i am a married submissive woman that is happy with life and with who she is. Mot only am i happy with who i am, my Dominant/Husband is also happy with who i am.

A friend of mine (for over 20 years i have known him) says that i should put more to my profile. Why?? i asked myself, then just decided to do it. i am not here to find someone to fill in the lulls that occur in life. i am here to learn more about myself and others that enjoy the same things that i do and maybe find out that i enjoy something else as well. So below is some of what i have learned so far but it does give a better idea of who i am.

Lessons Learned

Well, I've been exploring 'the lifestyle' now for over twenty years. What a journey it has been. I've learned a lot about myself as well as about
men, what it means to just submit as well as the difference in it being a matter of who I truly am. This is not a kink for me, not a sexual endeavor to be played with. Here's what I've discovered so far, NOT in any particular order of importance.

1. If you don't talk about what turns you on/off, your partner

probably won't figure it out.

2. Anticipation is a good thing.

3. If you can't fuck my mind first, my body won't respond.

4. I can have an orgasm from a kiss.

5. I love to be restrained.

6. and blindfolded

7. and spanked playfully

8. and teased.

9. I take punishment very seriously.

10. Punishment should never NOT be discussed at some point.

11. Before

12. During

13. SOON After.

14. My body is conducive to fisting and I want to try again.

15. Spanking is an art and some people don't know what they are doing.

16. Wooden paddles hurt.

17. I bruise fairly easily.

18. Explaining those bruises to medical professionals can be difficult at best.

19. A sub should run from any man that talks about collaring in the first meeting.

20. I can get enamoured in a first meeting

21. but my common sense kicks in.

22. I love to have my nipples pinched and rolled

23. They are very responsive and sensitive.

24. A Dom that expects me to play/fuck him in a first meeting will be sorely disappointed.

25. Not too sensitive for clamps.

26. A Dom that expects me to play/fuck him in a first meeting will be sorely disappointed. (YES it is listed twice)

27. I enjoy going panty-less.

28. I enjoy wearing them as well, just to feel how wet He can make me.

29. I enjoy being told to slide them to the side for easy access.

30. I never wear panyhose.

31. Garter belts make me feel like a goddess.

32. Stockings that are too tight at the top make me self-conscious (big thighs).

33. I love to be fucked wearing the garter belt and stockings with or without heels.

34. I love that moment when the tip of the cock touches me (anywhere).

35. There is a reason for safewords and if a Dom doesn't want to address it I walk the other way.

36. If a Dom says "we'll see" in response to discussing soft/hard limits, that is NOT an acceptable answer.

37. I want to be challenged and pushed beyond what my comfort zone is - when the time and the relationship is right.

38. That does not mean one day I'll want to be fucked by an animal. EVER.

39. What the hell is the fascination with some Doms and large dogs?

40. Some Doms just want to hear limits and will immediately try to push them.

41. They are not real Doms.

42. I still do not understand breast bondage when they get purple and distended.

43. I thought about asking my doctor about how breast bondage would affect them.

44. But I decided against it.

45. I am told frequently that I am beautiful.

46. I do not believe them.

47. Sometimes I wonder if they are saying it because they think I am needy for it.

48. Othertimes, I wonder if they say it to get a blow job.

49. I love giving head.

50. Almost always.

51. It should be appreciated so I can please my partner better.

52. Sometimes it is about the power of giving the pleasure.

53. I am really good at it.

54. Othertimes, it's about giving pure pleasure for pleasure's sake.

55. I do NOT enjoy when a guy grabs my head, forcing it down during a blowjob.

56. It makes me gag.

57. And I can't breathe.

58. I love swallowing.

59. I've never not orgasmed during sex.

60. I have had multiple orgasms several hundred times.

61. I believe in female ejaculation 'squirting'.

62. Relaxation and trust help it to occur.

63. I have learned to appreciate alternative uses for clothespins.

64. Now I look at most items differently too.

65. I now have no concerns about losing my own identity when submitting.

66. I have a true deep desire to be submissive outside of the sexual context.

67. A Dom that wants to try to 'break' me of my strengths doesn't know what he's doing.

68. I have been told a lot that I would be a great Domme.

69. I have ZERO desire to be one.

70. I belive in Donna Reed

71. I'm too much of a "Domme" at work and with kids to do it all the time.

72. I enjoyed kissing one girl.

73. I have kissed two.

74. I did not enjoy my one and only sexual experience with a female.

75. I am curious to try again but with thought and discussion with my Dominant.

76. I am more comfortable with my body now. However there still are issues.

77. I still have moments when I feel very self-conscious.

78. I utterly hate my thighs and arms.

79. And the scar from my surgery and having a baby over my lower tummy.

80. I'm sometimes wish I could get that fixed.

81. "Dominant" men are constantly vying for my attention.

82. Until most realize that I am an intelligent woman, not a doormat

83. Caging, latex, and slave auctions are comical to me.

84. Most of the fetishwear I see appears hokey.

85. I should sew my own fashions.

86. I do like corsets and wear them for my own pleasure at times.

87. I am insatiable.

88. I have fantasies.

89. But some fantasies are better left that way.

90. I am no longer a jealous person.

91. Jealousy is very ugly.

92. Looks are only skin deep.

93. I cannot change who I am.

94. I can change my behavior.

95. I am a playful person.

96. I still love blowing bubbles.

97. My legs look good in heels.

98. I enjoy wearing heels.

99. Aging has its up side.

100. Water is wonderful for the body.

101. I think mean people suck.

102. I am enjoying my journey, the learning.

103. I learn more every day in my thought process.