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Must be present to win!!!

I am a natural Dominant female seeking what we all want...someone to share with. I am no longer seeking some long term or live in relationship because it no longer seems like it even exists. I do not fit into some mold of a mean spirited Domme so do not try to put in in one nor judge me because I am not a certain type. I am a real person first and foremost. I am not into games, roleplaying or those out to just get a little action. I have been blessed enough to make good friends all around the country but want someone local at this time. I belong to a few local groups and want someone that is real enough to join as well. I am not looking for someone to cuckold, support me, make tributes to me or any game players. I am secure in myself and still live in the real world. I have a family, a home, a car and a job....please have those things too. It is not all about sex for those of you that do not already know that. Take the time to get to know me and I will do the same for you. I am not going to simply meet someone and use them right then and there. I am more responsible than that. So if you are seeking someone who is caring, open minded, resonable, responsible, sane and knows the rules of engagement then feel free to contact me. If not please do not waste my time nor yours.

10/25/2009 8:18:25 PM
I'm back!!!!!
10/20/2008 7:30:45 PM
They say the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again expecting a different result...if that is true, then I must be at least halfway crazy by now.


Does it really seem that we all do the same thing?  Look at a profile, chat a bit, never really meet, sometimes chat with someone we really click with and make a good friend and sometimes just find others whom frustrate and annoying us? 


It seems that no matter what side of the fence one is one, we all get our roses with thorns, weeds and a few morning glories that delight in the sight of day.


Oh does this jaded woman ever hope to find what she really thinks she is looking for, most likely not...friends may have to do, some vanilla thrown in so as not to become to awfully bored with life.  And a party here and there.


I am neither broken hearted nor hurt, I am neither vengful or vindictive, I am also neither kind nor cruel, I am simply like everyone else out there....seeking to become whole.


Some will read this and say "Yes, I understand, I am there, have been there and know what she says is truthful", others will read it and say "how can that be?  is there no hope or is something so wrong with her that no one will accept an offer?", and yet some will simply look and be unable to see that they too are headed in the same direction.


Hope is not lost...sometimes we accept our lot and life goes on.  It does not mean something is wrong with us, the world, this or any other site.  It simply means sometimes that life gets in the way.  And we are left asking ourselves "Is this all just some fantasy?".
7/23/2008 9:56:37 AM

If one keeps doing what they are doing, they will keep getting what they have been getting, which is usually not a lot

7/5/2008 10:22:53 AM
So many years, so many meets, so many let downs and yet I remain pleased with who I am and have become.  I suppose deep down one knows it is not about the destination but the journey.  And I can never regret the journey because after all it is where one learns lessons and grows.  Thank goodness for change.
6/14/2008 11:07:00 AM
It is good to be home again.  Although a short trip it felt like a long one.  Well much to do and none to meet so better get back to keeping myself busy again....Be Well my friends
6/10/2008 8:43:06 AM
Off to out of town again but no worries I will return shortly.  Summer is here and it is time to be out and about....Be Well A/all
5/23/2008 11:45:15 AM
Ah...new day, new time, new mind.  What more can you ask for? 
4/6/2008 11:15:44 AM
Ahh Spring Break was just what I needed.  Thanks pup for showing me a good time like you always do.  Ever the good boy you are.  I am sure you made them all proud. See you soon.....remember
3/16/2008 10:28:10 AM

Well I am off for Spring Break and headed home.  I know this week will bring great adventure in My life.  Seeing old friends does that.  I want to thank all the good boys that have contacted Me since My return, very flattering.  I must say now however that I have an age limit and a distance limit.  If I am old enough to be your mother or your aunt then please do not waste your time or Mine.  If you live more than 5 or 6 hours aways from me, well it might also be a waste of time.  No one far away has ever worked out....a distance issue so i am told.  Be well E/everyone and enjoy Spring Break...  Until Again

3/9/2008 10:43:20 AM
All work and no play,
makes sometimes,
for a bad Domme day.....

It has been good to hear from some of my old friends.  Seems W/we are A/all still seeking what W/we need in life.

Funny between work, chores and the ho hum of everyday that adventure is still sought.  A connection of some kind. 

No matter the players, the friends, those who are real and too far away, W/we are all kindred spirits of a type. 

The necessity of life and longing both is substaning and torturous for A/all parties involved.

