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I am here to talk, learn and interact with other people with similar interests, whether their opinions are similar or different. For the sake of putting out some information or ideas... For the children who think they look cool or Dom(me) by having pictures of themselves showing a middle finger to the camera... you don't. You look like you are in High school. To the "it's all about me" crowd... you don't have a clue. It is a relationship... both parties have to have their needs taken care of or it doesn't work. Submissives have needs. The D guides the relationship, but is responsible for ensuring that the needs of the sub are taken care of... "It's all about me," tells me the person is selfish, spoiled, and doesn't know how to make a real relationship work... or they are trying to fit into some net porn image of what a Dominatrix is supposed to be. I am a dedicated Lefty Supremacist, believing that left handed people are inherently more intelligent, more creative and better looking. Since handedness crosses all gender options, I would also postulate that female supremacy takes a back seat to the left handed of the world. I get annoyed easily by frauds and phonies. Another major pet peeve is people who refer to themselves as "dominate." "Dominate" is a verb, an action. The person is actually a "dominant." "Dominant" is a noun, and a person can be that. Dominants who think that just because they claim to be dominant, anyone who lists as a sub should show them instant respect and grovel need to get a reality check. Respect is earned. Just because someone says they are submissive, it does not mean they are submissive to you... Perspective is everything. I am amused by the number of people on this board who list Female Supremacy as an interest...and think of the response if I listed "Male Supremacy" or "Left Handed Supremacy among my interests. People are of equal value, none superior or inferior to others.Power may vary by choice within the context of a relationship, which position is not a reflection of any inherent inferiority or superiority... it is just simply a choice about a style of living. Happy surfin'. D/s is, to me, primarily about the relationship, about two people interacting. Relationships, even D/s relationships, require trust, give and take, adjustments and mutual caring and respect. I am also easily amused by Dom(me)s who think it is important for a submissive to present well, use proper grammar and spelling, but can't, themselves, spell their way out of the third grade. Please try to hold yourself to the same standard you expect. Remember that it is not just a submissive who has to present well, but the submissive is also needs to determine who is a good match, and you have to show well, too.

3/1/2008 5:56:50 AM I am finding myself continually amused at those who say things like, "prove you are worthy of my time," I deserve to be worshipped/pampered/spoiled," etc. 1. respect goes both ways, trust is earned, not assumed, just because you claim a title... "Prove you are worthy of my time/attention," etc assumes the so-called Dom(me) is worthy... prove it. Prove that you deserve to have someone give up control of themselves to you, prove that you are responsible enough to take care of said person, mature enough to guide and lead that person. Prove that you deserve the adoration and devotion of another person. By the way, that does require more than "I am gorgeous, fall to your knees and worship me." 2. Most of the "I deserve to be spoiled" princess crowd seems to be early 20s or late teens. I am sorry, but, WHY" What have you done/earned/accomplished that makes you deserve to be spoiled? To me, you seem spoiled, with no accomplishments or life experiences to justify it aside from growing up as "Daddy's little girl" and not feeling like working for a living. Do you wannabes understand the biggest requirement for a Dom(me) is "responsibility?" Do you understand that you are sometimes taking someone's life and physical/spiritual/emotional well being in your hands? Too many here just don't seem to have a clue. But, maybe it's just me... we will see... By the way... anyone who puts a variation of "I am real, you be too (IMrealUb2 for the YIM crowd) or "no fakes or players," ...do you really believe that is going to make a lick of difference?  The players and users and frauds and wannabes ...that is what they do... Do you really think anyone here is looking for a fraud or a fake or a wannabe?  Yet...they are all over the place, D and s alike... They play games, try to get their thrills from those who are real.  Do you really think telling them to leave you alone has a snowballs chance in hell of being effective?