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I am an experienced player who has just returned to the scene but also back to the UK after many years abroad.
I am looking for discretion and privacy plus partners with whom I can both explore new limits and experiences but more importantly really test our limits. I am also looking for friends within our community so we can talk, discuss, learn from our respective experiences which is why I might send you a message even though we do not match. I might be interested in what have written in your profile and I might be keen to have an intellectual friendship. I think that is important to support each other within this community especially for those of us who are happy to embrace our roles publicly and not worry about polite society's view on our lifestyles.
I started as a Sub and at times revert back to being a Sub within a scene so that I could better understand the process and also to learn how to be a better Dom. However it is really the chemistry between the 2 people that either draws out the Dom or Sub instincts. I do not believe that a person is just a Dom or a Sub just like no one person behaves the same way within their vanilla world. Adults are a mix of different experiences, life choices and personal sacrifices plus different friends or partners can bring out different aspects of your personality. All of life is a journey and our community is a further sophistication of the many varied colours and sensations within this challenging and fascinating world.
My experience is not in rope techniques or suspension but more the mental aspect of a Dom/Sub relationship. I have a view on BDSM and the master/slave relationship which might be at odds with others in the community. I believe that the Sub should be the one that is always in control. Whatever the position or circumstance in which the Sub has entered, they will always decide to remain there or not, as the case maybe. The Dom is the physical representation of the Sub's mental desire to undergo a journey which results in that state of total submissive nirvana. Some Subs need pain for that release, others total restraint and overpowering domination whereas some may need to just please others. The Dom is there to help and the Sub in getting to that state. Ironically, whatever the scene the Dom needs to create, that person has to accept they are supporting the Sub in reaching their goal. This is why true BDSM is a mental issue and not just an excuse for kinky sex. It involves trying new and different ways of helping people get to that point of total release through both mental and physical acts which may challenge other people's acceptable boundaries but actually helps to resolve past demons and help people heal old traumas. I have worked with many Subs over the past 20 years and I have evolved myself from a rather clumsy level to my current state which I believe is both pretty sophisticated but also straightforward.
I do not care what you do, why you are here or what is your current domestic situation (I once played with a married Dom to fufill a need that then enable her to return to her partner and they developed a renewed BDSM relationship within their marriage) It is not easy to get right and we will need to discuss at length the reasons why both of us want to start such a journey but the results can be impressive and surprising.
Stay safe, consensual but also sensual...
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