Real Dominants get lonely too and it is not always about play....sometimes it is just about not being so isolated in the world. 

After all it is not like W/we can just go out dressed up and be who W/we are in private that W/we hide in public.

Maybe someday, in some place it will happen....until then I suppose W/we must simply stick together.

Like cavemen huffled together in the snow for warmth.

thank goodness I have My club here (lol)
3/3/2008 7:16:15 PM
removing this message... but it suited me at the time



Time for a change......

Yes, I am still a naturally Dominant female although I am not seeking at this time.  I am taking a small break until I get moved. 

I have met many submissives on this site.  Not all were meant for me by any means, but I have met and made friends with quite a few real people.  To those of you who are I salute you.

I am a real person, with real values and morals.  I am old school to the heart and believe that a life in this lifestyle can be made with a partner that is just as true.  But let's face it, that is hard to find here or anywhere.  And good things often take time.

I have been asked to turn my back on all, to leave and not look back, but can I deny myself and live a lie....I think not!  I am true to myself above all else.  You may not like it or me.  It simply means that I am not for you. 

And for those I have found that were perfect (you know who you are), I understand that time and distance sometimes interfere with our hopes and dreams.  No one is faulted here, it is just the way life works out sometimes.  You are my boys, the ones I love and adore, who tend to me and pamper me, who are there when I need someone and keep me from feeling as lonely as I am, I send all kisses and pets your way.  You are my hopes and dreams that one day I will have one of you or one as good as you to have for my own.

I still hope one day to find my other half, someone who believes in the principles of honesty, communication and trust, mixed with some sane, safe and consensual pleasures.

Smiles to all......Life is an adventure, live it!!

3/3/2008 7:14:41 PM
Went missing for a bit  because life just sometimes happens....
2/18/2007 8:00:44 AM
Well the major holidays have passed and I was on a long retreat.  Time alone can serve a worthy purpose.  I have finally become settled in my new home and feel that I can relax from all the chaos that comes from moving.  I am well and have met a few friends since coming here and they are all very nice people.  Thank you all for your welcomes and invites.  I hope to be out more soon, time willing and permiting, chuckles.  I have missed my friends so much.... but as it is, I did not have to be sick to get better, just needed some time to adjust and get my family settled.  Kisses to A/all....My love
11/21/2006 6:20:47 AM
Happy Thanksgiving to A/all.  I know it has been sometime since I have written, real has a way of doing that.  I am currently happy and content and hope that you all find the same in your lives.  I wish to send out a special thanks to all that have been here for me and those who remain although changes have happened in my life.  My your lives by filled with the pleasure you seek.....
8/17/2006 1:56:13 AM
I have been gone awhile, finding that real life has so much more to offer, not that I have not met real before, sometimes things just seem to fall into place, and with still getting settled and all, well what can anyone expect.... best wishes to A/all
7/19/2006 8:23:46 AM
I am not seeking at this time...it may be hard to understand this but I have had my fill.  Better to stick with what I can find as real.  No fantasy, no online playing, I want real.  If it means to vanilla date and hope for kink, so be it.  If it means I am left with no other then myself, then so be it as well.  Remember .... One must be present to win
6/27/2006 5:45:28 PM
...Sometimes things just seem right...
6/2/2006 8:36:49 AM
Well I made it to San Antonio....seems like a lovely city.  There have already been some disappointments and some surprises.  Life, such an adventure.   Now to just get my ducks in a row and settle in a bit, get comfortable, and see what this city has to offer a Lady like myself.....oh the impending excitment
5/26/2006 6:14:09 PM

the time has come...the truck will be here tommorow and I will be on my way to a new area.  After 14 years in the same place it is hard to believe that I am even going.  I am very excited to be meeting new people and friends I have known online for sometime.  And might I add what a good thing it is to have boys ready to assist.  Helping with the packing, the moving and unloaded.  What a blessed woman I must be to know some boy some where will attend to me.....

