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Female Submissive, 39, cedar rapids, Iowa
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About WyldePixie
Hmmm okay where to start? First I'd like to thank everyone who sent me a message. Due to sheer volume I can't answer every single one. Perhaps when it's not so new they will slow down and I will be able to share emails with a few of you. To your questions (these were asked by multiple people) I'll try and answer them here. I live in Ohio about an hour north of Columbus. Sexually, almost all of my experiences were with me as top though lately I've been exploring my more submissive side. Honestly I don't submit easily or well at this point and tend to take over control if the Dom is weak. I don't really do this on purpose but nevertheless it happens. Outside of the bedroom I don't practice bdsm and probably never will. In a relationship I look for an equal partner to share my life. Either extreme ends up boring or annoying me. I don't want someone telling me what to do every second nor do I want to have every question I ask answered by "Whatever pleases you mistress." I'm currently in a long term relationship and not looking for anything serious, merely talking to people who share my interests. Feel free to email me if you like but at this time I'm not really replying. I am not looking to relocate or to be someone's slave and emails of that nature are automatically deleted without me even finishing reading them. I'd like to say a Thank You to everyone for the sweet compliments and the time they took to message me. If I get a bunch more questions I'll probably answer them here until the emails slow down. Sorry. |
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Okay in the interest of public service I am going to post these suggested guidelines for sending a good email to someone on this sort of chat.
1st: Whatever you do please don't ask someone to be your submissive or Dominant in a first email. You CANNOT possibly be ready to collar or be collared from one email. You don't know the other person at all and it just makes you appear desperate or fake.
2nd: Put some thought into what you write. If it's generic the other person is gonna know. Messages that are one line such as "Hi, just wanted to say hi." and "you are gorgeous please write back" do not in any way make the other person want to reply.
3rd: Be sincere. If you send the same exact message to everyone it shows. Perhaps add in something about their likes or opinions as shown in their profile. Instead of just you are pretty perhaps something more specific to show what you like about their picture.
4th: Ask questions. The best way to get to know someone is to ask them. Most people enjoy talking about their interests and hobbies.
5th: When getting to know someone sex shouldn't be the first thought. Exchange ideas about hobbies, religion, politics, or even jokes. A D/s relationship is about trust and you have to get to know someone to trust them. And while sexual preferences are important they are not the only thing involved in a relationship.
6th: While short isn't good, neither is sending a book. Halfway through the reader loses attention. Try and find a good balance.
7th: Be original. After awhile most of the messages sound the same. If you want someone to reply and remember you something about your email needs to grab their attention. Add a funny quote, tell a little story, or put in a joke.
8th: Be yourself. If you actually want a relationship, either long term or for play, be honest about what you want. Don't just try and make your interests match theirs because it will become painfully obvious that your experience and tastes don't match up in person.
And that is the end of my suggestions for now. Take them or leave them at will.
~Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.~
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