Day 2 of 3 at NWLC in San Jose CA! What a wonderful and welcoming community. Lot's of eye candy, I mean Leather! Rawrrrr!

Why is it I am having all sorts of problems on this site and the other similar site I do not have any problems at all! Got a simple nice message from this Dom earlier. I responded with a Thank You! He sent me his YM ID and well I added him. Not even 2 seconds into the YM he asks if he can call me? What the....! After brief thinking of how nicely i can decline I said, perhaps another time, I don't know you. He kept insisting and made it a point to tell me that I will like his voice. During the all be it brief conversation with him, his sentences were structured like he was from a different country and his spelling lacked in a few words. He was wanting to video talk with me but I declined again and said perhaps another time. He then wished me well and said he would not bother me again. Why are some Doms in such a hurry to get to know someone? I fail to see the need to jump from exchanging one message online to talking on the phone. I detest the phone and though i do own a cell phone i say what i have to say then hang up. Not one to spend hours trying to get to know someone on the phone. For me it's better online and then AFTER we are comfortable with each other, and are both in agreeance progress from there.

Started off on the wrong foot, kinda a few days ago with this Dom who's profile says he lives in the UK, but surprise, he tells me he put that there so his employer cannot know when he is online. He addresses me as his sex toy, his sub. Errrrrr, No! But when he first contacted me well I just wanted to turn and run due to the handle he chose. It was something like ObeyMeSlut. Names like that are very intimidating to me, a huge turn off and pretty much tells me that the person behind that name maybe someone I might not want to know or get to know. I confronted him on the name and he said his ex picked it out and it stuck! Well we talked a bit, went into chat and he kept referring to wanting to meet so I can enjoy his black cock. After a few minutes of these revolting comments from him I wished him well and left. Differences make the world go round and people choosing names to post on CM is all good but when i see names like seeklowlifesow, Iwillhurtyou, makes me wonder how safe these people actually are and makes me just not want to bother at all to get to know them, and it's a turn off as well. Take the time to pick a name that will attract those you seek to you, a name like ObeyMeSlut, won't attract me. Also a few more things. I may be submissive but I am not yours. Don't be in such a hurry, get to know me. Trust takes time to build. Quality and safety is important to me. Final thought and this is important...I DO NOT NOR WILL I EVER CAM, don't ask!!!

I've come to a conclusion! After doing a bit of an experimentation for a Dom, and experiencing all sorts of health problems from it, that, incontinent products ie diapers are meant for those who have/are experiencing actual incontinent issues! Nuff said!

Taking a break from Collarme. I've wiped out my text profile. I am tired of the "hey baby" approaches, and the "I'm Horny" approaches.

Recently was having a nice conversation with someone who lives in England temporaily. He kept wanting to have me for himself. I sent him pictures of me, no further contact. I finally wrote him and said that if he was turned off by the way I look he should have said so, that is what an adult would do. I wished him well. His reponse to me was simple and he said Thank You and Good Luck! Funny how all was well until he saw pictures. It said in my profile that I am a BBW, another words I am fat!

Will be on CM every now and then to chat with friends and check my email! If it wasn't for friends I have made here, I'd close this account and never return!

I consider myself a very approachable person! But here on CM I am being stalked. I've blocked this so called DOM but somehow he is still able to view my profile. Listen bub and you know who you are, stop what you are doing. It won't change things in the direction you are delusioned for. This Dom proclaims to have years of experience. We've played remember, if you want to call it that. His profile says LA but he lives in Alameda CA. His many lines to me on the phone was...with your brains and the investors I have lined up for property investment, we can live off of that. What a scammer. I stupidly brought him into my local group, but guess what. He is on thin ice there due to 2 other members who recognized him that he wronged and tried to scam too! He's tolerated in many groups in California mainly the San Francisco area plus some east of there. He spends his week going from munch to munch to munch. He is even infiltrating into area spanking groups. It's enough I have to see you at parties, stop stalking me, plain as day!

I enjoy reading profile and some journals. In general I am not much of a reader. Recently On the home page here I was reading someone journal in that this Dom was saying that he will be never a second Master to any sub. A Master though can have multiple subs. He said he can see in so many ways that the 2 Doms can be contradictory. Hmmm well very well so but if caution is taken in selection, a sub wearing a dual collar, it can and does work. I at one time was collared to 2 Masters. I lived with one and still do for a time to be yet determined as I will be moving out and moving on with my life, and my other then Master lived 3 hours away.
Neither interferred with each other. They both had met each other on several occasions. Both never contradicted what the other said.

I am no longer collared to 2 Masters. The Master who lived 3 hours away retired into the mountains and knew I could not follow. We talk every now and again.

A sub wearing dual collars does work. However I can see that it is not for everyone!

After having serious phone trouble, and reflecting from the Dom in Idaho, I made a decision to wish him well. What he wanted, and how he wanted to keep me just did not make me comfortable. He seemed so closed minded in so many ways and it was because of previous relationships he had had and that was being passed onto me.

His response to me was that I was a typical californian---what in holy tarnations is a typical californian? Then he did something I did not expect--he turned off his profile! Well alrighty then! Surprised me that's for sure! Hope he finds her, she is out there!

What an exciting few days. I'm talking with a Dom from Idaho. We have similar interests. Yesterday we both blew up at each other (awww our first fight), but we made up and it was sweet. We talk a lot about the dual Collar i seek. He is interested. We are taking the steps to meet each other. As to when that will happen, meeting each other, that is unsure, but we both know it's inevitable!

