everything in my power to assure their safety, and health. My purpose in their life is to help them become the best person they can be. I will guide them and help them in only a way I know how, to better oneself so they can become the best that they can in serving me and in every aspect of their life, this is my goal. But it has to be something you seek and desire most. I see this and understand it. It is not an easy task. This takes time and effort on both parts. At times becomes very difficult, but is the most rewarding experience when everyone puts in the effort to make it work. I am only one Goddess and do not control everyone or everything, only those that worship me, and I do not wish for EVERYONE to worship me. But when you do it has to be with your very soul. It is not a game or something I do for fun. It is my life and who I am.
I also picked my name in the same fashion. Knowing I wanted mine to address me as Goddess I researched different Goddesses to find which one best fit me. I just happen to embody Aphrodite, the Greek Goddess of Love.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask me, but please be respectful.
Goddess AK
Here is a video they should be showing kids of all ages in school every year so they get it from a young age and know better before they ever will use it.
What is with the overload of youngsters now in the lifestyle? And why is everyone all of a sudden kinky as if it's fashionable these days??? This mentality sickens me. Deep desires of many who have hidden them over the years for fear of being jailed or worse, being turned into a now fashion statement is just disgusting. Many kids coming in thinking it's all about fun and games, kinky sex, that's all their looking for. I read it over and over in emails and profiles. They have no clue how deep this lifestyle is and can be. They have no clue the time, commitment, training, emotions, heart and souls that have gone into creating safe places for those truly wanting to just live completely free from social stigmas and prosecutions; not just wanted but have fought for years to create safe places for our world and society.
Every time I see the children of our BDSM world make stupid comments about something they have really no clue or understanding for it makes my heart break and my blood boil. Fucking educate yourselves! Learn the old school values!
I have been searching through profiles lately, and I have come across some wonderful journals in the process. I wanted to let all these gentlemen know, to keep up the good work. Journals are like a window to your thoughts and feelings. They let us look at you more closely. And they help us when deciding, if we feel you would make a good fit. So, don't stop, don't give up hope, please remember there are some real Dommes out there keeping an eye on you.
~Ramblings from Goddess AK~
I want to be clear, this isn't directed at anyone! Just a few things I need to express
Look, play is all nice and enjoyable. I have fun. I get to beat some ass, and enjoy the high. But the comedown is horrible! I am left unsatisfied. I have been playing a lot lately, and although I do enjoy it, don't get me wrong, I just am left without that fulfilled feeling of satisfaction. To put it plainly, aftercare is suppose to go both ways!!! Just because I'm a Domme and I've topped you, doesn't mean that your job is done when I stopped playing with you. I make sure you're okay the next couple of days, and check on you. Or at least make sure you have someone there for you. What do you do for me once play is over???
Hello... it's called a power exchange! If I'm the one giving by topping you, what the hell are you giving back? Now granted, it isn't all your fault. I will except my part of the blame. I need to be more clear about this before I play with anyone from now on. If I am going to play with you, I am going to require things beforeand AFTER play... this means service of some sort. Fetching drinks, rubbing my feet, anticipating my needs. I check on you, but have you checked on me? Did you bring a gift of appreciation? Did you clean my toys that I was so kind enough to use on you? Did you make sure you pleased me in some way? Did you clean my pussy after you made it all wet from playing with you? SEX Damn it! No, I don't need it from everyone, but I do need it after play from SOMEONE.
Now looking for a sex slave to be on call every time I play.A Goddess Has NEEDS too!
Did you lick or kiss my feet showing how much you enjoyed what I did for you? No? Well shit, I was floating... it's called Domspace. But it doesn't end there! Just like subs, Dominants have incredible endorphin rushes as well. Your job as subs and bottoms is to make sure the Dominant doesn't CRASH! We do our best for you, why do less for us?
It's been awhile since I've had to negotiate these things... even with my experience there are things I will learn and have to relearn, like this. It didn't use to be so bad when I've done open play before, but it's been awhile since I've done this without having a main partner to take care of the after care.This isn't anyone's fault, and NO ONE is to blame! So, please do not take offense or think this about you it isn't. It's about ME! It's facts, plain and simple.
Yes, I get horny! I'm a woman. I have needs. I want sex, and I want it NOW!
Listen up boys. Don't email me telling me what you want to do for me. Email me what you have to offer. I'm not looking for money, or anything sexual. And if you didn't read my profile don't bother to email me.
Take a look deeper.
