5/9/2015 2:08:59 PM

This whole world of Dominant women is a continuing mystery to me.  For instance: There is a lady whom I found facinating.  I am interested and there is a possibility at least that we might do well together. So, I sent her a message on Collar Space.  Much time passed and so I gave it another shot.  This time much to my great delight she responded asking for more information about me. Perhaps I did too much, but I put together an extensive biography attempting to introduce not only facts about myself, but to inject a bit of personality into the matter. that is to expose my humor, and my character a bit.  She made her request in mid April and I responded in a reasonable time. She has been on Collarspace almost daily since then.  I have followed up with an additional email message, hoping to get her attention, since according to collarspace, she has not even opened my replies to her.  In fact this lady was online here as I began this  journal entry. Why would she request more information and then not even open the messages sent in reply?  Perhaps she decided after reviewing my profile that she simply didnt want the information she requested.  Maybe she has taken in another man and is no longer in the market, but if this is true, what is the motivation to be on collarspace so frequently? I pretty new at this Dom/sub business and just dont know how to interpret what happens.  Travis

4/26/2015 7:36:37 PM

Well, I have new information since my entry one day ago. It is about the third contact listed on my last list.  This was the lady that I thought held the most promise.  Our conversation initialy had been somewhat positive and she seemed like the sort of whom I might grow fond, if given the chance to know her.  After writing yesterday's journal entry and reviewing it this morning, I decided that sufficient time had passed since last contact that I might try another without comming off as pushy of aggressive. So I called her up at midday on sunday to see if she was available to respond and not working.  Sure enough she answered and said she was on vacation.  I expressed my continuing interest in meeting her.  What followed from her end of the conversation was a rather long, frankly exhaustive, recitation of the sad and miserable experiences she had experienced with men (which, assuming they  were true were very bad), and then she said that the reason she had not agreed to meet me was that in our conversation(s) she could not tell that I was "sweet and gentle".  The single evidence of this she offered was that I had not asked her out to lunch. Now, I am not an old hand at dom/sub relations, however, I have been in a lot of relationships which began with far less information exchanged between people than what is in my profile on CS and her profile on CS and have always assumed of more assertive role as most males do in such circumstance because I knew it was expected.  (Man the hunter and pursuer, as it were). Maybe I just dont get it, but I thought as sub meeting a woman holding herself out as a dom, it was appropriate to offer to meet if she wished and let her stipulate where and when and for what.  She continued to talk about her sad history with men and how she didnt feel I was a sweet man.  She would offer no more example or guidance and I ended the contact.  My impression is that this lady had emotional issues that I cannot serve.  I severed contact.

4/25/2015 1:44:41 PM

Well, I have now had several responses.  Most consist of greetings and ackowledge of my contact.  Others have been more promising, sort of: 1.  Was simply a fraud seeking personal information, and I suspect money, but with a story that could not be verified.  I gave information on this one to website management and the profile was pulled after they  checked it out.  This was a good result. 2.  Was a woman who expressed interest, was looking for a live-in sub to care for  home, cook, clean, maybe make marriage in due course, and, of course wanted sub to work or otherwise be self supporting and locked in chastity except when needed or when the condition would present a problem, since she had teen age children at home.  However, she had job problems, back trouble, was busy with one thing or another for months.  Got the impression I was being sort of kept waiting until there was no other person of any interest whatsoever.  I suspect age was principle problem here. 3.  Was a very interesting sounding woman.  She had a background of acomplishment in life, but left long standing career to reduce stress and was working in retail.  I seemed to fit her paramaters, as published, save age, and she did make contact.  We even had a very pleasant phone conversation.  She was busy at retail job(christmas season), then it was back trouble, or flu or something like that and then silence.  Her profile had said that if she did not respond, Subs should not bother her, so I took her at her word.  Finaly, I sent a note saying I appreciated the initial response, enjoyed the conversation, and assumed that since I had not heard from her again, that there would be no more contact. I got a"I have been busy" reply and then nothing. 4.  Was a woman who made it clear that in due course she wanted control of the whole of my estate as a condition precedant to a continuing relationship, thus having the option to leave me penniless at her will.  I did not pursue the matter further. 5.  Was a local woman whom I had met and visited with previously.  This lady is closer to   my age, accomplished in an industry I know, giving me an appreciation for the presence of her talents.   She never expressed an interest after initial meeting.  I did learn that she was oriented toward sadism.  And, she knows I want to work into a LTR, and possibly, preferably a live in situation.  In the latest conversation she disclosed that she really didnt want anybody "underfoot" all the time.

9/25/2014 7:25:10 AM

My first Journal entry: I must admit to some confusion.  I have been on Collarspace seeking to introduce myself to dominant women for a few months.  For good and prudent professional and social reasons, I dont have a photo.  I know my age is a problem for many.  I am in search of relationship and not entertainment, and so I have kept my contact attempts mostly local. Here is where the confusion comes in.  I have had a few contacts.  Based on the responses I have had and the contents of the profiles of the responders, I have responded to them in a positive way, sharing any information about me and my interests and abilities about which inquiry has been made or interest has been demonstrated.  The problem is that either that message is never read, or that the conversation is stopped by the other party without further response from them.  What I dont understand is why this is happening.  I can come up with a lot of guesstimates about this.  Nothing I have said is patently offensive, insulting or stupid.  I know these women have been back on the website several times over several days or weeks.  I wonder if I am just simply too boring.