5/17/2006 2:48:22 PM
...Well in 2 weeks I will be in my new home.  I am looking forward to the change in scenery yet leaving behind some very special people.  I hope to stay in touch as I start off on htis new road in a new area.  Well wishes to all..SA here I come!!
4/13/2006 9:44:05 PM
how can it be that no matter how good it feels, how good it seems, and how much one may care, in the end you still come up empty handed?
4/9/2006 6:50:21 AM
excitment can be a waste of engery, passion can be the love of life, finding both at the same time could be heaven.....
3/27/2006 7:08:42 AM
boys. boys, boys and a few girls it seems, so many are so delightful, shame how real life jumps up in one's face...it is best to enjoy the garden and not fret the snow
2/7/2006 10:41:52 AM
Why believe...It will be the same as last time.  I will work with a sub and think I am forming something, a bond and commitment.  They will have second thoughts and disappear, for god knows how long, until they can deny themself no more, and then come back again, usually with a poor excuse for their actions instead of the truth.  I ask Sisters amd Brothers, "Should I ride the merry go round some more?"  I can be a friend, I can advise , but unless one is right here in front of me my heart can not stand to believe.....
2/7/2006 9:44:54 AM

I am taken back by the actions of some, and left still wanting and hoping.  Thinking I had found my one and only, just to be slapped in the face with insults.  Apparently this is a game to many, it is just not one to me.  And still I await...........longing

1/17/2006 12:38:48 PM
... spare my just three last words, "I love you" is all she heard, I'll wait for you, but I can't forever..... my final breath is gone... Hawthron Hieghts "Ohio is for Lovers"
1/13/2006 3:24:08 PM
it seems that we do not all get what we want when we want it, but do we get what we need in time?
1/8/2006 5:13:24 PM
longing counts for something.....
1/5/2006 10:24:29 AM
be strong, be true, be real, and you might get your hearts desire.....
12/21/2005 7:57:28 AM

My heart has searched long and hard for the one that is the missing piece in my life, one who willingly gives himeself over, one who does not fear me, one who is not a slave to his job, family or wife, one who sees past himself and can only see me, one who does not try to lead but follows, one who is true to himself so that he can be truer to me, one that accepts himself and me unconditionally, one who sees me for myself as I see him for himself, one who's heart beats along to the sound of my own, one that seeks more than the superficial because he dedicates his life to his Owner, one who takes away the pains of the soul because he brings so much joy and need, a need that can only be filled by me, one who loves with his heart and soul because he knows no other way, one who comes and knows his Owner brings all of that he will ever need or desire, one who gives freely without coersion or force, one who does not need chasing but kneels quietly and waits to be called, one that sees his own worth and value means something to me....good things take time, great things happen all at once...my once in a lifetime has come and I shall not pass it by....

12/15/2005 2:19:30 PM
...to be a rose in the garden of life, you must remember not to allow anyone to pull off your petals and leave you a stem....
11/24/2005 10:24:51 AM
"it is the wonder of the world that sometimes escapes us, with out control, one truely has nothing...."
11/18/2005 7:47:42 PM

... "I do not mean to reproach you.  You are undoubtedly a divine woman, but above all you are a woman and, like every memeber of your sex, cruel in matters of love."

"What you call cruelty," the goddess of Love retorted, "is the very substance of sensual and natural love.  It is woman's true nature to give herself wherever she loves and to love whatever pleases her."...

"Venus in Furs" by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch

11/15/2005 10:52:07 AM
How can it be that out of so many, only a few exist?  How can it be that with some so close, they are so far away?  How can it be that when the heart and soul cry out in pain and need, no one is there to answer?  How can it be that one so true can not find truth?  How can it be that when your eyes are wide open, you still can not see?  How can it be that when you think you have found, you feel nothing but disbelief?  How can it be...... so simple?
11/6/2005 4:24:19 PM
One does not need to be sick to get better....
11/2/2005 3:35:16 PM

Question:  What does one look for in a slave?
A) obedience, B) submissivness, C) no limits, D) a willingness to please, E)  all of the above, Answer: E, a slave can be anything one wants. 