So many people complimenting me on my looks lately. I don't mean to come off conceited, but always telling me how hot or pretty I look just makes me think you are shallow and only looking to get me in bed or looking for something sexual. I know I am good looking. I rather be complimented on how smart I am, or how loving, caring and how sadistic I am over, how sexy I am all the time. I mean come on... I am sitting on the couch in my sweats without taking a shower with make up on and my hair a mess, and some one calls me on skype and makes a comment about how sexy I look. Really? Come on. At that point it just comes across as fake, ass kissing, trying to get a piece, a come on really. So, is that what most really care about? How your partner or the person you are with looks?
I rather be with someone who isn't good looking at all that is great at communication, showing affection, and is loyal to a fault before someone that is so hot that all they care about is looking in the mirror all the time and making sure the one they are with is just as hot or hotter.
There is more to me than my looks!
School has started back up and will not have any free time this semester to do anything. I have loaded myself down with a lot of heavy classes to get them out of the way. Econ 1 and Econ 2, Political Science, and Algebra. A lot of reading... a lot of studying. It helps that my doll comes to visit and helps keep things in order.
If any of you attend the Vacaville munch or the Suisun munch you will most likely run into me there.
On to bigger and better things.
I attended a job fair at the college the other day and was offered two jobs and a internship on the spot. Although I had to go out of town for a funeral this week, it has turned out to be a great week after all. I hope this is a sign that this year will be better than last year.
Yes I am a BBW. I have never denied this. If you DON'T like it, I DON'T Care. DON'T Email me your opinion!
I had an epiphany last week...
This happened to be news to me, but NOT to any of my close friends with whom I have discussed this with lately.
A couple of weeks ago my submissive that I am dating called me up to tell me he didn't think he could ever be poly.This made me think about why I am poly, and if I really am and in what way if I am.
For those that know me know that I have been poly for years, but what I hadn't considered was why I have been poly. So, I started to think about it, really think about it. I know I am bi-sexual. That isn't going to change. What I realized was that I have always been monogamous when I start to date someone. I may have had some open relationships, but for the most part I have never really had sexual relations out side of my main relationship.
I have owned many at a time, but really keep sexual contact down to one main person at a time. At least since I have been in the lifestyle. Of course before hand I had my wild 20's, but now I just stay faithful to the one I am with even if I own others at the time.
When I took the time to really think about why I state that I am poly and very clear to anyone I get involved with about this is because I am afraid of being hurt again. But that has never stopped it from happening, I still get hurt when ever one of my relationships end.
Being poly didn't keep me from being hurt, it only made me feel safe, thinking that I would have others to fall back on for comfort and the love I lost at the end of relationships. Talk about a big epiphany for me. Wow!
So it turns out I'm not really poly when it comes to my sexual relationships. However, after talking with my submissive about this, I decided I want to keep playing with others but keep sexual contact monogamous.
I am not saying at all that I don't love everyone that I have had relationships with in one way or another because I have greatly loved everyone that I have owned or been play partners with. I just realize that I am not really poly.
I am very lucky to have had some really great relationships over the years. I want to thank all my friends for being there and letting me discover this on my own. It was funny because all three of my close girl friends that I called and talked to this about this said the same thing.... "Yep" like it wasn't a surprise at all to them. lol I had to laugh at how long it has taken me to figure this out.
Poly by definition is just the capability of loving more than one person at a time, which I do. But.... My poly relationships are just that, Loving. I don't use poly for the sexual aspect that most do. And as we all know each relationship is different and defined by those involved.
So, yes I am poly. But not in a way people think poly to be.
I recently read this comment made by another Domme, and wholeheartedly agree with it!
"The primary requirement is that a submissive man makes no demands. No hints, no suggestions, no requests, nothing. He does not ask me for anything, not a reply, not an acknowledgement. He offers his sentiments freely and then backs off. He does not bombard me with messages. He is patient and accepts waiting. He appreciates what I give him and never whines. He graciously accepts my assessment if there is a lack of chemistry, and is not angered. He is respectful."
I have to add, that with this comes the mutual respect from the Domme. If I reply then I will wait for a reply in return. It is rare to find such a gentleman in submissives today. I wish there were more that acted like this. *sigh* Oh, well. If you boys want to find the right Domme you would fallow these requirements.
I am lucky to have found two wonderful submissives. And though I am keeping an eye out for maybe another I am happy right now with the two I have.
Sometimes the sky opens up and lets the sun shine through.
I love spring and summer when the sun comes out to play and allows you to do the same.
What a wonderful birthday I have had this year. Thank you to all the special people that made it so much fun and just going that little extra mile to make my special day just that, special!
I hope everyone is as lucky as I am to have met such wonderful people in this lifestyle that makes you feel as happy as I am.
My world begins and ends with me. If you are lucky to become apart of it, you should treasure the time and space you share with me .
You will have the choice to leave at your own free will. I do not want anyone that doesn't want to stay.
My world will not end because you want to leave. It is just beginning.