02/16/2012---If all you want to talk to me about is sex, then please do not bother. If the majority of your conversation to me is going to be about sex, please do not bother. If when I ask "How are you?" and you respond "Horny!" Know that you have just nauseated me and that we basically have nothing in common. Don't get me wrong, sex is fantastic, but there is more to Life than sex. I don't need it all the time, nor do I think about it 24/7, nor am I a nymphomaniac. I'm not anyone's sex slave either, nor will I be.

01/23/2012-----Making this entry to be clear. I do not cam. Do not ask me. If you need proof as to who I am I will gladly send you pictures of me, of fetish nature, clothed.

I was talking to a Dom today from out of the country who had rules to chat. After we got past that, he asked me a lot of questions. He kept asking me to cam. I made it quite clear over and over again that I do not and will not CAM.

His response was that of which he felt i was close minded and he wished me well.

Why don't I cam? Because I find that the majority want me to watch them jerk off. Want me to see them with a hard on. Such a turn off as is receiving a nude pic from someone with a greeting of Would love to see that huge pussy of your. GAG, what a huge turn off. Makes me so nauseated.

What ever happened to Hello how are you?

10/12/11  This is heavy on my mind---yes that is a song. So i get this awesome message from a Dom. WOW, he blew me away. I responded. We exchange several messages here and then go further and chat offsite. Things are going well. He is even being inclined to come to meet me. WOW. We exchange pictures. He is drop dead Handsome. He says that i am a beautiful. Nice. As we are sharing info about each other opps i touched a nerve. I was talking in general and ohh my his attitude, and thats putting it mildly. I apologized and it gets worse. He pretty much accused me of trying to control his emotions. He added that he will never give me that control to do so. After discussing this we went on in discussing more info about each other. We talk about the lifestyle. BTW we talked about the lifestyle early in our conversation and he said he could count on one hand the true Doms he has met in the past 25 years. He pretty much said everyone else who say they are Doms are trash, liars. So it is later in the conversation after his little attitude tantrum and we are talking again about the lifesatyle. He is rambling on about different aspects then at the end he adds, You are collared, have a Master, I maybe wasting your time. i figured now is as good a time to say this....i let him know my love for my Master and that i would never leave him. At best i would visit him and he would visit me. I added that if we part today i wish him the best. I further added that i am saying this so he knows i am realistic and can move on if need be. Here we go again. He immediately responded that i do not understand do i? Some of his words are all in CAPS. He further responds that i do not have ANY control over what he will or will not do. Again he added that he will never give me that control. What the heck? Controlling him never entered my mind. And beside errrr me sub, He Dom. His next response had me seeing Red and not in a good way. He starts talking about Poly relationships and that those who partake in them are no good and why am i talking to him since i am collared and also if my needs are being met? He then goes on to say that all those who are POLY ARE WHORES! Excuse my language but WTF! That hit a big nerve. I sat there stunned. After a few seconds i said Are you calling me a whore? Well, he said, if the shoe fits! Then I let him have it. I should have said more but kept it simple. I address him as sweetie pie and that the gloves were off and added that he is self centered, selfish, judgemental to name a few. I then said for him not to call me as what we had talked about earlier, not to answer this and not to contact me on CM. I then blocked him from where we were chatting offsite. I deleted his number from my phone. I seem to attract these ego type Doms. I do not think I have a sign saying Hey Ego come here.

Yayyyyy going to Folsom Fringe and Folsom Street Fair!

I was in heaven. A Dom whom i had barely contact with a month or so back contacted me last week. We started talking more and more. As time went on though he was giving mixed messages, and information about himself that was raising a red flag to me about him. i kept saying to myself, it will be alright meet him, you can do this, just meet him. Today after what started to be an interesting talk and turned into but you should be this to me and you should be that to me right now, i wished him well.

I asked questions because i wanted to know, his response at one time was boy you ask a lot of questions for a sub. We talked about many different things, he is funny though, had me laughing more times than he thought.

What were the red flags? Financial Domination. telling me that having limits will cost me. Asking me if i have fond memories of having parts of my nipples torn off from nipple clamps being yanked off. i should be aroused as we are getting to know each other. I took the time to go back time and time again to his profile, studying it so that I could get a feel of what he is about and so forth, yet today he said to me that he has not seen my profile much, does not know much of me. I offered to email him my limits. It's a compilation of HARD, and so forth. Says a lot about me, the submissive. He pretty much said that was not necessary at all and if he thought it was he'd ask for it at a later time.

I hope he reads this. M , first letter of his CM handle i felt we had a connection but the way you spoke that you Dominate i've never experienced and i know would not work.

There is someone out there for you! If you want say hi from time to time!

I am posting this because of a recent occurance with a Dom who resides back east according to his profile. We were having a nice chat, when he asked me if I have a cam. My response was no, and that i do not cam. Poof he was gone. Today i go and check an email he left me a few days back only to see CM has posted a warning to me about him that he has exceded SPAM allowances. Ohhhhh, Shoot, What The Heck! I was going to email him letting him know of his immaturity of leaving because I don't cam. To all who want to exchange messages or chat etc......I DO NOT NOR WILL I EVER CAM! Get over it. If that is a deal breaker, sorry! If you need proof that I am real I am more than happy to send you tasteful (vanilla) picture (s) of me! I won't post pictures here!

 I usually don't react to others profiles nor requests but this one really got to me. He post about wanting a pig as a submissive. He mentions she must be fat and feel insecure about it. He will not help her feel secure but rather break her down to more insecurity, take her to the depths of hell. He mentions that he will publically humiliate her about her weight and will dress her in clothing that does not suit her weight. It goes on. OMG---WTF? I sure do hope no submissive wants this! I'm really sick about this. I read another profile that A Dom will not hesitate to spank his submissive in public. Man o man if a Dom ever did that to me, First that is non consentual, Second we'd be done--he'd never touch me again, and Third I'd have him up on charges.