10/30/2005 9:29:23 PM
abc's of the lifestyle:  A for ass licking and sucking, B for ball stretching, C for cock and ball torture, D for Domination, E for erotic and erection, F for face slapping and sitting, G for gags, H for humliation, I for I am the Mistress in control or isolation, J for jack off, K for kicking, L for licking, M for masochist, N for nut crusher, O for oral service on demand,  P for piercings, Q for quiet for the Queen, R for racks, S for Sadist, T for torture, U for uniform for slave naked and in cuffs, V for vaginal clean up, W for whipping, X for X the cross , Y for yes Ma'am, Z for zipper of clothes pins, Now repeat your abc's do so each and everyday!!
10/29/2005 7:19:51 AM
"No well behaved woman ever made history", and I bet the well behaved did not have any fun either. One never knows what might become of a thing.......
10/20/2005 9:32:14 AM
It has come to my attention that many on this site do not find me to be a Mistress at all, because I do not fit into the square hole in their minds eye, and in a way they are right, I am really a Sadist so no rules that govern Mistresses will apply to me, I am my own person and will act as such.  Onlt those with a masochistic streak even need to approach me, All others will be shunned!
10/11/2005 4:37:18 PM
You try to be nice and make friends, and what happens someone accuses you of being soft or crazy. Suppose no good intention goes unpunished, lol. I will say however to you I am getting to know better each day, that I would not have stayed on this site so long if not for you!! I really have met some wonderful people which far out way any negativity I have run across. Thanks to those who hold true to the lifestyle and can see the bigger picture.. Hugs to all!!
9/22/2005 6:53:18 PM
Seems that I have met some nice people on here and I am looking at making one of them mine.  Of course one can never tell where a thing might lead...
Hopefully my search will come to an end in the near future.  I don't want to speak before it is time but each day I feel that I become closer to making a decision.  I would like to have done so by Oct. 31st.  But then again I could just be gettting my hopes up and fooling myself....
Sometimes you have to take a chance and beleive in another.  It is how trust is built.  I have been fortunate not to grow bitter on here and to keep up the realization that relationships are not built over night but take time, care and understanding, all of which I hope to offer my potential submissive....
8/18/2005 9:42:16 AM
Oh I so need a slut.... but more than that, I need a submissive male between the ages of 30 and 50 and willing to  work within my limits which are no children, animals or scat, all else is open at my disgression.  Must be seriously seeking a long term relationship (this means complete ownership for a lifetime), I am not interested in doing online training although I am happy to get to know those who may seek the same as I do.  I take my search seriously and expect that you do the same when addressing me.  I do not need any playmates, playthings or toys at this time and will not consider you if you are such.  I am not looking to import and travel outside of the country to meet anyone.  I do not need any who are currently married (slave already) or are chained down by any other aspect of their vanilla life.  If you are not flexible enough to discuss openly any issues that arise then you probably should not even contact me.  If you are a Dom and wish for friendship fine, but I am not a switch and do not look to be topped, if you do so you will find me rude and insolent.  I have changed this entry in hopes of clearing up some questions that some may have and to ward off others that are just not what I am seeking.  All forms or slaves and submissive who fall into the general framework of what I am seeking then you are welcomed to contact me via email.
8/15/2005 6:48:31 PM

Well this has been an experience in itself!  Thank you for your emails and the warm welcome to collarme.  I have met many good people and have enjoyed myself.  Warm hugs and kisses to all.  Until then....

7/8/2005 7:29:35 PM
I am not a toy!  Do not try to treat me as such!  Do not gratifiy yourself at my expense!  If you are applying for a position with me take it seriously, you will be judged by your words and actions!  It is a shame that out of hundreds of sluts out there that I can't find but a handfull of good Bitches!  If you do not know the difference then I will enlighten you! A slut will do anything to get what he wants, while a Bitch will do anything to please me!  Do not speak filth to me either!  I do not need to hear or know your dirty thoughts!  My thoughts, my desires, my wants are all that matter, NOT YOURS!  Be gentleman, how could you expect to find a Mistress if you can't even hold your toungue!  Most of you are slaves to your own desires and lust, how can you serve another when you only serve yourself?  I realize that most of you see that you are showing your willjingness to please, but all you are showing is how big a slut you are and that you would slut to anyone that would listen to your dirty little thoughts!  Just because your a Whore doesn't mean that you have to throw all sense on respect out of the window!  Be gentleman or be gone!
6/30/2005 12:43:37 PM
It seems strange that so many would take it for granted that I was not serious in my search for a submissive male who would be obedient and loyal.  Although there are a few of you I would like to try on for size, it takes a special kind of submissive to get in the door.  If you are not sure that you even want to be considered as a keeper then dont bother.  I am not interested in playing games with babies or bullies.  Gentleman only please!  THias message has been brought to you by someone who pissed me off, make sure to thank them!
GoddessTaniya
 
 Age: 27
 London, United Kingdom